Three Things I Learned Raising Daughters 

You should be insanely proud of yourself

You know what they say. A girl can trust you as far as they can kick you.

Yes, but please get the belt in BJJ and not karate🤣. The slogan on our MMA, Jim in huge letters on the wall, on the bus, on promotional materials, “karate will get you killed.“ Even KM is awesome for girls of any age or physical abilities. Get your girls in classes!

My oldest daughter has (2) blackbelts.

Good shit!!!

'the most profound advice ' ... and Nick's instinct reaction: wanting to hit him (2:30) ... just sayin '.

@@wolfgangreichl3361 Not sure I understand your comment correctly. Are you saying that Nick's reaction tells you that the advice was bad? Or...?

@@TheMagpie4Real No. I think it's good. Personally my emphasis would have been on 'unconditional love', which he brought later. But I just couldn't help stumbling on the ever so tiny dichotomy of getting good advice - recognizing it as such - and the intense desire to punch the guy in the face.

@@wolfgangreichl3361 I did understand you correctly then 😊 I just didn't want to presume. English is my third language, so I have to take into account that I can miss something subtle when I can't see the face of the person "saying it". I agree with you. I couldn't help smiling when Nick said he wanted to hit the guy that just gave him that insightful advice. And at the same time it was a little heartbreaking. I fully understand his inclination for wanting to hit him. He just admitted, that he is fully aware that he is taking advantage of girls who has been emotionally neglected and doesn't know how to defend themselves against further abuse. That he is telling the truth and that his advice is solid is just making him that much more of a bastard for doing what he is doing when he clearly understands the "weakness" he is exploiting.

@@TheMagpie4Real English as your third language, and yet you're more articulate than many who grew up with it. Impressive!

I was the same. I had an emotionally absent father who was terrible but never felt the need to sleep around while others did. You said it perfectly

My father abandoned me as a child. It is very likely that he doesn't even care to this day that I exist. I never slept around. In fact, I am still a virgin. In my case growing up with morals and self-respect had nothing to do with my lack of a father figure, but because I had a dedicated mother would led me by example.

@@prettycareye3181, you are a rare soul.

​@prettycareye3181 tbh being an eternal Virgin is just as bad or worse than sleeping around.

@@KManAbout Really? What disadvantage does virginity cause in one's life? And what value does sleeping around add to one's life? These are serious questions. I look forward to your answers.

Yes. 💯 %.

I'm so glad you mentioned boys need that kind of model, too, as the mother of a teenage son. I heard our pastor once tell us that the best gift you can give your kids is setting an example of a loving relationship and knowing that their parents really love each other and what that looks like. It gives them a solid foundation to build their own relationships on.

Could never trust my bv Dad, he treated my mother HORRIBLY ML

@@sandramartin9106 That’s a good point. My sister’s ex-husband is a (insert any vulgar epithet and it would apply). She lasted nine years with him then finally found the strength to leave. Their three kids struggled for a while when they were young, but all of them got it together and grew into amazing, functional, stable, happy adults. Certainly, their mother’s constant love was a primary force in their lives, but the damage inflicted by their father was also undeniable. I asked her once how her kids were able to overcome how their dad treated her and them. She said, “Sometimes a bad example can be as valuable as a good one.”

The best that you can do is for your children is to see that you love and respect to your mother

Congratulations brother to you and your wife! God bless!

​@@Nickjfreitas Happy Father's Day These songs because Fathers are Outstanding. Daddy's Hands Because You Loved Me (your children) Grown Men Don't Cry Good Job (one voice childrens choir)

​@@NickjfreitasI raised a daughter and understand I married someone's daughter. My daughters husbands must have never had a mother. In other words they had bad fathers.

He’s right with every detail

You have been blessed by the Algorithm gods.

Yes you do because you found this video . Best wishes to you in fatherhood

Bro pls don't screw up 💀

And that is the crux! Often times, males do not LISTEN to females. Sounds like your dad may have had nasty thoughts about teen girls or may have done some nasty things himself, thus the hesitation in defending you. Love always protects FIRST.

@@wojtek9500 I’m not muslim, but if you are I suggest leaving islam, it’s not good for people’s moral sanity.

