The Wife vs The Baby Mama | Ep. #42 

As the WIFE, I don't think a man should have to jump when bm says how high..like answer every single call even if it's 15x a week because they're trying to exert their control or relevance using kids as leverage while at the same time hoping the wife gets upset. Boundaries must be set.

Your wife comes before your baby mama. Long as the child is fed/safe/provided for thats all that REALLY matters. 😂😂 idc what no body says and this is coming from a wife!

It all boils down to..."...why wasn't I good enough to be his wife? I had his baby/babies and he married HER and NOT me!" The HUSBAND should NEVER become a simp for his EX girlfriend just because he FEARS her. Support the financial needs of the children and spend time with them. If the ex manipulates that relationship for her agenda ...take her to court.

if a man thinks that it is his responsibility let alone appropriate to invest in the aesthetic and misc activities of his baby mama then said man deserves to stay single... while some may call this maturity this is actually such a LACK OF DISCERNMENT AND UNDERSTANDING that makes it the epitome of immaturity... it is the man's behavior that creates the tension and competition between the two women. If he had a platonic, black and white relationship with his baby mama she won't feel like another woman (his spouse) is taking something from her and commence her games and then the spouse (gf fiance wife) wouldnt feel insecure or untrusting about the coparenting relationship and become possessive and defensive... so men in these situations understand when you do to much for your baby mama in the name of the kids no only are you creating a monster out of your baby mama but you are also compromising your ability to have a healthy trusting relationship with your new spouse... dont do too much then just scapegoat the gf/fiance/wife as insecure and problematic when it's really ur behavior

Wow! Thanks Marcus. The position of "baby moma" is not easy. This is definitely loaded AND maybe you should invite a "baby moma" on the program.

I come before the BM and the kids, meaning his first kids and the one we have together. There’s nothing that happens that isn’t ran by me first- when the BM texts, she’s texting both of us. We discuss what’s be done and he responds. And to the ladies that don’t have this respect you married the wrong man.

If you are a real father and involved you don't need no communication with your baby mother just your child or children. You only need communication with her when you don't know whats going on.

Every man's baby's mama doesn't want them back, its ridiculous and immature. A wife needs to learn her place as far as doing too much when it comes to them and the raising of their child. The child's mother needs to know her place as well when it comes to their marriage and boundaries as far as how she communicates with him in regards to co parenting.

You guys are always giving golden advice.

You can still respect the bm and not bend over backwards for her, she’s not your woman, you don’t owe her anything but to be a great father to the kids, I don’t expect any extra from the mom so she shouldn’t expect any extra from me.

As a single mom- My child father wanted a child but not to be a family. But as a way to always return when he was ready! I ended it and he eventually married the women who would allow him to cheat- all BM’s are NOT salty. Call ur kid 1c or 2x a week, spend time and pay child support. Simple. Unless the BM is calling crazy hr and stalking you all trust- she dont want him- its likely he is an ass and wants her to feel his absence by not engaging wt the kids and evading financial responsibilities. Alot of wives are not 1st choice, particularly if the relationship ended do to infidelity… 🤫🤫🤫😊

I don’t think Marcus get it

Nahhh Marcus doesn’t get it

In a marriage there has to be healthy boundaries set with the child mothers... That husband and wife is a union and does need to be respected..

Why does the young lady have such vitriol and animosity toward "baby mamas?" She seems to only be able to see things from the wife's perspective as if the child's mother is not a person too. Does she think that because the man no longer wants to be with the child's mother that her feelings are irrelevant? The child's well being is most important. However, as the primary caretaker of the child, the mother's well being is important as well. Her home is now broken and any possibility of a home she hoped to have for her child with his father is gone. Doesn't that mean anything to anyone? She is now forced to share her role as a mother with someone she doesn't know and she has no control or say in that. That's why I respect and agree with Marcus' perspective and why it should be, for the most part, the standard for how these situations are handled. Respect and consideration across the board.

Marcus… no

i’m a baby mamma n i agree more with the man’s perspective… the woman actually feels like someone a man would want to keep their new girl away from because she comes off a bit pushy

I agree with the wife 😂😂 💯

She might have been chosen first to be his wife and gave her ring back. Now he is married, they have a child to raise and the wife is vindictive and pressed. Its so sad because 95% percent of the time we don't want him. It's your turn now, why can't we be adults and raise this child together. No one talks about the jealous wife that swears you want her husband that you gave an engagement ring back too. That's wild.

This dude is ridiculous🤔

I don't feel like the baby daddy should be paying the baby mommas bills no that blurs the lines too much. He is not her man anymore.. his responsibility is the child. Before they met she was supporting herself so she should continue that.

He’s very foolish

Yup It’s gross.. Who the hell wants to be a baby mama lol eewooo

Let's stop demonizing and demeaning "baby mamas." Like the wife, she is still a woman and should not be viewed as less valuable because she was not chosen for marriage by the child's father. Let's also not minimize her role or the situation by thinking or saying she simply wants the man back. That isn't always the case. Some woman are very protective of their children and actually love and enjoy motherhood and being or having a complete family unit is important to them and raising healthy children. To lose the father to another woman where he will play the role of husband and father in another home, and now your child is part of that dynamic leaving your home broken...to me, that is a very devastating thing to have to deal with. Yes, the "baby mama" can, should, and will move on at some point. I just think some compassion and, like Marcus said, proper communication would go a long way in these situations.

It’s cute when you are younger and being called a baby mama but when you are older the term baby mama is not so cute. I went to a funeral for my ex in-laws a few months ago after being divorced for years and have not seen the in-laws for years and our daughter is grown. He has remarried and I struggled with the people who didn’t know me and how do I introduce myself to them and to try to fit in with my ex family. Long story short I came up with telling these people that I was The First Family to the ones that I have never met without trying to disrespect his marriage and his wife in-laws. Side note…some people become baby mama’s after divorce not just single women who get pregnant. There is a difference.

He still having relations with his bm bottom line... tell her new man to get her hair done ✔️

I actually agree with Marcus. Some people are able to remove their ego and work on having an effective healthy relationship with another individual. Theres nothing wrong with doing something nice for someone. You are not obligated to fund or do anything long term (except for your child of course) Communication is key. Respect is key. Consideration is key. As she said, it takes MATURITY (Obviously if your hiding it, on some level you know it’s wrong)

Some beautiful people! your brown skin is so nice Marcus! You look like Royalty!

What culture y’all living in lol you can say baby mama in a none harmful way

Exactly! Baby Mama lifestyle only fits rich men. If you can't afford the peace, don't have them.

As much as the woman has great ideas of what it should be unfortunately she will never win against a baby mama. Men 90% of the time choose thier children over anyone else. She needs to date men without kids! Trust me I have been there. It does not end well. She will be forever in competition with a child. And their is no winning that war. Find a man with no kids if you have no kids. It works much better for you.