The Simple Cure for Loneliness | Baya Voce | TEDxSaltLakeCity 

Anyone who is genuinely lonely doesn't go to Europe with their friends. Genuinely lonely people go to bed and hope tomorrow will be better.

Her cure to loneliness is... Talk to your friends like wtf the reason why I'm lonely is I have no friends lmao

The way to cure lonliness... is to not be lonely *audience claps*

"Feeling lonely? Just go to Paris with your friends!" This woman is clueless about the topic she's presenting on and is infuriatingly oblivious to how her privilege has scrambled her brain cells.

She was lonely for 10 minutes and thinks she knows it all...i came here depressed, now im depressed and pissed off...

Came here depressed. Left suicidal.

It's like when you tell someone about your country where millions of people suffer from hunger and they respond "Oh yes, I know what you're talking about. I also experienced hunger, I forgot to bring my lunch to work the other day and I was starving"

Hot Take: This is actually a Ted Talk about how to troll the lonely.

This lady doesn’t know what she is talking bout, loneliness is when you can’t connect to anyone but feel the strong desire to have some emotional support, loneliness is when you don’t have friends or family, loneliness is when even if you have friends, you feel left out and betrayed staying with them. Loneliness is missing human interaction to the point where you feel something is wrong with you, loneliness is when your self worth is measured by how important are you to others, Loneliness is the suffocating feeling of drowning in your emotions, hoping for someone to save you but knowing that no one will!

She clearly has no idea what loneliness feels like

I didn't know being this tone deaf was physically possible

this isn't a ted talk this is her talking about her amazing life like the amount of privilege coming from this video is tremendous

I mean she has a partner, bunch of friends, travelling here and there, eating in Paris and taking about loneliness. is this some kind of joke going here??

"Lonely? Easy, get Friends." This is like saying "don't be sad, be happy" to a depressed person.

I finally understand what people mean when they talk about privilage. Like, she may have her issues in life, but it ain't loneliness.

I have no friends, so I asked my neighbour if I can perform a ritual with them on their couch and they said no. wtf do I do now, BAYA?

She reminds me of all of the disappointing therapists I have encounter throughout my life.

This should actually be renamed as "Ways to strengthen your relations" not "how to overcome loneliness"!

It’s easy to talk about a cure for loneliness when you have friends

She really said “how to overcome loneliness?? Talk to your significant other at night”

Reported for Spam or Misleading.

Loneliness IS when you start lying to your colleagues that you've seen some friends during the weekend while you just spent two days alone. loneliness is NOT going to the south of France with a bunch of friends Update 2020: loneliness IS when you go through weeks without using your voice or receiving any text message during lockdown.

This has the energy of "how can you be homeless, just buy a house"

Basically this video: “Trying to overcome loneliness? Easy. Be more like me because I’m awesome and have lots of friends”

Solution to loneliness: Have friends. Got it. Thanks for the revelation.

Cure for loneliness according to her: - Have friends - Have friends you spend Monday nights with - have friends you drink rosé with - Have friends you go to Paris with - Have friends you can have long French dinners with - Have friends Cure for loneliness thanks

Got to say, this video helped me a lot. It led me to the comment section where I can resonate with my fellow loners!!

I'm feeling more depressed now because I don't even have a friend to talk anything about and all she is talking about having friends and boyfriend " how can you consider yourself as lonely"

RU-vid recommended this, they know I am lonely, but I am having a great time reading the comment section and knowing there are many people who struggle just like me. Didn't even bother watching, just went straight to the comments lol

Actually, reading all these bitter comments helped me much more then the talk itself. At least I know that there are people out there sharing this hard experience with me.

10:49 Miss just said "Oh yeah 84 people died from a car and we could've all gotten lonely and separated but everyone went back to go eat and we went back to the apartment and got drunk" I'm sobbing-

“If you’re lonely hang out with your friends, family or community” That’s fantastic advice, can someone explain to her the lone part in lonely? 😂

"Bruh, just make friends" Yikes, never typing lonely on YT again.

