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Yeah it's like wearing a human shaped costume. It may not be a bad looking costume but it's still that. And that really messes with you because if you love yourself that kinda comes with loving your body and that's a good thing to have when you transition. Turning a costume into yourself. That's wild.
I keep getting notifications for people first liking and then "unliking" my previous comment. So I guess I wasn't very clear lol What I mean is, when you no longer have to wear that costume you were assigned at birth but you turn your body into who you actually are - your true gender identity. And then you no longer feel like your body is that costume that may look alright but doesn't quite fit. So, if you love yourself and your body, you transition.
Hell yeah, been looking for an analogy! I'm FtM, and my family has _amazing_ genetics for women. I was hourglass shaped, humongous chest and hips to match. I'm small, 5'3 or so, and before T my thighs completely covered most chairs. Girls would compliment my figure (before I came out) and I knew that I should love how amazing my body shape was, but I just couldn't.
Hi there. I’m a nurse and recently cared for my first transgender patient. Casually watching your videos has really helped with educating me on what trans young people go through and think about. I’m happy to see that hospitals in the UK are making more efforts to educate their staff on what it means to be trans and the importance of pronouns. Your videos are massively helpful - it really helped me in looking after this young person and they were comfortable with me.
We really need more nurses like you out there who care enough to learn more from the trans community. As a trans person with chronic illness who’s often in doctor offices monthly, thank you for being one of the amazing ones out there and keep on learning and caring. And keep yourself safe and healthy during this epidemic.
Didn't realize how much my eating disorder was tied to being trans. Was terrified to eat, because the fat would go to my chest and my hips - transitioning, I can actually enjoy food again.
Shiiiiit, I feel this. I don't specifically have an eating disorder, but do have some disordered eating and a poor relationship with eating and my body. I berate the hell out of myself for supposedly 'making it worse', even though I know a lot of my weight is a mixture of genetics, a history of different medications and limited ability to exercise from long term poor health. None the less, I can't stop that negative voice and sick feeling each time I eat a damned ice-cream, or a filling meal. I hate how much more accentuated my curves are.
I just started T today and I want to add something of my own: I did not realize how awful an idea it would be to take my first shot on an empty stomach. My body was not happy with me in the slightest and I ended up passing out. Moral of the story; eat something before you take your hormones.
What I was suprised about: How social norms are thrown out the window after you come out (People asking you about sex, surgeries and other personal stuff, often in family gatherings or other inapropriate places)
Oh Lord, and I didn't know until recently that this extended to trans people, not just cis people. Things I'm used to: Untoward questions or requests from the cis. Thing I experienced recently: Extremely untoward request from a trans person! No, just because you're trans doesn't mean you get to feel my chest before my surgery! 😬
Derek Martz cis women talk about them though. Playgroups and other places where mothers bond with other mothers - having an almost complete stranger telling you about how she got her episiotomy scar and what it's like is just one of those things.
I feel like culture and beliefs play a big part in it too...and personal philosophies. My friends would talk about periods occasionally (whether they were cis female, trans male, nonbinary, etc) and it was kinda just normal.
@Brett Wagland Why do you feel the need to point that out when this video is clearly positive towards trans people and most of the public watching it (including myself) do not share your beliefs? If trans people aren't "real men", then what is a real man? To most people you just seem like an asshole going out of their way to spread negativity around a community. If you don't agree, move on. No one's forcing you to watch this video. Go away. Sorry for the bad english :)
@@lexthedork4040 my peers thought I didn't have my cycle at 15 because I never spoke about it. I told them I started at 12, and they were dumbfounded, because I was a year old than most of them (they were meant to be in the year below, not that I was held back). So, I was the first to get mine in the group, yet feel so uncomfortable at the mention of it that I would just zone out and pretend like it wasn't happening to me also, even when I was actively starting a new cycle
Hi! My child of 14 told me two weeks ago the he was a transgender ftm , I was not really surprised by it . I want to be the most supportive mom and I was wondering what are the most important things to help my teen transition? By the way, I love your videos, they are really helpful in understanding my child! Happy engagement by the way and your future wife is amazing!
