Back in March, I was in a relationship of about a month and a half. I had a large following on tiktok and on instagram and so it wasn't uncommon to receive messages from followers. I received a message from a man named Jordan interested in hooking up. Hooking up and joining in on a project which is now a youtube channel that we run together with about fifteen other people. While I was in the relationship, I had no interest in anything that wasn't platonic, but there was a huge spark between us intellectually and we began talking. Talking so much to the point where it was everyday, facetiming for five hours + on end, to the point where I would look forward to talking to him more than my own boyfriend. And then my dad passed away from covid in April. And where I couldn't get support from my boyfriend I got from Jordan. The attraction and strong bond already built got stronger. Embarrassingly, I tree branched over to Jordan. And Jordan knew, I did at one point refer to Jordan as a backup plan to someone. I'm deeply ashamed of having even thought of him as one considering how much I love him now, but I had no concept of how horrible that was until I saw how much it hurt Jordan. We continued to talk regularly and endlessly through quarantine. On one condition: that he would remain celibate for me. My father traveled for Europe for women back and when he was alive. Whenever I brought home a potential guy, he would require them to go to my church six times before he would remotely consider me dating them. My line of thinking was that I don't want to be played if we're moving in that direction, I don't want to be hurt. For context, I live in America and he lives in the United Kingdom. In May, I said I would come visit him in September and we would try it out, to consider this a trial period on long distance. And if September worked out, I would come to the UK to close the gap in January. Further context, I'm 18. He's 29. He remained celibate. And we met on September 9th. I stayed in London and we went to Rome together. And it was wonderful and we both had an amazing time together. I assumed from there it would progress into a relationship, because of how often we had talked about it. Maybe I read too much into it, or I'm just not experienced enough to know that just because someone is deeply in love with you doesn't mean that you're ready or it's the right timing. I essentially began pressuring him to make a decision on us. I had already submitted my application to study abroad, and as often as I told myself it was also for the experience of living abroad (an experience I genuinely do want) it was mainly for him. Throughout this entire experience, whether it was on text or even on my trip, he's been extremely back and forth on whether he should take a risk on me for very obvious reasons (age, life experience, etc) and in the end, he essentially decided no. With that context out of the way, he pointed out one thing a few times throughout this entire experience that I really didn't understand or recognize until today and only from this experience. I'm extremely emotionally manipulative. I successfully took him off the dating market when we weren't dating by forcing him to be celibate. Whenever he backed off and wanted to just be friends, I couldn't do that and needed to cut him out completely to evade feeling hurt, inconsiderate of what he felt. Even this week, I unintentionally guilt tripped him for trying to distance himself from me so that he could process my trip over there. I emotionally manipulate to avoid getting hurt without even realizing it, and I don't want to be like that. I don't know where to draw the line between reasonable expectations, being a pushover, and just being plain manipulative. I don't ask for much say financially or emotional support wise, but I do expect a lot when it comes to quality time. I would use situations as ammo for more, such as me paying my own 1k$ flight to the UK, or me moving for him so I could get more girlfriend privileges without us dating. Frankly, I don't know if I manipulated him into liking me at this point or if I just did toxic things along the way. I know he does still love me, but he says I need to trust him that it's not going to work out. I apologize for such a long story, and I really appreciate it if you made it to the end. I'm hoping out of this consolation I can learn to recognize my own toxic traits when I'm beginning to be emotionally manipulative. And I guess being okay with being hurt and to learn to be more considerate of someone else. No doubt that this probably stems from my chaotic childhood with a very narcissistic mother, subsequently from an abusive grandmother, and a very messy divorce. I'm sure my dad's death probably plays into it somehow, too. I'm sure it's probably unusual to see a request from someone this young, but I'd really appreciate if you put that aside because I am seeking growth and I think it's better to learn while I'm young than to suffer the consequences later (again). See my response: www.patreon.com/posts/patreon-18-yr-is-47609901
Alexander i like you, but i cant understand you saying that there are high quality girls, all girls have the same operativ system and are more unloving Than men because of the caveman Days if they feelt love so strong that man they wouldnt survive because the need to have the strongest man to hunt and provide
I always thought these pinned comments were things that happened to Alexander and thus I'm always amazed by how different his escapades are every time.
