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3:55 If a therapist ever thinks of a client, how pathetic he or she is, or judge a client in a negative way, it's time for the therapist to find a new job
I agree, because that means that the therapist is not in a good headspace anyway. This is why it is so important for us therapists to monitor our own well-being carefully.
I wish other therapists were like you. I have been judged by psychiatrist practitioner straight in the session and comparing me to herself on multiple occasions that she didn’t have problems going through her life where she started to telling me her problems instead of listening to mine and with her obstacles and comparing me how strong and ok she is which made me feel angry and hurt until on last session I just stopped her and put set my boundaries and told her that I won’t be treated like that and she is being rude and she is constantly putting me down.
I’m glad you set that boundary with her! That can be difficult to do in that sort of situation. Be proud of yourself, and go find a psychologist (psychiatrists typically dont make the best therapists, though they are needed for medication prescribing) whom you feel comfortable with.
Yep, not just the music...the stupid clicking fingers in the background. Can't tune them out when they're there. The background music & clicking noise is unnecessary!!!
😭 VA mental health providers are narcissistic and have ruined my peaceful life and made it so that I’ve lost everything and are mocking me . I’ve lost everything I own
You know how medications often have possible adverse side effects mentioned? Well, whenever I used to go to therapy, I always felt anxious walking into the door and leaving the "broken, helpless, hopeless," etc. impression upon the professional. I thought that was a bad thing that would give bad results, as often is the case in public scenarios. Though at the same time, I also knew thinking such things was practically counterintuitive to the original reason I went into the office. This video really helped me get a new perspective on how I may be judged by the therapist. I shouldn't try to judge myself so harshly on an objective viewpoint, it's a vicious cycle. So thank you, thank you so so much!
Aw thank you for sharing that. I often wondered. Good therapists are truly wonderful people. Thank you for your caring hearts all you therapists out there 🧡
I pay my therapist to listen to me and give me homework. He's not my friend or my lover so I don't care what he thinks since he's gonna reveal it in the homework lol
Hi Jamilla! Your therapist isn't a passive party in your progress! He is there to give you the feedback and instruction you need to move forward. Being human, we all care what others think about us! (and I include myself in that). Thanks for your comment!
I was looking for an answer to a very different question when YT suggested this video. I am am a 100% disabled veteran specifically for PTSD. Though I know people want to jump to show appreciation, I share it only for context. My viewing of your video is quite fortuitous indeed. This was something I needed to hear and wasn't even aware of it. THANK YOU
that is a great question Diane. First, meds serve a purpose in treatment, I agree, but they aren't a SOLUTION in and of themselves (for most mental health problems). But, to answer your question, when I feel a client is continually sabotaging themselves, I try to work with them to find the cause of this behavior. There's an approach-avoidance tension going on. They want the solution, but are worried/fearful/scared of the unknown that occurs on the other side.
My therapist has mentioned twice now to contact him outside of session. First time, it was the recommendation that if I ever need an additional session to let him know. The second time was that I can email him whenever if I need to contact him outside of our session. Additionally, I notice that we tend to go overtime by a few minutes frequently. Those senarios singled out didn’t make me think much of it besides that perhaps he was just extending himself to help if need be. But the last two sessions I’ve had it feels like he wants to induce/provoke me into transference. He brought about trust and asked me an odd question. Which I thought my attendance and willingness to face issues and seeking out his guidance was that it’s unspoken but the trust is there. Now I doubt that he thinks I trust him. My question is could my therapist unconsciously be experiencing countertransference? Is he feeling attached? Hence why he’s recommending more contact.
@@DrLeifSmith I will sit on this for a bit till I see a pattern of behaviour and can establish a baseline. But will definitely bring it up. Thank you for the feedback :)
contact outside of the therapeutic setting is an ethical violation by your therapist. it violates the rules of boundaries. while some people have difficulty setting and establishing boundaries, your therapist doesn't so by encouraging you to contact him for what you feel is inappropriate and is making you question the integrity of the therapeueic relationship, he is doing you a disservice. this is bad therapy. ideally you would be able to talk this through with him (i've questioned my own therapist when something she's said or done struck me wrong). that is and of itself is what therapy is about. Honest and difficult conversations, in my experience, have been the most rewarding and revelatory
Watching this vid while populating the ABC model, I really hope my new therapist will be a good team member in this journey. The only thing I'm a bit scared is that she wants to test me for personality disorders, I mentioned I'm an online tests junkie and already did a few reputable ones online, I scored super high as avoidant (which is not surprise as I have GAD , first diagnosis was in 2013) but I have some BPD traits as well, at least from those tests.She kind of already made up her mind that I have BDP, this after 40 min sessions and a sum-up I wrote to her regarding important low-lights of my life.
1:0pm Sunday June 2nd. Dude, I couldn't make it past the first 2 or 3 minutes because of the obnoxious music. What is with everyone and the music in a psych video? I would like to hear content. Music just destroys any message and a big turn off from the information I would've enjoyed learning about. That's my view of this video I would've stayed engaged if there hadn't been obnoxious music throughout the talking.
What's sad is, I would've found this video beneficial at this point in my therapy. I have more than what I am able to handle on top of my weird therapy sessions with my current therapist. I'm moving my health and mental well-being to a different network so, I willb soon be away from my current therapist which I find necessary.
What makes you think it’s appropriate to tell patients that you’re proud of them? Why would they care? As for not judging patients, you get paid not to judge. But if you had a family member in the same position there would be lots of judgements.
Thanks for your comment! I think it's perfectly appropriate to tell someone you are proud of them and all the hard work they've put into changing their life. Sometimes, I'm the only person in their life telling them such things! As for judging, we are ALWAYS judging, sometimes positively, sometimes negatively, but it's part of the human experience. I'm paid to help get people better, not to sit there like a potato and nod!
