He doesn’t miss his mom in the previous clip he said he was happy to have the new mom. He’s just saying that to guilt them into letting him have his tv back.
HeyLexxxie yeah. The rules werent around long enough for him to use TV as a coping mechanism. Nice try kiddo 😂 I bet hell be crying when she leaves his family lol
I watched the full episode.. the only thing the Nigerian family was doing wrong was not pushing (or maybe even allowing?) their kids to have fun more. The other family was a MESS
Its quite easy and a modern day issue this generation of parents, who didnt grow up with this much technology, don't know how to handle. Plus, due to white mother's restrictive upbringing she believed kids should be allowed to do whatever they want.. so this happens :/
I love how the Nigerian mom explained to the kids why the changes are being made and presented an alternative to what their used to. It isnt only about the activity but the valuable excitement of an activity.
i just watched the episode. And it said, in the akinibode family, the oldest daughter is attending college, and in the mullis family, Kimi and her husband have separated
I thought he was 13 myself. Its not his fault. His generation was raised by lazy parents who gave their kids smartphones and electronics since they were babies. They are absolutely addicted to these things like a drug. It is sad and I feel sorry for this kid,
sweetdkinkycurls are you stupid?? Watch the whole episode she’s a terrible mom, she makes the kids bow down on their knees all the time to the mom and dad
@@Ashley-fd7cj the "bowing down" is a cultural thing. It's not oppressive. And not just kids do it either and not only to parents. It's a way to acknowledge/greet people who are much older. That you are unfamiliar with it doesnt make it terrible.
Nobody cooks so family eats out a lot and then he plays video games constantly and family doesn't interact... it's not his fault when adults are failing him :/
Mo Guns that makes zero sense because the Nigerian mom is big, her husband and children are not. Hell the white lady has one fat kid and you bark with nonsense 😂🤦🏼♀️
@@familybroich3073 it's way easier to get fat as an adult. Children and teenagers usually have killer metabolism and tend to be naturally active and running around. If a kid without medical issues becomes fat, usually a bad diet is to blame for it.
@@familybroich3073 Nigerian mom is big because she birthed 5 children! Same with the white mom, but the white mom is not helping her BMI by eating takeout 6 days out of 7. And I think in another clip she said that on Sundays the husband's mom comes over to cook. 🙄
What I wanted to say. They adapt so well. They r welcoming to new people even though they r so different. They helped her get comfortable and feel at home. Was more supportive and not at all bratty like that 10 year old.
Ashley Kids shouldn’t have to work hard. They should work smart. They should be given the room to organize their time for studying and whatnot and still have time to hang out with their friends. The Nigerian parents are bad too. Their children are so sheltered. They’re just not as bad as the white family.
In all honesty, "fun" does not mean going out past midnight. My mom allowed us to go out and have fun, however we still had to be home by a certain time... This world is unsafe. And it's dangerous for beautiful young girls to be out that late, even in groups.
@Joyce Woodruff I'm still 16 and my parents are like that. It is not fun to have your friends tease you for having helicopter parents. It had gotten to the point where my parents followed me into the movie theatre and everything and my friends had to help me to stand up for myself. My mom actually studied child development theory and knows that doing this is going to raise insecure children that can't handle change and cry over little dissapointments. They need someone to back them up and often times are not able to handle problems on their own or might even get over-depended on someone to set them straight. It is not good to treat your children that way. It's basic human science. Every psychologist warns parents when they are becoming "helicopter parents" And I do live in a black household. My mom has learned to behave differently and it shows how much happier I am. It has nothing to do with lack of respect. And I am not trying to interfer with the way you do your things I am just trying to give you advice. Times change.
I love the Nigerian family but they got the "raising leaders" part wrong. A real leader knows how to interact with people from all walks of life. His kids are entirely too sheltered. It puts them at a disadvantage. They need a balance. The white family is a mess. The mom is a bum. Straight up! The dad is just going with the flow. They're not raising their children to their full potential, which is sad.
Barbara Codner eh in a way but its proven that healthy family orientation improves young people's ability to adapt, learn, and function overall, (I.e., see homeschoolers) they become independent thinkers instead of developing mob mentality
I have to disagree. In theory that's the way, it should be but look at most political leaders, royal families, company directors etc. Most have lived a sheltered life of private schools, skiing trips and horse ridind. Places were you don't find ordinary people. All that brings a certain kind of confidence that pushes them to be leaders.
