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These Are Signs Your Healing from Trauma is WORKING 

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Self-defeating behaviors are one way the wounds of childhood trauma show up in your adult life. Here are the signs that you're overcoming those behaviors. Watch and listen to see how many of these signs are happening for you.
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@nicolaseinhorn4540
@nicolaseinhorn4540 Год назад
Good Job to the Fairy and the Fairy team ! You have created à community full of healing and love where poeple elevate each other and have a safe space to do so. Feels really good thanks. Cheers to everybody !
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Год назад
Thank you for being part of it :) -Cara@TeamFairy
@courtneylougheedm.a.8752
@courtneylougheedm.a.8752 Год назад
Thank you for this video, Anna! 1. No longer see black and white, but see the grey. The variable. Especially in self and others. 2. A natural desire to care for your body. 3. Eating becomes regulated. 4. Less binging on distractions, media, tech, etc. 5. No longer tempted to hide the truth. More comfortable being more honest in your life, release those who can't accept your honest self. 6. Work life begins to get better. More engaged with career, more aware of what you need. 7. Lose interest in assigning blame to self/others for problems, focus more on finding solutions. Allowing imperfection. 8. Attraction to unavailable partners will decrease. Recognizing your worth and honoring it in your choices. 9. Prefer reality to fantasy. Connection in the here and now. 10. Material well being. Live within your means, and release the fear of your past around finances. Handle hard days and move through. Not sabotaging self in ways that create shame.
@toyahbetheglory2140
@toyahbetheglory2140 Год назад
Excellent outline, thank you
@vibebliss1515
@vibebliss1515 Год назад
Yes. I am walking in that path.
@CS-hw2pd
@CS-hw2pd Год назад
Such a good video! 4 years on and also a wee bit depressing with progress happening with only 2 things on this list! Thanku❤️
@soothingwisdom273
@soothingwisdom273 Год назад
Courtney, thank you so much!
@ImogenBunting
@ImogenBunting Год назад
Thanks so much for this breakdown. Excellent takeaways.
@tomtbi
@tomtbi Год назад
I try to focus less on being a "victim" and more on being a "survivor".. It works wonders on my well being!!
@nathlete87
@nathlete87 Год назад
I’ve been trying to “heal” my anxious attachment for going on 3 years now. The problem was, the focus wasn’t me and my trauma, it was how do I heal so that someone can love me? Always outside of myself. Finally beginning to feel free. Finding yourself, Tim Fletcher, codependents anonymously and my therapist has helped me to turn an actual page. Thank you.
@ShellC888
@ShellC888 Год назад
Keep it up your doing great! your self insight is a big part of it. You deserve ❤️ too
@mariawhite2760
@mariawhite2760 Год назад
Glad your getting there,yayyyy🙏🏼🌈🐻
@KD-qc5fr
@KD-qc5fr Год назад
Great insight!
@PaigeSquared
@PaigeSquared Год назад
Tim Fletcher is a gem!!
@kitchenwitchboutique1715
@kitchenwitchboutique1715 Год назад
God bless u hon. U got this!
@Thestarrwashington
@Thestarrwashington Год назад
Speak Fairy! I got so sick of replaying the trauma in my head and retraumatizing myself that I finally said out loud, “I’m done reliving those childhood years. I’m an adult with tools and I’m creating a new story.
@nicolaseinhorn4540
@nicolaseinhorn4540 Год назад
Go Girl !
@morenitaa328
@morenitaa328 Год назад
I literally just told myself the same thing!! 🙌🏾🥰 you’ve got this! So proud of you
@Lulu-gg2zq
@Lulu-gg2zq Год назад
Congrats! ❤️🎉❤
@bonniehoffman9346
@bonniehoffman9346 Год назад
@@Lulu-gg2zq o
@SpiritualSparkle770
@SpiritualSparkle770 Год назад
I just started another course of therapy, realised actually aside from a few aspects of people pleasing I’m pretty much healed of my past traumas and thankful because I’m so bored, sick and tired of replaying the same old story in my head. It feels strange to be in a place of focusing on here and now issues rather than going over the same old ground feeling like a perpetual victim 😇 (I truly feel like a survivor!) ❤
@tomtbi
@tomtbi Год назад
My only weak point in my recovery is not letting people in and isolating at times . Probably the toughest thing to break since I've been through so much....
@mandyporras07
@mandyporras07 Год назад
Right. I didn’t even know i was doing this. Till there was no one around
@ebbyc1817
@ebbyc1817 Год назад
ok this is obvious to me because I am on the outside, but even saying that, I hear you being mad at yourself. Don't be. It's ok. Whatever, you feel, is ok. You want to isolate, isolate, when you don't want to isolate, don't isolate. But don't berate yourself. If it helps, healthy people, people with strong boundaries, don't let everyone in either, and they do isolate, when they feel like crap. It's just not that obvious because it doesn't happen for long periods, and someone usually kicks them out of it, someone in their support system, sibling, parent, friend. Give yourself a break.
