Claire is the most realistic Mom I've seen in a WHILE. I've seen a lot of shows that have either Mom Porn where mom's the most perfect mom to ever mom, or they're straight up neglegent/abusive to their kids, but Claire's just average. It's really refreshing to see averageness depicted. She loves her kids, and she fucks up, but she tries to fix it. THAT'S what makes a good mom. Trying.
Exactly and they actually give her personality, like you said with the perfect house wife or neglectful mother they usually depict, all while keeping the show funny at the same time
One of my favorite scenes in the whole show is when Claire meets Alex after a day of parents in the school where she learns about all the things Alex is doing for college applications and she tells Alex "I've done it one day and I am a mess. I don't know how you do it!" And Alex just hugs her and cries.
Claire gets a lot better as the show goes on, a lot less controlling and a lot more loving. She honestly seems stressed and at the beginning Phil really doesn’t give her much chance to take a break. He’s irresponsible and it takes him awhile to realize he can be fun and also take the burden to be “serious” off of his wife by really helping her.
Claire is arguably the best parent in the show, and once she realises that Haley, Luke and Alex are totally different from her, and she can't keep controlling their lives, she gives them much needed space. She also offers to help Dylan and Haley out after they announce her pregnancy.
I love the way Alicia looks at you when you are speaking, I think nowadays a lot of people don’t pay attention when their partners talk, but Alicia looks at you with full attention on, that’s so sweet and couple goals
Not looking at the face doesn't mean not listening; personally I don't like manner of straight look at someone speaking. Ears are for hearing, not the eyes. For me constant look into eyes is intimate, so weird and uncomfortable while casual talk.
I sometimes feel sorry for Claire. Because yes Phil is nice and a great Dad but she hasnt constant Support. He steps up when things get crazy. But he is not reliable. I love Claire, she is great and can give space and advice. But I really think the parents dropped the ball on Alex. And they realized that in later seasons. They were so obsessed to get Haley and Luke on track that they forget to support Alex emotionally. Yes they cannot keep up with her intellektuelle and they dont have to, developing an interest and providing her with a network she can talk to would have been enough. On the other hand I do get why things like that happen. Just life. That is what makes the show so relateable
Yup. I was the Alex of our family. When I've brought it up my parents were super surprised, legit. My mom "you can do/ and do it all, you are a very accomplished. I never thought you needed me. I trusted you'd never fall and always been so independent." Our relationship has been better since then
@@yeniramos9690 I had a similar experience with my mom. As an adult I finally told her that I felt like I didn't have enough support, and she was like "You were always so independent and strong and accomplished, it just never occurred to me that you were ever afraid of anything." On one hand, when she said that, she and I were BOTH like "But it's really dumb to assume that a child is never afraid of anything, isn't it?" But on the other hand, it was very sweet to hear from my mom how she admired my independence and determination even when I was a child. And yes, our relationship was much better after we talked about that.
Phillip is a fun, devoted and loving husband and father but he rarely has Clair’s back. He undermines her behind her back, doesn’t support her parenting and discipline, and often drops the ball on his duties by something distracting or childish. Love the guy but she had to parent him as much as their children.
I'm a Mom of 2 bio kiddos and a bonus son, and as each new addition to my family came along, and our lives changed, the self-care practices I had carefully cultivated for myself became harder and harder to continue, just by nature of our changing circumstances. It was a few years ago that I had this revelation of "wait... I can go stay at a hotel.... by myself? Without other plans, or it being needed by travel? I'm allowed to do that?" It's not the only solution, obviously, and I'm still working to find healthy ways to care for myself on a day-to-day basis while also tending to my full time job and my family... but 3-4 times a year, I book a hotel room at an affordable place one town over that I like and I just... go there. Sometimes I go hiking during the day, sometimes shopping, and sometimes I literally just sit in the peace and uninterrupted silence of a room to myself and get my upcoming plans in order, or do my budget, or read. I take a bath for as long as I want knowing there aren't 5 other people who may need to use the bathroom at any given moment. It's been a total game-changer for my mental health. I'm grateful we have the means for me to be able to do that, and that I have a family that is so supportive of me taking that crucial time for myself. My parents still don't quite understand, haha... they've been married for decades and it never would have even occurred to them to go stay at a hotel alone for no reason. It took a lot for me to come to the conclusion that it was an OK thing for me to do. So I loved hearing about Alicia going to stay at a resort by herself for a week! One of my favorite things about becoming an adult is discovering that almost all the rules are totally made up, and that we're allowed to deconstruct them, and put them back together in the ways that most make sense and best serve us all, instead of just doing the things the way we do because we always have.