Feeling lonely? Have a pajama party with your closest friends. Gee, thanks. Calling my close friends, why didn't I think of that before. Most truly lonely people (and I'm one) don't have the close connections, friends, or loved ones, with whom to do rituals. That's the whole point, we don't have anyone we connect with, that's why we're lonely.

It's kinda unimaginable to think there are people like her so oblivious to even comprehend what loneliness really is.

If you have a best friend, a spouse and your parents are still alive, you are the most fortunate person on the face of this planet.

This talk is about how to maintain and strengthen your connections. Good in itself but does nothing to help those with limited or no connections.

This chick hasn't spent 5 minutes alone in her entire life. Sometimes TED is a massive waste of time.

Me: I need some help Also me : types in loneliness Result :a girl, who talks about how she wanted to be famous and was in a reality tv show, drinking wine on Mondays and have the money to go to Paris. Thx girl,you helped a lot.

"Some people are severely lonely, all they can do is accept the single life as an example of being free and happy."

So basically when you're lonely the cure is people, no shit. Um what if we don't have any friends? How are we going to face the storm then?

something tells me she is still starving for attention and thought going on a ted talk would be a good idea even though she has no idea what she is talking about. smh

The comments are some of the best I’ve ever read! I saw Sixteenlo’s hilarious review of this awful Ted Talk. I couldn’t stop laughing during his video and her spastic pep talk that she did zero prep for.

Why does she sound so excited while describing an attack where a dude drives a truck through a crowd of people? 😑

This is the cure for loneliness for extroverts who think being lonely is being at home for an hour by themselves.

This Ted talk reminds me when barney said "whenever I feel sick I stop being sick and be awesome again"

I’m going to analyze this Ted Talk because it’s the middle of the night and I’m bored. This would be much better if it was labeled as “How to strengthen relationships” or something like that. Not how to cure loneliness. Nothing about this woman or her story screams lonely to me. I’m getting more, “14 year old girl who listened to 1 Billie Eilish song and now things that being sad for 10 minutes is depression” vibes. Wanting attention and wanting to not be lonely are two extremely different things. This talk isn’t about loneliness. She said loneliness, like 4 times in the entire talk, most of them being in the first couple minutes. She also says to not do something new to cure loneliness, but to the whole ritual thing, immediately after her story about going to France. It’s common for people with depression to go to places like France to try and cure their depression, only to realize that the only difference is that they’re still depressed, but in France. Most lonely people either don’t have friends or don’t feel intimately connected with their friends/family. Her advice, while good in concept, isn’t going to be super helpful to most people who found this video by searching something along the lines of “how to not be lonely” into a search bar. I’ve lost many really close friends over the recent years for reasons completely outside of my control. (They didn’t die or anything, just to be clear, life just lead us in different directions.) And now I’ve subconsciously associated having friends with losing friends since I’ve pretty much lost all of them a few years after I met them. Now I’m afraid of making connections, of having friends, because I’m afraid of losing them like so many others. Her solution for loneliness being “just get friends and be close to them” is not helpful in the slightest, it may work for some people, just not me and those like me. It’s kind of like that joke “Depressed? Just be happy.” or “Have asthma? Just breathe!”. I realize she has to be general and this one ‘solution’ isn’t going to be a cure-all for the nearly 5 million people who watched this, but as far as the comment section is concerned, this was extremely unhelpful to pretty much everyone, and frankly, I can see why. Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk. Also she keeps bumping the mic and it’s driving me insane.

Anyone here after watching Sixteenleo?😆

Does a TedTalk about lonliness Talks about pre sleep time with her boyfriend and trips to France with her girlfriends

I'm sorry, but this was not very insightful to me. "Feeling lonely?" Well just hop on a plain and have dinner in Paris with 10 of your closest friends. This is something for someone who is more disillusioned than lonely. And even then... Ted Talks are usually pretty good. This one was more of a performance than an instructional speech.

