When Women Complain - STOP DOING THIS!!! 

I want to watch these videos but I can only take one video about how it's down to *us* a day eash. Not that you're not right because you are. But a man can only shoulder so much.

@@misterwtf7380 I totally get you man! However, I don't think that is how Alexander is intending to make men feel. The problem is that Alexander is male and therefore it could get him into bother if he makes videos telling women what to do because you know how that would turn out with certain people on the internet 😅 Also you have to remember that Alexander's audience is 95% guys. We can't control the actions of other but we can control our own actions and therefore it is best that any advice given benefits the person watching his video. If he made a video telling men how to control women then he would also get into bother. Also, why would you want to watch a female telling women how to act in a relationship, it doesn't apply to you? Or would it just be interesting to watch. But I get you man, all this information can be overwhelming at times so maybe take a break from this sort of stuff for a while or consume it sparingly. It is totally normal to feel that way xxx

Hey Alex, have you been married and divorced?

Dear Alexander Grace, if you read this comment please pay attention to this fact because for me you are a very inteligent and important world-renowned opinion maker and my observation is to alert you, in the last videos you are changing the way of approaching the issues by being more scientific but at the same time increasing the work of men and is very close to the videos of women coaches who teach how men can better beg in a relationship with women.There is a phrase by the Chinese philosopher Confucius "treat a woman as an equal and soon you will have a master to enslave you ". I hope you take this phrase very seriously and continue you excelent work. .

I wish I watched this video before.

It's not anyone's job to make someone happy. Especially when it comes to love relationships.

@@AlanSilva-bu1kp you should support, otherwise be alone, you don't deserve a relationship

@@Moesie that's not even close to what he said. You can't make someone happy. That's not how relationships work.

@@Moesie Just a question, because he said its not your job to make somebody happy and hes right, support is to listen and communicate with your partner to look for a solution to changes her unhappy feelings

@@Moesie someone might not be happy for so many reasons, my guy. No one will ever find happiness in someone else. That's just expecting too much. Putting a weight that is yours in someone else's shoulders.

That's bloody good advice, man.

Good advice my guy

100% always ask...

or maybe she need you to listen first to the whole things - that how you deal the emotion problem, than advise her to solve the technical problem.

That's correct, and a good woman will be able to tell you. If I actually need advice or want a different perspective, I always say to my guy: can you help me with something that so and so said to me or can I ask you a question about something that happened at my work? That way he knows right off the bat whether or not he needs to listen actively and give a solution vs just nodding and going uh huh every once in a while still watching the game. A girl's gotta help her guy out that way, in order to help herself.

nope they are not

Yes, they are!

@@user-qt7yb7wf4g I agree but these advices are great for "normal" males. If you have your own problems it's going to to give you more stress.

@@adv3117 so take care of them before they take care of you lol

@@TheEugeneBlond can you give an short example why they are not ?

Read "The Rational Male" Rollo Tomassi

Respecting woman has caused all my dating issues. And i dont mean i treat them badly now, but i treat them with the respect i would give a child. And i do respect children wholey, give them the benefit of the doubt and listen to them fully and giving qdvise and critisim after they said everything they could is how i treated kids already. Its why kids enjoy me, i listen to them, but i would always treat women like adults, expect them to solve their own problems and ask for help and advise as needed. This is why I dont get laid and get cheated on before the fun begins.

@@fatigue8675 This video could have been summarized as “Treat women as you would a child”. In fact, most of his videos can be summarized as such

@@dreyo3654 man, you are so right.

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"Damn, if only women...our needs" amen brother. When we struggle in our own human way, there is rarely is any reciprocity of patience and kindness.

Facts.....100%

Go to your brothers with your problems instead, they will help you way better anyways.

He: I'm done, goodbye.

This was funny

no, no, no! you didn't listen to the video. 1. please tell me how that headache makes you feel dear. 2. please tell me why or where you have the headache. Oh, what do you think it is that and how it got in your head? What happened? 3. what do you think should be done about it? Use the hammer to level that to the rest of the head? ok dear, can you use the hammer yourself? 4. Continue to support her emotionally and even medically when the infection gets in the brain.

