The Power Of Walking Away 

Hell yeah!

I kinda disagree on that, based on my experience, I prefer to spend my time with my "real" friends, who see me as an equal, knows my failures and accept me for my flaws, sometimes going to people who celebrate you is often, boring, you dont feel yourself, you feel trapped and maybe they dont like the same things as you.

Being "tolerated" while safe, for a better word....is still, not good enough and quite frankly, hurtful !

True. But it is hard when you have limited options for socialization. It's either being tolerated or being depressed at home (need to work on that!)

Most people probably aren't celebrated anywhere

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I like this quote, thanks

Eli Samuels amen

😎👌💯

Never saw it like that, you literally explained my situation

Great phrase

You can’t cross the ocean if your afraid to lose sight of the shore. I thinks that’s one?

Thank you for this.

This meant a lot

Rachel M I blasted my medieval cannon at my neighbors house yesterday

Such a good quote Pedro

Wow, beautifully said👌😇

While Nina is correct from the standpoint of this subject, if you are in a relationship to ‘get’ love you need to re-think your priorities. Because then you become the person who is demanding the time and attention of someone else, instead of giving freely.

Uuuu ! 💯💢💥👏🏼💪🙏

Wow! Profound!

oh yes self esteem. yawn.

Marzia Diba everytime i walk away from my toxic family my sister in-law is like an FBI or CIA who always know where i am eventhough i didn’t tell anyone where i am going. when found they always blackmail me to people i am in associate with.

@@loonylinn8824 Dont worry you will be fine. There will be a day when nobody will dare to treat you wrongly. Beleive in yourself that only you can control urself. Love yourself unconditionaly.Trust me you will be fine. Tc buddy

Perfect comment

Just make sure you do it calmly and with dignity.

@Sharon Jensen omg... you are so right! I never thought about that until now, and looking back, those negative people were always late, and didn't realize (or care, or apologize)... so disrespectful.

I agree. What I do for a living is not common. I am yet to meet people who are 100% supportive. They either want handouts or treat me like I don’t know what I am doing. It’s insulting. Those people I immediately cutoff. There are no announcements made, just “BYE” 👋

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Sad thing is, sometimes the people who bring you down are the people who you are stuck with

It's somewhat simple to do that, unless you are bringing yourself down.

Amen! Both in a long time friend and in walking away from a long time job. Should have walked away from both five years before I did.

Preach it brother (or sister)!

I do feel the same!!..:/

Same here

Stole my words

It took me a while but I did walk away. I was really in love so all my life plans and goals were betting on her to be there. It felt SO lonely when I finally left. It felt like even if I achieve a lot in life there would be no one to share it with. So I started talking again to her, but did something different. I respected myself while I kept giving her rope. Long story short she hanged herself with the rope I gave her. Now I KNOW I dodged a bullet, and I feel so much better.

Hello

needed this

@@ezequiel5260 Jesus 😳

I didn't start walking from people until i hit the age of 42.

WORDZ

julie robinson very true

There is no other way. If you don't respect yourself you will never have the respect of others.

I have a question. In order to maintain self-respect, what do you usually do?

Jewel Clark Thanks! I will keep them in mind.

I love your line it is so true🥰 Mine is "we're not vibrating on the same level. I wish you all the best on your journey"

goin use that

I’m using it now ✅

Although, I think it's proactive to have further discussion, to keep open to consideration, expanding the reflection on their and my values. It might prove to serve you, and or them. I see this period characterized by personal, prideful bubbles. I realize such a tact is simply democracy, yet before too long we will find ourselves with no other to discuss and reflect with, and there is no such dishonorable a condition.. Because I've gone there, I know. Peace

@@ianw7816 I give chances before I resort to this. Not a fan of cancel culture. But I am a fan of protecting my peace. A lot of toxic people get away with transgressions bc "we should just forgive" or "just give them a chance." If there are numerous red flags, patterns and repeated offenses, you handed me the scissors ✂️ so don't be mad that I cut you off. This isn't done out of spite or hate. It's self love.

