THE Secret To Letting Go That Will Make You Extremely Attractive 

I agree with you as well, Clay uses good logic and has a great self-awareness

I agree the inner child and inner parent analogy was very helpful, i gotta say this was actually a very good video.

That is plan to . But my mind is still playing tricks on me lol

Happening to me too. How did things turn out?

Glad it was helpful!

Don’t reach out. You are feeding her ego. Right now you want her etc etc that just puts her on a pedestal and feeds her ego. You basically giving her all power over you when you say the door is open etc etc. because that just gives her more reason to take all the time in the world, because she knows you will be waiting. Don’t be that guy. You are lowering your own value, and she won’t find that attractive. Remember she’s on a power trip right now and her ego is sky high right now. So the best you can do is stay in no contact and let her be. Obviously if you must contact her because of life important stuff, kids or finances that needs to be taken cared of the do so. But keep it short, on point and polite. Don’t go off track and ask her this and that. Stay on topic. And then let her be. Then focus on you. Do things that make you happy. Get a gym membership and get ripped. Go out and buy new clothes get a new hair cut or whatever. Remember she doesn’t find the old you attractive anymore. Become improved version of yourself. And just wait and see. She will eventually notice and then contact you. But don’t fall for it. She will test if you fall back to your old habits. I’m sorry to tell you but women don’t want nice guys, so don’t give her that. That doesn’t mean you should be aggressive ofc not. But don’t jump and bark like a good boy whenever she wants. Let her know by your actions and reserved self that you are strong and can easily live without her. Here’s my experience. My GF was an avoidant type. For 5 months She was loving and caring, then suddenly she turned cold like ice and dumped me out of nowhere. For one month I begged for her to come back and even tell me what I did wrong. She wouldn’t. Then I went in to no contact. Then she contacted me after a month then we talked and everything seemed to warm up. Until I began to beg again, then she pulled back again. I then began to work out like crazy, got ripped and more confident. Watched videos to educate myself on how women think. They are like toddlers. They only want what they can’t have. Anyway she obviously noticed my transformation and began to credit me. I kept my answers polite and short and said thank you, and I would often wait half a day before replying. Because then she knew she wasn’t my first priority no more. She became warmer. Then suddenly she send me bikini pictures from her vacation. And boy did she look great, but I didn’t tell her. I just replied "Looks like lovely weather you have down there. Weather is nice here too. Have a nice vacation" She replied back with kisses. A few more weeks went and I started dating someone new. Guess who wrote? My ex ofc. She wanted to know how I had been, and asked if I wanted to grab a cup of coffee.. So I texted back the next day where I wrote "Hi there. Things are good, hope for you as well. Thank you for the offer, but I’m very busy with stuff so I must decline for now. Perhaps in the future. Have a nice day" She texted me back saying okay, but hope to hear from you when you are less busy... See what I did? I used reversed psychology on her. Now I’m the one with the power because I don’t care and have moved on, and now she wants me. Because she wants what she can’t have. And I can promise you her mind is going crazy. Because she had all power over me in the beginning and now she don’t. Cause I don’t care anymore. And I didn’t tell her about the new girl I met. I just told her I was busy. There is no need to give her all information. Because if i did then I wouldn’t be a mystery no more. What is more exciting. To know everything or not knowing the unknown. Hope you can use this. PS things can take time. My entire time period is about one year from the breakup to where I am now.

@@kubel83 wow…. This touched me and you answered so many of my questions. Thank you

@@dillonshuffle You are most welcome. If I can help a fellow brother in need then I will. We all been there where we lost someone we loved. And it hurts like hell. But once you level up you can overcome everything and you start to see things from a different perspective. Plus better things will come your way. I used to be a lady pleaser. I would literally do everything to meet my GF needs and standards. I would literally lick her feet if she wanted me to. What did that get me? She got bored of me because I gave her everything and then she stepped on me like a doormat, and discarded me like trash. And it hurt like hell and gave me depression and lowered my self esteem and value as a man. But then I leveled up and became a better version. Training, fitness, educating etc etc. Now I’m getting offers from women left and right because they feel the confidence in me. However I never simp for them or buy them drinks. I always say I’m looking for a strong independent woman and not some leech or vulture who begs for drinks, and then I walk away. Guess what they come back are even more interested. And when I’m dating then I only give the amount of energy that I get back in return. If she pulls back then I pull back. I never chase. What happens if a dog chases a cat. The cat runs away and crawls up a tree. I do the opposite and calmly walk away. Then the cat becomes curious and crawls down to walk over and sit on my lap. And if a woman leaves then I just tell her " Oh well that’s unfortunate, I would have loved to see where this could go. But I respect your decision if you don’t want to. Have a good one" That totally destroys women’s ego and they baffled why I’m not crawling after them like a puppy. And they always call me back a couple of weeks later. If I wanted then I could get them back. But I don’t want to. Because if a woman didn’t like me the first time, then I don’t see why I should give them the opportunity to experience the better me a second time. Women are so incredibly simple once you begin to understand their mindset. They are like spoiled toddlers. They always want fancy toys, but once they get tired of it then they want new toys. That’s why I don’t give in once I have improved. They can scream and cry all day long. But daddy ain’t giving them sugar. And daddy is leaving the store with or without you. Then they may stand with arms crossed looking angry. But they always come hulking out of the store calling for me. The only regret I have from all of this is that I didn’t know this sooner. I would have loved if I knew this 20 years ago. Anyway glad I could help. Let me know if you need other advice. I shall do my best to help. Ps my English sucks. Sorry about that.