@@clownphabetstrongwoman7305 Yes, I did watch the video. I cannot tell from your post that you actually got the point, as it rambles.

@@davidlawson4281 unfortunately you didn't get the point that I was joking.

That's the correct disclaimer

Ding Ding Ding!

Why would you even be with someone that isn't intimate with you..

@@_allcap yeah but there are other women in our surroundings right ? Mother, sisters, coworkers, friends (yes I still believe in this blue pill thing lol) etc...So basically, we don't need to bother going through the 4 steps mentionned in the video with the women I mentionned before. We can continue our mannly behaviour of giving them instant solutions without affecting the quality of the relationship lol

Guys in the "friend zone" need to remember this.

Yeah sure, having basic empathy and listening skills sure are useless in life...

@@everope This four steps requires a lot of time to be followed by. Only in a relationship with sex included is valid to apply these. Other point is that one must contain the solution or a possible solution. The ladies require assurance first, with that in mind... No.

@@everope As Pierre mentioned above, the solution that Alexander outlined in the video is very time-consuming. Time is the most valuable resource every human has. Once it’s gone you can never get it back. Many young men waste so much time listening to women and trying their best to be viewed in a positive way with the hope that it will lead to something more than a friendship. This is a terrible use of time. Young men should be diligently working towards their goals and setting up a strong foundation for their life. If a random woman says “I had such an awful day at work.” I’m not going to ignore her. I might say “Take the good with the bad,” and then leave it at that. Don’t make your problems my problems.

Basic? Are you a woman? This is far beyond basic. Basic is me saying "oh im sorry, i hope it can get better" and then move on without taking more weight of the situation. What about empathy for me? Don't unload on me if you barely know me. In a relationship? Absolutely. Otherwise? F*ck off. It takes a man a lot of energy to do what is normal for a woman.

Only if you're getting some action at the end of the session 👍

That situation specifically should need a solution quickly. I am not sure why she would act that way. Really bizarre xxx

I am not sure how insurance works where you live put I think there is the possibility that she was passive aggressively hinting that you should let her be on your insurance or something. If that is the case then you dodged a bullet if she was your 'ex'. A big red flag. I hope you are doing better! xxx

@@Alisha0413 Exactly! This is not an emotional matter to validate and explore, lol. Its a very practical problem that she needs to resolve. Alex's approach doesn't apply here. I think you're right, why would someone ask what to do about a practical problem and be frustrated when you suggests to them solutions...she probably was hoping that he'd give her a different 'solution'...

You'd go crazy

@@odysseynoone3831 you still haven't got it. Women always have an emotional problem attached with a practical problem.

I mean, as AMS said lately, 'A man of high value is *running* from a relationship' 😀

@@Teglamen big lies

@@obiwankenobi1615 Well... you got the high ground, so...

I used to always ask my mom if she needed help around the house, and she’d always say no, so I stopped asking. One day she got mad because I didn’t offer to help, and I said it was because she always said no. And she was like “I know, but I’d still like to hear you ask!” ... 😟

I came from a similar family situation (complaining Mother). I don't believe she actually gained energy from the telling/sharing of problems, but from the attention you or anyone else would "pay" her while she complained. If this is a pattern in your life of being overly attentive then I strongly suggest that you carefully measure how much time you "spend" paying attention to such people; as I believe they are a drain on your precious/limited resource of attentiveness which can only be replaced by rest and/or sleep...God bless.

Im sorry to hear about this. This is actually a form of child abuse. (It has a name, but I can't remember it exactly). A woman should be able and willing to fix her own problems. And she certainly shouldn't be venting all her frustrations on her kids.

@@dreyo3654 Just cause she don't need your help don't mean she needs to know you care and would be willing

That's a shitty thing to do toward a child.

There's nothing worse than being held hostage in a conversation. I refuse to play the game.

