This Keeps 99% Of People SINGLE! - Fix This To Find LOVE... | Jay Shetty & Lewis Howes 

@3:53 from the Vedas, 4 stages of love: a) preparing for love b) practicing for love c) protecting love d) perfecting love 🙏🌹🌹🌹🌹

Am a victim of this and am now 55 years waiting that love will find me when least expected. Thanks for educating us. At.55, I will look for love and I believe I will find

There was an amazing moment around 15 mins into this video when Jay complimented Lewis about creating a safe space. Lewis’s non-verbal response was profound as if Jay just confirmed success in an area he was working on. Watching that made my heart smile and made my day! LOVE LOVE LOVE❤❤❤

"every time you ask do they want me? will they take care of me? ask yourself , how can I better take care of myself" "every time you want something from someone, give it to yourself first" these are deep! I am so glad I watched this one interview. I love Jay, he keeps it real, with no hoopla! Thank you guys.

This man Jay Shetty got wisdom for days. We need more young people watching this as our culture shifts.I love what Jay said about loving yourself. It is ok to question yourself but you should never tell yourself you aren’t lovable because it is very self destructive. I completely love this approach

Careers & people you love , you find when not looking as in a quest. But make a life you love, then be observant to the signs around you. 👁️ Coincidences are Not Just Coincidences…

When they said you find love when you least expect it they meant don’t be pushy and desperate in finding love with someone because it’s a turn off to look desperate, needy and insecure about yourself! 🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🌷

WE need to LOVE OURSELVES to have authentic love. When we learn to respect, forgive and understand ourselves, we can truly extend that to others. Our connections become greater, our intentions grow stronger. Each day, work on loving your being, nurturing yourself, and love will come more evident. Not easier, just naturally. For those of us in recovery, or anyone who has lost someone, because we didn't love ourselves...PLEASE START the PRACTISE of LOVING YOURSELF.

I love how my faves support one another when one of them has a new book out. And I get to watch like 5 interviews about the same thing but with very different meetings of beautiful perspectives/experiences. 🥰

so beautiful to see two men openly sharing & loving

I SOOOO enjoy seeing Lewis light up while talking with Jay. Clearly he is so energised by these types of conversations. I'm forever gratefull to witness and learn from your videos Lewis. Thank you, thank you, thank you

I've just came from watchng videos of Rhonda Byrne and I watched your talk with her. And the best things happen effortlesly. However, everyone is different and as you know we all experience life based on our beliefs.

so good to hear Jay with Lewis again ... tnx school of greatness ..one love !

Listing activities to do together actually allows you to get to centre dates around activities you're comfortable with so you'll get to know whether someone is patient, understanding or even generous. Because these are characters that can't be actualized unless in person. Engaging in activities you enjoy doing together is an important test to determine how someone behaves in the real world.

Great question Lewis on asking Shetty about shame. I love Shetty's showing and sharing his vulnerability in the area of shame and the effects that come from our past actions this topic on shame during his teen is relatable for many of us thank you 🙏🏽

OMG Jay SHETTY and Lewis HOWES at the same Time 🎉❤🎉😮! Sometimes life is a blessing. Thanks for the Charing ❤ You put into light some good points!!

It’s wonderful hearing your visitor, as he is open and honest, great lessons for many.

This is a fascinating conversation & one of my favorites & I'm so amazed by how Jay had articulated his great wisdom considering he's still very young. I can't wait to listen to him when he's in his 50s and in his 80s. He must have gathered more & deeper wisdom by then when he's much older. But at this point, Jay is perfect just the way he is and he deserves a beautiful wife...like Mrs. Shetty ❤✌🙏

I love this. Just a conversation between 2 intellectuals sharing with the world how to better themselves while being open and honest with each other

Life is school of love! I love it! So true

It’s so wonderful to see this topic being brought to the forefront ❤❤❤

Part of what he says at the beginning is to say “I am enough” isn’t true. I agree. Lazy people think they are enough. Fine to accept and love yourself, but you must keep evolving and striving.

“We often get crusted by others people flaws bc we haven’t looked at our own”

This is making so much sense to me! Thanks for being the teachers you are! You have the answers deep within, Jay. Great questions for a man to wonder about, Lewis. Your maturity is beyond most others.

I 💯 find things ALL THE TIME when I stop searching desperately for it. This is why I side-eye some of his advice. You rush into far too many things when you are accepting of anything even close to it. Patience is key. 🤷‍♀️ ⌚

I’ve always believed that love is not a feeling, love is an action. You find love. You build love. You show love. Happiness, peace, relaxation - they are all biproducts of practicing love.

