Also, if anyone wants to build good habits, they should remember to slowly incorporate them into life and stack one up on top of another. Decision fatigue is a real thing and we as people are creatures of habit. Most of our actions in life are a routine to prevent us from spending mental energy on decision making. That's why focusing on one habit at a time and doing it until it becomes so natural that not doing it becomes a conscious decision is (in theory) better.
Wait till ya work makes you switch shifts. My ma worked days in construction, but now they makin' her works night with only the weekend to get acclimated. While my boyfriend had to go from night to day shift without any weekend to switch. A lot of times where you work foes not give a shit about your hours.
Anyone else missing Ris rn?? I am. I hope they’re doing better. please anyone that sees this comment please take care of yourself, eat good, and please stay hydrated! 💕💕
So something I think about is that each of us is "that girl" to someone else, and the girl we idealize is probably comparing herself to someone else. I always envied this girl for being effortlessly beautiful and doing everything gracefully but then she told me that she wished she was as academically talented as me. So, I guess it was kind of surprising and put things into perspective. We all have our strengths and our uniqueness is what makes us wonderful.
yes!!!! i’ve always had kind of a theory/life philosophy that most of the time peoples strengths/weaknesses balance each other out and everyone (well unless they really suck) comes out to like an equal level of good in some way
i really relate to this video. i would love to be “that girl”, but i’ve attempted to do it (and failed) so many times that i’ve come to realise i don’t need to change myself to feel better. like today, i took my dog for a walk, cleaned a lot of our house up and actually had some proper meals and i automatically feel much better about myself! i think instead of pushing ourselves to be the “perfect person”, we just have to accept out differences and especially that every single person’s accomplishments are different, no matter other people’s opinions on them
yeah! as long as you're taking care of yourself and trying your best, you don't have to live up to unrealistic standards. everyone had different strengths and weaknesses.
Waking up before the sun just makes me grumpy for the rest of the day. You have to time it perfectly and wake up as the sunrise comes through the windows to have that movie moment 😗
“That girl” tutorials are all over my Pinterest have been absolutely destroying my sense of self confidence so this video makes me feel better about the unattainability for this concept
"That girl" really isn't that unattainable, in reality, it's just waking up earlier, being productive, and eating healthier. The whole skincare stuff is bs, you could wash your face with dawn dish soap and still be "that girl". The whole aesthetic is about taking care of yourself and loving your body, don't worry if it isn't Instagram worthy, just take care care of yourself to the best of your ability :)
Screw that girl it's so boring and bland. Be weird. Cause being weird is so fun like as dumb as it sound I love it so much. Like everyone is a stranger and we're all gonna dies one day and im cooler than you (you as in people judging me not as in you specifically) this is my show. I'm still gonna me nice and be a decent human being but I'm gonna act like I am on the Truman show and the world revolves around me
this comes at a perfect time for me tbh, i kinda wanna become that girl and i KNOW it's not possible, mainly because it's just not who i am so thank you!!! and also thank you for showing your body, i think you look really good and i'm now realizing we look exactly the same soooo maybe i shouldn't be hating mine. something to think about lmao
thank you!!!! it’s been a JOURNEYY to like my body (grew up doing competitive dance lol) but now i’m learning to be happy with it - body neutrality really has helped me so is rec looking into it
Honestly... the 'that girl' life seems not sustainable at all and would fck my mental health up. I mean yeah, getting up and drinking water and stuff seems good. But the pressure to be productive, and pretty and put together and perfect at all times... girrrl. No. Its just not how humans work. And i wouldnt want to have someone like this as a friend either because it just seems so pressuring and perfection just gives someone zero personality.
Hey where ya been ris? Been missing ur content the past few months :/ (it's fine if ur taking a break or whatever I just wanna make sure ur still alive XD)
Yeah, I tried to be 'that girl' for a while- weirdly because of kdramas though, not Instagram 😂 Certain women there always looked effortlessly put together, great style, hair that always looked freshly washed, flawless makeup and were super organised. But of course that's all a fantasy, just as Instagram is. No one is that 100% put together, 100% of the time. Trying to curate a perfect lifestyle is futile, life is too unpredictable for that. That being said, I do think it's good to aim to improve certain areas if it really impacts your life. Like with sleep. I have an awful sleep schedule, and it really does impact my life in a bad way. So I am aiming to have a healthy sleep schedule akin to 'that girl'... hopefully I'll get there one day haha
i dont think "that" girl thing is a pinterest thing. pinterest is really the least toxic platform rn (in MY opinion) or maybe it just cahnges what side are u in
I love to think that “that girl” is just HAPPY girl. You now, I like to imagine how people talk at the party about something like “Hey you see that girl? I bet she’s going to left soon because she had a sad day and she need a rest! Yay she’s taking care of herself, like yesterday she woke up at 1pm and didn’t blame herself, because her body needed this rest”. Super exaggerated, but I think you get it Not like “yeah that girl waking up at 5am every morning and doing one hour workout” but like “yeah that girl crying herself to sleep bot look how hard she’s trying and how she live herself”
This very much reminds me of how I love the cottagecore aesthetic. But in reality I am the gremlin who lives in the cottage and I am SUPER okay with that.
