The Women Men Don't See - People Watching Season 2, Episode 7 

The Stalker is the most fascinating thing about this video, because he underlines the central point of the video. Martha knows he's there - probably has one eye on him the entire night. For that reason she stays very close to Ted, holding his hand, making sure that they go everywhere together and do not separate until she gets to her front door, stalker-free. Yet she never mentions it, because if she did she knows Ted would want to do something about it and that absolutely is not what she wants to happen. She says as much in the last few lines - there's stuff she'll never tell him because she doesn't want him to feel sorry for her, treat her like a victim, or think he's a bad person [either for taking action or not taking action]. Nice piece of storytelling.

She's definitely my favorite character still. But geez man. The way she was talking about "there are things I'll never tell you" really scare me.

I think the core message of this series is empathy...why I love it.

Rewatching People Watching, I'm not disappointed. It's as good as I remember.

Well, I don't use my real name on social media but it's not because I have a violently physically abusive ex. It's because I used to have an ex who stalked me.

Saw this as a snapchat reel, and had major anxiety the whole time cuz of the one fuckin dude. Came here to see if it was an extended cut, cuz i for some reason never thought to come to youtube to find it in normal video format. Anyways, glad to see that my anxiety will continue because it ends the exact same way and there is no extended cut. Its absolutely genius but terrifying. Thank you cracked

We gon pretend like she not snarky as hell to her friend 😂😂😂

If there was anyway to check that wasn't illegal, I would be willing to bet a years paycheck that at least 80% of the dislikes on this video are men that didn't understand, and/or disagree.

Every guy needs to watch this.

Yeah men never see the women who whine complain and criticize

sometimes i get so pessimistic about this stuff, i wish sex didnt exist at all think about how much less aggressive people would be sometimes (or would we just find other things to fight about more?) im not sure, but i'd at least like to not constantly think somethings wrong with me because of unfortunate past experiences, with past people who have wronged me so many times i tell people i'm just not interested in romance and they think it's some sort of challenge for them to convince me that this time will be different like no, go talk to someone who is interested please im tired of blocking people i want real friends ;_; #foreveralone

Just noticed that She had to bring Ted to pay her rent to the landlord because he’s so creepy

a comedian got the catcalling thing pretty well "don't say anything to a woman in the street that you would'nt want to hear in a prison cell"

"someone corners you and you have to nice yourself out of it.." Truth.

To the creator: I like the fact that you added the creep guy in the background but didn’t do anything because wether you meant for it to or not that made its own point without him saying a word. A stalker doesn’t have to physically do anything to make a situation scary. Just the fact that they’ve there following you is enough to make someone not want to go outside. Thanks for the video though i really dig this kinda content, an unspoken social issue is always interesting to hear about. New to the channel but staying around 👍🏻

This was so sweet. I love how understated it is when the male character is looking at his friend's myface page and sees her name is fake. He's got this dawning realization that what his friend is not saying is just as telling as what she is saying.

“When the whole floor is eggshells you stop giving a shit”. Definitely this. “

The not catcalling when a man is with them thing is real. I experienced it in New York City when the crowds had me walking farther behind my girlfriend than usual. People that would blend into the background and be forgotten when walking closer to her suddenly became talkative.

One of the best sides of watching this show is reading everything in the background

I honestly feel worried about characters in this show

When she talked about having to "nice" her way out of a situation, I so felt that.

There was something in the video that confused me at first. The point where she grabs his hand and leads him away. I thought the point was to highlight the caution that women in particular have to act with when they are in "bad" neighbourhoods at night. But when they went back later I realized. She knew the weird guy was following them and she didn't want him to know where her apartment was or, worse, corner her when she was alone. But Ted stopped cause that was it for their hanging out for the night, so she had to lead him away. Wow.