Its one of my favorite shows, i love the wacky dynamic of the families and how they show a more normal, fun, stupid, embarrassing side of life. I might laugh at all the gags, but they also show the hardships of life, how to say no, and how to handle hard situations. It has also made me cry multiple times lol! This series has given me something my own family couldn't, and it has at times hit me in the face and made me realize how i was acting wrong towards others. Also im very much a Phil! My partner is like Alex hahah! The bad sides of Claire is basically my mom 😅
Aaww this episode was just aawww💚. The way you both look at each other is so beautiful. I think Alicia could be like Captain Amelia from Treasure Planet, Jono being Baloo🐻 is just great. I feel like I'm a mix of Baymax and Olaf 😅
I would love to see you guys cover yes day on cinema therapy, with aleisha as a guest. My kids watched it and were like omg a yes day would be amazing I'm like the point of it is that the kids are supposed to realize that saying no is necessary in parenting otherwise the kids can turn the house into a giant bubble bath
Phil is the real reason I love Modern Family. He and Claire have a great relationship although they have totally different approaches to parenting but the mix works so well.
I have an idea for therapist react raws, have you heard of a show called Ginny and Georgia? It’s about a girl who became a mom at 15 and faces many struggles and journeys through everything
I am Monica from Friends 😂 I have my heart in the good place but I overthink, over organise and panic when ppl touch my stuff. Also I have my traumas but I work on them and do my best to be there for those I love. I talk loud when I'm excited just as her 😂 I hear a lot I'm a Monica.
My biggest issue with my own parenting (outside of general impatience) is that a lot of times I will say “no” immediately because I don’t want to deal with having to set up the board game or set up the crafts and clean up and all that. But then I wait and think about it, why do we have the craft stuff if not for them to use it? Why do we have the games and puzzles? So then I change my stance because even if I’m tired or grouchy or would rather do a different activity, I’ll change my mind and say “yes”. I worry sometimes that it makes me seem like I’m not totally solid in my decisions, haha. But it’s just that I speak before I really think about it and a body at rest, etc. I’m trying to get better about thinking the request over before I answer because I think my kids deserve the thoughtfulness and ultimately doing those activities together makes us happy even if I initially didn’t want to have to get all the paint stuff out or find the particular special puzzle they want.
Can you please talk about the godforsaken "cry it out"-method? And letting babies sleep alone in dark rooms in general? Too many parents (especially Americans) still do it even though it's just barbaric and traumatizing and results in insecure attachment. (Both Claire and Phil and Cam and Mitchell do it, which is why I'm commentimg it here) What I find especially baffling is that it's actually the Nazis who invented the method. Both letting kids sleep in seperate rooms, the cry out method and not "spoiling" your kids which is actually not a thing, the more babies are held, the more stabil adults they become. The Nazis being behind it is probably enough proof that it's just a bad idea. Cause guess what? They had a whole parenting system im place they published books about so parents would follow it. But do you think they wanted emotionally healthy kids? No, they wanted emotionally dead people with no empathy that were so codependent they didn't question their orders because they saw the soldiers ranked above them as the father figures they never had. Cause those people make great soldiers in a totalitarian regime that wanted to wipe an entire religious group off the face of the earth.