No, you don't need these steps at all. Think of it like this. 1. You have a problem, there is an unknown feeling that is unpleasant. You sort of know what is causing it and may know how to solve it, but this unpleasant feeling just won't go away. It is like a low resolution pixelated photo. 2. How do you unpack this feeling? You write about it or talk it out so that it becomes concrete and rational. Well, you need an outlet/canvas where you can make this low resolution problem into a high resolution problem. 3. Now that it is high resolution you finally know what it was that was bothering you! It has been unpacked and all components are finally revealed. Finally, you can now start attacking the problem. In a sense, she could as well be talking to herself, but if you truly love her or want to bond with her, then this is an opportunity for her to bond with you (if you care). You don't need to do anything other than listen to her. That's it. If you understand the concept and that women orient in an emotional landscape as well as social, then that's that. You don't have to deal with this problem because you are a man - men don't operate on these levels and chances are that you are blind to them even when it is happening in front of you. You are programmed differently because it is not relevant to you. Extraverted people may be able to see it if they have finely tuned social skills. I surely was totally blind to it, but once you see it, dealing with women becomes much easier.

@@CreamColoredFlower Ask your dad to do all those listed things. Your bf is not your therapist and if you don't need a solution to your problems, stop bothering us!

@@tolloromassi99 That's right - a boyfriend/husband is not a therapist :) The best solution is to teach women/girls to keep a journal to deal with most of these unpleasant feelings. Friends may help too. The problem is that the woman is very likely to want to feel understood by her partner or perhaps that she won't have time to deal with it herself because of having children. If you can give her that attention, she will be thankful on a deeper level and you may see a side of woman that most men don't get to see. I've told many people that they may deal with it exactly like this - including my brother and father - but they would rather not have a successful relationship than hear her out. Those relationships very seldom lasts. That's also an option of course. I'm not forcing anyone. And btw, I'm a man haha :D I'm just giving you advice, you don't have to follow it. Inaction and action, both are choices. Take care :)

excellent breakdown!

they stronger in some things and weak in other.. like men are.. we complete each other.

@@chenbendavid9911 True My comment is for comedic purposes

Why comedic those are true words

If you want more women to better themselves, maybe be more welcoming in the comment section instead of bashing the other gender.

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you've heard that in the video - women's response is primarily sexual. That's what's worth the squeeze if done properly.

That's it? Just sex?

Exceptional advice if you can't handle a relationship with someone call it off Oftentimes people are too desperate for a relationship to follow this very simple advice So to this advice I add another piece of advice don't define yourself on a relationship find someone who compliments you not completes you Because if they complete you you're not your full self yet

that reflect method sounds kinda childish.. this is what your require to do in a true relationship... I guess some people cant admit that all they want is only to satisfy their own needs through another person...

@@chenbendavid9911 You're the only one who is childish at this point

I don't think he's talking about doing this with any odd girl you're involved with. Do this with a quality woman whom you care for and respect. This ain't treatment you'd give to just anyone

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exactly, even the lyrics of the song says the same: If the drama's all you're about Ain't nothing honest out of your mouth You could keep all that for yourself 'Cause I'm good

Daaaaaaamn hahaha perfect

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This video is very scientific and important but we need to be careful its looks like videos of women coaches who teach how men can better beg in a relationship with women.There is a phrase by the Chinese philosopher Confucius "treat a woman as an equal and soon you will have a master to enslave you ". I hope men take this phrase very seriously and act like a líder.

@@cleanlimpezalimpeza8743 alexander: "maybe listen to a woman a while before rushing an answer" His audience: "nope, can't give them even a little bit of compassion, they will not follow my orders anymore"

@@pnx1412 I believe that there is no one wiser in this audience than the ancient Chinese philosopher Confucius and not a book or source as important as the I CHING (book of life) over 5000 years old; Their sentences: Confucius: "Treat a woman as an equal and soon you will have a master to enslave you ". I CHING: "Women are in power: don't get married" I take this phrases very seriously and you? Realize that they had already had experiences with women in power and it probably arises when civilizations are relatively stable for a short period of time due to the efforts of men. So they warn us of the solution to avoid disaster.!

I don’t believe that 90% of these women with all of these psych diagnoses, actually have a clinical problem. They are not able to deal with their cognitive dissonance. Living a life guided by emotion, and saying one thing, and meaning another, must be incredibly damaging. I feel pity for women.

