This is what ACTUALLY Causes Your EX to Feel Regret After a Breakup: Post Breakup Remorse 

They must feel the pain losing you…losing 100% of you!

16 days of full no contact and he called me yesterday to apologize for how he handled the break up! I’m so thankful this really did work when I committed to it

I’ve been watching your videos for the last few weeks after a painful breakup, and just wanted to let you know how much I appreciate your perspective and advice. Something about how you communicate really resonates with me and I really want to thank you

The hardest fact I learn is to let the person I love see the errors of his ways on his own and let him realize that he made the wrong decision.

Sometimes we can only fix things by removing ourselves from the equation.

As a senior citizen and a widow, I must applaud you for your life advice that helps so many people. I wish a platform such as yours was available to my generation because it would have been such a blessing to us as we had to navigate everything that happened to us on our own. No contact saved me many times. Although it was hard I can attest it was worth it...even now! The hardest things in life are normally the right things to do. Thank you for your wisdom that truly goes beyond your years and can save someone's lifetime journey.

I saw my ex the other day on the bus, he stared at me for so long, I act like I did not know him, I kept it moving, I glanced at him he looked so miserable. Then I looked away. And kept on with my life. 😊

My ex got into a rebound a week after we broke up. I’ve been in no contact for 2 months. She recently went public online showing pics and taking trips with him. Last night I saw him out alone talking to other women lol.

Some relationships just can’t be fixed because it’s toxic.

Spot on!! My ex has grass is greener syndrome. I have told her the last breakup that she won’t find anyone better than what I provided. Good luck out there ….

I love this Coach! You know what? You actually get better and better with each subsequent video! I have watched this one three times already just to reinforce all of your wisdom. God bless you truly! ❤ It’s not just hope you give us, it’s understanding. My ex left me for a “grandeur” vision. I’m staying the course of N.C.! 💪🏽 I know that he will come back eventually because I am the best option for anyone. Period. And I do love him so much. He’s not perfect, but he’s perfect for me. Let him seek what he thinks he’s going to find out there. 🔎

Love the prodigal son reference. Can’t get any more truthful than the Bible.

Thanks Coach Blac. Every time im about to crumble your videos pop up.

You've helped a lot of men and women like me help with broken heart. Thank you

My ex didn’t wanna be with me anymore and I was super unhappy and miserable we have kids I finally had the courage to leave I barely even talk to him and only call for the sake of the kids I left to be closer to family … I rekindle with someone that I have always been looking for! He told me happy birthdays but I honestly don’t think I’m gonna tell him I’m super over him lol

Hey Brotha. Love your work. Im close to a year split up of me and my girl. We have a 4 year old daughter. I am 4 years of sober from alcohol and quit my vices. ive had a rough life prior to meeting her. We had a tough few years and she bailed and has been living with her Mom. She broke it off with me a year ago. I def made some mistakes but have learned from them and grown tremendously over this past year. We have been co-parenting well and getting along lately. I def tried to push the issue early on but have realized i have no control of anything but myself. I am trying to show my love by letting her grow and just be her own person. My whole vision of love and what it looked like was always wrong but i see it now. I miss my family and would do anything to have that back, but i also realize my own value. Any insight would be great. CHeers Coach Blac

I’ve blocked and moved on. He has a second phone and knows my email address. No contact for about 30 days. On block. I’m moving on.

After 5 months of NC me and my ex agreed to have lunch, it was awkward and weird because we were both different people now. So we decided one day at a time and see where it go.

My ex never broke up with me she just went into a rebound relationship & I was blinded by her and hurt from it. Now that we haven’t been in contact for over 5 months I feel as if my inner spirit man is so much stronger and motivated.

He has not made any attempts to contact me in over 6 months, it hurts and I can't just forget him, I am focusing on my life but not a day that goes by that I don't think about him. I'm not mad at him but at myself knowing what I knew and still went ahead with him.

Just want to fast forward this awful portion of my life.

Thank you for helping me get through this tough time coach blac. The livestreams and videos have always built confidence and self esteem with better mindset and perspective.

You are amazing coach ,you made me feel different about an break up...and about NC...is not a manipulation...We give them the space but we take our space too,to work on ourseves and move on in case they don t come back .We don t get stuck and just wait. As we move toward healing we won t feel the hurt anymore so it won t matter anymore if they re back or not.Will be stronger,wiser ..So this is also a happy Ending...

