TikTok Teaches Us To Be Ladylike (w/ Chad Chad) 

right?? i understand how a lady would be expected to be gracious, but what the hell does “graciously” taking a bite look like lol. be courteous and kind to the sandwich you’re eating ladies!

I'm so glad you guys mentioned the "graciously " faux pas. And a good reminder not to go online acting all fancy unless an educated friend can gracefully skim your content for errors.

And for Heaven's sake, NO pinky crocking or raising. Your little finger is not an elegant accessory - it is simply a useful part of your hand. You'll definitely announce yourself as a parvenu if you do that 😀

Well I mean, they do sound similar so easy to mix up like lots in the English language lol.

It sounds right to me and I've heard others say graciously, like being proper and gracious

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I do not recall at any point being told or shown that it was good etiquette to WEIGH your sandwich down with one hand while awkwardly using a knife with the other to carve a fragment off which you then place in your mouth... with your fingers. Knife AND fork or finger sandwiches - not some daft hybrid of both approaches. She doesn't have the faintest idea what she's talking about in most situations 😕

maybe she meant any tattoo, because yknow this whole ladylike thing they hate tattoos and any other piercing than the lobes

@@primetimehomeI don’t think that makes it better

@@primetimehomewell some cultures have a very very specific references of bodily markings such as tattoos so if I’m their eyes women who follow their culture not elegant enough..

Yeah the amount of times I was told to sit properly (with legs crossed) is crazy.

being told to sit like a lady fucking sucks. it mostly happened whenever i was visiting my cousins or whenever we went to a restaurant. it sucked in general but was worsened by the fact that i was trans and didn't know it yet. fortunately i don't remember it happening to me a lot at home (unless there was a formal event or a birthday party) or at school, since the people around me weren't really formal at all. it still sucked whenever it actually happened. i'm so glad i don't have to do that anymore.

I was taught to sit Ladylike for pictures since like 3RD grade, that shit sucks so bad :,)

@@prageruwu69 I get being told if you're wearing a skirt or dress, but I don't get any other time.

@@delusion5867 I was told by older people and teachers no matter what I was wearing. No parents never did it as far as I can remember.

Underrated comment. Made me audibly snort in a very unladylike manner, thank you

Same 😂😂😂😂

But how can you leave if he doesn't lead you out?? Everyone knows that women can't walk on their own or open doors.

@@yourshoulderdevil5229 Yeah, I have to always ask a man if I want to leave a room. It's physically impossible to reach and use a doorknob.

@@Judys-Stuff Exactly. My dainty hands simply aren't capable of such a strenuous task. I need a big, strong, condescending man to do it for me.

I’d prefer a date not treat me like a child

If i saw a man do that to a girl i would slip her a note to blink twice if she needs help lol

I would leave lol

Same, definitely not into that

On the other hand if the girlie (*me*) wants to and agrees to being babied like that, it’s cool ✨ Just shouldn’t be forced upon anyone patronizingly

goblin grip lol

it’s the same with the way they’re sitting😭

A high class British aristocrat would be holding it with their feet like the DEMENTED FREAKS they are

It looks the other way around. Chad gripped it delicately, and Jordan looks like he mashed his hand into the microphone until the bones broke and the microphone was stuck.

​@@humanpeachypeach6437true

Got her, bro.

Mic drop

GET HER ASS

bad bad is chad chad after dark

at dawn she is chad bad chad bad because she gets in a weird halfway evil state

that gossip girl image is rotting my brain

time for me to insert that in my vernacular

goshitgirly

this meme is my roman empire

i always found that wierd, it's so strange they make some people do that? most people don't even want that ahh

the way i would instantly put it back on the table

that's just straight up sexual harassment

Ew- that’s such an unreasonable ask for a waitress and seems like a weird erosion of boundaries. And as a patron, my fight or flight response would activate if a waitress did that.

That's silver service waiter training, I'm afraid. Only with cloth napkins, though. And refusal (from the patron) is always to be accepted.

I'm a trans man, and I can't sit with my legs apart because I absolutely picked up on this connotation even as a small child. I still instinctively don't want to be "indecent" (to the point I'm a virgin because I'm so paralyzed by the idea of being "dirty'). Interestingly I'm way less bothered when I wear a packer, but not because of having a more masculine crotch, it's because there's another rather thick layer of material "shielding" my parts, thus making me feel less "exposed" even though I'm literally wearing at least two layers of fabric regardless! I still live with my mom and although she accepts me as a man, she insists on calling me a whore for dressing even slightly "immodestly" in the heat of summer when I have to be out in the sun for hours... She's fully aware I literally had one kiss in my teens and NOTHING since :') I guess even though I'm an adult since I have nothing "worthwhile" to "advertise" (I'm infertile) it's horrid for me to show any skin, and I couldn't possibly have any reason to ACTUALLY engage in that kind of intimacy :') The wildest part is my entire immediate family is atheist or agnostic so it's not even any concept of "sin". Purity culture is utterly disgusting and pervasive far beyond its means.

