Using your videos to prepare for my marriage.🙋🏾♀️🙈I watched you even before dating, I took your education to heart, prayed, trusted in God and now I'm a few months away from my wedding day. 😊 God is good. You are wise beyond your years and I can tell that you have Godly wisdom. Keep up the good work Dr Michelle 😊🥹❤
Every man needs a serene woman but lets remember that serenity comes from him providing emotional security. Some men gaslight and make you go crazy, they just can’t treat a woman right. So in the end he got to nurture me so that i can have the source to draw from in nurturing him back.
I remember being given a job offer just because I smiled, they were like you actually didn't do well in our interview but because of your smile, we have an offer for you. My man also fell in love with me coz of my smile..I can truly relate....everytime I smile he is like wooow, you melt my heart with your smile...ladies smileeeeeeee 😂
❤❤❤❤ yes this is what I been looking for, as a black woman, I truly do want to be married one day. So this is something that helps big time on how to go about being that nurturing woman to my man.
I've been watching you and listening to your podcast for maybe a few weeks now. Right away, within a couple days my husband was saying I was so positive and he was just treating me differently. One day he mentioned that I'm not just being nice some days where he may think it's not real, but it's consistent 24/7 so he knows it's real. That made me feel good. Tonight he was called in to work. Usually I hear, "it's fine, extra money"or"ill get more done there" tonight when he called on his break he was just saying how he felt bad he couldn't just be here with me, which we are really close and already hang out a lot(have 4 kids) but this is just different how he's cherishing me. Like he's feeling bad he left me here tonight and just wanted to be with me. It was so sweet. I won't forget these little things he's saying lately. One day he did say, "you get what you give" 😂 yeah haha he knew way before me. For me, understanding how a man is different and thinks, is what truly helped. I'm seeing no flaws in him and I'm not getting annoyed with any little thing anymore, accepting him for who he is. ❤
That is so wonderful. I bet it feels amazing!! I'm so happy for your love and the changes that have taken place in both of your hearts. May your marriage continue to grow and be renewed and restored by the grace of God. Thank you for sharing this!🤍✨✨✨
@Heyu7her3 thank you, but I didn't minimize myself or my needs. Just realizing the difference between how we think has helped our communication and there is no arguing. I haven't changed myself intentionally; it was by realization. It just clicked it my brain. I hope that makes sense. If I were trying to pretend to be nice or accept him it would be minimizing myself and it wouldn't last or work. Learning all this from Dr. Daf (it's been 2 months now) my husband and I are just flowing and communicating and living. Our kids are fighting less. I'm still me myself and I, but I'm not getting upset with every little thing anymore now that I understand how a man thinks. And when I tell him that😂 he's like, "yeah I've been trying to tell you.. you get it now." I can understand my 3 boys better too now that I'm learning about male and female.
Not just Words but also tones of voice are part of language and sends messages . Tones are so powerful , they can suggest guilt. Shame , or condemnation Tones can be soft and melodic and suggest harmony. WE MUST WATCH TONES FOR SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIPS
I watched your videos when I was single then got into a healthy relationship with a loving man. I got comfortable in the relationship and fell off with the self care so I came back for a refresher!!
I like this logic alot. Been w my boyfriend for 3 months now , were strictly friends for 5...he's showed me so much about what I need to work on...I definitely need to work on my tone. Got a therapist for myself. Working on myself just so I'm good not just for myself but for him while we are together. I truly believe relationships provide so much feedback.
We just got back together and during our breakup I realized how aggressive and controlling I was so I’m trying hard to change because I love him and he’s so gentle and loving 😢😢😢
Sis, I’ve been following you since your natural hair content…and let me tell you, you helped me then. But this wife content is IN SEASON for me. I’ve been married 1 month now and I know your content has been influential in the success thus far. I know there’s no such thing as perfect, but God’s match was undeniably perfect. I’d love your thoughts and advice about managing your femininity during “the time of the month”
When my husband’s footy team losers it effects him greatly..he’s very down and really grumpy,for days….so I do what’s best for him and for me…I get out of his way😁
Pray for his deliverance and to remove the idol of sports in his life. That is NOT NORMAL!! A man should not be allowing a sports team affect how he treats his family, that is not loving your wife as Christ loves the church.