@@wojtek9500I hope you never gave daughters

​@deirdremorris9234 not really, her dad could simply have been with narcissistic traits, thus that rubbing off the situation. But good thing that her mother intervened and that she was safe afterwards.

@@sophyamary my dad’s been hiding porn from my mom 10+ years (been caught 3 times) and yes he’s a narcissist, and then he wonders why I have trust issues with him. Not only that but he gaslights and stone walls.

Good job as a dad but the last issue on protecting herself I would suggest first, instead of a gun, that she take self defence. My father shot himself and attempt to hurt the family so I hate guns. I also believe knowing the word of God and the power of the Holy spirit can operate, as the word says, better than a double edged sword. I heard a story of a girl who was being chased by 2 men in a park, here in Canada, and the Holy spirit asked her why she was running. So she stopped and pointed her finger at them and said, "In the name of Jesus, I command you to stop" the 2 men dropped dead on the spot. In the court case the judge asked her to explain what happened but stopped her when she came to that part, I think he was afraid of my happen if she continued. I have heard other stories like it and when I feel overwhelmed by the enemy I have done it and felt oppression leave and burdens lift and when I couldn't get the dog to let go of a baby rabbit he found in the yard, I tried it and he dropped it. Others have called on God in an attack and gang members ran when they said they saw large shiny men standing by the people they were about to attack. I also pray for a ring of fiery protection around my loved ones and myself and know he has protected me from many dangers and kept my granddaughter from being kidnapped and now she wants to be a lawyer to put the bad guys away! Sorry if this is long but I felt a need to share my heart and I enjoy your shorts as they give me a laugh so I wanted to bless you in return.

@lilianw.4358 My father was wonderful, but he overprotected me. He taught obliviousness instead of awareness, and I got taken advantage of because of my ignorance. Now I look back on every date he chaperoned when I was a teenager and am grateful, but I wish he would have taught me awareness before I went to college. Also, a daughter won't believe that her father loves her unless he says it with all of the love languages.

@@aprilmcgeown2253 No offense but anyone that thinks someone pointed at two people, invoked *Jesus*, and they dropped dead is uh.. not trying that hard to think, I'm guessing. People of all beliefs all around the world including christians are horribly murdered while praying to their god every single day. God will not save your children. Do your job and teach them how to save themselves.

​@@jonnovak6856God does protect us but being dumb won't do nothing so you should always protect urself

​@@aprilmcgeown2253whoa.

Same here

How can I love this comment into infinity? ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥

Been watching your videos for awhile now. Can’t say I disagree with any of them yet.

I saw the TikTok and cried. I cried so hard, because when I looked at the man that was supposed to be MY dad. It wasn’t who I use to know. I only know a few things about him. He only knows a few things about me. We’re more strangers than family. I mean he does the basics. I know how to cook, I clean, I get good grades, he taught me how to drive. We both like metal and that’s about as far as things we both like goes. I don’t like him, I feel bad for telling people I don’t like him but I don’t. He yells at me, he hurts me. I do the same, I’m covered in cuts from my legs to my arms all of which I’ve made. I think it’s important to be there for your child, when I needed him he refused to help. We’ve never rebuilt that relationship back after that, and the thing to note is. Abusers don’t abuse everyday. However he feels, he decides to make everyone around him feel.

... and big ego

I had a guy at work also offer to protect me from situations when my dad can't. I haven't had any situations happen thankfully but there was a guy that was made my coworker a little suspicious. I definetly appreciated my coworkers offer. He threatened to beat up any guys who gave me trouble, and honestly I believe he would do it. He was in the military and has a pretty hot temper. Lol

Giris-women say inappropriate things to boys-men just as often. But we call that empowerment.

​@@susansmith493doesn't make it right

@@susansmith493 girls shouldn't say those things either, but at least they don't usually have the capabilities to force things physically like guys do.

@@americandefender1861 Yes, physically, they're far different. But i assure you, girls and women can do massive, deep, long lasting harm from the type of abuse they can do. And fact us, women can also be wildly physically abusive. Work in family law for a few decades. It's not what you've been trained to think.