@marianna3d
@marianna3d Год назад
same here 👋🏼
@NextCherryParadise
@NextCherryParadise 9 месяцев назад
@@ebbyc1817 thank you for writing that, it makes me feel so much better, because I have the same weak point as the original commenter. Thank you, you are so lovely and kind💚
@zackmarbery9240
@zackmarbery9240 Год назад
I’m still working so hard to overcome my CPTSD. I have noticed that I don’t want to look at my phone as much and I have been more truthful with God, my wife, and therapist. So I’m healing 😊
@carlottashaw4865
@carlottashaw4865 Год назад
Anna, I do not say this lightly, nor do I ever comment on RU-vid videos, but you have saved my life. A little over 2 months ago, I was broken up with by a partner who I now realize was simultaneously emotionally unavailable + abusive (and I am a classic codependent), and I had to move out into my first apartment alone (a rough feat on its own). My mother sent me one of your videos, and they have been a godsend to me ever since. I miss my ex to this day (still have bouts of panic over him being gone), but I see my issues and patterns now. I'm learning to cope. I'm learning to love myself, and be comfortable being alone in my apartment...each day is room for learning because of you. Thank you for what you do. THANK YOU.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Год назад
@Carlotta, you made my day today. Congratulations on finding your safety, and your freedom! Thank you for shining your light here for all the others in our community!
@annmarietoney4133
@annmarietoney4133 Год назад
I’m in the same boat .. my boyfriend broke up with me also .. completely out of the blue .. try my mind has had a difficult time letting go .. he still wants to be friends.. I still talk & text with him. Ugh !
@7Nebulae7
@7Nebulae7 Год назад
@@annmarietoney4133 It's better to go no contact once you are no longer together. You can't begin to heal if you hang on to the past.
@sahcho9213
@sahcho9213 Год назад
🙏🙏♥️🙏🙏🙏
@pdoll96
@pdoll96 Год назад
@@annmarietoney4133 it’s hard to heal when you still have feelings for someone who doesn’t feel the same about you and you don’t take the time away that you need to get over the the romantic bond and then be friends (if you still want to). Put yourself first.
@mumsie8578
@mumsie8578 Год назад
For me, the sign I've noticed that I'm getting better is.... I can feel love. I can feel it from other people. I believe them when they say they love me. I'm not perfect , I still struggle but I know that I'm healing ❤️
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Год назад
Amazing! -Calista@TeamFairy
@rnupnorthbrrrsm6123
@rnupnorthbrrrsm6123 7 месяцев назад
Your comment hit me hard, I’m 56 and I’ve never felt loved. I don’t know why and I don’t know how to feel it 🤷🏼‍♀️ I know my mom loved me but I didn’t feel it, I have kids so I know the love for your children. She had her own life of trauma and did the best she could, she told me she loved me, she did what she could for me but for some reason I don’t know how to feel loved. When I hear someone say, “s/he loves me”, my mind automatically thinks, “how do you know, are you sure, you’re gonna get hurt”…… It seems over confident to me to think someone loves you……. I’m so messed up 😏 I wish you all the best in healing and a life full of truly being loved and feeling loved ….Blessings
@mumsie8578
@mumsie8578 7 месяцев назад
@@rnupnorthbrrrsm6123 I've been doing lots of inner child work to have reached this stage. I was adopted so really struggled with genuinely feeling loved. One of the exercises my therapist took me through made me look back at my childhood through my "parent" eyes. My parents loved me how they could. Another exercise my therapist makes me do is visualise me as an adult going back and loving me as a child. Picking me up out of the crib and soothing the baby me. Pulling the six yr old me out of the wardrobe I was hiding in and convincing her that she was safe. I don't know , I literally had a crappy childhood. Once I managed to love all the "little" parts of me , i just noticed one day when I seen my mum it just all clicked and after that I can just see it. The people who love us show it in all kinds of ways , ways we might not see. Have you checked out what love languages are? That might help you and I highly recommend getting therapy, even if you had a good childhood and no trauma. You never know what you might need to unpack ❤️
@Vashti0825
@Vashti0825 Год назад
I got sober 23 years ago. It took me nearly 2 years before my central nervous system was restored. I feel the same way about time away from the narc. The longer I'm away, the healthier I feel. Although I need to speak with him throughout the divorce, it's no comparison to the mind-game I lived through for the last 10 years.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Год назад
Congratulations on sobriety and freedom! -Cara@TeamFairy
@mindonthespirit1543
@mindonthespirit1543 Год назад
100%!! I used to be so focussed on the wounds of the past like picking at scabs - opening the wounds again and again. When I put my focus on something else and on healing things changed dramatically. My entire mind, body, spirit and soul are much lighter, free and happier for it. Blessings, hugs and love to you all.
@Gracie.Gardener
@Gracie.Gardener Год назад
I went from being fearful avoidant to securely attached. It is possible to heal. I focus on reprogramming my unconscious beliefs and understanding my childhood trauma. I am grateful for the clarity, time and energy I have gained. I am a healthier person who makes healthier choices. I am committed to healing and growing for the rest of the time I have. It’s a process/journey to heal trauma not a goal to accomplish. I wish I would have done the hard work sooner but at least I finally tried. No regrets.
@ebbyc1817
@ebbyc1817 Год назад
securely attached as in, in a loving relationship with someone who is your equal, and who you depend on and depends on you... ? This is goals.
@11even99
@11even99 Год назад
how did you heal?
@Gracie.Gardener
@Gracie.Gardener Год назад
@@11even99 well, I am still healing but a lot of my work was done through the professional development school. The online school focuses on reprogramming unconscious beliefs to build better habits and behavior. Because of PDS I have learned how to identity emotions and why that emotion exists. Yes, I know that’s pretty basic but it wasn’t anything I was ever taught. Also, I learned to communicate in healthier ways. Hope that helps ❤️
@whateversisiwants
@whateversisiwants Год назад
I’ve realized one of the cheapest and easiest ways to navigate CPTSD is allowing yourself to feel and be safe
@sunnydaye5942
@sunnydaye5942 Год назад
The best advice I heard was "Crap fitting". That was what I did all my life. Once I understood that, it became easier NOT to continue. Being single was entirely different too. I am enjpying my single, no dating life. Taking care of me becane my focus. And its helped so much. Giving myself permission to let go of others opinions of me and watching what people do insteaf of believing their words. Wow. Thanks for your videos.