Tell me you’re middle class white girl without telling me you’re middle class white girl.

"The weird times when your not busy feeling fantastic, A vacation story!" should've been the title of this video

I think this woman was a cheerleader at school.

Wow. It's like those frugality guides that assume you have a lot of money to begin with. _"Let me tell you how to not feel lonely (assuming you already have friends to cherish and relationships to cultivate)"._

you are the reason why it makes me feel lonelier People like you just don't understand what lonely means

this woman is like "GUYS I GOT IT, THE KEY TO CURING LONELINESS, WE TALK TO OUR FRIENDS AND GO TO EUROPE": That's the reason we're lonely in the first place honey, we can't do that.

"Let's grab the most seemingly extroverted person to talk about loneliness and depression, and how it feels."

This talk made me so angry I want to smash my laptop against the wall. Oh so the cure for loneliness is spend one night a week my four close friends I don't have? Honesty in intimate relationships? What utter BS. If I had any of those things I probably wouldn't be where I am now. I bet she has no idea what it's like to finish her work week and know that she probably won't speak to another person face to face until she is back in work the next week. Or to dread the holiday season. Or those times when you have to take your mandated vacation days and you have nowhere to go and nothing to do so you site and stare at 4 walls and try and find some comfort or meaning online and you come across this nonsense. Nope, she's in Paris with the Sisterhood of the Travelling Leggings. What's next from this woman? A simple cure for thirst. Just drink a glass of water or other beverage of your choice! Great, can I do a TED Talk now too ? The bar for subject matter expertise appears to be pretty damn low.

I bet she rehearsed this in front of her mirror and thought to herself: "Wow Baya....you should be an actress. Your performance is gonna be ON FIRE."

*It's unbelievable how intensely vapid and disconnected her points are, yet how insistently and gratingly she carried the condescending kindergarten teacher tone* Tons of people died so we just puLLEd on THoSE YogA pANTS aND PUlleD oUt THe RoSE. *Wow, so brave*

If you lack someone you know closely, talk to someone you know closely. Thanks, that helps a ton.

"How to cure loneliness: Go hangout with your nice bunch of readily available like minded friends, then go straight around to your caring and understanding partners house and....". This is kind of like saying 'How to cure poverty: First take all your savings and house equity, then....".

This is like a healthy person telling an afflicted person how it feels to be afflicted, having never felt it...or really not even knowing what the affliction is...

This lady's solution to homelessness: move into a house. Brilliant!

So she basically speaks about how to STAY in connection and nothing about how to make a new connection when you've no friends elatives\partner. Lonely people are called lonely because they don't have those people in their lives... Yes maybe it's useful, but for some time in future when\if i'm going to have anyone, lol.

I couldn't even finish listening to this. She *has* close friends, a significant other, and family. What about those of us who are truly lonely, and don't want to be? No close friends, no partner, no close family members? I'd love to hear someone talk about the "cure for loneliness", when you've done everything you can think of to meet new people, when your heart is open wide and you don't have any fear of intimacy, yet true intimate relationships seem to evade you most of your life?

Lonely? Go out with your friends 😋❗ Hits the same as: Sad? Smile more ✌️🥰🤗

“The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself.” ― Mark Twain

Everyone in the comment section should become friends

"Someone you know closely"... Yeah, that's it. I'm not close to anyone, this is why I'm lonely

Strange, after the first few words I jumped to the comment section, something was wrong. Thanks so much for all the deep and sad and true comments, which prevented to watch this. I think this is not only a waste of time for someone lonely but so much worse.

This legit should have been called "How to Have Fun With Your Friends!!" Unreal.

Reminds me of when I told my mom I was depressed and she says “go exercise.” Or “just remember there’s people that have it worse off.” Like Oh thanks, you just cured my depression.

