Assc Direct please I need help the Narc is obsses looking for revenge hurting me Im asking the Lord to erase his memory of me ! I thought they find a new supply - where can I find one - but he is so Evil I wouldnt wish that yo my worst enemy - he dont stop the calls the hacking - Im Christian so the Lord gave me victory Over him - I left him oct 2017 ?!!
Well Damn! A couple days ago, I fell for it, again. This loser contacted me, again and I wanted to believe he was true this time. Even though I knew he was full of crap. Even during the call, he apologized and waffled up on his apology at the same time! When I called him on his disrespect advert on his "promise" of fidelity and love, he started talking sideways on that, too. What a coward.I cut it off quicker this time ... I hung up on him while he was talking. It felt good to hang up on him. But, Why am I still angry?! I don't want this feeling anymore. I want a healthy man, not a loser.
Michelle Johnson They are the best actors I swear!! My ex plays the victim poor me give me sympathy role.. He hates his mother.. If you ever talk to a man that hates his mother thats sign # 1.. Also my ex's mom gave me a belt with a big buckle on the end and said if he comes at you again..bust him upside his mothafuckin head with this belt buckle!! 😂😂😂😂 What mother would tell her sons girlfriend to do that unless she already knew he was crazy af!!
Truth. No matter how bad their bad behavior is, they keep coming back. It's crazy. You'll be thinking how do they even have the audacity. And if most think back, your first thought is, this is not normal. And it's not it's a mask. Rise above the narc. And ask yourself ,"What are they trying to get me to do. And, "Why are they trying to get me to do it. Another great video. Thanks.
I hope anyone listening to this truly hears your words. I allowed myself to be reengaged. During the cruel final discard, he pointed out how stupid I was for trusting him again. They absolutely see us as fools for giving them another chance. Do not do this! Show yourself dignity and respect above all
Yes, indeed. A narc I got rid of a while back tried to re-enter this past weekend. Texting me old photos of us together. Texts saying “I miss my friend”. Calling my phone. I felt nothing but disgust. I immediately deleted his texts and gave no response to any of it. They’re repulsive.
Boy bye it's a drought over here sorry all out of supply. When you get to my name put a huge X by it. I can't do nothing for you. Why? because my self-worth just won't let me come back down to the basement and deal with you no more.
Even after 2 years I sometimes find myself questioning if the ex was truly a narcissist, then along comes a great video like this that perfectly describes the way the ex acted, almost word for word! Then I think "Yep, he is a narcissist", and I feel validated. This channel rocks!
Anna Tiernan Almost a year for me and same. My ex was such a good manipulator it's hard to accept it some days. Without these videos I'd unfortunately be sucked back in.
I've questioned it too because you want to think it could work. Then I see a video and be like... Well Damn! No question this has helped me a lot to not get sucked back in
You must of been near my house today watching it all go down bcz this is exactly what happened. Showing up to prove his love and I called the police. I loved him enough to let him go about a year ago bcz it's too stressful. I love my new profound life now and he won't come over here and cross no boundaries. Everyone -love yourselves enough to let go.😙💕💞✔
I think they stop hoovering when they realize that there's no hope. After I told my hoovering ex-narc about the wonderful guy I was seeing, and how well my new man treats me, he left me the hell alone. When he thought I was still single he kept trying to Hoover.
I’ve been 2 plus years no contact. I’m constantly equipping myself with the armor of knowledge that Quinn educates us with, to prepare for the unthinkable trickery of the narc. Just when you think you’re in the clear, the unexpected will happen. We have to stay prepared. The devil will never give up.
Hey Quinn, SPEAK on it, you are always on point. My ex-NARC tried to re-engage me last Friday, from an unknown number. I immediately BLOCKED him 👏🏾. I do NOT have time for the BS. When you know better, you DO better - stay NO Contact.
I refuse to be a damn fool🤣 Quinn, you have educated me to the point that I realize I am a winner & a survivor from abuse. If he comes around it will be a sad day for him #catchthisbulletinhisass
Raman Dhaliwal too many numbers to block i just add it to the list. I did contemplate changing my number but from a professional standpoint i chose not to. I just don’t engage with him either.