@@vaughnhaney7020 Right? Christian dogma has a chokehold on the whole of our culture. And what you said about feeling "exposed" really, truly encapsulates it all. Even though we couldn't understand it as kids, something about spreading our legs, something about having a body regarded as (and degraded as) female, just left us feeling vulnerable. Left us feeling deeply uncomfortable with exposure.

@@karaleigh_eva The fact that two layers of fabric over a body part that is mostly internal (and thus absolutely no detail can be seen at that point) can still feel "exposed" says a lot by itself tbh

The weird thing is that in Kindergarten I was trained to not sit with my legs crossed since it would cut off the bloodstream of my legs. But then when I went to elementary school every girl did it and then I was trained on that. Now I just do what fits the situation, but I do like "spreading" my legs a bit more than would be accepted by this woman.

Weirdly, I'm a cisgender male but I end up crossing my legs when I sit just because it feels natural to me at times.

please excuse me my good sir but I must make a trip to the crap closet.

The Piss Palace

the ol porcelain throne

The sewage shop

This took me OUT 😂​@@limelantern5637

It's also very much a choking risk to talk with food in your mouth, I've learned

I remember being in a restaurant with my ex step mother when i was about 8/10 and i had my elbows on the table. She smacked them and said "it isn't lady like to have your elbows on the table." For a solid 10+ minutes after i tried to figure out how to eat without putting my elbows on the table and i for the life of me couldn't figure it out and had a melt down i was sobbing because i felt stupid. But jokes on her, not lady like to cheat on your husband, abuse his daughter, and get high but at least she didn't put her elbows on the table.

@@BigTastyAppleWOAH that took a turn- I have a fun fact for you! Apparently the "elbow on table = bad" stems from how sailors would ALWAYS eat with their elbows on the table, so if their plate/dish started sliding from the rocking boat, it wouldn't get away from them. Then people (who? Dunno) would watch people eating, spot this sailor behavior, and kidnap them to force them to sail them somewhere :) this might totally be a myth, but it's kinda fun either way!

@@DreamtaleEnjoyer you're right, that is kinda fun/funny sounding but yeah thats all my life really is lmao a series of "wtf was that 180° turn holy jesus"

I put my elbows on the table to protect people. I have giant elbows. I feel like guyver

Sameeeeeeeee

Saaaaame 😂

Wait... neurotypicals DON'T do this?? How do they live like this????

Yes this is really relatable. I have to remind myself I don't need to tell everyone in my group chat that I'm going to take a shower.

@@lizzie31 honestly i dont know sometimes when im sleeping at my friends house i even feel a little anxious for HER not telling that shes going to shower (even tho im the only one there and i KNOW SHE IS SHOWERING) cause i just feel like anyone can come in at any time

Jarvis a real one

@@widethigh6ix9ine AS HE SHOULD

@@brkh96 Fr that’s why I love him as a creator

the way we're out here appreciating men for literally doing the bare minimum

@@naysha323 I know. All men should behave this way. Unfortunately they don’t sometimes. Jarvis is a good guy for being respectful though so I’ma say it.

awesome mom

❤‍🔥

thats so swag

W mom

My mom specifically told me and my sister not to cross our legs when sitting because it's bad for our circulation or whatever. But I'm a rebel so I did anyway

samesies

Hey, me too!

Fellow lady liker!

real

me too, fellow lady liker!

Ahhye I'm sorry you grew up like that 😢💛

Dude I'm legit a transman with a big anchor tattooed on my forearm! Similiar childhood story too! But we made it, man! I'm sorry I better finish reading this comment, sorry, but hey anyway!

finished it: totally get the second part. I used to just feel so dishonest dating girls pre transition and feel guilt like "if you fancy women at least like lesbian ones" and like "am I a traitor?" Haha, nope just trans.

I say this 100% unironically, slay.

