The Secret to Self-Control (& Accepting the Unchangeable) | LITTLE BY LITTLE | Fr Columba Jordan CFR 

I understand completely. If you get the “Love and Logic” program on cd and you and your husband listen to them it will change everything. You can even listen to some of the program on you tube. Don’t give up hope. Jesus will help!

One of my children was nominated to be on the Super Nanny show and right before agreeing my husband and I tried love and Logic. Now my fully grown son will be entering the seminary! He is a rockstar!

Hello. I wouldn’t change what you are doing, including surrendering to God, regardless of your kids’ behavior. Meanwhile, I would add seeking the insight of a counselor/child psychologist to help you w/discipline strategies. My wife and I did that with our children (now 19, 17 and 12) and it made a big(!) difference. I’m sure God acted through the specialists who helped us. He may do the same with you. Don’t go it alone. / Remember that God’s power is infinitely greater that any bad influences our children are exposed to. / Don’t be discouraged. This too shall pass. God bless you, JCF

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That’s amazing to hear. Thank you. Praise God!

Bless you, Caryn, know we are praying for you and very glad this video was helpful in some way.

Caryn - I am a recovering alcoholic with 22 years sober in AA - If your mate is truly an alcoholic, and not willing to get help, most of the time, not always, nothing will change, in which case for your own sanity and safety, you might need to change your circumstances. Your 'anger' - your reaction to a 'sick' person - isn't your fault, but it is part of the disfunction and doesn't help the person with the sickness either. Also, trying to 'talk it out' doesn't usually work either. It might help for a while but until the person is willing to get help - is sick & tired of being sick & tired - nothing really changes. So, think of your safety & sanity. Good luck & God Bless.

@@MLStanleyK I wish I could like this more than once. You can't save someone from themselves and it doesn't even do the rescuee any good to keep on being there for them when they're not interested in changing.

I can relate about your anger! I used to be a very angry woman. I’m not any more! Thank you Jesus! I believe saying the rosary everyday help & healed my soul…. I still get mad but Never they way I use to react has changed for the better:) If you want to lear how to other’s rosary 📿 lot me know :)))God bless you!!🙏🏼🙏🏼

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That’s great to hear! Fasting really does strengthen the will. Glad you’re seeing results already.

Avoiding temptation is an absolute key to avoiding sin. Bless you, Maja!

You cannot change the people around you, however you can change the people around you.

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So glad you’re here. God bless you!

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Catholic or Orthodox?

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@@dougy6237 we’re the only rite that is entirely catholic and not divided

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Glad you found this video, Ian. We’ll be sure to pray for you and your wife. God bless you!

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God bless you, Arthur.

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Thank you for the kind encouragement, and that’s actually something we are looking at doing - recording some prayers for people to pray along with. As for meditations we have just started another podcast with Fr Gavan Jennings called “Meditations” which are weekly reflections to pray along with and use as a seed for prayer. Here’s the latest episode: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-EQGLvqE0xfg.html

it's too bad that this wasn't a video message haha it made me laugh. thank you for that. I echo everything you said. The meditations that this channel has are incredibly helpful. It's also story telling with a prayer at the end.

Stay close to him. Pray for the grace to be strong. God bless you!

Every saint has a past. God bless you for realising what was right and responding to His grace.

Sorry to hear that, Lukas. That can be really hard. Fr Mike has a great vide on this: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-WeVbAyOeOlc.html And this might help also: plus.catholicmatch.com/articles/how-to-heal-after-a-break-up Praying for you.

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Praying for you too, Friend!

I think that’s definitely part of it!

Fasting and abstinence are so powerful.

We’re going to be covering this a little bit in an upcoming episode.

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Glad you enjoyed this video, Maria! And here’s a video Fr Columba did a little white back on emotions. Hope it’s helpful! ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-gUKBTA-jnHg.html

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Thanks for watching, Paul. Lots more to come.

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@@ctmcatholic just curious - do you teach obedience to our Saviour, Jesus Christ per John 14:15? if so, do you honor and keep Exodus 20:8-11 ? thanks for your reply.

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Praise God, so glad this could be helpful!

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Points that will make us saints.thank you FATHER

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Thanks for watching, Raimundo.

Also guilty of wanting to change things that are not mine to change (nor am I capable of it! but doesn't stop me from wanting to ). Thank you for calling me out and giving me a better way to enter into those moments.

Thank you for the kind words!

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It’s a great prayer! Similar to the publican at the temple.

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@@rjskeptic5273 Yes, of course you can. But love of God is different than love of your spouse or love of your puppy. Love of God is a act of the will, not an act of emotion. It is an intellectual love more than emotional love. It is an intentional turning toward God. It is not the same as the emotional, endearing, giddy feeling you might feel toward a puppy or a spouse, even though we use the same word, “love”, in both cases.

Great suggestion. We’ll definitely cover that!

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You’re in our prayers, Ann, and very glad this has been somewhat helpful.

Bless you, Phil. This life is a gift, but it’s the next one we are living for!

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What are you waiting for, Ron?

