There always has to be a restoration of faith in The Straights - here examples of people being very okay Join this channel to get access to perks: / @jammidodger
When I came out as nonbinary to my granny and told her my new name she said "Oh honey, I was young in the 60s, I've seen everything. You identify as whatever makes you happy just don't do drugs."
Lol, I feel like I sometimes forget that my grandparents came of age in the 60's and were probably a lot more rebellious than I am lmao. Recently I needed to get a dress shortened for an occasion. I got it back from the seamstress and tried it on while grandma was at our house. When I put it on I realized the seamstress had cut it a bit shorter than I intended. My mom was like "I think it's too short, it's not formal enough", to which grandma replied "oh don't be such a prude, she's young, she can show a bit of leg" She wore her fair share of miniskirts in the 60's that's for sure lol
The male complimenting another male (regardless of sexuality) should be normalized as heck. Girls are so openly loving with other girls about complimenting them on anything. I once was in a public restroom alone (or so I thought) and was really enjoying my outfit that day. I decided to pose for a mirror selfie to save the photo because I just felt pretty, but then a girl walked out of the stall and we made eye contact. I immediately put my phone down and was so embarrassed but she immediately ran up to me and said “Girl, you better lift that phone back up to the mirror and take that photo because you look GORGEOUS!” I laughed and shyly took the photo and then we just both gushed about how pretty we thought the other was. I wish for men to be able to have that same experience. It’s so special and you really feel like you’re connecting with someone when you just say something kind to them just because you have the capacity too. MEN, this does NOT minimize your masculinity!! Lift up your fellow men!!
I know right. I always make a point of complementing boyfriends I have to make sure they know I care, but a guy complementing another guy is just so precious.
I had a straight friend in college who didn't know much about the LGBTQ community but he asked me questions and was super receptive when I explained. A guy in my class was very homophobic and started being more vocal about it, and while everyone else in my class ignored it because "he was just too nice and harmless", my straight friend confronted him and asked him why he thought that way and tried to explain to him how his vocal viewpoints are harmful and make others in our class feel inferior. It didn't make that guy change his behavior a ton, but the fact that ONE straight person in my class stood up for me and my fellow gays when others brushed it off as not a big deal made all the difference to me.
Sometimes they are. I have talked to a friend about questioning my gender and he's been really supportive. Later, I indirectly came out as nonbinary to other friend and he took it well, he said: "Nice, for me you will always be -my nickname-". I was so happy that day, love that man. It makes me feel a little more confident and restores my faith in humanity.
Omg srry I accidentally disliked- I think I switched it to liked! That’s an awesome story! My friend just came out as genderfluid and I hope I can make them feel as comfortable as they made you! :)
It's nice to see Jamie make a video on this topic. Most LGBT RU-vidrs only show the bad side of cis and straight folks. Videos like these show that even they can be nice and gives hope for a better future
My local friend group is totally straight and they were all so very kind and lovely when I came out to them as non-binary and bisexual after knowing most of them for almost 13 years. I thought they would have more problems with it but they are so kind. I’m glad that I can feel more like myself around them now. One friend started discussing with me about favorite video game wifes after my coming out and this was one of the most subtle but cute ways to show me his acceptance ❤️ I‘m happy for everyone that gets this kind of support from their loved ones ✨
Broke: Being able to satisfy your partner's pregnancy cravings when they want something that exists Woke: Being able to satisfy your partner's pregnancy cravings when they want something that hasn't been invented yet
He didn’t invent fettuccine al burro though. It’s a classic Italian dish that’s often used as a sick food, so I’m guessing her pregnancy was making her feel nauseous.
When i came out as a trans woman, my best friend, a cishet man, made it his personal crusade to make sure I'm never misgendered and deadnamed. He even corrects me when I do it to myself. He's single, ladies
I have a friend who always said called me "sister" and I called them "brother". They recently came out to me as non-binary and, while they said they don't mind the word "brother", I was afraid that it might bother them at some point. So in an attempt to find a gender neutral term, I started to call them "soul sibling" and they love it lmao
@@francescamoran7503 sadly a lot of people do that for lgbtq people too :( we’re not trying to make them sound like theyre not humans tho, its just many of them are really homophobic or transphobic which is why these feel really wholesome? sorry if this doesnt make sense! my mind is currently rambling a bit
@@Ruby-me9pr i understand your point, but it just doesn't feel right. "lgbtq people being okay is so healing" sounds right for you? why some people think that being straight and cisgender makes you homophobe (there is a lot of straights that are homophobes, ik, but I just don't like how people generalize everything.)