My man just works for our benefit, he gives you the answer of the question the video is based on in the very beginning. A guy who begins the video with answer is one who seeks to help and doesn’t seeks for views. I hope Alex gets more audience.
Honestly I bet it’d help get more views. Now that I know that he gives the answer right up front, I just like click on the video immediately. It annoys me so much when RU-vidrs take like 15 minutes before they get to the point or get to whatever the video is about.
Agreed. Amazing value. You get a lot more out of the video when you already know the conclusion and don't spend the entire video looking for the take away
That’s exactly what I said in a previous comment. One second and one word into the video we had the answer to our question. Sublime upload and content.
Ye I followed my gut And doing some self reflection about 3 months afterwards it was pretty clear it me. Don’t go after words go after actions. I guess thats what the saying goes “ actions speak louder than words”
Working with women is one of the best ways to get insight on them. The amount of men I've witness who not only gave free attention to women, but lost their job over it is enough to make you sick.
so true.. I had attractive women thinking I was gay because I didn't give them any attention. Imagine being so entitled to think the only reason a person doesn't hit on you is because he's gay
@@e.h.1843 At this point I relish the opportunity to be contrarian to those who are like that. That level of entitlement from them used to piss me off.
E. H. Haha been there! Imagine the look on their face when later on I start dating their friend ... Oh the envy and female competition. Guess it did. It go down well with their already inflated ego. Those two were pretty girls working at a high end male clothing shop. Imagine the attention they were used to...
Just escalate. As long as she maintains contact, there is opportunity for escalation. If she maintains text/phone contact, keep inviting her to meet in person. If you have been meeting in person, but only as friends - keep escalating by physical touch. If she doesn't get aroused by your passion, she'll soon drop contact because it will be too tiresome for her to keep pushing you away. I think a lot of guys look for clear cues from a woman - a clear permission to escalate. Often times there are none, or they're too subtle. Often times the only way you will know is if you keep going for it - with your full desire. If she is sure she doesn't want it, she'll drop contact, and there is no harm done.
@@randomyoutubecommenter4 I'm not suggesting anyone do anything forceful. There are subtle gestures like putting your arm around her waist, etc. If you do that to a random stranger or a colleague at work, of course it would be harassment! But if a man and a woman agree to meet socially, that would absolutely not be harassment. If the woman doesn't like it, she will not agree to meet you next time, and there is no harm done. She is not going to take you to court. There is absolutely no reason to fear doing this. Guys who say they fear for legal reasons are dishonest with themselves - what they truly fear is rejection and losing whatever friendly relationship they already have with the woman. That's not a bad thing in itself either, you can have some women as platonic friends and not escalate with them, as long as that helps you rather than harms your prospects for a romantic relationship with other women - which is what guys ultimately want! But in most cases, the guy is in love with the woman, and it does suck up his emotional energy and keeps him from pursuing other women, and that's a sad situation to put yourself into. I know I've done it.
confessed to a girl in 20th grade. got rejected and cut her out of my life, ignored her at school and everything. a bit harsh to not even explain to her, especially when she tried to get my attention and talk to me from time to time, but i was in a dark place and just wanted to not deal with her. i now see it was the right decision. she's got more than enough friends, both physical and online and we weren't that close anyways. when it comes to dating, i have a saying: you cant force someone into a romantic relationship but you cant force someone to be stuck in the friendzone either.
In the book 'Mode One' written by Alan Roger Currie, he states with the utmost conviction this phrase 'No Free Attention' This was a line he got from a coworker who was swimming in chicks. If you're chasing your goals and living your purpose, chicks are not a priority. If you want to go on a date and bang then you chat them up to set a date. Other than that, they want you for your attention and your validation and to basically stroke their egos. No Free Attention
Sad reality occurring for way too many men out there.. Edit: And it goes even beyond that. Many women date and even engage in sexual talk/activities with men, setting therefore high hopes, taking advantage of their naivety to then leave them alone and disappointed.
