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Wow, you left for the same reasons I am trying to leave. I am getting my ducks in a row, saving every penny, no debt, driving a raggedy car with no monthly payment. I need about another 2 years and I am outa the US for good. Love your honesty and the fact you are brave enough to make this video. You will get alot of hate for this video, but don't let it make you doubt yourself, you are entitled to your opinions. Life is short, live it your way. Thanks for the content.
@@terataibiru4997 I am a Malaysian, been in the US for ~8 years, if not for the out-of-control crime and very, very, very scary govt here (think JFK, 9-11, J6 and so many other events), I'd rather live in the US than in M'sia or S'pore... I was a PR in SG for about 8 years before moving to the US. I guess I will be returning to Bolehland soon. A few things I will miss about the US are relatively easy access to credit (good debt), organic lactose-free milk, I am not sure if we will get that in Asia for another 5 years and entertainment, think Vegas, Orlando, FL.
Honestly Ben, whatever you mentioned its happening in the east slowly, because the west cultures do affect the east cultures in so many ways. Kids these days are getting woke and these cancel cultures are affecting people's lifestyle too mainly because of social media. One thing for sure, as a non-Muslim to be born and raised here, I'm glad Malaysia is a Muslim country and not too radical when it comes to religious practices since we are quite diverse here. I know you are trying to escape the matrix, just don't be afraid to be yourself.
I left California after my Father passed away last year. I have no close family left anymore. He was really the only reason that I stayed. I sold my house, car and most of my belongings. Gave away the rest of it. Only have a tiny storage unit near LAX with some valuables and sentimental things that I couldn't part with at this time. I just travel as a perpetual tourist never staying anywhere for too long. I have a lot of family in NYC but I have no interest in living there or anywhere in America. I was in South America first. Then I was in EU. But I came back to Asia where I prefer to be. I will be 43 in May. I am semi retired at this point. My Father wanted me to go travel more and live in other countries so that is what I am doing. Good Luck on your journey. It will be a trip to say the least.
Sorry to hear of your father. Must be a great man. Just be open minded, ask the meaning of life and why am I here and may find that answer and move on. Welcome to Asia, we are more traditional and family centre than the west. We hold to Asian value and relationship to one another. All the best to you.
Ditto here. We have been to Malaysia 12 times and love it. Of course no place in the world is perfect, but it comes down to what problems do you want to deal with and all of the problems with the US that you have mentioned have us considering leaving as well. Thanks for the content.
If you decided to go to borneo sarawak, you can get in touch with a Dutch youtuber "global gibbon" his name is nick. He is married to a native there. He will know about tattoo business prospect in sarawak state.
Ben , welcome to Paradise on Earth ✓ , pls enjoy yr stay and appreciate our lovely country ~ Malaysia 🇲🇾 truly truly Asia , Cheers ☕ Hv a good one 🤝🏻🤝🏻🤝🏻👍🏻
Dude, you should seriously consider setting up shop in Sarawak, either Kuching or Miri...far cheaper living cost compared to big city KL, more green landscapes, and native tattoo culture that you could link up with...like, seriously, give it a look into ✌️
we don't have any of those LGBT stuff in Malaysia, because it's a family focused country, government really cares about the family. your reason is the same as any other family that moved here, they don't want any of those near their children. and they now live happily, i can't believe how lucky i am here
I think some of what I said is being taken out of context. I do think people should be allowed to be gay if they want to, or transition if they want to as long as they’re not a child, so I’m not anti-LGBT by any means. I have gay and trans friends so that’s not the issue.
@@benfishermin sure they can be whoever they want but keep it to themselves and don't touch the children. people here don't think it's okay for LGBT people to talk about sex to their children instead of the parents themselves, and this is the result of the LGBT movement. it's the movement i'm talking about, which won't happen here. that's what i meant
@@benfishermin sure, Malaysia is quite liberal. You can be anything you want but sexually you can't flaunt yourself in obscenities in public as what you like may not be in accordance with other members of the public. Even heterosexual, they are not allowed to parade in obscene manner in public. People just won't want their childrens mind get f*ck*d up. Whatever you do, do it within your own walls. There's practically no incidents of bashing over here and everyone almost live comfortably. Those found problems here are mostly trying to make unacceptable statements in public. It's a diverse community and some general rule accepted by all should be adhered. Total individualistic freedom is simply not possible in public... only in your own home. It's a necessity to keep community in harmony. Pride parade like Folsom CA is strictly a no in almost all Asian countries. Once it is allowed, people understand more avenues for such disturbing scenes would rise into demand. Bad for the younger generations.