Wow, the timing of stumbling across this is insane. I went to a concert on Thursday night with a very attractive female friend of mine and for the first time, witnessed directly some of the BS she probably has to put up with on the regular. Between the guys asking me if she was 'my girl' to the guys trying to rub up on her while she was just trying to enjoy the concert. It connects directly to some of what was communicated in this video. At one point, I was literally herding these two guys away from her, and doing my best to accomplish that without her noticing, as I didn't want them or my actions to distract her from enjoying the moment. One had the audacity to say, "It looks like she can defend herself," to which I responded, "You're damn right she can, but you've got no fucking right to put her in a position where she feels that's necessary." And in this day and age, I realized when she'd headed to the bathroom and left her drink with me that not only was it a demonstration of trust, but that while I'm used to not giving a shit or having to worry, I actually had an obligation to actively watch her drink (and my own) and make sure that no douche bag put something in it while I was enjoying the show, because I wouldn't put it past them to dose one or both drinks to either try and incapacitate her, but instead dosing me, or fuck us both up to get me out of the picture and her to wherever. I'm gonna have to watch this a few times to get everything out of it, I think.

I feel it's also important to point out the guy's obliviousness to the stalker. He is a good guy as the girl points out, but the assholes that ruin it for everyone isn't something life requires them to be vigilant against. It's the things guys don't 'see,' but girls can't afford to ignore.

One of the reasons I love this show is because these are the kinds of conversations I have with my bf when we get fries at some fast food place after watching a movie, and watching these vids has given us conversation starters more than once. We don't even have to agree with the show or with eachother, just thinking about these topics, chatting, debating, listening to someone else's opinions and coming to our own conclusions is really great

Was I the only one genuinely freaked out by stalker dude?

Sad but true. And I learned this the hard way. What's scary is that as an introvert, and as someone who has few friends who are nowhere near my home, I usually move alone. And because of past experiences, I have to carry pepperspray with me wherever I go. It's sad that this has become "normal" for some of us. It shouldn't be. It's hard to trust anyone.

Being followed even when you are with someone is unfortunately a thing. I'm glad they showed that.

I think men who are good people and don’t do creepy shit should be mad at the creeps who ruined it for everyone, NOT at the women who are responding to potentially dangerous situations. And I know this is an animation, but the scenes with the guy following her in particular is very relatable (and not in the least unusual). It’s happened to me more than I care to recall and it’s happened to my friends as well. It is just a fact of life. I always look over my shoulder when walking alone, and I never walk alone at night. (And I love nighttime, it’s my favorite part of our 24 hours). And while it may seem like overreacting to those who can walk at night carefree, these techniques are required (and sadly sometimes deficient) to thwart unwanted attention or even assault. On a positive note: it is really great to know there are guys out there who care to listen and do their part to change the way things are. We need you guys for real systematic change. At least that’s how I feel.

There's something incredibly chilling about that last scene when he scrolls through his Facebook friends, all with fake names, and finally lands on Martha, his closest friend and longtime roommate, and sees that she too has an alias

That dude stalking in the background is giving me anxiety

I remember when I was at a bar with friends (I was 19) and this one guy (who was like mid to late 30’s) wouldn’t leave me alone and at one point he cornered me to talk to me and his opening line was how he nearly went to jail for being a pedo, great opening line there bud Btw I got out the situation fine cause one of my friends is a huge scary biker looking guy (nicest guy I know) so he scared pedo man off

The stalker made me anxious through the whole video

This reminds me of a conversation I had with my bf. He's a very social guy who just likes to talk to people - male & female - when going out. He was telling me how he doesn't like going to certain event or bigger clubs, since he can't talk to a woman without her 'casually' mentioning within 5 minutes that she has a bf or something. So, yeah, I could understand his frustration - he'd be like, yeah, I've got a girlfriend, she's standing right there, we were just talking about *blank* subject, right? (he'd probably think it instead of saying it, he's not that tactless). So I started to explain to him our point of view. Like, how if I'm talking to a guy (no flirting/ touching, JUST talking! I wouldn't even accept drinks from him!) at a bar or club or whatever, and he'd make a move, and I'd THEN tell them I'm not interested, or I have a boyfriend, well... some guys can react pretty badly. Like, get REALLY angry. I still a lot of times refuse to do this 'introducing myself with "hi! I have a bf!", because I think it's not required for talking to someone. If he wants to know, he can ask. But I do get why a lot of women do this and are guarded this way. Here's the deal: most men are decent people, but it takes just ONE asshole, out of the VAST majority of guys to ruin it for everyone. So I'll come of as guarded, or pretentious or whatever, but I have to keep myself safe from the 1 asshole. And don't say it's the same for men and women. There is a definite biological difference here. If I'd hit a guy (which I never do, and will NEVER justify, violence is always wrong! but just hypothetically), at WORST he'd have a black eye. Probably not even that. But (and yes, there's overlap, but 90% of the time at least) a guy could hit me into the hospital. So to quote Spiderman: with great power comes great responsibility. And I'm not going into everything, but at least physically, men do hold all the power, usually.

