The Secrets Narcissistic Psychopaths Don't Want You to Know!

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Narcissistic psychopaths have a playbook, and we've cracked it open! Delve into the eerie ways they evade responsibility, constantly turning the tables to make YOU the bad guy. No matter what the evidence shows, they'll warp it. Find out their sinister strategies now.
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@leonab545 Год назад

And yet anything small you might have done they will blow out of proportion and make themselves the victim.

@smk2042 Год назад

They change topics, make jokes out of the situation, get mad at you for not letting it go. They confuse the hell out of you.

@theoriginal7727 Год назад

Or word salad! 🎉🎉🫡🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮

@fifilafleur5555 Год назад

I’m so sick of these toxic narcs. I’ve removed quite a few from my life now. I’m learning to set boundaries and protect myself finally.

@Ikaros23 10 месяцев назад

Always remember that to them, we are their « fuel» and nothing more. The narcissist has never cared for us in the past, they don’t care now ( just about fuel and control over our minds/emotions), and they never will in the future. The reason is brutal, but simple. The person we where thought to like/care about/love, never existed. It was a fiction created by the narcissist to harvest fuel. Alot in the same way the machines use humans as fuel in the film « the matrix». The matrix is the lies, gaslighting/manipulation/lovebombing they use to harvest fuel. And get power over us. Delete/declutter all of them out of your life. And never look back. Don’t be fooled of the « i have changed» hoover con they will use. And remember that you are not alone ❤. You are also brave!

@jlanderson21257 Год назад

Yep. Impossible to hold them accountable to anything.

@jamesgibb4945 Год назад

Spot on

@raydurka Год назад

Well, to be accountable, you'd have to have DONE something first... 🫤🫤😐😐😶

@davevenables3534 Год назад

They will not take accountability or accept responsibility for anything that they have done, or were supposed to do, no matter what position of authority they are in. Yep…deny, deny, deny.

@saschaheart Год назад

Worst thing about it, at some point you internalize the thought, that it's all your fault. Thank you, Richard, for the education, it helps a lot. ❤

@piyabiswas9475 Год назад

They are escaping but want all the benefits. They ruin any relationship. No heart.

@bihmthethird Год назад

When I confronted the narcissist about what they did to me and how it was wrong, there response was "why are you telling me this, is it because you need closure?"

@WarriorStrong7278 Год назад

So true! You get tired of fighting. Then when they deny something they said or did, you just stop fighting it. The longer you stay the worse it gets. It takes years and years to heal.

@Chanmuoxambr Год назад

My covert narcissistic cheating ex-husband told me that the video about him leaving the house in the middle of the night was forged and the PI was for sure going to bring evidence to his client (me) because he’s paid to do so…not come back empty handed. And when I told him that in fact it was me who caught him red-handed, he acted panicked and told me that maybe he was a sleepwalker and he was doing things outside at night he was not conscious about and I should take him to see a psychologist to help him because to him that was not normal. Talk about not taking responsibility!

@cynthiathomas5754 Год назад

Yolk is on him...

@raydurka Год назад

🤣😂🤣😂 OMG! What a character! Im truly sorry for the pain you have endured; i am in the trenches with you... but sometimes you just have to laugh at how inane they are... without them love-goggles on, they're actually pretty sad... I wish you 🌟 & ❤ on your healing journey!

@pjhall1353 Год назад

Unbelievable! So sad. 🤗

@jordanferguson2254 Год назад

What the hell 😂😂 I'm sorry for laughing, but it's like they think they'll combust if they just admit what they did. Like how is it more self preserving of one's reputation to act stupid despite the truth being known vs simply owning up? Maybe to them, verbal confirmation is where it's at, when in reality, we don't always need that to know something has happened.

@raydurka Год назад

@jordanferguson2254 Well, if they don't admit it, then it didn't really happen...

@wendykingston6562 Год назад

So very true. 4 years ago I split from my husband after 30 years. Took a long while to untangle myself from him, with the help from listening to you Richard I am in a better place and my eyes are wide open. Thank you.