Benjamin, I loved hearing your reasoning. I am happy to be a part of your journey in life, to do what makes YOU happy - exploration, and trying to find a less stressful life. 😏. ONLY focus on positive people in your life, whenever possible. Wishing you continuous health and happiness my, eBestie. ~ Tazzz ~
I love to hear about why u left nyc. Lots of RU-vidrs said they love being in my country Malaysia but I always thought why are they leaving their country wishing to live here? So far u have answered that with your video contents. Keep it coming bro and enjoy your exploration❤
Malay people are the best people that's why they can accept others like Chinese, Indians and other foreigners to live in this country for decades with peace and harmony.. Never listen to bad rumours..most of them are envy with our diversity and friendliness.. Btw, you can refer to American expats who live like Andrew Henderson of Nomad Capitalist and Andrew Taylor... they're have RU-vid channels that talk about living in Malaysia 🇲🇾
Yes agree it feels very accepting here for all people. Everyone here is very friendly especially the Malaysians. Those are good channels I watch too! Thanks
Just be aware that while Malaysian in general are very friendly people, many are strong believer of Asian values which advocates for discipline, hard work, frugality, educational achievement, balancing individual and societal needs. So you should keep that in mind and not try to promote any alternative way of life here which contradicts theirs if you want to be left alone.
Thank you for sharing your point of view. Tbh I'm in Canada, and think the same as you. Wondering what the hell am I doing trying to survive to only buy groceries out here , with all the politics, taxes , sensitive ppl ...it's exhausting, expensive and stupid cold. I'm seriously thinking of exiting.
I saw long time ago, my media social friend from Brooklyn NY posted about young kids drawn into Drag Princess performance in front the public. Not in Malaysia.
You are happy that Malaysia has less freedom of expression? Oh wow! You do realize that children can equally watch public executions in Saudi Arabia? Which is worse for you I wonder? and no one exactly forced your friend to bring his children to watch a drag show.
They're teaching it at schools and also gay and transgender adults are allowed to interact with your kids without your consent. They also put pornography books about gays in kindergarten libraries. I saw some Malaysian Muslims family in the US still hypocritely glorified the US education system and never even tell the truth of how exactly their kids are being taught there. Really sad.
I feel you. I’m a Malaysian who used to live in the UK. I think I can relate to what you said about the politics and money. Plus, the problem of racism. I never felt wanna go back again.
Hi Ben, I enjoy your videos about Malaysia. I am a Malaysian living in the US and I agree with you about the pros and cons of living here. I’ve lived here for 14 years now and eventually I see myself moving back because I love the greenery, the incredibly delicious food as well as access to raw nature that you can get in Malaysia. Not a day goes by where I don’t think of Malaysia. I appreciate the honesty in your videos as it also tells a story of who you are and your life experiences. Please continue vlogging and enjoy your time there!
Thank you for sharing. It must be difficult to move to another country, leaving everything behind.. a start of a new journey. Thank you for sharing your courage, wisdom, and inspiration
Hi Ben! Really enjoyed your video, great content!! Truly appreciate your honesty. May you find peace and great success in Malaysia. Keep on keeping on, the best is yet to be. Stay safe, happy & healthy. Cheers!
Diggin some of your backstory Ben, and lookin forward to more. I moved to SEA in 2005, and never looked back. been through hard times and fantastic times...it's freedom.
@@benfishermin Thailand, Cambodia, Vietnam, now BACK ;-) You alluded to good reasons 4 splittin the states....similar to mine back in 05 Keep on truckin young brother, We only live once.
