To Date or Not to Date, That is the Question 

I swear, dwayne's that guy that your dad is buddies with and he just drops random balls of knowledge

If you guys like Dwayne, you'll probably also like 2BeBetter. They do roughly the same kind of content. Love both channels.

Stoic wisdom. He's giving us a chance to be better. Everyday we are blessed with life. We have choices. Max to mini ones. Always consider the golden rule saying before making any decisions.

exactly how i feel

Because nobody is listening. PRIDE.

But one of the problems of being young is that feeling that you 'know it all',,,,,life got me humbled after 40 when it is already too late.

​@@asafkomemy40 ain't too late to get on the right track! In fact, you have more experience to make better decisions.

@@nathanielriesterer9103 You right/ but i think after 40 it's a bit to late for kids

Very wise words DingusMingus69, very wise words indeed.

@@asafkomemy Nah

Sure thing , buddy Better be safe than sorry There s always tomorrow and at the end of the day , not everybody is relationship material anyway Bad relationships can destroy you so just take the time it takes If it s meant to happen , it will Be cool about it all Cheers from France 🙂

Same here man. About to turn 25. Mostly from being very isolated and homeschooled, though I do feel God has protected me from making any stupid decisions. Looking around at the horrendous culture today though, I think unless I can find a religious woman (and I question whether I'm really in any position to be thinking about relationships at all), I'll end up choosing some kind of celibacy and pseudo-monasticism in ten years time. Anything can happen though, so keep your options open because things often come from the strangest and most unexpected of places.

@@Crime_Mime 👍👍👍

​@@poireauer6517 Pas mon post mais merci pour ta réponse, c'est sympa et moi, j'ai besoin de ce conseil - mais honnêtement c'est un peu suprenant qu'il y a les français sur cette chaîne !

I'm 24 too(25 on mothers day), on the reverse side of the field where I've had 4 relationships[3 years;8 months;4 years; currently a separate 8 months] since I was 15 with hardly anytime separated from relationships/dating eras, and while throughout I was clearly serious about my endgoals(Life-partner) and they didn't get in the way of my own self-development, this video not only personally reinforced my own thoughts but I hope in watching this video as it shed some information that , maybe I subconsciously knew, I wasn't acknowledging - that when you find someone you want to pursue and maintain a relationship with that you assure yourself they have done the deeds required to obtain emotional maturity and firm decision/commitment to stay when the rough gets going, alongside not ignoring red-flags without addressing them before you yourself decide to entirely commit. I personally haven't gone jumping from person to person but in the few transitions that I've experienced, besides the lessons and experiences brought alongside them, I could've saved myself a lot of precious irreversible time. The reality is, if you love yourself whole for what you are and what you can become, the only reason to long for a relationship is for the mutually beneficial companionship and a life teammate, and like all things in life, if they don't add to you, they most likely will only subtract from you.

A better take would be to look at the qualities that would appeal and complement the type of person you would like to marry, and embody them wholeheartedly.

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That's awful advice. By and large men are unattracted to with women who have the qualities women find attractive in a man and women are unattracted to men who have the qualities men find attractive in a woman. As R_L said, look for what would complement that list, don't become it (Kevin Samuels used to tell women who would complain about not being able to find a man despite having a career, house and car "Congratulations, you became the husband you always wanted").

@deanchur Points taken. I was thinking more along the lines of shared core values, like kindness, work ethic, and financial responsibility.

5:40 here’s why I shouldn’t date

I’m 20 too, and although I love my dad to pieces, I’ve found thd advice in these videos to hit home as though it comes from a fatherly figure

Same

It appears that growing up without a father figure hasn't prevented you from becoming a sincere, polite and charming young man. Well done

So respectful. Listen to this guy and Jordan Peterson.

@@willjordan3121 the reason why you listen to this guy over your dad is because the simple fact that you dont respect your dad enough to listen to his advice and not want to seek it otherwise you wouldn't watch this and think it comes from "fatherly figure" more than your own fucking father smh

Saving this

Damn idolize then pulverize, I felt that

​@@ButtersDaBaller that's narcissism, not human nature

@@zj871023 human nature is to be narcissistic if you ask me, it just so happens working in tribes and towns and groups benefits us all. Then of course there’s God and logic and empathy which have since bound us into a society which we now grow up learning not to rely solely on our instincts

@@ButtersDaBallerWhen’s your Philosophy class? I’d love to join, seriously

I was about to make the same comment. Nice to see real clouds.... I live in Spain and the blue sky is crisscrossed daily with with lines from jet aeroplanes

It's even better in person, the video doesn't even do it justice. A road trip through that whole region is worth putting on anyone's bucket list. Even if it's a simple pass through I-80.

