The real reason today’s ladies don’t stay through thick and thin is not independence. I believe it is about understanding mental health. Our Grandmothers were put through an enormous amount of trauma. They were taught to stay even if they are getting their skull cracked. We have embraced the importance of mental health.
Great comment and it is so much the truth. Those marriages mostly were based on survival and women depending on men for their basic needs. That is not the makings of a real relationship. Of course men took advantage and there was abuse, men having whike families doen the street, and overall disrespect. Can't blame a woman for wanting to be sure she is not in a position to be abused like that.
Some of us have also embraced self-love and self-respect. When you truly love yourself and respect yourself, you won't allow a man or anyone to disrespect your life.
That is why I have left past relationships. I refuse to be mentally, emotionally, verbally or physically abused by a man or anyone else, even family members.
Yes, back in the day women tolerated many things because they were so financially dependent on their husbands. Also, people never mention how miserable those women were. And many independent women would love a man to take lead and be there. But why no one addresses the issue of the lack of men in the black community that have no desire to be married or committed to one woman or the men removed from the community due to prison or drugs. Leaving many women to raise children alone or to build alone. We are independent by necessity. When I look at my non black sisters very few are left without a man to protect or help them…a father, a husband or a brother. You wouldn’t believe the number of independent women who are TIRED but keep pushing because they have to.
A woman always needs to be independent. If you find a good man.. most certainly go for it! 100% but I didn’t like the fact that they talked about the men having families down the street.. and the women stayed.. is that what is wanted? Hell to the no
I get it..but I'm going to play devil's advocate just for a second. The cookie can't be enjoyed unless a woman gives it away/shares it. I think the conversation should also include men who don't want to commit because so many women are so easy, so in his mind he's thinking "why do I need a committed relationship when women are throwing it at me left and right". Then if you look further into this you get people like Future, the rapper (multiple children, different women). At some point women have to have discernment.
Just watched this episode and wanted to comment on the “independent woman”. Most women today would rather have a good man that they can feel safe with and depend on however, when we experience heartbreak, disappointment and various unpleasant situations within our relationships consistently, it makes us decide that we can do better by ourselves. No one wants to be alone but sometimes it’s easier being single. I really enjoyed this episode…
I agree; a part 2 is needed. The fact that they have a marriage where if they are upset with one another; they are still there for one another. Granted, because they have been married for a long time, they had to grow into this way of communication. I love it and I am here for it. It’s good to hear a males perspective on marriage and what women can do better to become available for a man and let a man know that we need them.
I couldn't stop crying laughing he has to come back with his wife. Hilarious! He dropped a few gems for all of us that those who want to get married can cherish. Great job ! Laterras!!!!!
Listen to me... I have watched this interview at least 7 times in the past week.... get him back on here with wifey... there is such an anointing on his testimony, the realness, transparency & authenticy of his perspective of marriage is such an inspiration. Plz get him back on here asap. 🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I make it a point to teach my son , chase your dreams now , live by yourself, build your credit, save your money. Do not seek out a wife until you can fully take care of yourself, so you don’t need a woman to feed you and have to feel less of a man or you feel disrespected by her. You have one mother I will help guide you so your wife won’t have the burden that’s my responsibility.
Speak Sista, I've taught my son the same thing. I've preached to him as a child to b independent and to b good to and for someone's daughter. I taught him to cook and clean. I told him he may not get married for awhile so he's going to need to know how to take care of himself or when he does get married he can b a help mate to his wife around the house. He doesn't have to depend on no woman to take care of him, he can take care of her. I told him when he gets married, don't have kids rite off the rip. Njoy ur wife, travel and make alot of memories, have ur finances n order and have ur own place and car. He's shown me that he listened. He'll b 32n Feb. Graduated w/his Batchelors (working towards his masters), has a good job n his career field making 6digits, has his own place and car and no kids @ this point. I'm so grateful. I spent Christmas @ his place, he cooked Christmas dinner. I spent the nite, it was a really special feeling... I'm so grateful to God that he got it. He beat the odds and is a successful, independent young man w/goals and determination. I feel so blessed. Wishing U and ur son all the best.
I loved the episode, best episode hands down!!!! He is exactly the kind of husband I hope for🙂 his spirit and character and outlook on marriage suits my preferred future. I cried uncontrollably when he mentioned when his comedy took off and in that moment he set his ego aside by not taking the self satisfying opportunity with those other women and realized that only the girl( his wife) could understand the magnitude of that moment. That was beautiful Thanks for sharing 🙏🏽
He didn't ask his wife what she brings to the table, he said he is the table 🎤drop They accept each other as their genuine self and no expectation of what the world says, and wisdom taken from his parents and grandparents.