@jselenatan9834 Год назад

Wow 30 years, that's long. But I'm happy that you did left. That truly takes courage. Good for you! 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

@debbievoss3496 Год назад

Wendy. Me too. I'm 67. I married him when I was 38. I've been living separate from husband narc for 10 years as I lost everything & he had to give me "spousal support". I also got Housing Section 8. I am so entangled financially that I'm going to need a good cheap lawyer, if they even have them.

@zerowheeler Год назад

My sympathies, we were in our 30th year of being together, it takes a while to feel like an individual again.

@leanne123 Год назад

@@debbievoss3496 Get one as soon as possible.

@OneYellowFlower Год назад

Yes. I think one of my exes was this. At the time, I found the best way to get him to kinda tell me the truth was to ask about his behavior as if it was someone else’s behavior: “If some guy was cheating and wanted to hide it from his girl, how would he do it?” I learned a lot. He wanted me to know all the ways so he could feel smart. And he was so caught up in feeling smart that he told on himself….

@nicolesiemens8727 Год назад

That's how the narc I was involved with told on himself as well. I started exposing him online- and he must have seen all of it- and someone "anonymous" (him) posted the question: how does a Covert Narcissist get rid of a girl who is jealous, possessive and is torturing him mentally after a year?" I couldn't believe he was trying to pull the "victim" card after I hadnt spoken to him in 6 months because I was healing from the trauma bond. I wrote him a few days before to find out if he had been "using" me the whole time- and he wrote: "you provided stimulation- but it could never compare to a TRUE relationship." Well that was it for me. I never met him in person- only online- but the most ironic part- was for MONTHS I had confronted him about cheating behind my back from all of his flirting with random women online. He would give me the silent treatment or rage whenever I confronted him- or deny everything. And so the irony when he stated i'm "jealous"- was that he admitted that he WAS cheating. 😆 Because if you WERE faithful- what would I be jealous of? Narcissists think they are so slick with their lies- but they truly dont understand that in the end, if you're a liar- eventually they will fall into their own pit they created.

@andrewhitney4194 Год назад

That’s a really good move you did! I had to laugh!😂 I may try that too so I can find out the truth in some of his lies. Thanks

@cdevidal Год назад

That didn't happen. And if it did, it wasn't that bad. And if it was, that's not a big deal. And if it is, that's not my fault. And if it was, I didn't mean it. And if I did, you deserved it.

@monicahocking1507 Год назад

You forgot. Look what you made me do.

@GK222_ Год назад

I walked away from my mother after I woke up and realized what she is. I have no regrets. I will not be attending her funeral either. She has stolen my youth & my smile.

@fallproofing1344 Год назад

Whilst this hits hard, it also hits ever so true

@gathy7714 Год назад

They must’ve created the phase “lie till ya die” for the narcissist

@jselenatan9834 Год назад

Lol I'd believe that! They indeed would rather die than to admit anything true.

@lisamariegriffin2012 Год назад

I always heard "deny, deny until you die" is their mantra

@debbiesday8270 Год назад

Yes, and I'm at the point where I really don't give a damn what the Narc thinks of me. I will be setting boundaries with people from now on and they can feel however they want about it. I've learned this much.

@kitkat615 Год назад

Yo same 😂 that's literally where I'm at now with ppl. It's quite astonishing the shit well put up with just to learn how to not put up with that shit anymore.

@izawaniek2568 Год назад

Exactly the case! Spot on. The narcisistic psychopath is not going to accept the responsibility for their actions. They are the perpetual victim and you are the perspeual perpetrator.

@Awiserversion Год назад

This is a absolutely spot on! 🎯

@debbievoss3496 Год назад

It's just the way they are for whatever reason. I will not try to fix these beasts.

@waterbottle2183 Год назад

I really needed to hear this today….so glad you do what you do 👍🌳

@Akkordeondirigent Год назад

Took me several decades to understand.

@jamesgibb4945 Год назад

At least you understood in the end

@Akkordeondirigent Год назад

@@jamesgibb4945 Yes, but to what cost.