Strange thing about it is if it was your buddy in your place you would see it straight away but you are somehow trapped in this delusion and even if your buddy warns you that the girl is just playing you (cuz he sees it clear as day) you wouldnt believe him. probs to the girls (and boys) who let you of that "fish hook" and shame to them who dont - it's one of the worst things you can do to another human. I think in general people should treat each other more like they want to be treated.
I had a woman do that to me a couple of years back. The first thing that went through my mind was "why?". It became clear over time that this was simply a game she was playing.
I used to be one of those guys, crafting and rationalising epic stories in my head for the women I pined after. Channels like this showed me the severe error of my behavior. Before the Internet, guys went their whole lives acting like that not realising what they were doing. There's no excuse now, even if you have no positive male role models in your life the information is out there. Chicks are crafty, we have to be better than that.
Sometimes I think Alexander watches videos of my life as inspiration. Uncanny. I wasted 6 months pining over this woman who was stringing me along. Then she jumped into a relationship with a guy I hate, then started gushing to me about him. Me: 6 months and nothing, him: 2 weeks and everything. I finally got the clue and cut her out of my life.
"People like to think of themselves a rational creatures. In reality we are rationalizing creatures. We take the end result we want and then look for supporting evidence to justify that result." So lucid.
It isn't only women that do it. I have done this to a girl that fancied me. I enjoyed her enthusiasm and adoration, and even found her quite cute, but she wasn't beautiful by conventional standards, so I didn't think people would be impressed by me dating her, so I kept her around as a frustrated friend that wanted something more. I regret it now-immature and shallow mistakes of youth.
Anton Petrov recently reported a study showing that "dogs truly love us". At the same time, in another study, when dogs were given the opportunity to reciprocate a favour to their owners, they didn't. Keep that in mind whenever people say "if you want somebody who really loves you for yourself, get a dog (not a girlfriend)". 😂 But even dogs love opportunistically, as it seems.
From the other side. I learned most of this in the PUA times like 9years ago (thank god). And now I actually enjoy spending time with those women. They have husbands/boyfriends and they just explode with happiness and naturalness when you understand as a man whats going on. They are the ones hiding and risking a lot just for basic human interactions. I love spending time with them cuz they enjoy it to the fullest, we're not meeting to get intimate at all but just to have fun with life and it's great.
I guess it's how far she goes for your attention. Either way, run from her; neither path leads to anything of value except a lesson you probably don't need.
If the average person is capable of doing the horrible things that happened in Rwanda, Sudan, South Africa, Germany, Russia, the Balkans, and the Trail of Tears and Japanese internment camps in the US, then playing on someone's emotions for attention is child's play. Never underestimate a person's capacity for wrongdoing and selfishness. That includes you.
This is true, I'm 24 and have possible autism/ aspergers, I tend to get all goofy/ taylor swifty around girls I like. The moment they reject me or realize they led me on, I pull back completely, either to recover or protect myself from emotional manipulation, I don't ignore them or treat them harshly, I just keep conversation short and leave. They normally end up constantly coming back to me. It's weird.
How do you approach women? How did you learn to read their signs and subtle language? Maybe you know some authors who is writing about that. I recently got diagnosed with ASD, and seeking people who've learned how to be "normal" with normal people.
For a woman, baiting attention is a way to check her bank account of sexual capital. Knowing you’re beautiful & desired is one thing, but there’s nothing like *checking* your bank account to see how much is there
@@sirwizalot7164 Pretty much. It honestly explains women's behavior. This is why women who know that the top guys don't want them, are often depressed.
This should be mandatory watching for young men. It took me until my mid 20's to figure this out. If she wants you, she will initiate or hint at hanging out AND follow thru.
Yeap, that is how I got my wife. I stopped giving her attention because I felt a bit off like I was having to chase, she then approached me asking me out.
When I was very young I used to be bullied very hard by the other kids including the girls who were pretty vicious although I did nothing to them. Because of this, I always had a hard time with them and dating and love, have pretty much not very much experience in sex, game at 26 years old. But at 25 years old, I decided to stop victimising myself and I keep grinding and being on my purpose. Good luck to yall my brothers.