For me, I have my 3 yr old daughter and so much family trauma from both my parents. I've grown more in this last year than I have the last 10. Therapy and mindfulness in my everyday has lead me to starting my metamorphosis into the mom I strive to be. Tldr: I'm happier and better off now that I'm truly caring about myself slowly
I don't think we are doppelgangers, but I aspire to be like Morticia Addams 💅🏼 (more so the versions in the old TV show and the 90s movies, but even her portrayal in Wednesday is good too)
My favorite TV Mom is from Lynette Scavo Desperate housewives. I definetly recommend reacting to her!!! She is the most realistic Mom to me and I have always loved her so much.
I feel like this wasn't a fair look into Claire's parenting. They looked at a few very surface level clips and i could tell they haven't watched the show. Claire doesn't respect her kids privacy. She doesn't do anything for alex ever. She constantly makes fun of her daughter for being dumb. I never thought Claire was a terrible mom just not a good one. I just feel like they needed more context to accurately judge claire. Still a big fan. Not to say i dislike this episode either it was still interesting and insightful just that it wasn't a good look into Claire's parenting. Also that last clip was the only good gift she ever gave after the show made a point out of it multiple times that she is a terrible gift gifer.
We've actually watched the whole series. The characters are very flawed and do messed up things, but they learn and grow and make it right. That's why we dig the show :)
I looove your reactions ! I always learn so much. I have a little request. Could you react to Conrad in « The Summer I Turned Pretty » ? I feel like his issues and his behaviors are really worth looking into!
Pop culture doppelganger? I dunno...but I do relate to Leslie Knope in Parks & Recreation at times. Actually, some P&R reactions would be interesting 🤔
I feel the only parents that agree with Clair are a Clair and think it’s cute when it’s not she’s a great mom but she also is very overbearing, lies about her past, invades their privacy then tries to justify it by caring, tries to control every aspect of their life and yes she does get better but that doesn’t honestly change the fact she was very wrong a lot I love Clair but as somebody who had a over protective mother I don’t see how y’all applaud Clair for a lot of what she does she puts even more stress on the family sometimes if you ask me
Agreed. Sometimes when I watch it, I want to jump into my screen, snatch her and drag her to therapy. I would love to do the same with my mom tbh. Being overprotective is such a telltale sign for an anxiety disorder.
@@bookishwriter9460 and the way Clair movements are like she’s always freaking out proves that left and right like when she said if she has to cross the line every now and then but she’s always crossing the line like every episode and for somebody that’s always complains about her own mother she doesn’t do anything to change how she is
Before even watching the Vid I have to say I HATED Claire's parenting style and I recognized it as painfully overbearing I know Claire's, they aren't fun
well not toxic per se, but they definitely didn't spend enough time and attention on Alex as they did on Haley and luke because as a gifted child as was seen as more “mature” and capable of caring for herself. but the show did acknowledge how this impacted her mental health in the later seasons
I thought this video was sweet especially because of the things you said about your wife but I don’t really get the point:D you don’t talk that much or show scenes about Clair’s parenting. And how is your wife resembling her parenting style? Well anyway I love that you’re working on the things you’ve mentioned👍
I don't like Claire. Over the course of the show she was dismissive of Haley and openly disliked Alex. The only kid she stretched herself for was Luke and then she felt left out when he grew up and stopped being adorable.
Absolutely. I think she and Phil are clearly the worst parenting unit on the show. (Mitch + Cam easily is 1st place, and I still think Gloria pulls ahead) Phil is entirely permissive most of the time and puts it all on Claire. Then he decides to "put his foot down" occasionally, without trying anything good in between. And Claire! First of all, she is a Karen. I can pull evidence if need be. This comes through in her parenting: controlling, self-righteous and uptight. She and Phil neglect Alex because of her intellectual maturity. Claire spends all their energy berating Haley and Luke. When people feel attacked they defend, they don't change. Kids, colleagues, friends, whatever. They don't calmly work through the next steps for their kids. And furthermore, Claire CONSTANTLY talks to her children with a complete lack of respect. She little passive-aggressive comments under her breath, and an occasional rant. She gets some things right: she isn't ever neglectful or permissive. She does communicate well why something is wrong in her eyes, and she doesn't make her kids do the guesswork. I would list more, but a lot of it is just basic parenting. I don't hand out awards for that, because Phil and Claire still chose to have kids without working through their issues first.