He got me with the fixing + cooking part! 😄😄 I'm a cooker but I rarely feel like doing it so I do a lot of fixing!! Fixing smoothies, tacos, sushi, cereal, salad, potato salad, pasta etc. It works. No skinny people in my house! 😆 😆 😆
This is my best podcast here. I have watched this episode on repeat. He is so full of wisdom and talent. Every man, woman and couple in this world should watch this.
I laughed until my stomach hurt - I smiled at his truth & love for his woman - how awesome God spoke & he didn’t hesitate to act - got this one on save - thank you for more life lessons
First, hilarious episode😂😂😂. Second Marcus said the more independent a woman, the more harder for her to get married. This is exactly why I be calling my dad with my many requests. Trust and believe, I can do almost everything on my own. However, I’m not trying to be or appear independent. I’m not going to be faking it like I don’t require a man because I do.
I took a lot of notes for my Future Husband but also in-laws. That was a hidden gem when he said his mother in-law and sister in-law would call to say they were praying with no judgment or force her on him. 🙏🏾
H-I-L-A-R-I-O-U-S!!! He kept it LIT! Marriage definitely puts an anointing over your lives. Once both parties learn to appreciate the the other’s difference, the marriage “should “thrive. It may not be easy, but in the end you know that he is working all things out for your good.
I don’t appreciate this man putting me and my husband of 10 years business out there, lol….swear he hit every point in my relationship….I’m sending this to every couple I know…you all stay blessed…bout to try and binge watch every episode…thanks for your podcast
I'm rolling over here 🤣🤣🤣 the combination jokes and knowledge he dropped on us was inevitable. As a single woman he gave me a different perspective on a lot of things 1❤️
Had a conversation several times about how as a woman the sex drive increases as you get older. I notice that when I turned 40 them 45 and now as I’m closer to 60 it increased even more so. The hardest thing about that is when you’re single single and waiting for marriage.
@@IAmMonicaDenise I feel you on that as I know singleness is not me. God is preparing our husband for us as us for him, we must be ready when he present him.
This was a fantastic interview. It’s so refreshing to hear a man speak of marriage from a positive perspective. As a newly divorcee, he definitely makes me hopeful of the future.
Marriage is not for the selfish, it's for the selfless. Alot of give and take. Time/God changes people it can't be rushed. It takes obedience from God to make it work. We separated also and got back together. As I look back I'm so glad I was obedient. Excellent podcast. We can only change ourselves then watch God work the difficulties out.
Wow! I am in tears from revelation, confirmation, and laughter. I just love Marcus! Houston‘s finest. This episode really spoke to me. It reminded me not to get weary while waiting. There are some good godly men out here who want to be married. And who love the covenant of marriage. I was just telling my girlfriend on last night that I am praying for a younger man, because at 53……… LORD KEEP ME!! 🤗 I love how he said that Erica knows him. That analogy was so personal for me. Last night I was at Pappadeaux’s‘s eating at the bar by myself and I remember mumbling to the Lord that I can’t wait to sit here with my husband. I can’t wait to know my husband. I just cannot explain how this episode has affected me. Thank you Marcus and Laterras!😭😭😭😭😭
You knocked it out the park Sir. The fact that you can be married and STILL grow in your differences is everything. I love it! This is one of the most transparent episodes I’ve seen. ❤️❤️❤️
I had never watched this podcast until this episode. It’s so refreshing to see two amazing men share such insightful and inspirational messages for those that are single, married or even divorced. Powerful! I loved it! 👍🏽🙏🏽🔥
“When you find someone that’s into you like that…” wow…to hear a man who knows his wife is into him AND appreciates and LOVES it…🙌🏾😭🙌🏾Okay, still watching…
I think your letter idea is so beautiful! It rejuvenated my hope that there is a sentimental, nerdy, reading and writing black man out there somewhere for me.
This is the thing....We have been pushed to be independent....after disappointments and going without....and trauma....we aint taking no chances....However, we will follow and be "submissive" to the right one. Independent women can find balance for the right one as well......