My friend (cis straight man) texted me and was like “I dunno how to phrase this right but my nephew is my niece.” His biggest concern was she be accepted during her transition and wouldn’t fall victim to the mental health issues that tend to plague the community.
my mom: "You know (deadname), your sister's ex? Uhm Apparently he's trans? Do I call her she now?? When do I start that...?" She wanted to get it right cause she never has been one to judge and is supportive of everyone when she can be.
that’s very sweet! also, looking for local lgbtq+ support groups, youth centers, and rec programs is a good place to start when it comes to supporting the mental health of lgbtq+ youth :-) i’m a queer social worker and i work at an lgbtq+ youth center and i have been brought to tears at times by the fiercely loving adults who bring their young people! also groups for supportive adults of lgbtq+ youth are real good because there’s a lot to learn and it can get really difficult and lonely especially if the young person is struggling with mental health or self-acceptance
That's the way I describe my beloved partner of 16 years: he never turned a hair when I came out to him, but replied, without defensiveness or anxiety, that he considers himself straight -- and we went on as if we'd merely revealed our pizza-topping preferences. He's the sort of ally who accepts one's sexuality as part of one's totality as a person: one's being rainbow doesn't dissuade him from a potential friendship, though I've seen him gracefully turn away both women and men who've come on to him. (FTR, he isn't one for touching anyone, and is asexual to my [mildly frustrated] demisexual; regardless, neither of us can [or wants to] conceive of a future without the other by his side.)
Tagging onto this, Wordle is the ultimate straight love story. The guy created it for his wife and she loved it so much she shared it with her family who then said they should make it public. Super thoughtful programmer right there
I think that rubber gloves have a similar story - the inventors wife was a nurse and she had chapped hands from washing her hands so much, so he invented rubber gloves to protect her hands!
The height stereotype is so annoying. Here in Jordan, whenever they take photographs of the royal family, they make the queen crouch a little bit so she appears shorter than the king (she's taller than him) and it's so ridiculous.
Lol what? Is this a patriarchal structural thing, as in the Queen can’t be taller than the King because the King is supposed to be above her? Or is this just an ego thing, like the King feels so emasculated that he’s shorter that he has her crouch in photos. Both are dumb, by the second one would just be embarrassing, especially considering everyone knows they’re doing it.
Here in Algeria I see couples with the woman being taller than the man(and short men in general) and everyone considers that a normal thing(bc it is) The idea that a man should always be bigger than the woman and the woman smaller is so weird and kinda unappealing tbh😓😓😓😓
I have a story about my parents, since we're talking about the straights: They like to try a freestyle rap cause they're big fans of Wild N' Out. He'll give her a word and she'll try and free style it. They both fail but are funny regardless
I remember my dad and I were walking through the park, and this old lady came up to me, and complimented me because she loved my shirt. My dad kept talking with her, and she said “She’s such a beautiful girl” and my dad said: “No, he’s a handsome boy”. And then she goes “Ah, yes, a handsome boy” I cried from euphoria later that day
Hi Jamie - I wanted to tell you a story! My son is 7, we were talking about his day on our way home from school and he mentioned a teacher. "Yeah and Mr...MISS Smith said we could do that. Miss Smith changed her name!" I was curious and asked what Miss Smith used to be called and he said "Mr Smith! He used to be a boy and now he's a girl!" He was very matter of fact, not at all upset and had an "it is what it is" attitude. Some people could learn a lot from our children!!
I will never forget one time we went on a short trip with my grandparents when I was about 15. In my country we have the traditional "lovers' day" on the 1st May (though it's gotten mostly taken over by Valentine's day and you rarely see anyone mention 1st May) And on our way back from the trip grandpa noticed a blooming cherry tree by the road and, remembering it's the 1st May, he stopped the car and took grandma outside just to kiss her under that tree, and only after that they returned to the car to continue our way back home, giggling like two lovesick teenagers. They had been keeping this tradition for almost 50 years ever since they started dating as teens. Grandpa died three years ago and he was a prime example of the classic gentleman how it's supposed to be, gentle, polite, patient, loving to his wife and family, and respectful to everyone I miss him so much
In my country the 1st May is celebrated as the lovers day and it is celebrated by kissing your loved one under a cherry blossom tree 💖 I wish it won't go away
A couple months ago, my aunt (she's in her late 60's) randomly called me. We don't talk that much just me and her, but I decided to answer the call in case it was an emergency. She, instead, proceeded to ask me a bunch of questions she had about how to properly use enby pronouns. Now, I shout her out wherever I can. Thanks for the questions aunty Alice 😊
After both my cousin and I coming out as trans, our aunt sent our grandparents a book about LGBT people and my grandparents have been reading about it and are taking the time to learn and it's amazing!
@@LordGarlicBread it existed, maybe they were not murdered but forced to use right hand in schools no matter what Because of that, my grandma is left handed but can only write with her right hand
@@billcipher8645 Yeah I know. One of my uncles was left handed but his parents hated it. Whenever they saw him using his left hand it seemed like a sign of disrespect (because it was Pakistan) and they would beat him
Is it like that special in some countries? I live in Germany, I myself am not left-handed, but in every Kindergarten, in every school there's scissors for lefties...?
