Yuam Kev Ib Zaug Ris Siab Ib Sim. 9/19/2022 

To our sisters out there, if you married a guy and he doesn’t turn out as you thought he would be. NEVER Never put in the thought in your head that he might change tomorrow, next year, after you have a child, or after children. If days in, months in and he is not the husband you expected, just sayonara. That’s who he is and he won’t change. He’ll die being what he is OR even will stop for a bit just to keep you slaving then go back to be his true color sooner or later. Go when you haven’t invested too much of your time, heart, effort, and life. Run as fast as the ability can. This is wisdom from experience.

Wow! You suffered and got hurt when your wife cheated? It’s no big deal when to begin with? You were not a good husband and father to your wife but when she has had enough, you’re hurt? No pity for you. Thaum yus ua mas zoo ua kawg tab sis thaum luag ua mas yus plawv tshuav nres. I’m glad you two made the decision be together, forgive, and made your relationship work. Yes, don’t listen to what other people say.

Wow half way thru the story he finaly admitted to himself cheating on her… just as her to forgive you instead of you said you’ll forgive her.. she didn’t do that just for fun like you.. she needs a husband a partner a father to her children. All you did and want is a room to sleep.. you didn’t make the house a home.. you make that house like a hotel where u come to sleep n shower only. You choose your friends over your families .she doesn’t know you’re cheated on her otherwise.. what would she do

Awe...great lesson learned. Blessings to you both!

I'm glad you get a second chance with her. Don't blamed her for the past. I hope you guys continue to be happy brother.

Ua tsaug uas koj tuaj muab piav ua kev kawm rau peb nawb Txiv neej tsis Sawm zoo kiag

Niam ntsuab teev Vaj aw kuv tus poj niam mloog2 kj cov dab neeg mloog2 txhua2 ntu mloog2 cia li ua rau kiv poj Niam txawj cem kv heev li lawm

Kwv tij koj ua yog lawm os yus hlub yus poj niam zoo dhua os

A happy life consist of a lot of forgiving and forgetting. No one is perfect. We are humans. A lot of times, we make decisions, dumb ones, off of emotions. My spouse and I have both cheated. Become roommates. And then finally found love in each other again. And we are stronger and better as a couple now than ever. Sure, some would say why cheat.. but again, we do a lot of dumb things when we’re sad, hurting, lost and confused.. We have two kids, and they remained our sole purpose, and that truly brought us back together. I’m thankful for all the down falls in our life because now, we are both confident in our love and relationship. Not every relationship is perfect. It takes work and compromise. Wishing this man and his wife all the happiness in the world.

You just got lucky!!

Knows your worth and your needs.. married when you’re ready not because you’re lonely, for convenience, and or so pressure. Love is unconditionally not by materialistic! Learned from your mistakes, move on forward without regret!

Glad you two back together with the lovely children's. We're human beings, no body's perfect. For that guy who's disrespect your choice Nyias muaj nyias ib tug number tsis txhob lam cem lam nyho luag es thiaj li tsis raug yus

Glad you two back together and you changed for the better.

Amen to you for changing your life😊

Only you change your life and destiny. The best lessons are the one you teach yourself. Plus what's right for you may not be right for others...vice versa

You should thank the man you beat up. If it weren’t for him you’ll never change. 😅

I see a lot of comments talking about his faults in the relationship but no one seem to blink an eye on the fact that she had an affair. He is wrong for neglecting her in their marriage but that doesn't give her entitlement to go around and sleep with other people. There is obviously a better approach to this by simply leaving and divorcing. It's also ironic how she says she will go find a more "suitable husband" yet fail to realize that the guy she had an affair with is a homewrecker. Why? because any person, whether they are a man or a woman with any moral would not want any involvement in a married individual.

