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It’s a sad world we live in when we cannot simply be ourselves, and are forced to play “games”, because once a woman realizes they have you, the grass is ALWAYS greener on the other side.
Do you buy things on every impulse you have? Do you lash out every time someone makes you angry? I think you’ll find most of life is tampering how we feel to be a better member of society, or to do what is best for ourselves and those around us. All of life is a game. It is not sad.
@@SixHexSix you're confusing two different areas: yours is about being a civilized member in society. His is about tampering true honest feelings about a woman, even when doing so has nothing to do with being uncivilized, but truly playing stupid games to stay within female attention.
@@you_dont_wanna_know1969 what about when he gets very angry at her? Should he not tamper his emotion then? They aren’t stupid games, it’s a dance. A demonstration of the ability to self regulate and that makes women become more and more interested. Women know they have power over men, especially beautiful women. Who do they not get bored with? the guy that isnt expressing his feelings for her immediately. It’s a sad world if you unable to get yourself under control. You show your power by having the ability to operate to your will, despite strong emotions pulling you in whatever direction. If she can get you to be vulnerable so easily, what good are you to protect her?
@@SixHexSix you still confusing both areas. Though they mix, theyre not exactly thesame . Getting angry at anyone who is important, you still need to talk things out civilizely, and not jumping out straight to prison. Being needy and disclosing this to her ain't smart, but stupid. But being honest to the poker hand you've got with a lady gets you out of the game (not being needy but humanely sincere), which sucks, and yes, they are stupid games cuz you can't fully disclose whats underneath your skin without losing their interest
If she pulls away just set her free. If she's playing games she needs to learn they won't work. If she's just genuinely busy or unsure how he feels, space is the best thing you can give her. If she's not interested you'll never hear from her again. It's the best move you can make on virtually every level.
@@SheyESO Good question. In my experience, the period of no contact can vary for different individuals. Typically, it can range from two weeks to three months. However, it's important to consider that some girls may have introverted personalities, such as INTPs, who may take much longer to process their emotions. They tend to rely on logical thinking rather than letting their emotions take control. Additionally, sometimes individuals lack the confidence to reach out again, which is why they may choose not to initiate contact.
I had for a year. It was fun for a while but finally it became emotionally draining and boring. I got depression. You just do not know what are you talking about.
@@marguskiis7711 I appreciate your taste. However, I must emphasize the importance of focusing on something else that brings you pleasure. While we may shed tears, at the end of the day, I rise with confidence and refuse to let her have the satisfaction of boosting her ego. I carefully choose my words, timing them perfectly to shatter her ego and make her think twice before doing this to another man. I smile at her in a loving way, knowing it's not true, but leaving a haunting memory in her mind. I simply say, "Hello, friend."
She pulled away, I said goodbye, I wasn't in it for bullshit games, she wasn't happy, I'm not going to stand in her way if she wants to go, but once she's gone there's no coming back. I'm done.
You honestly changed the way in which I live as a man. I've learned to focus more on me, my time and my work and let women come after all that. Once I started controlling my neediness for attention i held all the power in my relationships making it way easier to get what I want from a relationship. I was tired of always being the best friend but never going further than that. Thank you bro.
I recently dated a girl for two months before deciding to tell her I liked her, which coincidentally happened to be on our last date. I still don’t regret doing it because when I look at the big picture, I ask myself “Do I want to be with someone who’s not that into me?” There really comes a point where you decide it’s not worth any extraneous effort to get someone to like you, and any developed attraction should just be natural. If they don’t like you back, then it’s probably for the best.
Bobby , you really are always out there helping us men out with your wisdom. I have years of dating experience, but mistakes do happen. It’s nice to get some insights from someone who understands dating and relationships so well.
@Bobby Rio - I’m an active member of the Scrambler club and I just want to say thank you for this supplemental video. The Scrambler baseline has a lot to do with initial confidence and how to make the move if you’re a super nice guy. My problem has always been not knowing how to react once things have been going well (great sex great chemistry etc.) so this really was a excellent supplement. Thank you again.