OMG. I never did any of those things. Not from day one.

Real eyes realize REAL LIES 🥵😜

Thanks great advice

Don’t be nice because of who they are, be nice because of who you are.

They say kill em with kindness. No, I just verify people with kindness. Only those who deserved shall get it again from me.

Exactly, thank you for this- It is about respecting yourself and your time.

Just hurts when you've got history

My goodness this is my experience..i need to walk away😭

:’) I hope so, but the trade off is having no friends

Amen

greetings from Arkansas my family and I are Christian now thank God make Jesus Christ your best friend not people on this Earth the Bible says curse is a man who trusts in man......people need to be all so comfortable with their own skin and be able to be alone and be all right and do things and travel and everything if they have no good family or no friends to help them and whatnot in their lives.... You find out who your true friends and family are when you have nothing

Can't walk away from death

Well said!

ha he he he but death is our destiny. So In a way everything we do is a step closer to it. It’s what we do before we get there.

Mariana C ....luv that!!!! ❣️✨😉✨

Evem if i find a thing to do and try to put it fourth...p they will just overwrite overwhelm me and make my thing futile as soon as they wamt... i ll feel that and get depressed

Wise words

Lose*

couldnt have said it better:o :p

Exactly

Exactly!! Ding!! Bonus round!!

@@keithmccaslyn2527 facts

And that’s that on that

But people do, they enjoy that love pain

@@northstar5919 You wish you could either erase that memory or ideally everything would've worked out but it's not a great feeling when it leaves you with only scars.

Sounds true but when you care for someone you don't know how much they care about you, you just do it out of love. And yes, when they betray you it hurts forever

@@injujuan8993 Well, in my case she showed 10 time more emotions than I did so it felt like she genuinely cared. Heck, she's the one approached and showed attraction towards me first. There was a time when every decision I made revolved around her and I gave it all to her when I thought her feelings were genuine. So when she was gone, it felt like I lost everything. The stereotype about "males have less emotions" is completely the opposite. Men just express it less while their feelings are stronger while females like to show more than they care. Not to generalize too much because everyone is different but I'm judging this based on my experience.

@@thumpertorque_ Men are pure, yes, and their energy is strong. God bless. Take care

Great brother 👍

I’m 24 and I’m so glad this happened to me. I’m cold hearted now, if someone so much as reminds a gives an off vibe when they respond to say me asking them a question I won’t make any effort with that person couldn’t care less about them

Pondering Life worked for the same employer for 12 years, have four strong friends that I met at 5 years old still. Nice assumption though

@@PonderingLifeToo We get better at jobs cause we don't waste energy on dealing with drama from others, we constantly get more and more experience from past jobs, most of us always have money in our pockets!. You know, I personally enjoy solitude more than anything!.

Thanks for this excellent advice.

@@dude4173 Thank for the advice a lot. It kinda proved to be useful in the long run cuz it helped me in 8 months

So true. I find myself in this situation.

Amen to that!

If they make you lonely, becoming actually alone can't really make that worse for you.

AsWithin SoWithout over time my ex was being distant from me and I felt more alone being with her than whenever I was single. I felt worthless and insecure the relationship was more stressful than enjoyable

True!

Every man is jealous of a man who walks away from his wife.

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That is a lovely expression. X😊😊😊😊🐱🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧

Lmao nice

@@doeharris5363 Agree

Next RUN

@@irfanraza-lz3ye NEXT FLY

how did it go?

Amen.

Yaa

righttt and i enjoy my loneliness!

Agreed...I did that mistake twice..

SOOOOOO TRUE. LOVE HAS LOTS OF MEANINGS N SOMETIMES WE CHOOSE THE WRONG MEANING . TODAY IVE LEARN BETTER LONELY THAN MISERABLE . 🤶☕😀

What? What does this "dont mistake lonliness for love" mean?