Since he's still a kid (I think average age to start hormones is 16), socially transitioning could be helpful. Use his name and pronouns even in public and let him dress the way he feels best
Connor Anderson I’m non binary. When I first realised I wasn’t cisgender, I didn’t know there was such a thing. And I was very frightened, because I didn’t know if I wanted to transition at all, let alone fully. These days I have zero dysphoria, feel comfortable as non binary identity, and manage to act how I wish to gender expression wise without anyone thinking more than me being an eccentric dresser. You do you. You can be as butch or femme within your gender expression as you like and you’re just as valid. I hope the world can accept you for who you are, as well as it accepts me.
I've done my research, I cut my hair, I'm going to therapy, I plan to go on T next year, and I'm still scared of the dreaded "what if its just a phase, what if I'm faking it???"
I find that when you hear enough people question you and transgender people in general, you internalize that, like "what if they're right? That would be awful!" even when you're secure in your identity. It can be hard to shake. An environment more encouraging of self-exploration, questioning and non-confirming expression regardless of how one identifies would be helpful.
I didn't know you could be trans and not want to have surgery. I'm genderfluid, and I feel differently about my gender from day to day. I often feel like I'm not "trans enough", so your videos have been really encouraging. Thank you.
I am a 56 you gay cis man in the southern bible belt of the USA and that gets tedious at times. I love you and have learned so much from you. You are a beautiful soul, and a cute guy too.
I'm glad you're open to learning more about the community in general! That's why our flag is rainbow, because it's a very big mix of everything in between, I'm still learning and my mom knew before I did that there was something different about me, and when i told her I wanted to get top surgery and a hysto she told me "It's about time you found out!" meaning she already knew before I did! I'm 42 years old :)
@@disorderJAPAN I'm so glad i wasn't a really really out there "outcast" so to speak, I've been to many support groups and have met people just like me, and it's amazing!
It’s unfortunately more difficult for trans people who prefer opposing gender traits to be seen as the gender they identify as, so they sometimes get overlooked as trans. Especially if they aren’t fully transitioned.
About being trans and gay I’ve heard both: “If he was going to date guys then why didn’t he just stay a girl?”, and “you can like masculine stuff and like guys, that doesn’t mean you are one”
Oh god, yes, those two get old so fast! Like no, there's nothing wrong with being gay and yes, I can wear whatever I want. Nothing to do with my being trans :D
my god i came out to my grandma as transgender and bisexual now im gay and it took too long to convince her bisexuality is real so ahhahahahahahhaha *this sucks*
They LOVE tauting the tomboy line. It's frustrating! Like, yeah, I played with toy cars and Lego, but because I picked up dolls too, that must mean I'm a tomboy who likes all kinds of toys. Nah, drop the tom and you've got a scared boy who's been feeling restricted in a small, pink, concrete room not fit for his big, blue identity his whole life.
My boyfriend just got on T today! He put the gel on like half an hour ago and he said it feels like hand sanitizer (that leaves way too much residue) too. It’s probably the happiest I’ve ever seen him be since the moment I met him.
I’m non binary, and I haven’t felt dysphoria since ... years ago. For a while I worried that maybe I wasn’t ‘proper’ non binary because I managed to be comfortable with myself -.- ... this is why we need more Pride.
I am nb transsmauline,please don`t be like me,I feel so bad when I don`t have dysphoria every day all day that I had mental breakdown today because I know I am trans but i feel I am not trans enough to have top or too use my prefered name ...
Another NB here, I got my Dysphoria down to where I only get really bothered by it a couple of times a year. I'm really not sure yet if I'll ever do more to eliminate that occasional discomfort. That's why I consider myself NB and not FtM. Never doubt just because you're satisfied now, you know yourself better than anyone else, and you get to decide who you are.
@@behindzerosp may I offer an affirmation? Dude, you are man enough to get top and to use your preferred name, no matter how you are feeling inside. Western society is geared are making men feel not manly enough unless they are overblown parodies of masculinity. You can be masculine however you want to be, and float in a happy non binary space without having to care what others think is enough to count.