@ebbyc1817
@ebbyc1817 Год назад
your comment just reminded me of this thought I had the other day....that the scary thing about 'crap fitting' is how unconscious it is, all the millions of ways, you don't even realise that you are 'making do'. You think you're tolerating, being nice, being adaptable,....but you're actually crap fitting, under a different name. I can't stop myself from doing it, all the time, but at least I know when I am, and I can consciously make that choice, like, ok I'm crap fitting now, and I know I am.
@raqueldias7892
@raqueldias7892 Год назад
I find it very difficult to articulate my thoughts into words when it comes to my CPTSD and your videos SAVED me! I am actually so alone and didn't know how much CPTSD affects every part of life. I don't know how to write this very well but basically thank you for being you and sharing that with everyone. I quit smoking after watching your video on using nicotine as a regulation method. You have helped me so much I just cannot thank you enough for these videos
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Год назад
Beautiful and inspiring post, thank you! -Cara@TeamFairy
@buttercxpdraws8101
@buttercxpdraws8101 Год назад
Your ability to explain my dysfunctional behaviour is extraordinary. It is amazing, like you know the truth of my whole life, without even knowing me. Your work has made me realise how every choice I’ve made in my life has been the result of trauma thinking. 😢
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Год назад
That kind of progress is so exciting! -Cara@TeamFairy
@breakthroughmoment1647
@breakthroughmoment1647 Год назад
“Healing makes faking stop working.” Beautiful line. Being your true, authentic self, is being able to still be nice to someone when they’re not being nice to you. When you radiate that kind of strength, you transform their negativity.
@sarahjames1143
@sarahjames1143 Год назад
As someone who has been to therapy, worked on myself and still puting effort into maintaining it and no-longer needing therapy I agree that all of these are true and amazing. I know it can be hard to imagine some of these things when you are in a dark place but I will say the weight that is lifted off of your shoulders and developing real connections with people, being more present and setting healthy boudaries with people are all amazing. Your life quality can be greatly improved, it's awaiting you. To all the strangers I'll never meet who are struggling, I belive in you even if you dont.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Год назад
Thanks for sharing! -Calista@TeamFairy
@SidraAdele
@SidraAdele Год назад
I can’t begin to tell you how timely this message is. You are surely doing the Lord’s work. EVERYTHING you talk about speaks to me. I can’t thank you enough for sharing this part of yourself with the world. People like you are necessary for people like me to see and connect to. You’re amazing! 😊
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Год назад
Thank YOU for watching and supporting. Sending you encouragement. - Ashley, Team Fairy
@Linda-eo1tc
@Linda-eo1tc Год назад
A note to you, Fairy Queen: you are an exceptional human being. My trauma was complex - a mom I loved and who loved me who was out there bi-polar. Love in my family for sure, but inevitable neglect from mom while my dad tapdanced as fast as he could to keep things normal for us kids while he ran a surgical dept. The "love yourself" messaging that is so prevalent never resonated for me because I WAS loved. But abandoned nonetheless, a loss of my wonderful mom to mental illness. Hard for a little empath girl. The way you break things down is very, very powerful. I have been on a healing path for many years. You help me leapfrog forward. Thank you for your service to us. Invaluable. Deep, deep gratitude from the bottom of my heart.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Год назад
Thank you for your kind words and for sharing :) -Calista@TeamFairy
@tomtbi
@tomtbi Год назад
I've also lost 29 pounds and still counting because I go to Weight Watchers every week...It's an excellent feeling of accomplishment!!
@eg6081
@eg6081 Год назад
It’s a journey. Every time I think I’m done something else comes up, but there is a lot of progress, and you have helped a lot, thank you! ☺️
@Jim-rh2nh
@Jim-rh2nh Месяц назад
I was bullied badly in school growing up, I'm in my 50s now, but so thankful for you and sharing here. I realized as an adult I tend to look for situations where I can feel bullied because it was expected, but now recognize I should focus on building self healing and starting to see some of these healing signs. Its good progress!
@dreamweaver1832
@dreamweaver1832 Год назад
I swear living where it’s cold in the winter I get more depressed, anxious with my childhood ptsd 😢
@charmedprince
@charmedprince Год назад
Over the years, through self-diagnosis and countless articles and videos about self-development, I've healed my trauma to the point that I have to always constantly look for me and never let it go.
@carmadariacompaniona4181
@carmadariacompaniona4181 Год назад
Thanks for the excellent video. Just what I needed. I’m actually doing okay, but still need to do some work, especially in #8 and 9 - a work in progress as you say! 1. Don’t see everything in black or white terms. 2. Want to care for your body. 3. Eat healthier 4. Not binging on tv and other screens 5. Being more honest about your feelings, etc. 6. Your work life will go better 7. Don’t play the blame game (self or others) 8. Not attracted to unavailable partners 9. Prefer reality to fantasy 10. Have more material wealth
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Год назад
Sending you encouragement as you continue to work on yourself. (And thank you for this helpful video outline.) - Ashley, Team Fairy
@mcfunwow
@mcfunwow Год назад
Actually, #10 isn't about more material wealth but rather "Material well being. Live within your means, and release the fear of your past around finances. Handle hard days and move through. Not sabotaging self in ways that create shame."