@Benjamin Grams: you r strong brother dont give up hope for these losers so easily, I am on your side brother, let's be an alpha together we will teach them a hard lesson they will never forget
Yo I honestly dont know whether you will be successful or not but this actually gave me inspiration in my own life. I had a give up attitude and had a similar upbringing as yours. Im now 28 years old and Im tired of not giving it my all and being the guy I know I can be. Thank you. Keep going and I will as well.
I believe bulling most likely screwed up my early life too, I am myself trying to reverse the damage and come back stronger than anyone thought possible. Best wishes
@Sheer Verde I'm quite fine actually now. It's ok, all of this made me strong and stoic. I can help others and help improve others who face similar experiences.
"The Prize"? People who say this are the problem. We don't like when women have this mentality, it's no more endearing a trait in men. Tell me you weren't being serious...
Attention: you're a great guy, you're sweet, I love spending time with you (fake smile) Attraction: haha you're so stupid, you're the worst, omg stop it! (Giggles while touching your arm)
This is so true lmao, back when I was stupid I thought girls hated me because they'd always call me dummy etc. turns out a lot of it was just cringy flirting
Only 2 seconds, and there we have the answer! You are the poster kid of "straightforward", and it changes from people going rounds and rounds just to reach the point they want to make, for the good.
Helpful advice incoming: What kind of women have you been dating?! Dear God, what's going on over there? Haha. Seriously though, I have been studying and applying this stuff for quite a while now and my relationship is nothing like that. Honestly, I have been pushing to find boundaries lately (they must exist, right?) and... yeah, I'm not really finding them. For example: Sure, she get may jump to an emotional state in a disagreement but I shut that down. I do so but make it clear that we will continue talking once she has calmed down. She may not like getting shut down but she goes along with. I think a big reason for that is because I make it so clear that she will get to express what is on her mind after she's not so worked up over it. Getting all worked up to the point where you're frustrated at the person who most wants to help you is never going to solve any problems or make it so they want to listen to you vent about them again in the future. Take a breath, relax, and explain to her that you are striving to be your best. She should be doing the same. (Both of you should actually be doing that, not just talking about it.) You care for each other so you want to provide the other with the benefits that comes with that. Try it and (if you don't mind) post the results here. I'm curious to follow up with you as I hope the best for everyone. Oh, it may also help if you read the following: "You Can Turn Conflict Into Closeness" "The Five Love Languages" "No More Mr. Nice Guy" "His Needs, Her Needs" And other books along those lines. I think they will help a lot in this situation.
If your relationship feels like having tons of minefields around you, have you ever thought of the possibility that you a) might have picked a girl of higher "market value" (e.g. she being very attractive) than yourself or b) you are simply too nice and let her being in the driving seat? While it obviously is nice to have a very attractive women at your side this usually comes with a price: she knows her value and she expects to be treated accordingly. As all women want attention, attractive women (usually) want it even more and they are used to get it their own way. While now most men chose the approach "happy wife, happy life" to just avoid any confrontation, it will be frustrating for you in the long run: it is stressful and tiring to feel like constantly walking on egg-shells. I wouldn't feel like. We men hate these shi**y power games...we want to enjoy life peacefully, but many women see that differently. They like the action and the power games. You could try to turn around the game: stand your ground and show her where your limits are and what you do not accept else you are not willing to be in a relationship with her. Then two things can happen: if your "market value" is high enough and she does not want to lose you, she might realize she has to change her attitude. If she feels her value is higher, she will continue to bi*** around and maybe even leave you, as she expects a guy to do what she wants (“my way or highway”…some women have no mercy here). Then the question is: should you not rather be happy if the latter happens? Thinking it through: it’s worth the battle because you can only win either way of the outcome! Either you stay with her and get (at least partially) rid of the minefield (you win) or get away from a complaining bit** making your life only miserable (you win)!
A woman I used to work with told me an extremely detailed and vivid story of her sexual exploits. At one point, one of her stories was similar to something I had experienced. My words were something along the following lines: “ oh I did that once!” HR called me in a couple days later and questioned me about my inappropriate sexual conversation with her and they brought up MY story. I hadn’t gone into details at all. I lost that job.