The problem is i dont have many people who see, hear and value me, and therefore, i dont have a connection with many people

"how to cure boredom when you are already popular and have friends and someone loves you...."

this is probably one of the top 10 worst ted talks

This video is like a fish teaching me how to climb a tree

The problem is i don't have a partner.... I don't have friends to talk with ... I don't have money to travel So That Didn't help

Suddenly I’m no longer feeling lonely....after reading the comments 🤣🤣🤣😭

Thanks for making me feel 100x more lonely

I have no one to make that "anchor of connection" thing... My relationship with my parents is screw up and The girl I like rejected me, It's hard to get a habit like that when no one wants to be with you, this is why I feel lonely.

The cure for loneliness, Baya Voce: "Don't be... I'm awesome, thank you"

Ah yea the good ol "putting on some Leggings and drinking rosé" after a national tragedy occurs

When the research paper is due at midnight so you just go off about your own personal trip to france instead of any actual resolution.

I’m more depressed after watching this than I was before. Monday nights on the couch by myself I guess. Sounds like this lady doesn’t know what lonely really is, when most people are their own anchor and we are sinking.

the comments helped me more than the video

Came here super depressed 3am at night. Thanks for all the tips that won't help anyone

It's the cheerleader / choreographed hand gestures for me! She really thinks she did that...lol, bless her heart!

Her version of loneliness is how a rich housewife gets lonely or feels lonely and have people to talk to.

This talk in a nutshell: "Look, I have friends, family and we cuddle a lot. You don't. See ya!"

*talks about a tragic incident that killed 80 peopl* her: and then me and my girlfriends just went back to our apartment and drank rose and talked and had a great time! ???

Soon as I heard she has a partner I said .....she doesn't know what loneliness is ...her answer is visit friends and family .....or loved ones which is non existent .....I don't even have anyone or anything to love ....this talk was just about keeping what you already got .....

Cure to loneliness = Have friends?

The cure of loneliness is much more complex than this, for people who have broken families and bad environments that does not accept diversity this is not the cure. Who cares if you can live for long but you have to live with social expectations like Japan has.

I feel a little less lonley after reading the comments... Im not the only one. We are lonley together. That Is kinda nice 🧡 I hope you have a great day today and I hope we all Find true, loving connections in our lives.

Where I feel lonely: 01) in a friend get together all of your friends talking about a massive story they only experienced which you never heard of, all you can do is smile when they laugh and listen like you are not a part of the crew. 02) When your school teacher say "pick up a friend and do this assignment" and you see all your friends has already taken a partner and nobody in your class approach to you and say " can you be my partner". All you can do is approach someone and ask to be your partner with an idle student. 03) When nobody wishes you or surprise you on your birthday. 04) When you see an empty desk right next to your friend and when you try to sit your friend say "this table is reserved to that guy" 05) When all of your friends sits on the dinner table and there is no enough chairs so you need to sit on a different table alone. 06) when you see in a social media group chat everyone tries to be offline or leaves the conversation after you send a simple message like "hi". 07)When you get roasted all the time when you try to join a conversation like they dont want you to be a part of them. 08) When you see in social media all your friends were having a great party or a trip and having fun which you never get informed and you question yourself "why i never get invited?" , "dont they want me to be part of their fun?", is it my looks that they dont like or my behavior?" 106

Girlfriends, that get together every Monday night? If you have such a circle of support that does not make you lonely. Try losing someone you love and you spend months and months alone without anyone knowing if you are dead or alive

Tedx Talk recruiting team: "We need someone to talk about how to deal with loneliness, let's look for someone that lives with her partner, belongs to a nice group of friends, is wealth enough to pay a travel to France and has been in a reality show."

You can tell she has practiced this performance MANY times over

Her, basically : Feeling lonely? Hang out with friends! It's like telling someone with asthma to just "breathe"