Would We Attend a Gay Wedding? 

“Know what you believe before you try to discern what to do.” - JHP 💯

I did not attend one of my sisters wedding, she didn’t like the fact that I didn’t attend but she understood my stance. The amazing thing, before I gave my life to Christ, she actually was one to talk to me about the Lord. So she knows what the Bible says about that. I love her dearly, but I love the Lord more!

I didn’t attend my child’s wedding, she knows where I stand. One of the toughest decision I’ve ever had to make in my walk with Christ. I most definitely love her and she’s knows that. Is the relationship strained? Yup, we speak as much as she allows. I’ve had to place our relationship in the hand of the Lord.

If your family member loves you, they wouldn’t ask you to compromise. They would understand and honor your belief/convictions. I personally can’t dishonor God over trying to honor a family member. I love the piece about having the conversation. But to be present, is consent, affirmation, support, and agreement and unless you are there protesting- there’s no way you can disassociate from it.

This is off topic but Jackie is glowing so much these days! She is coming to speak at my university next month, and I cannot wait!!

Not we had this WHOLE conversation for Preston to say he is not going 😂😂😂 great convo!

Thank you for this conversation. My son is in a same sex relationship and he knows where I stand. He was once in the church and says he still believes and is a Christian. I know he’s confused and the enemy lies to him about his identity. I had to ask myself this question, would I attend his “wedding “ and my answer would have to be no. I would talk to my son and express why but in the end I would have to accept what the consequences might be. I’m praying God will intervene in his life and he will realize truth and come back to Christ before that is even a thing. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

Mr. Perry, May you keep watching out and protecting your wife, always! It’s beautiful to see! Mr. & Mrs. Perry, your love for each other is beautiful to watch! And, the work you both are doing for Jesus Christ, is beautiful! God is your help and guide, always.

Wow!! Praise God, the conversation explaining why she couldn't attend led to her sister repenting and canceling the wedding!! God will use what the enemy intended for evil and use it for good.

1 Thessalonians 5:22 says “Abstain from all appearance of evil…” I am becoming extremely worried about why us as followers of Christ feel the need to discuss/explain “why” we cannot do things that are NOT of God, considering that being an explanation in itself. We are in this world not of it yet there’s so much compromise and appeasement of those in the world. Providing support for sinful actions can possibly enable them. What is pleasing to my Lord is pleasing to me, plain and simple.

This is RIGHT ON TIME! My niece who adores me is engaged to a woman and I’ve been battling about the conversation of telling her no but not making God the villain. As someone who was malested by a girl but happily married to a man, I just don’t want her to miss out on all the fruit that comes from living a God honoring life/marriage. So thank you for having this uncomfortable conversation in public for people like me. ❤😊

I really needed this conversation. My family, who I helped to raise, announced their same sex wedding. My wife and I have been having this conversation for years in preparation for some of our friendships. The urgency we now feel because it’s a loved one we have invested in is stressful. Thank you Perrys.

Jackie don’t be shy when he’s dropping all that black love magic on ya!! It’s cute to see when she gets shy when he’s affectionate. He said “it’s my job to protect you”, she said “ok”…😂😂😂

I used to be gay as well. I would not be at peace celebrating going deeper into slavery to a sin that God has delivered me from. To be bound in that capacity is heartbreaking because it turns your life over to more confusion and allows your mind to be a playground for the enemy’s lies. I have thought about this before and never took the time to actually articulate my feelings surrounding this topic. This conversation was go good! While I was hearing Preston’s stance on the matter I was thinking “it’s because he’s an evangelist” 😭😭. He’s used to having those hard conversations and being in those uncomfortable spaces! It’s your fire for Christ and love for people that makes you want to compromise. I commend you so much for that. I love that both of their opinions are built on a firm foundation and based on what Holy Spirit leads you to do. God bless you all 💕💕

I love you both, you can't compromise brother,you don't have to pray asking a question that the word has already given an answer. Don't compromise,are you putting your relationship with family before God.

A wedding is a celebration and everyone who partakes are in one accord!

I was just having this discussion recently. Personally I wouldn't go at all. Being in attendance means you are in support, no matter what.

Preston has the heart of an apologetic, willing to go toe to toe line for line. Jackie is giving I get it but no. Also having to have her testimony is probably one of the most sincerest “no.” so it’s a balanced topic. I respect this convo 💯💯💯

“It invites a conversation, not a cancellation”…that’s powerful!