@@MsDudette21 it's not like we are beaten badly to the extent of injuries, it's more like being disciplined, and I am very glad my parents were strict with me, watching TV was a privilege😂😂, I used to work in the farms and playing was out doors, we spent a lot of time with our parents doing random activities...
What she did by taking away the TV was a great thing, it took me getting unemployed and loosing some stuff to realize my value, &my value is not my things
Ms. Living If Nigeria worked like a normal country and there were opportunities to progress, believe me when I say that most of us will not be here. But we’ve been cursed with trash leadership which in turn has wrecked the country over time.
Star light Kid It happens all over the world. Poor countries lose their best citizens bc the successful and intelligent people like to often move elsewhere for better opportunity . This hurts their home country , but I understand .
Texas Jaco well of course. We can all see that. He’s also isolating himself to play video games because his family doesn’t spend much time together. His dad is always in the bedroom and mom has to take care of everything. He needs attention from them. That’s number one.
pc cc right...and he watches tv because he misses his mum. They all need time with each other definitely. He’s so adorable. I’m surprised he cried rather than throw a tantrum.
Yet I would spend hours upon hours reading as a kid. Something that once upon a time was seen as harmful. Allowing a kid some screen time isn't bad as long as it is limited and supervised.
I love the Nigerian family, but I do agree with Nikki, the children need to have a little bit more fun. The children in this episode were great, but Nikki's children needed more structure.
Before I got a computer I would often just draw and play, then when I got the computer I played on it but I still continued doing stuff without it. Today this dosent seem to be the case anymore with kids
I can understand why he's doing that though. Believe it or not, there are a lot of people who's hobby is playing games and it can also be a way to distract themselves from any pain. Imagine not being able to do something that you enjoy doing and that helps you cope
@@Bruhette I am that one kid, though I cannot really help it because I was given electronics from a very early age. And I am very aware I am spoiled. have a computer, tablet, tv, and a phone. And I don't even use my tablet. I try to help my parents but It's hard to undo bad-parenting that happened to you. I sometimes wish they were a little more strict to me just so i wouldn't be such a fat blob sitting at my computer 8+ hours a day. Don't get me wrong I love being spoiled who wouldn't want to be spoiled but it makes me feel bad because my mom is very kind and my brother takes advantage over her by guilt-tripping her into buying him stuff. Now you may be wondering "Why not just force the changes yourself?" IT"S HARD, let me tell you. It's sort of for example: Imagine if all you ate was banana's. It'd be extremely hard to eat other things just because your habit is so dug into eating banana's and not anything else it's hard to decide to not eat a banana. Yk?
I think that's very insensitive to the kid. It might not even be due to addiction, but suddenly their entire life being charged without their permission or consent. If somebody took my hobby away totally for a big period of time because they see it only as an addiction and a bad thing, and I just wanted a normal life, I would be upset too. Especially as a kid. And maybe videogames are a way for him to socialize anyways, I don't think she should have made a drastic change like that and expect a 10 year old to be happy.
Oh my gosh, Keegan crying over having his game console taken away is pathetic! His parents are failing in raising an independent, educated and resilient young man. He's going to be living in their basement at 40 because he won't have any life skills!
@Drgnfli I agree that it's not always going to end with all men living in their parents basements at 40. Your boys- now men obviously have drive, motivation and a social conscience to go into the careers they've chosen. I can see that some men (some women too) probably use gaming as a stress release after work. Unfortunately, I hear from wives of men who are addicted to gaming and it causes so many arguments. Eg; Wife-Can you bath the kids while I cook dinner? Husband- Yes, I'm just going to finish this level first. (30 minutes later) W- Dinners ready! Why haven't the kids been bathed? H- I had an extra power and couldn't stop the game or I'd lose! This petty selfish crap causes a lot of resentment. If it's ongoing then the ramifications are miserable for the whole family. I hope your sons know when enough is enough. If they're married with children I sincerely hope that their priorities are in order and their families come first!
It's not pathetic. He's 10. Newsflash, kids cry about toys & things getting broken all of the time cuz... well you know... they're children. Now when grown men cry when their favorite sports team loses a championship, then yeah that's kinda pathetic. The kid at least owns his video game
@MazzyDoodle Yup I'm really upset how everyone is siding with her and don't have any empathy for the kid. It's his hobby and something he loves, too much of anything is not good, but she took it away suddenly and a large portion of it. I think her bias is not at all helpful, she doesn't try to understand him at all and only sees his addiction.
