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EP 28 - Not for the Self + Managing Your Expectations of a Partner
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Another week, another update from Jess that she still hasn't done that one thing she's been putting off at work. Not to worry - what she isn't accomplishing in terms of tedi tasks, Caroline makes up for by testing her spelling, as the two drift through stories of middle school spelling bees, high school burnout, and eventually, bible camp shame.
Getting hit on when you’re in a relationship hits different, and also leads to a pretty unwinnable set of choices - come off bitchy, or lead someone on. Why must smiling and making eye contact be seen as such a virtue! Not only that, but apparently being a great conversationalist can be a hindrance to your dating life - at least it works for podcasting. Caroline asserts that there's a clear imbalance in what men and women generally expect from their partners today, and Jess has consulting jargon to fix it all.
To close out the episode: some Instagram reels Jess has watched recently, gaslighting in the beauty industry, and a “not a personality” we’re both guilty of. So crazy that we almost forgot there is no self.
Caroline also mentioned this podcast episode, for any kooks interested in a deeper dive on "clean beauty": Naked Beauty Podcast: Debunking Beauty Myths, Rethinking “Clean” Skincare, and Finding the Perfect SPF; featuring Charlotte Palermino of Dieux Skin.
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This episode was edited by none other than our prince, Abi Newhouse.
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Contents of this Video
00:00 - Intro
00:20 - tedious!
6:10 - How do you spell
10:10 - This happens as SOON as you get in a relationship
17:00 - rock and a hard place
22:50 - the hottest kid at bible camp
30:45 - managing expectations in your relationship
43:00 - Holy mackerel!
47:40 - the most embarrassing thing you can do
51:00 - can you trust the beauty industry?
58:40 - Caroline is guilty of this.
1:05:20 - Google search history
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Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA
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@lindsaymorrison6374 Год назад

One of my favorite poem snippets from Warsan Shire: "My alone tastes so good, I'll only have you if you're sweeter than my solitude." Did I have a better time than I would have alone or than with any okay stranger? That's the bar. Shouldn't seem high, yet it is.

@Not4EveryonePod Год назад

Absolutely adore this quote ❤ my alone taste so freakin delicious

@eaw5247 11 месяцев назад

😊😊😮😅

@eaw5247 11 месяцев назад

😊

@AleenaLearner 3 месяца назад

That's totally reasonable and I agree to an extent, buy can you imagine it from the perspective of a nerd man with basic salary?

@este90S Год назад

I'll show you a cool grandpa!! My grandpa says holy mackerel at least once a month, he's an 82 yr old working class english man. Fills me with joy every time he says it.

@thepollenhater Год назад

I love how Jess's background is all neat and simple and Caroline's is pure chaos with a mirror reflecting every messy corner

@AleenaLearner 3 месяца назад

I actually thought it's her sister lol

@beckyoak Год назад

You're killing me 😂😂😂😂 I am old people!! At 48... I say "holy mackerel" cuz I'm a teacher and I can't say "holy fuck" in class 🤷🏻‍♀️. Desperate times call for old people expressions.

@kagey7591 Год назад

First, and most important, you two lovely humans are wise beyond your years! You are both learning and processing things I wasn't able to get to until I was 50 or beyond (65 now). It gives me hope to know there are folks like you in the world. So, so much I wish I could comment on in this episode, but it would turn into a novella. The one thing I'll choose is the gym dilemma when Caroline felt like there were only two options to the man "who seemed like a nice guy" at the gym who smiled at her. Either smile back or look like a bitch by looking away. The only reason this stuck out to me so much is that my therapist has regularly pointed out the fact that I sometimes paint myself into a corner with my black and white thinking. Believing I have one of only two choices. In the gym situation, my therapist would likely say, "But what if there's more than two options? You're creative ... what else could you do?" In this case, I might nod at the guy ... that nod that isn't really a nod that guys give each other where they just lift their head slightly ... a quick nod that says, I see you, I see you smiled, but I'm not interested. Because if I were interested, I'd smile back. None of us owes anyone a smile. I don't care if you choose to smile at me til the cows come home, I am not obligated to smile back. And finally, this discussion was also a perfect example of Caroline's big heart: not wanting to hurt a stranger, concerned his pride might be hurt, and even assuming he seemed like a good guy ... when, who knows, maybe he's a Ted Bundy in the making. And *finally* finally, when y'all said Nut for Everyone, I immediately saw Oprah, yelling, "*You* get a nut, and *you* get a nut..." ad infinitum. 😂

