Your wife supported you and allowed you to do whatever you wished thru your marriage! She only spent her money for her two brothers’ wedding because she is their only hope! You are heartless, you cheat, and decided to take your money to play in another woman’s home. Also, you left your children to be fatherless! STOP the excuses and the guilt-trip on your ex-wife! PLEASE let your ex-wife have peace and independency! You can still love and be there for your kids when they need you!
He thinks he can use her sadness and weakness to take advantage of her, but those weakness and sadness are actually what made her strong. She is a good woman, being everything she never had.
Thanks for sharing your story. However, You deserve every inch of pain you’re going thru right now. Hmong women have put up with hmong men far too long….the table is turning now. Nej Cov txiv tsev Tsis ua neeg zoo ces Yuav zoo li Tus txiv dev no nawb.
Amen...Hmong women they do need to wake up and wise up. Stop being groomed and accepting the Hmong cultural marriages bs. We live in the 21st century and in America. They need to understand that they can absolutely live without a man.
I am the oldest of all my siblings. I have always been their second mom.....I do everything for them even though my parents are still here and love & support all of us very much. If I was this niam tsev I would of done the same. It's sad that her husband did not have a big enough heart to help & support her and helping her brothers caused her marriage. I'm heart broken for her😭😭😭.
Mens don’t understand … if your wife has a big heart towards ur family than u need too do so too hers too. Marriage is not a one way street. I am glad you are sharing this story as it may open eyes to many other mens and other couples. This goes both ways!!!
To the wife please don’t take your txiv dev back. Your kids will be fine since their big now so love yourself only. Don’t take back spit that’s on dog shit. He’s only begging now bc he have no where to go. It’s all lies don’t believe it!
Her brothers should know by now that weddings are very expensive and they should have prepared themselves financially since they know what their family situation is like already. SMH
My thoughts exactly, the brothers should have at the very least come up with half of the cost. The wife should have not put her husband in the position of putting her siblings as priority. This was the cause of their separation. His support at the beginning went unnoticed/under appreciated
She can’t take the full responsibility for her two brothers she put her husband in the spot… sure the two brother / wife will not return her love like she does… she will regret if she loss her husband.
Tsim nyog koj cov nus yuav tsum mus work kom tau nyiaj tso mam li yuav nyab. Tsis tsim nuog koj tus txiv neb los tsa koj cov nus yim. Pab me ntsis mas tau yog yuav take care the whole wedding is a bit too much.
WOW. after seeing your girlfriend go thru sooooooo much sadness in her life, you married her and can't be "siab loj" enough to love her and her siblings??? And then you cheated on her... and now you want her back?? Dear woman in this story, please don't ever go back to this small-hearted person.
@@souperlao3949 wow! Just because he’s a leader and sought by many women, she should calm him down after she made him angry? That’s what’s wrong here. Honest respectful men in leadership position should not use their position as excuse to cheat and disrespect their partners. They should lead by setting good example. I’m glad the wife finally put herself first and left. She didn’t need to put up with the emotional abuse
Her brothers need to understand that they need need to help their self too. Work and save up for marriage. Not just rely on the sister. No money, not atleast half then don't get marry until save up atleast 5k.
I bet if he was an orphan and has a younger brother that wants to get married, of course he and his wife will be responsible for the younger brother’s wedding..
It takes a big person to take on the responsibility your ex wife did. You're energy doesn't match to her, let her be. Your kids are in good hands with her
cov txiv neej no nej ua hluas zoo nej siab kawg tab sis yog poj niam tu siab txaus txaus poj niam mam txiav txim siab los pauv lub neej ces nej quaj tsis nrov li os thov los tsis rov lm
When you marry someone, you don't just marry that person, you married into the whole family. You knew your wife' situation from the beginning. Why did you make her choose between you and her family? If you had tried harder, she could have come back to you. You passed the point of no return when you cheated on her. Everything is forgivable, but not marital affair, its the ultimately betrayal. Move on and learn from this lesson.
