Therapist Reacts When Should a Person Forgive? 

I'm sorry but "It's your mother".... is a pathetic argument. It exactly the reason why parents get away with abusing their children.

It enrages me when people say "This is your mother/father" as if that gives the parent carte blanche to abuse their children. Parents have a responsibility to keep their children safe. If the parent fails at that and has no remorse & takes no responsibility for their failure as a parent (and a human), it is OKAY for the survivor to have no contact, if that's what's best for their mental health. Please, DO NOT EVER SAY "But it's your mom/dad..." Abuse is abuse and justifying it is wrong!

I hate the “it's your parents” excuse. Like okay and…. I was their child and I didn't ask to be here. It's really manipulative to say that to someone

When that lady said “I understand all of their points, but this is your mother” seems like a really stupid hill to die on after hearing someone share the most traumatic moments of their life. Smh.

My father died in 2015. I last saw him in 1993. He was horrible to me... When I walked out I 1993 it was over. I knew he was dying in 2015 from Alzheimers... but he had already gone by then. I never saw him again. He never asked to see me in all that time. I never mattered. I thought I might feel regret after he passed but I didn't. Instead there was peace. He could no longer hurt me. EVER. No regrets. None. Just sadness that he missed out on a great daughter. I never deserved him as a father.

The abuses of a mother to her child shouldn't even put up to debate. That woman chose everyone but her own daughter. She never tried to make amends with her daughter.

I can't stand when people say, "But oh this is your family. You HAVE TO do this because think about the sacrifices they made." Stop that nonsense. "Blood is thicker than water" is something people love to say, but what they don't know is that the meaning of this saying is the opposite of what they use it as. The saying actually says is "the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb" -> chosen bonds are more significant than bonds by chance

The answer from the start is NO. NO, do not forgive abusive parents, especially as we learn she is in a cult and purposefully hid the evidence of sexual abuse. People only change when they want to. Children will keep on trying to love their parents, and as I watch this video I see that is the case. Children need their parents to survive, it’s just an outdated survival mechanism that is now causing agony to this innocent person. She needs to let go, stop trying to be emotionally vulnerable to her “mother”. As for the terminal cancer, I call that karma. Anyone who supports sexual abuse of children, especially their own children, doesn’t belong in society. Best case, lock them up. Worse case, death. This is unacceptable behavior and has scarred the victim for life. A life for a life I say. Stop becoming parents if you can’t handle the responsibility.

Knowing that mom is dying, she knows she is dying, and still defending her decision to protect the abuser, then that tells me she still doesn't think she did anything wrong. What can this individual possibly get from seeing her mom one last time? Yes, it's her mother, and her MOTHER continues to fail her all the way to the grave. You don't have to see her one more time to forgive this woman. You can let go of your disappointment and pain in not having the mom you needed without having to put eyes on your abuser again.

The last thing my father told me was a text message when we hadn't lived in the same country for years, and it said: "I wish you were with a woman instead of a man." Two weeks later he died of COVID. I was relieved that after 10+ years of being out, he still couldn't get past that. I was relieved I didn't have to try and be the bigger person. I grieved a relationship with a father figure I would never have, but not the person who died. He was a great dad when I was a child. He was terrible in my early adulthood. It's been two years, and I am at peace. I love how Stephanie approaches it from "what aligns with your values" instead of what society says. That's what gives you true inner peace at the end of the day.

“this is your mother” … and as a mother she is meant to be the adult and protect her child. this girl should not have to be the bigger person towards her own parent who did not help her at her lowest

Wow watching this made me realize would be a terrible therapist cause if I was her therapist I would tell her not to forgive her. When this girl said her mother destroyed evidence of her abuse I was convinced she shouldn’t forgive her mother. That shows me she doesn’t care about her daughter on a fundamental level.

I wouldn't forgive the mom for all of them, especially the one where the mom purposely destroyed the evidence of the sexual abuse in the cult. i'm aggravated that the group asked "how many times have YOU tried to amend it?" as if it's HER fault that her mother was incredibly narcissistic and abusive to her child. i'm disgusted honestly. my mother and her husband (step father) are my abusers, and on top of that their relationship was and is incredibly toxic.

The foundation of all families is "found" family because people don't create offspring with their siblings - they find a stranger and make a family. So to find and connect to people outside of blood and create family is as normal as to be related to people with blood and call them family.