This is BRILLANT insight. Make sense why the the tug and war I experience with my ex. Initially when we started out she showed signs of patience and compassion then as we further our involvement with one another she and I began to demonstrate we had so much inner work to do and when the hurtful words she used towards explains she was not truly loving herself as she describe to me bc when someone truly truly love themselves they will show deep compassion for the other so as she was demoralizing my self-worth it make sense she had work to do of cause this doesn't diminish the fact I also had work to do as well so thank you Lewis for having such an incredible extraordinary human love this thank you to Shetty for the magnificent tools and insight you share with the WORLD love the 4 stages on love I send happiness and hope for all watching this amazing interview I am a student of life learning about myself and others I will add as I continue the relationship I had I was doing some work and got distracted and began to go back to old patterns and so I will say not only the ex but I am added into that category of people who can further develop the skills to do better in the area of self love to then attract love

I start my day by listening to you guys in the morning… especially if I wake feeling moody 😅 and when I want to shut off my negative brain or need a positive vibe.

Brian, your explanations are spot on and your delivery is absolutely brilliant. I feel reassured and entertained all at the same time. THANK YOU!!!!!!!😊😊

I agree! Understand all of you love you understand that dark side the flaws all of it and processing it all and getting it then we can have that compassion for ourselves and for the other person wow Shetty's insight is commendable I love this I will continue to listen and resume to practice the area of LOVE!

hey, 16-year-old here learning from you guys how to work towards making healthy relationships! thank you so much for having this as some information and exposure! really really helpful for someone who hasn't had the best romantic relationship role models.

I have a thought regarding learning to love. I’ve always heard that once a child is borne, mothers love them instantly.. it disintegrated happen like that with me and my son. I can honestly say it took me 3months to fall in love with my baby boy. I cared for him, shared what’s best for him but love did come the first time I saw him apart from being grateful that I don’t have to be pregnant anymore and the baby is out 😝

Love comes in so many forms as big as we can imagine, at some point I understood that some of us might not meet their half during this life time. Just because the society stresses the subject it doesn't make it dogma. The way we love is complex as our innerself gets complicated. I donn't think you can tech anyone how to love ecause you are not them, it is very individual and one should discover it on its own.

Nothing is lost...it's misplaced, waiting to be found....

Love you guys thank you so much, you are helping me in so many ways 🙏🙏🙏

I agree when is said that"you'll find it when you least expect it", because what this means is you will find when you're not attached in finding it. This applies to anything you want. Send the intention, and let it go. That's how you find whatever you want.

Wow - Jay's 4 agreements are so wise!!

44:46 4th agreement of love. Expect people to change. Evolve

Great content ! Inspiring ! Thank you 💫💫💫

I love that you both play pickleball! Pickleball helped me heal from my past 💗

There are big traumas and embarrassments like shouting at your mom because she brings out the worst in you

This was beautiful! Thank you❤

Thank you so much for this amazing conversation ❤

This is an amazing interview! So many jams and deep truths.

I have a very difficult time with placing responsibility for another person's feelings on anyone but that person. Yes, we should treat everyone with Loving Kindness, but we shouldn't "dim down" because someone else can't handle our light. I could contort myself in a million different ways in an effort to control another person's comfort level, and they still may never feel comfortable enough with themselves to feel comfortable with me. I guess what I'm trying to say is that nobody can "make" anyone feel anything. Believe me, I've tried.

You are both great Earth angels. Thank you

Thank you Lewis, great work! 🎉

I think the thing keeps people single is “where to find love” 😕 For example if you try to find from Tinder etc.,those guys looking for sex.If you are searching from gym etc.,same thing guys trying to pick best booty. Its very hard to find someone you can get along with nowadays.Honestly I dont know where ?

Single because 1) trust issues 2) seeking for perfection 3) unpridicted standards 4) find it risky 5) habit of living alone or indulge in your own world 6) fearful when hear decite, breakup etc. 7) negative thoughts 8) A limited or oneway mindset 9) Aimbitious 10) in your comfort zone 11) Introvert 12) false idea of love 13) betrayal 14) living in a orthodox society

1:00- rubbish. I’ve found a lot of things randomly.

Yessss ~ thank you Jay! 💓 I’ve been saying this and feeling this way for a while!

I just heard this I’ll find it when I’m not looking

Thank you so much 🙏🏻

JAY / LEWIS - I have a very important question. Oh yes... things we both, my ex and I should have followed! We drifted apart as my Ex said to me sometimes; I do what I want... This Phrase came out after about 5 or 6 years of our marriage a few times, as i saw some things were done his way without my conscent, and asked why he did not discuss with me ! Is this a usual thing some men do? I was not able to give my opinion, or discuss on what i saw and heard. Jay... Appreciate your advice. We are now divorced, however i don't want this kind of thing to happen again in my life when I'm in a relationship, and get married again!! Thank you so much in advance 🙏

How do you help some dealing with apparently experiencing some type of mental issue, and they will not let you help them.