I would take this advice with a grain of salt. Us women are very susceptible to people-pleasing and while observing your man, being one step ahead of his needs, being happy, being peaceful is good advice, it’s only good if that’s how you genuinely feel. Please remember to be authentic. Your man needs your authenticity. Don’t just pretend to be happy for the sake of keeping the peace. If your heart is concerned or upset etc, and you’ve prayed about it, you reflected on it, bring that to your husband. Don’t hold in your negative emotions. It will backfire -with vengeance- in the future. Authenticity will only make your relationship stronger. Don’t underestimate the strength of a man. If he really wants you to be in your healthy feminine, you have to be it all, not just the light-hearted parts of it. And trust me, he wants it all because he wants to be your rock and your support. A healthy man wants what’s real because he wants an authentic relationship that has love in the center of it all. We’re meant to help each other grow, not to forever stoke each others egos. It’s a journey worth embarking on. That’s my advice being married 7 years so far
I needed that video thank you ! I used to be a caretaker but I learned how to be taken care of, and to take care of me. I learned how to see us as a team and to be a supportive woman than a mother and it feels good, langage and words used are so important. When I tell him the way he makes me feel, he does even more ! I see the the impacts on my relationship, I cant wait to get married and get even stronger with him inshaAllah !
Thank You So Much !!!!!! This was the First Video that I watched of yours. I know that the LORD lead me to this video Because of the things that I was dealing with, with my husband. I wasn’t sure on how to deal with it. But after watching this I understood perfectly how to deal with it. I just want to say Thank you, Thank you, Thank you for your wisdom and showing us a Christ Like way to nurture our husband instead of talking to him like a mother Or instead of talking about him or disliking things that he do. Just Pray about it or take it to God❤️❤️❤️🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 I Truly learned a lot coming from this Video. I feel kinda bad because I’m 50 years old and just now learning the Correct way on femininity. I Never had a mother to teach me these things. I was always raised up hard and had to protect myself and I Never Ever felt Loved until I came to Christ. I never had no one to teach me. Growing up the people around me was crazy and Loud and etc. I feel it’s really sad I have to learn this from a younger woman But better late than never. So Thank you again because I was definitely asking The LORD about how to deal with my husband and I open up RU-vid and there you were🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
So many women are right when they say don't do wifely duties for men who are just dating you. Some aren't looking for a wife and don't appreciate it. This is very basic to me as a soft person who's always serving and being positive
This is true but unfortunately it leads to burnout and sometimes significant attachenents to that person. But it is wonderful to serve and be positive but use wisdom to know how to create boundaries
I’m not sure why this popped into my feed, but I am pleasantly surprised it did. I actually gained some insight from this and you gave me some things to think about. Thank you!
I have so much masculine energy from the way I grew up. Been married for 8yrs, it’s still work in progress. Every now and then, I snap back, but soon as I realize, I try to rethink my actions and make amends immediately. My husband has been helpful because we communicate a lot and it helps.
When feminine energy feels fear , uncertainty and insecure then her masculine energies get activated. Just focus on your fears and insecurities.... heal those issues. Feminine energies works only when they feel safe , secure and trust in relationships.
Michelle, I agree with you 💯 Like it would work with mentally healthy men. However, some men are impossible to deal with and so will not receive this type of nurturing.
Wow, I realize the wounded part in me that was created by my father turned around my energy of “let me help because I see you need it and I CAN help” into a “you’re a grown man why do you need me to do that for you, are you a child?” Because my father abused that once my mother passed, and it’s seeped into my marriage. When actually, if I help him out, I’d nag a lot less and he’d really appreciate it! Sometimes with all they have on their shoulders he needs a little help with putting the keys away or finding his wallet! It’s not that he’s demanding me to do it like his mother. I love this perspective and I needed to hear it from someone.
Michelle your videos really are great 🥺 But can you also again make more on nurturing man and also what would man love in woman during relationship stage!?Would be much grateful 🥺🥺☺️
Nice vid! First you almost say everything about femininity just looking at you, second you are very right when you say that we must think of our self being assets to our man❤ thank you for putting all together so nice
I got busy and stopped following your channel. Just had baby #2 a week ago and everything you are saying is spot on. Not growing up seeing a healthy marriage is tough and being submissive was taught as a weakness. Just helping my husband to some lemonade helps a ton and shows so much affection ❤❤❤❤
If you don't voluntarily submit and let your husband lead then circumstances may be ordered by God so that you will fulfill your role in the marriage as help meet. I was very independent, took charge, handled everything , worked etc but now I am partially disabled can no longer do the things I did and I allow my husband to take the lead and he helps me a lot. We are more balanced in our marriage and happier than ever.
You are worthy and deserving to be cared for, loved, and helped in all the ways you need, it’s ok. Start putting yourself first. Most importantly when you feel safe, you can operate in your feminine energy
@@LeaverWildGodly men love a quiet spirit. That doesn't mean someone meek and timid. It's someone who is content with themselves and don't feel the need to be loud to prove themselves. Basically someone who is secure in their identity and their identity in God
This video made me realize I am not very feminine at all...and it may be the cause of my marital issues when we really should still be in the honey moon phase of our marriages 😢hard to admit but I am not very nurturing as a wife but more like a mom...we need more content like this
Thank you for this. I was not raised knowing God and was unfortunately raised to hate/fear most men and to believe I did not need a man in my life. Thankfully I found my husband who is a loving, God fearing man and I am learning this whole new way of thinking and living. This is like taking it a step further in stepping into what God has designed for us, and making it exciting!! 🤍
Your point of view makes much sense; however, when a person (woman in this case) is doing all those things and receives not even a half or nothing in return, this advice will just push the one into quite miserable emotional state.