This may be the only show Cracked puts out after the mass lay offs, but that doesn't change the fact that People Watching is genuinely one of my favorite shows on RU-vid. Every episode is thought provoking, well shot, and entertaining as hell. I was so glad to see it get revived!

When you realize you’re as oblivious as the male lead

Props, Michigan J. Frog as an metaphor for how street harassment never happens when someone is looking is pretty on point.

Everyone's so focused on the stalker, are we just going to ignore how the girl was the victim of an abusive boyfriend she's trying to hide from? Or the casual mention of the ex husband who cut off that other girl's finger over a pizza?

I didn't know how problematic things are in my country regarding sexual objectification of women until my girlfriend began to open up about all the shit she has to go through on a daily basis. Looks are no problem, not for her and not for me. That's only natural. It becomes a problem when men keep pursuing her or becoming physical even though she specifically states she has a relationship. She's had men come beside her on the bus or the train and start interrogating her about her personal life, unwilling to stop when asked to. She's had men smack her ass at her job (she works as a waitress). Every time she gets out, she has at least 2 guys fixated on having sex with her, which ruins her whole night with her friends. She has to go through daily catcalling when going to her college. She's had male friends which she thought she had a strong friendship with suddenly text her dirty messages… I don't deny that this doesn't happen to men as well. I've just personally not heard any of my male friends open up about their experiences (perhaps because it still is taboo?). But keep in mind that my girlfriend is not an overly hot bombshell like you see in fashion magazines. She's just an average girl (which is what I like about her). If she already has to deal with all that on a daily basis, then I can imagine how shitty it must be for women who have won the genetic jackpot.

Just be a good human being who treats other people like human beings and create a safe space wherever you go. It's not that hard.

I remember walking with my mom into a mall when I was a teen, she was wearing gym wear because she's a spinning instructor and even at 40 she kept herself looking great, and these two greasy guys just whistled loudly at her from their car. I was 6'2 and that generally scares people enough to not do anything. These guys were trying hard to get her attention though, but we just kept walking, as uncomfortable as she was. It got me thinking though, what if I'm not with her while she's in public? Do things get worse than that, especially when alone? I'm not really a violent person, but the thought of anyone being made uncomfortable like that makes me so mad.

I'm just gonna tell you guys that it happens at any age. When I was 13 we had an end of year field trip to a go-kart range, one of the employees kept eyeing my boobs and I just tried to smile but I felt unsafe. I told my friends while we were in the arcade and we spent the rest of the field trip on the other side of the park (mini golf). Needless to say I will NEVER go back to that go-kart range.

That's the *first* time I've heard Feminism explained in a *rational* way that makes me even more empathetic to how people treat people than I already was.

As someone who got harassed online today and had to defend myself - the cartoon analogy really got to me coz sometimes the very system meant to protect you, has blindspots that abusers use to stay safe. So after a female friend mentioned similar things happening to her, this was the first time I remembered this episode & was able to empathize with the lessons here. Dayum, it hits right in the feels! 💖

The frog bit was genius. Hats off to whoever wrote that.

"When the whole floors eggshells you really just stop giving a shit." *I felt that*

This comment section is toxic. Can people realize that maybe not everything in this video is true or accurate, but some things are worth taking on board. Why not, (and I know this might sound insane) take this video with a grain of salt. Maybe you'll learn something if you take your head out of your self-righteous arse. For the people complaining about men's issues. Men have issues but that shouldn't be a counter point to women's issues. Men and women both face issues. The point isn't to make it a competition, the point is to fix them. If you're saying this video is bad because it doesn't address men's issues, you're missing the whole point. Why don't you get involved with helping men's issues rather than just hating because someone else is trying to create awareness for women's issues. Y'all on some shit I swear.