That story of the supportive grandma reminds me of my own late grandma. I never came out to her, but she often talked about her childhood (or teenage) friend who was gay - this was in the 1920-1930s - with nothing but acceptance and kindness. She grew up and lived most of her life in a tiny rural village, and not in the most accepting of areas, and her own life wasn't the easiest, but she often mentioned that she wanted to always support those who were vulnerable. There have always been people who are accepting and loving, it's not something the younger generations came up with.
She sounds like she was great, my great uncle was gay and it was never a problem for anyone (well, apart from my mum thinking I’d be surprised when they got married. They both worked in the theatre and Uncle John was so camp it was beyond parody.) the fact that my great uncle and his partner had no problem with my “operating” on them as a kid is a testament to their endless patience, I would “knock them” out by hitting them on the head with the hammer to test reflexes 😂.
Old people can surprise you. I was raised in a little village in the middle of nowhere and there is a gay couple there that are now in their 80's. People called them "the brothers" but everyone always new they are a couple. It's just like a secret that everyone knows. In my generation we had a few boys that are gay and people just accepted them, some more then others, but no one was ever mean to them.
Aww. This reminds me of my own late grandma I never got to come out to. The closest we got was her seeing me looking at men’s pants and asking about it. When I told her I like wearing men’s pants, she took me to the clearance section to get a better deal. It’s the little things that make the biggest impact sometimes.
@@LadyNikitaShark "the brothers" sounds like something I would write about if I could write. a rich girl would come to the town looking for aa husband to take over her dads company she would make friends with this girl who is like the gossip queen of the town boarding school and "the brothers" have an adopted son that is the most attractive boy in the town another girl Victoria is taking the gossip queen thrown so miss rich girl and lady gossip queen team up to get "the brothers" son to falling love with rich girl but it turns out he is Aromantic and gossip queen and rich girl get married instead.
A little story as far as grandmas go: When I first came out 4 years ago, I was really worried about one of my grandma's reactions since she's more conservative than the rest of my family, but she ended up okay with it, just a bit confused. She struggled more with my name and pronouns than other family members but I could tell she was trying and that's what matters so I was very happy with her response. Fast forward to last November when my family visited her for the first time in a while (living very far away). She had no problems with my name and pronouns which was already great, but then it went further. We were talking about me finally trying to learn to ride a bike (I failed to get the hang of it when I was younger, never got away from training wheels) and how the bike was too big for me so I couldn't sit on the seat. She then basically says- in much more polite language- to be careful not to let the bar hit me in the balls. I thought nothing of it since I actually *had* gotten hit between the legs and it really hurt so still good advice, just felt natural. A bit later, she suddenly realizes, "I forgot you were trans!" That was the biggest wave of euphoria honestly, I wish my mom hasn't chastised her for mentioning it (didn't have the guts to argue with my mom and start a fight). It's honestly the best feeling when someone- especially someone who watched me grow up- forgets I'm not a cis guy because it shows both how thoroughly male I look, and also proves how fully the person accepts me as male, because that means they're not thinking of me as a guy who used to be a girl, or like, semi a guy, I'm just a regular guy to the person who forgot I wasn't assigned as such at birth and that's exactly what I want. Side note, I've finally started letting myself admit to myself that I've got a more feminine side. I've never really approached the subject even in my head because I was scared if I let myself be a bit feminine then that'd mean I wasn't really trans or wasn't really fully a guy. But I'm very sure I want to be perceived as male... Just maybe sometimes as a feminine male. When I move out from my parents' (while they do support my transition, they clearly believe in "men looking like men", so I don't think they'd understand) I intend to explore that side of my self expression when I can afford it. I've finally let both my partner (who I'll be living with when I move out) and my best friend (who's only 15 minutes away from them) know, and it's such a relief to have people support me dressing a little more feminine sometimes (not fully crossdressing or anything though) while still recognizing me 100% as a guy. I'm absolutely comfortable in my fully masc clothes, I just want to expand from there on days where I'm not feeling dysphoric or needing to look particularly professional or anything. I've always said I support men presenting more feminine if they want and that doesn't make them a woman, so I guess I'm about ready to be the change I want to see!