Absolutely loved this podcast. So glad to see them hit 25 years! I’m still looking forward to that many! He is coming. “ a whisper “ I’m 55 and want to release this beast” sadly and I’m literally meaning sadly been abstinent almost 10 years. BABIIIIIIIIIIIIII, the withdrawal is a terrible thing! I thought for a while I was gonna go to prison for scrape. While praying the Lord remove that desire from me while I’m waiting it got super hard to tears many times! But God pulled me through! DEAR FUTURE LOVER MAN- take all your vitamins cause she coming for ya! Be blessed family. Love you LaTerras
Sis I understand your pain. I’ve never ask God to remove the desire but just to calm it. I’ve been abstinent 25 yrs 😡🤦🏾♀️😢. I ask to please take me off the waiting list and send my future hubby on. Yes he’s going to need vitamins for this 64 yr young Queen for real. LORD send out husbands please
@@roslyngraham5883 On one accord! I’m asking now Lord if you know I’m ready to please take me off the “waiting list” and come on with my honey boo man. Thanks sis I never asked. I just kept saying I’m waiting patiently.
I really enjoyed this interview! He is funny and real! People need to hear the "real' of marriage. This podcast never disappoints! Keep up the good work Laterras!
I've been married 37 years. Even though there were lots of laughs and jokes, there was so much wisdom and truth. I really enjoyed this episode. My husband and I even saw him in person at our church. What a blessing. I love the part about being free and reading the Bible for oneself. Depending on what church a person attends, there can be total bondage. Thank God for the spiritual leaders who are really preaching God's word and showing compassion just like Jesus.
"But since I'm here, listen to me." 🤣🤣🤣 And the way he was pronouncing coconuts. Hilarious. This podcast is amazing. Men need to shift if they want to be needed or wanted, women did for protection from controlling/abusive/lazy spouses, for choices, for an education and ultimately out of necessity. There is nothing wrong with being wanted, because need sounds exhausting to me. I do not want to marriages or dynamics in the relationships my parents, grandparents, uncles and aunts had/have. Things have shifted, and men will be hard pressed to find women that need them unless they are much young or literally off the street.
My favorite part was when he broke. down the wedding vows. Truth received. I never thought of them along those lines. I love when my mind is challenged and makes me ponder. Good job👍🏼
BY FAR, THE FUNNIEST, REALEST, MOST LIT, PHENOMENALLY AND HYSTERICALLY UNIQUE, TRANSPARENT, LIVEST, SELF CHECKING EPISODE ON THE WHOLE INNANET!!! OMG!! I laughed, I cried, I watched it again and again and again! Thank you Laterras for having Marcus on the show!! He blessed my entire soul. I don't even know what I'm gone have the choir sing at my funeral, but Baby, I done put Marcus name down to do my notices and announcements, I don't need no Eulogy after this, get your life and laugh while you doing it!!!
I think things have shifted also because more women know their worth. You can’t want to feel needed by one woman but then due to infidelity you are needed all down the street. So then the woman who decides to exit a relationship in which there was a breach is seen as being too independent as if she wanted that. A lot of women’s independence is due to necessity not a desire to be dismissive of men and their contribution to a relationship. Great episode.
I love Laterres’s laugh, I’ve become addicted to this podcast, he makes people feel comfortable and free to laugh, cry, pray, and sing, I’ve seen it all and it’s edifying to to the soul. I thank God for leading me here 😍🥰
This was ABSOLUTELY HILARIOUS 😂. I started listening to at my office and I was in tears of laughter. My husband and I just finished watching together and he was GLUED to the screen. The kids ran around and we had a GREAT unexpected date night of laughter. We loved the TRUE Transparency of this episode. A LOT of things are NOT spoken of and sadly not many long-term authentic examples are seen. Thank you ❤️. We enjoyed this episode 😊
I randomly clicked on this video, 1st time coming across this channel. I wanted to listen to something with substance as I cook dinner for my family…goodness gracious, I was crying laughing and agreeing to all the truths Marcus shared. Enjoyed this tremendously!
When he explained richer or poorer maaaaan 2 marriages later I finally hear it!!!! Loved he had his grandad and dad’s teachings and they stuck in his mind.
This is the first Podcast I’ve ever wanted to watch. There are no words that can express how rejuvenating and inspiring the content is for today’s kingdom minded singles. I will be watching from now on.
This is my absolute favorite episode. This was the first episode I watched that actually put me on to the DFW podcast I've watched many since and recently found this one again. While there are a lot of great interviews, this one is STILL MY FAVORITE. So authentic and unfiltered. Not to mention the comedy mannnnnnnn. This episode has been included in my prayers in a major way!! Thank you, Marcus, for being so transparent and real. Thank you, Laterras, for your level of transparency and for sharing your journey with us! This is a must-see interview for many reasons(pick one 🤷🏾♀️)!!