@@souperlao3949 I don't think understand his point or understand how to a good hmong man or house wife. Tus txiv hlub tus poj niamtsev neeg li nws tsev neeg hos tus poj niam hlub tus txiv tsev neeg li nws tsev thiaj li.
Hmong women put up with so much pain that no one would ever understand. She only wanted you to love her as much as she loved you. Hmong men are only ok when the time and money is spent on their side. You obviously don’t understand how important family is to her, you don’t deserve this good woman.
Zoo siab tus ntxhais no kawm ntawv deb es rau siab rau nws lub neej vim nws raug kev txomnyem ntau heev nws thiaj ua tau ibsiab. Pojniam yog cov tau kev txomnyem txhua kis loj rau me hauv lub neej. Tabsi zoo tsis txaus rau tus txij nkawm ces leejtwg Los yuav ua ibsiab ib yam. Vim luag tsuas siv yus thaum xav siv xwb tsis yog tuaj nruabsiab hlub
I believe this is your testimony brother! Txhua tus neeg yeej txawj yuam kev. Txoj kev sib hlub yuav tau kawm, Kawm ua lub siab loj ua lub siab zoo. I believe you have learned and changed to be a better person. Love is forgiveness, if you wife don’t forgive you then let her follow her own way of life, she need to learn too..one day she will understand you. Just become someone good for yourself brother.
It’s not the wife’s or the husband’s responsibility to pay for their siblings wife…PERIOD!! If you are a man and want to marry a women, be a god damn man and come up with ur own money. Your mamma or daddy is not obligated to nor does your other siblings. If you can’t come up with the money to marry a women than you definitely ain’t ready to be married. Now saying that, if this man expect his wife to do everything and anything financially like paying for his siblings wedding as well than yes, he is wrong if he is mad if his wife wants to help her siblings. Marriage should go both way equally regardless of man or women.
Everyone is saying that he's little hearted but they can help do the wedding and give a 2k to help or just lend the money and then the brothers can pay them back down the track. He makes little money so of course he will be mad. Money is both theirs I wouldn't be happy too if my spouse gave away 10k too. You can't pick up 10k off the streets.
We forget that the wife suffered from not having any supports from any “parents” in her life, she didn’t want her brothers to suffer and be burdened with what she went through. She was like a mother to them and she’s all they got. There is nothing wrong with paying for your siblings’ wedding if you’re able (she had the money ). She even split their money so that she doesn’t have to use his share. He said himself that his wife has always been frugal with her money and I’m sure she planned ahead (which many ppl lack these days) and wanted to help the only families she got. It takes special people to do that. He said his wife did everything for his family so why couldn’t he reciprocate? Love is a two way street.
Kuv lub neej ces zoo li no os lawv kuv tus txiv rau tus yawj thiab tej nkauj muag thiab nian pog thiab txiv yawg los tsi nyiam kuv ho txoj kev pab ntawm txij nkawm ces tsi txawv koj zaj neej neeg no kuv tus lub siab me koj hais no os me txiv tsev aw thaum tu siab lawm ces zoo li no os
I feel so sad for this uncle ex-wife, she went thru so many hardship and became a very strong women at the end. Do your thang girl you’re on the right path.
Txhov rov qab lawm ib tug txiv neej zoo li no. Rov qab los tsis zoo dabtsi lawm vim npua yeem noj xuam dev yeem noj quav. Rov qab los yeej muaj hnub nws rov ua phem mob koj siab dua. Ntsuag niam ntsuag txiv ciaj tsis tas yuav tsim txom koj lub sib mus pob peb zaug.
