The Warning Signs That Love Is TOXIC! - How To Find REAL LOVE | Jay Shetty & Lewis Howes 

I love that, " Everything you want from someone else, give it to yourself first."

In my point of view there is no toxic love. If its love then its not toxic. And if its toxic then its not love ❤

Being honest with our partner can be tricky , ive been in relationship where i walked in with total transparency only to reliased later on it was used against me during argument and the worst part was i started doing the same to him just to get back to him. At the end i realize thats not the kind of relationship that i want to continue to be in.

Best response Jay to the question about toxic and conscious love

I had such a bad relationship with myself & life at the time of my 5.5 year relationship that it had to come to an end bc I could’ve receive the love that was trying to be given to me & I couldn’t give it back either. It’s been 3 years since being out of the relationship & it has really helped me see why I behave such a way when I am in one. Over these 3 years I’ve transformed the relationship I have with myself, which has helped me see life differently as well, & I can say that breaking up was necessary for my growth, even if it wasn’t what I wanted, deep down I knew the only way was to let the person who was “supposed” to love me go so that I could learn how to love myself, accept & give it. I am a much better person now & I have lots more self-respect. I haven’t had a solid connection since this relationship, but I’ve never had a better one with myself before. 16:40

Bingo! Both people take care of themselves to be the best for themselves to be able to bring their best self to one another. Love it.

I m in that spot. Sometimes it takes great people to make a leap. Great people are gold in my life

We grew up always hearing I love you. My kids have heard this from the time that they were babies. Everytime we talk...we end with I love you.

I discontinue liking a man when he kept saying the dog he loves will be sitting on the passenger seat and the woman he chooses will be at the back. Like, I am also a furmom, but I would not want any person to be more less than animals. We were not compatible in that. Kindness is kindness, but robbing a human soul of the respect they deserve is such cruelty.

Mind shifter , purpose driven humans making great impact and serving the world with love and humility:) truly grateful

I'm so glad I found this video, just started dating and to introduce vulnerability. I haven't been sure about it, but it's wonderful to know that I can talk about my ongoing healing rather than hide part of myself that I fear being judged about.

I can feel the healthy friendship love between these two. I like Jay's statment that we need the world with spiritual people in power. And we all know that,at least,in today's world money equals power. It's like taking a different approach,rather than having a scarcity mentality,like Lewis said, where you are either spiritual and poor or materialistic and rich. Why can't one be both. I join you guys on the path to a society where spirituality and wealth are tightly connected and interchanged. This episode as well as the work of two of you is a clear example of it 👏 ❤PURPOSEful life is also a path of happiness. Thank you,both!🎉

Lewis, the next man that I am with, i hope he has a growth mindset like you. I don't think men today realize how important that is. Thank you for all the hard work and being honest with the world! Your work is amazing!

Alot of us envision life in a certain way, and put the other person in a role that's not suitable for them. Instead of criticism let them know what you want from them.

I needed this. I have difficulty knowing what true love really is.

I can’t wait for future generations to discover these videos.

Every relationship changes you, and not necessarily for the better.

Jay, wow - hat off! Everything you say just resonates 100% Lewis- well done for introducing these conversations amongst men too 👏

Myself first, it is surprising how few people understand love and a healthy relationship.

Loved this, valuable 🦉 I love myself and this is watering my garden 🪴 thank you both 💚 Everyone I have crossed paths with had helped me even if I wasn’t aware at the time. Beautiful acknowledgment I’m learning to add as plant food 💚

You can never make anyone feel anything! Your feelings are your own. You are the only person that can feel your emotions! If you don’t have self respect, awareness and control you’re always looking for it in someone else. (The dark side is you can manipulate the situation/environment it creat whatever, the worst kind of “love”)

Love and attachment are two different things. Attachment out of co dependency and past trauma allows room for toxic behaviours.

Create boundaries,,healthy rules, make my partner aware of my healing, work on yourself first. Vulnerable, openess, and honesty,my Gosh ,that's it! That is a councious love! I want that tyoe of ❤️. . Now, the worst kind of toxic love is , when they use everything against you after you trusted them with your Vulnerability and openness. 😢 That's not love . That's manipulation.