@SusKa22 Год назад

😢 well Said. That’s how it works in their twisted mind.

@theoriginal7727 Год назад

“Works” and “mind”. Should be in quotation marks. Since they have neither of those.

@FreeToBeMeIn2024J Год назад

I cannot stress how true this is. Only until you walk into the dead end will you realize how painfully true this really is. Grateful that I have nowhere else to go now but OUT and AWAY.

@sawdustadikt979 Год назад

This is my family, and then my friends growing up. I’m a middle aged self employed carpenter. I keep records of everything, I buy older phones with huge memory because I save all txts and emails with customers, vendors, contractors, subcontractors. I also record all meetings, even with coaches, chiropractors , naturopaths and therapists because of my deep familiarity with this. I have recently dealt with a “coach” that has way to much of their own stuff to be working on despite proclaiming themselves to be a visionary and a influencer, and then projected a lot on me. Took me month to sort out internally where I was responsible for my stuff and where they were for theirs. Thanks to the recordings. Be wary.

@debbievoss3496 Год назад

Gee. I have often wanted to learn how to record or video someone with my phone.

@theoriginal7727 Год назад

Yep…. There are a lot of these people around in the so-called spiritual and growth community use, meant to work, churches, etc..

@sazu9953 Год назад

True! I asked a million times why he treated me so poorly, why he left me without an explanation, why he was still calling me after years ... the only (confusing) answer was "I can't and I shouldn't". When I finally had it enough and cut every contact, he immediately blocked me saying that I hate him.

@annaburns2865 Год назад

They may not take responsibility, but God will hold them accountable.

@franciscocardenas5758 Год назад

When you make your point crystal clear to a narcissist, they will break into a narcissistic rage.

@cheridetwiler7206 Год назад

This is truly the sad truth. No matter how big or small. 😢

@user-ej5jc5dk1e Год назад

My mom was like that. It's tough . Better not to excpect too much from people in general . If you find a good decet , honest , moral friend you are exctremly lucky & you should cherish it . I think having a good heart , being a good person is the most imprtant thing in life .

@Wanda711 Год назад

My mom was, and my sister IS, a narcissist. The funny thing is, my sister and I used to talk about this all the time - the fact that my mom would never admit to being wrong or apologize about anything. Now, years later, here is my sister behaving in literally the exact same way, and she is completely oblivious about it!

@user-nv4ci3sc8l Год назад

If take wrong decision for anything in their life or if they destroyed always is someone else's fault.

@tinaalbritton3450 Год назад

you are speaking truth here! I have spent 35 years with my narcissistic husband and I have experienced this for way too long!

@trajanaveloff7383 Год назад

The more you think you can give him the realization the more they confuse you

@stormthrush37 Год назад

This is my parents completely. And it took me over four decades to finally figure it out.

@imaanhanif8863 Год назад

This makes me doubt my ex was a narcissist.He has taken responsibility.

@dd9714 Год назад

They will temporarily take responsibility and cry and lament if they think it will keep you…but as soon as they are able to keep their supply they’ll change their tune and the story will morph to them being a victim of their circumstances.

@joymelaniecloke6222 Год назад

He can’t understand why I won’t allow him to continue abusing me! It’s hit him like a ton of bricks- that I’m gone!!!

@catherineditto750 Год назад

This is so true and you are saying what I watched occurring for years! I’m not there anymore, but it’s still happening I am sure…deny deny deny.

@debbievoss3496 Год назад

Wow. Must be a ton of Deep Fear in these people to admit to being WRONG. PARENTAL ABUSE?

@MD.orion1 Год назад

Entitlement!

@pjhall1353 Год назад

Actually my psychologist said it is in their DNA. Like a golden retriever who will fetch balls all day long, yet another breed has no idea how to fetch. A Narcissist is simply wired that way (some more so than others).