Stay strong bro 💪

I think you will make a wonderful parent whenever the time comes because you know what children need. I’m so sorry you were denied of your needs as a child, but I do believe it will make you a very strong, loving, nurturing parent. ❤

Oh heavens. I am so sorry you endured that.

I hope you have found peace and safety.

Thanks Nick.

Thank you!! And I am very glad you found a good man that treats you with love and respect!

I try to be! Thank you!

I have seen that men begin to value and see women's perspective only when they have daughters. They want the best for their daughters but how much of that 'best' have they given to other people's daughters in capacity of husbands and boyfriends? So how about, 'men be good to other people's daughters too'?

Wow! Can’t stop watching your stuff… So much wisdom! Thanks!

Hey, I don’t think Trump has a running mate yet….!

May God bless you sir

She will not be afraid to go to God and discuss things with Him!

@@pamelaschomer4120 There is no god

Parents who do wrong need humility to know they did wrong and repent/ammend/apologize for it. Or their kids won't.

@@johnadams3038 then if somebody killed you there's no way to say that it's wrong. Best of luck!

@@catholicfemininity2126 Those parents need to vocally repent/ammend/apologize for their wrong doings to the child they wronged. Saying so in your quiet prayers only heels their souls, never their children'sbroken hearts.

Hugs and love

I can’t even imagine. God be with you

Whst a blessed marriage! As it should be.

If you do have children I can assure they have a good father waiting for them and are blessed cheers never had a father that showed me the ropes although I wished so much but hopefully we all meet that one person that demonstrate that love that we all need ❤much love

That's such a great share and I am so happy that you and your wife figured this out. Unfortunately we are seeing more bad examples and experiencing it's rotten fruits, than good. And us, people who experienced and suffered from those bad examples are to break the cycle, learn how to be a real man or woman, husband and wife and teach our children better. I'm only learning these things. And my partner, who also didn't have a balanced upbringing is learning this too in the age of 50 and he, like you, teaches me, the woman how to value myself better by being incredibly good to me. And I, as woman teach him self control and much more by setting boundaries and keeping to them most of the time. Very important. I hope that one day, when we have children we will be able to teach them similar things he discussed in this video and be a living example of our children what true love and balanced relationships mean both with ourselves and with each other in society

A woman can’t teach you to be a man

Thanks for sharing this. It's encouraging though to hear how you and your wife have been such a blessing to each other!

That sounds wonderful to have a father like that, and even from just reading your comment I admire him already, and wished I have a father that's much more than just providing me a comfortable life, though I'm grateful I can live a good upper middle class life but my dad's a deadbeat father, doesn't really teach me things, doenst communicate well, yelling and criticising for small things and because I do things the way I do them and not his way, all the petty butter things he does to ruin my day and mood. Although I don't have a good view of most fathers becuase of him I'm very glad to hear father's like yours exist. I wish I had one like that 😔. But at this point I don't even want that anymore, my perception of parents are far too messed up now, ever since I grew up and got alot smarter. I begin to see them as how they are as individuals, massively flawed personalities, it disappoints me. And I hate to think I'm better than my parents, but there's so many things I'd be able to do so much better at being a parent than them because of all the things I'm aware of their child. They're just so selfish and wants everything to go their way, I'm not going to bend myself into what they want me to be, i think I'm already a very mature, lovely, smart boy, but they just want me to be a certain person and they keep criticising me so pettily. Sorry for the long read, I wouldn't be surprised if you didnt even read 25 percent of this lmao I'm a real talker

​@@rns6889You are very valuable. You have immeasurable intrinsic value. You wouldn't give up even one of your eyes for a million dollars. How much more valuable you are than a million dollars.

it is sad that mother wasn;t there, as a child learns diferent things from both mather and a father - but anoyone can teach those things to a child, and even a man can be susptitute for what a mother can teach, it is just that he has to be also a father, provider, cook, cleaner etc - and sometimes single parent dsoesn;t have strenght for all the roles. Mother's love is diferent then fathers, but, what you couldn;t feel growing up (mother's love), you could feel raising your own kid. The fact that your dad raised 4 healthy, happy children is a honoring testiment on it's own - the fact that you say you love him - man. I hope I will get that from my kids when they are your age. You knwo what? Tell your father you love him and hug him, for no reason. You will make his whole week happy :) I know you do it probably all the time, but as father myself, I can tell you it can never be too much :)