Wow! Thanks for clarifying this. Conscious love is the way to go.

Excellent conversation between very knowledgeable persons. Love it ❤!!!

Jay Shetty is a such good listener, I am manifesting to meet and conversation with Jay Shetty🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 Of course I am manifesting to be invited by Lewis Howes podcast soon 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

I think love in a relationship has no other definition than true or genuine affection towards each other . Calling it toxic love is because there was no love in the first place but lust and infatuation. That is worldly affection which mirrors itself as true love . There is a thin line between love and lust. The former is spiritual and soul connects not dependent on fleshly desires but embraces you just the way you are and helps you evolves but the later is tangible and worldly . Its desires are attracted to physical attributes like looks, intelligence, pedigree material stuff etc. Because it is not deep connected, with time begins to wear off and losess its savour. This is when the person begins to repel you and starts becoming toxic because he is desiring more than you've offered . But love is like old wine, the older and more distilled it gets the better the savour, desires and value. 😊✌

Power duo here! Great interview and deep insights! I love Jay and Lewis!

I purchased ur 2 books because i find your words so true and interesting

That's a very interesting point that I always say. There's a very fine line between CARING AND CONTROLLING. I thought I was cared about but I was controlled. For instance: if I went out with friends he would often come to pick me up!

Amazing conversation!!

Love becomes toxic if you don't have control and reflection.

This is so Powerful 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

Wow 😯 this is so eye opening!! Thank you 🙏 for helping me understand where I went wrong and how I can fix my problems.❤

My wife and I are going through a separation after 10 years of being together and 7 years of marriage. The first interview really resonated with me and hit hard. Thanks for you sharing 🙏

I love this, purely amazing 🤩 Thank You So Much!

I’m only 10 mins in & the points are so good & valid. I love Jay Shetty so wise, humbled & knowledge. I can’t wait to purchase his book.

Engaging, informative and great flow. Thank you.

So true about toxic love!!!!!!

The two of you have the best interview! I love listening to you two.

Love is a dangerous emotion that gives a different reaction to our behaviour.

That was a really great interview I loved it !

Excellent interview, thank you for your great insights! 🤩

I love you two! Thank you!

My two favorite podcasters. This is magical, thank you!

I feel immense pain on daily basis, I try hard to watch podcasts like this, read books about being present and all that. I still feel the pain. These things help me temporarily but I feel deep hurt inside deep pain and lack of self worth. I cannot avoid this feeling.

This book came at such a crucial point in my life! Thank you Lewis and Jay!

GREAT content. Thank you for sharing.

I love these two beautiful human beings! Will never be tired of listening to you! Continue to spread this energy and wisdom ❤

All people you interview are awesome! Willl love to see Dr John Gray to be interviewed! 🙏👍👍👍❤️

Thanks for sharing

Wow what a bomb of an interview and intellectual combination of Jay and Lewis!!

A “little thing” that can ruin relationships are the small lies, lies about the tiniest things. When exposed most people doing it tend to down size it and make apologies for it, and later they repeat it because it’s “not that bad” This kills every relationship with time. It took four years for my relationship to really break from this

Amazing!!! Expressed in a way that deep penetrates our understanding of relationships. Thank you both!

Oh that is so true!!Years I can't trust and get over fake feeling.Been used.

Brilliantly said 🙏🎯🦋😘

8.3 days of being together to consider a great friend!? wow this is mind blowing. Haven't known this, but looking back to my friends I spent almost a year of being present before I consider to be in my inner circle.

I just love these 2 together❤ jays answer to lewis' last question touched me deeply . I had to Pause. I cried and my body felt so Hot. I had so many emotions. I love the chemistry they have❤❤❤❤

You guys are Amazing

You are both just GREAT!!!! 😀👏👏👏

Love it from the 1st sec - can’t believe it has so low number of views. Crafted in words the rule of healthy life story of 2. Thank you!! ❤❤❤

I love watching you two together

Soo good… wow Thank you Guys 🙏

Love it! Take away-3 in a relationship! So truth!!!❤🙏🕉️

I Love You Guys Jay

*Nice conversation*

Get your popcorn ready. This one is a great conversation. 🍿👍

This is inspiring and crucial....I'm here for it. When is the follow up event in Hawaii ❤️‍🔥 ie;;; singles healing retreat/ personality tests/ speed dating--matchmaking session👍

Thank you.

thank you!!!