@danielkaiser8971 Год назад

One theory behind narcissism is severe chronic trauma (including neglect) in the earliest years of life, typically within the mother-child dyad. The psychology of the child is so damaged that it cannot develop normally after that. So the end result is an abused, terrified and damaged infantile psychology that lasts into adulthood until death. EDIT: There are exceptions. "Not all". Some grow up damaged but break the generational cycle of abuse. Other exceptions are children with wonderful childhoods that grow up to be narcissists, and no one knows exactly why.

@ZLLi661 Год назад

Arrogance, a bloated sense of entitlement, like a spoilt toddler who gets what he wants and hell will freeze over before he is denied it. And anyone who denies it are forever condemned. These people have no empathy. Were born without it. It’s a personality flaw. There may or may not be abuse needed for them to feel entitlement to hurt others. Even good parenting will fail these types. Only a brain transplant will ‘fix’ the issue. 😵

@brightstar4321 11 месяцев назад

Having a narcissistic parent is like living a lifetime prison sentence for crimes you didn’t commit.

@rayme4raw Год назад

Very true!

@nonserviam12345 Год назад

E x a c t l y! Thank you!

@TheJuicy1206 Год назад

Never. Never. Never takes responsibility.

@arankagionetti2098 Год назад

One day we all die include the narcissist and I know God can't be manipulated or mocked ! God will make all narcissist take responsibility for they action !!!! God doesn't let nothing slide for nobody!!!! And that's is good enough for me!

@monicahocking1507 Год назад

That's very true. Amen.❤

@robinlee6813 Год назад

This trait of them was so so tiring trying to stand up for my heart . Thank you , this is the most truth 🙌 ❤ your videos help this healing. Thank you .

@dio69666 Год назад

Sometimes they take responsibility. But it's still your fault like: "I hit you because you made me"

@hominidaetheodosia Год назад

And had I known this 20 years ago I would not now be an old man living homelessly at the side of a road with all of my life’s possessions stolen and health so broken I will never live in a home ever again- If you’re reading this and doubting Richard please don’t just listen to what he’s telling you it might not feel like it right now but it honestly is compassion toward yourself to do so and remove that person from your life 100% no contact no matter what - Tie yourself to the goddamn mast if necessary!! JUST DO IT AND DO IT NOW, I don’t wait don’t do it later NOW NOW NOW!

@kitkat615 Год назад

That is a LOVELY picture that you have drawn a smilie to. Love it. Please know that things are exactly as they are supposed to be, even if it sucks and is unfair and feels like it can't get any better.. just, solidarity through the pain brother ❤

@tracymullane8818 11 месяцев назад

Yep my ex-husband told me 95% of every thing. Big and small was my fault.

@mynewlife1911 Год назад

The narc sure enjoys watching you try though as they laugh at you either out loud or silently in their heads. Narcs love love love to play head games and bat you around like a cat toy.

@theoriginal7727 Год назад

They are not human in any way, shape or form, except the exterior meat suit that they wear. Simply Demons.

@dmbmamas3880 Год назад

Never ever ever ever. #1 words out of his mouth "No I didn't you did." 22 years! Finally moving forward.💪

@SanjaNovko Год назад

My father. No contact is the best solution.

@statiselite Год назад

I remembered the denial and lack of acknowledgement today from your very words.

@chantelbaldwin6862 Месяц назад

Absolutely never ever ever never will they. No matter what or how much abuse you take

@monicahocking1507 Год назад

I left after 44 years and stupidly went back after 3 years on my own. We are 70 so maybe just plod alone and for the most part simply ignore each other. Shouldn't be too difficult as I had the silent treatment for years and hated it, strangly I now look forward to it , it's like living with a child best way to describe it.

@MsMorgendorffer1 Год назад

My ex literally texted the words, “F*** You!” to me, because I wasn’t answering his previous text as quickly as he wanted me too. He kept denying he didn’t text that to me, I held my phone up to his face and pointed to that very specific text. He paused for a second, started smirking and finally replied with, “You read that wrong” My brain after he said that to me 🤯 I was literally speechless… how does anyone read F You wrong. Thank God I got out!

@kutatm Год назад

My ex had told me at the time that he quit his corporate job. I found out 22 years later during our divorce that no, he’d been fired. I found the letter saying so in personal files. I showed it to him and said, you lied. He refused to say that was what the letter said! These people are crazy nuts!

