This is Why We're Unable to Handle Boredom 

Link to the full video - ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-q5-baYkzjyo.html

The irony of me watching this while walking in the forest is not lost on me

i don't think i have more peace than when i drive with no radio on

watching this while procrastinating being productive. this has been going on for a week, dr. k has hit home.

Honestly for me it’s less about boredom and more about avoiding feeling lonely 😅

It’s also the insatiable curiosity, FOMO and the jackpot of finding something interesting or educational. I know I’m often wasting my time, not learning and being brain dead but you can’t really help it when the world is moving so fast. There’s so much news, so much i want to learn or know that sometimes it feels like filling every moment to be information dense is actually productive just to keep up with the world. This is why I often try to play things at 1.5x- 2x speed or watch when I eat. It’s because i consider it efficient when you can do 2 at one time. But it also means that we might be valuing peace, tranquility, quietness, doing nothing, reflecting or enjoying the small sentimental things a lot less until we are burnout with info, entertainment or inaction from constant consumerism before out brain decides it needs a break.

For me it's shifted from "can't tolerate boredom" to "fear of missing out on all the new content constantly coming out" This could be youtube videos, movies, tv shows, games, music, etc.

The biggest takeaway for me here, is that boredom also has value. Even if its more difficult to recognize.

Watching this while eating, seems kinda true, guess I'll turn yt off to prove to myself I could personally handle it

The power went out the other day and Wi-Fi, everything was down. I’ve never felt more peace.

If anyone wants an immediate thing that they can do to combat this get into the habit of not taking your phone into the bathroom. It's a good first step because you're brain is obviously gonna fight it and want you to pick it up again but you're actively pooping so there are very few things it can say to convince you to listen to it. You'll notice your bathroom trips are suddenly a lot quicker and it'll be easier to start an actually productive task because you've already urge surfed (thanks Dr. K in a different video for that terminology) a little in the bathroom and it's not as strong of a craving. Once you start building up a bordem tolerance you'll notice that a lot of your technology habits are just that, habits, and you no longer actually enjoy doing them. One day I just paused the podcast I was listening to because I realized I didn't actually like it that much, I just listened to because that's what I trained myself to do. It felt so liberating that I was able to make that choice to stop so easily and that first time working in silence after so long was one of the happiest and most productive I've ever been. The power of bordem tolerance is not being able to handle when you have nothing to do, it's being able to recognize when you're not actually enjoying something and turn it off knowing that it's okay if you don't find something else to do right afterwards.

As a kid, I wasn't allowed to say I was bored. There was plenty to do. As an adult, the occasional bout of boredom usually ends in meditation, reading a book, or simply staring out the window, observing nature.

I enjoy being bored honestly. I'm content with sometimes just doing "nothing" and enjoying peace. When I'm bored it allows me to *want* to do something I typically wouldn't otherwise. Being bored is good for you. It allows you to stop and appreciate things better.

There might be more to it: I'm 47 and I remember quite well that I was bored as easily before I had this technology. I procrastinated a lot, more than nowadays. It seems to me, using technology relieves me a lot more than not having that option. But most importantly I know now what I can and can't achieve, and how to get there without despairing.

This definitely applies to me, I'm always distracting myself with something like RU-vid and Instagram, even in my mind with songs!

This is so great to remind us about that over consumption thing

As a car person I rather hear my car than any music or podcast but I can definitely relate to this when eating. Although I stay far away from all social media RU-vid is an absolute addiction to me lol

i haven't got out of bed and its 7

I remember starting to play a game during tv shows so I could do one more thing at once, making more use of my time… or so I thought… Scrolling RU-vid while a video plays, and I don’t even listen. Reading the comment section while on shorts, watching videos while eating so I don’t even taste the food, listening to music while I ride a bicycle so I don’t even focus on the effort and exercise, podcasts while doing random stuff. It’s funny to see where bad habits come from

This is also a big reason for the increase of gambling, people get too bored and find excitement in gambling, this is especially true for the younger generation 😅

I've literally started becoming self aware of my scrolling to find something to watch in order to START doing a task, and have started just throwing my phone down and accepting that some tasks can be done without CONSTANT STIMULATION. We're all junkies, and we all have gross behavior like that now. It makes me angry, cuz it's by design

Also, if my mind doesn't have at least one day a week, or an hour or two a day where I don't focus on anything specific, my brain turns to mush. Too much stimulation, too much to do, too much to focus on, is dentrimental. I write down the important stuff I can't forget or need to do, otherwise, I let it wander aimlessly for a while.

everybody tells me I wont be bored if I do chores, yet I'm still bored when I do chores? I need an explanation.