That's Montana for you. The state's nickname is "Big Sky Country" for a reason.

fr, it makes me want to live in wyoming

Same but 23

same but 24 soon 25. No need to rush things, but sometimes i feel like i'm falling behind

It used to be affordable to in the US! Everything is way overpriced now. Don’t beat yourself up. 1 wage used to be able to support 2 people/a family & minimum wage actually meant something and you’d still be able to get by with that. F the boomers they left us this shttttt n then call us lazy when we’re working multiple jobs, over 80 hours a week and STILL can’t afford to move out of our parents houses. Whether you went to college or not that’s unacceptable and SO disheartening. Then they call us soft when we complain about it. I’m sure I’ll get crap for my comment here as well talking bout “oh boo boo suck it up buttercup” or something of the sort. You’re meant to work to live not live to work. I got 99 problems at 90 of em can be solved with money. Look at the influx of onlyf@#s models. Women don’t know what else to do but sell their bodies to get by. Yes I’m angry. Society has failed us. They don’t know shtt. It’s a bigger issue.

@@zapataboy9377 moving out at 18 is such a US issue, I call it an issue because nowadays it's suicide by debt if you move out by 18 at minimum wages to start living on your own.

@@zapataboy9377you aren’t falling behind society is. This generation has been led astray and with the economy and housing market the way it is it’s no longer reasonable to simply move out any time in your 20s unless you go into so much debt you essentially commit financial suicide before you even own anything.

me too brother, me too !

32 haven't had a long term relationship yet. I am glad I didn't because now I am bringing my life in a direction I actually like.

Same

Yes. 47 now and where am I?

Yes, indeed both for my own self and my children.

Haha yes I thought the same thing

Apostrophes less so, apparently.

@@halfsourlizard9319Your really good for this grammar lesson. I think their should always be apostrophes. This is coming from an English teachers perspective.

@@halfsourlizard9319 So actually help me out then I was in english honors and I was in a hurry but go ahead and show me where I can be corrected We're going to be a whole lot better if we actually help each other instead of just being a salty m effort

@@c.t.6314there lol

In an increasingly dogmatic world it’s important to remember a majority of the manosphere and that type of content is literally all preference and from the perspective of insecurity. This is the kind of talk that helps, an experienced man with his own method that worked and saying you can try too if you’d like

As a turkish guy who lives in turkey at his 20s, I absolutely guarantee that

Why let the economy stop you? Go forth, young man.

You don't need much money at all to spend quality time with another person.

@@angelatrinh1156 but you need "much money" to raise a family

​@angelatrinh1156 not true. All women need to be paid in some way or form.

Nobody cares anymore. Its combat dating. Its deception from the first sentence and worse, you dont have to be interested beyond friendship. Its a liars society

Could you explain more on courtship then?

It's the same thing as dating. You can mess up both. People just like to use the word courtship instead. The only thing that matters is the intent with which your doing either.

But you just said there not the same, so what then is the difference?

@@willjordan3121 Different people.

Even when I was 27/28, I felt so grown and “mature”..I’m almost 34 and reflect back on that younger version of myself and think “I didn’t know shit”. I’m sure I’ll think the same about my 34 year old self when I’m 40

You felt grown up at 16?!? At 18, I feel pretty immature haha

What part of Nibaro? You may be one of my offspring 😅

Given that Nibaru is going to be moving into our solar system soon, getting a date on Earth will be a lot easier for you 🤣

Take a long break and enjoy life for a bit… you’ll be ready later.😊

You mean you're actually going to believe somebody with a long beard who looks like he's from Amish land

You mean you're not going to believe him because he has a long beard and looks like he's from "Amish land"? Sounds like much sounder judgment. Glad you got it sorted out.

I became a monk because of the terrible hook up culture of our time. No one wants authentic relationships anymore. It's a sad but very real reality.

​@@ZenPepperClubso what's the problem? 😅

Don't fish in the dumpster!

​@@janelleg597where do you recommend to fish

@@janelleg597🎯

Dating apps are useless, especially for men. They are designed to make you spend as much money on them as possible by dangling different offers in your face and breaking down your self-confidence.

My personal experience…buy a house, buy things you need. Get your life set up before you consider dating. Because trust me it will get in the way of that stuff especially in your 20s. Dating in 30s is the best dating pool. Mature enough. Settled down.

He did say the two young men continued to pursue his daughters from their youth.

Just a question brother. My story with my ex was kinda the same I'm almost 20 now and broke up with her 7 months ago because she did some things that really hurt me and I didn't see any progress of her trying to fix it. Have you ever broken up with her or did you have issues of that kind (pauses?)? I think I still love her but don't want to do the move since she doesn't really understand or doesn't want to understand the mistakes. But yeah life will show us what will happen.

​@@bledizuta8963move on brother... You can have a better life and partner moving ahead with higher self confidence and experience🥂💯

​@bledizuta8963 you're young and free. Handle the suffering and grow through it. You'll find love again.