Okay, I know I'm pretty late, but thank you so much for sharing!! This comment was genuinely so wholesome-! Even though it's just words on a screen I physically smiled, I'm really happy for you and I wish you all the best :)
When I came out as trans my papaw was 88 years old and he was the MOST supportive of everyone in my life. He was the first to call me Leo, to call me he/him, to call me his grandson. He was also the oldest AND the most liberal in my family. Before Donald Trump got elected, he told us he would NEVER vote for a man like him because he fought in a war against a man with very similar views and opinions during WWII. My papaw was an amazing man and I will always look up to him and want to be like him ❤
@Silent do you really not have anything better to do than just go around on RU-vid and post rude comments towards people you don't actually know? Both Jamie and I are men, because that's the gender we identify as. Just because some random person online says they don't think either of us are doesn't mean we all the sudden are going to just go "oops! We were wrong!" No one can decide who another person is. Please stop trying, it's not gonna work.
@@red_weed but in the story his grandpa knows about Donald trump running for office. So he can’t be that old. Unless his grandpa is currently 100, the story doesn’t make sense. And if grandpa was currently 100, he probably would have led with that info!
Haha one of my grandmas is homophobic, and the other isn’t. The one that’s not has been hiding the fact that my sister’s lesbian and my brother likes to wear hoop earrings(the homophobic grandma has something against boys wearing earrings for some reason). She went shopping with him to get clip-on ones so the other grandma wouldn’t see if he got his ears pierced. He is really young but has a great sense of style
I was in a line to buy some pretzels once and the girl in front of me was heccin stunning. She looked like a fairy. She turned around and shyly told me she liked my hair and of course I blushed. I felt like she was hitting on me a little bit and I was so flattered, even though I’m into guys. So I told her she was pretty and I think we both left happier that day. People should just be nice and honest regardless of sexuality
The thing I heard with Alfredo was his wife had such severe nausea because of the pregnancy that she was losing weight and refusing food so he tried feeding her buttered noodles with cheese and she was willing to eat it because it was so palatable.
In Italy, pasta al burro (pasta + butter + grated parmesan) is indeed what you would eat while sick, because it's so light. We call it "mangiare in bianco" (to eat white)
The nail varnish one reminded me of a strange conversation with my family. My nephew saw my sister painting her nails red and he wanted his nails done too. My mum and sister told him he couldn’t have red nails like mommy. I assumed it was because he’s a boy and was going to object, but then they said he could choose a pastel or sheer varnish because those are more age appropriate. I’m still not sure why my family insists on considering certain colours of nail polish inherently sexually coded, but at least the rule is being applied evenly regardless of gender
I feel like the "red nails are sexually coded" thing is a byproduct of Hollywood and the like. It's quite often that the aggressively sexual women (or hookers, or the villainess) are shown as having red nails, often long and/or pointed. Meanwhile, heroines/good girl stereotypes have neat, trimmed, natural or lightly colored nails. Just like the way that red lipstick is often associated with more amoral or immoral characters. As a result, this has gotten coded into a belief that only someone more mature should wear red lipstick/nail varnish, and that until you reach whatever indeterminate age milestone, you should stick to the "good girl" colors. This is the only explanation I can conceive for it, at least. I know I heard the same thing up until I'd graduated high school, which was shortly before I found out that purple nail polish existed (it wasn't something I can recall being able to find until the 2000s, and it certainly wasn't a common thing when I was a teenager in the 90s!). After that came just about every other shade in the rainbow, and I think my mother gave up at that point in trying to tell me why I shouldn't wear this-or-that color. Hilariously, I didn't even actually wear red nail polish until I started working at a theme park, where the dress code when I was hired was so draconian that you could only wear French nails or non-glittery, non-neon, non-metallic nail polish in "pink, red, or your skin tone."
I thought my mom was the only one with the red nails thingy Red nails & lipstick where absolutely taboo when I started wearing makeup She'd have a mental breakdown about how I look like a hooker (mind you I was like twelve when it started and just wanted to experiment with what I saw older girls wearing and stuff) every single time I'd paint my nails red for years She also straight up told me I wasn't allowed to buy red lipstick for the same reason It got less tho when I started dressing in alternative fashion Mostly because she was terrified of my style but hey a win is a win And it stopped completely when she finally realized she had no control over what I do
OH MY GOD THE LEFT HANDED SCISSORS EXPERIENCE IS ABSOLUTELY A THING!!! When I got my pair, it was mind blowing. I swear I've said those same things, holy smokes that is so so real. 🤣 VALIDATION!