Absolutely not,I learned the hard way. My Father was abusive to me, my sister and my Mom. We got a restraining order against him and he had to leave the house. A year later he an aneurysm, we visted him in the hospital. After months, he had a recovery, but still needed care and a place to live. Long story short as he got physically stronger he went back to his old way. This week I had to call the cops on him because he threatened to kill my Mom with a knife.

I almost lost my mum to cancer when I was 14. We didn´t have a very nice relationship, she loves me, but she is emotionally very much unstable and there was a lot of violence when I grew up. And the urgency that "I am not getting another mother" made me close my eyes to a lot of unhealthy stuff and "apologised" for the behaviour of my mom. It backlashed terribly, I gained a false sense of security just to lose the relationship around my wedding. My big question would be: What the mother ever did to heal you?

My heart goes out to this person. She deserves love, justice, and respect, which her mother never gave her. I hope she finds peace in herself

"it's your mother/father" automatic NO. 🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨

as a teen who has an abusive mother, and who has also cut contact with her five years ago, the worst thing to hear is “it’s your mother.” it does not matter if you are related to someone, even if it is your father or mother. if they are abusive, you do not need to have them in your life. it is so biased towards mothers too. if this video was about a father, people would lean more towards the person not having a relationship with him.

I got blood that isn't family, and family that isnt blood Once you accept that, things become clearer for who deserves forgiveness

the expectation of being rejected by people who claim to love us is BRUTAL. i hope she's able to move on, without her mother, peacefully. i am moving on from my mother's grips as well. take care of yourselves yall

"it's your mother" no it's a person who chose to bring you into this world and mistreated you, that's not a mother. People who are abused seek comfort and love and approval from their abuser because they've been abused. People feel sad and regretful when their abusive parents are dying or asking for forgiveness because they've been abused into that mindset. We don't have an identity until we rebuild it, we are broken and lost and especially when a mother abuses their children it destorys you, you have to find and rebuild yourself away from the abuser before you can ever make a clear or true choice on how you want to handle that person or forgive them. Asking a victim how many times or how hard did they try to repair the relationship is not okay, a victim doesn't owe their abuser shit. And you need to make sure they're okay and know themselves before you ever encourage them into going back to that relationship or to try and repair it. We feel sad and want to fix the relationship because it hurts to know what gave you life doesn't care for you and we want them to love us that's why so many victims of abusive parents try so hard. If someone's partner treated them the same way most of them would say to not forgive or leave them, but when it's a parent some people will make any excuse for why you should stay around them. Blood isn't everything and not everyone who has a kid is a mother or father

People wouldn’t be saying this if it was a boyfriend or girlfriend… but because somehow it’s your mother, it’s supposed to be forgiven you’re right, that’s the person’s mother they gave birth of them, so why would they use their power to abuse them?

13:17 this is interesting because for the last 7 years I’ve tried to creat peace with my relationship with my mom and what I’ve realized is I have made myself so emotionally available to her that I’ve become so dis regulated. I spent my early 20 states away from her and thriving but as soon as she moved I’m with me I couldn’t handle being put back in the same place I was as a child. I’ve been struggling and my whole life has fallen apart because I’ve not been able to cope with trying to forgive her and develop a “normal” relationship with her. Literally this week I’ve decided I don’t have to mend anything and I’m going my separate way. The whole second half of my 20s and the first part of my 30s trying to create a good relationship with her has been hell. She is a nice person but is a predictable oppressive negligence that she has for me and my brother that awakens stress, anxiety and no self worth in me. I’m not an angry child anymore but I’m making my decision so I can thrive again and live a loving life. ❤

As soon as she said her mother was still in contact with the abuser and his family, I knew she wasn't going to get a positive reaction from the experience with her mother.

It must be so hard to see so many people/all the people say, actually I would forgive her if I was in your shoes and I think you should do the same. This whole pop-therapy experiment is fucked. I truly hope this person is getting actual therapy with a good therapist who makes her feel valid and safe.