@bumblebee_mrs
@bumblebee_mrs Год назад
I've been trying to heal for many years and then I get triggered by liars. I am so down lately. I love this video.
@howardcohen6817
@howardcohen6817 Год назад
I know. I'm lucky to have friends who are real. Hi, Bee. I once went out with a gal who seemed nice enough. On the 2nd date I found out that she was 7 years older than what she had written (to me) on her profile. "Everybody lies on the internet," she told me 10 years ago. When it slipped out that she wasn't really divorced I stopped her and - well - scolded her for lying to me and left. She wrote some E-mails and justified and begged, but I was happy to be rid of her. Who knows what else she'll lie to me about? No, lying isn't for me, either.
@bumblebee_mrs
@bumblebee_mrs Год назад
@@howardcohen6817 Hi Howard, exactly. Who knows what else these conniving, malicious people will say next. I'm always so shocked why the need for so many liars in this world of ours.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Год назад
I"m so glad you're feeling helped! -Cara@TeamFairy
@bumblebee_mrs
@bumblebee_mrs Год назад
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy That's why I never miss a video.
@Ablecore
@Ablecore Год назад
Have only recently (6 months and I’m 61y) felt freedom from trauma with some unorthodox healing practices
@howardcohen6817
@howardcohen6817 Год назад
If it worked and you're healthy, more power to you. Love.
@FernandoLeon8
@FernandoLeon8 Год назад
I love this video! It is refreshing to find this encouraging material that doesn't focus on the trauma. Letting go of those behaviors that make me feel ashamed was such an essential step in my journey. I have noticed the cycle of self-punishment after I feel ashamed. Shame kills that part in you that wants to change.
@biondna7984
@biondna7984 Год назад
This is all VERY good news for me, Anna, and thank you for delineating the behavioral changes that show healing. I seem to have most of them: not spiraling into anger at news or opinions I don't like; accepting the complexity and imperfection that we all are; forgiving myself and others (all at the same time!) for our trespasses; losing my attraction to extreme viewpoints; caring for myself more gently, in terms of nutrition, exertion, and recreation; and maybe biggest, speaking both more openly and judiciously (building boundaries) to appropriate people about who I really am; building my new life after my beloved mate's death. I've decided I want to find my own community (old growth forest advocacy, permaculture, etc.), before I look around much for a new mate. I want to bring more to the table. Still wrestling with limerence but I'm being forgiving with myself about that too, while staying the F! away from "Mr. Limerence," as my beloved friend calls him. Thank you for everything you do.
@howardcohen6817
@howardcohen6817 Год назад
Ha, ha, ha a very joyful comment, biondna. keep it up; we're rooting for you.
@biondna7984
@biondna7984 Год назад
@@howardcohen6817 Thank you, most kind!
@soulbeautiful4586
@soulbeautiful4586 Год назад
Since watching your video's I have been able to identify my triggers and when I am becoming dis-regulated. I also have decided to join an Women's only A.A. meeting online I am super excited! I start this Friday and I pray that I won't guard myself or self protect by not engaging and just be a bystander.. I tend to do that a lot because I am afraid to be judged. for the last 5 years I have been using alcohol to "numb" myself from the memories but it also has caused more problems in my life with weight gain, sleep, depression, no energy, dehydration, poor work performance from calling out all the time because I am too hungover. Thank you for this channel has helped me more than anyone has!
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Год назад
Wow, what a beautiful and massive step forward! I send my love!
@rturney6376
@rturney6376 Год назад
Amen 🙏!!! Everyone is a 5 year old. Think 💭 of everyone as a 5 year old we are. 🙏🌻❤️🥰💭💭
@juanvids
@juanvids Год назад
I'm so happy I found this video. I was feeling lost in my own healing process, but this just means i'm truly healing and owning the most authentic version of myself :)
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Год назад
I'm so glad you saw some accomplishments :) -Cara@TeamFairy
@C.E.O.007
@C.E.O.007 Год назад
My biggest point of noticing me healing my trauma is when I talk to my therapist and I told him my anxiety is my best friend because I was literally scared of reliving how I felt as a kid but now my anxiety shows me that I do have feelings I can understand my feelings and I can let that my feelings be I was too busy trying to control what my past did to me instead of understanding how it built me up
@archanadash2605
@archanadash2605 Год назад
The part where you say ' the spell gets broken' somehow gave me a goosebump moment.
@FEFEDOLL
@FEFEDOLL 6 месяцев назад
I’ve healed from 95% of my trauma. I don’t know how I did it but by the GRACE of god he gave me peace. The triggers don’t hurt no more. I do have to relive it sometimes but it don’t bother me no more.
@leonorabrandscheit
@leonorabrandscheit Год назад
it's so magical to realize how chaotic my life was some years ago and that i'm at a place of peace with myself and the past now, but the journey never ends
@jennifersilva7286
@jennifersilva7286 Год назад
My therapist suggested I do a mind map so I drew one out and on it one of statements was, "actively look for signs (of incremental progress)." Anna, you may not realize how timely some of your videos are but these are so helpful! Thank you!