I'm currently feeling sick and down from the side effects of my second dose but this video made me feel less alone, I guess. Watching videos which seem perfect and aesthetic and all doesn't really make me feel better when I'm down. This does. Especially the reminder that nobody is perfect. Thank you.
oddly enough hearing that someone else has been struggling to be motivated within life made me feel a little relieved. ive been practically living in my bedroom and everything that has to do with messy and bad is accumilating both in my room and my head, which sucks. i hope we all will have better days soon.
the psychology behind this trend is so fascinating to me and I definitely don’t have the mental energy to write out all my thoughts here but I could legit talk about this in person for HOURS
Your videos mean a lot to me. The one where you made the dark academia crawlspace is what introduced me to one of my favourite films (Perks of being a wallflower) and it also inspired me to make my own crawlspace and it’s cozy and i love it. I honestly have no clue why your videos mean so much to me but they really just do, i come back to them every couple of months and i rewatch them and i love it sm, feels like a home in some way (hope that makes sense), anyways i hope you’re doing alright!!
social media is super stressful. i'm super proud of you for making another video, considering the mental health slump you were in and we're all happy to see you again :) you're by far my favorite content creator on here and one of the reasons why is because you show the reality of having a real life, not "that girl's". also good luck in starting off your semester!!
id genuinely love to see a movie made by you ris ^_^ right from the pretty video clips to the editing you really know how to tell a story with a meaningful message !!
i loved this sm, and i think you are absolutely right. none of us is that girl, and honestly who even wants to be that girl? the beauty of humanity, the poetic part of our existence is that we are not perfect, we struggle, and life gives us obstacles. the short time we have on this earth belongs only to us, and it is so precious, that it is really a shame to waste it trying to be someone we are not. thanks for this Ris, loved it!
I know I’m so late to this video but so happy to see another video of yours and for you to help me realise that yeah “that girl” doesn’t truly exist for anyone really. Suffice to say love you and your videos, the serotonin I need
I really really liked the video. Thank you. I can't look at my instagram discover page anymore. Everytime I do I fall into a rabbit hole of comparison with the sunk-kissed glowing faces and then youtube recommendations of aesthetic vlogs drive me into a planning/organisation loop. I think I'm really better off without the constant input of media into my life through social media. It triggers my mental health at a subconscious level and then I have to struggle to get myself out of the deep well that I dug myself. But more importantly, it's nice to hear that I'm not alone in this.
I think you are doing good, Ris. It's impossible to be motivated all the time. Prioratizing mental health (and health in general) is the best you can do. Also, your makeup was so good in this video!!!
I have, and still do, genuinely love your videos for their honesty. The internet is one of my favorite things but the shit pressure it creates can push me away. Your channel has helped all this culture and present history feel so human. You don’t have to be That Girl, you’re Ris, and that’s more than enough.
i’m glad your mental health is getting better! plz know that you’re doing enough and take breaks whenever you feel the need. good luck w back to school ❤️
we love u ris, u give me lyfe hope ur mental health improves. things have to go down to go up and we cant appreciate how good the good is until you experience the bad thanks for coming to my ted talk x
Honestly, feeling exhausted and burnt out all the time has become a new normal for me especially because of university. I’ve been on autopilot for weeks now😂 I can’t even remember how I got dressed today. Post videos at your own pace! It’s totally okay to prioritise your mental health:)
Hey Ris, hope you're doing well with the start of college. I love your channel, for all the reasons you yourself articulate. My brain is tired rn but I just need you to know - thank you for expressing honestly, for documenting honestly, for being real with everything, for not forcing, and for just letting us relate to you effortlessly like this. pls keep do the thing of this manner :) take care gamer
Dude your honesty and just kick ass personality are so refreshing. Keep making content! You're doing awesome and I hope you have an awesome semester! I am going back to school too, I wish us luck! Have a great day friendo ! c:
i'm gearing up to go to the dorms soon and i do. not. feel. ready. this is going to be my second year in college and i know it's going to be good for me, but it never feels like i'm anything enough to handle what i need to. your videos are really comforting and your personality in general is just one that i relate to a lot, i hope you're feeling better wherever you are
Really glad that ur doing a bit better mentally. Ik its easier said than done, please please please don't feel bad about not uploading, or not being "productive" in general, Its a waste of time and energy. Remember to be kind to urself, u deserve it💗💗💗
Been off the interwebs for a while, so i didn't realize that girl is a thing! I like these trend and aesthetic videos you make! It's usually you trying out an aesthetic, changing up your life and habits in little ways, which is really fun and you always make me laugh (todays belly laugh came from the chapstick + dead stare combo). But my favorite part of these videos is that you're always yourself. You're like oreos! New flavors are always fun, but none outshine the original
"I am built for laying in my comfy bed" made me laugh so hard as it is literally me... I love your raw and real way of putting things in perspective, just discovered your chanel and I wish you made way more videos, you are a talent!