Thank you everyone so much!!! My mom is very supportive of the LGBT community and her response kinda caught me off guard, when she comes home from work at 6PM then I'll have a long conversation with her about it. But I won't forget to update everything for you guys! :D
For me, how normal I felt after top surgery. It didn’t feel like the overwhelming joy i was expecting; I just no long had overwhelming suffering. Like is this why cis guys feel like? I love not thinking and noticing my chest constantly
Kind of depends really, am a lesbian and have no issue with trans people at all and respect them as their gender. What i do have a problem with is people like riley j dennis saying lesbians are transphobic for not sleeping with trans women who have a penis. Penises are really repulsive to me, i couldnt sleep with a trans woman pre bottom surgery it doesnt mean i dont respect them as a woman they just have an attribute i dislike. If everyone could stay in their lane and not insult others (goes for TERFs etc as well as militant SJWs) then there would be a lot less infighting
Thoran EH I think the issue with that particular topic is more with lesbians who will completely write off trans women without knowing anything else about them. They assume a trans woman will have a penis and reduce her to said body part. It equates trans people with their genitals and is, therefore, transphobic. The way you feel is absolutely valid because, as you’ve stated, you simply can’t be with someone who has a penis sexually. You haven’t said you just won’t be with a trans woman at all. That’s the difference.
MacksTheTigerChild thats like saying straight people are reducing each other to their genitalia because they’re not interested in the same sex.... At the end of the day you can’t control your preferences
@@thoraneh7365 i agree, i was referring to just being accepting of our identity. has nothing to do with sleeping with us lol. for context i had originally assumed that just because someone was lgb they would be accepting of trans people but anyone can be transphobic even if they've experienced discrimination too.
Yeah, I'm bigender and very mixed in my styles and tastes for just about everything. I sometimes wanna present more male but wear makeup and sometimes vice versa. I'm worried that people will make fun of me, and that I don't look masculine/androgynous enough. I'm working on losing a lot of weight, but I'm still fairly curvy and I feel like I won't be ever seen as a guy. It's fine though, the only validation I need is self-validation. And understanding from my friends.
@@lexthedork4040 You are completely right about the self-validation! But, if someone misgenders you or tells you that you cant look masculine just know that they are wrong or correct them. Also, Goodluck with your journey!
I need to hear the “You don’t have to feel dysphoric every single second and everyone has different amounts of dysphoria” every day I swear. My dysphoria is not as bad as trans people in the media describe theirs as being and it’s really making me doubt myself because Idk what’s real
What helped me was realising just how much hearing my name drums up dysphoria. For the longest time, my name sounded jarring to me, and would even forget it until someone called for me and I'd feel displaced. It's a nice name, just not on me. I heard Jammi describe it as intense sadness and anxiety hearing his dead name. Took hearing him say that to make me realise "I've been saying it's "jarring" to hear my birth name for years, even when I was in denial, both in the emotional/dysphoric sense and it makes me feel "jarred", caged in an identity foisted onto me,". I now understand the dread in my stomach whenever I hear it. I felt like an imposter because it's not my name. You may have a unisex name, or the masculine diminutive may be used for you as a nickname, but feeling a bit like an imposter is pretty transversal 😉
I am cis but love watching this channel because I have learned so much (and I love learning about the lives of people who are different from me!). This has been such an interesting video! It was particularly interesting to read the comments, too! Xx
can we talk more about the not needing to feel (constantly) dysphoric and hating your body to be a 'valid' trans person!!! that's is so important to know for everyone!! please! it's okay to be okay with the body you were born with and still be trans! i know it can be really difficult since so many trans people can experience severe discomfort about their bodies and it might feel like you have to as well but you dont! everyone has different experience and they are all valid
Torrin Ashley you’re looking at transitioning from a very physical perspective. A) Transitioning includes legal and social changes as well. B) being “okay” with something is not the same as not having any problems with it, nor does it mean it can’t be improved. C) being “okay” with something does not mean they do not have dysphoria. D) Dysphoria often worsens over time and/or is attributed to other mental issues, meaning a person who has mild to moderate dysphoria wouldn’t know. I didn’t know what I had was dysphoria until it got so bad that I was suicidal. E) Dysphoria has many facets, bodily dysphoria only being one of them. And lastly, F) You do not decide who is and isn’t trans regardless of their dysphoria levels. That is transphobic and excludes any other trans experiences besides ones you seem okay.
@@finch1620 I mean you do need dysphoria to be trans and having your tits out for the world to see but saying you're a guy means you aren't trans. And yes, it is legal and social too. I never said it wasn't. I've legally changed my name and my gender
Omg yes I legit had a mental breakdown today because I had a numb day,these days I can`t feel anything like I am emty and I feel soo bad for calling myself trans when I don`t feel dysphoria...even though I know I am
Any trans guys out there that were surprised that they still felt really feminine around their close family even as you began to feel much more masculine around friends and strangers?