Thom kom koj tus poj niam txhob los yuav koj lawm mog txiv neej siab phem li kom ces yeej tsis ntxhiv qhov twg ntxhim os li koj ces kawg mus nriav tus tshiab os nawb
Nrog koj tu siab kawg tus niam tsev hauv lub neej nov vim xaiv tsis tau los ua neeg es txais tau daim ntawv nyuajsiab los ua neeg me vivncaus zoo li nej pab nus muag mas tseem2 yog yug los ua ntsuag ciaj os
Cia koj pojniam nws tu nwssiab, Koj yuav tau xavtias yog nws hlub koj tiag2 she won't do that to you. Koj twb ua yam zoo rau nws lubneej dhau Los lawm txhob feel regrets and keep your head up bro! Good luck
“12 steps How to know you married a typical 1975 hmong men” 1. Expects you to do everything for him and his family no question ask, but will argue with you when it comes to your family especially when it deals with “your” own money. 2. They will go out all night and or go eveywhere without you. 3. Start judging you and the life they have with you. 4. They have “friends” that tells them to cheat 5. They go cheat with women who have small children(but they are neej siab me) 6. They cheat periodt! 7. They will take there half of yall money and leave to be with the other woman. 8. Tell you they found better and divorce you. 9. Find out they cant love other woman n her kids. 10. Begs your relative to tell u to take him back. 11. Tries to tell you to get back with him for both of yall kids. 12. Go on youtube May vang channel to tell wife “pls take me back understand me why i cheated”.
@@leahvon5905 I have to disagree. Not all Hmong men are as you ladies have described above. I must just be one of the lucky gal who married a wonderful HMONG men. 🤷🏻♀️
@@leahvon5905 I have to disagree. Not all Hmong men are as you ladies have described above. I must just be one of the lucky gal who married a wonderful HMONG men. 🤷🏻♀️
Koj yog ib tug txiv neej coj lub siab ti zog lawm thiaj zoo li no mas kab tsij rov mus ua dev pliaj dev phlu zov saib nws puas rov los nrog koj nyob dua lawm mog
The world is empty without your sweetheart. You really miss her, thinking of her constantly, you know now you love her, and she is the most precious person in this world for you. Everyday it hurts and your tear will continue to fall. You left many scars in her life. It can never be erase. She already moved on. It will be a miracle if she comes back to you.
I see you fought very hard in the beginning for such a worthy person and later on you fell short and tired to keep working for the best life. Thaum lub neej twb zoo2 lawm es yus tsis tuav khov kho os... Tam sim no pab tsis tau... nyob ntawm koj tus zoo niam tsev txiav txim lawm xwb os. You will have to work even harder to get her now... lesson learned.
It goes both ways. I think it’s a lesson learn from both sides. Everyone have their own perspective and both should learn to forgive and move on. If you hold onto anger and resentment then you can’t move on. The sister should also learn that you can only do so much for your family and his family. We need boundaries but unfortunately sometimes through life trauma we lose sight of boundaries and relationships and forgiveness.
Some people think it’s so easy! Just because you have a good spouse doesn’t mean all spouse are like yours! Remember not everyone think like you! Not everyone is nice and kind like you and not everyone will love you back! Even if you marry a black, white, brown, or Asian spouse, not everyone is nice and kind!
Peb cov txiv neej txoj kev khav theeb ces thaum kawg yeej xaus li no yog feem ntau. Tus me muam, koj txoj kev xav yeej yog 💯 lawm. Tab sis kuv hais rau koj tias yog koj tus txiv willing to change lawm tiag no muab 2nd chance rau nws hloov os mog. Vim li cas kuv hais li ntawd? Base raws cov nws hais no nws yeej paub nws txoj kev txhaum lawm tej nws yuav hloov los ua ib tug zoo txiv los kuj tsis paub. 2. Neb pab me nyuam yog 2 leeg li 2 leeg thiaj hlub. Yog thaum kawg nws tsis ua li nws hais, koj mam muab ncaws tawm los yeej tsis lig os mog.
My life is same similar I still live with my husband because I live my life with my kids. I have to love myself and knowing that God bless me and love me for who I am that's all I need.
Good for you but in the long run, your kids will be happier if you don’t use them as an excuse to stay in an unhappy marriages. Children don’t like to see parents living unhappy with each other.