@@prabhakaranbaskar1400 After googling it for some time I still can't explain it in my own words but found someone else's answer to that question. "When you're lonely and you meet someone you can often confuse your loneliness for someone as love"

Amen! I walked away from a successful professional job at high pay because the work environment was toxic. I was becoming mentally ill.

Lawgx haha facts

big mood

yes

*of life

literally haha

Does my confidence make you feel uncomfortable?

Especially when**!

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Least you can do ❤️😓

Facts I had to learn that

Yeah I think I've done this to my cousin for a long time but now I'm sorry for it And now I'm going to give him a direction in life Or At Least help him to find his goal

this absolutely nails it.

Tops insight.... very good.

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Not quite, sometimes what happens is that they see you so clueless that by trying to help you they end up imposing their goals on you. They have the best intentions, but it has happened to me that I was so metally weak, so lost and without direction that I practically set myself up for their "abuse". As with most things in life, the problem is not other people, but myself.

True dat

And money!

Integrity.

PREACH!

@pete knicks 2 people same story saying how bad the other person was no reminiscence about themselves I'm sick of it Then why? why we live in surreal world full of lies if we are so pure

Very true dear

Wow the last line ❤️ cleared my head!

Or third hahaha

and less energy than it takes to stay in it

True

Good for you!

The same here!. Love to you

jeeez 45 years :(

I'm sorry that happened to you. It was tough thing you did because I'm sure you loved and looked up to them.

From a karmic perspective usually our siblings were enemies in past lives. So there is that…

same, amen to that!

yes I learnt that the hard way.

I walked away from someone who was pushing me away. I went online, a dating site and met a wonderful man, who is a Sergeant and serving now. More than that, he's gorgeous, well built and so sexy. It was a huge blessing walking away from someone who didn't want me.

Yes

@@b.k.r.doggielover5449 sexy doesn't last long, but love and real connection does. Good for you!

Cindi Thomas I let it slide once. Second time I’m gone.

Cindi Thomas walking away isn’t spreading hate.

Cindi Thomas cutting their throat with a machete = hate.

Cindi Thomas so let them take antidepressants not take their shite out on me.

@Cindi Thomas your comments is getting in my nerves. Stfu with ur Bullshit

Thank you for these words 🙏🏼

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But I want him to be healthy

@@TheOpinionGuyy aaah yea a healthy living Muhammad Ali... But in many ways he's immortal. He's a legend. A semi god. Or... A god 💪♥️🥊

Ali is such a good example of following a path .. being himself .. his lessons make him immortal

True

True

True

Burglar: GIMME YOUR MONEY! Me: No. Burglar: *shoots* Me: OOF.

Love god!

this is exactly what im thinking right now... walk away from whats not for me, change direction and go towards what is for me... repeat

Are U being Sarcastic ? Think needs to be more awareness there... some toxic relationship u do need to walk away. Some u need to work on ! If we keep walking away “until” finding someone ..... by the end of ur life u will find urself so tired of repeating the process of keep walking away and keep trying to find the persons who is compatible with u. This process is sooo tiring, plus there is ought to be problems between people. We can’t keep giving up every time something happens.

@@SuperValaVala i see what you're saying. well, it's not for everyone. walking away can be tough if you have a feeling that you can't "do any better" or, for the less machiavellian of us, "actually care about someone". but, i for one, have walked away, and, everytime, my life got better. not just a little bit better, but, 1000x better. one million times better. that being said, i am an introvert who prefers being alone and my lessons can't just be applied willy nilly to all people in the world. maybe for you, it's better not to walk away. only you can decide. and only you can suffer the consequences of your own actions. good luck to you!

You are so spot on ! What out for the traps, they could be so minute’. You may step right into one.Exceptional advice🌟

I Personally need to work on that especially with my ex's.

Lucas Smith I agree. Sounds like something you had experience with

Antonio Wolfpack 1990 You bet. Struggling with it now.

