This is EXACTLY What's Blocking Your Femininity ..  

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I’m 42, and the young lady is correct. My mother taught me to ALWAYS hv my own,”just in case” also how to be a “good girl”, but never taught me how to treat a man or when to leave a man. I also grew seeing my mother being abused.

Balance. Men and women need to love on each other healthily, ESPECIALLY when children are present. They learn by seeing more than being told.

I’m definitely changing the trajectory of my boys life. Teaching them the importance of being a man of purpose, picking a partner in life to add to their purpose, being a leader , protector ❤

Yes we need to teach our children basic manners and how to treat each other with respect. Definitely be the example they need to see.

I’ll say, a masculine man doesn’t sleep around either. He knows the value of his life essence and not joining with anybody because of “horny”.

I was taught to serve a man before I was 10. Cook, be clean and serve the family of 4 . I was taught to control my mouth and to never sit around and watch tv. I was going on walks at 6am and eating healthy with my mom. Hair needs to be managed, don’t dress provocative and be cordial to everyone. This has to be Taught!

Yes my inner core is tired of being “independent “ it’s very overwhelming. Yes all of that. It’s my reality. I don’t fight for that life, but being a single mom I have to live my reality. However, I want to be feminine even in my present reality of being a single mom.

I feel like some of the information is contradicting. I’m okay with a woman being more feminine. However the first part of the podcast spoke about why women are so hard and what they teach their daughters. Well men are teaching their daughters the same things. Why is one different than the other? (Protecting yourself from the predators of this world) Also you guys spoke on the young lady that worked for you being hard and that’s why you hired her and accommodated her for that reason but she was also suppose to maintain feminine energy. You literally can’t have both because like you said in the workplace men don’t care, you guys didn’t care you wanted a beast. Do you know how hard it is to ask a woman to turn on and off when she’s suppose to be this or that. The female guest also mentioned those tough jobs are our choice but for many it’s not a choice. Maintaining a roof over your head for everyone isn’t an option. And I’d like to add taking a simple job also may mean less pay and more struggle. Many will take the hard job with the better salary because that means less financial stress and their household obligations are being met. It’s easier for a person that has someone to pick up the slack to say ohh take this route but with as many manless household most have to do what they can do and do the best they can while doing it. Again I’m not saying not to be feminine but I am saying being that person all the time when other factors exist is not as cut and dry as it’s being made to seem.

My Existence as a woman is not to understand a man. my existence as a woman is to learn how to love myself unconditionally and pour into myself so I can then pour into others.

As a child of a polygamist community, it absolutely DOES NOT work! all of the benefits that she listed are ideals but not actually how things work in those types of relationships. Everyone is broken. Monogamy is the way y’all

This was an amazing episode!!! That woman’s spirit is so beautiful I just want to be like her (and be around her!). Great conversation ❤

Dear Bearded One... Don't be so hard on women for not being feminine immediately. Sometimes it takes comfort and sometimes it's a reflection of how you present yourself as a masculine (or emasculate) man. Women are malleable. .

I have watched a couple of the podcast of these me and found each one refreshing. No gender bashing because both genders have challenges worth to explore. This is a channel that needs to get elevated in order to push through more content 💕

Just because I attend a professional football game AND know the game, doesn’t make me masculine. I’m simply enjoy a sport that a lot of men enjoy. Just because I promote to Battalion Chief at the fire department doesn’t make me masculine. I simply work in a masculine work environment. I’m still as feminine as the day I was born. My friend’s husband is 6’9”, teaches trigonometry AND is the principal of the same high school where he teaches. Since school teachers are considered a “feminine” job and principals are considered a “masculine” position, what do we do with this guy? Accord in big to your logic, of course.

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Love me some Sara Lena. She doesn’t do a lot of content but she’s the best at breaking things down. She also shows love in her comments not just reply with emojis. I enjoyed y’all letting her talk n it was great conversation back n forth. That’s why I’m growing to be a fan of this channel. Shared it on all my platforms. Great great content. Also I learned a lot from that femininity blockers video she has. Really helped my relationship.

Sister, you have just broke down everything that is really going on in families and it’s so true

Just replying to title. I lose my feminity when I feel unsafe or unprotected. Also, I'm a survivor, so I usually don't wait around for help. Sometimes I do flex 💪 cause I'm like Sometimes I'm pretty resourceful!

I don’t know what environment she grew up in, but my parents and grandparents taught us how to talk to and respect men and women.