I just went no contact with my Dad after over a decade of bargaining and emotional labor to gain his acceptance and approval after I came out of the closet at 16. I think what a lot of people don't necessarily understand is that cutting off a parent is quite literally the LAST LAST LAST thing any of us want to do. It is so uniquely challenging, especially if you are a victim of narcissistic abuse and gaslighting where you are conditioned to believe that your needs don't matter and you cannot trust your own reality. There is so much grieving in coming to terms with the fact that abuse even occurred, so much fucking guilt. So my heart just goes out to this specific mystery person and everyone else who has had their heart broken by one of the people who should be your safe haven in this life

I’m going through this decision right now. BPD mom, Pentecostal church. This helps so much. Both boxes really suck for me too. Love and healing to all of us here.

Can I just say, only two minutes in and I love this lady. She’s talking about what the client feels is right, rather than what external factors are influencing it. As a victim of abuse from my father, as a 19 year old, I have my mother talking about how I should have a relationship with him. The thing is, I’ve been so hurt by him emotionally, that I can’t really stand to deal with him. I always feel a lot better when I don’t have to deal with him saying hurtful shit to me. For context, there’s a lot more that goes into the situation, but I have been abused emotionally my entire life by my father. And ever since I recognized it as such, it’s helped me understand how I felt, and that it’s okay not to forgive people. I want to mention, years ago, around 5-6 years give or take when I was 13, my father got cancer. And while he’s still alive, the worst part about the experience is how he uses his terminal illness as an excuse to invalidate how I’m feeling, whether it’s physically or mentally. It’s tiring and sickening to have to deal with it. And I completely understand if people want a relationship with their abusive parents, that’s fine. But for me, my fathers abuse, led my brother to hit me for years to the point of not talking to my older sibling out of fear. So yes, I don’t like my father at all. He’s given me so much trauma that I know still deeply affects me to do this day. And yes, I’ve improved immensely with how I deal with my trauma and experience. But it doesn’t change how my father and brothers abusive actions made me form many toxic friendships with people that have harmed me. Ironically, it was through my fathers shit behavior that I realized how much it hurts to not be accepted. Usually most people deal with others not being able to accept them, but for queer folks, there was only so many times that I felt broken when I realized that my father, despite how shitty he was, would act like my identity wasn’t a thing. Honestly, that hurt more than the years of emotional abuse I had when I was 6 and older. Some people might think I’m “taking it too personally.” But the thing is, coming out to my father and stepmother, I was shaking from anxiety and crying. And the response they gave was so cold that I just hid myself from them again. And yes, my father is the stereotypical strict parent. But instead of lying about many big things in my life, I lied about my mental state, my sexuality. Which as a young teen, fucked me up knowing he couldn’t accept me for how I am. Years later though, as ironic as it is, I know he’s very heavily transphobic, and no, I don’t agree with it at all. The irony is the fact that I identify as enby/non-binary, but I simply don’t feel the need to tell him. Because at this point, I’ve realized that I don’t need his acceptance, when all his “acceptance” does is just turn people against each other. All of this is to say, societal expectations are stupid. If your parents are abusive, they aren’t parents, nor do they deserve to be called parents. All I can say to abuse victims and survivors is to please find a safe space, and try to get out of the environment as safely as possible.

I would have set up a tent on the 'No' side.

Can you be my inner voice, please? You are amazing. I've been to therapists, that were so ignorant and just not a good fit for me. There is so much kindness in your voice and you explain everything so well.

I think the more difficult choice is box 2 and glad she made it. Good for her for contacting law enforcement as well . like she said both boxes suck n there is no right or wrong. I think doing the thing that is most difficult to do is usually the best.

This hits home in a parallel way to what I am experiencing with my Mother, but involves the recent death of my little brother. I wish this woman peace in her life. I appreciate this video. This helps me to process my current feelings in life.

I feel like she wanted her mother to have a peaceful death and be there for her because nobody was ever there for her in her childhood so she knows how much it hurts and doesn’t want that for her mom. I hope she finds someone who’ll care for her.

I love the perspective everyone gave and it was very insightful. I’m happy she choose herself and hope she never feel guilt for doing so.

I think a lot of people talk about her not „deserving“ forgiveness. But forgiveness isn’t something you give because the other person deserves it. It’s something that can help you make peace with a situation/person while not excusing that behavior but instead saying that it was/is wrong but you can’t keep giving it power over you! But thats just my take on forgiveness..

As someone who wants to be a therapist, I just found these types of videos… these are so helpful oh my gosh

I love your calm voice and energy. Totally understand why you’re a therapist. Thanks for a really interesting reaction video, definitely adds a lot to the original.