I wish my father had taught me things,neither of my parents taught me anything,and at 31 I'm STILL trying to learn

@@GabrielleTollerson and you understand that you need to learn, once you get that, you will find people who know and who can teach. you will be ok, remeber to teach yourkids when the time is right. Good luck

I am very glad you found him! Raising young men and women to think of family, can be difficult in a "hook up culture" type of environment. We emphasized to our daughters and our son, that modern dating culture does not set people up for success. That if you are respectful both of your body and theirs and you hold off on the physical, while you ensure a genuine intellectual, emotional and spiritual connection, you are far more likely to have a healthy marriage. Respect for ones spouse, should begin before you ever meet them.

​​@@Nickjfreitasude nail on the head idk what my parents did but they did right by me because i was 18 before i ever dated my first everything is my wife and shes my last met her at 18 and im on track to outlast my parents mariage 11 years going strong with a 6 going on 7 yr old daughter only person i know with a track record like that besides my granparents

lucky lady..lost my father young, im an old lady and i still miss him..

❤❤❤

The fact that you never had a father and chose a good husband would disprove everything he's saying, unless you're the exception, And everyone just happens to be highlight this.

It's more than you realize. Sometimes the girls turn into monsters, themselves. Not having that influence and involvement can enable some serious problems.

It breaks my heart to read stories like this, I wish I could be there for kids like you, but I would be like the cast lady and have a house full of kids and that's not where God has me.

A middle-age Scandinavian leftie, and fine with that later in life, never the less I wish I'd had a father like you. I fear that even the way you brought up your daughters would have made me a stronger man. Or at least a lot sooner, than I figured it out my self. Great gratitude towards a solid man, though wed probably disagree on many things political.

This! ALL! DAY! LONG!!!

I had the same struggles in my twenties until I broke free off toxic relationships and eventually met my husband. He embodies everything my das wasn't and funny enough my husband had to learn how to become this man in his own 20s because his dad never was in the picture. Girls and Boys equally need strong, gentle and wise fathers. Society should support men way better in helping them grow to be a leader and protector, not a simp or abuser.

And when that sweet little girl chooses a dress that makes her look a frump or is just plain ridiculous and says, with a big pleased smile ...´Look daddy, my new dress...´ There is no way you are going to say... ¨Sorry, baby, but it´s awful.¨ .... are you?? Sometimes the truth has to be ´adapted´ or ´modified´ or just plain lied about to ensure your baby girls keep their self confidence and happy smile. And if your wife ever asks ´Does my bum look big in this...´ as you dress for a night out .... if you say yes, you ain`t going nowhere! Always tell the truth about important things but the little things in life a ´truth negotiable.

@@chrisreynolds3351 couldn’t agree more!

​@chrisreynolds3351 I disagree. I ask my husband if something looks good on me because I genuinely want to know his opinion. I never want him to lie to me about it. He doesn't have to be an asshole about it and tell me that a specific dress makes me look like a beached whale, but I do want him to tell me that he doesn't think it suits me. I need him to tell me the truth about things like that, because if the person who thinks I'm beautiful with bed head and granny panties thinks that something isn't very flattering, I probably shouldn't be leaving the house in it. Sometimes love is saying things that people don't want to hear in as gentle a manner as possible.

Ok I'm on IN in TX​@@chrisreynolds3351

100% accurate. Don't lie to me or to my daughter because YOU'RE afraid of hurting my feelings or making me have low self esteem. That's not helpful. Instead, tell me the truth and show me what really looks good on me, that'll boost my confidence for sure. @outofthedarkness83 btw when I say YOU'RE I don't mean you, I'm directing that to those that do that sort of thing. 😇

People don't often realize that the ones we have to worry about with guns are the ones who were never taught how to handle one by a responsible father.

Congratulations ❤

May the Lord bless you and heal all past hurts and wounds. May your heavenly Father pour His favor over you and your husband and your child and future children to always feel the Love of a Father, especially your heavenly Father🙏

You’re a wonderful Dad. I can feel the love that you have for your daughters and being a good role model to them. God bless you and your family. I wish there will be more Dads like you who take their role very seriously. God loves you!