Can y’all bring a man on to discuss how to manifest masculinity?? So men can stop the generational pattern of 16-20 babies And can men begin to teach boys/sons how to be men of self awareness accountability and responsibility for self and toward women

Wow , I just discovered this podcast & this was the 2nd episode I’ve watched , I really enjoyed listening to the advice of Sara Lena , the world needs it , I’d love to hear the the last 4 femininity blockers .

One of the most genuine conversation i have ever heard. I could feel what this lady was saying.

I am a single mom with twin boys and I am still a nurturing mom, provide space for my boys to speak up, communicate. Masculine energy does lack. I make it my priority to inform myself in that aspect as much as I can to help provide that verbally not energetically if that makes sense.

🔥🔥🔥 love the comments about how it's a choice how you show up in your career. I have found my femininity to be my secret sauce in a male dominated industry although it makes me a target to masculinas. Interestingly, the men protect me because of it so a win win really. It's sad seeing the women work themselves into the ground kudos to you Sarah for helping inspire change!

I have to politely say, you can’t change a person you can only provide guidance and facts in hopes of seeing your guidance become a reality with an that moms home.

Finding other women attractive doesn't mean men are polygamous. Let's stop making excuses for polygamy.

How you are with anything is how you are with everything. Straight facts!

I’m 43” and absolutely loving this show❤ Keep up the great work!

She has such a beautiful voice & I loved the conversation in this episode. Looking forward to part two 💗

That is so spot on. Keep in mind that she is talking about "feminine energy". That's the energy that women are the happiest under, we cannot operate under masculine energy and expect to be happy about it. She is clear though, you don't have to be a stay-at-home mother or female for you to maintain this energy, we need to allow who we are to shine. We can be career women and successful without suppressing our energy to fit in the environments that were created mostly by masculine energy...... But please don't miss out that these are basic standards of being a human being! I am feeling a little double standards here, there is more to being a female - we are 1st human beings before we are females. Therefore, the moment women are looked at as the object - we are in error...

Thank you for doing this show!😊 We’ve need this show and more shows like this.🎉🎉🤗🤗

This was awesome.... following your channel all the way from Zambia...so much to learn on this platform

I feel that valid points were made, however we have to remember that people tend to speak from their personal experiences. The way we are raised, environment and experiences shape out thoughts and feelings. Yes, some things are universal but I believe the larger portion is subjective. There is no one way for all.

PLEASE bring this lovely lady again, much appreciated 🎉❤

i love the questions they ask. so thoughtful

🌸💗Great topic and discussion. More, please! Thank you 🙏 all for being positive role models for the present and future generations. 👍😊💗

This is sooo true great job sis speaking the truth🫶🏽🌈💪🏾🙏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽❤️

She is amazing for having this insight and using it to be the intercessor and uplifter

Omg!!! Sara Lena ❤ So happy to see her here!

Preach! I love this episode and I think this woman expresses the issue perfectly! I'm of Greek descent and even in our culture girls are told 'be independent' and 'you don't need a man'. Even my mom has told me this and I tell her: no, I love being with my man. I agree. Women are feminine in nature so we go against our nature when we act in a masculine way. I'm a licensed massage therapist and my career is one in which I nurture and care for my clients. So, my career is more of a feminine one. But, regardless of all that, being with a truly masculine man is the ultimate. It has placed me even deeper into my femininity and it's beautiful!

I've been following Sara Lena for a long time now! So happy to see her on your podcast. This was a fantastic interview! Also an educator of youth, thinking about starting a gender dynamics elective next year. Thank you for the inspiration. Keep up the great work.

WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS WOMAN? She is disgraceful with SOME of her generalizations. I have to go to work, so I will give more examples later. I had to pull over on the side of the road right now. OMG, I am so frustrated with women like this. Some things make sense however, she is back door beating down other women. Please excuse typos my brain is moving quicker than my fingers. Queens - just keep being the best version of yourself daily. Blessings.

Thank you for covering this issue this is a very important subject

Awesome episode 🎉

This podcast reminds me of Red Table Talk, but in a more relatable way because you have non-celebrity guests who come across as authentic which makes them excellent choices. However, I only think 50% of what she’s said is true. For instance, most creative women/men are notorious for being disorganized. Trust me, that is not a reflection of our hygiene. Conversely, there are lots of men and women who are groomed to the max; however, they have horrible hygiene (I.e. STDS, mold in their basements and tie fungus with acrylic nails). Furthermore, I think it would be more beneficial to have a panel with both men and women to address femininity and masculinity. I appreciate your efforts to provide this content and she was a good guest.

this intro 😩😂😂😂😂 im hollerin!