This is so tricky. I think this person might want to connect with her mother for their own peace of mind. I relate this to attending my mother's wedding when I felt very similarly to what this person is expressing. Ultimately it came down to " in x amount of years, will I regret not being there". I knew the answer might be yes, and that if there was any hope of reconciliation I had to attempt it for myself. It was very hard to stand there, and be there for her, but I did set boundaries, like not taking a happy family photo etc. It's not about what the mother deserves, it is about what this person does, and they deserve peace. I hope they find it regardless of whether they connected with their mother .

Great video by Jubilee, and excellent breakdown by the therapist! She is so eloquent even in front of a camera. Daniel was so spot on in this video! Intriguing video and I learned a lot from watching.

I don't understand why the brain cancer thing made these people switch side because this person might have "regrets". Even without the cancer, the mother could die in any point in time, wouldn't there be regrets then also?

I was just going through Steph’s reacting playlist on her channel, so this is a joy to see ❤ what I would give to see a podcast from her…it’s also interesting to think about the perspective that this anonymous person need a mom, and her mom perhaps needed the cult

I‘ve randomly clicked on this video tbh I really didn‘t have ANY expectations, but I must say… what‘ve been said in this video has so much value I like your calm energy and also you saying both sides are „right“, that there was no right and wrong, kinda gave me a good feeling Thank you for sharing this

As soon as she said her mother destroyed evidence of her abuse, I would've sat down on the NO box. So what if it's her mom? So if it was a random person, you wouldn't think about mending the relationship but just because she has a blood relation to you, she gets a pass? The "she's still your mom" line, is egregious to me. Her mom should've been the one to shout out about her daughter's abuse and show the evidence to law enforcement, instead she destroyed vital evidence. I hope this person is doing ok and is in a safe environment nowadays

This was such a wonderful video. I related heavily to the victim, and I cried for her. That is such a hard place to be in a relationship with one's mother. I wish her well, whatever happens.

This is such a top level video with quality conversation. I'm in awe and admiration.

The fact that she is friends with the ex wife of the abuser. The fact that she destroyed evidence its clearly disturbing behavior I can't imagine ever doing this. I think we do need to hear from the "mom" what happened to her? I don't think that is normal behavior I believe that she also has unresolved trauma

When that lady said "But that's your mother" my blood BOILED. Her mother who destroyed evidence of a man abusing her!! Her mother who wouldn't keep her safe or comfort her when she needed it most!! Was her mother thinking "But that's my daughter" when she got the evidence? Absolutely disgusting!!

My dad has been transferred to an elderly home because of his dementia and I'm adamant in not seeing him. My sisters are shaming me for not wanting to see him although he hasn't shown any interest in me or any of the family for 5 years. "He is still your father" is the argument I'm so sick of hearing.

Daniel's responses and questions were just wonderful

This is the first video I‘ve seen of yours and I learned so much. You’re wonderful.

I appreciate the content and context in this video. Thank you

I really like this therapist and how she describes things. She speaks so kindly about people and making your own decisions.

Instant subscribe. Wonderful analysis. I'll binge your channel and keep notes.

What phenomenal content. Well done!

Such a good video. Thank you for making this.

I love Daniel so much and I feel like we all deserve a friend like him in our community. ❤

The real quote is "the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb" so people don't realize it means the exact opposite of how people use it. The blood of bonds you create (found family, war, etc) is thicker than shared born family (womb). It can pit us through so much trauma and distress thinking rhat we HAVE to this or that because "blood". The only thing we have to do is what is healthy and best for us in our one shot on this earth. We can't choose who we are born into, but we can choose to take care of ourselves as soon as we are able. I saw the original jubilee video. She was amazingly insightful of what she needed.

This was really beautiful and poignant and I want to thank you for your kindness- you explained so much, I feel some peace for the first time in a long time

I love your insight thank you so much. Please make more videos like this.

Right choice girl. As a mother you should want the best for your child, not whats best for yourself or what other people might think.

i need a therapist like her she so insightful fr

This is so good u need to do more!

So many of the yes arguments were born of such common platitudes, as if we as a society have gaslit ourselves into seeing forgiveness as such a healing virtue when it truly does nothing for us. You can choose forgiveness as a step in your journey to healing but always warn the person that if their abuser hasn’t changed enough to not be their abuser anymore, that going back to them will guarantee the only outcome of that is pain. And even then they’re not your responsibility, fixing your abuser is never your responsibility. It truly hurt me just how blatant she was about wanting to give her mother comfort and support, how blatant it was that this poor woman really just wanted that for herself. That she wanted to give what in reality she’s always yearned to get.