@marilynking527
@marilynking527 Год назад
Thank you so much Anna. For the last few days I’ve been criticizing myself thinking I haven’t come far enough. This video helped me realize I am going in the right direction. You’re a gift! 🙌🏾
@lillianedwards11
@lillianedwards11 8 месяцев назад
I’ve been actively working on healing for 5 years. From yoga and meditation to EFT and information about codependency. It’s not been easy at all but it’s worth every minute. I feel so lucky, blessed and grateful to have this chance I made for myself to live a life of love. 😊 peace, love, luck and perseverance to everyone here! ❤
@ebbyc1817
@ebbyc1817 Год назад
Was really hoping that at least one of my recent habits is on the list. From the first one I felt like, ok...I'm doing ok. The more I heal, the more I realise I couldn't have had a healthy relationship before now. We think we attract unhealthy people to ourselves - anxious/avoidant, narcissist, whatever, but the truth is, we don't know how to be healthy ourselves....everything from splitting, thinking of people as good or bad, to thinking of ourselves as good or bad, unable to tolerate our negative emotions, projecting them or pushing them down... We THINK we know, the same way those people think THEY know. But the truth is, we don't, we really don't. But one really can't underestimate how hard work this is. It is a daily, every day, every minute thing, every choice, every non-choice. Everything.
@andyzzz213
@andyzzz213 Год назад
Yay! I've noticed all of these in myself since working with trauma. It feels like a self actualized feeling has come to my life. Everything is easier and even when I have bad days I can regulate my emotions to stop feeling bad about past or future. Thank you for sharing this
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Год назад
Happy to hear you've been able to regulate your emotions with more ease. Sending you encouragement. - Ashley, Team Fairy
@puperinoharley401
@puperinoharley401 Год назад
I love your channel so much. I come from deeply shitty childhood that stems way back to my mother's childhood trauma. She turned me into personal therapist from a young age and treated me as if i were her marriage partner from the age of 7. She had bipolar disorder, possibly schizophrenia and CPTSD. I'm 22 now, i finally moved away from her 8 to 9 months ago thanks to my Ex-boyfriend and i'm realizing the signs that i've been healing more even with the amount of stress i have now in my life and being 2 months away from being homeless. I'd rather be here and now in the moment than to be scratching her feet, legs and supporting her financially.
@firetopman
@firetopman Год назад
What has helped me is that I chose two people who were kind and demonstratively helpful to me during a particularly bad time in my past, we're talking 40 years ago, and sent them a present and a note thanking them. I asked God for this to be a purging of the pain of the past. So far, so good. It's like making lemonade out of lemons.
@howardcohen6817
@howardcohen6817 Год назад
That's a good one - lemonade out of lemons!
@firetopman
@firetopman Год назад
@@howardcohen6817 Hiya, Howie. How're you doing today? We met before here in some comment section. I hope I wasn't rude.
@howardcohen6817
@howardcohen6817 Год назад
@@firetopman Yeah, well, I hope I wasn't rude back! Sorry, I don't remember, so don't sweat it. How long ago was it?
@firetopman
@firetopman Год назад
@@howardcohen6817 It was recent, because I remembered your name. I'm glad I didn't impart a bad memory. Have a great day and enjoy the wonderful future coming after the revelation of horrors. We live in an evil world. It may trigger some people with CPTSD. We win, though, always remember that. God bless.
@billie6814
@billie6814 Год назад
Thank you Anna ❤️ please never stop helping us! We're making it together, Crappy Childhood Fairy Family! Love from Australia (nearly 4am here, can't sleep so catching up on some CCF vids) 🙂
@lilpaulettenthegang7869
@lilpaulettenthegang7869 Год назад
I am more than my trauma! Thank you!
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Год назад
Yes you are :) -Cara@TeamFairy
@CassidyDutile
@CassidyDutile Год назад
Thank you for your honesty. I’ve always had a hard time finding a therapist that would work for me because of this strong internal feeling that they don’t fully understand how hard my life was. Your stories made me realize you truly understand the struggle and make your advice that much easier to absorb. Thank you again for choosing to be vulnerable so that we can all take a step in the right direction.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Год назад
That must be hard. But we are glad you have found Anna's video's so helpful. Sending you encouragement. Jack@TeamFairy
@AB-sr4jx
@AB-sr4jx Год назад
Great video. I feel like I still have a long way to go after watching this which is a bit overwhelming. But, at least my eyes are now open and I’m working hard on healing. Thank you Anna for your guidance and being a voice of reason, and helping so many people along their healing journeys! ❤
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Год назад
Sending you encouragement as you take steps forward in your healing - Ashley, Team Fairy
@adrianoroyorkshire
@adrianoroyorkshire 4 месяца назад
I've been part of this community for about 5 months now and I'm surprised to see that all the signs of healing apply to me. At first, I had just noticed this wave of positive feelings and small changes but now I must admit that I'm on the right path. Thanks for sharing. Regards
@a.ellison3283
@a.ellison3283 Год назад
Thank you so much for making this video… This literally made me cry… I didn’t realize that I was making progress, or I guess just minimized this progress. I’ve made so much progress! I’m so grateful to have heard this and recognize I’m headed in a positive direction… I’ve hit almost evert one of these and while I still have a long way to go, I’m so grateful to hear someone say “this is good! Keep going!”
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Год назад
This makes my heart so happy to read. We're often so hard on ourselves that we can't see the progress... so glad you're able to see your growth and celebrate your progress. Sending you encouragement! - Ashley, Team Fairy
@tomtbi
@tomtbi Год назад
I try to not watch too much news either since after a while it can get rather depressing.... And I know I don't need more of that!!
@Gm__MUA
@Gm__MUA Год назад
Your timing couldn’t have been any more perfect. I’ve been on the road to healing for awhile now and you’ve just confirmed that I am moving in the right direction.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Год назад
You can do it! -Cara@TeamFairy
@KandyKoatedKrafts
@KandyKoatedKrafts Год назад
I am FREE!! I love your videos and appreciate all of your help! Thank you Anna! 🌸🌸🌸
@sonyaPsalm27
@sonyaPsalm27 Год назад
Say it Loud, Kandice!! Congratulations!