Can you please explain what makes them left handed? I’m left handed and have had no problem using regular scissors. My brain can’t comprehend what the difference would be and it always confused me haha
@@probably_notbob5794 when you close scissors, you push a bit with your thumb in the direction away from your palm, and that pushes the blades closer together so they can actually cut things. Right-handed and left-handed scissors are different in that they are designed with a certain direction of thumb pushing in mind. Hope that helps! You can technically use right-handed scissors with your left hand, but instead of pushing with your thumb you have to pull or else the scissors won't be able to cut anything. It takes some getting used to though and is definitely not intuitive
@@probably_notbob5794 yeah for sure! :) EDIT: I didn't realize another lefty answered your question already, so feel free to ignore this reply. *palm to forehead* It's a similar answer, but I it would hurt my heart to erase it all, so it's staying. It's basically how the handle is molded, the crevices on a right handed handle aren't curved in such a way for fit a left hand, so we've just gotten used to resting our thumbs on a lump or mound of molding rather than a cradle for the thumb. You'd definitely feel the difference holding a left handed molded handle. On top of that the blades are flipped so, right handed scissors in left hands have the inner blade as the blade that moves up while the other moves down, but when made for left hands, the inner blade goes down and is the one that has the slight angled edge, with the other one going up this allows us to more clearly see where we are cutting because the inner blade is no longer obstructing our sight line. We've all just figured out our own way of getting around these things, and it becomes normal to us, but then when you get a left handed handle, you realize just how many work arounds your brain has had to do to cut a straight edge! XD At least, that's the experience I've had. It's like you didn't know what you were missing until you do. Nice meeting a fellow lefty! Hope you are well!
Had to pause 3 minutes in because I'm crying. I've been supportive of my youngest child's gender evolution since they came out at age 7. They are now 11. But I feel like the worlds worst parent because it took me YEARS to realize my ambidextrous child may do better with left-handed scissors. Excuse me while I put in an Amazon order.
@LuqmanGamer sure, 7 is pretty young, but it's an age where the first gender norms are being introduced and reinforced by schoolmates/teachers/etc. and it's normal to question whether you belong to some predetermined category or not
@@solar0wind yeah, I've heard a lot of trans people talking about feeling wrong at ages as young as 4 or 5. I was referring more to the first big person vs world conflict in life, which is usually school.
My parents are the best straights :) My mom always calls her kitchen “the restaurant” and my dad always says “it’d be weird if I hugged the chef in other restaurants” and they always tell me and my sister that they’ll accept us no matter what or who we are, and there always asking me about sexuality’s when they hear about them so they can learn more about them to make sure they’re accepting and understanding everybody :D
I don’t remember this story, but my mom told me about it a couple months ago. I was watching Steven Universe, and two of the characters, Ruby and Sapphire kissed. I grew up in a entirely straight family, and I hadn’t been exposed to LGBTQ+ yet, so I asked my mom “Why are they kissing? Aren’t they both girls?” And my mom replies “They are! They’re kissing because they love each other.” And my response to that was “Oh. Okay!” Presently, my mom will tease me and ask if I have a crush, and she’ll say “Is there any cute guy or girl in your life?” And I’ll get alllll embarrassed and go “nOoOo mom.” I appreciate her lol.
Slightly unrelated BUT: My biology teacher was talking about reproduction (thank god not human reproduction yet because I have two mums and its always awkward) but she said that being trans was a whole different thing but still really important and it made me feel so happy :)
My grandma has just started making efforts to be supportive. Today she used the word cisgender for the first time to describe herself and she called my trans boyfriend my boyfriend and he/him pronouns and it shocked me to death. She's the only one in my family who makes an effort. She has started calling me her grandson and he/ him pronouns and correcting my family who always messes stuff up.
Storytime: I was in college studying in a very dude-heavy field, and shared most of my classes with a group of younger guys who radiated a lot of frat boy energy. One day during our labs they were discussing a mutual friend that they all knew was gay but wasn't out yet. They all kinda made a pact that, while they weren't going to pressure him to come out, they were going to create an environment that would make him feel safe enough to come out because "He's been there for us when we were having a rough time in life, now it's our turn to be there for him." Guys it took this bi woman a hot minute not to cry in front of them, I was so moved.
The problem with combined shampoo and conditioner is, that they counteract each other. The shampoo is made to de- grease the scalp (and hair close to it, as the lengths mostly aren't greasy) and the conditioner is supposed to make the hair more shiny and smooth. Using conditioner on the scalp makes it "grease-up" faster. The lengths of hair are actually dead material, conditioner lets them seem more healthy and helps to de-tangle them. :-)
@@OriginalCreatorSama I'm not a chemistry expert but the way it was explained to me by one the conditioner is a bit "oily" so that it makes your hair shiny
Everyone here is someone, everyone here has value, everyone here has worth and everyone here is important. I'm so proud of you for making it this far in life, I'm proud of how strong you are and I'm proud of you for getting up today as I know how hard it is. Don't forget that you are loved and appreciated by so many.
Prickly_Cactus, you are an absolute beacon of all that is wholesome and loving. 🥰 Thank you for being you. Thank you for sharing this encouragement, that truly lifted my spirits today. You are awesome, loved, and so important. 💞 Thank you from all of us reading your words.
My husband and I are too cute but the only time I had a tweet go viral it was when I asked him to pick up “some tortillas” at the store and he bought like 100 so I’m sure people think I’m mad at him a lot. Really he’s just an adorable doof.