The crazy thing is they don't even apologize or acknowledge any wrongdoing! They just pop back into our lives and try to 'ACT' like the person that they 'ACTED' like when we met them, hoping we're dumb enough to believe that they are still the person that they 'ACTED' like when we met them!!
This is exactly what my ex did left me for another woman had a child with her then he calls me up and wants to get his family back and wants me to come live in the city he and her live in wtf! I laughed at him and he was mad because he couldn't con me anymore so listen to this message it's totally true God bless everyone.
Betty Momoh My narc soon to be ex-husband did the exact same thing to me. He was so sweet at first but when I let him know that I'm fine and that I wish him the best, boy that made him livid! Within seconds I was called every name but a child of God lmao. Oh, well. I'm looking forward to our divorce hearing in 2 weeks. Yesssss!!!
In my experience they really don’t apologize. They come back in your life with a smile to your face and reminisce about the past with you. Watch their eyes 👀 their always looking out to not be rejected by you.
That is not only narcissistic, it's arrogant. It's also kind of funny. But be mindful when you see them trying to return after so much time, don't laugh in their face react appropriate with no contact or block their advances, then when they leave laugh loud and long.
I went no contact 8 days ago. This insightful question you posed near the end of the video hit me like a lightning bolt, because of the way in which you phrased it: "Why should you reward the narcissist for trying to use you, play you, destroy you, trick you, deceive you -- why should you reward them with the re-engagement access to you when they failed with someone else who they tried to replace you with?" I thought, "WOW. Well, when you put it like that, there ain't no way I'm unblocking the monster." So I posted it inside my front door, to remind me why I moved and the person has no idea where I went. That's why I keep coming back to this channel. Nobody says it better than you.
I love that you keep it so real “they know that they have a damn fool!” My ex Narc hasn’t talked to me in 9 months and I’m having a baby in days. He refused to ask about our 2 yr old together or the pregnancy. Hasn’t helped at all. But has appeared out of the blue trying to ask me if I love him. Because things went left with the woman he was with. I am ashamed I gave him the satisfaction of even talking back to him on 3 different occasions because I wanted to let him know I knew what he was and all the lies he told. What a waste of time. Goodbye forever. I’m never looking back.
They’re ALWAYS living another life...married or not! It always goes wrong because of who they are. They prey on good people and manipulate and attempt to destroy them. I’m sure any failed marriage or situation was no fault of the victim. They NEVER have enough.
I really needed this today. Thank you. This happened to me before. I was re-engaged last year by a previous Narc, and now my most recent ex, who is also a Narc (I seem to attract them,) is attempting to hoover me despite being with someone else and getting married soon. It's so hard. But I'm going to play this on repeat. Over and over. Until it sinks in. The challenge of spotting these people in the first place is what gets me, it's usually far too late by the time I figure it out.
Roo, I support you, remember there are people who support you when your narc attempts to re-engage. No contact, resist the advances by any means necessary, then you will be able to heal.
She tried it 🤣🤣🤣 she had no idea how ridiculous she sound/look! She married the person she toyed with me with and was gone for 4 years and all of a sudden she was STILL in love with me, she spent majority of the relationship/ marriage trying to get over me. 🤦🏾♀️ She claim she let my fiance' borrow me 😮. I let the shenanigans go on for a while to prove what I had already knew the first time. It's so much easier to see when you are NO LONGER emotionally tied to them. She was definitely a character and had no idea how stupid she look/sound trying to use the same tactics she used back then. I definitely saw the misery in her.
The narcissist I know doesn't even really apologize he just makes believe like if nothing happened. He stonewall for a few days later starts hovering like nothing. If I try to remain him why are we where we are at this point, he starts a totally different conversation about peace and love and bs, this is enough to make my head spin and this last for hours. These individuals are very dangerous if you can avoid them , not see them please do.
RRY PHILL thank you. Its incredible how people only understand this issue if they experience it. Not one person in my circle of friends including family does. You are right on point with your reply.
Omg!! My narc does this too. Alll the time. I record his shenanigans and when he comes off his stone wall vacay and starts the hoovering phase I replay them and he literally runs out of the room. It's like being faced with what they did, having it right before them, is like water to the wicked witch of the West. Then he'll say something like "why you gotta bring up the past?" "Why you still holding on to something like that?"