Tus tsev aw cov txiv neej txawj xav li koj thiab txawj zaum txim li koj muaj tsawg tus xwb os thov qhuas koj os

Forgiving your wife for having an extra marital affair should be a normal thing. Women have done that for men for generations. If you were the one having the affair and your wife caught you in action, she would even be physically attack by you for ruining the mood for you and your lover. Double standards within our culture have created inequality for men and women. God bless us women for living in a country where we have voices, financial independent and don't have to put up with nonsense.

Txiv neej ces cia kom zoo li no thiaj txawj ua zoo neeg zoo .. kuv tus txiv los yeej ua ua hluas kawg li cia ib hnub twg kuv mus tau mam mus kom deb nws

Nyob zoo os niam hluas kj paiv tau neej nee zoo mloog kawm li os

Ca sab ntuj tim ko ma zoo rau pen cov poj niam ua luaj li tsi zoo li peb sab ntuj tim no txawm mob siab npaus cas chim siab npaum twg Nim ua tsi tau li siab xa li ku lib neek CE zoo kiag li tu tsev no lub thiab tu siab kawg vim peb yog ib tug poj nia niam

Yus qhia yus es yus thiamli paub os. Glad you were able to see your fault and get a 2 nd chance with your wife to go on forth with your life together. Not many guy learn like you and not many wife willing to give 2nd chance again. Don’t mention the past and keep going forth together. Don’t make her regret staying with you or else next time she won’t come back anymore. Bless you both and may you learn and continue to grow together.

To every story, there is 3sides, yours, hers, and the truth....zoo hais tais neb Txhawj sib hais los nyob ua ke. Your life, your personal choices. We wish you guys well.

Tu tu Siab kawg li os tu kwvtij

Yog lawm os me nus vim peb poj niam yeej ntshaw nej txoj kev sib peb sib hlub es nej xav tias nejlaij li laij tas li xwb ces peb yeej uv tsis tau os me tub

I respect!

ib tug tseem txiv neej yuav tsum paub yus kev txhaum thiab kawm hloov los ntawm yus txoj kev txhaum ces lub neej yeej yuav rov zoo xwb. Tseg txoj kev mus ua si tsis kav peb txiv neej lub neej nrog pojniam me nyuam os nawb.

They both took accountability…for their own mistakes. That’s the only way to move forward. Kudos to you both.

Cia yus aim xwb tsi zoo nyob lawm ces cia faib rau lwm tus aim tag yus lam aim thisj zoo nyob mas kwv tij 😊

Good for you brother. Glad you had changed and she willing to came back to finish your life together.

What a nice Father in law. ****** For him

Yoglawm os niam laus.

I'm Hmong lao i like you sad story

Sad story brother 😭😭😭😭

Cia lawv muab aim yus thiaj mam paub hlub, tsim nyog kawg

Why every time Hmoob men’s CHEATED on us Womens, the Hmoob peoples leaders didn’t punished hmoob CHEATERS men’s for money wash the ladies faces just like they did on the man. NO EQUALS RIGHT for peb cov poj niam Hmoob li nawb!!! We womens see, we should formed a groups go against the bad behavior within the hmoob community?.

Kuv ntshai tsam koj kov g yeej Good for you

Listen to ur introduction You don’t want to change

You're one lucky guy.

Midlife crisis! Zoo kawg uas koj kuj paub khuv xim koj lub neej thiab os.. koj yog ib tug neeg tsis sawm zoo kiag.. zoo kawg uas koj pojniam mus kas plais li no mas tsim nyog tshaj plaws os!!😊

Some Hmong men still don’t get it together

hais tau zoo mloog kawg li os viv ncaus aw tuaj saib koj lawm os pab kuv thiab os 💖 💓 💕

About time you did some growing up. Glad she gave you a second chance, I’d have done the same too if my husband is irresponsible like you!

Tim koj koj poj niam thiaj raug lwm tus muab tsuav ntsuag 5555555 txaus koj siab lawm thiab yom

You got lucky😂😂

Not many people, especially a Hmong man, see their “wrong” and admit it. I applaud you for that.

Hnub tag los kub luag teb yus ncauj loj kawg, Hnub no yog tus ces kawg tuag nyoos.

