They Didn’t Believe I Was Being Stalked | A Story Of An Obsession 

My father didn’t do this but from what I’ve heard, he used custody exchange times to further abüse her and, despite me reporting my own abüse and obviously not wanting to be around him, the courts still forced us to be in that situation and in fact actually scolded her one time for supposed parental alienation or something. Happy to say that I’m 19 now and he’s blocked from both of our phones and can’t get her alone to threaten her anymore

The first and biggest red flag was him living in the basement of his "separated" wifes home. Narcissists and gaslighter at his finest. Alot of Narcissists are "bi". It’s not about sexuality, it feeds their ego. My sympathies are with you.

This is horrendous. I’m so glad she made it out alive.

Should have left a month in when you found out he was married.

I met my stalker when I was thirteen, so basically a child. He was in and out of my life for maybe 2 years. When I was sixteen I stupidly began a relationship with him, remember I was still a child, and I gave my virginity to him. It was the worst mistake of my life, as now I belonged to him and him alone. I will not bore you with all of the stalking that occurred over the next 40 years but now I am 57 and live in another country and yes he is still stalking me! He even moved to the Country I now live in but it is a large country and he has no idea where I live Well I now accept that I know he has no real hold over me and 6 months ago I finally stopped being afraid. I blocked and reported him so, so many times on social media but he just set up accounts in different names and attempted to be my friend or a friend of my real friends. I asked them not accept any new surprising friend requests and I haven´t heard from him since. I am not gullible enough to believe that he won´t stop but now that I involved my "on line" friends I have cut off his most potent Hydra head.

I currently have a stalker and I'm on edge all day every day. They essentially told me they were stalking me, that he could see where I was at all times and that he was monitoring me. Told me he knew exactly where I lived. I've had nightmares about it,I'm constantly afraid he will show up at my house, I'm glad I have an excellent surveillance and security system but I'm so uncomfortable and unsettled. I always feel like I'm being watched, and any time I'm out and about I'm hyper aware and constantly looking over my shoulder and it is EXHAUSTING.

Thank you for sharing story! I am a Therapist and will have to share this with my clients. It was very helpful. Especially the bit about keeping a log and advising law enforcement to actually file a report. Glad you AND your kids are safe!❤

I hate that people just assumed you were lying.

Wow I cannot believe your channel doesn't have more subscribers yet. You are doing great and sharing these people's stories

He may have had all the comments and support then but you have it now. It’s all backing you. Stay strong!

You are so brave and it's only thanks to your own bravery that you are alive today. He totally didn't see it coming that you would shoot him, he thought that you would freeze. He was wrong.

This woman is incredibly brave to share her story, and her face on RU-vid. I think it's awfully easy to sit in front of a screen casting judgment on a stranger while declaring what you THINK you would or wouldn't do in that situation. The truth is nobody knows until it's them. Not only did she share her story but she went to the police, and court to make sure there was a record of his behavior which in turn protected other women from being harmed. Unless you've personally opened yourself up to the kind of retraumatization, scrutiny and victim blaming that sharing this type of trauma brings about...you should probably take several seats and think about the fact that you're literally trying to tear down a woman that lived a nightmare. She's so much more courageous than most people will ever be.

Gorgeous but i cannot understand her thinking one bit at all. I just cant get her. They are both ridiculous! And by the way, if you start a relationship with someone in the midst of a divorce, nine times of of 10, s/he will cheat on you

Even during the whole ordeal....he wound up living with her and her 3 kids???? No ma'am! If he was a red flag, she was his flagpole and enabled him. That why the point she said he was living with her, her eyes shifted to the side. That microexpression reads 'I know you think I'm a dumbass, but.....'

beautiful advice at the end. I'm so sorry you went through all that trauma & chaos Mary, but you are a fighter. You are so strong, and you are an advocate for others. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I felt like i was right there speaking to you face to face.

I am terrified how a victim is not being believed. I did a couple therapy once, w/ my partner, I was emotionally drained, and he was smooth and calm, I was too defensive, he was calm and apologetic - for me and my "behavior". I could not find right words , while he was a smooth slow talker putting each word carefully in place, lying. The therapist took his side, in the matter of minutes, and there were two against one in the room, and this fact completely knocked me down - there is no exit, no help I thought. Something is very wrong WITH ME, I thought. I was loosing my mind, and everyone pretended that it is completely normal for one just loose mind.

Thank you so much for sharing this!!! It’s so so useful and helpful and couldn’t be more grateful.

“Although this was not a physically abusive relationship, there was a lot of emotional turmoil… I just couldn’t stand it anymore.” 3:07 I feel this in my bones. In my soul. My whole being. If you haven’t experienced it, then you literally have zero idea how it affects the victims. You feel like you’re a hostage and there’s an actual captor holding a ġůñ to your temple. Although comparing the two types of fear is like comparing apples and oranges, the level of their respective fears are monumental. One more thing. The people in her town that were so nasty and cruel need to be ashamed of themselves. Not just the people behind their keyboards; the police, firefighters, anybody above his head at the school he coached for. Lastly, and just as importantly- *shame on the ones who didn’t speak up even when they knew they should.*

I believe you. Stalking is terrifying. I wasn't able to do anything about mine. She would show up to my work day after day and protective orders are hard to get here. After years I think he gave up but I'll never know. I worry about my wedding day.m but hope he found someone else to be normal with? Or died.