@selah5792 Год назад

It was the expectations 30 years ago- equal partner , best friend, communication etc.. - how we see and understand 30 years ago has been mediated beyond recognition. 4r.

@Paul_ABC Год назад

"You can't prove it to yourself in thinking" This is SO FUCKING RESONANT. Your description is perfect. The War of Art is an excellent short, punchy and inspiring book on this - capturing this experience as "the resistance". Occasionally hokey but utterly worth it for me.

@MeanderingMeagan4 Год назад

I won my class spelling bee in 5th grade, and every class winner then had to spell their winning word in front of the whole school. My word? dandruff.

@MeanderingMeagan4 Год назад

This episode had perfect timing...I should plan to re-listen to the dating/expectations section...coming out of a relationship from 21-27, being a newborn baby in the adult dating scene...I have so much to learn and also feel entirely underprepared! Strap in, my lil heart!

@madilaughlin6845 3 месяца назад

Omg. Agreed on the guys clocking once taken. I was single and didn’t get a single glance. I got into a committed relationship, flocks. The most irritating occurrence of the human existence

@AleenaLearner 3 месяца назад

Yeah, both ways really. This one is looking at her phone, that one looks stressed so I better not bother her... Oh! She looks chill!

@cynthiac.castellano5139 5 месяцев назад

When you’re single or lonely the dudes won’t approach you. When you’re in a happy relationship, guys feel it in your aura. They’re looking for a happy lady so they can suck it out of her like little vampires 🧛‍♂️ 😂 A lot of the time, guys in the dating scene aren’t even genuine so, don’t go for it and be careful with whom you share your good energy with.

@pyztni Год назад

We don’t appreciate y’all enough for teaching us spelling 👏🏻

@marygracesims1824 3 месяца назад

Caroline and I are so similar (right down to the flexing being an introvert and forgetting how to spell TP) but I have literally the same brain bippity boppities that Jess has. Love this podcast!

@kathleenbraasch9684 11 месяцев назад

I am A 60 yr old and you two have so much to look forward to. The “labels” will continue to evolve and change. You are hilarious and give me hope for the future.

@marciamakoviecki3295 5 месяцев назад

High value women... very hard to find intelligent, high value men at their age.

@jessien5463 Год назад

“Nut for everyone” made me unexpectedly snort laugh while in a silent Uber, 15/30 mins into my ride home. I love this podcast. I am highly invested in the random thoughts each week. Highly. Invested.

@amandatyler Год назад

Jess, your comments about your grandpa made me cry in the best way, it was so sweet 😭 My grandparents all passed away before my son was born but I hope he can learn about them and understand what they were like one day and speak of them fondly as you do of your grandpa ❤❤

@gemmadidit4118 4 месяца назад

I used to look away. Now I just lift my chin; a wassup kind of vibe. It's friendly and somewhat dismissive at the same time and I don't feel so passive.

@sarahspringtime Год назад

I love the “not a personality” segment! But it also makes me curious what you ladies consider to actually be “a personality” lol

@victtayl Год назад

I read somewhere recently that our personalities are just the sum of our coping mechanisms haha

@AnimaMundi12 Год назад

Iiii SO enjoy your podcasts, ladies! So much daily insight, vulnerability, both of you compliment each other so well! And I can also relate to both so much. Ah, Jess, the granpa thing, I've got the exact same story and feels. Keep it going! You're my past time, when I do my "introvert" personality 😂

@KitSayKat Год назад

Caroline don’t feel bad about that spelling, I legit won my schools spelling bee one year and went to the county spelling bee and I seriously just learned today that it’s not midrift 😭😭😭 I was cracking up listening to your explanation for drift because that’s literally how my mind was thinking about it lmaooo I fucking love you guys

@AleenaLearner 3 месяца назад

This podcast is so refreshing. I look up to you, I hope I can evolve this much as a person one day.