About the 1 hand pinned down thing, I've had both male classmates and close friends just suddenly grab my wrist out of the blue with a single hand just to point out how petite I am and demonstrate how they can easily overpower me. It's not as if I'm already aware of that. What's uncomfortable is them deciding to point out the obvious and touch me like so without permission just to demonstrate the point.

Wow, this is rad. It's like Daria and Adam Ruins Everything had a baby that was drawn by the artists from 'Archer' and it's beautiful.

Are we just going to casual ignore the stalker. Like wtf.

For people who don't get it. The point of the video is between two friends. They both knew each other their whole lives but the guy is totally getting into the feminist topics and videos. He want to become a feminist and show his appreciate toward women. But all of his "research" is on tinder and basically social media apps. He want to be approachable and sweet but doesn't realize he coming off as a douche. His friend is trying to educate him by stating just because you now have an interest doesn't mean you know everything in women. By saying you have to become a comfortable presence. And while doing so reveals her own abuse like she literally said I had a boyfriend who was able to pin me down with one arm. And he doesn't even bother to question it. He doesn't even try to listen to the story to realize that she's hurt but just the part he need. He doesn't even realize that for the whole night they are being followed by one guy from the club. He's too self aware to his own problems then to realize she's in trouble. It's not till later when he went on her social media that he realize that most of his friends were using short fake names and then saw that she herself used one to. Basically showing that she was being physically abused at one point in life and he wasn't aware. Then finally the message of what she was saying clicked: How can you be this feminist and try to save women from their problems when you couldn't notice my own when I was your best friend?

I love how they explained feminism it’s about choices like making you own life decisions

The best part about being middle-aged is that I am invisible to men on the street and social media. I don't have to deal with the harassment. Plus, the gray hair and experience give me authority at work. No way would I want to be 25 again!

I think the stalker is more of a metaphor about shitty dudes always being around the corner yet guys never see them. Or something

I relate with this a lot, there was this one time where I was at work putting things away (reshop) and this guy walks up to me and says "hello." Me being an employee needing to be nice and help any customer that comes by I say "Hello, do you need any help?" He said he didn't need any help but ask for my phone number or insta. Me trying gently put him down I lied about being in a relationship already. He walks away but then I noticed he didn't leave the store instead waited outside near the benches. I thought he was waiting for a ride. When my shift was over I waited outside for my sister to come pick me up. The man that ask for my phone number walks up to me and try to have a conversation with me, I slightly joined in but then he continue to bring up me being taken. Continues saying, "Well you should take my phone number anyways just in case" or "he probably won't treat you well" I keep on denying him nicely as I could till he got aggressive. When I saw my sister's car I bolted to her car. Once I got in I just told her to drive.

I was morbidly obese from childhood to my 40's, so the people I met picked on me for my weight. It was liberating never feeling like a sex object. But I have protected friends who were being harassed. I was the best fat friend.

The guy in the background is one of the most ominous thing ever

Why can’t I have conversations like this with people!!

I laughed like crazy when I read some of those messages at 1:20. Some of those things were just crazy especially when one guy said “BRRABBBARRAAGHH!”..... BROOOO I DIED LAUGHING LoL I know it really does happen but I’m immature.

This really resonated with me because I recently moved to a city where I take the bus to college when it’s still dark outside. It’s a port city so there’s a horrendous human trafficking issue. And besides that; there’s almost always one or more guys on the bus who’s looking at me or sits directly behind me even if we’re the only two people on an empty bus(pro tip: sit in a two-seated row and take the window seat. Then put your bag on the aisle seat so no one can sit next to you; it’s what all the women do) Then from the bus station to my school; I’m constantly looking over my shoulder and I cross the street whenever I see any guy coming at me from the opposite direction. Because even though I know it’s probably just making me look like a paranoid asshole; I’ve gotten through the whole morning without getting assaulted or harassed and I’d really like to keep that streak up. It’s all so ridiculous and at the same time; everyone sees it as this worn-out issue and you’re a scummy SJW for even acknowledging that sexism and misogyny exists. Sometimes I just want to move to New Zealand and herd sheep for the rest of my life. (Le edit: I have been rightfully yeeted in the replies for ‘pro-tipping’ that you should always sit in the window seat and put your bag in the aisle seat next to you. Some have pointed out that this could result in bag theft or getting trapped in with someone who just moves your bag. I personally have a back pack that I wrap around my arm so if the bag goes then I’m going with it. But in other contexts; aisle seat is the way to go. Check out Anya’s reply; she can explain it better than I can)