I lived in San Francisco for a decade around the 90s, had the best time of my life. When i look up anything on SF, it's all very different now, in an unpleasant way. Hope things works out for you Ben wherever you choose to settle. Malaysia is generally decent, but not without the idiosyncrasies too.
I'm constantly blown away by the fact that your views always exceed your subscriber numbers. I don't think I've ever seen that before. But then again, your vlogs are weirdly addictive.
Thanks big brother 👀 I have read that any video that gets more views than your subscriber count should be considered a good video that is helping a lot to grow your channel. I’m happy and surprised the videos are getting so many views with small subscribers!
Sad but true - the U.S.has seen better days and I think the division created by politicians and media outlets has taken its toll. Doesn’t matter who wins the election, the other side won’t agree with it. Europe is dead, America is dying and Asia is young and growing.
Unfortunately, all the places in the US I lived had the same problems you describe, but on a smaller scale...Texas, Wyoming, and Montana--I have no interest in living in the USA any longer after 2 years in Thailand...but really like what I am hearing from you regarding your new experiences in Malaysia.
Tkpelah dia ni mungkin jenis yg mcm vlogger thai filipina mat salleh yg hanya mengambil kesempatan utk teruskn hidup dgn bergantung kpd pendapatan drp youtube. Entah iya entah tk diorg ni benar2 suka Malaysia apa kisah. Sebenarnya diorg ni bkn duta yg bagus utk promosi Malaysia psl jumlah tontonan rendah kemudian subscribers pun cikit sngt! Aku tk langgan video2 cam ni psl tkde manfaat. Org kita ni bila mat salleh puji sikit terus kembang hidung dn terus langgan video2 diorg. Itulah kelemahan org kita mudah kena cucuk!
brother, you dont get how big America is...its the 3rd largest country by size IN THE WORLD. It's a big place, and mass shootings are not erywhere across America. There are tons of places in america that are safe and no crime occurs...and I mean many many places. It's just the big events make it to international news which is not indicative of all of America. If you been here you realize this...America spans 8 timezones and is bigger than you think. So dont use the issues that happen here to paint the whole country as a war zone everywhere --It NOT. We have more places that number HIGHER in SAFER PLACES than Malaysia IN TOTAL.
I’ve subscribed to support you. I hope you make loads of money from your channel to have a comfortable life here in Malaysia. Don’t forget to save money religiously for rainy days & for old age. All the best
As a Malaysian who have done my share of traveling and visited the US as well, I have no desire to live anywhere else in the world and NYC is definitely not a place that I could stay for more than 48 hours. Anybody is welcomed to stay in Malaysia as long as they can respect the local culture and customs as well as understand that some things are just considered repugnant by the majority here like homosexuality ect. As they say , when in Rome...
All the guy said was respect the values of whatever country you are in. If you don't like or agree with them there are 200 other nations to choose from. @@EGO0808
@@EGO0808Exactly. So stop throwing your values to the world when you're just a very tiny minority from the whole 8 billion people. Got tired of seeing Presidents of many countries are being pushed by your news channel to normalize your gay values into their countries
@@EGO0808 As a Malaysian I have a right to insist that my society's values be respected by those who want to make this place a home. I have no other places to call home other than Malaysia. So yeah, if that is called throwing my values to others than be it. Other countries all have their values they want respected, Malaysia is the same.
Just stumbled onto your clip without knowing your background or your other/previous clips. appreciate your honesty and it shows through your thoughtful insights. If i could just comment one thing only is this ~ in the midst of all the worldly madness that we'd like to escape from (woke and politics and money and the like) there is one destiny that we should be heading towards is your journey to better your relationship with the Divine. The easterners thankfully, have found this path and it is what kept them calm, contented and at peace. Do give it a thought!