Yes! Though Nigerian father was talking about how he wants to raise his children as leaders but to be a leader means you're gonna lead different people and some of those people are not going agree with you or they came from a different family and that's important for his kids to actually interact with different people
The Nigerian children need more freedom and fun so they can have a childhood, while the American kids need more structure. Their both charming children
"I miss mom, I try to watch to TV to forget about it" Yeah sure, no wonder you watch it and play video games when she's there 🙄😂 (I love it when kids say dumb stuff in an attempt to have things their way)
@@smokersally1973 His mom left cuz it's wife swap, and Ik for a fact that it's not true. Just pay attention to him, you'll see he doesn't really seem bothered by the fact that she's gone, he cares more about technology so he's using his mom as an excuse to get what he wants
The white woman is looking at it from her eyes and those are Nigerians they did not come to America to have or give their children fun, they came to America to have a better life for their children and their children's futures. As a black American fun is not the 1st option when it comes to living every day in my life and raising my Son.
They're really happy without the partying and that type of thing, they have a great time at home, it's fantastic. However they're pretty old now and I do think they need some time to go out and meet people and socialize, as that's an important skill in adulthood (and any age). They probably know how but some time with friends (outside of school) without your family makes sure your life is balanced. Just a bit of it.
@@dothedo3667 It is important to interact with people outside your family because you will be in the work force and hour and the real world where you will interact with people who were brought up differently
when I was first watching this I thought this boy was ridiculous and I’m sure other people do too, But when he said the reason he watches TV is to forget about his mom being gone, it made me feel really bad for him because every night I go on my phone and I have to watch something or else I cannot sleep because it is my way of coping with all the scary things in my life and my terrible anxiety.
I'm shockedd, I have african parents and they shout at me if i stay at uni past 8pm to do work yet she's making it a rule to stay out past midnight with friends??!? I'd be laughing too XDD
@@kayleelesheski2254 perhaps, but their direction is much brighter than the children of the non-nigerian woman. There's a greater chance of those children having much worse relationships with their parents let alone the world, than the Nigerian children.
PA F oh for sure I agree with that statement, some direction is better than no direction. I just think the Nigerian parents need to allocate a bit of time in the week for their teens to be teens, not them going buck wild but going out and having fun with friends and their parents knowing where they are at
blendedtonesable I doubt that has never happened but I still stand by them feeling resentful, you can already tell what the teens feel by their facial expressions and the excitement they got when they finally got to have some fun and make a friend
The fact that the Nigerian mom was crying because the boy was so addicted to tv really shows that she really wants to help them and make there lives better.
This is why this show is great. Each mother has something to contribute to the other family. One mother is helping the teenagers who desperately need to evolve in this next stage with making friends and going out, and the other is teaching responsibility and… well not being or acting like a spoiled brat
This specific episode of wife swap was really great for me, because it reminds me a bit of my household. We have a similar dynamic to the Nigerian family, except we do have technology and consoles and stuff, because we believe that not everything is about work, but also not everything is about fun. To raise a child, you need discipline, but raising children isn’t all about discipline. I think discipline is more setting a guideline of what house rules to follow so everybody gets along, rather than reward and punishment. Every day we come home, do our chores, finish/start our homework, and then we can do what we like. I have a tv in my room, but getting it was a big thing, because I had to earn it. And because of that, I’m not hooked on it or spoiled by it, because it wasn’t just given to me. A few years ago I got an xbox, also a big thing, but it went in the living room. At the time, I was pretty hooked and always wanted to play it, and after some time of saving up I bought my own games, so it was allowed in my room. And because I wasn’t on it 24/7, and I grew to understand that moderation is important, I’m not a brat about it. Right now I play a lot of video games, and spend a lot of time in my room and I’m a bit of a nerd, but when I’m not playing video games I’m not jut sitting doing nothing, I’m reading, or drawing, or coding, and I eat healthy to balance out my lifestyle habits that involve a lot of sitting, so I’m not unhealthy. I think the Nigerian family has a good level of moderation, because they are pretty strict and work oriented, but they’ve grown in an environment where it isn’t forced upon them, and it isn’t seen as “work”. Fun is subjective, and even though to others it may seem like a chore, I agree that cooking as a family is a nice thing, and spending time as a family is fun on its own. It balances itself out, because the work oriented environment isn’t seen as work. The Caucasian American family is a little bit of a Mess.