@kaielyse9313 Год назад

Next, I need caroline’s take on under eye cream that claim to lighten dark circles, thanks. I feel like I know the answer, but I still impulsively search to find the best product for it at least once a year. Like jess, the marketing does in fact work on me lol

@Not4EveryonePod Год назад

Oh girl don’t get me started 😅 NOT A DERM. But eye cream CAN help hydrate some super super super fine lines under the eyes caused by dry skin. However it has zero effect on dark circles. Even most legit cosmetic treatments don’t help under eye discoloration (I’ve asked!) it’s very hard to treat even with needles, injections, anything. Discoloration kind of just hangs out. But if you want makeup tips, Alexandra Anele on RU-vid does a ton for dark circles bc she has them!!

@kisikisikisi Год назад

Yeah when it comes to dark circles, the only eye cream that'll help is one that contains mica or a pigment or something (so basically makeup). Overall, most times eye cream is unnecessary. Just use your moisturizer :)

@GadgetsGearCoffee 10 месяцев назад

I will add another option to the STARING comment: "allowing" a man to just stare and oggle at you uncomfortably and not say anything due to your safety or starting and unwanted interaction which honestly usually doesn't go well

@althompson4774 Год назад

Go Jess! So cool that this popped up on my RU-vid Feed.

@candelabra123 Год назад

Y'all are so smart. Love you so much!

@gispertnuria Год назад

The thing with skincare, oh my god, is sooo true ughh! There's tons of marketing buzzwords that mean literally nothing but sell because they're feel-good. Not to mention the amount of fear-mongering to the point many brands replace perfectly good ingredients with less effective/more irritating ones because people end up being afraid of said ingredients. It's... mind-boggling I recommend watching a couple RU-vid videos by Lab Muffin Beauty Science. She's a cosmetic chemist and goes deep into formulation, studies, SPF... from a merely scientific perspective, and demystifies bullsh*t like that. This is my first comment ever so I also wanna say love the podcast, always gives me a good laugh and as a 21 year-old I appreciate you guys's great advice so much ❤

@melissapotter8156 Год назад

I like this discussion @36:00ish! It seems like the expectation to support your partner, work towards the good of a group, and self-regulate has been present for women longer. I don't think it's necessarily a skill we innately have, from my perspective these are things that have historically been expectations of a 'good wife'. Very interesting to think about!!

@HEMoore-vp5uj 5 месяцев назад

Most women I've known, tend to paint themselves into a corner by ALL of their requirements. Men see that as TOO demanding and don't need the pain of jumping through the hoops....

@lindsaymorrison6374 Год назад

My high school didn't necessarily have a massive study-heavy culture, but I also experienced considerable confusion by how much more free time I had in college than high school. I took 5 classes every semester, but I still felt like I had way more time than necessary to complete readings, essays, etc. Going from having to wake up at 6:30 5 days a week, not get home until 3, and then have to do homework til 4 (again, a lot less than some high schools) felt so different than having 2-3 longish days on campus and 2 super short days on campus every week. Of course, I took zero advantage of actual college social life, fortunately and unfortunately, and I was lucky enough to get scholarships and not need to work part-time, but it was pretty baffling to me when classmates (without jobs) would complain about having too much homework. Like, sis... Your earliest class is at 10am, and your latest ends by 4 and doesn't meet again for two days. This is far less exhausting than high school!

@Not4EveryonePod Год назад

Oh yes totally! It was disorienting. The other thing I kind of laugh at and wish I’d said in the pod is the idea (that I shared with Jess) of “oh well it really prepared me for college.” I mean….I could have been way less prepared and done fine. OR BETTER YET, I could have enjoyed high school years, gotten to college, been overwhelmed and then risen to the occasion. Right? It feels like just a flimsy attempt to justify overworking 14 year olds

@insulaarachnid Год назад

"A certain flavour of dementia" feels like someone else's podcast, a band name or a song title.