@di3486
@di3486 Год назад
Me too! I know how that feels🤩
@stevec404
@stevec404 Год назад
Your reminders come at a good time for me, personally, as I was just today questioning whether all of my work toward healing is worth it...will it ever land me with the inner peace I seek. Yes, we cannot know everything in store for us...yes, it is the journey, not the destination. Yet I am looking for signs that my progress is indeed on track. I find some connection with all 10 of these 'signs of healing'. This is very reassuring. Thank you.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Год назад
Glad you're finding reassurance. Sending you encouragement. - Ashley, Team Fairy
@TheRealSlimshadyyyyyy
@TheRealSlimshadyyyyyy Год назад
Oh my god, 9:15.. “Your attraction to unavailable partners will disappear”. This is so me! I’m so attracted to unavailable partners, and I’m currently trying to heal from being shattered by my last one. I don’t even know where to begin with healing!!
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Год назад
Sending you encouragement! -Calista@TeamFairy
@cherylduckworth8185
@cherylduckworth8185 Год назад
I keep thinking I am not likable. I study how to be a calm , level-headed ,caring person because I wanted to be better, but I still feel I put a lot of people off. That hurts.
@howtosober
@howtosober Год назад
This is so discouraging. I've worked so hard on this for so long and NONE of these things are happening. I feel defeated.
@sherrycrocker325
@sherrycrocker325 Год назад
Thank you. The healing a little bit here and there notion helps. I've always felt like it was supposed to happen like getting over food poisoning. You're sick,, you barf you sleep and bam!! All better. Toxic positivity helped me feel a lot of guilt for not being instantly better just by thinking happy thoughts. I'm seeing a lot of healing from your description and counting each point of note as a win even though there is more healing to do. I don't think we credit the little wins enough.
@luannkelly5071
@luannkelly5071 Год назад
My ex husband wanted to friend me on Facebook recently. I was triggered and disreglated in fear. I blocked him immediately. I don't know what he wanted, but we divorced 3 years ago and I have moved on. It took almost a day to get regulated again. I start a new job on October 10th. Yippee!
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Год назад
Congratulations! -Cara@TeamFairy
@lorrainecortes7296
@lorrainecortes7296 Год назад
The abusive people that were in my life never changed one hurt after another it was bad &:not good!!
@hellenatwongyeire6005
@hellenatwongyeire6005 Год назад
Working on my codependency has really been a game changer for me. Thanks Anna
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Год назад
Wonderful! -Cara@TeamFairy
@vivien4806
@vivien4806 Год назад
I had taken great strides in every one of these areas, until, unfortunately someone in my life decided that triggering my cptsd with fear and shame was a justifiable thing to do, because I apparently didn't deserve to forgive myself and continue healing. Now I'm finding myself in and out of ptsd flash backs, mania, and psychosis while being told this is all in my head (gas lighting) and even though I understand every bit of this, it doesn't stop my brain from reacting to these very real triggers. What's worse is I have people who aren't professionals doing "tests" on me and deciphering my reactions incorrectly, if that makes sense while I'm being as vague as I can. For the first time in my life I'm considering going in patient treatment to simply get away from the person who won't stop in hopes the hospital might keep me long enough to get stabilized and find an emotionally safe place to stay. However that would mean leaving my soon to be teen child in that house without me, and my other teenagers without me there to talk to. I know I'm supposed to put my healing first, but that's a very hard thing to rationalize when I feel my children are out here vulnerable to emotionally unstable people. Also very difficult to be believed now when of course past unhealed cptsd lead to dishonesty and embellishments, where as now when being honest I am doubted, bc again the people judging me are not professionals and are telling themselves They Know why I've done things I used to do, and it's Their Job to make me pay or teach me a lesson. Which is further noting of their own mental illnesses but they don't see that from the super tall chair of high and mighty above everyone else place that they put themselves. I'm at an extremely difficult place where I know what I need to do to continue to heal, but I have no safe environment to do it in and the one place I did have, my father, he passed away this year. Sometimes I just want to give up and join him wherever he is in the spirit world, but I can't leave my children with that kind of pain. So no worries to any kind stranger who sees this. I'm ok. I'm not, but I am. Maybe it is all in my head. Maybe all the manipulation and emotional abuse I feel I can see very clearly happening is just made up in my mind, I truly feel that's not the case though. I mean these people I mentioned who are doing these things have made it a point to all but flat out brag about it to me when nobody else is around. I pray every night for guidance and help. I'll be praying for all of you here as well tonight. God Bless you all.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Год назад
Thanks for reaching out, I suggest trying this free course bit.ly/38JfzK1 -Cara@TeamFairy
@vivien4806
@vivien4806 Год назад
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy thank you so much
@creativesolutions902
@creativesolutions902 Год назад
I can relate to all of this. Especially the black-and-white thinking turning gray, the acceptance of people as a mix of things… The twisting of truth, in my case to avoid judgment from those around me who were toxic people.… The only thing I still struggle with isAvoidance/longin for good relationships. I was also recently diagnosed with autism as an adultand often wondered how this impacted the trauma … Thank you for doing these videos your demeanor is very soothing and easy to accept the hard truth that you discuss.