@MsMorgendorffer1 Год назад

@@kutatm No wonder we start questioning our sanity! 22 years of hanging onto a lie is mind blowing… hopefully you have peace now ✌🏼

@minnie5301 Год назад

My ex boss was a narc micromanager, she would not leave me alone. It was soul destroying. She gave me an ultimatum when I exposed her. So she basically sacked me. She completely messed up the company accounts by literally making it all up as she went along. She refused constantly my offers of putting the errors right as she said she was right" I have to laugh as she has just advertised my job again wanting somebody "bright and smart and can work on their own initiative. All the things she couldn't handle. I guess we will see what happens in the future

@missdjerotica Год назад

Seriously though…even in court, he was sentenced by the judge and all he could say was “well I’ve had to miss a lot of work to get to court.” Well, it was his fault for having to go to court in the first place, he did the illegal ketamine not the judge. They always find some pitty party for themselves no matter the situation or what they did wrong. Thank you Richard, I love your channel, and you are very nice to look at and listen to. ❤

@mooshka5303 11 месяцев назад

Thank you. This is good to hear ❤

@SELFTalkNarcisismo Год назад

Brilliant

@clairexxx0405 Год назад

Absolutely 💯 this took too many years to realise all you've just said Richard 😕

@jeanannedupratt7075 Год назад

Gosh this came in just on time. Thank you.

@dirtbrat1760 Год назад

Your words, as hard as they are to accept and as much as it may hurt to hear, are so very true.

@annecanazon4017 Год назад

... got smacked in the face through 3 rooms and back again because of something he said I said... after I was able to wake up from the shock I reminded him that HE was the one who actually said it... without skipping a beat he said, “Well, you were thinking it!” 😳 seriously?!! Good thing he was around to tell me what I was thinking! 😒

@shelliemathews1043 Год назад

I am so incredibly sorry this happened to you!

@laurelvance5533 Год назад

This is SO true

@corasteidinger9594 11 месяцев назад

It is extremely exhausting being in a relationship with a narcissist... Thankfully there is An Option to leave their Stronghold.

@The_James_King 7 месяцев назад

I learned this first hand. She would say if you didn't do that I wouldn't have done this. That was with everything and I don't think I ever got an apology for anything ever

@stevenmiller5784 Год назад

So true! I distinctly remember the first time I dared to question their whereabouts as I knew they were lying and it was like a switch flipped and the evil began to appear... demeanor, tone, facial expression, etc. I should have run then 😢...my instincts were fully aware!

@nellynelly8203 9 месяцев назад

i was called a weirdo for saving evidence. No wonder we can't move on when you won't forget anything

@mikeomonkey Год назад

The Apple doesn’t fall far from the tree so don’t blame the kids for being second gen narcs

@badgerbadgerton966 Год назад

No,... the first thing to understand is that HALF of everyone you meet is living like this to some degree.

@hopeausbyn1734 11 месяцев назад

They will underestimate you . Scoff at you, Roll their eyes at you, Fail to use the opportunity to apologize, but literally beg on their hands and knees when you let them know, Game over, it a wrap 🚪 🤸.

@patriciacrowng Год назад

This is so true. Every last word of it.

@trustinsynchronicity Год назад

Thank you Richard. I think I'm corrupted because I had an older brother who used to do sadistic things to me for pleasure He put me in a narrow box and tied a rope around it, then turned on the sprinklers and the only way I was able to get out of that was to fall on my face and wait for the box to weaken from the water, but I loved every minute of it, thats how sick I am. Lol.

@nachopretzel3533 Год назад

if its something you feel they are doing to someone else, they gaslight you and validate the toxic behavior.

@missesangry Год назад

"You made me do it" 🤦‍♀️

@Jayne-ek1ig Год назад

💯 % have experienced this ,I didn't see it at first but I do now and wow, now I can't believe I was so stupid to keep defending myself for things I didn't do.