This is true. When you give it all to her, she suddenly becomes this individual that takes you for granted. It is just sad that we need this kind of techniques to win her back, or move on.
Yea had this a lot, with women I have met, fucked, dated and also ones I never met. Now my effort only goes so far. The key is don't degrade yourself by sending 3 texts with no reply (for example). That gut feeling still hits (like you just know something is wrong) but keep it cool, if it ends its no big deal. If you have abundance mindset and value yourself then it comes easier.
Man that makes so much sense.. I literally just made the mistakes before I watched this video haha.. I could sense such a big difference in communication and I kept asking wtf is going on and she explained that shes very stressed, busy at work, she doesnt feel right rushing things and other bullshit. So I kind of now treating her the same way she does, writing 1 word messages or not writing her at all
@@RandomCrap I believe its hard to establish a time frame / range that is enough when mimicking... Because one can seem "disinterested" for some time but also its not healthy being alone when one has relationship goals/needs/desires.
@@bushcry1 Well thats what it was with that girl I really liked. It seemed she had way too many issues, she havent sorted her breakup even after 1 year has passed. She has depression, working long hours. But then why bother wasting anyones time. Some people just need a company, compliments, they charge themselves and moves on. Dont waste a single second with people like that as soon as you realise they have issues which they need to sort themselves first
I try fixing the whole issues for three years and nothing come right, I later decide to move out of this relationship and fulfill my duty to take care of my children without her present, then i meet this supportive young lady who was lady to support me in every way that I needed help, she was full-time their to help the children and me, after the bad relationship come to the end with the first lady .
Great video and the best advice I heard so far. I also want to add that guys shouldn't quickly decide that she is pulling away. A girl I was dating did not call or text for a day and did not return my calls the next day. Two days with no contact made me panic and I was about to do something stupid. Luckily I was super busy that I forgot to call or text her and on the third night she actually called and apologized. So just keep in mind that maybe she got a ton of things going on too.
Thanks Bobby for the great video with awesome and most prominent dating tips... you are doing a great job, I'm in that very situation where girl is pulling away and I'm going to use all those advices and I'm so sure they really work.... Thanks a lot bro
hi learn Piano fast online... I need advice if can help me out. After 67 days NO Contact , she reached out with one sentence message But without pet name…”Honey” “Are you going to church regularly? " I didnt reply for the whole day I guess she got upset and deleted her message Seeing that I panic and gave her an answer "Yes I got something to tell you." After 5 days she finally reach out again this time Colder than any Iceberg… She text : what you want to tell me ? I replied “Ok , I want to see you laugh at my joke hahaha Dinner Monday or Thursday “ I think I totally Beta …putting her on Pedestal again I am just her Backup Plan ?
@fj4731 She thinks you're evil. Using laughter and jokes will only prove her point. You should of told her. Look, all jokes aside, im just trying to shed some light on our understanding. And yes, I attend church ?
I liked this girl a lot, because we've had some fun in the past. But I thought of it more than fun, I then told her how I felt and she pulled away, said she doesn't want to ruin our friendship. I felt hollow for a while inside, but when I feel upset I start doing stuff, working out harder, working more, taking better care of myself. I never text her anymore, not first anyway, and if I reply it's short and sweet. I see her 3 times a week because of work, she tried to greet me with a hug 4 weeks ago, I turned her down by stepping back. Letting her know that I value my space and that I've matured past the hug stage. Here's what I noticed from her side. She started texting me more than ever before, longer texts than normal. I reply with freakin' emojis, usually rejecting dates she wishes to go on. She started dressing better, doing her hair differently and even started working out. Like she's mirroring me. She hangs around my office more, sometimes for no reason. And lads, here's the cherry on top, just yesterday she asked me if she could borrow some of my time. I told her I was busy, then her eyes teared up, so I gave her a minute of my time. In that minute she poured her heart and soul out to me, all about how she made a mistake and that she definately felt we should move things along into a relationship and at the end she said the 'L' word. I didn't really listen much because I had stiff legs from squatting the day before, and was kinda zoning out over a bugatti poster behind her, But as soon as she said that she loved me, all my feelings for her flew right out the window. I'm happier than ever now. And realized that simping f#cking sucks, Work on your lives gents, your health, your wealth and you. You'll find the right one, worst case scenario, if you follow what I did, you'll end up with a depressed 'friend' who hates herself for not noticing the value she had right in front of her when he shared his feelings with her. Lesson: f#ck feelings, feel for yourself, love yourself and everything else will draw towards you like a magnet.