Knowing what you're willing to receive is still directing without using force...like she said when we submit to being covered we can take care o ourselves and our inner value helps us set parameters on what we are willing to receive. WE make a lot of deciding power known when we are approached and when we can decipher what a man should do and how a man should cover us. What men want is not always a match we just don't need to show appreciation unless we feel we can commit and then we should submit...it should not be one size fits all. Not every woman will be in a relationship where their self care and basic needs are done for them that's be with wealthy men. So, partnership seems more attainable and non hetero relationships help people work together. Making agreements and not being groomed says this person is a groom and you're a wife and not an abusive controlling person.

Thank you sir…she is speaking from an advantage

I’m crying!!!!!!😂 my grandma and dad is from Panama and they sound just like your grandma!!!!! Hilarious!

I'm so glad he called her on being married🥴

Thank you ❤🥰🙏🏾

Who is this lady, she is so enlightened. I've learned so much. Thank you!

New to this channel def liking what I’m hearing it’s a shame alot of ppl still want get the message because they’re worried about the tone or who’s speaking instead of the message.

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Single mom of 3, I’ve set out to have complete wholeness and God has done so much in my life. I’m able to remain feminine whilst raising the boys in God’s way. Prayer for my boys have aided me so much I know it! Because refuse to say “I’m your mama and your daddy” because I’m not. I refuses to put myself in the space of a man. I’m big about to confuse my young men. I DONT WANT TO DO THIS ALL OF THIER LIVES!! I’m cool by my lonely because I’m healed I know what I pray for is deeper than running up my miles on the cooter! Lol.. my two cents

Sara is the truth.

She can't speak on women who don't have a choice and have always had to operate in survival mode...having a strong support system and having the option to work and not have to work is a blessing....the reality is alot of people don't have that...not to mention everyone's upbringing/life experiences are not the same which plays a part in demeanor, personality, and mindset.

Good convo. I dnt agree with the assumption regarding sleeping in separate rooms. I know multiple couples who sleep in different rooms and have been happily married for years. In some cultures, it is automatic that the man and wife have separate room. I have friends whose husband's play the TV loud and make a lot of noise in the bedroom when they are trying to sleep. There is a total lack of regard. Why wouldn't those women want to sleep in their own rooms to be ample rest?! But they stay in the room bc they want to be close to their husbands. I agree, it is very freeing to let go of control and allow a GOOD man to lead. I dnt want all that pressure. I'm not built for that. It pushes me way into masculine functioning and I can't be my true self. Polygamy is beautiful when done properly ❤. I've respected it for many years now. Aside from having a strong, fair and wise man who can handle it, the women have to really be able to love each other as themselves and work together for the benefit of the family. I tried the polygamist model with my good male friend and his wife who was also my good friend. She asked me several times to be her sister wife. I declined every time until I went to spend a few weeks with them and decided to give it a try. It was really beautiful how we worked together but I got to see up close how he treated his children and his wife and didn't want to put myself and children in that situation.

This was really good!

Wait...y cant a guy fix his own plate?

I appreciate the intelligence level that you two bring to these conversations. I would like to see a more balanced approach to discussing the number of men that do not have strong masculine energy. There is an epidemic of feminine men out there I believe needs to be addressed.

I appreciate everything up to if there is an agreement between them to allow the man to step out after all this feminity talk. Not computing for me.

I understand this femininity is all I know. But I am here to understand men because she’s right we as ladies are never taught about guys while growing up. My family didn’t talk about guys at all dad included! Grandad included! Never put me and my sisters on about that. So I’m here to understand men as a 22 yo women.

Great Episode. She is spot on. I vpuldnt agree more with her. Being singie and a single parent and working in Corporate America, it seems like that Masculine Feminine Energy spills over in my personal life. Its a challenge, but Im working on my Feminine Energy!

This should be a part of schools curriculum.

Blessing 🙏🙏 you guys ❤

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I'm early in the video but I don't see what qualifies her to be a "feminity coach."

Thank u for alll her honesty so many facts Sarah have her back i the women who kept myr relationship quiet because it went against family norm but thats not how I deal with my 30 ur old daughter im here if she needs me but she must make her path so far so good❤

I only got 2/6 femininity blockers can someone help me w the other 4

Men greatest duty in the house hold is if everything falls. The burden is place on him.

