Don't be silly girl! She's not over him because HE hasn't set any CLEAR boundaries with her..... they're probably still sleeping together or @ least still emotionally intimate with one another! Get a REAL clue!!!
I feel a lot of men get off on the bm’s not having boundaries and probably like that two or more woman are wanting them. A woman can only do as much as a man allows.
Hru, I don't want my baby mama ever she mad my life A living hell and mentally destroys my kids.However my gf is close to losing me over this very issue....
Hru, I don't want my baby mama ever she mad my life A living hell and mentally destroys my kids.However my gf is close to losing me over this very issue....
My gf is biracial and my kidsom is black and I'm sorry ladies but this is a real problem in the black woman community...The ones in the comment that speak against this, you are good but rare....
You deserve so much more. Expect for things not to change and ask yourself, do you really wanna put up with that for 10 more years? I hope peace finds you and if that means walking away then so be it 🤷🏾♀️🤍
I'm single and have been single since 2019. This just came in my feed and this really isn't for my situation. Besides that, I don't deal with baby daddies anyway. If you're single you should never want a baby daddy! Women deserve better than a baby daddy situation. Blessings to whoever reads this and Happy New Year!✨️
When a guy has kids, with his ex, she, the baby mamma, will always be in his life, because of their kids. This is why I'll never date a single dad, again ! I'm happier single & childfree. I don't want a guy, with baggage, his kids & his kids' mamma.😊
I watched the first version..as a single father, you nailed it! From the man's prospective...and just the first 1 minutes of this video, you nailed it again..she git caught cheating...still mad at me for ending it for the better of out 3yr old daughter
A lot of the times when she still has feelings for him he's playing with her feelings. My ex's baby mama was tryna fight me..talking shit...calling him late at night...and it eventually came out that he was still flirting with her and playing both sides.
I relate to almost everything you were saying. BM wants to keep the kids from him, told his mother that "I won't let her win" meaning let me win- as if this is a game? 🤣🤣
The first 3 are spot on about my bm mind you she has a little boo thang and been sleeping with him yet she always wanna be in my business when the baby is with me like foh 😂😂😂😂
These men leave messes and don’t clean them up. We woman have to have self love and know when to move on. Don’t stay in the toxicity. The baby mom is mad because she is hurt, and most likely in depression. Time will tell of your man is full of, you know what and did her dirty. Leave him and let him get his Karma.
As a baby mama, I exhibit a few of the signs that you mentioned in this video. I don't want my baby daddy back, but I'm just pissed 247 at the fact that I'm a baby mama. And I act out sometimes, cos I hate being a single mother. I'm just mad at the world, I don't want your man, sis. 🙄
Maybe you shouldn't have created a baby with him. You brought the situation onto yourself and thought the baby was going to change things and keep them around.
He don’t pay her any attention, and they haven’t been together for five years! She stalks me and copies me. She still obsessed with him and me. girl we’re married!! Move on.
It does not matter if you two are married I’m sorry .. once you both have kids that is a different story until then? Your nothing but a wife.. and they have kids sorry to say
Well they HAVE to communicate because they share a child. But there should be boundaries on that communication taking place is all I’m saying. Thanks for the support! 😊
My thing is she’s in a relationship, i don’t chase or beg or give her any negative energy. But for some reason she gives me attitude and try to push my buttons. She thinks it’s alright to walk into my apartment til this day. I’m like what you doing. Just wait outside right.
That's weird. How does she have access to your apartment? She may still want to be with you. Check out my other video for signs the baby mama isn't over her baby daddy.
@@d.ashanti22 she doesn’t. I didn’t give her no key to my apartment. She thinks it’s fine to try to walk into my place. I just tell her to wait for me outside.
A fucked up situation is the fact that a friend of mine actually dated a girl for years but off and on etc claiming she loves the dude but the bum baby father and her mama they stay under the same roof like wtf
She needs to get a life and he needs to get himself a court order for child support and shared custody. Judges show fathers favor when they seek the courts on their own. Been there.