His behavior reeks of narcissism.

Dated someone like him, wouldnt take no for an answer had to finally do a P.O., sometimes i have ran into him, he still approaches me, smdh wow this guy was acting very obsessed.......if you can in cases like these you must move where he doesnt know where you live but then again you had a kid with him. So you are still probably not out of danger, wow, stay safe.

Thank you for your story. This happened to me though he nearly killed me. God Bless You 🙏

This is crazy. Why would you move in a man who used you as a mistress and allow him around your children?!

I know we all make mistakes, but I would never date a man that lived in his " estranged" wife's basement, but that's just me. She ignored many red flags. I hope she is ok, and is not looking the other way, and hopefully she has a backbone now.

I'm sad to see nasty comments on here. Let's hope they lean compassion with time.

She's gorgeous

I don't understand at all having 3 children by age 21 and another with a clearly deranged and dangerous man. Love isn't enough. You have to take care of yourself before you can care for your kids.

Yet she exposed her 3/4 children to this psycho!! 😡🤬

She thought it was ROMANTIC thst a MARRIED man lied to her and was trying to maintain the affair with her? Having VALUES, many times, can protect you from a lot of BS.

Thank you for your story

I've been dealing with my neighbors gang stalking me since 2012.its annoying stressful and no one believes me

They do what they do because they are what they are. Mark Twain

The maximum 6 years and with a deal 3 years!😮

If you are in an iffy relationship, get an IUD and ask the doc to cut the strings short so your partner doesn't feel them. There is no reason to bring a child into such a mess, much less to be tied to a sketchy person for years because of shared custody.

Send at least one email or registered letter to ask the person to cease stalking you. This is required legally I understand to take any court action. Best to check first of course with any legal profession but I have heard this from a barrister so thought worth passing along.

I divorced my ex who lived in the basement of his ex wife … ladies don’t do it please !

Oh i have heard alot of men were like this in generation x , men like this exist and whether you think you'd never be the woman to stay , think again ladies its so easy to fall for men like this

I have zero compassion for her clearly she is the problem had all those kids and was divorced in such a short time span , she should have focused more on her kids instead she got with a man that showed her several red flags smh even after all the red flags decided to have a baby with him the part that made me mad is she laughed when the neighbor told her he fell out of a tree

Fight stalking.....My privacy has been compromised for 10+ years using technology and devices. Since I have no way to prove it, the bastards continue to do so with impunity. ( Czech Rep. )

He gave her a million red flags yet she thought he was relationship material .If you have a child with someone you are attached to that person for life. If a man cheats with you he will cheat on you.

Pause.... you knew he was a liar, stalker, cheater, and bisexual... then still moved him in to your home?? And had a baby with him? LoL

Wow what an evil person he is!

the amount of victim blaming in this comment section is disgusting 😐

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She seems like the type to not believe her child if her boyfriend was touching them 🤮🤮 don't like this story

Same, girl. Same.

My only serious disagreement is that she decided to have a child with him.

My stlolkers know all of my freind houses and even go there to ask questions abaut me. They want to know everything abaut me. They come from the other side of the town with 3 cars. They follow me to see where i go. One goes back to my house and do dammage and the others whait for me to leave where i have gone. Police knows abauted, but they have been told not to anything abauted because the ring leader of the gang is the niece of a formar police woman and her husband is a prominent judge

Serous question. Which is worse for society: romantic relationships or drunk driving? They both cause unimaginable pain and suffering, sometimes even death.

Why would you be with a man like that.

Holy do you ever have the most bluest eyes ever!!! They look like blue jewels

Damn she's gorgeous

She mentioned church. Is she saved? Does she know the Lord Jesus?

"When you're in a committed relationship it's difficult to look past any kind of deception or cheating." Not around here girl, not around here. She makes women look absolutely empty head.

This woman is not very wise. She should have dumped him as soon as she found out he was still married. She let that slide, she let the bisexuality and promiscuity slide, the setting other people....girl wake up, what is wrong with you?! You have nobody to blame but your own bad judgment in men.

Why interview her ?! I view this as her karma. Way more others worthy of telling their stories! She was the other woman

This story is hard to believe I’m sorry not sorry

He's married, what were you thinking

Your fault

It’s hard to feel sympathy for someone who went off with a married man,… then exposed her kids to someone she is constantly claiming is a bad person. Then she acts like oh why does he think I’m seeing other guys? While she IS seeing another guy? Like girl focus on your CHILDREN and stop trying to get laid. Jeez.

So you were playing side chick… seems to me you got KARMA.

She’s not a victim she did this to herself-no empathy