Once she started speaking about polygamy 🙄🫠. Got that Christ filter. We weren’t made for many. That’s why so much drama happens in the Bible. Every time another “wife” came about. DRAMA. 🙃 Ima head out 💪🏽.

Ayyye TyShawn! I'm Panamanian! Mi gente! You got the accent down pack lol!! 😂🇵🇦🇵🇦

😂 this episode is helpful and funny 🤣

“She was the hardest nigga in the house” 😂😂😂😂😂

As she stated and guys heard and we all are listening …. She has a husband who she has convince in as a MAN!! Her husband relieves stress and burden from her …. Listen to the traits she gives of a MAN!! The hard female employee held the employee accountable because males have hard time holding other males accountable. You can’t emasculate a MAN. Do what works for your relationship

This powerful

Great interview.

Just like we have to learn and could never understand what it is to be a man, the same is true vice versa. There are women who are bosses at work but have no desire to be in charge at home. It's exhausting to have to be the boss in both places. The approach has to be balanced. There are women issues and men issues that contribute to a woman not being able to take off her boss hat. Let's not act like there are men who women can't depend on. That contributes to the issue along with the things this young lady is mentioning.

I understand what she is saying. One thing that adds to this is becoming a teen mom. Taking on so much responsibility at a young age. I would love to contribute to this conversation with my book ON THE VERGE OF SEX

28:44 after watching up to this point, im very intrigued by these concepts. I know a person who basically has always lived off of women and let’s the woman initiate most of the decisions, however get him into a space of all men and his energy dominates. He becomes the “alpha” presence. I feel like he could be a case study seriously.

GREATNESS!

My mother was a leader her entire work life, and for several years was the only woman in the room. She was never masculine. The speaker is right, it’s a choice

I love Nigerian movies this hit for me when the game changes Mike Godson yes a women needs a man we can't do it alone❤

But in our community men are not willing to sacrifice for anybody or anything

It's too bad we didn't hear the rest of the feminity blockers 😢

Marriage is between two people - if the man loves her and is strong in prayer God will balance it out. This idea that there are people who shouldn’t be loved is not right. Many people are damaged and love can change things. Go out into the world and open your eyes

Beautiful ❤

Question, are there other words in the english language that you hosts of this channel can use to communicate professionally instead of profanity?

I found it interesting how this guest discussing feminism as a “coach” never mentioned the need for a woman to feel safe and protected to relinquish this “feminine energy”. This is not feminine energy just because “she” was willing to say only the things that they want to hear. Her Interview felt steered and directed. Not fake but isolated and personal. This oddly is her experience as I do not think it speaks for all or most women. Feminine energy isn’t speaking in a whisper or knowing how to portray submission. I’m not saying the Scenarios mentioned didn’t contribute to the dysfunctional homes she coaches I’m saying too many men are looking for queendoms to over-throw to seek shelter then blame her for not being worthy of his choosing to stay cause her throne didn’t fit his bottom. Be careful when your need to be Lion King reflects the animation of your story Vs the story.

The beauty of being a women is the ability to be masculine and feminine in any given time. She can produce leaders and do so gracefully. A feminine woman can boldly speak sweetly to the most masculine man and settle peace in his mind and spirit. The focus should be on the power of woman. The Bible shows many examples.

Question: Can a woman over 50 be taught how be feminine if she hasn't been that way for 3/4 of her life?

I watch alot of culture Nigerian movies this one hit (😢when the game changes)

God bell you guys Love you❤❤

Even they were not married I think it’s a good idea to have a roommate situation save u from giving up the milk before buying the cow ❤

The generation I see developing a more free and non hetero normative way of dating means as long as there's a balance of feminine and masculine energy not in terms of gender or roles it can work...like assuming one person is masculine presenting and feminine in their expression and there is a feminine presenting person who is masculine expressing completely on their own not off truama but just off being unique they would work and balance each other out ...in non hetero relationships people work more of energy balance than gender + sleep like shut eye in older couples involves separate beds one person will suffer for years because of someone snoring and falling asleep faster...there are ways where partnership should be superceding gender roles in our society...khemetic society surpasses even our modern one because of the lack of imbalance as far as advocating as a woman and not being dominated by hyper masculine culture that makes no room in itself for rest which benefits society in general. People have less accidents and fights like in eastern culture women are still valued as healers of the household, so they need certain accommodations because their energy is essentially part of the culture.

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So what's the excuse for the other backgrounds since y'all wanna blame slavery ? The answer is y'all don't know what YAH created y'all for !

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