Questions that need answers lol. But we can assume the obvious, she still wants her baby daddy but is either trying really hard to move on or is using her new guy as a hoax to not look bothered or upset about her baby daddy moving on.
@@d.ashanti22 or don't forget she needs $$$ and a place to live lol that's my experience...oh and she wants to show she found a new daddy for their kid...
Because she thinks that having a new man will make her baby daddy jealous and she will get a reaction out of him. It's a ego thing....her ego can't handle the fact that her baby daddy is paying more attention to another woman.
You’re best bet is to not date men who have children when their young, baby daddies .. men move on to another woman faster the women doesn’t mean HE moved on before I had my son, I never dated men who had a child or children.. you can’t put no bodies in their place! you have to ask yourself what did he do and how did leave her for her to be doing all that bs! A lot of times women with NO children don’t think this way, have a child with someone you loved and he abuse you in anyway then you break up with him, he jumps for one relationship to another to try to get over you , then maybe you can see a different perspective however if that women doing all that in that list he ain’t all over her and you’re probably a rebound.. men try move on though I give that much😏 but must do in toxic ways! Make sure he has a good relationship with his child mother or will always bs you’ll be caught up in
@@tamunosakiwestscott-bloack2229 hunny child .. if you can’t read between lines of what I said then oh well I don’t give a damn about the english language especially a language that’s not mines you sound pressed 🥱
These are valid points. I can agree that this is also possible. I know from experience. I didn't see it in the moment as everything was happening because you know some men like to make the baby mama look crazy or even do crazy things. However, what that baby mama does there after catching her baby daddy cheating or moving on with someone else when he hasn't 100% ending things with her or ended things in a respectable way, she can only blame herself. He is at fault for treating her and the situation the way he did but she also has to take accountability for her actions.
@@d.ashanti22 oh most definitely, I’m not bias because I’m a single parent but as such, must men will make it seem like she was the problem and he wasn’t, I been working on me single and happy with being single, my Bd is in his second relationship we been broke up for 3 years.. smh 🤦🏽♀️ he has to grow on his own time if he does however it’s so important us women move wisely when dealing with men especially with children, Funny thing is even though I’m open to it depending on the man, I’d rather date a man with a child!
I'm sorry but I dont agree with this.. most men will place themselves in that situation because most of the time for us it goes from being with your children everyday to a weekend dad and mum gets most of the say.. that hurts us knowing we are not an everyday part of our kids lives... personally I don't need another woman to fill the void that has been left because I'm stronger than that and know its not about me or my BM but our child... I can deal with my own hurt but I can't stand to feel my child is hurting because of a situation me and my BM created.. but I can 100% see why some men jump into another relationship to ease the pain..
I'm in a relationship with a guy who has 5 kids, i only have 1. That's d worst mistake I've ever made. I'm always #6. He still tells me that he wants to have a baby with me.
Yes I got my child and my baby mom has moved out of state and she still is a major problem a true narcissist is who I’m realizing I was with for all those years. It’s never about our child it’s always blaming me and threats of court of I want my baby back Nobody forced you to sign over your rights move on lady sheesh
Only reason why its hard for us to co parent is because he doesnt ask if my son needs anything he barely calls and all the money that he spends go to her. The girlfriend even called cps because she felt like i was abusive.
I’m sorry you’re going through that. Unfortunately we can’t control what the ex says or does but we can control our actions and what we want to deal with. His mom shouldn’t entertain her foolishness. If you feel comfortable have a conversation with his mom. Definitely have a conversation with your man so he knows how you feel and then decide together what you can/will do to make sure you both are at peace. Sometimes that even means for you to walk away from that toxic, negative environment or people who disturb your peace. You are beautiful, you deserve so much more and you deserve to be happy. Don’t limit yourself because you’ve been with him so long or because of your history with him. You can and will find something greater once you let go of what no longer serves you. If something or someone is not bringing you peace, you have to walk away. I hope this helps. Sending you love ❤️ and light ✨
His ex baby mama make a fake account and tell me broke up with him and that’s me for money ! I found out the hard way and I know it because the person told me my horoscope doesn’t like!