@leahraven7 Год назад

Omg, this episode resonates with me so much. I have just had a conversation with my best friend about men not being able to engage in the kind of conversations I like. I feel like I have to carry the conversation on my back, asking all of the questions and then they will reciprocate the question, but hardly, if ever, ask me an organic question about myself. And I know a lot of it is to do with how different girls and boys are raised. Girls are much more socially communicative in their interpersonal relationships while men's socialization is based around a shared interest such as a sport. So I am trying to give men that I go on dates with the benefit of the doubt that they just aren't as good or even aware of how to really fully engage in the conversation when getting to know someone, but it's still tiring. It's hard not to take their lack of asking me about myself as a lack of interest in who I am as a person. And I almost always have fun on dates and I've realized I think it's more to do with enjoying connecting with someone new and eating out some place fun and me being a good conversationalist, rather than if I actually really liked the person or not. Like Jess said, I'm a good time and good at dates. So sometimes I have to later really analyze if actually like the person, or just enjoyed the experience of the date. I know this all kind of makes me sound full of myself, but the different levels of communication styles between men and women is really interesting! Great episode ladies!

@opodobed Год назад

It is lack of interest and you are full of yourself 😂

@AleenaLearner 3 месяца назад

No joke, it took me 1000 euros of therapy to start talking in this talk-journal-introspecrion way that women do. I didn't ask the therapist to teach me that, she'd just go "and how do you feel about that" all the time which was very frustrating. It's not like I care about people in a different way, indeed I cared less about people just like that. Just I didn't know any better.

@letigre5822 11 месяцев назад

This is so fucking true, you start getting hit on, it’s like they can smell it on you. It’s possibly the confidence, happiness of being in a new relationship, suddenly wanting to look cute all the time.. that they are attracted to.

@shelleywark4842 Год назад

I don’t know where to post my petty complaints, but here is mine. People who who use analogies to drive home their point when it is completely irrelevant. Example: I have someone in my life who endlessly tells me that my not eating breakfast in the morning is like not putting gas in my car. No matter how many times I remind this person that I am not a car, I am a human who isn’t hungry upon waking, the analogy keeps coming 🤦🏻‍♀️

@Not4EveryonePod Год назад

You totally know where to post your petty complaints. It’s here. If you don’t get them out here, it’s like a car never going in for an oil change😉(also does not apply)

@shelleywark4842 Год назад

Ok good, because after listening to the full episode, it triggered a memory of an even bigger complaint. When you gals were discussing introverts, it made me think of how much I can’t stand when people tell me they need to “bring me out of my shell” because I am generally a quiet person. No thanks, I like being quiet. I don’t need you to hold my hand and show me the world. I can certainly fend for myself, and when the mood strikes, I can be loud and talkative too. Sometimes I won’t even shut up 🤐

@kagey7591 Год назад

@@shelleywark4842Same. I love, love, love that you put into words something I've been trying to articulate for literally decades.

@opodobed Год назад

😂 the best

@AnotherCaroline176 Год назад

I think there is a subtle business like distance creating acknowledgement type brief smile-nod that I would see as an in-between.

@jilliandierking8709 Год назад

When you were trying to break down what it is that happens when you're in a relationship, I was sure you had covered this before then I realized I was thinking of Iliza Schlesinger does a bit I think in elder millennial about how guys want the shrinking wallflower who is too afraid to be out on the dance floor, and it's this whole commentary on how that isn't a trait you want in a guy, like a guy who is put off by the assertive, loud girl on the hunt, but instead he wants the demure, shrinking violet. So I get that you're giving guys more credit here, that it's your confidence and apathy that they're drawn to, but it immediately called to mind that bit by Iliza when you were working through it.

@brittannylarevitzear1869 Год назад

Wowowow the conversation about turning men down has me down an absolute rabbit hole of memories - starting in elementary school. Yikes.

