Top 10 Things Women First Notice About A Man

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Top 10 Things Women First Notice About A Man. In this video, Jeff from The Style O.G. discusses the 10 things women first notice about a man upon first impression.
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@dvs70 4 года назад

Hygiene, hygiene, hygiene....... everything else is icing. Fresh and clean diminishes the space between (you and her).

@TheStyleOG 4 года назад

I like it Jeffery!

@kutchiecutlass4626 4 года назад

Jeffery Davis exactly because women luv to get close

@CooLin1stPlace 4 года назад

Stay fresh, stay clean.

@amarushekuku 6 лет назад

The most important thing to me was... personal hygiene Grooming, fresh breath and smell. Next... sense of style. (Swag). *I don't do those things for women, though. I do them because they help me build up my confidence*

@KwabzModding 4 года назад

*This. I am a king, so I dress like a king.*

@Godedu1 4 года назад

I like that

@filupinonearts4537 4 года назад

amen

@filupinonearts4537 4 года назад

i dress like a bad boy

@marciawade9101 4 года назад

Nothing wrong with that. Do it for you so your confidence and self-worth are already in place.

@jamesknott610 4 года назад

Attitudes. When I stopped chasing, they came running. It's sad they love the "don't care about anything" attitude.

@steveharrington8705 4 года назад

That's a fact Jack!

@nathanieleden8209 4 года назад

100PERCENT CORRECT!

@objackson2997 4 года назад

‼️🎯

@mikeandmars2345 4 года назад

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@robertboone6504 5 лет назад

Great video, OG. This is a winner top to bottom. No one zooms in on grooming details like a woman. They are very observant, even when it appears they might not be. They take in a lot of info at what may seem to be a glance. Tighten up fellas. Thanks again, Og!

@TheStyleOG 5 лет назад

you got it Robert!

@oflionandmen 4 года назад

I agree with all these. I workout daily in the morning taking full body classes. Majority of the room is attractive trophy wives. I'm been complimented several times on my smell. I also keep mints in my bag so my breathe is always fresh. I often have women stand very close to me during a conversation. It's a combination of body type (lean fit plus tall) hygiene (smell good) style (confident swag) women like strong masculine men with a strong appearance and good hygiene.

@donalddavenport7516 3 года назад

What's up Jeff Donald from Cincinnati checking in.im curious how many couples have you got together because you are speaking the truth and as always great advice and Salute

@freedomring3022 4 года назад

hygiene goes a long way. A woman once told me, an average guy can instantly become above average if they take care of themselves and dress well.

@marciawade9101 4 года назад

She's ABSOLUTELY correct.

@mikeandmars2345 4 года назад

Fact's and that's for everyman

@garlicgirl3149 6 лет назад

All true...I notice how you shake my hand. If limp I am thinking weak, if too hard I am thinking "dang I am not a dude!" and if just right I am thinking he is normal. LOOOOL! Clean hands a must!

@tedwilliams765 4 года назад

❤

@NoName-sp5dp 4 года назад

Yup!

@DeCurtaRican 4 года назад

Garlic Girl : A woman should never judge a man’s shake, as long as it isn’t too firm. A man who shakes your hand softly is showing you respect as a woman. If you don’t want that type of care and respect it says a lot about you. Men shouldn’t have to figure out how firmly or softly to shake a woman’s hand. Unless she is a high-powered business colleague, softer should always be better - as a rule of thumb. Even in business it should be on the softer side of medium.

@marciawade9101 4 года назад

@@DeCurtaRican You're not serious? Why are you so angry? Shouldn't judge his handshake?? This is what O.G. is talking about; how to give a woman a good, respectful handshake! Didn't you watch the video???? Should we judge the size of your penis instead?? This is the type of nonsense and contention we don't need. Chill out and do better.

@lizalane16 4 года назад

All points very good!!

@TheStyleOG 4 года назад

Thanks Liza !

@sauxe_lee23 5 лет назад

2 years later and I still watch this lol

@TheStyleOG 5 лет назад

Guess it’s aging well! Lol

@kennethmoragne5870 4 года назад

ALL key points! Specifically, the shoes...the hands...the smell & the grooming. Jus' like my momma told me! I call it.." The Formula". 🤣 Works Everytime!!