Im going through this in my marriage. His baby mama is NOT over him and he has made it soooo clear that he doesnt want her and we BOTH question the child. She hates me honestly, because she thought he was gonna go to another hispanic chic and came back to the motherland. And she makes it so obvious. Too obvious. She even showed up to my house.
The BM has been claiming she doesn't want him she's been stalking me for as long as we been together and she fought me two weeks ago and I won now she lets us get the son
That’s why you make sure she don’t know ya social media. My man’s bm couldn’t track me down through social media if she wanted to. She just gone have to find a new hobby lol won’t be doe ! Foot on neck and I anit letting up cause baby girl mind ya business !
Am a baby mama, but apparently the baby daddy has been stalking me, liking my pictures. Then all over sudden the new girlfriend sent me a text, telling me am still bitter and am shallow minded. Like this two have been stalking me. So why are they being too dramatic and saying that my daughter will never get a better dad. Some of us baby Mama's want peace, but the girlfriends are so insecure and dramatic
#1 and #6 is what I struggling hard with real real bad! I live out of state but my bm makes it so hard for me to see my child. I my daughter every other month but even times I fly to see my daughter outside of what courts ordered but she still doesn’t let me see my child. When its my visitation time she always wants to drop off and pick up my daughter and go inside the hotel or airbnb and be super thristy looking around and try to be by me like she wants to be in my space and around me in general but still have a pissy mad attitude face always and every single time! Its been almost 5yrs now and she is bitter. She even has a boyfriend now and still treats me like I’m a sperm donor or I’m not nobody. I wish everything could stop and I can have a normal life with my daughter
going thru this my bm be texting my gf off text free app talking like i want her found out i got a new baby on the way she been in her feelings texted my gf talking crazy a day after our babyshower
Ya bms a weirdo check her for it get real ugly later down the road lmao. How she even get her number ? My man’s bm don’t have access to me. I and neither does he allow her to cause drama in what we got going on.
Got a new sub From This single dad. Her: your such a good dad (Thursday) Her: MY (first person) daughter has been sick. (Afyer I had our child for a week) ....yeah I know. The heads up would've been appreciated.
Got a new man and moved him in to get him upset. We thought she would go on about her business with a happy relationship, and when she saw that didn’t work and nobody cared right back at it Girl! We planning our wedding Jesus
My baby mama causes nothing but problems. Dragging me through court costing me thousands. I've been nothing but a good dad. Yet her other baby daddy is a gang member and jobless. Hasn't seen her other kid in 10 years. So why come after the good dad n wish the loser dad would be in her kids life. I don't get it
I get your points but I think it is very important to get to know your baby daddys girlfriend especially if you have kids. You need to cooperate with step parents on both sides and you need to know that this stranger is a good person around your kid. Many stepparents are jealous of the kids as well and don't treat them right. You would not send your kid to a stranger. Also, if your ex has a New wife and get more kids with her, then her kids will be your kids half siblings. It is crutial for parents and stepparents to cooperate for the kids well being
I agree, it is import for everyone to know each other and be cordial and respectful. But as we all know that isn't always the way it plays out mostly because of the baby mama. Not saying the new girlfriend or wife is perfect and can do nothing wrong. But it's more common the other way around and that's what this video is about.
I disagree. You don’t need to know the baby daddy gf or baby mama bf. Keep your lives separate. And the extra partners should not involve themselves in the children’s matter.
No joke the baby daddy crap pisses me off, i been seeing this girl and today we went and seen a movie she got up and left me in the theater for like 5 mins to talk to her baby daddy on the phone and kept checking her phone its like who tf are you with me or him? And they make an excuse oh i gotta keep them around for the kids sake at the same time while treating her kids dad just like me she wants to keep playing she is gonna find out what its like to lose someone great.