@marthaspitzl4989 11 месяцев назад

Coming always back to 'There is no self' to at least fix that information about selfs🙂

@coscorrodrift Год назад

59:45 i actually tweeted about a similar feeling, but in my case (not saying you're doing this. probably not) it was because what i call "introversion" in my head is essentially "in general, when in doubt, do i just keep talking, or do i STFU and let the other person speak and fill the silence". Do i behave like "the quiet kid" and require time to process internally, or default to that vs "thinks out loud" or defaults to process through spoken word I think that this kind of action is useful to notice and it is actually representative of patterns of behavior, replicable, "useful to know" etc. vs the definition of introversion that Instagram 3 image comics/pop psych stuff talks about, which is "you get energized by people/ you need a recharge" where IMO its probably just everyone being somewhat of an "ambivert" or people just needing different energy from different people in different times and where just clinging to a label is IMO more useless bc it compares "incomparable" situations and relationships/isn't replicable/"useful to know". Basically, what i wanted to say with that is, that i think that when you self-criticize for "making introversion your personality" sometimes makes sense if you're talking about that pop psych version of "introversion" that's (IMO) very spectral and nebulous, but that if you're talking of my own version of it (and im a Scientist™️💁‍♀️ so to me it's Real) then i think its a bit of an unfair self-criticism bc it is pointing to a dynamic that's useful to describe. Not saying that what *i* call introversion is what literally anyone or you in particular should call "introversion" but that maybe you're also clinging to that identity because what you associate with the label "introversion" does actually map to patterns of your own behavior that are useful for you to "legibilize". Maybe you actually map really well to the actual "energetic" definition of it so you shouldnt give a fuck about what i or other ppl think about "ambiversion" if you feel like you really are that strongly, or maybe you're like me in the sense that your own definition for introversion and reason you're clinging to it is because you associate some behaviors with that word and feel like theyre a good representation (even if the behaviors aren't the same ones im talking about) Oh and i knew what you were going to say with "tipi", in Spanish we spell it like that lol. Maybe it was your inner Latina or something coming out hahahah

@Julie-ov4cg Год назад

maybe the in between for neither smiling at or ignoring dudes is the bruh chin nod of acknowledgement?? if you two know your enneagram types (another real system for describing fake selves like astrology) please talk about them, I'm so curious

@viridianaz8432 Год назад

I loved the skincare talk make it a segment pls♉️🩷🩷

@livsterk7943 Год назад

My ex boyfriend (in his 30s) said ‘Holy Mackerel’ in bed whilst I was on top. I started cracking up 😂 … then I banned him from saying it. It was hella endearing and cute but took me out of the sex mood

@selah5792 Год назад

hahhahhahaaaa

@lindsaymorrison6374 Год назад

I'm an AMAZING speller on paper/typing.... Cannot quickly spell a word out loud to save my life. You tell me letters, I need at least 10 seconds to process. Spelling is firmly in my reading/writing section of my brain, not this oral processing nonsense spelling bees demand.

@Not4EveryonePod Год назад

Ok so interesting. I think I’ve heard that language input and output are 2 totally separate cognitive processes so maybe that’s why.????? MAKE IT NORMAL

@karenkonz3181 Год назад

Holy Mackeral is definitely a “thing” at least in the Midwest but I’m 76ers old

@sweatpantgardener Год назад

Yo what the heck I missed ONE EPISODE and now you’re all yelling about THERE IS NO SELF and IT’S the PODCAST SLOGAN???!!! WHAT DOES IT MEAAAAANN??? obvs I will go back and catch up but DAMN. WHAT DOES IT MEAN? Specifically I’m working on understanding parts work which is ALL about connection to the self….and here you are to flip is upside down!!What does it mean! I love the energy for it and how it just makes so much sense!

@lorrilewis2178 10 месяцев назад

I do recall hearing some adults saying "Holy Mackerel" as a child. I was born in 1958 for reference. Haven't heard it in ages though.