You can say that again! Run

@@davidlawson4281 no actually a huge portion have at least one of those issues

@@davidlawson4281 Often with women I feel that I am constanly translating what they say into what they truly mean. Often women are not direct when they say something. What drives me crazy is when I clearly say what I mean and then a woman tries to tell me what they think I really mean instead. To me it is extremely disrespectful on the woman's part. They are listening through their emotional filters.

This one hit a lil too hard g

BY GEORGE,,,,,, I THINK YOU GOT ,, IT ,,,,,,!!!!!!!!!! BAHAHAHAHAHAHAAH

Exactly

and then there might be a blow up later when you didn't do what you agreed to do

@@bunnyboo6295 BAHAHAHA,,, you are sooo naive, There will ALWAYS be a blow up later,, It's a WOMAAAANNNNN,,,!!! BAHAHA

@@zeroquanta4252 Or you never listen if a problem is solved fast people move on and forget its when you ignore it grows

I made this mistake in my last relationship. Never again.

The time limit will be held against you the very next time she decides she is incapable of doing something. "I need help with this...but if all you can give me is 15 minutes then never mind, I'll get someone else." ^^She will say all of that to you in one run-on sentence and in a super snide tone. There is no such thing as "the right answer" when dealing with Women.

Very important step, outlining your own personal boundaries. And in the long run, women want a man with strong boundaries. You might save the relationship in the short term by violating your boundaries... But in the long run, that's a bad strategy.

time limit "to use you as a dumping ground" = zero seconds

Time-honored solution: just act like your listening while your really thinking of something else. It’s how our forebears did it.

Different needs for different people. It's the basis of social skills: it's about what the other person wants, not about what you want all the time; and the more you give, the more you get back; it's....logical. That being said, yeah we men prefer to avoid this ha ha. For sure. And it's why group business meetings with women take 3+ times as long. No thanks.

Tbh they slow me down on things that need to get done

ha 45 mins? that would be great, try 3 hours for a 3m thing

@@MVProfits Well said. Having the skills to "speak the woman's language" will help us become superior men. I have learned that just because women don't take the logical and efficient path in relationships it does not mean they are wrong. I need to get more in touch with my feminine side in some aspects lol

Unless it becomes an unconcious act, an automatic feature. We men want it smooth running, so if we're gonna follow these 4 steps, then it shall be smoothly and not through hardship every time.

If u love her it feels great and you will grow to love her even more

That's the entire point.

Unless you actually love someone?

how can you validate unreasonable emotions without looking like a weak emotional person yourself ?

oof

Teenagers are more independent. Better fit would be 5 year olds

perfect!

@@dreyo3654 Exactly. Teenagers can use the stove.

"How to have a successful daughter & father relationship "

This is what women need to do better. Tell men what you want. Good on you!

What I understand you are saying, is that you are already satisfied with step 1 and 2. Wouldn't it be great if your boyfriend would also do step 3 and 4?

In past relationships, I would always start with one question if my girl was upset after comforting her. "Would you just like me to listen, or do you want my advice?" That one question bypassed the complexity of all of these steps and led to amazing conversations.

Saying something as simple as "I need to vent", would end so much confusion on the guy's part. Eventually she may never need to say that as the guy begins to understand her more and more. I really think it is important for couples to grow old together. A lot of women these days are just sleeping around while they are young, and want to marry a guy who is at the finish line of success when they are older like around mid 30's. Their is no time to learn and understand each other, or develop history together.

​@@Yggdrasill8 Just replace vent by fart and you will understand how selfish it is.

Well... it's not such a bad thing. I also know some men who want exactly that when they go to their closest friends to talk about a problem. I also have been treated that way when I had my problems and it is a good thing. Sometimes people jump to suggestions without having really listened to your problems and say superficial things and this method can definitely help

@@NicMagopianista the thing is, they talk about the problem, and almost allways is not a thing that can be solved with an internet search Men don't contact their friend to tell them a story, they actually want to get things done

@@migueldiogo8395 you're right

@@migueldiogo8395 Maybe most, but not all men. I reach out to people just to vent all the time, not needing advice or practical help.