@@Drunken_Giga_Chadlittle bro, that is the dumbest story that didn't happen that I've ever heard. If you got her crying while confessing she loves you, she definitely would have done all of the sexual work in a sexual rendezvous. You had me believing your fantasy, until it turned revengeful & bi-questioning when you turned down the love of a crying girl and said "feel for yourself, love yourself". You need to get past whoever and whatever hurt you. Quit taking poison and hoping the other person dies.
@@JakeKlineMusic take it as you please, lil' bro. Don't really care. Wasn't vengeful from my side. If you think women can't be vindictive on their own that's your problem to deal with. God forbid should that ever happen in your life and may that day never come. I'm just saying, there's too many people simping and too few focusing on themselves. Lil' bro.
@@Drunken_Giga_Chad I can appreciate the flattery of you mimicking my originality and dominance. OTOH, I never said women can't be vindictive, and you need to really put some hard fucking work into snapping out of that gamma male habit, of putting words into the mouths of your betters. It only fools unintelligent fools: the kinds of people you should never habitually associate with.
No contact works if it done genuinely with no intentions of wanting her back. It doesnt work if its faked to get her back. Subconscious minds of people do talk with each other behind the scenes. That's how you get that gut instincts
I say it doesn’t work at all, however there’s are exceptions, but the percentage is so small might as well not trip abt it and move on. Even if she does come back I’d cut her off, gotta have some self respect my dawgs!
@@malakhimalik7218 hey can I ask you something I have not seen my girlfriend in four months but me and my girlfriend are still texting and my girlfriend always says she will always be my girlfriend forever and forever and do you think I should go visit my girlfriend
I had two women, (co-workers) nearly half my age fall in love with me. I made no effort to impress them or even suggest I'm interested. Both of them eventually spoke up and admitted in their own way they were interested in dating me. I wasnt interested so I just stopped text messaging them and both times, their attraction to me increased for the next few weeks then they reached a breaking point and had to villify me. It's easier to make me out to be the villan than to admit they were rejected because of some trait or behavior they exhibited. In truth, I didnt want to date someone in their early 20s & I wasn't attracted to them. They went after my reputation but only adter I transferred to another site so it's no big deal.
I'm dealing with this issue right now. Well I noticed a difference the last few days so I'm not doing no contact but I've gotten to a point in life to where either friends or a potential girlfriend I'm only going to give out the same energy that I'm receiving. I've always had a talent to be able to read people and there emotions or if they are a screwed up person or lying. I know this women likes me. So yeah I'm giving her the same energy and effort she is giving me
Listening to this I think I’m handling my situation pretty well lol. Limited contact when I realized she was pulling away (she didn’t need the speech she knew how I felt).