I’m pre everything and don’t pass/I’m in the closet but I do notice I act more masculine around the friends I trust and more feminine around my catholic family
I didn't know that you could come OFF of T. Like, depending on technicalities and what I end up doing with my body, I don't want to be on T forever. I like being androgynous, but my voice dysphoria is very severe. Plus I'm too scared to be on T for a very long time due to poor genes and I don't want to end up bald before I'm 25 oof
As Jamie stated, once your voice drops it doesn't reverse. I've been on T for 11 years and I would not recommend stopping T for any reason unless medically necessary. If you haven't begun HRT yet and you already feel this way you may want to reconsider starting it.
@@aaronknight446 But I want the voice drop?? I'm nonbinary so I wouldn't want to be on it forever. A lot of nonbinary people I know go on T and come off again. Yes it can be more complicated, but it can be done with competent medical care
If you don't identify as neither than why would you want male hormones?? It takes a while for voice to settle in not good to get off T right after you notice a change in your voice I wouldn't recommend getting testosterone since you only want one thing Voice drop because then you will be getting hairy, bottom growth, ETC you would be angry
@@gamerwes9169 It's my personal choice. I *know* what changes happen on T, and I *know* that I don't have control over what happens, and I'm not gonna be mad about it. I've done my research. I have many other reasons why I want to take it, not just voice dysphoria, but I didn't think I'd have to write out my entire life story to back myself up. FYI, I want the T dick ;) but I hate talking about genitalia
You helped my brother so much when he was first coming out as trans. I wanted to thank you. He was very unhappy before and when he was researching on RU-vid, your videos showed up and he smiles again. He’s well into his transition now. So Jamie, I’m sure you have helped a lot more than my brother. Keep on being you.
I never got hot flashes. I was waiting for them. Just. Expecting. And they never happened. I am Blessed lmao I do run warmer now though and it's possible for me to overheat now in the summer.
Salem I just started T a month ago and the hot flashes are killing me, also I didn't realize it was possible to sweat from every square inch of your body but apparently it is
I also didn't expect that standing up for myself and getting people to use the right pronouns and name could be a great feeling. I thought it would all be a struggle but stepping over my shadow and actually doing it felt pretty great when I actually did it
TheAnimationEnd It is so great to find a good place through the internet. For all the bad stuff out there, finding the good places makes all the difference to me.
I'm new here.. And I'm learning so much. I still don't understand a lot..and some things I'm still trying to wrap my head around but I guess that's why I'm here.. Thanks for these
I'm mtf but I just had my first therapy yesterday. I feel like it helped me accept myself a little more and I feel better now. I can't wait to get hormones and start transitioning. Btw I love your videos, Jamie!
Same. But i want to go on T. Wonder if id get all the not so good symptoms ppl talk about bc i already get them from the PCOS. Or if i would get them and not really notice them as much.
Earlyyy. Jamie you are an inspiration and you help keep me going. I have doubts about my gender. My family is very religious. They tell me I'm just a very confused girl. The dysphoria is unbearable some days.
i relate to the religious family, i will come out to mine soon and am scared as heck about their reaction. remember: no matter what they say, you know yourself best. dysphoria sucks and so do unaccepting people, but you can make it and it will get better. you're handsome and valid and i believe in you. sending a virtual hug (if you like one)
Sending hugs, as a mother. You don't sound confused to me, but your family clearly is. Two things to hang on to: firstly, other people's understanding and acceptance is not relevant to your validity. As a middle aged cis woman, I still don't understand men, but that never made men any less valid, whether trans or cis. You are valid as yourself, no matter what other people think. If they don't understand or accept you, that is their problem and not yours. Secondly: at some stage in years to come you will be financially independent of your parents. No matter how awful they are, whether they abuse you or force you to be closeted or simply refuse to respect your identity - they do not have control over you forever, this time will pass, and if you don't want them in your life any more you will have the option of moving a long way away and never seeing them again, or only once or twice a year, or whatever works for you. It feels like forever while you are under their control, because in your lifetime it has been forever - but one day it will pass, you will be free, and your whole world will change. So don't give up on that, because your future is golden.
I didn't expect that it could feel amazingly validating to identify as a gay guy even though I'm pre transition and most people would probably roll their eyes at me if they knew that that's the label I choose for myself currently
I love that there are others of us that identify as gay guys. But now the question is will cis gay guys love us and want to be with us as transmen? I know Jamie's videos say there are people out there that do, but I have yet to meet them.