My mind skips step 1 and just combines steps 2 and 3 into troubleshooting. You make an initial guess, then try to learn more about the problem while you try to come up with solutions. If you’re off the mark, you learn something new because they will say “no, that’s not it.” I don’t have a gf or female friends though.

do you mean "normal" = like men, which account for slightly less than half of the human population?

The answer is in your question. Just skip a few words and rearrange two particular ones.

But, they *are* normal. They're women. ☺️

A cruel twist of nature

No, that's just because their lack of logic.

@@calholli Same medal. Just the other face of it. Atoms don't care about you feelings.

@@srfrg9707 words are hard

As a Professor of Engineering Geology, with few exceptions, I see this frequently. While on field trips, some of the women actually cry when they can't figure out something. Guts just cuss.

​@@dat2ra How do these women even manage to get onto a Geology Engineering course. Are there no prerequisite qualifications required to filter out the dumb ones

Lmao entire weekend 🤣

@@Comeswoopfam Pffft, Say goodbye to my Week holiday😂

And when she says "you don't listen to me !" Answer "I love you"

@@jojostalino1377 if she's said, you don't listen to me , you must of tried to solve her problem prematurely.

or maybe... just actually LISTEN!! and bite your childish ego for couple of minutes.. then replay when needed.

Pure genius... If she moans and complains, that you're not listening. Tell her to phone one of her girlfriends.

lmfaoooo

Too many steps. Too much work

@@emilton0548 All these steps sound like you are trying to safely defuse a bomb, or raise a child.

@@foxd23 That's a bingo!

@@foxd23 In a sense you are right about it feeling like you're helping to raise a child. How many children (boys and girls) have been raised on fairy tales packed with unrealistic exxagerations or straight-out untruths? This is how we arrive at dysfunctional families with unrealistic expectations, too much work and not enough time or money, nes pas?

@@raularmas317 I am trying to put myself in the dating market, but knowing too much is demotivating for me. And being single is easy mode, and it is tempting to stay that way.

Thankyou for your reply.

But why? If the solution is right there, why go over the hill, through the jungle and across the river to end up at the same spot? What I got from the video is that women are like children, and we should treat them as such.

I don’t understand but I’ll take your word for it. My mind just can’t understand why you wouldn’t want help, advice, or solutions.

@@johnsmith2221 I think it’s all about her emotions. Since for her everything is connected, she may say this is her problem and it’s actually an accumulation of another problem. In order to be accurate, you must listen till you put the data together and allow her by asking her, to reach a similar conclusion as yours but on her own way, with what a woman can do, not a man. This way she also learns to do things by her self better. I think thats the idea although it’s hard to talk about it even for me.

@@atlantishorizon Thank you for your perspective.

You’re a rare catch, and you have a lucky guy if you actually reciprocate that compassion.

@@trevoryou4907 Yeah, she might just FEEL like giving 10x back IN THAT MOMENT, but no action actually happens. Or not.

Thanks for saying this @Jasmine-se8rb. This way of reciprocity would make the investment worthwhile for me since it's a mutual investment.

I guess it would depend on the woman in question! This type of partner relationship has always been what I wanted, so if my husband hadn't been willing to be this for me, I wouldn't have married him.

I think the man should be sure and have cemented his values and opinions and not change his foundation

Great comment, Kimmy! I have a girlfriend, who, when I met her, had a huge and very complicated problem. From the beginning she made clear to me, that _she wanted to solve it herself!_ I respected that. Moreover, I do not beliieve in _solving_ problems. I believe in _making problems disappear!_ The difference is this: people have problems because they do not have the training or mental tools necessary to deal with that problem, whatever it is. There are two ways to mke the problem disappear. 1. You go to a specialist, specialized in dealing with your problem. And if they are not around, because there do not exist specialists in your particular problem, or it costs too much to hire them, then ... 2. You _train yourself_ so that _you yourself_ acquire the skill set, and then _you yourself_ solve the problem. This is what I did with my girlfriend. I _trained her_ so that she could solve the problem herself. And _she did!_ She was _so impressed_ that _she could acquire_ the skills herself, that now she is writing a book about it. We have been together since. For _30 years already!_

Thank you for being realistic 👍👍

Teammates work together to solve problems... If a guy has a solution, why not accept his help?