What if they scared to reach out, like they think they fucked up and its no coming back like they accept it, thinking we will never forgive them

Beat coach ever ...I have been following your relationship advice over all platforms ..I broke up with my girl in January even though I pleaded but she refused ,I accepted that it won't be the same without them and I had to move on ,I started watching your videos and working on myself upgrading and updating myself everyday after 6months they started reaching out although I was polite to them that I have moved on ..this is time she wants me back Iam been honest To them I met someone else who is making me happy and I don't want them anymore 😂thanks for the vidoes coach Although it wasn't easy but I stood for myself 🔥🙏🏾🙌🏾

After watching this video, I totally screwed up. Four months after she broke up with me I still was giving her access to my love. Is it too late if I cut her off now and will she regret breaking up with me, possibly want to come back?

Been in NC since March haven’t broke it and will not break it or take her back IF she tries to come back. Next week marks 1yr that she broke up with me, (we saw each other in January this year had the “make up sex”) and it went to shit right away. Won’t be able to take back what broke me. She broke it off the same week my grandpa passed away, kicked me down when I was already down

I tried to schedule a 1on1 for January and it wouldn’t let me.

Women don’t ever seem to realise this unfortunately.

Ive been watching your videos these last 3 months of my break up and you’ve helped me so much already 😌🙏🏼

This guy is amazing... thanks mate

Later today I will be at 18 days of no Contact. I will probably move on.

Long time no see young Coach. My ex recently came in town for the holiday. I haven’t seen her in almost a year. She had a ring on her finger and told me she was engaged to get marry next year. After that she wanted to make out and spend the night. I didn’t really show any emotions because I walked away from trying to communicate all together. I felt they have a son now I don’t want any parts of it. I’m not struggling by any means and doing well but, she still wants to have sex and chill. He came in town and she called me to wish thanksgiving and I can hear him talking in the background. She was taking him to the Lions game. This is a traditional thing I would do every holiday. I felt she was trying to give him that same experience. If I was really petty I could’ve called him or bumped into them and said something. Instead, I didn’t go to the game and I went to watch at a friends house. She would not be where she is without me and I’m ok with that now but, I felt that was very selfish of her to try to sleep with me after telling me she’s getting married. Him and I know about. Eachother, we spoke before and at that time we revealed everything to eachother about our relationships. Her lord and cheating on both of us yet he still married her. I know I dodged a bullet because if she was marrying me she would still be sleeping with him. I’ve washed my hands completely.

I broke up with my ex because he cheated with his ex. At first he seemed to want me back but i didn't want him. As time went by, now i want him. Idk whats wrong with me. 😢😢😢

Wow great intro 👏👏

My ex and I have been broken up for years. I randomly started having dreams and deep thoughts about him. I recently found out through a friend he’s having a baby. Needless to say I felt rather envious and jealous being that I had many regrets surrounding our relationship. However, I’m slowing accepting to completely heal from this lost cause and confusing feelings.

My ex name was Anna, and she left me after she started work in bank, put also her coworker in her room and told me that doesn't love me anymore, while 1 month ago before this happened, we were planning for engagement :/ She said that I'm a great guy but not for her, after almost 2 years relationship, it hurts a lot, still thinking about her, but she thought she cand do better.....

If I could like this video a 100 times 🙏🏽

I often feel better after watching your videos. Thank you bro

Been three months of the break up we have met twice recently one was unexpected/ unplanned where we spoke about the relationship and other bits. The guy she’s been on a couple of dates with calls and then shows up but was terrified of me as he thought I was going to hit him. Second time she came over to grab some letters and bits but has seen that I’ve changed things around/ packed up a lot of her stuff, but I just couldn’t get a read on her. She’s talking about moving away from the area but I’m not certain how sure she is. I want to message her as it could be the right time but I just feel scared to which is silly as we was together 10 years

I put my ex on no contact 3 weeks ago and she called me 2 days later and calls me every few days to see how I’m doing. I tell her I’m fine and I keep the conversation pleasant and brief. She has a big ego and won’t admit to being wrong or apologize. I’m just gonna go own with my life and if she breaks and comes back begging that’s when I’ll know the make up sex will be 🔥🙏🏾

My ex hit me up 2 days ago after our break up a year ago. She’s been reaching out before that but at that time I already knew she wasn’t done. This time she had a bad accident and texted me I miss you and started going to church. This is wild.

Me and my Ex broke up in August after being together for a year. There were problems on both sides but I do know that I was controlling and untrusting. I’ve been in NC and October 12th she wished me happy birthday. After that she’s also texted me the next week and week after asking how I’ve been and telling me that it’s been a rough 3 months but I didn’t ask what she meant by that. We broke up roughly 3 months ago but I’m in NC so I didn’t wanna be too engaged. It feels like she’s talking to other guys or whatever and she blocked me on tiktok but everyone says she’s posting videos and it seems like she’s talking about someone. but when she texts me and says it’s been rough idk how she’s feeling about me or if she even does miss me or want me back. I have just been losing a bunch of weight and working out every day and working on myself but I wish I knew why she told me the past 3 months have been rough for her but kinda seems like maybe she likes someone else already. After my B Day my ex texted me the following week and the week after that. If she reaches out again do I ask about it? Idk what it means. I really need help please. Someone please help me!! 🙏🏽

Going through it . Hope she realizes soon and comes back

Thanks coach Blac- watching you religiously and was wondering how affect/ delays the post breakup remorse by my ex if he entered a new relationship 4 weeks post breakup and we are in no contact since...thanks for helping us through tough times!