Everything you say is so accurate and on point. I always feel empowered after listening to you...and yet a fell for a recent Hoover, again. He just re-emerged begging me and professing his love and what do you know, he was setting up a punishment. He summoned me over and then ironically his phone started blowing up with calls and msgs from women. I knew at that moment he had called them before I came over in the hopes they would call while I was there. I fell for it hook line and sinker like a D.A. I went no contact again and he is back to hovering. I just can’t shake this guy. I do good for awhile and he always catches me in a moment of weakness. I need these videos. The most accurate information on the entire web. Thank you 🙏
I witnessed that same shady behavior! My ex narc came over trying to love bomb me, all while having his girlfriend picture on his cell phone, all up in my face, calls and text dinging on the phone the whole time! He was a creep then and He is an even bigger creep now, if thats possible, I had to remind myself, Is this the kind of foolishness I want back in my life? He is a liar, a cheat and an abuser, your memory of all the abuse is enough to say never ever again will they have access to make us miserable!
Kristina B i really understand you its hard i be tryn to stay no contact too i say to myself i really need to move on from this narc but its like he catched me off guard when i need someone to talk to or a moment of weakness its crazy its like they can sense this pray about it 🙏
This was so valuable to hear. I’m currently in a stage of being hoovered by my ex narc who I discarded a year ago. He is attempting to re-engage me. I’m already positive, because of your amazing videos that he has not been able to secure a decent supply which is why he is reappearing so hastily. He failed to realize tho, that with his time away, my value and view of myself has increased. I’ve blocked him on all sources and all he can do is call from different numbers or, eventually, pop up at my place. And to anyone in the beginning stages of releasing your emotional ties to your ex narc, I’m a year narc free so please believe me, the pain gets easier, the attachment gets farther and farther lessened and your foggy brain clears. It really gets easier 💜
Love how up front you are, the honesty is good! They look at us as complete FOOLS! We are empathetic to a fault and they count on us not growing a backbone with boundaries. They aren’t worth all of the pain and lies. I’d rather be in PEACE alone.💯☺️
They don't ever change and your brains default to protect u is to remember the good times & forget the bad, make a list of everything they did wrong to u and keep referring to that list because that's who they really are. They can be short time actors but will always default to who they are & it usually gets worse every time. Fully block & heal, don't fall for any attempts even via flying monkeys.
Della my narc ex husband ive ben no contact with for 3 months just had his daughter call my job i told them to tell her i wasnt there ( flying monkey) he using her to contact me its pathetic at this point we have a child to gether he does nothing for never watched or supported i go no contact shes the love of his life go figure ..o well no contact i cant deal with them
I had an ex recently try to contact me again through all platforms, I ignored, he finally got to a mutual friend of ours, she relayed the message: he wanted to make sure I was ok during thanksgiving because he knew my first holiday without my Dad would be hard. Uhmmmmm, my Dad passed away FOUR years ago!!!!!!! These people are sick, and will literally use ANYthing to get your attention back. I'm convinced they are incapable of change. Do NOT let these succubi back in your life. Period.
I wonder what their karma will be. He drove me crazy our entire "relationship" he cheated the entire time (i found out about a year later) and denied it when I confronted him soon after that literally acted like nothing happened! I've never met a person without a conscience untilthe narcopath. They are completely delusional and believe their own lies no matter the cost or proof. They play and manipulate you and everyone around them, he tried to make me look like I was crazy and tried to convince me I was crazy..
The same exact thing happened to me. Sounds like they are carbon copies or something. Got tired of being cheated on and feeling confused. Cause he would act like it wasn’t a big deal when I confronted him. Crazy making people
I got a restraining order.. Best thing i did. He may be watching but he doesn't contact me. And I can't allow myself to be tempted to go back because i will be violating the order . I'm very happy to be free !
Exactly tried telling this guy I was dating that his ex only wanted him back because he was dating me after she has been gone since last September!! She left before his birthday missed thanksgiving and Christmas now suddenly her love is restored! She moved to Florida then Ohio! Currently in Ohio and he and I are in Louisiana. Now she wants to work things out and have a long distance relationship with him. And he took her back!! OMG.....the power of manipulation!