What I didn't know - that trans guys exist. Until I read an article in New Scientist about an advance in phalloplasty techniques. I instantly realised I could relate to the patients. Possibly the weirdest way of one's egg being cracked ever.
Yeah, I found out about it in an article about a trans guy's life (he had a kid, and then transitioned), when I was like 9, and I thought "wow that's so cool". Looking back on it, this was probably not a meaningless reaction.
@@cawareyoudoin7379 I saw a trans guy's video at 11 and was like "oh you can do that? I'll do that one day" and didn't think about the implications unTIL NOW
That you can be trans and non-binary. That you can take hormone supplements, get top surgery, etc.- and be non-binary. Ash Hardell’s videos (especially the ABC’s of LGBT+ and top surgery ones) have helped me understand so much. Also, love your videos, very interesting to learn about FTM transitioning.
@@elim3319 The way she goes about it is childish and will definitely confuse people. Not everyone is like her and that's okay. She says she's not a girl but not a boy either, yet she looks female. Not to mention I can't believe she's actually in her mid twenties and acting like this
Torrin Ashley okay, well Ash can identify as whatever they want, regardless of whether they pass or "look female". Because you don't have to pass as your gender to identify as it. I'm just happy they're more comfortable with their body now and happy. And I think they're absolutely adorable and fun to watch because they have a great personality and it comes out in their videos.
@@elim3319 Um, you absolutely have to pass as the gender you identify as. That's literally the stupidest thing I've ever heard. To pass as non-binary means something different for everyone who identifies as it because the look of non-binary is not set in stone and people who are non-binary can look different ways. Someone who's non-binary might lean more towards one side, either male or female, but for the most part they still use words like man and woman when referring to themselves. It's fine if Ash is non-binary, but she's said she's not a girl, so she's not a non-binary person who leans more one way because she said she's not a boy either. She is going to get very upset when she gets misgendered and read as female. If she's truly androgynous, shouldn't she express that? Looking feminine is different than looking female. And she looks female.
I am a clinical child and adolescent psychologist in the American midwest. I love your channel - very informative and nonjudgemental about the process of transitioning, whether medical, social or emotional. To transition, there are so many options and each will fit differently for each individual - your open-mindedness is reassuring. As a society, we have much work to do about trans acceptance. I have work to do with families accepting their children, teens and young adults questioning and deciding options about transitioning. Much gratitude for your honesty about your journey. I hope one, a hundred, or a million can benefit from your wisdom. Thank you!
I didn't realise how much patience I need to learn when it comes to transition. I also didn't realise how much dysphoria can mess around with my mental illnesses.
My cis friends are constantly amazed at my patience now. I used to be a very zero tolerance person on anything that could be perceived as transphobic, but now unless I perceive malice I can let just about anything slide for a little.
Id love to see more of this content! I've been struggling with being patient while waiting for t and top-surgery quite recently and this kind of content helps, thank you Jamie.
i absolutely love informational videos like these! I've started coming out to a few people within the past year and your videos along with others have helped me a TON!!! I never knew about bottom growth until I started watching RU-vid videos
OMG How is it that you are so charming?! Such a loving, accepting, open and warm personality you have with positivity shining through. As a simple cis woman with no outstanding challenges I struggle with the anger that comes from living life with omnipotent gender bias. I know I have no idea what you have been through and yet I appreciate your sharing such personal issues in an attempt to educate us all. Well done! And thank you!
You really are an inspiration. Not only to trans but to everyone who has some sort of body dismorphia. Keep making the vids as you are truly wonderful.
Jamie, you are an amazing inspiration to so many (trans and non trans) alike. Your ability to demonstrate who you are is, quite simply, educationally superior to other youtubers. To tell it how it is, is the best way to educate all about who we are as people. Having worked in LGBT groups to assist 'lost souls' as I put it, we sure could do with lovely guys like yourself (and Girls, too!) in improving our standing in society. As an m2f, it's great to see an f2m perspective. You're a joy to watch, SUPERMAN!
I think this is the first video I've seen where Jamie isn't wearing glasses. I didn't recognize him until he started talking. 🤣 This channel is so amazing and uplifting. Much love to everyone. ❤️
I'm so glad that I found this video! My family is having a hard time with me being a trans man so just that I can send this to my family to help them see some of the things that are kind of happening to me is nice.