This has been so helpful in figuring out what to do about my relationship with my mother. I don't have the answer yet, but feel closer to figuring out what I want to do. Thank you.

Let be honest just bc someone dying doesn’t mean u have to make up with them. But then at the same time u don’t want to do something you regret. Do what u want for ur own peace

Thanks for the breakdown. I watched the original video when it first came out and throughout the video, I was too focused on making a judgment on right and wrong based on my own values. Near the end I was thinking it would’ve been a terrible choice if the individual picked “Yes”. But now I know that if this person really needed validation from their mother for closure then so be it.

Being a 28 year old woman that is struggling to reconcile my relationship with my mother, your feedback ok whay they said helped as much as what they said in the video. Knowing I can give myself what I need is something I never allowed myself to believe and that changes my perspective on my own healing in the future. I just found this channel, and it has been eye-opening, thank you for the work that you do.

Ik that woman who said "well its your mother" has to be one of those moms who think theyre entitled simply for having a kid. 🤦‍♀️

I've had a strained relationship with my brother to the point that I hadn't talked to him in 2 or 3 years. I weighed my options of attempting to mend the relationship and decided against. I came to an understanding for myself that I don't need to mend the relationship in order to forgive him and keeping distance was emotionally and psychologically safer for me. He passed away this December, a few days after my birthday, and I don't regret my decision. It doesn't mean I don't love him or had any angst or animosity towards him. It just means I'm not priorizing someone else's peace or needs over my own, regardless of how my family has that "it's your brother/mother/cousin..." mentality.

I don't understand why it's my responsibility to rebuild a bond I didn't break

I just went through something similar. I found peace with forgiving my father in my own way in my own time while protecting myself and maintaining minimal contact. His abuse continued until the day he died and i was able to love and care about him from afar while protecting myself. Forgiveness is needed for the harmed to be healed but for me it didn't require a healed relationship. I accepted and understood that our relationship would likely never be healed. And it never was. But i understood that my father loved me in his own way, despite his own brokenness. And i was grateful for it.

That girl lost me at "But this is your mother" NOPE

You’re so well spoken

Stephanie is so great as always.

Im so proud of her for contacting law enforcement. I wish her peace, love, and abundance. She deserves it

This video makes me reflect on why I love the concept of found family, as my father failed in being a parent.

I was in the exact same situation and this video is really helping me heal🤍thank you

Sending y’all love and positivity ❤

I don't think you can say "should *I* mend my relationship with my mother?". A more accurate question in my mind would be should I *attempt* to mend my relationship with my mother. You can reach out, try and talk to her, share your own thoughts and listen to her thoughts. But you cannot force yourself to be okay with what her response to that is, to forgive everything if the mother doesn't ask for forgiveness, or recognize the abuse and trauma they caused. You can only give the mother a shot. But you cant give up your integrity and just forgive and comfort the mother if she does not actually do anything to meet the mystery person halfway with an open mind.

Something they hinted at, but didn't explicitly say, was "Would you regret not forgiving your mom?" or also mentioning "imagine how you would feel if your mother d13d", perhaps it would come close to the feeling, but not totally, of course. I think by bringing them into those kinds of scenarios, the person could think about some of the possibilities that could happen.

The ones who say that that’s her mother and in the end that’s her family, probably grew up safer, not having to suffer much through their family relationships. REMEMBER, you do not owe your parents anything or any blood related member. Also, wouldn’t you want the intent of pure honest care and nurture rather than the intent by the social pressure of being related and bound by blood? The phrase,” blood is thicker than water,” is actually misinterpreted a lot. Look it up.

thank you for this video, it was great!

