As a single man, this is great in just having self-awareness BEFORE even entering a relationship situation and being able to prevent these things from coming up.
Can we just take a minute to appreciate how much Melissa has blossomed. She is so vibrant, enthusiastic, and full of energy. It really has transformed this podcast from earlier versions. I’m so excited to see what the future holds. Love you guys!
Divorce isn't ALWAYS a bad thing. I divorced my first husband in 2010 after years of disrespect. I needed healing away from him/us and focus on me, solely, cause he didn't want to do the work. We both remarried but my marriage is going strong and his is in the toilet...and I think he didn't want to change the habits that had shaped him into the man he is. We aren't talking about a 30 year old man...he is a whole 56 year old man!!
Pause episode...so true about the patriarchy in the medical profession. Working as a nurse I have experienced that patients will call male nurses "Doctor" and female doctors "Nurse" more often than not. Crazy right! Ok, resume play!💜
I've been watching #thelovehour out loud the past few times around the house. The first few episodes, my husband seemed annoyed. However I've noticed our relationship communication improving and it seemed familiar. Listening to this episode he actually had input?! He was paying attention for real. Excuse me while I go cuddle this man 😊 #littlethingsmatter #nottoolate #growth
We call our "State of the Union" "How are we doing as working together as a team?" We have been doing it for overva year. Best thing we started in our marriage.
Kevin/Melissa: you need to write a 2-sided relationship book with corresponding sports analogies, relationship book on one side, analogies on the other, that would SELL
KIND SUGGESTION: Prerecord the sponsor promos. During a show like this the promos disrupt the flow of great points and I notice it's sometimes hard for guest remember where they left off . Love the show.
Heather Rushing Yeah they explained the reason why before. I agree that it’d be great for the interview to be uninterrupted but I know they gotta pay the bills!
Had to pause this to say. My husband complains about things and I take them personal but this 1st segment has shown me that he really isn't complaining about me per se
"But that's why you fell in love with them!!" is the FIRST thing I thought when they were discussing how 69% of what may bring about conflict can not be changed [(for example) introverts/extroverts (may) want their spouse to become more like them.] I think that perspective came so clearly to me because I am currently single.😊 I HOPE I am able to remember that JUST AS CLEARLY & QUICKLY when I am in a relationship. 😁🤞🏾 #ThankYouLoveHour!!!
This is FOR SURE, QUALITY marriage counseling material!!!!!! As a divorced woman I am ssssoaking this up, taking notes and saving this episode! Lis, can I suggest a collection of best marriage episodes for sales🤔 . If it works, yw, least I could do ... love u for all the things❤️
Oooo!! This is gooood!!!! Contempt is definitely a heavy hitter. Growing up hearing “who you think you talkin to?” Or “who do you think you are?” got me thinking that’s why/how you can be seen as thinking you’re superior
My things is to breath before I respond to negative words and to remember this is not them but a spirit. I've gotten better using that method and he's gotten better watching his verbiage and being more aware of his words. People need to realize that the nursery rhyme is not true. Stick and stones may hurt my bones but words will never hurt me. Lies!!! The words not only hurt they remain. Truth!!!
Melissa, there’s so much education in these episodes! Award worthy information. Thank you for stepping into this, you’re helping women and I’m especially grateful. Love your platform!
There were so many "YESSSSSS" moments in this episode. I took so many notes and am now tweaking my existing skills to maximize loving interactions with my hubs.
The only thing I wished she answered is what happens when you to take too much responsibility? In my last relationship, I was quick to apologize and I found it just made him dump on me more. Instead of returning the favor or owning up to his shortcomings, I felt like he stroked the fire and made me out to be a bad person. What do you do in those scenarios?
BEST ONE YET! I’m engaged and as happy as I am - I am terrified about modeling some of the relationships I’ve seen. I want to carve out with my husband something new that works for us. I can’t wait to share some of these goodies with him for us to discuss! Thank you Lis, Kev & Dr. Lauren!
The first thing I told my husband when we started dating was that I didn't believe in soul mates. Now hearing about this 69% makes me feel less like a cynic and more of a realist. I be learning so much from this podcast! 😊
This episode made me cry, I was in a relationship and had all these signs still trying to make it work. Once it was over I was thinking what could I have done better this episode showed me it had no chance. 🤷🏽♀️
That’s good to know too! Sometimes we beat ourselves up over what we could have or should have done. Now you know that YOU are off of the hook for that. Be free Hun. You are not to blame.
Honestly this right here was ALL THE THINGS I needed to hear coming fresh out of an argument with my husband. I truly cried because I not only saw where I was lacking but also where I've been backing my husband into assimilation ultimatums. Thank you so much for this.
Lmaoo in the beginning I was having all these "aha moments". Then, it got real around the middle and whooo y'all were calling me out!!! Showing me my whole self. This podcast has been such a catalyst for healing and self awareness in so many areas for me. 💜
Great episode. I just went thru this. Regarding what the doctor spoke on about taking breaks during conflict with my husband, and so forth. Overall this is really helpful. Thanks Melissa for having the Doctor on....
I wish I could give this a like for every time I've watched this episode! I've gotten so many nuggets. Thank you for sharing your knowledge Dr. Lauren. 💙
Lord this was a phenomenal episode!! I learned so much my husband and I have already started having conversations about it with a promise for more. If you can I'd love another episode with her!!
Not HAVING to be called Dr is very humble 🙂 I've worked with several Male & Female doctors that would correct you and not even answer if you didn't say Dr. I Absolutely respect you yet if you lose your "Dr" title you lose your identity something went wrong (with your mindset saying I am not John the human but I'm Dr John - now mixed up who you are with what you do)
I'm glad that the comparison was made about an invitation for your partner to fulfill one of your needs. And how that can be a teachable moment and that being comparable to conversations with children. Often we here don't talk to me like a child and that has always confused me. I think this opened my eyes to realising that the difference is a demand vs a teachable moment.
I needed *all of the things* shared here. It helps me so much to know that 69% because sometimes I’m just like we’re doomed. Thank you thank you thank you!
This episode was so good! I have to rewatch when I'm sitting down and take notes. I'm definitely a person who needs to take a break & walk away, before coming back to discuss a blowup type of situation. I'm so happy to have a professional co-sign and say that that's a good thing. Ideally I'd like to not go to bed mad, but realistically I may need to sleep on it or come back a couple hrs later. I'm gonna need my future husband to at least understand that.
It's hard for people to say yes call me doctor when you put them on the spot, on the air. Better to have the convo off camera at the time of booking.ijs.
Another GREAT episode (wish I could give 5 Five stars on Spotify). I wish had this information years ago, but I glad I got it now. Mrs. KevOnStage, always great comment.
Nobody: Kevin: Yeaaaaauuuuuuhhhhhhhh.... ✌️😅 No criticism Kev, just can tell you’re dialed in to the convo. Everyone, let’s not consume this vital content just show our ears work cognitively, let’s apply this for mental cognition and comprehension as well.
@MrsKevonstage I like the once a week getting together to talk about positives or opportunities for growth, but I feel like if you bring something up that bothered you 4 days ago, some of us receive a "what are you talking about" because they don't remember the exchange at that point. Pointers for this?
Separate first before you decide on divorce. Talking from experience. Stepping back completely from a situation can allow u to see things in a different perspective. Divorce might not ALWAYS be the end result