Totally right. Whether you walk away from the person/situation or decide to stay, either way you have to deal with yourself. This seems to be the hardest part. To let go of old unnecesary beliefs and mental rubbish. And to start to hear voice of reason behind screams of suffering ego.

@@Olena.P. well said

When friendly interests want to romantic zone you, walk away too. 😂

@Jacky Drywater That's very true. Not only women though, guys too

@Jacky Drywater but i think because it's difficult to stay as friend because it will be hard to move on and stop the feelings it might be selfish but i will end up getting hurt even more

@Jacky Drywater Unconditional romantic love is idealistic. It is cruel to enforce friendship upon someone who desires for a relationship. It is very painful to watch them go and have another relationship while you are expected to cheer them on for the very same.

At that point just ask straight out. Nothing left to lose at that point if you know the answer

Congratulations! I wished you well on your future.

Sam

Can definitely relate except I just ghosted the job entirely and stopped showing up lol

I wish I can do that. 😓

Inflation Destroyer I had the same experience with my former job....I got used up like toilet paper in a pandemic! I had to walk away.....

That is my struggle. Did this mean family? But they are the ones that hurt the most.

You feel guilty....but damn....th slow burn of being around them is killing me....

A fucking men. I have a philosophy as relates to kin or blood relationships. Allow me to explain. There are scores of people walking around this planet who have been stained emotionally, psychologically and physically due to the brainwashing we've all endured that has conditioned us to believe that we have to hold on to these relationships because blood is thicker than water. Well, blood may be thicker than water, but when clear water dries, it doesn't leave a stain. When blood relatives, or kin, are toxic, CUT THEM THE FUCK OFF.

I've tried with all my heart to be a good, caring, kind, considerate and compassionate brother and uncle. But they have drained me of all my energy like vampires. I have nothing left to give. So, to save myself I've had to slowly turn away and move ahead on my own without them anymore. No matter how painful, they are now just people that I used to love. I'm not better then anyone else but I AM to good for THEM.

@@travisgrant5608 keep going 🥰

Ik but you have to be positive aswell to

AHAHAHAA

Nothing more zen than grasping reality as it is. Some people are indeed cruel assholes.

Lol

You are genius to post that! Truth indeed...

Wise words

Negotiation is often daunting and exhausting...for me.

I disagree wholly with that statement. The word "no" seldom has place in negotiations without a set of conditions that needs to be accommodated to turn the "no" into a "yes". And the feet don't need a set of conditions to be worked out in order to put distance to the person trying to make you a servant. If you are in a negotiation, then an objective for all parties is trying to gain the upper hand in order to negotiate the best result for themselves. This means that any negotiation once complete will have resulted in all the parties being both master and servants in varying degree because of the compromises that will inevitably be made by both under the conditions of the negotiation. So Jordan's statement should rightly be "Going into any kind of negotiation will result in you being a servant to some degree."

@@WormholeJim Not really. servant cannot negotiate. Those who are independent can negotiate to get acceptable deal that they agree on. Its deal between equals no servants

I'm still trying everytime i put my fb account into deletion i keep stopping it it's so hard 😭

@@user-tl5tb3sl9r I feel u bro

@@user-tl5tb3sl9r delete the app If you have iPhone limit the time you use an app in configs If you have android I think you'll have to download another app

All done . Not delete but uninstalled and has been free for 5 months now . I feel more happy now.

I removed twitter recently and it's amazing how much better I feel. That platform especially is toxic and full people starting hurtful drama with cancel culture.

Good for you. Humans are animals at the end of the day, and step-parent abuse is much more prevalent than abuse from actual parents. It's because the kids are of no use to the stepparent, they only use resources. The other people are mad at you because you're ruining their wish of a perfect family, and they dont care how much it hurts you. But the reality is that you dont feel good and the family is rotten, so let them have their tantrums. God bless.

It's okay to give bad people the sack even when it's family

So happy for you for having the strength to seek your peace. Yes, your peace, not theirs x love xxx

why u givin an attitude?

