The One Flirting Technique Every Man Should Learn 

The moment when you realize that you, a heterosexual lady, are watching a video about how to flirt with women at 3.30 a.m., and suddenly become aware you fell into the rabbit hole again.

Craig Ferguson is a flirting master. Dude's smooth as butta.

Five years ago I used to watch these kind of videos as a virgin now at least I watch them with the experience of an older virgin

To be a good flirt: 1. Have no anticipated outcome 2. Be yourself and have fun 3. Open body language 4. Positive enthusiastic energy 5. Subtle sexual signals 6. Push pull 7. Physical contact 8. Leading 9. Switching environments 10. Random, playful conversations and humour

I went up to a girl and said "hey you have a nice body" (pull) then I punched a stranger in the face to ease the tension. Works everytime.

Ferguson is too smooth

My old boss was great with this. He would say to me "you're doing great work, I'm so proud of you" and then follow it with a "I don't know why everyone says you're a fuckhead" haha

"you are so beautiful" "aww if you keep giving me compliments, I might get big headed!" "don't worry, your head is big enough as it is"

'Did you fall from heaven, I was just wondering because you're an angel and I'm allergic to feathers' *throws up*

Are we watching a youtube video of a youtube video? This is like Inception

These dudes had British accents and that’s a super power

"You are the reason I went through puberty!" Got to be pretty charming already to get away with that

Guy who doesn't get it: " your beautiful" Girl: "thanks" Guy who doesn't get it: "just kidding" Girl: "oh"

Every single word of this is true. It can be weird, creepy and intrusive to be asked to respond to a stranger's intense compliments. The joke makes you look like you are fun and NOT likely to hide in the bushes with a knife and duct tape outside her door.

This is me when I flirt - You're beautiful - Thanks - You're welcome Real Story

Push-Pull is a nice technique for gains.

''I swear I saw your beautiful smile from a mile away!'' ''Aww thanks!'' ''That's why I have these binoculars with me'' (only works if you have binoculars with you)

What I learned but wasn't said: don't make an overt compliment unless you have a direction to take the conversation directly after

I attended a class on meditation in which we were all asked to speak a little, I told the instructor "Your book is the best book on Buddhism I've read!" he smiled and thanked me then I continued "Well, it's also the *only* book on buddhism I've read. But it was really good!" Everyone laughed, including him.

I like to compliment ladies when I see their hair done in a pretty way, and deflate it by asking if they think I could do that to my hair (which is only about 1 inch long...)

The part about the Scotsman's teeth: after he makes the joke he leans back and sort of basks in it. He knew it was a good one.

"Russell Brand Flirting Breakdown", 90% of the video is Ferguson breakdown.

As a woman, can confirm, he’s the smoothest flirter I’ve ever seen.

My crush smelled so good last time I saw her so I said to her, that she smells great. Then I farted on her. We have 3 kids together now

Guys ... these guys aren't pulling tricks. They are very light hearted people with a great sense of association which allows them to be as funny as they are. They ride the tides of tension like any comedian. Don't try to perfect this and then apply it like you are fixing your bathtub: if I do this, it will work. Be funny, get a woman to laugh and have a good set of values and you'll be fine. It's better to stop worrying about how you approach someone.

He's so smooth, you don't even need lube.

“Did you fall from heaven? Because looking at your face you definitely fell from something”

Me :You look like my next girlfriend Girl: *giggles awkwardly* what? (Anxiety kicks in) Me: I said you look like my ex girlfriend

This is the best channel on applied psychology I have ever seen! Great content man.

It's pretty sad I've come to RU-vid to learn how to talk to girls

This is so true. It feels effortless and fun when guys compliment and then crack a joke. When a guy only compliments you, it can feel too weird.

Watching your videos has changed the way I perceive social situations and has relieved so much social anxiety for me and honestly I never expected such an impact from a free channel on RU-vid, I appreciate what you do, wish I could give you a hug thru the internet lol

Summary: Be famously witty like Russell Brand and Craig Ferguson.

More videos on charismatic flirting, please!

My friend complemented his colleague on her dress, he simply said "I like your dress" A week later he was in a meeting with HR after the girl made a complaint.