The best way to heal your personal wounds is to create a safe space and give your wise unconditional love to your children. Wishing you, your husband and your child the best life has to offer.

I hope and pray your future will be good with your family and that God will bless you

Amen🎉

You are so right. Looking back, I can understand why I chose the man I did, one of the biggest mistakes of my life, one I rectified by divorce. My father was a good provider, but he was withdrawn and didn't really care much to interact with me, traits I found in a man, and it went downhill from there.

You can sacrifice for your men, you can sacrifice for your woman but your child is your duty not sacrifice.

I'm a daughter to a man who was a single father during my early years. One thing I can recommend, looking back, is to find a woman you trust (sister, mom, etc) who can teach her how to protect her heart, in addition to her mind and body. There are many things a girl/woman faces that a man will never understand. Things like how to control your emotions, thoughts and actions in various situations. For a girl, her emotions lead to actions. A man will never understand how strong those emotions can be and how hard it is to not act on those emotions. When she takes action, she is giving herself (time, love, body, etc) to whoever that action was taken towards. If she takes action with the wrong person, she is trusting that person with her mind, heart, and perhaps, body. IF that person emotionally hurts her later on, then her heart can become very damaged, because trust has been broken and she is deeply wounded. This is where she needs a woman with life experience to guide her on that path. If you don't know of anyone who you trust to be her friend in those areas, there's still time. Girls usually start grappling with these emotional changes a year or so before their period but then it gets very strong afterwards.

@@GB0915 thank you

​@@NEBUKADNECCARstupid ass comment, sweetie. He never said his daughter wasn't his duty, he said he makes sacrifices for her, which is accurate, because everyone who fulfills their duty is making sacrifices to do so. Your comment doesn't even make sense on its own terms, since "your men" if you are some kind of leader (we all know you aren't) or your woman are also your duty.

@@GB0915 Grandmothers and aunts are powerful in a girl's life. Every single one of my granddaughters have dodgy mothers. Those little girls know that I am in their corner 24/7. They absolutely love me and the messy but safe space I have for them.

Me too . My parent is doing the exact same thing currently 😢

Me 🙋🏼‍♀️ It sucks.

gods not real

How come he abandoned you for your stepmom (if you were with a stepmom and dad was with a stepmom, does not it make that you 3 were together)?

@@basedpatriotLT your question is self explanatory.

Your father didn't abandon you. He left your momma. Forgive your momma and love your father. Be free.

Most men i know are this way, and value their family over everything. I know i would give my life to save my daughters without thought. So there definitely loads of fathers like this sorry you missed out

It's sad that a message like this can come as such a shock. Many (I'd even argue most) men do care deeply about our families. I'd point to societal failings and the failings of our own fathers as reasons that a lot of us are misguided in our youth. Thankfully with the rise of the internet we have access to role models beyond our immediate environment to take inspiration from if needed to make up for a lack thereof. I really hope to see a cultural shift in masculinity from this "alpha" male Andrew Tate bs back towards a healthy and grounded gentleman type of character. Masculinity is only toxic when it is misguided and we need strong men to protect the vulnerable from the weak ones, now more than ever.

The men that don't care are either very high in sexual market value (e.g. girls without proper raising will throw themselves at him and get pregnant without a ring or even knowing his real name) or extinct! Think about that!

Same here. It took many years of observation and curiosity to reach the conclusion that many men are good to their children and want the best for them.

To be honest, as 42 yrs old man who grew up in a fully functional family, has an amazing wife and 2 kids, I have to admit that I'm in tears too.

Thank you for wanting to be a better man

Us, girls, have to unite! ✊️

​​@@MeowingCat835True Real Feminism! Women are created equal!

Lol really? Name 1 nation founded by women. Name 1 field of science women created. Name 1 road, highway, or structure constructed by women. Also men invented 96% inventions.

Men are also stronger, faster, smarter, and better at everything.

@@jenniferturner9012 yup, i would consider myself a feminist. An adequate one. For example, i believe FGM should be stopped from being practiced because it's just cruel.