I'm doing the same thing I left in Japan right now are we going to Vietnam and maybe I will come back to Malaysia I hated it the first time but watching your videos made me realize there are other parts of the city where you can walk around.. I'm at a lot of cool people in the neighborhood where I was staying they told me they never seen any tourists so I was definitely a local area people would come up and talk to me there are areas in Malaysia in KL where Americans and tourists do not go.
what you feel is because of the policy of Islamic Malaysia and the Malay King who make any nation can live in peace and comfort.. China can live richly, India can live without caste and rich.. as well as other nations that come to live /work/study will be guaranteed their rights
Wow...sorry your comment is wrong....everybody here live happily because of islamic adaptation way of live...be kind and accept...its not one race can be rich and others not
@@itawan76 what a nonsensical thing to say. Everyone here live happily? Says who? So there are no prisoners or criminals here? and how you went from there to it'sd because of Islamic adaptation" when more than 35% of Malaysians are not even Muslims or need or required to adapt to other faiths. Who claimed only one race can be rich and not others? You are making things up so that you can rebuke it yourself.
You’re spot on. The fact that I am feeling like a criminal for being a straight white male is wild to me. It’s when people are telling me what words I can and can not use that crosses the line for me. Controlling speech is the first mark to all your rights being lost. I can be polite but don’t force me to say words I don’t want to use with the threat of having my whole social and career life being threatened
Go to Sungai Wang shopping mall and I believe some tattoo shops are still very popular in there. Many around Petaling Street and it is now into neighbourhood like SS2 (Petaling Jaya)
Everything you say is spot on. I moved to the US 35 years ago, but I’ve been thinking about leaving. It’s just hard to get over the inertia. A NYU club asked me to give a talk about how I got into the art industry, as part of my introduction, I was supposed to state my pronouns. I realized this is a group of people who are going to be offended by everything. If they tape what I say and I say something that offends them, they’ll try to cancel me, and in the end I decided it wasn’t worth it for me to talk to these people.
I've been following a NYC YT video about the housing, shoplifting, rent, people free consequences from thieves. Maybe you can try exploring the tattoo scene in the State of Sarawak.
Florida was usually my escape from NYC, at least growing up it was going for winter music conference in Miami each year, used to be a lot of fun but I think it got a bit played out and too popular eventually. I’d probably like other parts of Florida more than Miami nowadays
Well..You can always look into Malaysian Borneo IBAN Head Hunters Tatoo that is in the state of Sarawak 🤘..also U can get in touch with Nick from Global Gibbon ..
Hi Ben, I love Malaysia spent 5 months there in 2019. The only negative for me was there were no real seasons as it is so close to the Equator. I missed a cold Winter. Other than that, it is a magnificent country.
Yea let’s see after some time. I have quite a positive impression of it, of course there are issues too. I’m really just traveling around, I’m not actually becoming a permanent resident anywhere for a while. It’s a nice place to spend time though for me and live healthy.
Hi brother. What a great views. Thx ya for staying in my country. We are nobody. Compare to other southeastasia country. They are more beautiful then us. I am from johor darul takzim.
Hi Ben. Always not easy to migrate from the comforts of familiarity, more so, to half way around the world. It's not just in America but the woke culture is rising everywhere. Malaysia is great, I'm Malaysian btw, but Asia is huge and totally diverse, legal opportunities are abound if you do your research, so hope you can explore and find that sweet spot to call base.
Dulu takde sape nak pandang negara Asia ni..malah Ade westerners fikir kita masih tinggal atas pokok dan dalam gua..ingat lagi Tun M dulu pernah bagitahu timetu kita tgh nak develop..di rendahkan oleh negara barat.. anggap Asia is nothing.. tengok sebelah mata pun tak nak .. now negara yg mereka rendahkan yang mereka tak pernah pandang la yang mampu saing negara barat..berapa banyak negara Asia yang mampu saing dengan barat? Kalau gabung negara Asia serantau memang kalah negara barat..sorry to say..sebab kita jangan selalu tengok atas sebab tak sedar yang bawah sedang mendaki naik ke atas
Kan... Semua ini kerana kita kekal hidup dalm fitrah...lelaki hidip sebagi lelaki ,,perempuan hidup dgn cara perempuan..menjamin kebenasan beragama..kita hidup dgn penuh keseleaaan tapi kita taknsedar sebb kita dh terbiasa ,,kita sentiasa memandang yg jauh cantik dari yg kita pegang
Now most visited ASEAN country, sebab it works in Malaysia favour, very cheap for tourists to travel to, hotels, foods very cheap, pulak because of Islamic values and conservativeness, openly sex trades and doing sexual stuffs publicly is against the law, so Malaysia perfect country for family vacations and for people to bring their kids to travel, over time it works in Malaysia favour. Lagi pon westerners ni ramai tak suka Asians berkulit gelap, mereka rasa kita ni bodoh compared Cina, Koreans dan Japanese yang mereka suka dan agungkan, pulak kita majoriti Muslims, lagi mereka tak suka sebabnya mereka Islamophobic, sebab tu dulu mereka tak pandang pon kita. Tourists lain bangsa kurang racist dan lebih terbuka, tapi tak kata pon semua westerners ni racist, byk pon yang ok, tapi yang racist dan Islamophobic pon ramai.