You are such a God Send...your videos and advice comes in Sync with my situation right now with my Narc....I keep him away and he comes back after failure, rejection.. And you know he doesn't like the term "why do I reward you for all the bad you done? And he shuts down in evil mode smhhhh And his discard is a Narc too...but now wanna come back to his victim but I overcome and I continue to win against the battle Thank you Quinn and my fellow Narc survivors
Amazing work once again. My ex married a woman who he spoke badly about and said he wasn’t attracted to nor did he respect her. A year later he’s calling me telling me he wish he had married me. If he wanted to marry me he would’ve did it when he had a chance. I feel for her but there’s nothing I can do or say. She needs a man so badly, even at the cost of clinging to a narcissist. It’s sad.
I think they will ALWAYS re engage because obviously the next one is going to 'fail' they already know that. Also they live the idea of the trails of people they left behind still ' holding a candle' makes em feel powerful.
After what she did TWICE...I TRIED TO FORGIVE THE FIRST TIME...BEING EMPATHETIC....HELL THE F$#K NO...AND SHE KNOWS BETTER...BEEN NO CONTACT 9 MOS NOW...ESPECIALLY PLAYING ON MY EMOTIONS AFTER LOSING MY DAUGHTER IN A TRAIN ACCIDENT IN 2013....PLAYING THE PREGNANCY GAME...NO WAY IN HELL ...I WOULDNT SPIT ON HER ASS IF SHE WERE ON FIRE...TRUST ME!!!
Raman Dhaliwal Thanks for your input...im so getting my head together...its like Bro Quinn said.." there is no place in ACADEMIA...that can prepare you for deception" Im a psych major...didnt see this shit coming from a 49 yr old woman...go figure...smmfg
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I can't believe you posted this today. I swear I just reached out to a life coach last night about this very topic. Not sure why I'm being hoovered all of a sudden, I thought he moved on...
Raman Dhaliwal your right . You gonna change your phone number and you can even move to another place so they can never find you.I just changed my number my next move is moving to another location
Each time you let them back in, it WILL be worse than the previous time. Your devaluing begins to happen much quicker each time you let them come back. I've learned my lesson!! NEVER AGAIN!! I'm done and I'm free!!
My narcissist wasband was calling and texting me until I changed my number but he was going to my cousin house everyday so I stop calling her. He was trying to get her to give me his number but she didn't entertain him then after 10 months he passed by and said he was sorry for what he did to me and that he still loves me and asked for a hug and I said I forgive you and to take care of himself he was mad because I didn't entertain him so he left but he had a girlfriend 2 months after he left so I wish them all the best no way am I taking him back I learned my lesson
2 dislikes from.two hater narcs...its a no narcissit zone here ...bye Felicia 😂 Quinn another spot on video I swear it's like your psychic...may God always bless you for spreading the message.
Quinn, thank you again bro. You have helped me so much. Her hoover after 2 weeks failed. Just got reengaged, also failed. Thanks to you I know the truth about what is actually going on.
😘 thank you so much for not sugar coating it’s for that reason I listen to you and respect you. I’m still in recovery and your videos reset me and make me strong. Thank you!
I would never ever take him back !! At the beginning, he told me "He is the best I ever had ". Lol... He was the worst disappointment I ever had !! Arrogant, childish, a f*****g liar.. I'm happy that the nightmare is over !! I want to be "ME" again !! Thank you so much Mr. Holliday!! 💝
I have experienced hoovering at several levels. This time is that "I was given up for the Lord"... Yeah, right. My self worth is better than that. I am not going to be stuck... I am on my personal life re-evolution... And it's great.
My narcissist has been triangulating me with his new source for 2 yrs and 8 months. He is paid 2 weekly, on the weekend he has no money he contacts me for a roof over his head, tobacco, sex and alcohol, the other weekend with her in hotels living the high life. I tried so hard to go no contact and fail miserably, often when with me he creep out and visit her. She has nothing,he has even said that but still he doesn't give her up. I am ashamed of myself for falling for it every time, as time has gone on i have tried harder to get away,but I guess I have been waiting for him to have some decency and this video shows me i would have a long wait. Thank you again i need to learn to respect myself because he has no respect for me.