When a woman pulls away she is testing you to see if you emotional strong or weak and as a man you are emotional strong , her pulling away does not affect you life is happy and nice you are the prize 🏆 women are shit she is going to sense it and say to her self wow this dude is really high value he doesn't need me to survive he he happy bye him self and that is very actractive to women and that is going to cause her to reach out to u and contact u
Let’s be honest no contact works when she’s attracted to u. If ur not attractive to her to begin with I doubt she’ll care if you never contact her. She might appreciate u being less of a creep but I’m sure it doesn’t even slip her mind. I’ve done no contact many times and sometimes it worked sometimes it didn’t and when it didn’t it’s cause the girl was talking to someone else so they could have care less I wasn’t texting them. So my take is it really only works when there is already some spark. If not ur just another stranger.
yea, well, the video is about a girl who is pulling away after a few dates. Kind of assumes you're not a stranger right? and yea, if a girl is already very into someone else, no contact won't work for sure. However, it is still better off to go 'no contact' in that situation than to confess your feelings or act desperate. Because a lot of times, its about TIMING... and I've seen MANY situations where once a girl's mind was free, a guy was able to re-ignite things with her.
@@BobbyRio when I said a stranger I don’t mean a literal one obviously she’d know u for u to have her number to even do no contact in the first place. I meant stranger in the sense that if she wasn’t into u and just went on the dates just to be nice or out of boredom and there was never a spark and then u do no contact even without expressing ur feelings ur another stranger to her because she never really cared for you to begin with and your just another random person in her contact list she never could care to see a text or a call from. Other than that good advice.
@@kermitsippintea7433 You made a good point. it's like the principle of making the girl jealous with preselection. It will only work if you are her type and she is attracted to you
Awesome I was talking to a friend at the front desk and I really liked her even though I knew it’s far from ever being a thing but I like talking to her and smiling together. Get this. On Valentine’s Day being front desk they received all kinds of flowers and I couldn’t help my feelings of fighting off another’s from taking her from me, I gave these looks with my eyes that were primal, I couldn’t control it. I still don’t know why I couldn’t maybe I have a past trauma or something. She picked up on it and we had a fall out. She tried to reach out to me kind of reassuring me something but I pulled away because of the blind rage of the flowers, and then she took it as I was trying to hurt her and she reciprocated anger and we were bad ever since. I wouldn’t even be able to look her in the eye and our emotions flooded our interactions from then on out.
Yeah I think you're totally right, she even said she want some space so I think if she want space I'll just give her space and focus more on me instead of someone else
This is the exact opposite situation of what you've explained and I'm dumbfounded. This was not gradual, it was out of nowhere and not only were things slipping away, they were heating up. She is usually the first to text me good morning, she texts me before she goes to bed, she started talking a lot about sex over the last couple weeks, almost planning what we're going to do. We had a thing planned where we were supposed to go to this parade, and I was going to be in the parade with her for her work, and then at the last minute the parade got cancelled because of weather. I told her "well let's still do something, we'll go get dinner and go see Christmas lights" and she said she'd love to etc. The next day I didn't hear from her at all, the next day nothing. I text her before I went to work that night (about 1030, her bedtime) and checked in and pretty much just asked her if she was okay, I was worried about her, she said yeah, had a crazy couple days, apologized for not reaching out sooner, said we'd talk the next day. The next day came, we didn't talk, I sent her a link that morning to a RU-vid video, never heard anything at all. Here we are, a little over 24 hours after her saying she's okay. So we were pretty much at the point where I was almost expecting this girl to drop the L word. Then, ghosts.
That sucks. Not very fair the way she's treating you. As the video suggests, it seems like she knows she is 'boss' and senses your keenness to see her and spend time with her. So, as per the video, perhaps you can step back a bit too? Maybe take some time before you reply to her texts? Therefore she will know you're not 'desperate' and it makes you seem more attractive to her.
@@glasgowlady for sure. That's what I've done. After the first two days I simply just texted her to make sure she was literally just okay, and since then I haven't reached out. She hasn't dated in years, and has an insane work load, so she stays very busy and probably is a little scared about how deep things were getting with us. Which is fine, I understand how emotions and psychology work, but I'm not going to let it control my life. I've got other pursuits and responsibilities I need to focus on, so, it's her loss if she walks away. I mean, this is the kind of connection that doesn't happen very often, so it is sad, but I'm past the point of letting women be my validation.