@sweatpantgardener Год назад

Anyways love this show in such a special way like holy shit I want to read those studies on high performing women that struggle to find similar partners BUT also struggle with like that sounds egotistical as hell to think I would be a high performing woman? Like who decides these things because THERE IS NO SELF

@pegm5937 Год назад

Also, sorry, word pedant here, but it bugs the ever livin' shites out of me when people keep saying, "I feel like" rather than saying, "I think". When something is demonstrable, own it as a thought, an idea. Feel the power of your ability to think and reason! Stop hiding behind the (sorry) lazy, "I feel like" as a shorthand for, "you can't challenge my feelings!" thereby thwarting any challenge to your ideas. Because, you know, in our modern world, "all feelings are feeled, and valid, and YOU can't tell me that they're 'wrong'". That's at total crap out when you are, in fact, discussing ideas. Grab a spine. Own your thoughts and ideas and, I'd someone challenges them, defend them, and/or learn and grow. All I am trying to say is, it frequently sounds like you're being intellectually disingenuous and hiding behind "feelings". You are smart, vital women. Think and share thoughts. Not everything is a "feelz"

@KerensaLives 11 месяцев назад

Years of trying to make "holy mackerel" a thing finally pays off.

@emj1113 Год назад

Don’t love Caroline’s takes here. Expectations have changed but for good reason. I think about how much more labor women have to engage in in relationships (especially marriage), and I don’t think it’s wrong for women to ask for slightly more from men in their lives. We learn and grow our whole lives - being born 30 years ago isn’t a good excuse for anything.

@lindsaymorrison6374 Год назад

I think MOST of the expectations changed for good reasons, but you can go to far with progress in terms of... Are YOU actually practicing 100% what you preach? I'm crazy attracted to emotional intelligence and direct communication in men, but I'm actually still struggling with how to directly communicate myself. My need to be perceived as chill often overrides my genuine needs. And I think the past couple decades have been great in terms of teaching women to achieve more, but they actually statistically have NOT been successful at teaching men those same traits. The gender gap in college from the 70s for example recently became reversed, and it seems to be growing. Far, far, far more women are attending college than men, which sounds like a girl power yay moment, until you realize it means a lot of boys and men actually are struggling academically. Women aren't just keeping up; we're surpassing. That really might be a sign that adults of all ages need to make serious changes so we can actually teach men how to be emotionally intelligent, emotional-labor-capable, and academically-driven. Higher education and well-paid jobs should reflect the whole population in theory, right? Not almost 60% women and barely 40% men. Are men currently oppressed? Naw. But it's okay to acknowledge what has changed and how that could cause issues in the future.

@AleenaLearner 3 месяца назад

I think it used to be that only a man can provide basic salary to the family, and maybe the streets used to be more dangerous. It's kind of a pain to be a man today.

@Nicole_Riviere 11 месяцев назад

Jess, your hair looks absolutely amazing today, did you get a blowout?

@selah5792 Год назад

Identity markers/types are often for marketing or segregation catagories. ie styles of music were named as the record industry was born - not prior. But not to dismis useful diagnosis or self empowerment stuff…

@astrammd Год назад

Jess- guy staring - just look at him, flip chin and say "sup bro? U need a spot?"

@jwgyt 11 месяцев назад

You guys are reading way too much into this "getting hit on when you're in a relationship". It's physiological, you're having sex (I assume-- hope that's not rude) therefore you're sexier! I'm sure there are pheromones involved. When you're happily dating someone, you just have more sparkle!

@koverbaugh91 8 месяцев назад

My grandma says “holy crow”

@hohurnham7583 7 месяцев назад

i remember desert vs dessert spelling because of that millenial meme about stressed spelled backwards is dessert

@audyegonzalez8626 Год назад

I need to know what Caroline was looking at outside of her window.

@selah5792 Год назад

yes

@WhitestWaters 4 месяца назад

Next time someone stares at you at the gym, do a weird smiley face, they wont know what to thibk about it, or give them a thumbs up 😂

@leonore3349 11 месяцев назад

Caroline's top is so pretty. Does anyone know where it's from? I'm trying to lean into my feminine😂

@stuff.6108 11 месяцев назад

When I forget how to spell something, I use the dictation feature on my iPhone keyboard 😅

@emelyandtheuke Год назад

toiletries is derived of toilette in french :) btw not quite still French, but of it.