Ab g Los yog txiv neej g pib tej yam liam2 ua ntej ces poj niam yeej g Liam ler qab

Txiv neej hmoob yeej tsis sawm zoo .thaum tseem zoo tsis txawj hlub cia kom mus ua pHem tag mam Li hlub .los vim Tus txiv neej Li koj yeej zoo tsis txaus.

Good job no shame in any of you both past, what matters is you both don’t repeat the same mistake and expect different results, forget all the friends, when you in that situation none of them matters, they don’t and never ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever going to matter!

Luag muaj peev xwm mus tham tau 1 tug lawm, g muaj hnub rov zoo.

tus me txiv tsev vim koj yog tus xub pib ua ntej koj tus poj niam thiaj ua tej yam no ces koj yog tus txhaum ntau dua koj tus poj niam.

kv lub neej cas zoo li zaj neej neeg no ua luaj li os

I'm glad you both got a second chances with your marriage again. No marriage is perfect but I will never I condone to cheating either by the wife or husband. No matter how many problems is going in in the marriage cheating should never be the way!

Txoj kev txhaum yog kj pib Ua ntej, kj qhib lub qhov rooj txhaum, Ntawm kv lub neej, kv tus X los dig muag rau tus poglaus, lub neej puas tas,

Cas yuav hnov nej cov txiv uas hais qhov yuam kev nkaus xwb os. Zoo tshaj plaws.

A marriage takes two people. Glad you realized how important your wife and family are.I hope you understand that it’s your wife giving you a second chance so change for the better. Good luck!

Yog nej cov txiv tsev yuav tau yaum nwb ❤

né né hmoob twb haistias, dev tsis sawm tsau, neeg tsis sawm zoo ces yog koj lawm tiag kwvtij

You have the guts to go above and beyond to get your wife back that’s why you were successful. Good luck!

should have tried to divorce him without the cheating

Zoo li ko lawm tsis yog kev hlub ua neej nrog cai lawm xwb

lol, bye felica

Zoo kawg yus rau txim rau yus tus kheej xwb os mog

Poj niam poj niam muaj ib tee dub!! Koj tus txiv liam ntawm koj xyov pes tsawg tee dub suav tsi txheeb. Koj poj niam kam rov yuav es yog hmoov ntuj poob nrov poog ntawm koj ko taw os thaub liam aw!

There's a saying...you never know what you have until its too late...even if she makes another mistake its not her fault...you can't trust her that's on you...you should of been a good dad and husband in the beginning...

Txiv neej nyiam ua si, tabsi pojniam tau ua lawm ces ua tiag tiag, poj niam tsis nyiam txoj kev dag ua si nwb. Ib co txiv neej mas “poj niam than hluas nraug, mam li xyaum zoo”. Txiv neej ces cov paub tau ces zoo li no, cov paub tsis tau ces txom nyem mag nkuaj xwb. Xyaum tsis tau ua ib tug txiv tsev zoo.

Twb hais 10 zaus. .1000 zaus tias txhob cia pojniam ua tuaj vim nej txiv neej siab yeej never ever siab loj txaus yog thaum pojniam tham hmoob nawb..

Those who are like this self centered egocentric guy, listen and learn before it’s too late.

You are lucky she gives you a second chance, learn your lesson!!!

Tau ib tug quav dev li koj xwb crs ysis yuav li o...ntxim ntxub tshaj plaws li

Nyob zoo os Niam laus kuv xav thov koj xov tooj kuv xav nrog koj thas os niam laus thov tiag222 os niam laud

Tu tu siab kawg li os kv yuav ua li cas zoo os ?

I can’t believe she left her boyfriend in the house with you and ran away. I would have stayed and protected him. Call the cops.

No point in staying with a dead beat dad or dead beat mom...or dead beat marriage if they are not willing to change...let it go..

Koj xwmkab zoo heev thiaj tsis plam koj lub povhaum. Kavtsij tuav kho2 tsam lwm tus nyiag tau mus yuav tag tiam no.