I won't pretend to ever understand this (I won't), but I'm willing to be patient and accept this.

@@michael_canton For a women, just coming up with the solution right away is no different than just doing a google search. Doing everything in this video will leave an imprint on her and believe you truly care. Don't give help freely either, there are many people who would just take advantage of it and leave you in the dust for you to pick up your own broken pieces. Don't be her therapist when she has a boyfriend like the stupid simps would do.

I agree for the vast population. But it might e a good skill for us to have if we meet a high quality girl

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@@booni5114 AWALT

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Yes.. Thank you!!!!!!

Golden! 🤣

Shoving their dumbness in their own face!

well said.

You're a lucky guy. Cherish it.

I think, honestly, that most women are so caught up in the complexities of their emotions they would struggle to interpret the masculine psychology in approaching life in the main. Like even as simply as the cultural acknowledgement that a man MUST be self-reliant or he is considered a faulty man. They could never appreciate what the reality feels like, and even if they did ... they'd get lost in emotional long-grass about it and lose the sense of what they were trying to learn. Not to be disparaging of women, but with men being the naturally more assertive and domineering sex, it's more effective and pragmatic to teach men on how to engage with women, rather than the other way around because men - as stated by Alexander - are problem solvers. It's just about giving them a little deft skill in how to apply that mindset in a way that doesn't antagonise a woman and takes her into account, like the video was trying to teach.

@@PriestOfFilm even so, how many times do you women trying to understand and empathize with men? The opposite is far more common. It's not about being effective or not, but about caring about the other as much, about reciprocating the interest to understand and love. After all, a relationship is made of two people who should support each other. Not of only one person who invests everything while the other people just receives. Also, men are such simple creatures, it's not hard to make us happy.

Yes, there are channels like that! I watch lovely women (usually they’re homemakers, with children) on RU-vid talk about femininity, what men like, how to treat men and make their lives as peaceful as possible. Many male RU-vidrs (like Alexander) that make videos for women about what men are looking for as well.

@@pinkmed123 thanks for restoring my faith in humanity 🙏🏻 Do you have a list of those channels? I’d gladly sub :)

@@luizbezerra4373 I agree Luiz. My grandmother never acted like that with my grandfather. She always cared for him and served him and they both worked because times were much much tougher back when they were young. They didn't have time for this emotional BS of today. I also never heard them fight all the times I slept over their place and with all the time I spent with them. The only times I ever remember my grandfather raising his voice was when he got annoyed at my grandmother when she would get scared by idiot drivers cutting him off and that lasted for a few seconds. She cooked for him almost every day and he would make her breakfast in the mornings and they would occasionally go out to dinner and they communicated very well. I don't see anything like that these days, just selfishness, no reciprocation. In fact, a girl I used to know posted some crap on her Facebook timeline regarding some Hollywood skank claiming that men who wanted reciprocation were weak, which is outright bull. Those kind of women, which is unfortunately the overwhelming majority now with the way they were raised in the anti-male indoctrination, look at us like robots whose purpose is to serve them instead of as human beings. Who the hell would take advice from any loser in Hollywood whose relationships barely last a few years if even that? Yet they idolize those morons these days with the way they follow them on social media mainly due to their separation from God & a lack of belief of a higher being. Anyone who is like that is disqualified from any meaningful relationship. They're social parasites.

That video is priceless. It should be mandated to graduate high school😆

yes cause your lame and egocentric (way more than we are) We way to often go out of our way for you guys and make huge sacrifices.. yall dont aprecciate us.

That's just unfair...eh.

Depends

A high quality woman will reciprocate!! Of course, if you come on too much too early, you'll be marked as low-quality. But the mutual ability to be emotionally vulnerable and effectively communicate is absolutely nessesary for a healthy relationship!

@@bellama920 high quality women is what? 5% ?