"don't worry dad, i'm straight''

if I were seven and someone CLOSED MY LEGS FOR ME I would bite them instantly

@@hamburger7243 oh trust me I was not happy lol! I had (tbh still have) the habit of just smacking ppl who touched me so that's how it ended up going most times

Eew

If you couldn't cross your legs, were you able to uncross them yourself comfortably or did anyone consider that??? That sounds very disturbing

@@rattian1976 I could pick them up to move them but it was tricky so definitely not ideal. there is a general problem of some doctors moving disabled patients into the 'right' posture without taking into account that the person might already be sitting in their most comfy position, and they can't always get back to that easily without effort or even pain

I'd straight up wonder if they took a glance at their phone without me noticing and got a terrible message they had to attend to

Ewww sounds like victim blaming to me

ew ew ew ew ew that poem needs to go directly into the swamp where it belongs jesus christmas

they teach that to kids? ew

:( my first interpretation of "smart girls sit like this" is like business lady sit??? idk :( sad they teach tht to children

​@@karenbertke3149 okay Karen

@@karenbertke3149 I call bs. You waited TWO HOURS to talk to someone? You just…… sat there? How are these waiters supposed to go over and help you? They got their tables and you weren’t assigned to them. Not their problem. Shouldn’t have waited TWO HOURS before you finally decided to tell someone. Ffs. 🤦

just look at them like 👁️👄👁️

Unless your waiter purposefully avoids eye contact 😂

I use telepathy

The only correct way to eat (good) food is to smash it into your face hole looking absolutely feral and dripping in sauce or whatever tbh

@@jasonpreston2703 Exactly!

@@jasonpreston2703 Its scientifically proven that this advanced technique you are speaking of, makes food taste 14 times better! 🤘

@@Schneewittchen1310 big shoutout my boy science

Chewing and digesting is very unladylike, which is why I eat my date's meal and then vomit into her mouth. I am kidding, of course, I only date men.

i mean, thats the most comedic option. I'm just imagining a bleached blonde girl saying "Excuse me. One moment" and then going on one of those movie montages where she travels to every place in the world but through all her travels she has yet to find a b*thr00m because she's not allowed to say it

As a server, once a guy at one of my tables that had already paid shook his glass of ice as I walked by. I took that as a signal he needed another drink but when I went over to ask him he got embarrassed and felt bad and I just had a good laugh lol. It happens sometimes

@@damicamarshall5255 so you're a server, or were at the very least. I genuinely do not know the best way to call a server help

For a lady? - NEVER!

would you also like a toothless knife to graciously cut your sandwich in smaller, adequate bites?

@@miike2 what is a toothless knife

@@brkh96 maybe those little metal spatulas

@@brkh96 a knife that is not serrated

Ikr? That’s what I thought about too. If the seats you’re at are booths you can end up trapped on the inside. If you’re in normal chairs and the table is against the wall, same issue. However, what perplexed me most is: The tables in the video were like… benches??? Not a great idea for people to sit on the same side of those and put the whole thing off balance. Really, aside from the fact you can’t face each other completely and comfortably while talking, and aside from the fact that there will be an entire unoccupied side of the table that looks freaking weird when you’re not expecting other guests… all of it seems kind of deliberately uncomfortable and like it’s an attempt to cage the woman in and make her either feel a false sense of intimacy/closeness, or allow you to constantly touch her during the rest of the tips (the napkin thing, etc). I absolutely hate it and ngl if anyone did that to me I would immediately freak out a little. Especially on a first date? Urgh.

That just seems normal. My parents said it's supposed to be a gentleman's role to lead the lady to her seat and care for her. Maybe it's another thing of things changing in today's world though.

What? That's not a child. That's just how gentlemen treat ladies by caring for them and taught by parents. It's a nice thing girls like

@@fuzzyotterpaws4395 Once again, you are completely wrong! No, it is NOT the "gentleman's" role to do any of that! "It's a nice thing girls like". Lol, no, it is not. Why do I get the feeling that you have never even been on a date before?

I’d honestly love a chad chad minecraft let’s play

I hadn't finished the video yet when I read this and genuinely thought she'd do Minecraft let's plays, I got so excited........

I put cat food out at night

Please I need to know the manga

Please name???

we'll never know the name of this manga, it'll remain a mystery

I think it's Arakawa Under the Bridge, if you're still looking for it! :)

wait what does that mean? like, "the prim and proper lady you're looking for doesnt exist" or like "you just haven't seen apples big enough to fit the scale of who i am"? i dont get it lol

fr! i honestly felt surprised when they both just...*listened to her* talk about it without immediately taking the opportunity to speak as soon as there was a space inbetween words

This

This made me just realise that in England we're so casual about it we just call it "toilet"

And then my chinese friend proudly announcing "I'm going to poop!" Just say you're gonna use the bathroom, I don't need the details x)

Call it the shitter, the can, the litter box, or the piss hole instead! 😊

This makes me glad my parents at least would say "men's/ladies' room" instead

That just seems normal. My parents said it's supposed to be a gentleman's role to lead the lady to her seat and care for her. Maybe it's another thing of things changing in today's world though.