@emelyandtheuke Год назад

I actually googled this the other day except I was wondering what it actually meant bc “eux des toilettes” confuses tf out of me but essentially its any product that you use to groom yourself lol

@mariannefoucrault Год назад

@@emelyandtheukein French it still sounds weird to me 😂 I prefer the word perfume (parfum) to eaux de toilettes (which translate to toilet's water) it's only the "fancier" way to call a perfume

@sanne5412 5 месяцев назад

Smile back! To me it feels like, if you dont, you close yourself of for friendships with the opposite sex. Like for instance with the liqor store guy.

@barbaracale1015 11 месяцев назад

Apparently midriff is related to the word diaphragm...I was probably misspelling it too! Lol😂

@bonne_vie Год назад

I HATE when people brag about being introverted. Pretty attention seeking for an introvert... Ironic.

@hohurnham7583 7 месяцев назад

this!! Also some of them are so hateful towards extroverts (or really anyone) who try to talk to them. First, introverts can talk and try to form.connections too, it is literally about what energizes you more not about being a misanthrope. Second, you don't have to love the company of everyone who talks to you but you're a bad person imo if you make fun of someone for trying to connect in this world where everyone is so lonely.

@irenegrijalvotarres Год назад

Early kook club

@irenegrijalvotarres Год назад

Oh my god, the getting attention thing when you’re in a relationship is so real. I have found it also happens with sexuality. As soon as I tell a man I’m gay I turn into the Most Attractive Person they’ve ever seen and it’s like… dude why 😂

@Not4EveryonePod Год назад

Early kook club!! God this is my favorite thing ever to wake up to 🙌

@pegm5937 Год назад

Okay, wait. The whole wondering why you become so much more desirable once you've locked in with someone? Your mannerisms change - even unbeknownst to you - and you present as far less thirty. Not-desperate people are confident people and therefore are more desirable. Just an old broad sayin'.

@hohurnham7583 7 месяцев назад

pretty sure u meant thirsty but this is hilarious

@marciamakoviecki3295 5 месяцев назад

If you don't know he's the right man after 1-1/2 years, cut bait. He's not that into you and you're wasting valuable time.

@espalier 11 месяцев назад

Live Photo is just terrible.

@ashleymcgee3536 Год назад

This is likely to invite some “constructive” criticism, but I don’t really like the idea of feeling sorry for men in public. I feel it was inappropriate for gym dood to approach you. Y’all hadn’t even exchanged words. When someone makes eye contact, especially a woman, it boggles the mind that a simple polite gesture to a stranger should bring up as much stress as it does. Am I silently accepting his invitation? Am I a bitch if I don’t at least smile? It’s unfortunate that we even have to ask these questions. I’m as happy to take a compliment from a man as the next person (and I’m the dumbest/worst feminist ever), but did he have to follow you? A dude once ambushed me at a chick-Fil-a. I could see his co-worker/trying to stop him. I was complimented, but even if he was my type and cute and nice, he ambushed me. Hard no. Even I had the sense to flirt with my partner of 10 years when I was purposefully showing up at his work place to shop when I was really just hoping to catch his eye. Cute dresses are key, and also knowing how to cook. This all being said, I once won a spelling be because a hot guy told me to. He was unattainably hot. One of those guys that looked like a grown man in high school. I even remember his name. He was never a bully or me mean to me like most boys were, but he was on my team and wanted to win no homework. I ran towards that award like a dying woman in a desert runs towards water. If he’s told me to run off that there cliff, I’d have done it. Yeah it was gratifying for me, but he gave me a high five. I’ll take it, unattainable dude!

@eda2635 Год назад

Caroline so dewy, howww?

@opodobed Год назад

Lost me on the dating expansions or whatever. I find it ridiculous to think that you are better just because you were born now. I don't even understand what exactly are you talking about. 😅