Thanks coach for the advice they're helping me alot.

What if I became too comfortable and didint push myself forward? Can I still get her back?

Hi cough will no contact still work after you have been available along coz he had excess.

My ex broke up with me and hooked up with another man and she claims she got married and she comes to get a divorce did you tell me if you want to give us and her mama told me she happy but she said she not happy she said she never was happy with that person but my ex was calling me and she be blocking in her mouth what should I do when I get that situation can you please respond and

Hey, coach. Me and my ex are back on texting or talking terms, hopefully a time we can meet up, but I have noticed she still has commitment differences where she says something one day and then says another in a few days… she did say she missed me, but I am taking it day by day, but hoping we can build back stronger but I certainly won’t be chasing.

I have only started to listen to you sir and find your advice truly interesting and informative. I went through a difficult break- up just 4 days ago which hurts still. He listened to advice from a younger friend but soon found that advice was wrong when I told him the truth. Damage is done. He kept apologising but I was very hurt. We're in separation. Your video today has helped. Thank You.

Reproduce? My ex is 35 and has never been married or had kids. She said she never wanted kids but said maybe when we were together. What is it with women today who don’t want kids? Selfish?

This explanation is so simple and on point. Thank you

Yeah but she move on after in then I have said I was always makeing her feel like shit in she left me she won’t come back

Tnx... 😊 it works.... really.... amazing...a million tnx...!

Even if she is seeing someone instantly after a break up?

This is all well and good the logic and strategy is 🔥 BUUUUUUUUUUUT let’s keep it real once a woman sleeps with another man there is no reason for a man to take that ex back 🤷🏻‍♂️ however it’s not the same taking a man that has slept with another woman during the break up🤷🏻‍♂️ men and woman are not equal when it comes to those dynamics. The man that does take woman back that’s tested the “greener” grass has not raised his value or boundaries. When a woman sleeps with another man and she tries to come back she is sex zone only she is no longer even girlfriend material booty call at best🤷🏻‍♂️ and that’s Facts

Hey coach, when will you do another livestream?

Move On!!!

Does it matter how long it’s been after the breakup like does it only apply to wks months

Dare your ex to find someone better! I love that!

Thank you Coach You’re saving my life

Hi coach. Thank you for you videos. They helped a lot during those nasty days after my break up. Recently, 2 months into NC, I've received a call late at night from unknown number. Picked up and it was some dumb prank for food order. After hanging up I added the number to Viber and found it was ex cousin. We've met 1 time and she doesn't have my number. So I guess ex gave it to her to reach out and I suppose was with her cousin while we had the call. I guess she started missing me and is ashamed to reach me out? She jumped into a rebound right after break up and knows I knew that. Should my NC continue? Thanks.

My SP sent me a usual loving text 2 weeks ago and I replied back and then I sent her another message the day after and now 2 weeks have gone by and I’ve not heard from her and I’m not a person to keep reaching out , I am still waiting for her to reply so as I say 2 weeks and I am in no contact so to speak and I will continue to stay in no contact until she reaches out. So my situation is different from the average Joe bloggs situation because like I say everything was going ok and there was no signs of her doing this from her last loving morning text. We are coming up to 4 years of being together. In December we should be going away for 2 nights whilst we are away we have a play at a theatre to go to which everything is all paid for, if she doesn’t reach out I am still going away.

been almost 3 weeks no contact. He left me, he wanted a house with me a child with me, but we had a bad fight early May and kind of thru out May i was being rude saying mean stuff and acting crazy due to pregnancy hormones. but i had a miscarriage, i guess i pushed him away by trying to get him back when he stepped back for some space. I just dont understand how someone can claim to love u for almost a year, then they just leave when shit gets hard. thats not love in my eyes. I tried to fix things, and I apologized to him, but im done. anyone who is ok with your absence is not worth your love.

I lost my girlfriend after a bit more then 1 Year, because i was always working and didn`t gave her atention, i also didn`t show her love because i was so focused and taught i had her for granted. it is almost 2 months after the breakup, do you have any idea how i can have her back, i Love her and want her to show her that i changed. Thank You! Your channel is a huge support!