I might just be a weird little Latina, but 100 tortillas sounds about right for "some tortillas" to me. They're delicious and versatile...and an average-sized pack of 20-ish of them seldom lasts my fiance and me more than perhaps 2 meals, as a result.
I have my pronouns on my desk at work. They've been there since day one. My coworker one day calls me over to his desk and says he understood me using male pronouns and proceeded to ask what the "they" part meant and said he tried Googling before asking me but fell down a weird rabbit hole. I explained and he thanked me for telling him.
@@disableddragonborn I'll be honest, I didn't really ask but whatever rabbit hole it was didn't give him solid answers so thus why he asked me directly
Hi all, hope you’re all well: and if you’re not, I wanna send positive vibes to you and hope that if you’re in a bad situation rn that things improve for you and you soon meet people who love you for who you are: individuality and difference is what makes the world a great place. Be you and be proud of it, sending you all positivity and love ❤️
My husband recently came out as trans. His own family (mostly, his aunt is cool) won't accept him. Mine does. They slip up a lot, but they're trying. They told a family friend "I don't really understand it, but I love David (me), and I love Lee. And that's enough."
I'm not trans, but my partner is nb. I was studying with a classmate and I used they/them in a conversation, so she asked me about what that meant and what nonbinary means. So I was able to tell her the basics and she was so grateful! It turned into a 30 minute conversation and she was genuinely interested, asking follow-up questions to make sure she understood correctly.
As a Cis het straight dude all of these are my goals in life 🥺 I just want the cheesiest and gratest romance ever! And I want to be a part of the “okay straight” club!
I'll compliment you, Jamie! You and your channel are really really wholesome! Over your channel I found the label "ace", and since then I researched it a bunch. I finally know why I never felt this whole sexual attraction thing and I realised that I'm not broken and don't need to be fixed. So much thanks for this!
As a cis-straight person, Imma be real, I adore y'all. I genuinely wish everyone from the lgbt community the best, and I wish more people would be accepting towards you guys. Personally, I have a cousin the is bi, and I love that girl, she's like my big sister and I don't know what tf I would do without her. Don't let anybody tell you that you don't deserve love and/or support because of your gender identity or sexuality, not even yourselves.
I’m a straight cisgender woman and have been watching your content for years now. I want to thank you sincerely for shedding light on lgbtq and especially trans issues. It’s helped me become a better ally, and in turn, help make some positive change around my community. You’re precious and beautiful and what you’re doing is very important. Take care and thank you so much!
This is off topic but my mom yesterday told me the words I've been waiting for her to say for years. She told me "you aren't going to hell for being gay" And honestly I can tell she is progressing in understanding my feelings of being bisexual and our community in general. She is an okay straight.
As someone who struggles with generalized anxiety and grew up in a macho environment, my husband helped me learn that it’s okay to not be okay, and I think I’m a lot more okay than I would be without him. I hope keeping his life interesting is a fair exchange. ^^;
6:06 - So somebody thanked me recently for putting "she or they" in my email sign-off, and I felt compelled to give this whole story about how I'd thought about this for ages and finally went with that to signal that even though I'm not NB neutral forms of address are 100% OK. Only to then say to myself: "Wait. Does the fact that it took me TWO YEARS to pick what pronouns to put on my email because I could not bring myself to just put she/her, and the fact that, while I've always considered myself a woman in the world as it exists, I wish with increasing frequency that the concept of gender had never been invented in the first place... mean something? Kind of like how I could never bring myself to use the word 'straight' in connection with myself even though I liked guys turned out to mean something?" I'm still not sure, honestly. But it does make me feel better to realize that "woman or neither" might actually be the best way to describe how I feel about my gender.
Yay! So many things make more sense in hindsight. Reflecting these things and learning more about yourself is always a good thing in my opinion, but don't worry about it too much either! As long as you're comfortable that's great! The rest will figure itself out in time. You're a great person and i hope you'll have a lovely day 💜
@Silent Everybody probably has to care about pronouns. They are important part of our language and knowing how to refer to somebody is basic knowledge if you want to talk with people
@Silent In my native tongue (Indo) we only have one third-person singular pronoun but I still care about respecting pronouns because I want to refer to someone the right way. It's not hard to understand.
9:33 helps me stay feeling valid and okay with myself , bc I love amazing woman’s clothes, on people. I thought that if I liked how girl clothes looked, it meant I’m not a man. But I’ve been able to separate this and understand: what my eyes say look good, doesn’t mean it’s supposed to belong on my person. We can all tell that there is a clear difference between what we think looks good, and what you want yourself to look like.