@confusedwhynot Год назад

Or "YOU MADE ME DO IT."

@brendam144 Год назад

Omg yes!!! I divorced the narc almost 4 years ago and he is still crying a river playing victim. So sad, I'm not even angry or resentful anymore. I feel sorry for him. Hope he finds peace at some point.

@leanne123 Год назад

Why ? He doesn't care about you.

@brendam144 Год назад

@leanne123 Because this is not about him anymore. How he feels is irrelevant. What's important to me is that I was able to forgive. I no longer wallow in hate and that's freedom. 😌😊

@leanne123 Год назад

@@brendam144 Forgiveness is more difficult when one continues to insert themselves into your life and do more damage. My stepfather is now abusing me from the grave through my only brother. He and his wife, whom I thought were my friends, have for the past 40 years, back stabbed me to their friends, taken thousands of dollars from my mom's investments, ($145,000), lied to me countless times,

@dottiemindablau792 Год назад

Continually seeing these in my feed it's helping me release from my narc but it's so so hard

@Vfr143 Год назад

Great video, but could you place the text a little bit lower and to the left/right so I can see your mimics when you speak

@NancyWhite-sr3rd 11 месяцев назад

Yep. I got security cameras and even with video evidence, he still manages to tell me it was my fault 🙄😒

@MD.orion1 Год назад

All very well to tell us how the narc is and what they do. It would be much more helpful for all these professionals to band together and educate everyone involved in family courts etc so these people are stopped from causing further damage especially to children

@parathings 7 месяцев назад

Selective hearing and memory is another thing they do, like right in front of you

@rosemaryallen2128 Год назад

One has, finally, to be sorry for people with no sense of moral responsibility. In theological terms, they are damned. In human terms, they are unlovable. In emotional terms, they are a right-off!

@heathera8780 Год назад

The most messed up excuse I got from the narcissist ex was "I didn't mean to (like her)."

@raydurka Год назад

"I honestly wasnt looking for it... it just sorta happened..." ... weekly... ... for two years...

@divamori Год назад

Run.They are Evil

@mrdee6076 Месяц назад

FACTS! Sadly.

@zerowheeler Год назад

Indeed, the ex had an “early” full term baby with a work colleague attempting to prove he wasn’t unfaithful to me, I was being needy/angry/psycho and friends felt sorry for him. In reality I WAS needy/angry because I was looking after our home plus 2 teenagers and 8 year old and who were confused and upset. I thought, just admit you aren’t perfect and move on, no one really cares, but the lies kept coming. It was most important for him to look good.

@justmeiam4996 Год назад

Yup description of my parents to a "t"😒 what missing is "where's your proof" and "I go to church I would never do/say that,you don't remember it correctly"

@efsmoore2274 Год назад

Absolutely correct.

@yellowdayz1800 10 месяцев назад

This is SPOT ON!!

@Mimi2015_ Год назад

Why do they lie and say things about you Don’t they know that it will just bite them in the ass someday ?? Lies always catch up with you

@JF32304 Год назад

It's quite disgusting really. Dear God i pray for these people.

@user-zb5io8rg8w Год назад

That is what makes healing so long suffering

@callie2134 Год назад

Yep I am in the middle of a smear campagne against me with a lot of people involved- that I do not know. Its a man I seperated from 13 years ago. 5 years ago I went no- contact, because he continuosly stalked me. 2 years ago I started rebuilding my life since then the camagne got worse. I don't even know what I am accused of, but I am quiet sure that he is/ pretends to be the victim in all of this. People like him are always the victim and they never quit.

@stefanbrown3535 10 месяцев назад

Thanks appreciate it I needed to hear that today

@Antonocon Год назад

Those of us that grew up in an environment with these people know this well. Even as he says this. It's completely normal to me. i wonder how many people actually grew up in these environments. My dad I believe is a malicious extrovert narcissist and my mother an covert one. My older brother also seems to be a covert one. Still seems to act like a teenager in his mid 40s. I'm far away from them but I wonder how common it is to grow up like this. I really believe it's higher than the figures are telling us.