Wow. Sorry. I guess the lesson is to never even entertain one sided conversations like that. PS...women do this in public to get attention (talk about sex or curse a lot). it's a red flag.
What you should have done was ask HR how the words _"oh, I did that once!"_ could've _possibly_ been inappropriate and sexual unless the _topic_ already was? I would've loved to hear that explanation. If the topic was changing toner on the Xerox (or equally innocent), then how is saying you've once done that, in any way, shape or form inappropriate and/or sexual?
Unbelievable to ME that anyone would fall into that trap for more than a day or two. In high school I had a cute/hot female friend I was interested in but I didn't expect anything to come of it, wasn't terribly disappointed, had an opportunity with her some yrs later, made out with her but didn't see the full sexual, general chemistry so let it go.
6:45 This happened to me in college. I really came to like this girl after a few weeks. By next semester we were signing up for classes together to make sure we were in the same classes or at least try to be. She always came to me for sound advice about life in general, I finally got the nerve to ask her out, I asked her out to the Renaissance Faire, as she had never been I thought this was a perfect first date, we meet up there, as soon as I pay her way in and we walk in, some guy runs up to her and hugs her, she turns to me and says "I hope you don't mind but I agreed to meet a Tender date here." We went our separate ways for the rest of the day until I drove her home. She later asked me for advice when they started having sex and she wanted to ask a few questions to a guy but not him. I stopped talking to her after that. Just felt, morally bankrupt to do that to a man whom you know has romantic interest in you and really liked you.
Adding some extra detail here, I did tell her how I felt about her before we went to the Renaissance... For years after, she would always try to rekindle contact with me. She even went as far as sending people from her church to say hi to me at work if they worked at the same place, wound up seeing her again at a party and she was extremely bitter about it and it was uncomfortable for everyone. It has been almost 10 years and she still follows me on social media for some reason. I was devastated for a long time, I really really had genuine feelings for this girl. I am glad I didn't do anything stupid though.
The only times that I thought that I was in love with women, I've come to realise that it's just that they gave me the slightest attention, and after a live time of being ignored and rejected by women the slightest interest gave me a high that I mistook for love.
@@stefan6670 The sad thing is if I ever get that feeling again, I won't think " wow, I'm in love " , I'll think " this just highlights all the arrogance and hostility that I have become to expect from women".
This is a classic example of ASIA- the Attention and Self-Interest Agenda that is the motivational bed-rock of most women. High-quality women recognize this tendency in themselves and seek to control it. Most women don't have that degree of objectivity.
I've been in this exact situation and wasted 8 months of my life. I failed to see how selfish and manipulative someone can be. During my senior year of highschool I meet this beautifull girl that use to constantly repeat that she loved me. She used to hold my hand during class and hug me when I wasn't looking. For me that was as clear as it could be that she was interested, she even said a couple of times that we should hang out some weekend. So I did the obvious, I asked her out, but she was busy, so I tried next week, and same story, and so on for a couple of months. We eventually ended up hanging out, but never alone. I even asked her for prom, and she said yes, but never once I could kiss her, she never looked at me in the eyes and waited for it, I bet she never even though of it. I eventually moved out and we had that sort of long term relashionship where she would send me pictures pretending that it wasn't trying to look sexy. One day she sent me a picture with a guy, her boyfriend, this guy that she had been dating for a month while treating me like nothing happened, sending me messages every day. I now know that she never liked me as I though, and she did everything in her reach to stop me from moving on, to stop me from spending my time with any other girl. Man, it really sucks that the most gorgeous woman are the ones that you need to be more catious with. I had so many other options and I wasted one of the best years of my life chasing a hoppeless dream.
hopefully you dont fall into that again....her actions were not good. but she could probably justify how she behaved and doesnt even feel she did anything wrong most likely.