Sarah, you need healing. Seek therapy to help. From a woman about your age who went through the same, it's possible to overcome and heal. Till then, you'll keep attracting bad guys bc you haven't dealt with the pain inside. Do it for you and also for the ones around as well. All the best! ❤

Welcome to the club of abusing fathers. It is hard to get over it but with a lot of self love time and theraphy i could overcome it. It took me a long time but I healed. It is the only way, healing is hard but not impossible

I don’t think you ever “get over it,” but you CAN learn from it, heal a lot of the pain, and become a healthier person. Please get some therapy. 💜

"Once you get desperate for love, you become easy prey." - Sun Tzu

@@magnetar28I can't stand people promoting an organisation that has harbored and protected proven pedophiles, FOR DECADES. And that's where you'd suggest people go for emotional healing? Are you crazy?

And I bet they are conventionally attractive. It doesn't matter if women raise a son as long as he is physically attractive because despite a women's inclination to base things on emotion verses logic. The man will grow up ok if he is good looking. Now if the son is unattractive physically no women should raise him. A masculin man needs to. Not a women who gaslights nonsense that is not reality

Yep. Divorce is single handedly the worst thing that happened to my childhood. Lost my father due to it which is his own fault but I do agree the courts etc ostracize men.

Agreed - I was engaged to a guy who wasn’t good for me. My dad did try to accept it but told me to remember that whoever I married, half his DNA will be the kid’s. This wasn’t the sole reason I broke up with him but was one of them!

This is why I don’t agree to legal marriage. But then again not many people are spiritual nowadays which is what the courts take advantage of greatly.

Yikes three daughters that is so cucked and brutal.

I’d be interested to hear what some of those monsters say. As a father myself, I’m always looking for more good advice and things to look out for.

@@TheUnsureFoxsecond this!

@@TheUnsureFox you can get a glimpse into that world by two images, look up one of a known serial killer's mugshot and look into their eyes, then look into the eyes of the people around you. The monsters of this world have nothing behind those eyes, there is a certain element people have even if we don't agree with them. But those who commit the worst of crimes have nothing behind their eyes.

@@intothew1ld2 The eyes are the window of the soul. It’s a sixth sense we have when we can see someone is a monster by looking at them.

@@intothew1ld2 this isnt exactly sound advice, a lot of the time the people who hurt others are close to them and so no one suspects them or doesnt believe the victim

The little girl is lucky to find new loving parents! May the three of you have a beautiful deep bond and help each other love and grow! Congrats 🎉🎉🎉

I hugely appreciate this comment ❤

Wow😮 What an amazing job you have done. Very honorable.

I highly recommend the book, "Parenting With Love And Logic." It'll change how you do business.

​@@austinado16hey thanks I will check that out.

I strongly relate to that protective instinct and I genuinely do not understand those who lack it.

Rotorhead, with an attitude like that, you're already a winner.

@@MGShadow1989 Let me help you understand: they aren't real men.

@@rickraber1249 - aye, I absolutely agree, but part of me wants something more nuanced than that. That instinct to protect is so strong, so intrinsic to my being and has been there for as long as I can remember without being taught to do so, that I feel like something must have happened to those who lack it; like how Patrick Stewart for example has a very peculiar view of masculinity because his father was abusive, or how some men are cowardly because they never had that positive role model.

​@@MGShadow1989Maybe you haven't been paying attention to how the world is treating men that foolishly and unconditionally try to white knight. Often they end up dead, jailed, falsely accused... Etc

I am so sorry for your and your daughters loss. The idea of them sharing a job is hilarious 😂

Sorry for your loss, very touching to read. I do have to agree with the other comment, them sharing jobs is very funny. Beautiful memories.

I gotta preface this with how I'm sorry for your loss, But for real, playing twinsies with your *job* is pretty wild.

Yeah but don’t forget to teach your sons and grandsons etc. to behave and respect women. In college they tend to be predatory, and as adults as well.

@@truehappiness4Uand to respect women, while still respecting yourselves.

I guess you already do it, but just as a girl i would say - spend many time with your kid! My dad used to do it a lot when i was little girl. This really helps in creating strong bond between daughter and dad. Which is incredibly important

FIVE DAUGHTERS? Ah hell no thats BRUTAL

5 daughters here as well. Lol

Hugs