Beautiful interview

Actually, it is not a lie that we find love or anything else for that matter, when we are not looking. How many times did I find objects that I had lost by chance? Many times. My relationships were all people I bumped into by chance, when I was least expecting it.

Interesting interview,i have learned a lot😇🙌🙏

What type of meditation is best for the brain?

Excellent speaker l ever admire Jay genius

Fantastic Perfect Jay

I FOUND LOVE WHEN I WASN'T EXPECTING IT. AND I DON'T WANT TO GET MARRIED. I WANT TO STAY MARRIED ❤❤

Woe, I have learened that I am step ahead.Loving someone and making them love themself.Well I do still wanna be loved too by someone.Does pure, real love exist? Never cheated or lied, never been nasty or mean and I am not planning to be, though by society that would be ok?

Thanks for interview

Que lindo hablando de mi MARTHITA 🤗

Jay but I met my Love coincidentally - I wasn’t ready but we just clicked and we ended up on the same Love page.

22:13 There is a youtube channel that does this - CinemaTherapy

I'm not sure sleeping at the same time is realistic for couples with kids, especially small kids. Parents have so many responsibilities.

Jay is really really handsome!!!!!!

Thank you very much ❤❤❤

"go to bed and sleep together": What do you suggest for shift workers?

I have always thought that ..Fall In Love...is odd. You Fall Down the Stairs, You Fall on Ice, You Fall in Love.

I want to be friends with Lewis too 😊

beautiful women just have to be and men will find them always. so, yes, some people don't have to do anything or much less to find love

Cannot imagine such a handsome guy being bullied ! 😮

🙏💚thanks for this lessons

Based on the opening 15second clip how are they going to talk about this for 1:40?? Get out there and find a partner.

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Jay looks exactly like Caesar !

Nice

Who cares about hiking if you can’t communicate

Can I feel love if I don’t love myself, and think I’m not smart enough?

Very young, but very inteligent,

I’m no expert by any means .Very sad the first statement that this man makes is incorrect. The more actively you look for some thing you push and pull and try. You push it further and further away from you. One thing that I have learned in my very long life is that when I stopped trying to find some thing and stopped focusing on that thing, it just came to me.

I found my husband when I wasn’t looking.

Laziness on love these days is alarming. They expect it to go on auto pilot.

I feel unlovable, precisely because the man I love will never love me.

I am the bridge to the gaps:) rainbow 🌈 people are us! Not the new definition but the old! Dance on yours 💃🏼

But you're so handsome!

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Haha i was in sainsburys and this guy came up to me and said i am in love withyou and your bottle of squash date me beautiful eyes hahaha i wasnt looking for love just my bottle of squash

But according to some spiritual teachers the most important things in life do not take any effort. I perrsonally think the most valuable things cannot even be influenced. Can I influence to not die of seldom illness? No.Still it is very important. Trust in Universe.

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My favorite duo! 👯‍♂️🤣🫶🏼 After hearing “Everything you want from someone else, give it to yourself first” I realized how much I romanticize my life and everyone in it- WITHOUT giving it the same way in return…

I don’t want to just get married I want to stay married ☺️☺️. Love is an action not just a feeling

Finding love is not like finding keys or phones. Love is not an object. People find love whether they expect it or not. So there is no lies or misconceptions about human emotions and behaviors. There are just different ways. Each follow what work for them. You can not standardize how human being feel, act, behave or think.

I take the saying “you’ll find it when you least expect it” to mean that if you have intention in your life, have truly worked on yourself and have a sense of detachment you understand your value and worth that if it comes along then that’s great but if it doesn’t I’m happy too! Most people who find great love are emotionally intelligent who have put effort into understanding themselves first.

I have been listening to both of you for over 4 years and between many many gem interviews I found this one to be the most influential, teaching one. Show your lives so transparent and live and lead by examples. I'll be listening to it again because so many small detailed hidden gems are in this conversation what I probably have not caught for the first time. teared up around min 56 final question when Jay said our purpose and showing up for others are not measured by trophies but how deeply you helped others to love themselves. This is huge!!! I personally received it and have experienced once and that time I didn't know what my true joy was really originated from, that after decades first time I loved me, because He let me. I thought I was happy loving him but was the other way around. Great reminder. Thank you

“Everything you want from someone else give it to yourself first” And that hits me to the core❤️❤️❤️

It takes effort to make yourself lovable and to feel you're worthy of love. If you have to go out looking for love then you come from a place of neediness. My wife of 26 years showed up on my doorstep, only effort was to open the door. Did a ton of work on myself beforehand, though