Preach my brother💪🏾.. Hell to the Naw!!! In the great words of R.C. Blake Jr. “ better to be a whole women alone than to have a piece of a man... No ma’am I love myself to much now and forever💕💕💕
It's exactly my current situation. This week, he came back, as if anything had happened, after so much pain, confusion and abuse it is HIM, the one I met and fell in love with at the beginning. He is another person !! The perfect one I loved so much . It's weird because every time he touches me and tells me how much he LOVES me now I know what he really thinks about me and where it is going again . I'm shocked ,it is like coming back in time to the beginning . After so many horrors that are written on a paper , on my personal diary and especially on my mind . It is too much for me, I never thought he could be back again since he hated me so much the las time jajaja Thanks you so much for your help and support. I always listen to you in Mexico City! Love you so much .
It is good to hear it, because after 4 months of discard and replacement, I think he will never come back, but I will never know... It is good to be prepared!
This is exactly what's going on with my estranged Husband and you're right it's not about me his new source has fail him tremendously, he is trying to get back with me, but it's only for me to rescue him. This is some sad S..t!
Im dealing with this now ....he keeps contact me at work im sure something is wrong thats not my problem im not rewarding him for trying 2 replace me with her
This message SO one point!! I have listened so many times! My ex tried to line me because the girl he was seeing failed his supply I guess. He came with open communication, the grand gesture, and all and I still shut him down!! I saw right through it! We must look at the actions, because the action and what they tell you will never line up!! Powerful message!!! Thank you!! I needed this!
The truth is they knock you down so much in life wit the silent treatment the verbal abuse etc that you are so low with nothing they gave you u take anything.
It took me a while to wake up. Through this video I realized keep going back to the old supply is a norm to them which I thought we just couldn’t let go of each other because we are true love. OMG what a moron I was! If I stayed longer I could have been in an asylum now as my brain couldn’t process what I was going through.
My narc family starved me for my religious beliefs I lost 30 lbs and went to the mental hospital and now I’m finally doing better and they act like they want to be my best friends it’s sooo fake because they don’t care to listen to my emotions they just want me to support and comfort them
I remember going outside for a cig, and somehow and somewhere...there stood my ex. He looked so weak and wondering...why did you leave me...why can't we be together. I engaged him as if everything was ok. I told him that although I care for his welfare, I am going on with my life and I am ok. He understood and went on his way. I can see how someone who has a stalker feels. I can see how a stalker has a hard time to let it go.
The fog clears each day. Perfect timing of this video. My ex left me and our son 3 yrs ago and married someone else. He will text here n there still. Inappropriate if you ask me. He just text me 15 mins ago that he was upset I didnt wish him a happy bday. Lol. Who says that!? I'll continue to ignore him just like I did on his bday.
You helped me over 2 years ago ,I discarded him first because the relationship had become ridiculous...It is Unbelievable he started calling me in April this year. (new tele # no name Lol) I told him I have moved on and refused to change my time schedule and indulge him, he now is ghost .I feel so sorry for whoever is Trying to deal with him . ...People please believe Assc Direct,this is real.
Funny how I felt and knew my Narcissist would only come back if he was desperate. He knows I know what he is. He follows me still on line, from a fake page, its been 2 years, he even likes my pics, if I delete him he comes back every time, but he never sees me. He still text me on holidays, he been doing this since he left me, but I done told everybody he was a Narc. Dont feel sorry for me, I gave that M/F a good beating mentally a few times. I gave him some Narcissistic injuries, I made sure the world knew who he was smh I didn't really know what I was doing at the time but Down the line I keep talking about it and Boom I posted about it and told him this is who he is. He is terrified of me I believe.
Dr. QUINN, you have me laughing so hard 😂😅😂😂😅😅😅, and falling into pieces. It was awesome meeting you in DC last month. Yes it is all Bull$#i+ again you are God sent.
No contact for 1 solid year, I'm a survivor of the wicked abuse and growing 💪everyday. Great information you're putting out Mr Quinn...thanks for the blessing of knowledge that has maintained and sustained me for 1 year...God Bless You!!
This is so true the supply failed they come back being all you wanted them to be now they can respond to your text in a timely manner its like everything is so right its all lies keep moving forward dont engage waste if time