I've always struggled with women because I'm an introvert. I prefer solitude over big crowds. But, after watching this video, I finally see now the correct ways to interact with girls. And I'm sure this works with anyone and not just with women but you would need to modify your "push, pulls" in a way. Thanks for this video.

I tried this but when I tried to release the tension I released my load, did I do it right?

The whole push/pull thing ultimately comes down to being socially aware. So the more social awareness you exhibit, the more attractive you appear. So for those of you who already see themselves has being socially aware, just relax and be yourselves.

i do think confidence is a big part of this but thinking of how you’re gonna diffuse the tension & start a conversation, not just how to address the person, is helpful

I wish there were way more videos like this. Seeing flirting in action is SO educational! Thank you.

Fuck...I've been accidentally been making people laugh during arguments and then they begin to agree with me....

Do more Russell Brand. I have to know why this guy gets me going like he does. (I'm not even gay)

I actually didn't understand a single word russell was saying :D

I think that these are the sort of things that can really upgrade your conversational skills, not just to flirt but in general. Certain people will find it to be just a "pick-up trick to deceive women" but I don't see it like this. Using push/pull doesn't make you "fake", it's a technique to make the conversation flow better and to put both people more at ease. If people watch these types of videos it's because we all want to be better and this is one way to do become better with social skills.

These "push & pull" examples are the perfect amount of giving and taking. I feel as though allot of men get confused with this tactic and think they need to be mean or even insulting when its comes to the push...and thats definitely not the thing to do. Their is a difference between teasing and being hurtful and if you dont know the difference than id seriously recommend you completely forget this tactic all-together. Although, when done right teasing can be fun & flirty and the perfect way to appear dominant in the conversation just make sure it is used in small doses and DO NOT over do your push . Over doing it can make a girl go from comfortable and open with you to being closed off and insecure. Really pay attention to how the men in the video used 'push & pull" in my personal opinion Ferguson's did it brilliantly but I think he's brilliant in general so i'm probably a bit biased.

I've done this unconsciously for a long time

I have always said the same thing, girls love a solid flirt-to-roast ratio.

this just showed up on my recommended and the comments on these are always hilarious

i'm really happy that i found your channel, i really love that you not only talking about theories and advices but also show us in real life and how it looks in reality, thank you!

The way Craig Ferguson approached with the ripping of the notecard was so very smooth.

Confidence...not to be confused with arrogance. Confidence combined with these, is even better.

I've probably watched twenty videos from this channel and I think this one hit me the most! Always great analysis and content

I do that to my girlfriend all the time. She's all mad at me for some bullshit of another but I know I can make her laugh. You can see the struggle. She's like "No, I'm mad right now." inside but outside she can't help but laugh. It's great.

These are great! It's great to see this style of flirting getting discussed instead of the whole "negging" trend men think women like. There is a way to lighten your compliments with a follow-up to defuse the tension or make a woman not feel like you are piling it on, and showing confidence without being demeaning and rude. That would be exactly this. Men, definitely use push/pull over negging, you can show us you're confident and not needy without bringing us down. No person should have to show confidence by knocking down someone else.

Saw a bunch of your vídeos today. BEST channel in youtube

this has been showing as suggested for ages, finally watched.

Nothing like being natural.

damn I do this unconsciously , the clarity in which you are describing this insight is great!

I'm literally taking notes. Best channel on RU-vid.

I love the first Russel clip. The words are great but there are a handful of other things in play that make him masterful.

This channel is great!

Bruh, you mixed up which is push and which is pull.

The best part of this channel is that the videos aren't big fucking long

I can agree to this completely. There was this one time I was hanging out with a group of people I just had met at a festival and this person I had a thing for was climbing this tree to sit on a branch. I offered if she needed help, she said no then I replied with "alright cool because I wasn't gonna help you myself, what I meant was help you find someone else to give you a lift up" in which she started laughing which broke this awkward tension for a moment

Do one of how to flirt with boys

Really great videos. Glad I found this channel. The videos are so so so helpful!

I think the biggest driving force behind the push/pull method is confidence. Both of these men are very confident which means that they can pay those components but then tease them or joke about it.

Getting to the level of flirting can seem daunting, but it certainly is worth it. Having that affect on women is truly its own grand reward, besides getting to those Casanova levels is so much fun. Great content!