Glad you’re enjoying this series. As a practicing Catholic religious, he does. Fr Columba is a Franciscan Friar of the Renewal. His order live very humble aesthetic lives with lots of prayer and service to the poor. If you’re interested in what his day looks like, here’s a video on just that: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-euwjN1368BE.html

Keep your Caholic practices, I love the Latin Mass and the Rosary is a miracle worker. Jesus will always honor anything His Mother asks.

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It’s a challenge for sure. I wonder if it’s possible to kill the bad behaviour with kindness?

@@ctmcatholic last time… i think my angel whispered to me…haha. I almost lost control…but somehow…. I heard in my head,”mock them and dont care too much if they are angry.” Then, I turned their annoying attitude by “mocking” them back. It looked like joking but i showed them that i dont care whatever you say or want from me. You will not get it. I am always nice to them, frater, but I dont know…it makes them feel the can press me or talking in unpleasant way (and wording). It is like they want me to bend my head before them… i think we can imagine ppl who like to be treated that way. So, i am not sure if being kind to them is a good idea. I think, this kind of ppl are too toxic. Sometimes, not some, but always actually… how come Jesus and saints can be so patient? I wonder if Lord ever angry with toxic people, frater?

That’s an interesting thought, thank you for sharing. I do also think when we try to explain away God (whether or not that’s what you’re recommending) we’re left with trying to force human explanations on things that only make sense with God in the equation.

@@ctmcatholic It was certainly not my intention to explain away God. I currently find myself in a world between unbelief and faith, uncertain about how to choose between the two. I don't think that all Christian spirituality can make sense to unbelievers, but I do believe that some of it can, that a sort of translation is possible. This is kind of inspired by "The rule of St Benedict for beginners" by Wil Derkse, which is a modern interpretation of Benedict's rule. The author is a Catholic, but much of what he wrote certainly had value for everyone. The chapter on Benedictine time management is an absolute gem. Also, when I was an atheist, I felt that religion had some value that was somehow lost by throwing it away and I tried, at times, to identify and recover what that was. Also, I saw religion basically dying in my country and, for similar reasons, the loss of the heritage troubled me. You also might say that these translations I try to make are a kind of stepping stone for me to bridge the gap between faith and unbelief. I also hope that these "translations" may at one point enable a dialogue between believers and non-believers. It is so easy to condemn the other side, rather than look for things in common. I don't believe that people are atheists, because they want to sin, as is said quite often. When I became an agnostic, it was out of a need for intellectual honesty, more than anything else, and I chose it in spite of a fear that it might send me to hell.

As a fellow former atheist, my only advice to you is to consider ancient philosophy and all subsequent grand philosophical thought that is today thought of erroneously as secular as, in fact, all based entirely on good faith, from Plato to Neitzsche. There's a good reason why knowing God is called gnosis, because on a reductive and flatly logical level, to "know" anything is to hold faith in this idea that does not physically exist, yet you know it and can recognise it when it is in your presence. All the great thinkers that atheists pore over and worship and put faith in today would be *reviled* at the sight of a faithless philosophical word, including certainly Neitzsche, who noted correctly there there are no facts, only interpretations, and that "God was dead". I say was because I believe wholeheartedly secular thought is coming to an end and we will be moving forward into a re-renaissance, hence God being brought back to life. I still don't believe in a magic man in the sky. I do, however, put all my faith and trust in all the great men who came before me, most of all Christ Jesus, God made flesh, and his most graceful and immeasurably glorious sacrifice. This is all deeply logically consistent. Blessings to you, brother.

@@dextersynesterformerlysorb5334 I think that you have progessed further on the path towards faith then I have. I have watched and read many debates and arguments between believers (mainly Christian) and non-believers. In the end, I became disappointed, first with the apologists, next with the unbelievers. I found that any argument for the existence of God can be taken apart with relative ease, and next that apologetics is a form of pseudoscience, wanting to find proof for previously held beliefs, rather than testing those beliefs. Then I found the offerings of atheists similarly meager and I realised that atheism and belief are what Kuhn called different paradigms. They are more or less consistent within themselves, but they have no power to refute the other, because they are based on different, untestable assumptions. My conclusion was that there is only one way to decide between the two: experience them both from the inside and then make a personal choice. I feel that I have gone all the way with atheism, but left Christianity at too young an age to do the same properly, so I'm trying to do that now. Trying out Christianity is a hard thing to do, because there's a deep chasm you need to cross and the going is very slow because of it, due to many, many doubts. One might argue that, apart from Christianity, one should experience other religions from the inside as well. But I neither have the time, nor the inclination. My alternative is to say that I don't really understand other religions and I feel that I need to try to be humble about judging them. Also, the chasm I see is between unbelief and religion and I don't think that these other religions are totally wrong. But they are quite alien to me, so I just feel that the coat of Christianity will fit me better. These are my meager ramblings, but I hope that you will find some use in them.

@@diedertspijkerboer for all of that, I may simply say that religion fills a deep psychological hole and provides a sense of home, if one was raised a certain way, in a certain culture, with a certain God. I thank my atheist mother for reading me the Lord's prayer at night, for that alone spurs that feeling within me. I'm sure from your description you have a nostalgic connection to it, too. Embrace it for what it is.

It’s called Escape by Theevs.

@@ctmcatholic Thank you very much. God bless you!

Moderation in all things is key.