​@@bledizuta8963this is directly from Tristan Tate "if you've broken up or are on a pause, you can only take her back under one condition: that she hasn't ran off to cry to another man or fucked about." I feel that the condition is actually reasonable. Otherwise it's best to move on, build yourself up, and maybe, if you meet her in the future, just politely greet her and carry on with your life. Because the truth is if she's the one, she'll wait and guard her self-respect. If she went off to another man, well, she was never the one to begin with, because you're obviously replaceable and she's not emotionally mature enough yet to understand the value of her purity.

Yes sir, very sound wisdom. As a 70 year old I find myself too soon old and too late smart. You are 100 percent correct 🙏😊

I'm 35 and just got out of a relationship of four years. Exhausting to say the least. I also wish I had heard Dwayne's wisdom many years ago.

@kyle Spot on , buddy !

Wise young man.. save yourself from the uncertainty.. try and travel aboard a few times

@@modocroughstock5700 I appreciate the comment! I actually have been overseas quite a few times in my life and even once to South/Central America. But have yet to fully explore this great country, so I took a trip to the mountains of Colorado during this past Winter and I plan to visit Wyoming next to get a chance to see the beautiful country men like Dewayne were born and raised in. I look forward to the future more than I ever have before now. Take care! :)

I think the method is to go through the uncertainty to ne certain. You dont want to spend life avoiding uncertainty.

Thank you for your posted comment. Today, you've been a blessing to me making me feel less alone in my own sense of "being behind the curve on relationship-forming and how waiting to become a well-formed think-for-yourself, decide-for-yourself kind of person is so necessary to making a good-enough choice when it comes to choosing what I believe is supposed to be a "LIFE-partner."

Don't search, just keep your eyes open - and prenup!!! Good luck

Don’t Be scared of rejection be very thankful and thank the universe for having your back

Yeah I'm 27 and still working on that good career qeh

And a million pound lawyer and legal team 😂

​@@lowtechderrickA prenup is a preparation for the possibility that a marriage can end. How can you expect our Lord to bless your marriage together if you're preparing for a way out?

Had to reply because I’m in the exact same boat/age. Glad you found faith and hope you are doing well. I learned a lot from my last relationship and shoulder a lot of blame for my actions or lack thereof.

Amen brother 🙏🏽

Thank you so much for this. I agree with you 100% on the physical side. We are way to physical these days way to fast.

I think you did perfectly in that respect. You can’t pour from an empty glass so to speak. Being her own woman first matters. Just as being your own man. Good call there

I'm in my mid-60s. And feel the same way.

I think it’s a little different for you old gals, there isn’t much time like the youth he’s talking to so I would suggest just putting yourself out there. Davie you already know who you are there’s no need to repackage yourself, just work on the areas where there may be baggage & put your best self forward. Grieve but don’t stay in it. Move on. Wishing you all the best.

❤ Recently widowed too. It’s going to take some time. ❤

Even for those of us 60 and older, the advice Dwayne is giving is excellent and should be taken to heart. It doesn’t necessarily get easier as one gets older, except that hopefully we learn from past experiences.

A widow is a widow, and isnt meant to date, if your husband was your soulmate, why would you need to go find someone else? It only shows your relationship was only based off your own needs because you cant stand being alone/single, sounds alot like the problem this man was explaining

Buckle up

​@@janelleg597.....lol 🎼

A lot of truth to this. 40 is still young enough!

Purtroppo -- Dwayne e' niente piu' che un grande uomo fra gli bambini d'un umanita' profundamente perso. Sono americano. Chiedermi perche dico tale -- e lei dimostrero'. A real man is able to handle criticism. Dwayne is unable.

bro got catfished🤣

@@lucasgallen6726 No, I'm talking about something deeper than physical appearance.

So true!

@@lucasgallen6726They’re telling the truth. Not sure what you thought you did with that comment

Wonder if he was young and single would those statements work for him? I mean this isn’t the 99’s and 2000’s and more women have more options for men like searching for things on eBay, you cannot find it Walmart.

No, I think you should mate, don't use this video as an excuse not to

I learned it's not about luck. It's about preparation. When you are prepared and ready, it will happen naturally.

@@chickbowdrie4750 Gotchya! 👍

Exploring with no intent for commitment is emotionally risky and selfish because you end up using others

Believe in Jesus for peace and true love

@@casillasangel I believe in God and his timing. He knows what’s best for me and being patient. I’m at peace. Took a whole yr of healing, but finally at peace.

@@_mindhuman amen good to hear God bless keep fighting the good fight

Amen sista. This is why I don’t date. Dating these days just equates to hooking up and I don’t do hook ups.

You're so strong! and it sucks we have to be, but I can relate.

I'm 43 and had just started dating again about 3 years ago after the ending of a 20 year relationship. And I think I'm going to take his advice too. I don't want to be married again, so maybe I should not date at all. I just want community and friends. I would never wish away my kids, but a lot of misery would have been avoided if I spent my 20s learning myself, rather then trying to build a relationship with someone who also had no clue.