@paceosheam
@paceosheam Год назад
Thank you for your kind delivery and motivating words. It's really hard at this time and it feels like the end of the tunnel is still at the same distance. So thank you for your comforting words.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Год назад
You are so welcome
@physicallynumbtoeverything9137
My life is full of trauma I feel I can never heal. Too much dysfunction all around me and I can't afford to move away.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Год назад
Keep seeking, options open up to us :) -Cara@TeamFairy
@Sssmokin420
@Sssmokin420 2 месяца назад
My heart has been feeling happy I’ve accomplished all 10 still working hard in many areas but I feel whole.
@annag467
@annag467 Год назад
All these "little" goodies are magical. Finding the right other people or new people to support you keeping up these little goodies is life changing 💖 CCF is absolutely right, every word.
@DiemMy-Meli
@DiemMy-Meli 28 дней назад
I am glad to know that I am on my way to healing! 💪 ❤
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy 28 дней назад
Yay! Nika@TeamFairy
@Chopsyochops
@Chopsyochops 4 месяца назад
Do we also feel exhausted after we come out of the fog? I’m absolutely wiped out. My head is clear, my heart is now free. I have my boundaries in order, I’ve broken my programming, I’m ready to start caring for my body. All I’m left with is feeling completely wiped out? How long will I feel wiped out for? I used to go from drama to drama and crash in between. That has stopped now. I’m done with it. My nervous system is exhausted.
@girlwheels
@girlwheels Год назад
Just broke my cardinal rule. I have been trying to focus on me, and healing, getting healthier. Then I got caught up in an online fling. In AA, for the first year of sobriety, it's important to remain single. After the end of my last relationship, I decided I was happier single. I wasn't feeling great and it was just better not having to explain my low energy level, or all of the myriad things wrong with my health. And I was happy with this decision, and increasing in happiness in everyday life. I should have said, "Thank you, but no thank you!" Instead, I let myself be pulled in. Then he broke it off. So, back to being alone, but now I'm not happy with it. I still need more time to myself, but I'm conscious of feeling loneliness, something I have not be plagued with for several years. Best just to go back to what was working. Hoping I didn't open Pandora's Box.
@LauraWoodsYurok
@LauraWoodsYurok Год назад
Thank you Anna! I’m more healed than I realized! What a great revelation! Thanks for the continued hope this brings me…
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Год назад
thank you, were cheering for you. Jack@teamfairy
@jordans797
@jordans797 Год назад
I was just feeling like my healing has made large real steps forward, so I started to ask myself if I really have, and then you post this video and it provides confirmation in spades that yes I am infact making (and have already made) STRIDES! Thank you so much for what you do.
@fidelmashelton9491
@fidelmashelton9491 Год назад
Healing from toxic narcs which is really hard. Focus on yourself, as people like this do not change, but you can. Make a different to you as life is to short. Enjoy the simple things and don't take them seriously anymore. You know you better than anyone knows you, remember that and they are entitled to think what they like and to their own opinion of you. Don't give them any power over you, bring it back to yourself and the divine power that you have. Own your own stage and dream big. ❤️🙏❤️
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Год назад
Great suggestions! -Cara@TeamFairy
@fidelmashelton9491
@fidelmashelton9491 Год назад
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy Thank you.
@tranquilityteachings4247
@tranquilityteachings4247 Год назад
Thank you for this video. I’ve been working on healing for a couple years now. Slowly working through my shadow and seeing places in my life where I need to make changes. One important place is exercise and eating better. You got the nail on the head with that. I think it is a natural occurs when that when you begin to heal you focus on body changes which stems from better self care.
@winfridahbanda5739
@winfridahbanda5739 Год назад
They say, 'When the student is ready, the master appears.' Came across this channel months ago at a time when I wasn't looking and didn't know it existed but needed it. I am so grateful for all the insights you share.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Год назад
Welcome to the channel. Grateful you're here. - Ashley, Team Fairy
@nehemilia5033
@nehemilia5033 Год назад
I have decided to focus more on m'y future. I am healing and Moving forward
@MakenzieMcBride
@MakenzieMcBride Год назад
These videos are important for when I'm feeling down. But look how far I've come. Thank you.
@jenessam.hernandez4331
@jenessam.hernandez4331 Год назад
Thank you so much for this video. I really needed it and was feeling so overwhelmed with all that I am healing from, as CPTSD is only the beginning of all the things I am having to work through and with. I started feeling down because I am not sure I am making any progress and if I am truthful this leaves tears in my eyes. Then your video popped up in my feed and it provided so much clarity on what to look for in my recovery process; the positive signs. I hope I can overcome all that my childhood has produced in me and finally be able to live life with clarity of mind and heart. I wish all the blessing for you.
@oraliebordeaux
@oraliebordeaux Год назад
Mold toxicity can be a pretty big player in addictions & various trauma based behavior also.
@Nautilus1972
@Nautilus1972 Год назад
You *choose* how you want to feel. That was a mind-blower for me when I saw that scrawled across a Dr. Phil TV screen. When it hit me, it was like a fog lifting .....
@michaelshelbyedwards
@michaelshelbyedwards Год назад
I’m totally getting there! Great vid.
@tomtbi
@tomtbi Год назад
My finances are the most secure for me right now than they have in years!!
@chilloften
@chilloften Год назад
I guess I am healing, and perfectly imperfect human being. Thank you for sharing Anna, I am alone out here and wondering if ever I can just be happy & content with no disasters. But they happen, everyday, and break my heart and trust in humanity.