This maybe just me but sometimes i just like lying down and forgetting about the time and just rest not sleep or close my eyes just think

The amount of stuff people want me to accomplish drives me nuts, or at least how much they expect me to use every second to do something "productive." When I was a kid, I'd sit for hours sometimes just watching outside, or contemplating life by myself. I always got in trouble for not doing something. Now work has me working nearly 12hr days, and I don't get full weekends, so I don't have time to do nothing because home will look like a bomb went off, schoolwork won't get finished, etc. I hate this overproductive mindset.

Good thing I have no friends on social media to be occupied with

And here I was thinking that it was from my ADHD and traumagenic hypervigilance

On the other hand, when i don't use my phone or atleast am not doomscrolling i end up being very productive. The same thing that makes us always hungry for more is the same thing that makes us savor the moment when it doesn't have excess

Yup my brain is definitely screwed

The irony of watching this as I scroll thru shorts

Could you guys put a link to the full video/VOD in the description please it would be really helpful

Basically my mind immediately replays bad memories and things out of control in my life and I get in a negative spiral.

Unfortunately Im too good at handling boredom... I can probably do nothing forever

spot on doc

Sounds good but the mind just won't STFU

I'd like to ask - does this affect how people treat relationships as well? It's as if they treat their real life the same way they treat their online life - when they get bored with someone they move on to the next novel thing.

I need to send this to my foster teen.

How do you handle it though? It's not a nice feeling

i use my computer the most of the time I'm up, I don't tolerate boredom from my childhood, BUT it is hard for me to get bored, my internal voice never shut up XD

Don't listen to music when you work out, one activity at a time ☝️

Slowly turning into Wall-e

So the solution to productivity is boredom tolerance.

Huh. We might have different definitions of boredom. As I’m used to thinking about it, boredom isn’t quite ‘the state of feeling like I don’t have anything to do’-that’s idle time, and it’s a chance to think about some article I read this morning, or to people-watch, or whatever. On the other hand, what I’ve been calling boredom is a state where none of the things I potentially could do feel appealing, yet being idle feels aversive in itself. It’s a state of unsatisfiable restlessness. Is there a different word for that? Or is that what boredom actually is, and other people feel it more often or more sharply than I do?

So you're saying we're so obsessed with being 'productive' at any time, that we end up being so distracted that we're less 'productive'. That's an interesting way to put things.

Source for this one?

We basically have type 2 diabetes with dopamine instead of sugar.

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Dr k whats the upside of boredom?

Facts

a price worth paying if you ask me, fuck boredom

I mean, if we have the ability to not be bored, is there really any upside to be bored?

What's poppin K

That does explain why every kid I get at work feels like a turtle. I'm just like 🤨 what is wrong with these brains. It's almost like they're buzzed. Rather, I'd say they lack constructive thinking / can't think for themselves because the TV, parent, etc. does it for them. They can't entertain themselves. 😱 It's like the human zoo from Steven Universe.

Just casually switches to a stock image of the most gorgeous woman I've ever seen in my life

I feel story for the kids addicted to fortnight and RU-vid I feel like this was all a plan.

Aren't we just using technology as an excuse though? I find the boredom is mostly caused by technology For one thing, I'm unable to be bored when I'm alone

Meditation helps

Meditation?

Does this mean that ADHD is entirely caused by someone's environment?

you had to put this cripple?

This is just wrong.

Few days ago i saw this zoomer meme and i laughed so hard. > Ceo comoany tells a guy he is fire > Dude be like wtf i dont get it > Ceo pull out a laptop with Subway surfer gameplay tell him he is fired > He finally gets it. ( When gen z gets fired ). Unfortunately so true.

I‘ve been about as bored as a person can get, what changed my mindset was seeing how interesting and sophisticated aspects of life can be when I actually make a conscious choice to look. I allow myself to feel bored if I truly feel bored, but I don’t wallow in it, life is short and we can go anytime. 🕰️🪦

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