Never talk to her again. If you see her or hear from her again. Maintain a neutral silence and ignore. Its the most effective punishment as it makes them look within and confront their buried guilt.
lol i just broke up for this exact reason, she always wanted me to text her , but when i didn't she didn't even care. they are people who just wanna take but never give. it's worse than being alone. probably she was talking to alot more guys on the other side, my intuition is never wrong. told her goodbye
Had that experience myself. Take away lesson: don't invest any effort or time on a girl, that if you don't end up having sex, you'll resent the girl for wasting. EDIT: that because there are 4.6 Billion girls in the world. And it does (from personal experience) takes less time and effort to create new sexual connections, than to try to create genuine desire in a girl who is creating rules and delays for sex and sending mixed messages
A woman knows when a guy is interested, period. If she doesn't admit it, she is either completely naive and willingly blinds herself for the sake of peace (or as to not be the bad guy), she likes the attention (as explained in the video) or she tries to "save" the relationship because you are really close(and maybe I am too naive about that). All three are terrible conditions. Just one rule: If she doesn't take any initiative at all, don't waste your time with her, even if she is friendly and polite. Don't invest in someone, who doesn't invest in you.
Indeed, they are well aware of the affect they have on men but are so solipsistic that they ignore it in their brains consciously so they have plausible deniability as a cop out. Same thing with dressing immodestly, they know that it affects men but they turn around and make it seem like they just want to dress half naked for 'themselves'.
God, this gives me flashbacks. What I would tell my younger self: First, you need to understand that every person is self-interested. Some act this out in malicious ways, others not. Second, you need to understand the difference between men and women. They are not the same.
Had to learn the lesson a couple of times. You have a boyfriend...that’s his job. I have to admit that I was really naive to the subject matter. Although I’m wiser, part of me still doesn’t get why women do this stuff.
@@die4race the worst part is.... They crave any kind of attention, they can literally self-harm themselves to get it. And they do actually, most of them.
@@marxk4rl I get that...but aren't they taught the same lessons in morality as we are? As Alexander explained in his video in regards to an "honorable" man. If we can resist leading a woman on, why is it that it appears they cannot do the same? I know that my life experiences count for little, but I can't help but notice that men more times than not resist leading a woman on but it's tge other way around with them.
@@TheKing-ed2ot they don't give a f about morals like that katy perry song and chrisbrown youngthug song "girls just wanna have fun" and fun has no limits or morals
The real truth right here. Have I known this when I was in my early 20s, I would have had such an easier time in life. However, after quite a few rounds of therapy, I found out that people like this not only exists but are actually the majority. Never expect yourself from others.
I had a female colleague that used to be really really close to a male colleague. To a point that, to some of us, it looked flirty. They were always together, they talked about private things, and laughed, etc, etc. At some point, he confessed. She rejected him. He became despressed and desesperate to get her attention, to the point of being a bit toxic. He left the company a little while afterward. Not picking sides here. I think she was misleading (we tried to explain to her) and he definitely overreacted.
Time is the most valuable asset in existence, because it is truly finite and can’t be reproduced naturally or artificially. Don’t let your time be wasted by people (men or women) that don’t even value their own.
What she is doing for you besides the sweet talk? Does she make sacrifices even in small ways? Does she make compromises? How much effort does she put in for you?...If no, then....."Attention." The way Alex thinks through an idea, covers all the possible scenarios, how well he anticipates every "but" "maybe" "what if" that pops up in his audiences heads in response to his answers, and the way he articulates all that is so WOW. Alex what great books would you recommend on "RP"(my comment gets deleted every time I write it) philosophy that has the same balanced, rational perspective as yours? And also books on the psychology between men and women from an evolutionary perspective? Basically what should I do to get deep understanding on this topic?
@@abimusashi6791 ik entrepreneurs in cars releaswd a rp book a couple months back where a divorce lawyer(or someone who works on divorce cases dont remember) did a video review praising it. Give that a read
I like this guy. He just confirms everything I already know about women instinctively. Guys as far as women goes he can teach you "why" women do certain things. But nobody can teach you self confidence. Because other than money and status that's what women are attracted to. Self confidence.
If a random woman acts friendly towards you, flirty, and like she wants to talk; then it can mean that she is genuinely interested. However, the very minimum it means is that you meet the bare minimum threshold for her to be willing to be seen with you in public, and so she is willing to use you to get a self-esteem "bump" by getting you to act interested.