"The women men don't see" The girl/boyfriend that RU-vid fans never own

I'm really glad Ted touched on how feminism is about choice. People are always like "hurr durr feminists want to kill ALL the fetuses!" or "REEE!! they're against women being housewives even if it makes them happy, REEE" but that's not the case. It's about giving women a choice, to do what they want to do. If you want babies- have them, if you don't- you shouldn't be made to have them. If you want to take care of the house, do so, but only if you want to, not because someone pressures you into giving up other carrers. And yes, Martha, a choice to be or not to be a sperm geode is also included. But common sense is not that common.

Yo I clicked on this because it was 2AM and animated and about women while I was drunk, but it has dialogue AND animation that's constantly made me mash the left arrow on my keyboard because I wanted to make sure I fully understoood/appreciated it all. Dang video has hundreds of hours of animation and scriptwriting put into it; quite unexpected. Maybe I should have put on some hentai instead.

Hey i just casually came across this video and it opened my eyes greatly. I would like if is not too much trouble for you to enable the translations. I'm From Argentina and i kinda need to spread this video. but not everyone i know understands english. So i would love to translate it into spanish.. Thats all.. Thanks for the video!

a feminist and a non-feminist, talking to eachother, instead of yelling at, didn't think respectful debate could happen anymore

So I'm from Argentina, I would like to bring up some examples of how privilege works. Ten blocks from my house, a woman ends up in a hospital because his boyfriend throw boiling oil at her. Nothing happened to him. A 19 year old girl, was raped, burn with cigarettes, cut and sodomized with a broken bottle. The people that did it end up choking her to death. Guess what, they are ALL free. It is what it is. I'm one block away from my home, a dude is in a bike, says awful things to me. But this is not even the worst, it's what he didn't say; the implicit "I can fucking rape you, I can fucking kill you, and you can do nothing about it" that day I never felt so scared for my life. But it is what it is. Women die by the hands of men who think that this women are just a property. But it's just what it is. and in NO WAY, literally NO WAY, I'm saying that men struggles doesn't deserve empathy. We ALL need empathy, and that's why I'm probably writing this even if no one reads it. I want people to understand, I want you all to try to see from someone else point of view. You think you don't have privileges, you think that women make a big deal out of stupid messages. But please try to understand that we as a society have normalized so so many situations. It's not "it is what it is" anymore.

This gives me bojack horseman vibes

god that dude stalking her was creepy, omg. but sadly, it happens way too often.

I wish I had a friendship as close as these two.

Hmmm i need to give a second shot to the video for better understanding 🤔

So, was no other man on here a dweeby nerd stalked by bullies as a kid, people who could make the walk home from school a nightmare, who can sympathize with these women? Because I am. The person following you might be the police chief's son, or a school principal's, or from a rich family. He might have a violent or borderline criminal group of friends himself, or just be heedless enough of his own well-being or reputation to find more horrIble things to do after being confronted. He might just be an unknown quantity, one you have to weigh the risk of facing down, and that risk gets bigger every time you try and it doesn't work out. Your family might have its own issues and be in no real position to help. Teachers won't help because it'll only cause trouble for them, or can't because their available options in the system are limited. Your biggest guy friend won't always be there to protect you, and might bail on you when he realizes it's ultimately not really his problem and the stalker/bully is more trouble than he wants to deal with - or, he might mean well but just be busy or out of town one day. If your big friend does beat him down at some point, you can fucking bet the bully will remember it and get revenge - on just you, probably - usually with a group backing him, maybe even after you think things have been resolved. So you plan your route home carefully every day to try and avoid him and his buddies, and try to find groups to travel with, and there will be days that doesn't work. It can reach the point at which it's actually preferable to take a moderate beating now and then rather than speak up and reaffirm the reality that people you love are either ultimately helpless, will only make things worse for you and for themselves by trying to help, or are just not coming to your defense. I had a big visible scar on the side of my face for a month that no one got in trouble for because it was obviously just from roughhousing. I was jumped by a family friend's kid in a bedroom with our parents right downstairs because he knew he could get away with it. And other stuff. I'm not saying this because I want sympathy, because there's no need or point now and the people who most need to have it won't, especially online - they'll just be happy to tell me what I should've done, usually implying I'm stupid, weak or lying. But I know I wasn't the only kid like this, and it's crushing to see other men, some of whom must've been boys like me, not be able to find some kind of empathy for what women go through.