Laterras was dying on that chair… lol sliding off and everything. This is one of the best episodes I’ve watched… lots of gems 💎 and so great to watch… I enjoyed it! I can totally relate… being married (12 years) and now divorced (4)…
This is by far The BEST episode!! Marcus is hilarious and very transparent about marriage. Laterras we need a part 2 with him and his wife ASAP! Great Job thanks for sharing 😍
I love the way you laugh. I'm laughing at you laughing at him. The way you fall out laughing is so contagious. This episode was funny but so insightful.
This is why I tell people to MARRY for LOVE ALONE. When you marry for love alone you will never have to worry about being covered by your spouse. Love covers a multitude of ailments/ future constraints.One can get physically, emotionally, mentally, or financially at any age within a marriage. .I would say to make sure that you are becoming one for the right reasons.
Right. But it's too mant people saying "love isn't as feeling, it's an action". That is only true in part. There are many spouses that prove their "love" through action, i.e. Doing Things, but it does not feel like affectionate love. It's being done out of obligation, rather than heartfelt love.
When Marcus (and he was Hilarious on this) said his friend's wife packed up and he didn't see it coming...He knew, he just ignored her warning shots. I know because I served my Ex twice with divorce papers, still in the home, and he ignored them, and when I was leaving, he showed up at home early and he couldn't believe it. I even started talking months out from then and letting him know I was done and it was over. He looked devastated and had ugly words for me once my movers had me all loaded up. And I rolled out and the divorce was final two months later, uncontested. He knew, but didn't believe I would pull that trigger. And to speak to the Bishop's message, most women become that way because we have had men that didn't carry the load with her as a partner and are tired, as I was, of carrying more than she should have, but not once will he grow and/or step up when she is needing him to, that gets Real old. IT'S a easier load without dead weight that don't want to do RIGHT,then she has to do it to survive beause thats what it is! Great interview Laterras! Keep doing this and blessing people's lives.💕✌🏾
I hope Marcus is able to incorporate this material into his stand up acts,maybe he has already. I was literally in tears from laughing so hard. He was dropping so much wisdom but in such a funny way. As Laterras said, when you open your mouth to laugh the message drops in as well. I choked a few times but it was still FUNNY and TRUE!
I LOVE how honest he was about marriage…great job! Let’s have him come back with his better half! I remember him at a comedy show at my church. He was hilarious!🔥🔥🔥
Hello Kings!! WOW!! This discussion is sooo good!! My husband and I are going on year seven. We are definitely still evolving and growing together. We are not the same people we were six years ago. We are actually better despite our differences. We embrace what we do have in common and love each other no matter what. May God continue to lead and guide you Laterras! I hope that my hubby and I can go on your show and share our story in the future. We do plan to save some money to attend one of your retreats in the near future. 🙏🏽💯🙌🏽❤️
This man said so many of the realist things, all while making me belly laugh, but real talk 19 yrs married and weve hit a VERY ROUGH patch. Some of the reasons he said he loves marriage were reminders i need today. This man is my person, and between therapy and God, we just have to figure it out and get to know these versions of ourselves and where we are today..
I am CRYIIIING🤣😂🤣😂🤣 "Just Hold me....Can I be the little spoon now?" This was a FANTASTIC, realistic, and hilarious episode. It just keeps getting better and better Laterras. Great episode🙌🏾
I must've watched this 7 times. This morning in traffic and on my 7 mile walk. This is quite possibly THE BEST marriage dialog I've ever heard! I forgot to play it for my husband last night.
This interview would have been so much better with Marcus wife on. I think having both perspectives would have made this complete. For an example , the incident when he said she got upset and hung up on her. She could have had a rough day with the kids, or business partners, promoters, etc. She basically holds down the fort while he's off traveling the world. Black love doesn't need to be struggle or tough love. I think we need to heal and give each other some grace. We should all be on the same side, which is love. Marcus is funny and I enjoyed that part of the interview.
Laterras When Marcus said , YOU NEED A WIFE THAT CAN READ🤣🤣my belly was hurting from that one and then he didn’t quit 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🔥👍🏼Great show 🔥Great show 🔥👍🏼
I sent this to my brother and his girlfriend. I loved every second of this conversation. I laughed so hard. It was funny, honest, thoughtful, respectful and responsible.