Alah yg suka rendahkan negara kita pun orang2 kita jugak yang dah migrate dekat US/UK/Australia tu. Ada sorang Melayu dah berkeluarga dekat sana siap puji2 lagi sistem pendidikan dekat US sana walaupun orang US sendiri dah takut nak hantar anak2 dorang pergi sekolah sebab kena ikut agenda LGBTQ dan senang kena tembak tiba2.
Do not believe what you hear. People are educated enough to know that Malaysia are well developed and still developing. As Malaysian, we are lucky to have what ASIAN have, and for that, we are known as TRULY ASIAN. For the more reason to visit our country is to experiance these TRULY ASIAN culture.
totally undstd where u' re coming fr & agree 💯% w/ yr point of view abt the extreme lgbtq " trend", etc. hope u find home here in Msia🥰. our tagline here for generations has been " sucess is almost certainly within anyone's reach as long as he/ she( no in betweens here lol) is willing to work for it." dreams still do come true in Msia 🇲🇾
Great video Ben, everything you said is happening throughout the US although to a lesser degree in the rural areas where I live, but still the woke culture has infected the whole country, and it's so sad to see! I'm hoping to move somewhere in Southeast Asia next year if at all possible, just to save my sanity and live a quiet peaceful life in one of the beautiful countries over there! Thanks for telling the truth, best wishes and good luck!
I kinda relate what u said,people want to be different nothin problem with that if they just keep it to theirself but if u forced people to accept you and try normalize it that is a problem
I did visit nyc in 2001 just after 9/11. Manhattan was so huge with its skyscraoers that I felt KL was just a tiny town compared to it. I was visiting a distant relative who was living in Queens where fd ws expensive and not easy to find. Unlike Msia you can find it easily and at affordable prices. But at the end of the day, its abt the same. Musuems were amazing in ny. I felt If you have enough cash, nyc has limitless adventures and many many events take place daily but u'd nd money. Manhattan was so clean and easy to walk around esp 5th Ave. Money is harder to make in Msia. Anyway if u want to save money do yr shopping at at affordable mini marts like Speed99 or if u really run out it shop at the RM2 Shop where everythg is only rm2. Best wishes.
Hello ben I'm American living in the Philippines left for same reasons as you would love to go to thailand get my medicine it's legal there and hooking up with you and getting a tattoo let me know when you're back in thailand honestly a lot of anxiety going there not knowing anybody i'll be better off heading straight to the dispensary lol
Interesting to know you are a Tattoo Artist. Perhaps when you can, you should spend some time in Kuching, Sarawak looking into traditional tattoos there. It's a Borneo state in East Malaysia, and the natives there have had centuries old tradition of body tattoos. They had a wry smile when the craze for body tattoo in the West became mainstream some decades ago as you would meet many Sarawakian natives who have body tattoos for many years for cultural, religious and social reasons. Some of the tattoos are incredibly intricate, detailed and quite different. And each local native tribes will have their own distinctive style of tattoos.
I'm Malaysian, even 10 years ago, if someone offered to support me living in New York... I would decline without hesitation. Westerners have been brainwashed since the end of WW2. Same goes to the rest of the world including Malaysians but the effects are not that bad because religion is our base. Westerners let the elites do the thinking for them. Religious people let the religious leaders do the thinking. I do the thinking myself with the help of my Lord. I will say whatever I wanna say. I don't care about others'feelings or think about me. I don't live to satisfy other people's mouth.