This is scary in as much as I realise I have sometimes noticed these sorts of things but never really put much thought into it. Like how when I am walking down the street at night back from a night out, I will notice any girls on their own will be very wary of me and move to the other side of the road if possible. Or how once when a couple of German blonde girls were staying in my flat for a couple of nights (long story) I decided to show them the local area so they knew where everything was and many guys made comments and crass come-ons even though I was walking just in-front of them. (No idea what it would be like if they were completely on their own). And I have noticed the flirting to push other men away etc. Sad and strange. I find as a guy I just seem to just blend in everywhere I go.

Well I just happened to stumble upon this channel to be lectured by a self -righteous and condescending cartoon.

I didnt even notice the stalker until someone in the comments pointed him out :o

I tend to always have a female in my life that I’m super close with on a friendship level. I needed to hear the part about not always listing solutions to the problem and just listening instead. Also realizing my girl friends don’t tell me certain things because they are scared I’m going to act on it and try to save the day or something (which I absolutely would).

5:39 and I'm feeling intense anxiety just watching the background creep.

I don't regret clicking this from my recommendations

Thank you to the ladies and gentlemen who made this. We need more of this balanced, non hate filled rationality.

This makes me think how I always have to go somewhere with my male friends just so guys don’t hit on me or try to pick me up and honestly walking home alone scares me more than anything

Honestly, I felt so uneasy througout the episode because I'm like "omg! Is he still following her?"

felt like my third eye opened so much more it kinda hurts. This is really what we need to be teaching

When I was in a relationship with a very friendly, pretty easy to approach and beautiful girlfriend, I really learned A LOT about the creepiness of men. Especially the shy, 'nice' creeps, but all sorts really. Over time and with some of the stories she told me, I dread to think about the times I had behaved as one. Edit: Oh and it can still happen, either out of thoughtlessness, or in ways I'm not aware. It's probably bound to happen, but keeping an eye out on how you make people feel (not just through words) should be on every person's agenda.

That thing she said about men being physically stronger and it creating a power imbalance is somewhat true, however I think it's a bit of a generalisation. As a girl I can be physically and emotionally intimidated by people of either gender- it's not so much about them being male or female, more about their personality. Like if you had a 6 foot male heavyweight champion who was a pacifist, vs a short skinny woman who's batshit crazy and wants to gouge out your eyes with a fork, I'd say the man is way less intimidating in that scenario, because although he could hurt you, you know he wouldn't. This show always makes me think a lot.

All of us MALE OR FEMALE are working with incomplete pictures. Talk to each other not at each other

I think the jeopardy bit was just about the worst way to deliver the point about the type of intelligence we value. The way they were talking so as to reference the show made the things they said needlessly hard to follow and the whole thing with the "economics and sports cars" is just a laughably bad example

Im terrified of being a bad experience to someone else. Im not a psychopath or a bad person imo but the thought of me walking up to someone and that being enough for them to feel bad is enough for me to never try.

Ever see a young woman walking alone a night. Noone and I mean noone can walk as fast as her. I am a pretty fast walker and love to walk at night with my headphones on. On several occasions I had been passed by a girl usually between the ages of 16-30 just walking as fast as possible. lol. It is sad but I remember being a little boy and doing the same thing.

A surprisingly informative video that's grounded and reality base. Great job!

Bruh, I can't even finish this video. The way these two talk is so off. Sounds likes some twitter npc talking.

It's so fucking true what they said about how we only value certain types of intelligence and how those are conveniently often portrayed by men. It's the same how people say that women can choose whatever well-paying job they want, but fail to question WHY we pay and therefore value certain jobs so much more than others. A lot of underpaid jobs are historically female. Nurses. Teachers. I do not think that that's a coincidence. Historical injustices are inherited and we need to actively try to fix them, otherwise they will remain.