I’m going through a situation my child’s father just got custody of his son. The child’s mother is in like a work release center for whatever reason I do not know I’ve been dating him for two years I have a child With him also. She calls him a lot I do not mind that I get it she’s in jail pretty much but last week we got into a heated argument And made up his child’s mother called his phone it was on speakerphone and she was talking to him and she made a comment AND SAID I will have your daughter calling me mommy now she has a son with him. So I told her never did he hung up with her. I took him to work and he asked me to text his job but I seen that he had text her and told her everything is OK baby I’m at work making this money she never replied back, but I confront him about it he jumped out the car and walked off and left my car door open and told me that I act like he dating her so I’m moving on. And also made her down into a argument and she told me that when she come out of jail he’s gonna fall at her feet like he always do and the only child he going to act like exist it’s hers.
So sorry to hear this is happening to you. At this point let your focus be about what you and your baby needs. Sounds like he's giving you unnecessary problems and sounds like he wants to be with or entertain his other child's mother. So best thing you can do is know your worth, decide on what is best for yourself and your child, and move accordingly. You deserve so much more. We all do. Let's not allow these pathetic excuses for men, treat us this was and lets not stick around long enough for them to think they can and to continue doing it. I wish you well 💜
Honestly if I were you I would consider my relationship with the man. Is he worth sticking it out with? Are y’all on the same page with where the relationship is going and y’all future goals? Is he stepping up and addressing her and the issue? Or does he sit back and let her disrespect you and y’all relationship? At the end of the day he’s the common denominator and it’s his bm and his child. You are his woman now and he needs to move as such. He can’t control what she says but he can demand respect for you and y’all relationship while the bm is in y’all presence. You have to realize and be ok with the fact that she will never like you and never try to be on one accord with you. As long as you have a good man by your side and he protects you at all cost, what she thinks and how she feels is irrelevant and she’ll get over it. 😜 Keep thriving sis. (P.S. if she tries it with you and tries to physically harm you, you know what to do 😂).
I think the mother has a right to ensure that the stepmother has good intentions by her child. If she does not know her, how can she know? If a stepmother can not deal with this then she should not marry a man who has kids. Many parents are worried about the the inviroment their kids are in, that is why it is crucial to build trust. The stepmother also has a responsebility to show she is trustworthy and a responsebility to show respect for the child and its mother. I think many stepparents misuse the situation by saying the mom is Just jealous and so on. It is a Nice excuse but not always the case
I divorced my wife now she mybaby mama we still sleep together now she broke up with me and she is always trying to make me mad she will say let's get together again I agree than she just tries to get me mad all day or jealous I broke up again its so tiring fighting all day
Dont speak at all, even worse. How are we supposed to co parent, when she acts like im invisible for 8 months. But she got plenty of reasons. New baby daddy #3 (of hers, i have no children) and that man didnt hang the moon for her. Smh....and im 10 years older. Im done with this.
I always knew hell would break loose the day i would get into a serious relationship with another woman, meanwhile my bm married, two new kids, and STILL lowkey trying to control my D... Now she's in a war with me... talking sh*t about me to my child, and successfully made my child not wanting to be with me and resent my girlfriend... BTW I have been 110% dedicated father, and an inappropriately supportive to my bm as well... financially besides the child support... And now I ended all of that and she's would rather see me dead at this point beacuse of my new woman...
I know more women who admit the .om was at fault, and the dad chose happiness over her feelings and cheating, for the child's sake....than women who say, in a real conversation, that the father was in the wrong. Women have sexual options. Men dont!
I appreciate the support. Hey, different strokes for different folks 🤷🏾♀️. There are many reasons women end up involved with a baby daddy. Some women are even ok with dating men with kids but it’s about finding and dating the RIGHT man with a child. If they’re gonna do it they have to do it right.
@@d.ashanti22 yea but what if the child wants there mom included. Why would you separate a parent just because he has a girlfriend. They should be able to get along together at family functions for the sake of the child
Relax sis, she's not apart of the family, only her child is. she's not married, marriage is what binds a woman to a man's family. That's why you notice many customs around marriage because it's binding of two people and their families. If she doesn't have the man's last name and only her child does, it's obvious she's not apart of that family. Any baby mama attaching herself is just looking for drama and is probably desperate
For this I say it depends on the relationship with the mother and father and the family. If the father and mother are still cool and able to get along and family is ok with it then their is no problem. Everybody is different every situation is different