I did the same a while back. He would harass me and say I was a disgrace for not helping. You did the right thing!

True 😭

U may be out now

I call them vampires. They literally suck all the joy and energy out of life.

Facts that's why I distant myself from all social media and everything I just stay lonely and building in salience

@@EJayyDreadHead I absolutely agree with you! :)

This is soooooo true. Un fact all of my "friends" were like this,using me as bandaid. Not anymore. I would rather be alone than to be slave of these assholes.

Also be careful with Narcissists

Bella Bijou me too, I feel no need to argue - if they’ve crossed my boundaries, I’m gone

They dont know why you went so start calling and asking, even more anoying

thought I was the only one 🤷‍♀️

that's soo dumb. If you don't argue you will never fond common sense. You'll never understanf otherthinking people and they will never understand you. That's the dumbest and most ignorant way to solve disagreemnts. One of my best friends does that to. Everyone in our group hates his attitude, but we still love him cause he's our friend since a decade. But trust me, you missed many opprrunities for good relationships. I walk away to, but only after I understand IN AN ARGUMENT that this person won't understand my point of view. Befor that I am open minded towards otherthinking people and hope they are to, cause that's the only way to find common ground in society.

Yep, this is me. Just...disappear.

I get that. But maybe listen to yourself a little bit and reevaluate these things you say if they really are Valid

This is what I'm currently trying to do right now.

Best of luck to both of you!

TrangDB9 thank u .. so much 🙏🏼

You're Sweet i feel ur pain is not easy but I believe it is the best decision for your sanity and peace

I am also in this situation ...god bless you all

Preach

“It is better to say something your own way, that to misattribute quotes” - me “Although this quote is attributed to George Washington, it is actually one of 110 Rules of Civility & Decent Behavior in Company and Conversation that George Washington copied by hand at the age of sixteen. Although many people attribute the 110 rules to Washington, because the rules were found written by his hand, Scholars today believe that the rules were likely copied by Washington as a penmanship exercise. The actual quote is #56 of 110 rules and reads… ‘Associate yourself with Men of good Quality if you Esteem your own Reputation; for ‘is better to be alone than in bad Company.’ The 110 rules are based on a set of rules composed by French Jesuits in 1595, and they were first translated into English in 1640.” - Doug Staneart | Leadership Tips

Encouraging words👩‍🦳

The loneliness make you crazy, everyone need compañy

@@miguelangel-lb2ij bull💩 .. everyone needs healthy good company .. not toxic company .. toxicity from anyone including family is 100% unacceptable.. period

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Beautiful. This expression/comment is my favourite out of all because it gave me a visceral felling. I embodied your comment instantly.

I love that. It feels powerful for all the times you were powerless.

Beautiful sounds like a quote 🙏

Same - but it’s not ‘some people’ - it’s most people. People today in the West especially live only for themselves even those who are in a relationship with someone else. Selfishness is the spirit of the age. Ya don’t need people to be content. People are morons.

i have learned at 75 that showering love to family member who dont love you back ,it was waste of time

Manuel Nuñez Agree with you, for me it was mostly my family. Also relationships. Years ago I didn't know I was a people's pleaser. It really drained me.

Very true, I also found if they say something like "You are a lazy piece of shit", and you "agree" with them and throw it back at them "Yeah, I am a lazy piece of shit, so?" - there's really nothing they can do to control you. Every attack they make are a new shining weapon for you, and they are left speechless.

Thank you for this wisdom 🙏

I think you are missing the point. It's not a game.

@@jeananne2408 point is- there is no point

I haven't contacted them for 3 months now. I see some good sides of it, but sometimes it feels wrong.

@@punish0 it is kinda wrong

I walked away from my family 11 years ago. It was the bravest and best decision I have ever made.

It feels wrong but sometimes its the only option caring yourself.