This video was a turning point in my life. At some point I lived life as on the surface a straight cis dude, with an extremely limited understanding of what it's like for women. I've been out as a pansexual trans woman for a couple of years now, and it all started with realizing that I needed to listen to the experiences of women, and question all the shit I don't see. As soon as I started realizing that women were real people and shredded away the misconceptions I started sliding towards a more feminine presentation and became a feminist. Not long after I realized that I identified more with women even if I didn't share the majority of their experiences, and at that point all it took was one halloween in what I thought was drag, for me to realize that the thing that had been wrong my whole life was my expressed identity, I juat needed to open my eyes and take a propper look at the alternatives to realize they existed. Now I have started to see first hand a lot of the bs mentioned, and oh how I get it. Like I live in norway, and don't pass yet, so I don't get that much shit, but I know what it's like to feel like you're trapped on the bus because of a comment, and the dread of the one making it going off on the stop before yours, or what it's like to have people online act really inapropriately and then get mad at you for "leading them on" only to "reject them" as if you had done either by simply trying to not engage. I also get a lot of unique shit for being trans, just like how there is some shit I will never get that cis women get all the time. But the thing is I'm still transitioning. In spite of the bullshit, and losing contact with my dad, and the national hospital literally making up rules just to refuse me treatment. In spite of knowing friends of mine who used to live nearby have been assulted for it, and that I'm going to struggle with employment. It's me, and I gotta be who I am because anything else is as good as death. I can't ever live life as something else, I can only ever maintain an act of that, and I won't trade a shitty life for a fun act, so I'm taking the red pill (the original metaphor is a refrence to estrogen pills, the creators are trans) and will rather spend my life fighting metaphorical machines and having weird sweaty sex, and annoying political conflicts, than live an illusion to serve as a means to the propagation of the systems of power that just preserve themselves without any end goal. Ok that got a little anarcho-cyberpunk ish, but you get the point. The pain, suffering, and bullshit is worth it untill I reach that point where it becomes another kind of death. Thankfully I'm safe enough to live, but it does hurt, but after 18 years of fake feelings, fake relations, fake expressions, and a fake identity, real pain is the best feeling ever. It may have something to do with my masochism, but lets not worry about that. Don't put yourself in danger, but never give up who you are. It's worth something, and it'd be a shame to give it up ❤

I could barely follow what they were saying because of how panic inducing it was to see that stalker flicker in and out while following them. 😣

wow it's almost as if women are more vulnerable so it would be better for them marry asap and have a man that can protect them instead of dating a bezillion strangers into their 40's tradition wins again *surprised pikachu face*

Nobody talking about how they both stopped at their front door, but she pulled him away to get shakes to return so the stalker wouldn’t know where she lived.

Just found out that dm means direct message xd/

Amazing and so very very easy to grasp. A very good and actually easy way to understand just how some things for women work. Since this is a Cartoon can we put this up on TV ^^ maybe 20 or 30 years back it would help a lot of kids and Adults. But yeah great work.

Let me get a Netflix series though!

Other then the depression video Im really feeling Martha as a character. I have to work second shift as a security guard and if there are not enough spots downstairs I have to park across the street. Why is that relevant? Because I get off at 12am. I use to own a taser but it was taken off me when I went to pay a ticket for someone else at court. Yea I know stupid. But when I tried explaining the reasons for that taser I was brushed off and told to get a permit, they still took the very expensive taser. I cant afford another one. Now at night I have to be ok walking to my car in a very quiet garage at 12am and make myself look a certain way so I'm not raped or robbed. I hate to be the victim and going to my boss about the situation seems like a double standard since I am a security guard, but really a secretary with a badge. To be vulnerable in this situation is to admit weakness something alot of woman just refuse to let happen. I'll keep taking this risk with as many safety precautions as possible without actually getting anyone involved. It's sad however being a woman isnt easy. And we'll deal.

Lovely sentiment (unironically) but I really dislike Martha as a character in general. Especially when in this episode she says “I’m not not a feminist” God I HATE that statement so much. Especially when she proceeds to say “I just don’t want to be told what to do” - what the fuck? This is literally what feminism ISN’T about. And Ted has a better grasp of it than she does. Can’t believe she manages to make such important points in this video and then she says THAT. Hopefully it’s just me missing the point

9:23 Hold up is she hiding from an abusive ex