@@kubel83 whoa, well written and crazy good info and insight, particularly the first reply. BUT what if she was your wife and you spent 25+ years with her, then what? Same rules apply? And yes, we have 5 little ones as a result... None older than age 12. BEST 25yrs of my life and then it all went to sh@t 3 months ago. I am on month #2 living in my own place now. Access to a world class gym.. Lots and LOTS of Eye candy and they do be staring, quite a bit, smiles here and there too. However, I am still processing what's happening and happened so no way am I looking for new love.. but friends would be a nice thing to have in these difficult times. Let me know what ya got for me.. curious for your own input.

@@phabeondominguez5971 hi my friend I shall do my best with my poor English skills. 25 years is a long time and I totally understand if you feel heartbroken. She’s the love of your life and as you said the best thing that happened, plus you have kids. I totally get that life is rough and tough right now. And I understand that your heart is screaming and pleading for her to come back. I did the same as you, but it got me nowhere. It only fed her ego and proved she did the right decision. Until I changed my mental thinking, and stopped being needy and clingy. So my advice to you is to do what I wrote in the first comment. Level up. Become stronger mentally and physically and regain your self confidence. Get new clothes and haircut. Live life. Go out and meet people and do what makes you happy. Only contact her when it is needed, dropping off kids, finances etc. you know life important stuff. Other than that don’t contact her. Then improve yourself the best you can. For instance if you were bad at something like let’s say remembering kids from school or whatever then become better at that etc. that’s just an example but I’m sure you catch my drift. Become more independent and strong. Show her that you got everything under control even without her. Trust me she will start to notice. Never talk bad about her in front of your kids etc. always be kind. And do fun things with your kids that you probably didn’t do before. Your kids will tell mom all about you and they will say we did this and that with dad, and how awesome dad is. I will bet all my money she will begin to get curious about you. And when she reaches out to you then just keep your info short and on topic. But obviously be kind. And if you feel the mood and timing is right then make small funny jokes that will make her laugh. She will warm up trust me. But NEVER be the first to ask her out for coffee. You must remember she dumbed you. So why should you reward her. She must be the one to ask you if you wanna grab a cup of coffee. Not you. And if she does then say you are open to the idea, but you are busy and need to clear out your schedule. Give her a few options. Let’s say Monday this week or perhaps next week. If she then says that she can’t, then just say "That’s fine some other time perhaps" She will go crazy inside because she doesn’t understand why you aren’t begging, being needy or chasing her. But she will begin to feel more attractive to you because she will sense you are confident and strong. Women always say they are so independent but at the end of the day they want a man to lead them. And then my best advice for you is to be patient. This can take time. Right now she is thinking she did the right thing. But later she will discover that the dating market is crap and that the grass isn’t greener on the other side. She will most likely begin to date other men and then she will discover that they are only players. Not many men wants to settle down with a single mom with 5 kids with another man. 98% of men will bolt or ghost her. Then she will become depressed and suddenly realize that she probably made a huge mistake. She can’t find a new good man. In fact she will realize she already had the perfect man. YOU! Then she will become scared and feel alone. And then she will begin to crawl back to you. Especially if you also improved yourself. But when that happens then it is up to. Perhaps you already met a new one, or perhaps you are having a better time without her. That is for you to decide. You will have the power and all she can do is hope you will pick her. I hope you can use this. Be patient and calm and live your life. Don’t count the days. Just life your life and I promise you something good will come your way. Your ex coming back or perhaps you find a new and better one. Feel free to ask for advice anytime and good luck. 👍

You're welcome 😊

What? He’s soooo logical

You're honestly a hater 😂