I remember when I came out as genderfluid and bisexual to my straight friend last year he and I are both turning 16 this year which marks our friendship of 5 years. I'll never forget when he told me that I'll always be the same person he met when we were 11. Since then I've been helping him understand more abt the lgbtq community and he even dropped a trans friend of his who was homophobic towards others and even called herself a slur. I'm very proud of my friend :D
i agree ur friend should definitely drop said friend because of the homophobia. but if said friend is trans herself, what's the issue with her calling herself a slur? it would be reclaiming at that point right?
@@sophievande22 Oh well thats fine if she didn't mind it, me personally I wouldn't but thats her thing. Also I'm not entirely sure about the whole reclaiming thing since I've never seen another say Lesbian refer to herself as a DiK3 mostly because I'd assume it makes said person uncomfortable but you have a point perhaps I should've thought that bit through more
@Silent trans person: is labeled as their gender on every legal document, has had both top and bottom surgery, has a feminine/masculine voice, is on hrt transphobes: nope still a-
Every time you talk about Shaaba your face lights up and you are probably the most wholesome couple on the internet. I love you, both of you. Never change.
for the person that was asking ab "he/they, she/they" pronouns, i think the person answered incorrectly. though they were correct on how they are used, your gender does not determine your pronouns. you can be cis and use he/they or she/they pronouns, you can be a boy and use she/they pronouns, you can be a girl and use he/they pronouns. remember that gender≠pronouns and that anyone can use any pronouns they like (as long as they are respectful)
Your smile talking about Shaaba makes me happy, I hope I meet someone who smiles like that when talking about me some day. Side note cheddar goldfish are one of only a very small list of foods I liked as a toddler that I still love to this day, I love it more than popcorn.
I met this cishet guy the other day and he knew pretty much nothing about trans/nonbinary stuff so when we were getting to know each other and I mentioned my pronouns are they/xe/it, his immediate reaction was to tell me that he didn't want to be disrespectful but didn't know the xe pronoun or how to use it so we talked about it until he got it and he told me he'll make sure to use all 3 for me to be as respectful as possible... safe to say he's an okay straight
The left handed scissors is an example of something so small meaning SO much to someone else, it might seem stupid to you but it can literally send someone else into tears of joy. That story was absolutely beautiful 💕
6:06 Yess I remember when I was first learning about nonbinary/genderfluid people and pronouns I tripped up on this all the time. I would find a way to avoid using any pronouns at all.
I'm genderfluid and mess up my own pronouns sometimes, just goes to show you that we don't inherently adapt straight away so obviously we don't generally stress when others are learning too!
I am a Cis woman and I love watching videos like Jamie’s to learn more about how people who are LGBTQ+ feel. I already learned a lot, not because I never cared about other peoples rights, I always had friends from the community and I never felt like they were any different, but because it’s not me I don’t understand all the layers of feelings they feel or also terms they use. I want to give my knowledge on to my children hoping it will be a better world for all of us in the future.
5:43 just wanted to add that I go by he/him, but am also fine with being called they/them singularly. I am (probably [& this could change]) cis, but usually when someone goes by he/they or she/they, they're not.
As some already stated, it depends The most important thing is how YOU want to label yourself if you want any label at all Remember that it can change through your life and that's absolutely okay! Good luck on your journey
Back in high school I used to paint my nails. According to my mom “guys don’t wear nail polish”. Some guys don’t you’re right mom. But as The One I can do what I want because I decided that.
1:28 I have a cousin who came out as trans a little while before I did. I have this birthday card I got from my great aunt (that cousin's grandma) that had my cousin's deadname crossed out and "Finn," his new name, was written. I carry that card in the pocket of my favorite jacket, it's been there for four years now. People try. They make mistakes sometimes, but if they love you. they'll try.
I came out as trans to my grandma a few years ago and she was pretty much like “yeah I figured”. She’s been one of my biggest supporters since the start of my transition, and almost every time I speak to her she goes off on a whole mini speech about how proud she is of me and it just makes me wanna cry every time ;;-;;
I’m a teacher, and I have some non binary and gender fluid students. A couple of my students use he/they or she/they pronouns. I always use they/them pronouns for those kids, especially if they come up in discussion with other faculty because as a group of adults in the community we are very bad at being sensitive to trans kids (I teach in a single sex environment) I know that this is not the best place to ask for advice, but if anyone who uses multiple pronouns wants to chime in, I’d appreciate knowing if my using they/them all the time for students who are out at school as non binary is the right choice. A lot of my colleagues seem to view “he/they” as an excuse to willfully ignore the student’s gender identity and exclusively use “he,” and I am coming from a place of wanting to create a safe and inclusive environment for all our students.
Hi! I use he/they pronouns, and I personally don’t really mind which ever one people use for me, but like was said in the video, I prefer he/him pronouns, so I put it first on my list. But honestly, most people would call the person by the regular pronouns anyway, so I always appreciate being called they. Maybe ask about preferences, but I think you’re doing fine by calling them they/them!