I thought Preston was gonna say it’s okay to go! 😅. Great topic! I wish I heard this over a decade ago. I was invited to a gay wedding and I rsvp’d knowing I wasn’t gonna go and later to tell her the day of that I couldn’t make it because of a lie. I just repented about that from hearing this conversation! Thank You Lord

UnnnnUHHHH they need to start all over and Jackie needs to say “Hello Saints and Aints” I’ve waited too long for her not to say that 😩😫😩😫

God bless you two… My husband and I think you two are the DOPEST. Thank you for being light in a dark world… Your love for God’s word is beautiful. Thank you. THANK YOU.

I have tremendous respect for this couple’s ability to dialogue (not debate) about difficult topics from different positions. I pray this level of communicative maturity for all loving relationships, romantic or otherwise.

“Sin makes everything hard.” Preston summed it all up with this comment. I’m faced with this same situation with my daughter right now. We told her we cannot attend her same sex “event”, and it’s heartbreaking for everyone. She is now choosing to elope in another state since key people who love her won’t attend her “wedding”. The sin is making it all hard on everyone, including and especially her. When you have to feel the consequences of your actions like not having a real celebration with all your loved ones there, that should be a clarifying moment of revelation for you to see your sin for what it is. If you choose instead to proceed, you are consciously choosing to remain in that sin. So then my daughter asks if we will at least come to a party afterwards… you know, to just party. Again, no, there will be no celebration of sin. Instead we mourn and grieve. I love my daughter so much, and I repeatedly tell and show her that. But I have also told her that I love Jesus more. And that never changes. Also, HE loves her more than I ever could. I pray these truths, however difficult to hear, will ultimately bring her comfort. I am loved and she is loved by a HOLY GOD. It wouldn’t be loving of me to celebrate her straight to hell. I will never stop praying for her. That’s love.

Preface: I am commenting halfway through. I find Preston’s perspective refreshing so far, specifically the wrestling for relationship - I love how he highlighted that nuance because it real. My younger sister is gay, I already told her I’m not attending her wedding which is scheduled for this year and it has been extremely hard for our relationship. She was my best friend growing up and it’s sad but with the revelation God has given me about sacredness and power of the biblical marriage covenant I am not released to attend. But there have been many challenging, back and forth conversations over the years leading up to this point because of that love we have for each other. Thank you for emphasizing the importance of wrestling, not just the no. I one-hundred percent agree with saying no, though. We don’t know the levels of biblical mystery of marriage, I can’t play with that. Appreciate y’all so much. I’m going to watch the rest now 😅 Edit: I’m done! Jackie’s comments about her grief and then the article discussing the “weaker brother” …fire!! ❤️‍🔥

What's beautiful here is that the conversation about how to "love" is being had. Really. My play daughter (our families have loved each other over 25 years) had a marriage ceremony with a woman that I did not attend. She and I went to dinner alone, and I affirmed my love for her and for the Lord. It is hard to follow Christ in these circumstances only in that we don't want to hurt other humans. But He did come to bring division in this sense. I think approach, that is to approach in love, makes ALL the difference. If I attended, whether I wanted it to or not, it would send a message to so many people in my circle and perhaps those that I'm not even aware of. Yet, we all attended the Glory conference together. I think, had our relationship stopped because she had that ceremony, which I believe would NOT be loving at all, she would not have accepted the invitation to the Glory conference. We all, including the woman she had a ceremony with, had a great time. And guess what, you know, seed was sown. What happens to the seed is in God's hand. Our responsibility is to love, not condemn. We can love and STILL choose not to compromise God's clear standard. I hope at least one person is helped by this. Above all else, love each other deeply...you know the rest. But look it up if yiu don't. 😉 Thank you to the Perry's for the conversation.

This was a really good conversation. SO MANY good points from both Preston and Jackie.💯 "It's ok for people to see the wrestle" Thank yal for this convo

“When have I ever gone into a space and NOT told the truth.” Come on Jackie and Preston!! That did something to my spirit. God is using y’all and I thank Him for it. 🙏🏽

Big topic, bigger God. The right ones to speak on it. Thank you for growing bold in the gospel. Love yall! ❤

its the "i didn't miss them, i don't know them" comment for me 🤣 jackie's realness is so me low key and so necessary hahahah!

This is a great conversation. We aren’t talking about a co-worker or a roommate. These relationships with siblings, children and even parents. I do believe” What does the spirit of darkness have in common with the spirit of light”? We’re going to offend others when we don’t agree with them.. we just need to come to them out of love, explain our convictions and show support in other ways.