@@SkytaStyle or like 0.05% ? :D

hes not describing growths.. I think your casual sit ins with your wife are more about growths.. This is about internal struggles women often have 1. need of validating her emotions (cause other wise feeling lonely or invisible probably) 2. not seeing the whole picture being to detached and entangled with everyday life struggle and chaos 3. wanting to be more autonomous and authentic, needing space, and lack therof 4. feeling overbared, lack of stamina or motivation, due to a set back this is how one could interpret this..

so your job is to teach, coach and father her? no thanks

Wrong again, they don't want you to give them the answers

@@capitanmarmota8562 Exactly. And they will behave this way even when they already know the damn answer. It's just them wanting to gauge how much of your time you allow her to waste.

just say, tell me what's wrong honey, 'if she is not that dramaqueen type' act actually know how to communicate, really? tell me more, that's fascinating, or if it's a problem etc, tell me what's wrong, leave nothing out, how'd that made you feel when i said/did that, or when that happen at work or 'sarah' for example said that to you, and made you feel sad/mad, you want me to listen/continue listen, you want my opinion, they just want us to ask/ be there for them 'not fix their problems' just let her talk, till she maybe says she feels better she can/or could talk about her, hold her, let her sit on you're lap when doing this, just like dads do when their little daughters come to them for advice or seek safety/love etc.

I was just about to say something similar. You beat me to it lol.

men = customer (women) support

Great comment 😂

to grow..

you really missed the part where the female mind has everything interconnected? Your loss if you don't see the benefit of having this major input in your life

@@rollingrobs2048 All part of my calculus. What you missed is the incentive to do so, and the wanton disregard for the disproportionate expectation placed on men to pander to the needs of the female. Not only is he expected to find a solution for problems - perceived or real-, but he must also connect with her emotional state. In other words, his primary function is to serve her every need, and to pedestalise. So, again I ask, to what end?

Funny how the video REFUSES to explore this question. Meanwhile Chad will be banging her without spending a minute of his time Catering to her moods 😂😂😂

you comepletly got this right.

Facts‼️ I got my own problems. Our problem is just “our” problems, but there problems is their problem and our problem as well. Let that sink in

Are you by any chance the worst "literally an analyst" ?

Please don’t say that. I hope you’re joking or something. I would be hurt if my boyfriend said that to me. Many of us share with people we love and trust and would like to receive support from. If my boyfriend or dad were to tell me to talk to a woman instead, I’d feel like he doesn’t care about me. Many of us women share what we go through with those who are closest to us so that we can get over it/feel better. It’s often times not even about solving a problem. My for instance- I find I really need to talk to someone sometimes because, like many, I overthink a lot and something small does turn into a greater thing in my head.

@@pinkmed123 toughen up.. not all men are emotional sponges

I can respect your mindset and agree to it to many extents The problem with the difference between the mentality of men and women is women are going to look at this as you invalidating their emotions They're going to see it as you don't care about them even if you do care about them And if that sounds hyper emotional it's because it is Men have the emotional response ironed out of them and unfortunately society makes it our job to understand them instead of everyone's job to understand each other But if you genuinely do care about someone it's worth the minor effort that it takes to just listen

@@themanicman8458 you have to listen to understand and empathise. The problem most men have with this is that they speak too quickly without asking proper questions. I speak when I feel I have a good grasp of the true problem, often laying below the surface-level stuff she first comes complaining about. Women often feel I understand them better then they themselves do, exactly because I can rationalize their emotions, explain to them where those are actually coming from, then point to the solution.

@@AndrewGeerlings but by coming to a solution for them you're simply crippling their ability to do that for themselves It hinders their own personal growth to take on their challenges for them I find it as often better to give them the added confidence that someone has their back so they can approach their problem without fear But to ultimately let them be the catalyst to their own success

@@AndrewGeerlings it lets them know that you're here for them and will help them should they need it But also lets them know that you respect and trust them enough to know that odds are they can handle it on their own and if they can't that they are mature enough to ask for help

I agree! No clue why he wrote out 4 steps. Seems excessive

Yep, most of his videos boil down to “Women are like children, treat them as such”, but he never comes out and spells it out.

She actually could be a grown up in every other sense, that's the part left for men to discern... good luck.

What’s complicated about cats?

How does this play out with your children though? assuming you have.

@@jackdeniston59 I don't understand your question.