I think it's too late for you to get her back. She's been through enough and all those pain has made her strong and independent. Move on. You did this to yourself.
I'm also a single mom with two girls n had also remarried but I do not care what my Husband said not to do n he knows I will not listen so he never told me not to do things for me kids
To the sister in this story, stand your ground and don't take your cheating ex husband back. You deserve more, love yourself and your children. You don't need a man to complete your life. Best wishes to you.
Frankly, this hubby has a small heart. He has no sympathy. If he did, he would understand his wife. I just hope she has it in her heart to forgive him. No man will love your kids as much as their own father. Find forgiveness.
You are crazy. After all that you want her to forgive him and take him back simply because of the kid's. He's disgusting. He knew exactly what her life was like a living HELL. yet he turned around and did the one thing to destroyed the last thing in her. By using the children to make her take him back. The children are bigger now. They've been doing just fine without him. He made his choices and divorced her. He walked out and abandoned his children for his selfish pleasure. Only when he cannot accept his girlfriend kid's but only wants their mother. Now he has nowhere to live and probably lost everything he wants he4 back.
Here is what’s wrong with this situation: The wife should know that she came from a broken home and her husband is her life/belonging(kev cia siab), she should consider his opinion and not cross that boundary and though her brothers cannot afford a wife financially they need to find work and marry when they can afford it, don’t burden anyone. This will not implicate both relationship.
You don’t deserve someone like your wife. You told her kom txhob cia neb cov me nyuam kom zoo li nws but you only cia koj cov me nyuam zoo li ntawd. Your wife didn’t, she still there for your kids. What you did wasn’t a mistake, it was a choice you made. Don’t use your kindness in the past on her. She doesn’t owed you anything, she’s already repay you back with her kindness to you and your family. I hope she doesn’t take you back, if you really loved her, you would never cheat on her.
Why hmoob parents never changed? Why the evil spouse is worth more then her own children? Why don't those brothers work and make money before marriage too? This is one of those, "a woman think a man will change but he won't, a man think a woman will leave but she did". When a woman doesn't cry anymore, her heart is harder then stone and colder then ice. Begging won't do.
Dev thawj thiab tsis muaj chaw mus ces rov los thov chaw nyob👏👏👏👏👏👏 too bad luck is not ur side. Things can't always go ur way. To the wife...please just move on with ur kids and love urself.
This dude 🙄🙄 I hope your wife don’t take you back. How are you gonna be so selfish and cheat on her and leave her, yet turn around and make it seem like it was her who ruined the marriage? How you gonna say “how come you didn’t want this life but now you’re making our life like this?” YOU made this life like this! Not your wife 🙄🙄
Kuv yog koj poj niam ces kuv yeej tsi yuav koj lawm niag neeg phem li koj ces cia kom nyob qab choj Txawm zam txim rau los niag neeg phem ces li cas los yeej phem cua kom txom nyem thiaj li paub kom cia quaj quaj txog hnub tuag es tsi muaj lub chaw tuag koj thisj paub os cov txiv neej ua tsi muaj lub chaw tuag coob coob vim yog coj zoo li koj ntag
Tus txiv tsev ntawm zaj neej no nas koj zj lus mas txaus luag kawg Yom thaum peb cov poj niam hais hais nej cov txiv ces peb twb tseem khib khib nej thiab hlub hlub nej hos thaum peb tsi hais tsi khib lawm ces koj twb yuav tsi tau chaws nyob los mas thiab thaum peb hais nej es nej cem peb tias peb phem cuag dab ntxaug thiab Phim nyum yis thiab ntxwg nyoog nas peb yeej tus siab txaus lawm Cia zam nej kev xwb ua Cas hos mus tsi Tom thawj mas
cov txiv neej uas twb ua tas mam xav tau thiab tseem cav yuav los qhuab ntuas neeg zoo li koj nav kuv tsis paub hais tias xyov koj hov tau ua tus coj hauv nej cov kwv tij tau li cas no xwb os