@elizabethortiz-schwartz7376
This was so profound, I had to watch it three times to fully immerse myself in the information. This particular video is so helpful as progress is non linear. I continue to be amazed at how you synthesize and present your knowledge in the clearest ways possible. I am so grateful to you in general and for this video specifically for pointing where in the map I personally am, see both the progress and take credit for my change so far and see the challenges, pitfalls and opportunities. It’s great to see the progress in the “ work in progress”
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Год назад
Thank you for your kinds words! So glad the video was helpful :) -Calista@TeamFairy
@talesfromtheroad9530
@talesfromtheroad9530 Год назад
Oh wow, thanks for listing these, Anna! Maybe I've made more progress than I realized 😅 The 'spell' has finally broken in my attachment to unavailable people--if they're not interested in me, I lose interest. (Amazing! Instead of getting more deeply hooked.) But I had to laugh because I saw where I still want to grow too. Still love my carbs and sugar! Half a plate of beautiful crispy oily potatoes gives me the same relaxation that alcohol might for others. (In Ireland right now, so a little doomed. 🥔) Potato chips do it too--help me switch off my brain, breathe deeper, and feel wrapped in comfort. I want to find non-food ways to get this same effect though. And I decided the other day to go sugar-free for a year. I've done it before, and whewf what a way to feel everything. Gotta make sure I strengthen my self-regulating tools! I also still need to grow in the screens thing--I def look at my phone too much. And lastly I still think I prefer fantasy to reality haha....even though my reality is ok right now. Daydreaming kid right here! On the positives, yes, my material world is coming together. I'm 34 and can't quite afford a 1 bedroom apt for myself yet but I'm starting my first nursing job soon and I'm hoping in a year to provide that for myself. Little victories that feel huge for us cptsd people ^.^ Looking forward to reading about everyone else's triumphs too!
@tomtbi
@tomtbi Год назад
I'm getting better about not engaging in "black and white" thinking .. it's also doing wonders for my quality of life!!
@edwingooden2543
@edwingooden2543 Год назад
I like this video..I can't change things that were done to me but I believe in me that I can change my future..I stop holding the past over my life and started planting positive seeds to a healthy future..I thrive on effort to have a positive attitude and one is how I treat others as I treat myself..
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Год назад
Thanks for sharing! Sending you encouragement :) -Calista@TeamFairy
@kittydebs
@kittydebs Год назад
yes! you gave me goosebumps with that list
@mandyfesting
@mandyfesting Год назад
Thank you for posting about this!! More people need to write about what it’s like on the other side ❤ I’m so excited
@enjoy7024
@enjoy7024 4 месяца назад
You are very relatable. Someone who understands. Thanks for being real!
@mariadigiovanni1168
@mariadigiovanni1168 Год назад
This was perfect timing. So much rang true with my current path. What a relief! Thank you for this video!
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Год назад
Glad it was helpful! -Cara@TeamFairy
@dhuhaal243
@dhuhaal243 Год назад
Wow the spell gets broken Hallelujah 🙌🏼.
@Celina1182
@Celina1182 3 месяца назад
Thank you for this will make a list and work on next bits . Very informative ❤
@britb90
@britb90 Год назад
wow thank you for this! I've endured so much trauma in my life and I've been on a healing journey now for the past few years and I still feel "stuck" in some areas at times but even the trouble areas I see improvement on. Thank you
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Год назад
That's amazing to hear! We're rooting for you :) -Calista@TeamFairy
@pinkroses135
@pinkroses135 Год назад
This list is encouraging. Number 2 really resonates.
@DavidBruce69
@DavidBruce69 Год назад
I suffered from that for a long time and i just spoke out recently about the truth I tried to hide all my life/the past years and it felt very relieving speaking the truth. The thing that helped me was speaking the truth and even though it may never happen, it released something that was attached deep into my heart for such a long time. Speak your mind, especially if you are afraid of it because releasing this will give you such a good feeling that you never thought may happen. I forgive but i needed to get out the pain, I don't think that i am gonna be able to achieve what I just let out but that was nescesarry to heal myself. I will continuing improving myself and spread positivity but I wanted to show people that you need to get out the dark truth you always wanted to get out of there. Spoke what was on my mind and stood up for myself and i don't think there will be results but at least my lies doesn't consume me anymore and my fantasy world. Forgiving is the most important thing even though i maybe mispoke in my emotions but i don't want to look back in anger anymore. If this certain person/persons has nothing to do with that than they can ignore that because nothing will happen anyway and i will truly forgive them, forget this thing and will get over it but this was just nescessarry. That was on my mind for such a long time.
@marlo2919
@marlo2919 Год назад
It's interesting how the universe always provides what you need. I needed to hear this video. My mother seems to think that all my thoughts and opinions are the same as hers. She never even stop to consider what I'm thinking. I feel like I have no voice and I feel invisible and I'm an introvert mainly because I'm afraid to say what I think and feel. I'm like what if it's wrong so I find easier let other people talk and just agree with them. That makes me fake but not on purpose I just feel like it's safer just hide myself. This gave me some food for thought and I decided not to vote tomorrow because my mother shoved her political views up my back side and I'm suppose to think just like her and I'm not sure I have the same politicle views but I don't feel I can make an informed choice voting because I feel brain washed so I'm stepping aside to figure out what I stand for and vote next time. But I have keep all my thought secrete. I kinda hate my life lol. These video are great though. Thank you
@spot-ongrooming1157
@spot-ongrooming1157 4 месяца назад
Awesome! Thank you.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy 4 месяца назад
Thanks for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy
@buzzlebaby
@buzzlebaby Год назад
I am so grateful for you.💕 Truly, thank you for your work.
@azsuehayes
@azsuehayes Год назад
It's often a decades long journey dear one. Its so affirming to hear your videos. You are wise and very helpful. Thank you. 🙏🏻❤️
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