Hey I like relationship videos and all..I ran into your video this morning n it was so edifying..I have a lot of those qualities that I believe benefits my husband however when you speak about their sports and trying to show interest..girl I struggle..he'd be throwing down his phone because he lost a game and I play deaf ears cuz I ain't about that...how do you suggest I try? After watching your video I understand why that may be a great quality
These points feel like what a man should do not the other way round. I feels like teaching women to take initiative whilst a man just sits and receives. I stand to be corrected, but that is how I understood it. How do you incubate vision for a man that doesn't incubate yours? He could be a great manager but does not know how to start, lead or take initiative.
Yeah, I really want to like this but I'm just hearing how he gets to have a vision and have help and support doing what he wants and you get....to be the little helper- the main character of his life and yours.
I was thinking the same thing as you! I see video after video that are targeting women by women and men RU-vidrs about the things a woman needs to do and its a never ending list, discouraging and exhausting. And I agree that it puts men in a position to be receivers when the woman was designed by God to be the receivers, to be loved ( the Bible says men ought to love your wife, I hear no one teaching about what that means or looks like) and it says he who finds a wife finds a good thing. Not the other way around. Those verses puts the correct emphasis on the perspective and cherishing that a man should have for his wife. Just last week I was listening to an unmarried male minister speaking at a church and was shocked & appalled when he said-"he was the prize" and he really does does believe that as I've heard him speak before along those lines in the past. Even worse, whenever he speaks he always rattles off this long list of qualities that he must have in a wife ( ironically the same specific ones she named in this video) but not once have I ever heard him name one thing he would do for his future wife to show love or appreciation for her. Not even on his radar that he should. Nor have I ever heard him mention while teaching publicly on relationships one thing he is working on or needs to change about himself to be a good husband. But constantly says what all women need to change. Its unbalanced rhetoric. I agree overall with what she said in this video but women are getting burned out and deciding to stay single because men are now being taught you dont have to pursue women or do anything to contribute to the success of the relationship. They are being told just show up, you dont have to work on you or change anything because she will be the helper and supposed to accept everything about you as is. Her role is to be happy you're there and that you chose her. In fact thats not biblical and doing men a great disservice and women are suffering because of it...
I have a wonderful marriage and I love my husband but I cater to him everything she is saying in this video but I don't get the same in return. He acts like he's the prize. I serve him like crazy but he doesn't serve me only with an attitude and having to ask and beg 😢 @@TheElephantInTheRoom12
I love this! Do you have any videos or could you upload one regarding handling a career/job and marriage? I’m currently stuck in corporate American and I’m not happy. Idk if I should pursue an education or a new career at this point. Thanks!
I am young(21F)but I do have advice! Pursue an education that leads DIRECTLY to a job that gets you out of corporate America! Something like medical billing and coding would be good, gives you a chance to be remote and create your own hours, you need a CPC certificate! If you feel like your work is affecting you and your relationship I think you should search for other options!
I think if you lessened the amount you included religion you would be able to reach more women. I’m not religious, I’m spiritual, so I’m able to bypass when you say “god” and still relate. When you keep going on and on about religious practices though I could see myself wanting to click away because I didn’t come here to be preached to. Great content though!
What I’d like to know is if a woman has to do this much work to have a harmonious relationship - is she being authentic? What happens when the femininity mask slips?
I like the double barrel compliment. i'm cringing listening to some of this though. I don't like that you said there can only be one leader. we're both meant to be in our power and that means sometimes he leads and sometimes I do. I do like some of your points.
As she mentioned you should be careful who you allocate all this nurtuing energy to, dont become a doormat to any man, care should go both ways and each has their own responsabilities to fullfill as masculine and feminine
In regard to who is in charge in a relationship, two emotionally mature people will not need someone to be in charge, and how they make decisions is up to the couple themselves. The Bible actually doesn't address the power structure between a husband and a wife; that's a bit of the world infiltrating the interpretation. Christ says to love one another, and in Ephesians, Pauls give an example of how to live this out in a way that touches on the essences of femininity and masculinity. Under the umbrella of equality (5:21, submit to one another), the wife submits to her husband (receiving and supporting) and the husband's leadership/headship is to carry out acts of service (which good men love to do) just as Christ cares for his church. There's no authority, no who makes decisions, who is the boss, etc. Just Christ's command to love one another (Pauls couldn't create doctrine, only explain it). Of course, just as Christ noted himself, don't take this to legalistic extremes; there are very well times when the woman has to do the acts of service.
I love this video. Have to admit it was a little triggering. Because I don’t understand why women have to do so much. The things you named as don’t mother him are things mothers do. So I don’t get it.