Cov UA hais tias yog kuv mas kuv ncaws poj niam tiag xwb cov hais li no mas yog txog nws thib mas nws haj Yam UA tsis tau dab TSI li nawb tsuas khiav xwb

It’s so funny how every husband always tends to put the fault on their wife even though they done wrong to start out with. They never seem to see their wrongdoing.

You're lucky your wife took you back. Good luck to you may your story teach other cheating and always playing men.

Hmoob muaj ib lo lus hais tias” Neeg ces yeej tsis sawm zoo”! Ces yog koj lawm. Tsuav ho paub lees txim thiab Zam txim li koj ces zoo lawm thiab los mas.

Yog koj zam txim tau rau poj niam koj yuav tsum this tus hluas nraug cov nyiaj kom tag nrog rov qab meb thiab koj yuav tsum nkag niam tais yawm txiv 2 ceg xwb

Well his niam tais told him straight up 😆 You don't know what you got till it's gone. You almost lost your wife. Don't screw things up now.

Brother cas koj pheej hais tias koj poj niam muaj ib tee dub koj li twb Tsi yog ib tee dub lawm na you don’t see your you got all black

Txiv neej cev tsis sawv zoo

Txhua yam ces tim koj xwb

Zoo tsaj plaws li cas kj yuav txawj hais tau mob siab ua luaj os

Well u cheated on her and she cheated on u. She gave u a taste of ur own medicine. Now u know how lonely and bitter it was. I hope u learn from ur mistakes and that Now the both of u will love each other more than ever. What is past is past. Do not blame each other no more. Just respect and love each other for ur sake and ur kids.

Cas zoo li yog tsheej muas zaj ne????

Kj mas muaj hmoo tshaj kj tus niam tsev thiaj rov los

Txiv neej yeej tsis sawm zoo thaum poj Niam me nyuam nyob vaj tse sov so, cas yus mus cuag yus yog ib Niag txiv Dev kav maum tsis paub txog tom qab, cas hnub no tej Niam tub mus lawm vaj tse nqha cas ho txawj NCO thiab pab tsis Tau koj lawm qub neeg qub Siab Xwb 😁😁

I don't think you've learned your lesson at all and in time you will go back to your old, bad behaviors. You keep saying you forgive your wife as if she's the one that wronged you when you are the one who wronged her. She was merely trying to find love somewhere else after YEARS of getting none from you. You still have the old country mindset when it comes to women, and you will only truly change when you are able to change this. A WOMAN IS NOT A PIECE OF PROPERTY, SHE IS YOUR LIFE PARTNER, AND THEREFORE, SHE SHOULD BE TREATED WITH LOVE AND RESPECT JUST AS YOU EXPECT THAT FROM HER.

When you caught him in your house and beat him up why didn’t you call the cops and said he was an intruder in your house haha

peb cov txiv neej hmoob muaj ib txia yeej coj li kj xb vim txv neej hmoob g muaj kev kawm g paub hlub tshuav poj niam

Koj poj niam tham hluas nraug tas koj mam hlub nws tom qab thiab koj mam ua lub neej nyob tus kuj tsis yog koj ruam. Nov yog koj ntsib xau tas koj mam paub vim koj txoj kev liam ntawv yog koj ua tus pib ces koj yuav tau paub txog.

He’s not telling the whole story. The reasons why he’s forgiven her and fights for her return and not bring up her past affair is because he is just as guilty as her or maybe worst.

you're playing too much, your wife eats outside. someone else will take care of your wife if you don't.

She only took you back because her boyfriend jumped ship. He didn’t want her and your kids. He just wanted to have fun with her, like you. Since you decided to beg for another chance, you best forget what she did. You cheated too so you both are even.

May,pab nrhiav ib tug laus nkauj pub kuv. Yog koj muaj los yog paub tej tug laus nkauj Tsi tau muaj txiv....

Niam ntsuab teev koj xa tau koj tus niam laus tus foo ne koj puas Kam os