My ex has made her snap story public of all sudden for some reason. We decided to remove each other off socials. But now she has made it public. Breadcrumbs? Two weeks into no contact. Opinions?

Bro . I have move on. I told he has his parter.

Have you talked about personality disorders like narcissistic behavior or avoidant personalities? Because some of this stuff my only work on normal people but sick people may know what you are doing and just play along to get what they want.

He kicked me out our house after he forced me to discard him, now he listening to sappy breakup songs on his RU-vid 😵‍💫.

I’ve been broke up with my ex for a month now. We had some space for 2weeks and started messaging again. She sent me a message saying I could call. I haven’t called her not sure what to do or what this could mean. Any suggestions please??

He reaches out every so often sending me reels.. watching my stories.. we talked on Monday like nothing happened then I ended the call.. He mentioned before he don’t want to be in a relationship but keeps contacting me.. I don’t reach out to him..

coach what should i do? my ex got in a ‘rebound’ 4 days after our break up but everything has been going perfect with them for like a few months. how do i get over her cuz i really wanna move on

Please talk english. Simpler

I really want to know young girls who chooses boys every couple of months and getting what they want which is what they think is fun such as drinking, club and validation are ever going to be unhappy and regret what true love and caring is for them ?

I was going strong with no contact for 3 months, and a week ago, she started FaceTime me more often to see my 2 year old son, then I noticed the disrespect started to come back and it feel like she were regaining her power over me, so I told her, that I’m not gonna allow this, and to only call me when is something very important in regards to my son, that I will just continue to visit him in person and pick him up! Do not FaceTime!

Always many wise words

Thank you so much coach for this video ,you are really helping me a lot .

wha tmovie is that scene from the begging of the vidoe called?

She broke up 2 months ago and we are in no contact since 47 days after a fight. She had me blocked initially but later unblocked me from everywhere. She even put a Whatsapp story for me (which i knew was for me). Later she kept blocking and unblocking me from the 26th day to 34th day of no contact. Since then she has not done anything. Im unblocked. I cannot see her Whatsapp about section which suggests that she deleted my number. Any suggestions if i should contact her or no ?

Thanks Bro...

Terrific message

Thanks your video has been giving me tips 👍

Just moved on bro it wasn't meant to be don't waste anymore time or energy

Hey coach thank you so much for being there❤...would you please let me know when would be the next live?

This helped me out a lot man, thank you

👍👍

Appreciate the insight

Its been about 8 months, some communication back and fourth, but 3 days after her bday she cracked and sent 2 back to backs texts to me on a Friday at 10 at night. Last month.... i politely told her unless she's got an issue she can address it with me. But unless you see me face to face saying x,y,z. I aint got nothing....like i told her a few times. If I'm such a bad guy. I'll dissappear. I found God, the universe and myself being on NC... she found more men, money and emptiness. Ngl its killed me, but ive turned into such a better man.....i damn well know she regrets fumbling me and multiple people see it now based on how on they work with her. It is what is it but... yeah i know they are missing

Do men fill regret ?

11 years now 5 months broken… sad, but finally recovering… I feel like I can say that. Hurt and a big open wound still from where my heart was at. But I’m pretty sure he left for another woman. Strangely she seems to be a lot like me..(maybe has her shit together) so, another mommy figure, but, this one actually kind of looks like his mom too. Weird! I really loved this guy, but I’m now reassessing what I believe love actually is. I don’t just need a warm body, I need real emotion, real protection, for one another, real intimacy. I believe these things were lacking in the relationship. Empathy, I am looking back, because love really is blind. He didn’t have any empathy or at least he didn’t show it. I didn’t see that

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If she radically broked up with involving her family still could she come back ??

I wished him birthday in October (before the fall out)(he broke it up). Mine is in November. What if he doesn't wish me?

whats the likelyhood of return if her mother is against it, done?

Coach I’m struggling with my current situation. My wife has requested a separation/divorce after 11 years of being together and 5 years married. We have twin 5 year old boys together. I am completely devastated. She has checked out and emotionally detached after only a few months. While i am left here with a broken heart and my life turned upside down. I am having a tough time getting through each day. To make matters worse I have to communicate and see her almost every day. I do not know how I will recover from this. I see no light at the end of the tunnel. Please tell me it gets better. I still love her so much and cannot envision a future without her.

@blacademic It was a pleasure speaking with you 1 on 1. I followed your guidance and responded to my ex’s text. I even asked how he was doing as you suggested. He responded immediately with “ I’m fine.” I gave a thumbs up and he texted back that he was glad that I was OK. I said thanks and ended the conversation. 3 days back in no contact.

My ex keeps blocking and unblocking me on spotify especially and recently unrestricted n restricted me on ig He is trying to get my attention right?

What if he cheated on you 😢