Thank-you for sharing. Listening from Papua New Guinea 🇵🇬.

I’m so looking forward to this discussion! I was faced with this challenge last year and I didn’t know what to do. Thank you Perry’s!

My takeaway is, because our relationships with others is also important to God, we need to have discernment if we find ourselves in these situations. And we can’t have discernment without consistent prayer and Bible study. I very much respect the stance that you never know what God might tell someone to do because God know everyone’s situation and what He’s trying to do. Amen to that.

I love how open, blunt, and transparent Jackie is!! "You talking about Propel with Christine Caine or the Bethel thing?!" 🤣🤣

Thank you so much for this. The Church (big C) needed this. Love you guys and thankful for your lives and ministries.

”“Don’t imagine that I came to bring peace to the earth! I came not to bring peace, but a sword. ‘I have come to set a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law. Your enemies will be right in your own household!’ “If you love your father or mother more than you love me, you are not worthy of being mine; or if you love your son or daughter more than me, you are not worthy of being mine. If you refuse to take up your cross and follow me, you are not worthy of being mine. If you cling to your life, you will lose it; but if you give up your life for me, you will find it.“ ‭‭Matthew‬ ‭10‬:‭34‬-‭39‬ ‭NLT‬‬

As someone who is struggling with same-sex attraction-by God's grace I have been saved but I still feel pulled by my flesh-pray that God will work in my life and current relationships to bring about healing in this area. I really appreciate Jackie's testimony and look to her and Preston's perspective on this because I desparately want to not feel this way.

Preston and Jackie, you added such insight to my thinking that was much needed. I appreciate the way you interact in order to weed through the issues to give God's truth a place to show up in our faith. God Bless the more!

This is such a wonderful conversation and needs to be had more and more….This is a master class!Love these two. Mad respect.

Finally, my fave family returns to the tube! ✋🏽🤚🏽

Thank you for taking on tough conversations. I will still listen to Alistair Begg.

This was a great conversation. The more the church is equipped to deal with these issues the better it is for us.

Perfectly articulated Jackie that's the hardest thing for people to do when it comes to a loved one. Loving a loved one and being firm on the word of God. ❤

Why would a lesbian or gay couple invite true believers to their wedding,. When they know that person will not compromise their beliefs? Then say, "Don't be weird", or "Just tell me 'No', I'm not coming"? Their belief would tell you "No", before their mouth speaks. Boldness is not always replying to every sinful request. Sometimes it's just standing on your belief and letting your actions speak. I believe they extend the invitation so a believer can co-sign it or to test your loyalty between them and over God. Jesus said "this is my brother. This is my mother those who do the will of my Father". That is who he was loyal to. You can definitely love your friends and family members who are in the same sex relationship, but if you are trying your best to live Holly, they will know, respect it and not invite a believer to co-sign, by witnessing sin and hold their peace . In turn the believer wouldn't be upset about not being invited. That way it won't be "weird" because each person is living the life they choose, boldly. With the agreement that they love each other and respect the life their chose to live.

My wife wanted to go support her cousins gay wedding. I said no because it’s not real. Not going to lie thou I feel convicted because that’s my wife and I’d only go for her. This one’s tough. Glad someone putting it out there 💯‼️

These are great conversations and I appreciated listening to the both of you. The only feedback I have that got in the way of me fully enjoying this conversation was when one person would cut off another person while speaking. That may be an opportunity to consider reviewing… ❤

Thruth Jackie 🙏 I love the way that you you explained your take on not attending a gay wedding.

If it’s going to make your heart guilty, just don’t do it and explain it to the person. Stand on your belief.

Thank you for having this conversation and sharing it with us! These are challenging topics that take some good in-depth discussion that puts first God's desire in our lives and to live in the way he wants. 🎉🎉

As an atheist I enjoy listening to y'all convesations, especially when you are not willing to surrender to ephemeral and transiet norms & mores en-vogue at the present moment. I respect the fidelity to your faith and boundaries erected around your principles. The comments below are refreshing to be honest.

Every 2minutes can be cut and made into a RU-vid short or IG Reel. Watching again!🔥

A great conversation, thank you for giving this subject time.