*Never* be her backup plan! If she wanted to be with you then she would be doing everything she can to be with you. If she sees you as a Backup Plan, then even if you have a relationship with her, it would be tarnished by that mindset. She would feel like she's settling and be more likely to leave you when she thinks she has found a better option. You deserve better than that. Women should be competing to be with you and they would if you're a quality man who doesn't hand out his relationship benefits to everyone and anyone who asks for it like it's Halloween candy. No, you don't do that. Withhold them. Sure, you can give them a taste so they develop a hunger for it but then you starve them off it. They will want more and you would be amazed at what they will do to get it. Let's reverse the gender roles really quick so this will make more sense to guys. Let's say you're at a Strip Club. The dancer comes out fully clothed. She touches you, she teases you with little glimpses, but keeps the parts of herself that you're most interested concealed. Then she starts to act like she will move on to the next guy. You're having to imagine what they might be like while not wanting her to leave so you pony up the cash so she will keep going with her attention focused on you. She teased you with it and you gave her what she wanted to get more. Now what would have happened if she had just came out fully nude and plopped it right down in front of you without any showmanship or teasing? Yeah, she would not have made as much money, right? The same logic applies here. Edit: Oh, I just thought of another example. When you walk past a restaurant in a mall, they may have someone outfront handing out samples to people as they pass by to drum up business. That's sample is just a taste of what is waiting for you inside. They don't hand out the full dinner unless you are a paying customer. Some guys are handing out metaphorical Prime Rib dinners and then wondering why nobody will pay to eat. Taste, tease and withdraw, let them come to you paying for more. It works like a charm.
There are many times when women dress up well they look at you so that you give your attention to them and most of the time I ignore it when I know what she is doing.
Alex is such a master of seduction. He's direct with his short answer & still able to charm us with the long answer even though its an ugly truth. He gets his point across & also lure u with what u want to hear.
True. They'll also do this to keep you in the backburner in the event her first option doesn't pan out. The only result is that everyone ends up not entirely satisfied when the relationship eventually wanes due to her not being able to keep up the act and constantly comparing you to other men any chance she gets.
It all comes down to validation. She breadcrumbs you because she knows that you are into her. She'll keep coming back to you to see if you are still into her and give her validation/feed her ego. Don't let her play you like that.
You cut off communication for a few months and she sends you a bikini picture asking if that color looks good on her. That brings you right back to where she needs you to be. This is why men grow up to become incredibly vicious womanizers.
As a man I too have done this to unattractive women. Unattractive women are much more open and direct than attractive women. I've never wanted to hook up with them, but I have enjoyed the attention. I have learned however that I must be more open and direct when being around such women. Giving someone false romantic hope is never good.
My advice: if she rejects you or if she puts you in the friend zone --> cut all contact and never contact her again! It's a dead-end road! To all men: know your own value and have self respect!
"The world has a generous portion of selfish assholes"...Best quote EVER!! I just learned this lesson about a woman i was interested in a few days ago 🤷🏽♂️
Been there, done that.....and many times. This video should be seen by all heterosexual men on earth, as many times as needed so we all understand how do most women act (yes, even hyper-hot ones that should have copious amounts of self-esteem even if only for their looks.... They need the validation). Don't try to understand it, just move along, it's going to save you lots of pain for 0 results anyway
My ex sent me an e-mail saying that she kept playing with my emotions after we broke up because she needed to feel validated around men who see her as a piece of meat. She says she was sorry she did it. She says she felt compelled to send this e-mail because she lost so much in the past year. It was unnerving I sent the email back to the police while cc ing saying that I fear for my life and that it needs to be put on record that I told her not to contact me. Personally I feel like she sent that last one just to get attention and it wouldn't matter if I was angry or not. All that would matter is that I gave her attention.
To all guys suffering with this unclear side of women and to all women who want to engage in real growth, I recommend the book "Women on the Couch: An Analysis of Female Psychopathology". It was written in 1987 by Claudia Bernhardt de Souza Pacheco. Search about it, it describes women's hidden nature