@@aori583 , you would not be able to explain why it is wrong without simultaneously admitting that you don't know if this is the last resort after exhausting all options, or if this is the only way to be physically safe/mentally stable/financially sound, etc.

Well said

And that feels AWESOME

@@four-x-trading5606 escape that pit

Sharmella Krishnasamy way to go then.

Sharmella Krishnasamy . You are absolutely right. Standards that say " NO, not anymore " .. If you don't perpetrate standards they continue to abuse . Walking away says " I don't need your approval " .

Not only am I learned but prefer (solitude).

AMEN. Solitude is a beautiful thing!❤️😄❤️

I freakin LOVE my solitude.

I prefer solitude to pretending to be happy around people who dont care about or they dont ever try to help or support me when I tried to give them signals that I need some helps. It is better to be alone and be happy about yourself than living among toxic people/narcissists

VilleGardian Me too!

THANKS

Yes. Totally.☺

My boyfriend or five years disrespected me so much that I had enough and walked for good.. it’s tough but I no longer am being abused or have anxiety ...

Marjorie Rushie no one can take your power. U are giving it to them

frank muller Yes I have been once again reminded of that… I was trying to be a better kinder more compassionate person to people who were in less fortunate situations and myself only for them to suddenly with no logical reason turn their backs on me walk away in the middle of a conversation so now I am done I will only care about my immediate family

The

Lol, I quit a job when the chick I loved was ditched by her boyfriend of the time to go to a holloween party she was attending...she had me so worried about her for years with the stories she would tell me, I never wanted her to have to be alone...what a waste of my life. Drained my empathy to the bone...don't have any to spare anymore.

Mano rod hi same with me , 20 years always being the one to go the extra mile , then she threw a fit when I had to move the time I took her shopping as I forgot a hair appointment , this was the last straw after many such times , I miss her when I go garden Center shopping but the pressure to be her taxi is off

Friends are real when... You call at 4am and they show up to help dig the hole...

MastaSmack often men don't talk about it which make it even harder to get over them .they on the other hand immediately form a support group

I found out sometimes the one you trust the most is the most dangerous one.Make no time for them ,especially when in that persons spare time they try to belittle and or hurt you. Be careful of when all is well then out of no where they are trying to put you down, I found that this other person is good at letting you believe all is fine then boom out of no where for no reason crap happens and ill never understand it . Anyone who believes they are always right , that they need to sway others opinions on you well time to start trying to get away from that person. No matter what you do or say they want to use it against you .run

Did that this Arbour Day. A Pink tabebuia. :)

Fallofcharmsboutique / K.H Same ✌🏻

Same

I am very happy for you!! Be fulfilled! Take care of yourself!💕

I feel you

look up "setting boundaries" -- asking to stop isn't setting boundaries, setting consequences is. I feel for you and you will "wake" as you look into this kind of situation. The word "No" even said softly, is powerful.

@@avicennitegh1377 I obviously didn't just ask him to "stop". I explained multiple times why I didnt like him doing something and how it made me feel. And he said he understood a couple of days later would do it again and laugh and say I forgot when I told him not to do that. I would also tell him no or slap his hand away and he would just go "sorry I was just playing or you shouldn't take what i say that seriously." Which I realize now is a huge red flag and I'm working through it.

@@1hcc994 I hear ya. Thing is it just gives them a map for pushing your buttons. Don't listen to his answers, take note of his behaviour. There's plenty on youtube about this kind of thing but I'd start with wikipedia article: "mind games" and go from there. And "gray rock" is there too as a technique for dealing and taking distance. Very best wishes for strength and clarity in starting this journey.

When they say one thing and do the opposite, pay more attention to what they do. Actions speak louder than words.

Dorothy Green 2020 is perfect vision 🤓

Me too I start to feel happy

Me too 🙏🏽💜🌟

Lol you don’t take prisoners 😂

☺

@@rachellockwoodle Alas I waited until the second chance and I still feel dehumanized by the first! 😶

Very true. 💗💗