I think she maybe thought she was coming on too strong or was being needy so dialed it back. If a girl throws out the sex card and you do not immediately go over there or it does not happen really soon after that, she can start feeling cheap (rhymes with mut) and can think, oh look at me throwing myself at him being all sexual when I haven't even slept with him yet. Then usually that leads to "how much do I really like him" as a defense against feeling that way.
Thanks for your suggestions. Wish I have found your channel before I lost her. I did EXACTLY the same things you described. When she pulled back, I confessed my feelings in a wall of text. Now I've gone no contact, mostly for myself. Eventually I might hit a text msg, to catch up, she was my best model for photography. But not sure how she will respond.
@@BobbyRio I was first exposed to your newer YT videos and bought the scrambler because of that. I think your style of presenting stuff is really good now. The Scrambler video therefore was a little disappointing to me from the presentation point of view. You can see the video is a little older and the way you present yourself on camera now has vastly improved since then. Your new videos appear a lot more organized and the way you hunched on those seats made it seem as if you´re insecure about your own message. The infos were still spot on and worth the money, but the presentation didn´t really fit that imho, especially if someone´s comming from one of your new videos on YT. The Scrambler videos look less professional than your newer stuff, at least that was my impression.
@@christianalexander8689 I appreciate the feedback and agree. It was the first time delivering a large amount of new content to a large group. Plus, since recording the original seminar, having done 1000s more coaching sessions (between rob and I).... have a ton of new things we've found that works, that we'd like to add.
I got head over heels over this woman, one day she refused my gift (btw I confessed to her before that, in the past she accepts my gifts), its was so embarassing and I felt heavy in my heart, I was about to talk and apologized to her about it...but decided not to because you do not apologize over a kind gesture, even if you done it sloppily, you did not do anything wrong.
Hi Bobby...it's nice and valuable to watch your videos...good job....one question only....what is " I love you with my own way" or " I'm not a mainstream lover"?? What does she mean by that? Think that we're in relationship already since last September....thnx a lot in advance....greetings from Greece
Hi bobby! Thank you so much for your videos, alas I've just seen this video now, and it only happened yesterday! She just told me that we don't share the same ideas and that she'd rather leave it at that. I told her I could understand her attitude and that if it's meant for me, she'll come back or not. Did I react correctly? Should I forget about her temporarily (for a month or two) or should I let her go for good?
I did the same thing sending long email to her I finally loos her totally 😅 but I learn a lot in the that situation now thanks for the video it's make me laugh
for girls, its their nature. Women are drawn to drama, men like things content. that fact will never change. If you have children, you will see the way the girls act vs the boys. If you are in a married social scene, you will see the way the husbands act vs the wives. Its just the way it is, so no use fighting it.
I was in a full relationship with the mother of my three children and things just change she become a problem and start destroying the relationship with alcohol and bad influence and necklace the family,
I had a girl last week and start to pull away and I told her this: I told girl straight up. I said: Think which food helps with Cortisol, Progesterone and Estrogen. As you know these are hormones women juggle. This will possibly help with the stress you have been feeling." Then she got back to me like in 4 days and said thank you for being understanding. Us guys we like to blow things out of proportion just because it feels like she's pulling away.
I’ve been dating a girl for a couple months, and we were both sexually attracted to each other but we had pretty different views on things. I noticed that the “good morning” and “good night” texts with heart emojis stoped a week ago and TODAY she broke up with me through text.
Oh man. You described exaclty, becuse she was thrilling to know me, loved the date, but then a few days later she went cold, started lying, etc... I tried to remain neutral, but I had to slow things down, and start to talk less to her and put her in mute. I love that she still sends videos to me of her day, but I feel that she is feeling obligated to it in a way to maintain me. I triwd go ask her out a few times but now she is more busy... I'm giving up and thinking about date other girls that are more interested, but I'm kind of afraid to hurt her because we were marriage material to each other.