My understanding is that we are to complement each other. I acknowledge/validate ur feelings, I empathize with those kind of feelings to show you I have some understanding of those particular feelings, and then we can move on together to explore/brainstorm some possible solutions. Eventually, I would hope that we could reach an agreement on the most effective way to settle an issue. Finally, I would thank you for trusting me enough to help you try to resolve you problems and ask you to let me know how things go when you implement the agreed upon solution.

The one area I see as probably needing the most consistent compromise is in time-attention invested in listening bc I tend to believe that women have a far greater attention span when it comes to talking about feelings and relationships. So maybe, instead of spending 5-10 minutes discussing how some problem at work affected you, you might want to spend 3-5 minutes and allow your S.O. to ask clarifying questions to refine his understanding and his input in the form of suggestions as to how to resolve the matter at hand.

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good question

Because women recognize so many more social dynamics I think. Imagine if lets say your boss repremanded you in front of the office, you had every slight look and change of each person's face while it happened. You remembered your tone of voice, you remembered your boss's face enraged with anger and the tone of his voice go almost shrill. All of this is stuck inside you. And it displays itself in what you do and how you act and think. She needs to get rid of all of this. Thus why she needs to talk a lot to let out all of that negative emotion. After she has all of that out, then maybe she can see things a bit more rationally again, or she can find her own way forward in dealing with the emotions that she had lingering.

I would say, if she claims he wasn't listening, the man missed the subtext. He solved the obvious problem without realizing there were nuances and other issues he missed. Your nutshell makes it look like the woman is ridiculous and unreasonable, but that's just not (usually) the case, in my experience.

Well, it's clear that you didn't listen to anything said in this video...

@@ysariasinclair7539 men are not mind readers or perfect superheroes 🤷🏾‍♂️, ladies need to be mature on this aspect.

@@HenryDube72 you're absolutely right. A simple claim of "you're not listening" would be insulting and unhelpful. Two open minded individuals helping each other understand what they need... this kind of couple seems so rare, but it can and does exist!

“Women hate guys that CARE so much” No not true

@@sweetandyyy what w*men say and do are two different things.

That's what I've thought too. As someone expressed in comments: if you act like a female friend, she will treat you as a female friend. Perhaps it's okay to follow these 4 steps for someone you really care about, but not too often

well said my man.. its too much

Is this a recent revelation?

@@davidlawson4281 yes

Step 1. 😄

Yes!! It’s so difficult for me to be friends with men so all my friends are female

@@pinkmed123 we men are actually very simple minded, all you have to do is tell us what to do and we will do it but you can't expect us to know right off the bat if something is bothering you or if you are fine or not. And yes I realize that I am speaking on behalf of all men but trust me when I say this, we like simplicity and we love to fix things.

Sad... but you are right

Feeling are not wrong,,,, Fix a Hot bubble bath while she rants,, then when bubble bath is ready, tell her the bubble bath for two will help her,,, when she says that won't help,,,, get a six pack and lock the bathroom door and get into it yourself,,, BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAh

Tell her she are wrong, if she acts upset dump her. Truth>feelings

Never validate rogue behaviour... never

Don't be sad, if you work yourself into high quality men, then you still have plenty of life to enjoy, my dad at your age was dating 27-30 yo woman. Make trash that despicable "gross" culture about age gaps, I absolutely hate it.

This. I have neither the time nor the inclination to interact with a grown adult as if they are a child: their ridiculous 'emergency' / problem is not my priority. Surrounding yourself with emotional vampires will suck the life right out of you. Obviously not all women are like this but why expose yourself to this type of behavior - ?

not every complain is a "Drama". depend on the woman of course.

@@chenbendavid9911 Agreed.

Same. I pulled my car over on a highway this one time & literally *kicked* her out of the car Its O.K the cops never found out. Violence against Women is Ok when nobody talks

Yep.

Or depression.

@@PrinceRevolver well that technique might be of use with a woman with depression up to a POINT. But if you're talking about "its all hopeless I might as well be DEAD" level of depressing then no, probably not - and to be honest that kind of talk smacks a bit of other adjacent conditions too. Depression is very Flat and low in its presentation. Any kind of histrionia and I THINK it's starting to look like other conditions might be in play that wouldn't get diagnosed because the examiner hadn't seen them. But I'm NOT a trained professional though I have worked in mental health.