Stephanie seems like a phenomenal therapist! Everything she says resonates with me so much. Impartial, with the times and client centric. Thanks so much for bringing extra understanding to this video which happens to be an issue I’m dealing with at the moment as well.

this hits hard for me actually. my dad has always been very abusive, almost never phisically but he always treated me as shit and never cared about me or my mum. he abandoned me when i was little and kept coming back once in a while to do shitty stuff and try to ruin everything for us. the tricky thing is he did horrible things but always pretended really well that he was a good person and he loved me. i always tried really hard for him to like me and i thought deep inside he loved me and it was just my fault because i wasn't good enough. i tried so hard but he didn't want anything to do with me. after going to therapy i realised it isn't my fault and that he doesn't love me or care about me and i should start to accept it. when i finally realised it, i took distance from him even though it hurt, but months later i found out he has cancer and that changed everything for me. now i don't know what to do because i feel like time is running out and i know i shouldn't be near him but i can't help it considering he might die soon. also sometimes i'm quite mean to him (because it's hard to put everything aside when he never apologised and he keeps pretty much being like that) and people say i'm a monster for treating him like that since he is sick and they say i'll regret it later, after all he is my dad . everything is really confusing and stressing. i actually understand what this girl is feeling and i felt seen during this video and reading the comments so thank u so so much for this. a lot of times i feel like people don't understand it p.s i'm sorry this is so long it wasn't the purpose but i just started writing and couldn't stop hahaha

Great video to comment on. This channel is awesome keep it up!

Thank you for opening our 👀 eyes

All I'm gathering from this comment section is that none of you guys could give positive advice, picking a side in black and white. What she wanted was most important, and in the end she chose a sort of middle ground in possibly writing her mother letters, while also gaining closure on her own through law enforcement. I hate the idea of "never" situations, and in this case, "never" forgiving someone. I think the title should have been about should she mend the relationship rather than if she should forgive her mother. Remember there is infinite grey area that should always be discussed. (also, I think the fact that it was her mom actually made more people apposed to the idea of forgiveness. but by that logic, if it's a crucial piece of information that your mother did this, then that fact should also be considered, should it not? the whole 'but she's your mother' does mean something that could be taken either way. because she had a duty and abandoned it, or because she was a struggling parent are two sides of the same coin.)

Thank you for this.

As someone who's mother was an ice addict growing up and neglected and abused me and pushed me onto my other family members because she was incapable of looking after me I forgave her. She was only 16 when she had me and lost her mother when she was 18. She hurt me and failed me alot growing up. She never felt like a mother to me, more like a sister. I had alot of learning disabilities growing up and undiagnosed autism and ADHD which led to me failing and dropping out of school. I myself was homeless at 16 and struggled for many years. Even though she let me down and hurt me I know now as an adult she regrets what she done. I forgave her because all I ask from the people in my life is that they try and ik she's trying her best even though she's not the mother I deserve she's a women with her own battles and she recognises what she done. My father was an abusive Jehovah's witness and a cruel man and although I have less compassion for him I know they he tried in his way to be what he believed I needed. I feel as though there is alot of room for improvement from him but I don't see him reaching those conclusions. So I accept that he's trying in his own way to be there the only way he knows how.

I love this reactions videos!

Hugs and love to mystery guest. ❤

i relate to almost everything the mystery person said. validating and triggering at the same time. i’ve contemplated on this topic a lot, but i loved this perspective on it

Absolutely not. The mother chose the abuser over her own daughter. And people expect her to sacrifice her peace to make her mom feel better simply because that’s her mom? No. Not even a little.

I may find myself in a similar situation some years from now... When my parents get old... So this rlly made me think a lot

The therapist speaks very well

Wow, first struggling with her identity and then getting help from lawinforcement. It's painfull to bring all those memories up. Still, not have contact with your mom, I think is the best decision. I wish you the best, mystery person! big hughs! xxx

All I’m gonna say is that I don’t think it’s appropriate for strangers to comment or have an opinion on trauma like this because they’ll never know how bad it was. I don’t feel like people should forgive just because they’re your parents or family or whatever. A professional, for sure, but not random people. The child shouldn’t have to reach out to the parent. It’s the parent that messed up. “This is your mother”. Too bad. She should have been a better mother to the person in the video. It’s a tactic to guilt people and it’s shitty.

I find myself in the same place. Trying to decide if i want to try to mend the relationship with mom for the 100th time. This was a great video

Maa'm I do have so many negative childhood experiences with the medical field that I thought that psychology as a discipline was spoiled by the roots, you are literally the first person in the official field that is showcasing a non-abusive and non-neglectful mindset, I almost feel like I still need a minute to adjust to what I am looking at because I find it hard to believe. Thank you so much for putting these videos out here, you're being life changing. I'd be curious to know if you're cruelty-free as the mindset seems well to match the practice! Thank you again.