Although I agree with not going to gay weddings. Do we keep this same energy with people that have kids before marriage? Or people that are visibly pregnant before marriage? Or a currently fornicating couple? Where do we draw the line

I love the part when Preston says that the reason he errs on that side is because he is an evangelist! Literally reminded me of Ephesians 5:17 which says "understand what the Lord wants you to do" and I would add 'in light of who he has called you to be and what he has called you to do"

My gosh i missed yall! Thank God you’re back 🥰 this was an amazing conversation. Sooo thoughtful and fruitful, thank you!

I love you guys SO MUCH! And recommend you to many friends! One thought. Jackie mentioned guarding against false teachers. One wrong statement, one area of growth for even preachers (because they don’t know all they aren’t perfect or Christ) doesn’t make them a false prophet. Allester Begg is awesome and very much anointed in my opinion. He didn’t set out to step On toes he set out to honor Jesus and spread His love. He is under attack because he’s a believer!!!! I pray he is rejoicing in this affliction!

Oh how I have missed the Perry’s! Welcome back ❤

Jackie your brows are 🔥 and I’m so happy to have a new podcast from yall! Real, raw conversations!

Thank you so much for touching this topic! Has been a hard conversation amongst my friends. It is really good to hear the stance of someone who understands the struggle of that sin but still stands firm in truth. God bless you both!

I wouldn't go to one regardless. Would our Saviour attend a gay wedding? NOPE. Thats good enough for me. 💜💜💜♾️

As someone new out of the lifestyle I’d be too nervous of a slip up. I’d be to nervous😂

Great convo! Glad to have you guys back. Also Jackie is HILARIOUS!

I never thought I’d find myself saying this on someone’s podcast that i literally don’t know but the both of you have literally become like friends to me. Friends in Christ. Hearing both of your opinions on this topic has helped me in a way i didn’t think i needed. Thank you.

Im not. I will not sit, stand, jump, etc in agreement which is what I would be doing if I attended. I do not support your decision but I can still love you :)

You all dont need them to tell you the answer. The answer is NO!!!

Really appreciate you guys speaking truth and talking about tough topics. 🙏🙏🙌🏼❤️

This was a very thought provoking discussion. I love it! Thank you for revealing both sides of this matter.

Thank you for taking the time to have this conversation with us. ❤

Prestons' answer just seems complicated... But it's not... It's really easy. No.

This was really good y’all! I’m actually going thru this situation with my lil sister she is engaged to a women. God was really speaking thru y’all to me!

Thank you for all that you do. I purchased your book Mrs Perry and distributed it so others can find God and healing

The camera quality is UP. I don’t even have the resolution turned to the max. Anyhow, can’t wait for Preston’s book!

This was such a good conversation. I really appreciate the perspectives you both have

I love how honest and direct Jackie is😂😂😂 that intro was exactly what I missed about this podcast. Thank you Jackie for not saying you missed us when you don't even know if you like us like that😭😭😭😭🤣🤣🤣🤣 Jackie is a lover of Truth! Preston just genuinely loves people so I believe him too😂 he did miss these strangers on here his an evangelist! 😂

Conscience! That part! For me, my conversation with my niece was leaning towards how my conscience won’t allow me to support her gay marriage. I personally fear God and have experienced consequences when “I AM” in disobedience and so it’s not about her, it’s about me not wanting to experience another God whoopin’.😅

Preston way sounds like struggling the fence. I don't understand what he is saying. Because, if God was thought first and He told you to go, why would a public decoration be needed for men? Unless that public decoration simply states "I sought God first.He told me to go and honor Him while I was there", ( meaning to deliver a message) That way God is being honored and the wedding party is being honored with the Word of God and by your commitment to their eternal life.. That way a public announcement disowning the wedding party wouldn't be needed.. I can see God tells someone to go into that situation to preach or to deliver a message that would change the outcome of the day. Jesus never went into a situation where minds weren't changed, nor did the atmosphere remain the same when He left. So if God is telling someone to go, the atmosphere would change and sin would no longer be a happy occasion. My best friend was in a 17 year relationship with the same sex. There were times they would invite me to their home and I went, but it was always clear to them before, during and after my stance on their relationship. After 17 years my friend is no longer in that relationship. She said what helped her out was that I never compromised my love for God and my love for her, and I never stopped believing she would be free from that sin. However , other people, even her family members, disowned her. I stayed committed to our friendship and more importantly my witness to her. Every opportunity God gave me I reminded her of God's word and love for her and for her girlfriend.