I am watching this as I am watching over a friend that just had top surgery (and is snoring, you take your rest dude, you take your rest) while I had top surgery earlier this year and it’s like. Yes. Perfect timing. Hell yes on that feeling after top surgery (and also that it’ll take time to get used to your new chest!)
I actually had the whole "transitioning the other way" thing happen to me. My new manager didnt realized til the other day that my chest is unfortunately real.
Thank you for describing how many choices there are for how far you want to go. I personally label as Non-Binary because I got to a point where I no longer experience Dysphoria on a regular basis, like as little as just a of couple of times a year, but I pass as a women and while that's not ideal it's okay. It's about finding a place where you are happy and feel good in your body.
I am not trans but have been following Jamie now for a few months. I have a friend who is experiencing transitioning as a trans woman....I really appreciate the positivity, self-acceptance and all of the general good vibes!
Hi. Cis gay male here. Stumbled across your vids and just wanted to say that I think they’re excellent. To my shame I am pretty ignorant about the reality of being trans. I have only ever known one person who was trans, and we weren’t close - that’s what comes of living in Shropshire! You are absolutely right about ignorance and fear, so if you don’t happen to have trans people in your social group then how can you educate yourself? The answer is through vids like this. I am so happy that, just as being gay is so much more “accepted”, being trans is gaining general recognition and losing its stigma. There will always be tossers, bless them they can’t help it, but I think most people these days have a much better understanding and are willing to learn more. I’m so pleased that you have a positive story to share. And you’re also right that romantic love is not all about gender and body parts. One of the blessings of being gay is that you go through a difficult process of self discovery and come out the other side a stronger and more thoughtful human being (mostly), I imagine trans people have that writ large. Thanks for some thought provoking vids. X
I came out as trans male 6 months ago now after 35 years of being scared to tell anyone but I took the plunge 6 months ago & tbh, I should’ve done it years ago to come out as trans but I’m glad I’m trans now as I’m loving everything about being trans male really. & all your videos make sense and I’m nodding in agreement with you & laughing at some comments others say you read out cos I’m with you on what they say 😂😂 stay safe Jaime
Jamie I adore you, you're doing a grand job of trying to wheedle out misconceptions... As a trans woman, I've not been able to find any online dating apps that don't present trans women as anything other than a kink... If you haven't already could you explore the options for trans people when it comes to online dating. Tinder banned me lol... So many guys matched, read the bio and reported... Lmao x
I am loving your shirt. I'm listening to the video, but I can't stop staring at that shirttttt. Also, thanks for the video! As a cis person, it was very eye opening and I learned a lot. Thank you for your videos Jamie!
AWESOME video Jammie! One thing I found out, is looking at guys makes them uncomfortable I'm FTM but like guys [I'm gay after transitioning] and those guys who do roofing jobs? I LOVE to stare at those wonderful bodies, and now this summer I found out I can't do that because it makes them uncomfortable unless I say something about what a great job they're doing and it looks really good from the ground LOL! WOW! My second one was being scruffy looking because I was in a bit of a funk and didn't shave for a few weeks, and a gal walked into the woman's bathroom (I use whichever one is cleaner, no lower surgery yet) and the lady was scared that I was in there, I used my female voice and told her she was ok and in the right bathroom, I felt so bad that I scared her! I'm right in the middle of that passing/not passing zone of "are you FTM or MTF" phase! UGH.... My voice gives me away though, I transitioned later in life, female voice for ever, no Adams apple, no hormone/puberty blockers so the only thing was the lower growth and the back/bum hair issue! RATS!!! haha! Oh well, if I had any advice for anyone who wants to transition, look at both sides of your family, that will give you a good clue was to what to expect, even though it still can be different to a point because we are a combination of DNA from both of our parents! :)
I loved that bit about not having to be dysphoric all the time because it's something I've only realised recently and for a long time I'd get so confused and scared that I wasn't really trans that I'd go out of my way to make myself dysphoric instead of enjoying the days that I felt comfortable in my body. I've also recently realised that I might not want top surgery and that that's okay.
I have seen a number of your videos and I just watched the video of you and your brother and as Emperor of the gays I have to say, I definitely approve. This is a big day for you.
I know you said this, but I had no idea until I found out about Buck Angel that some ppl don't get bottom surgery. I am lucky to not feel the need for it, but everyone seemed to be confused about it. Side note, finally got a consolation for top surgery and I'm so ready for that one binder than freedom.