So me and the girlfriend of 7years going through a rough time.. been living apart the last month, still talking and briefly meeting up, I asked what was happening going forward, now wants time to process, currently in no contact un til she gets in touch, it’s rough but I don’t want to beg, and also continue to come across needy and weak.. which I admit is what I have probably being portraying
@@shawnmclean7707 was abit of a tough time but ended up moving back to a part of town I used to live with a mate.. couldn’t handle sofa surfing any longer. Also got a new job and joined a gym, ended up meeting someone through mutual friends.. not a single complaint with life at the moment.. funny how things always seem to work out in the end.. for the better at that. The biggest life lessons definitely come through hardship. As unfortunate as that is
I am a master at the no-contact rule. (Not in a good way - sometimes I wonder if I should have tried harder ? Ive learned to be really good at dating and move on . The thing is , I really have the feeling I could call some of these women back and reconnect successfully but I have too much ego/ and nervous after a long time? . Watching this video makes me want to try calling ? Opposite effect of this video -lol.
my girlfriend is a single mother, we have been friends for almost a year, we go out for lunch, cofee, make love, but sometimes she keeps quiet busy with her work and children... sometimes she tells me she can't date together anymore with me, sometimes she pulls away and comes back again,,, sometimes I am also confused with her but we are still in touch every day....once in a while I will be told takes her child to school or even picks her up from school...she the one helps me a lot,I'm really love her
Modern women, specially from medium-big cities, don't want men confess their feelings, specially before they got into a relationship. They associate that as a "weakness", because they feel they have you eating in their hands, you are not a challenge anymore, you told the end of the story, revealed your inner feelings, and that's boring for them. Unfortunately. In other hand, if the woman starts pulling away, I like the invitation with a time contraint method, if she refuses it, just keep the contact and start subtly showing her some pictures of you (using Whatsapp or Instagram statuses) hanging out with other women during a couple of months. The women like the man that have several dating options. If neither method work, just discard the contact and move on looking for other women.
@@bushcry1 It’s when you invite her out but tell her you have to leave earlier than normal. Say you meet at 6pm and normally chill all night. Now you tell her you have to leave at 8pm. Adds social proof, mystery and so on.
How making the woman realize I do care about her and I am strong (not desperate) when through the outlook of others she believes or she wants to believe the contrary?
Her: "I think we need a break...Take some time to...(insert the "whatever" here). You: " Wow! I am so glad you brought this up!" (show a little relieved smile) " I been noticing a bit of stress in you...and the fun level we used to have seems...well...you know.." (As this is going on txt/whatever one of your female friends and say your hungry an going out get something to eat. Wanted some fun conversation. What time should I pick you up?) or somesuch. Remember, there are 3.5 billion women on the planet. Find one that's interested in where you are headed.
Going no contact as a man means selfrespect, high value of him self and being centered ( never show a women how you feel) just walk away and mean it aka be indifferent.
Have plans with this girl this coming weekend. No contact u til Friday to firm up the date. Give them distance and they'll stick around lol. It's sad but it what it is.
I bought the scrambler and was a bit disappointed honestly. It just covers some of the basics, well known stuff, combined lots of direct and indirect advertising for their one on one coaching. If you are a beginner you might benefit from it, otherwise look elsewhere.
In a situation like this, you really need a good mate to give you an almighty wallop on the jaw, because the situation is absolute mess at this point. Then, with the hand he walloped you with, get him to hand you a beer, and take a moment to reflect on how much of a doughnut you've been lately. Even if it's salvageable, why bother? Like, seriously, why? It's a waste of everyone's time. The experiences you hold dear with one woman will be the exact same experiences you have with the next. It only seems impossible NOW because you don't know any different. You've just been mindlessly buying your bread from the same shop everyday, expecting it to always be in the same place. It's a big world out there, and the humans that inhabit it are amazing (on the whole - that is. I mean, I can't lie, there are some prats among us.).