Jesus, didn't realise people were still stealing stuff from the game all these years later; push pull was a part of the 'Mystery Method' - circa 2006, and this gave birth to hordes of wannabe PUA's, (Pick up Artist's) who were just desk jockey's. I've been through the whole lot and believe me the short answer is you just need to learn how to have a conversation, be non-needy, be direct and get to know who you are, what you want, where you're going and most of all have standards.

I've been doing this without even realising it... Now I can master it !

your videos are so well thought, thanks for all these, but applying all of them daily?? thats where the challenge is!!

Finally a video explanation ty

great insight. you present these concepts very clearly and that's the difference.

This is sooo hard to be conscious of and apply it in the moment

Oh wow I never used to understand why compliments made me uncomfortable...now I do. Thanks guy.

Interesting concept. I definitely have the pull down, just have to really work on the push

I find what works well is being a gentleman and having good manners. A fancy hat can also help. Edit: Wow! Can't believe my most upvoted comment was about fancy hats!

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This works with groups too. I found out by accident. The division of the company I was working for video taped us, asking what we liked about working there. I replied with a number of things, then said, “My coworkers.” And after a pause, “Most of them, anyway.” I was surprised at the laughter this generated when we were viewing the video as a group in an auditorium.

Wow, super interesting, the concept of tension build and release.

more flirting and Russell brand please

I've made this mistake so many times... And when I was doing it I knew that it didn't work and this tells me why, so thanks

Yeah, I use to do that lol. But when I would “flirt” I’d be soooo nervous. Trying to keep sharp, and stay witty.

This is helpful especially if the girl you're complimenting is like me, not good at taking compliments.

I would love to analyze and interpret the cognitive biases found throughout this video. Awesome job! :D

I stumbled onto this and thought "oh God another one of those channels that teach you how to manipulate women to like you" but after watching this and I'm actually really impressed. there's a lot of awkwardness in female/male interaction in the world right now because of exaggerated media ideals and so on, so just simple things like explaining how to give compliments in a way that isnt uncomfortable or trapping is really helpful and as a woman I'm actually glad this sort of help can be given - and so articulately!

walks up to girl "Hey, i think you're pretty!" "Oh, thank you" "pretty ugly" works everytime

Craig is a master, he just knows how to pull anyone in and have a good time. He makes people feel like he has a connection with them that no one else has.

damn this is a good technique...I had to hit that like button

craig ferguson is a true natural

Very good examples - thanks.

don't know if it counts as push pull but i love when a guy is talking to you and he stops suddenly says a compliment and carries on with the conversation as if nothing happend, flooring just seems really genuine because it feels like he just had to stop and say that

That's maybe the general underlying aspect to take away from this: It's not just about the superficial push-pull, it's about what it represents. It represents an approach that takes the form of an offer, without being intrusive, because the retraction makes it clear that it was just a little step forward and then a step back. You jump into the ring and out of it and you can tell, by the reaction during the first approach, if it would be appropriate or not to jump in again. If the other person remains defensive, you have already stepped out and should not approach again. It also represents interest, without being needy. More in a "Hey, I would like to talk to you, but I can take it or leave it". That also reflects high self-worth and personal value. Only someone who has high value has options and only someone with options can afford not to be needy. Neediness and piling on compliments will not just reflect neediness, like a begger at a relationship buffet, but the neediness reflects low self-worth and low social value. And in the end, people are attracted to (projected/perceived) personal value.

I am glad I stayed subbed to u

Lol. This is something that I've been doing subconsciously but never realized. Explains a lot of things.

Man ur the best in youtube and I've seen like all

Craig Ferguson is so charming and it seems effortless. I love it.

This really depends on the type of situation you're in and the girl you're flirting with; sometimes the heavy tension will work better for you than the light hearted laughter. People use that heavy 'push' as you called it because it often works with easier targets. If you need complicated flirting strategies, you're flirting with the wrong person. Unless of course you're just flirting for the heck of it without the agenda to get into someone's pants.

Another important aspect of this (and I am a woman, so I speak from that perspective!) is that the pullback joke completely diffuses the tension and removes any inappropriateness about the exchange (i.e. if one or both is married, etc.)

You are so knowledgeable in every one of your videos I’ve watched!! How do you know all of this stuff??