This camera quality is OMG!🔥 I've genuinely missed y'all. Although, Jackie says otherwise 😅. I'm drawn to your authenticity nonetheless. Was I the only one constantly refreshing the channel to know if I per chance missed an episode? Glad you're back, please. Much love from Nigeria. As someone who talks about sexuality, this episode was enlightening for me. Thank you.

Great conversation y’all!! Tastefully done👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

made it to the end-great talk-glad you two decided to share with the saints and aints :-) blessings to the person who was converted and cancelled the wedding and hope she is doing well!!

I feel like many people emotionally blackmail their loved one into accepting their lifestyle.

I hear Preston's view but Im interested to hear the perspective of Psalm 1:1 of sitting in the seat of mockers knowing full well a gay marriage could be considered a mockery of a Godly convenant. Thoughts?

I am so with Jackie on this! Let your no be your no! You're no can change a person's life!

This is a great conversation. Both of you have a good point. I love the way this beautiful couple let each other talk and get their point across.

not jackie don’t miss us 🤣🤣

Preston makes no sense! It would be just a NO, No matter who it is. I agree 100% with Jackie!

Thank you so much for this conversation this has truly blessed me I appreciate both of us

There's never a reason to compromise on God's standards. It doesn't matter if it's a love one. I still will love you but I must stand on the word of God.

I am so happy you did the in depth thinking and you’re dedicated to showing love as Jesus does but this is my first time hearing Preston a little bit all over the place. If you’re going to the wedding and not celebrating, and you have to make a whole ig post explaining your reason for going, why go? Also you made a statement about personal conviction being sin then made all of these compromises just to attend a celebration (bc we’re not considering this a wedding according to The Bible) you completely disagree with and don’t even want to go to. The same conversations about God can be had if you decide to not attend. Lastly, if your family member decided to be so hurt that they cut you off for not attending, isn’t that what Jesus says will happen when we choose to follow him? Mothers against daughters, husbands against wives, etc.? I don’t normally make long comments like this bc I think no one would read them but I thought it was important to talk about. This same question came up in my Bible study and I don’t feel like we got a clear answer. I love Jackie’s slave analogy, I’m not going to celebrate someone being a slave to sin but I’ll pray that God changes their hearts. Ima go with God now though. Amen 😂

OMG, What a wonderful, Blessed, with scripture conversation this is and the closing remarks was right on point❣️ This really Blessed me. There is nothing like a conversation that is backed up with scripture. Gob Bless you both and your ministries❣️🙏❤❤

Very thoughtful conversation. Reflects my inner thoughts and opinions exactly but I liked hearing it fleshed out in dialogue!

"God wants you to honor him and honor people." That hit such a sore spot, as an introvert who often disappears out of convenience, instead of wrestling with the hard things. My decade of disappearing acts are legendary.

There’s no way you can attend, and not be in agreement. The action of going is agreeing.

Wow I love to hear both sides of this conversation, it’s interesting to see both perspectives. I also love to hear how important it is to have those hard conversations, especially when you never know what God can do with those conversations just by you being obedient and brave.

hi this is Sherell viewing you from Seattle Washington, it's good for you giving us a new perspective, but I would not go after I told them where I stand but it's great to know.

Great vid. I'm 21min into it. Honoring people sometimes means not showing up. I'm not showing up to your Pre-Eternal Damnation Celebration. My showing up is saying I'm willing to watch you seal your agreement to say my God was wrong. I will be available when you wake up and I will love you still but I won't show up for your suicide. Love you too much

Br. Perry, I love you and your ministry. In this situation, you seem to have a problem saying "no" in a loving way because you don't want hurt feelings. What I hear you saying is you are putting the responsibility on your "Sister" to make the decision for your attendance, but what you are doing by not making a decision is making the situation worse, dishonoring you faith, and God's principles according to his word about marriage. Your decision should be based on love and mutual respect of one another's beliefs. Love the decision. ❤

Beautiful, wholesome conversation ❤🙏🏾❤️

Honestly, I grew up around people who would attack my humanity. I would tell them how I feel and what I believe and they’d use it against me, or get extremely angry that I don’t agree with them. I wasn’t a Christian growing up but now I am. And now it’s hard for me to have these conversations because of being attacked time and time again. I think it’s nice that you guys talked about people desiring humanity, but not everyone does. Most people are waiting for a moment to fight and unleash their trauma on someone else. I don’t blame some of the Christian’s who didn’t reply to that young lady’s invitation. I think we need discernment based on who it is.

If I don’t honor it as a wedding and I know it’s not Christ ordained between a man & woman, I’m not going. Family or not.