It depends on the person. I go by he/she/they and I think they/them is the best option in case you don't want to misgender someone but it's all up to the individual! Since you are sensible about it and want to make students comfortable I think it's enough as you are open to their requests
@Silent if you think that way that question obviously wasn't towards you, please give room to people who use multiple pronouns to answer without being patronising towards them, thank you
It's really great that you're trying to make sure school is safe and inclusive for all the students. I don't use multiple pronouns but I have a few friends who do and it's nice to know there are teachers like you looking out for people like them.
Been going through a rough time lately, but the sheer positivity and joy shown through your videos has done wonders to bring my happiness up! Thanks for the great content Jammi 🥰
my grandma is starting to get the hang of they/them pronouns after talking with my friends and her friends kids. she’s a bit behind the times but she’ll definitely do her best for others. it’s what she’s always done!
my aunt also talked to me a bit about figuring out who you are. sometimes it takes a lot of time to figure out your sexuality and identity. she thinks we’re trying to figure it out too fast, but she’s right about one thing: take your time. go slow. you know yourself better than anyone else knows you.
Shoutout to all the boyfriends/husbands who allow their girlfriends/wives to drag them through the makeup, hair and nails, and/or clothing aisles at the store. You have a lot of patience my dudes. I’m not saying this because my boyfriend did that for me, I’m saying that because I had to be the boyfriend (except not a boy, but you know)
I’m a fairly straight person and tbh this video makes me really happy to know I’m doing the right things to support my trans friends. I had two in Highschool who both were born feminine but are now masculine, seeing them now that I’m in college 4 years later just makes me so happy. They’re both such sweet guys and honestly I don’t care what gender they are, both are absolutely hilarious and I’m so lucky to have them as friends. This video about made my afternoon, so I’m glad it showed up on my Recommended, have my sub! Hope to see more wholesome content like this, and have a new channel in my repertoire!
Jaimeeeee!!!!! You look so gooooood!!! Your transition is so good, you look like you are really settling into your masculine looks/vibe/experience. I’m not sure if it’s ever a “done” thing, but you look so naturally manly in a way that really seems so whole. I love your love, you channel and that you are still out here in these RU-vid streets being a hottie and teacher and excellent partner and all of it. I am so happy seeing you have and give love, especially to the divine and gorgeous brown babe Shaba. Y’all are adorable together and a force to be reckoned with.
Hey you yes you remember to take care of yourself gosh darn it, you are always valid, and I love you and care about you so please take care of yourself 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗
Was feeling down and spotted this video in my recommended videos. So glad I clicked on it because it made me feel all warm and fuzzy inside!! Thank you so much, you have a really friendly personality 🥰
I haven't even watched this yet and I want to say that it makes me feel warm and fuzzy that you do positive and WTF videos on the straights. I lived closeted in *very* straight society for a long time so it still feels good to know that it's recognized that some of them are pretty ok because, you know, they need support to recognize where they are actually doing well and having healthy relationships.
I love the one with the guy wanting to learn! It's nice to know I'm not the only one who still needs to ask questions. My partner is fluid and they're really supportive when I want to discuss an LGBT related topic. They're helping me unlearn and relearn so many things.
Conditioning hair, like washing hair, depends on what kind of hair you have. Every other day is ideal for a LOT of people, but certain hair types require more frequent or less frequent washing + conditioning, and lots of people also just do it every day despite every other day being better. -shrug-
This is true as generally tight, coily hair tends to be dryer and doesn't need to be washed as often or it can get dried out and straight hair tends to be oilier and needs more washing as it can get greasy easily. Of course, there are exceptions, but people can see what is better for their hair with experimentation.
I don't wash my hair more than twice a week so I condition every time. That's a personal preference though, as my hair gets super oily when I overwash it. And I'm one of the weird ones that conditions _before_ I shampoo, and have a leave-in conditioner for afterwards if I need it.
@@kadynisapanda That's actually a step called pre-pooing or pre-shampooing and can be helpful if shampoo strips your hair too much. Honestly though, I don't know your hair type, but you should be applying a regular conditioner after shampooing as it's meant to replace what the shampoo stripped, then you can apply your leave-in imo.
I work in mental health, and am a gay man. since coming out at work I have now hadtwo trans clients. I was rewarded by allowing the one who was mtf to sign her name on something official for the fist time. She was so confused when I suggested and then insisted.
Somethimes, when I feel sad, the thing that makes me start laughing out loud joyously the MOST is something small and unnoticeable like at 5:15 Thank you so very much, Jamie!! 💖
The supportive grandma one made me so happy. I recently came out to my family on accident, and it brings so much joy to know that this is the kind if thing my wonderful grandma is doing.