I'm sorry, I'm not trying to body shame, or be mean. That 10yr boy Keign's weight is completely outta control. I know some kids are chubby when their young, and eventually slim out to a healthy weight. But that boys weight is obese and can create major health issues. New mommy I could gave a high 5 and a pat on the back, taking that game and TV outta his room. I would've called his tail out when he tried to play them. As soon as he said he missed mom, and watches TV to make himself feel better. So what's ur excuse when ur mom is there. He needs to enroll in some type of sports or activities that keep him busy. Cuz he's eating because he's bored. How could his parents let this get so outta control? It's hard enough being around other children that bully. They have let him make himself a big red target for other kids to pick on him. That's not even the major part of the weight. His heart is being over worked, hes a risk for diabetes, sleep apnea, and the list goes on. This is border line abuse and child neglect. If he was a pack of bones and malnourished, children services would be all over it. So the something should apply in this situation. Him and mom could do it together. They could go to a nutritionist get healthy meal plans, make out a workout plan, go for walks in the evening. Cuz let's face it he's learned his eating habits from her, she's killing herself and him with all that fast food cuz she's to lazy to cook. U can follow a recipe just as easy on star maps for directions to food places. Had he just been a little chubby I wouldn't had said anything. But his weight has gotten to a dangerous stage. I'm just concerned for him, I truly am, I'm not trying to throw no shade at him.
Thanks for this! Making the episode available to watch online is something I don't see very often, but appreciated seeing here. - Grateful viewer of random stuff
I think both moms did good with the rule changes but the Nigerian mom is killing it. Like this ladys outfits are beautiful her attitude is wonderful and i just think shes wonderful.
I wondered if anyone else caught that. It 100% looks that way to me too. I’m a handy(wo)man and I fix allot of this in homes. Including mine when I bought it.
He just wanted his wife to cook and have a say. I’m still shocked they’ve separated! I thought the other mom gave them great tools to use to help their marriage a family. Those kids loved helping paint and cook.
Friends are very crucial for kids. I dont understand how a parent who wants a successful child cant see that. Can prepare them all you want for leadership positions but if you isolate them from their peers they're not going to make it as leaders. Leaders know how to make strong connections, pick the right person for a job, read people, and convince them to follow instructions. Theres a lot of nuances that goes into being leader. I think you'll find that anytime your in a group and you have multiple people fighting for leadership positions, ultimately the group decides
Wow! I watched this whole episode and 😲. Honestly I thought it would be a disaster but both families really learned valuable lessons. Kinda sad at the 4 months later update, but maybe that's the takeaway from alternative knowledge.🤔 Wish them all the best.❤
@@karana9201 The Akinbode family started to try to balance discipline with a little more freedom for the children. Also, one of their daughters went out of state to attend college. Sadly, with the Mullis family, the parents decided to separate. I think in part due to the fact that they were able to get a glimpse of what an inclusive and loving family dynamic was like. Wish they could have used the lesson to work through their issues.
Honestly the only thing the Nigerian family did wrong was not letting their kids have fun or much fun I guess, other than that the Nigerian kids are going to grow up to be amazing people with amazing lives
I just hope that each family learn valuable lessons from each other and add those lessons to their everyday lives. All the best in the future to both families :)
Here is my conclusion: All work and no play doesn't foster leadership, these kids need to interact with different people. Also all screen time play and fulfilling your child's id is not gonna help them learn how to occupy and entertain themselves
I often wonder why we place expectations on kids that we don't place on adults. Me entertaining myself, as an adult include watching TV or play games. Moderate screen time in exchange for doing chores is a system that could work. Some videogames is actually good for your cognitive development and fine motor skills.
@@politereminder6284 Not what I mean, just its important for their kids to be around folks that aren't family (especially if Papa wants them to be leaders)
Im picking on the parents lack ....they allow this innocent to basically be morbidly obese bc they'd rather shove him off to games and tv than be active woth him
Is that boy seriously crying because he can't have tv and games for a few days?! My god! I don't blame him. I blame the parents for never instilling even a drop of resilience, strength etc in him. How will this boy handle life?!