Why did you copy paste the same reply on multiple comments?

@@thatoneinsidejoke he needs people to know that we’re just weird and he isn’t or something

Same here but more cause I get super anxious when people watch me eat than cause of eye contact. I’ve just started asking people if we can sit next to each other instead of across though and so far no one’s seemed to care:)

I hate it because then when the waiter comes we're both looking at them and idk why but it feels really weird

​@@eh7995"thanks for coming today. Could you tell us why you'd be a good fit for this job role?"

I had all male cousins so had the same thing of wanting to be a boy cos they got to do whatever they wanted. I always thought it seemed so much easier - even just having a wee. As you say there's no point to it and as long as you follow what's polite for everyone (not gender specific) then you're fine

😂😂😂

Where you from, if you don’t mind me asking?

@@baintreachas Poland

Yeah I think that type of misogyny runs rampant in Slavic countries (other countries as well but I only ever interacted with Slavic people). I'm from Croatia and I remember when I was 10 my German teacher started yelling at me in class that I was sitting inappropriately because my legs were open not pressed onto each other, I wasn't even wearing a dress or a skirt that day. The worst thing is that there is no way he could see how I was sitting unless he was specifically looking there.

i live in brazil and i had the exact same childhood, i swear- my dad used to pull my ear really hard whenever i forgot to sit ladylike@@malwina5586

or, in more simpler terms, if she sits with her legs spread (like how men usually do.)

That’s where my brain spiraled as well lol

Leaving the house with wet hair is a really easy way to get sick. I think she was just trying to protect your health with that one.

@@CC-dc9sr In the winter, maybe, but we did live in Texas where it's hot the majority of the year. I do distinctly remember her telling me to go blow dry my still somewhat damp-ish hair before leaving because "it's unladylike." She mentioned getting a cold, but if I recall it was pretty warm outside that day. Blow dying does absolutely nothing to dry my hair in a timely manner anyway, it's so damn thick.

@@krisd2518 Even if it's warm, if it's also windy, I personally would end up with a headache and a fever at the end of the day.

@@CC-dc9sr Really? Huh. I've never actually gotten sick from having wet hair, that I can remember. If anything I find having slightly damp hair refreshing in the summer, it keeps me cool.

The two piece bathing suit thing is so funny to me because my upper torso and bottom half are different sizes, so one piece bathing suits haven't fit since I was about 12. They're either dangerously loose up top or uncomfortably wedgie-tight on the bottom. 😂

Good on u for standing up for ur lil sis! My mom made some weird comments on my lil brother and I always call her out onit

i imagine that was the original intention, but I only ever wore jeans and pants as a child, and I was still being scolded for sitting my knees too far apart.

Oh I HATE being lead by a hand at my back. I understand you need me t go in a certain direction but your👏hand 👏feels 👏like👏a👏big👏spider👏.

@@limelantern5637 i would mind a big spider less than a big hand

AGREED 100%. Especially being autistic and having SA trauma, one touch and I am GONE. And even without that, it's just common sense not to touch anyone without their permission, especially if it's one of your first dates... It baffles me how often people you don't know think it's okay to touch you when you're a woman

And i got called gay for crossing mine. Like mother fucker turn the heat up and i wouldnt have to tie myself in a knot. This was the teacher/pastor btw

Wtaf🤠

What the hell does that even mean?

This witch from loony toons that rides her broom side saddle. They were clowning it even back then

If he had been sitting in a ladylike manner, it wouldn't have been such a problem, lol

I totally agree that part of what's gross about manspreading is the misogynistic double standard, but spreading your legs in public, especially on public transport, is just rude. Leaving aside body shaming/genitals-are-bad norms, which we can all do without, it's inconsiderate and impractical, taking up space where someone else might sit. And then there's the whole weird, sexually aggressive part--I've definitely had dudes sit across from me on trains or on public seating, spread their legs and then make intense, deliberate eye contact. Basically, I am a fan of everyone keeping their legs closed while seated in most public settings. Like not to shame anyone, but just as a courtesy to share space comfortably with others.

literally. we're animals that need food to survive, who gives a damn how you eat it, just eat it!

I think internet more than covid. Covid gave it a boost for sure

I always thought it meant doing coke cuz of a movie i saw with uma thurman as a kid.

I’m doing a lot of writing and this actually helped, thanks Rando Aunt!

"Weird aunt" just makes me think of Colleen Ballinger now lol

@@eh7995 oh God, I didn't even think about that