Kindly, would it be possible for the team to add links of the person that is interviewed and give credit? Would be great to have links to Jay podcast and book. I say it respectfully with curiosity. Although I will look Jay up. Thank you so much Lewis and team. ❤

From vulnerability comes need for attachment. From here the next step is romance which lasts for more or less than a year. During this year, lots of things can happen, such as cohabitation, pregnancy, financial wrecks resulting in fights, blames, delusion, misunderstanding, emotional gaslighting, all heading towards toxic love. Repair beyond means.

You guys are amazing

Thank u for this necessary knowledge 💯💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎

2 of the best humans I've listened to & learned from in my life. Always such great information!! Keep inspiring! 🙏❤

Q&A clearly helped to understand, conscious, love versus toxic! I am fully engaged in a conversation, and so grateful to you man for being so AUTHENTIC! I had it all wrong. I was backwards with my three!

Agree Hanna!

LOVE is EVERYTHING ❤

I love this. Brought so much clarity in an area in my life that I'm struggling with. Thank u so much

I come a cross this video truly speaking I don’t know how it happens but I clap hands at the end. This is the best interviewer and interviewee I have ever heard.

Thank you for infinite health infinite wealth an infinite protection for Bella an family an humanity amen 🙏🏼

Audit on : Complain Compare Criticise Control Relationship with self, partner has with themselves and relationship with your partner

10:11 I’m currently in this situation but with maintaining friendships. I’m in school and a mom of two and currently in a moving process.

YES ... self care in order to serve ❤ our son x

No masks, inspiring and building something together- wanting to date yourself- putting effort in yourself so u can show up better in relationship

15:00, 16:15 master the skill to remember the 3 relationship you are in.19:00

"Should we admire people who are wealthy?" I would then ask "should we look down on people who are poor".... and whatever you answer to the second question is also your answer to the first.

u have the best interviews . keep them up.

It depends on which way the person is being honest. Its important to clarify that someone can be honest but show no remorse for their actions, but then expect you to be ok with what they are saying just for the fact they are being honest about something they did. Being honest is not enough. If you are going to be honest and say something hurtful, you also need to be prepared to deal with the consequences of the affects of your honesty.

Wow very informative thank you ! Changed my whole perspective on communication

YES!### I WATER MY LOVE DAILY❤🙏🙏🇺# 🔥🔥

U-2 R Amazing Trained Minds Through The Holy Spirit. Truly Blessed🙌

@26:00 I feel like a lot of men share those sentiments when they are in their building phase. The difference is that you SEASONED YOUR WORDS and you added in dept explanation that made it ''digestible'' lol It would be VERY HARD not to RESPECT you on that honesty.

In every relationship there are 3 relationships: - the one you have with yourselves - the one your partner with themselves - the one you have with your partner

Comparison is the thief of joy!

can we get audio format of this

Hi I'm English learner and beginner I'm so curious about English learning. so pls help me how to i improve my English communication .

"Love is the fixed intention to do what's best for the greater good..." Djwhal Khul

It’s true love sometimes becoming toxic in the end ..😢

"toxic love is where people use a relationship to serve their own needs"?????. As an expert for needs, I can only say: I would love if people really did so... That sentence unfortunately doesn´t make sense, if you really understand needs. love is a need. so you use your relationship to serve" love", "love" for others and "love" for yourself ? That would be lovely, wouldn´t it be? trust is a need. so you use a relationship to serve your need "trust", "trust " in yourself, "trust" in other people, "trust" in humanity? amazing! healing is a need. so you use a relationship to serve your need "healing"? Absolutely fantastic! You would do a huge favour to your partner indeed! that would be an amazing process. serving your needs it´s the healthiest thing you can do. But it is a process of beautiful awareness. Dear Jay Shetty, please do your homework on needs.