@melvinmckinney9120 4 года назад

Nice video Jeff. This video proves how observant a woman can be . We gentleman should be aware of these things.

@TheStyleOG 4 года назад

Thanks Melvin!

@henriknordlund5568 Год назад

I would definitely add that the very first thing a woman notices about a man is his energy. If he is letargic and tired, moving slowly, then she probably wont notice him at all. On the other hand... If he has an aura of energy and optimism about him, this will draw eyes upon him automatically. Hope that helps!

@miguelromano6631 4 года назад

So simple. .. but simple goes a looong way when done right!... love these videos ☆♡

@Jnk_xxtatterajYT 4 года назад

They all were on point, my wife tells me about grooming dressing and shoes.

@TheStyleOG 4 года назад

appreciate the feedback!

@bazlh 4 года назад

I think a positive attitude can be important. If she hears you being needlessly critical of something or negative that can't be a great first impression. I also think actions speak louder than words, like being helpful, polite or showing good manners.

@TheStyleOG 4 года назад

appreciate the input!

@tnice8282 4 года назад

These videos helped me step my game up majorly!

@TheStyleOG 4 года назад

Glad to hear it Taevon!

@larryarrington7680 7 лет назад

Nice work - please continue sharing the wisdom.

@TheStyleOG 7 лет назад

Thanks Mr. Arrington!

@johnnyomerta1730 7 лет назад

You should do a "man training" just like you are doing now but for teenagers. I work with teens in a bad spot and they could use a MAN to teach them how to be a man. In whatever city you live in that is.

@TheStyleOG 7 лет назад

well said Johnny. i do some mentoring now but plan on ramping it up in the near future..

@garlicgirl3149 6 лет назад

Sounds like you are doing it now! :D

@brownpunk1794 4 года назад

Good call

@raymondabraham678 4 года назад

Hey O. G. Keep up the good work. These are valuable videos.

@TheStyleOG 4 года назад

will do Raymond!

@marciawade9101 4 года назад

BRILLIANT and TRUE! 👍💖👍💖

@NateInDC 4 года назад

This is an oldie but goodie O.G., I notice women always look at my shoes so that's a fact, good tips Jeff

@justjacqueline2004 6 лет назад

I noticed my husband's ginger hair and I mean bright orange ginger.So there I was a young woman of mixed race staring at a 6'3"freckled bodybuilding freak show I thought with rough hands;then he looked at me and smiled and blushed.Today I am fast approaching sixty whilst he turned sixty January gone,he works on the roads in all weather with his team,now his hair is peppered with white and his face is wrinkled and more tanned with freckles and his body is just as hard and his hands are even rougher.Still remember the first sighting of that ginger hair.

@TheStyleOG 6 лет назад

I love a great love story Maria!

@antwans6122 6 лет назад

Good video Style OG, keep them coming..

@TheStyleOG 6 лет назад

I got you Antwan!

@LittleMissSunshine721 4 года назад

Hands are sooo important! A handsome man can go from 10 to 3 very quickly if he has long fingernails. It creeps me all the way out. If there’s dirt up under there and he’s not a mechanic, just send me home.

@TheStyleOG 4 года назад

you heard her fellas!

@DivineKingsta 4 года назад

The Style O.G. I overstand 💯. I just can’t touch my woman with dirty hands. Can’t have nasty fingers a do foreplay stuff if you know what I mean. Bacteria is something dudes needs to take serious. I know some dudes that keep black ass fingernails. Lol

@kutchiecutlass4626 4 года назад

TheLovliestTear No doubt Empress! It’s also a indication of a few things

@yourstruely7470 4 года назад

U beaitiful

@yourstruely7470 4 года назад

U taking friend applications

@tyronedukes8572 4 года назад

Always on point. Solid advise no matter the age

@TheStyleOG 4 года назад

Thanks Tyrone !

@carollangart5659 4 года назад

The most important thing that he say for me was " gauge the situation"

@jmorgan0829 7 лет назад

great video as always.. Jeff i admire ur drive!! keep up the good work ❤.

@TheStyleOG 7 лет назад

Appreciate it Jeannine!

@itdoesmatteryep8822 3 года назад

Great content even for married guys. Thanks!

@TheStyleOG 3 года назад

No problem!

@casualsuede 6 лет назад

All this top 10 is dressing to that one thing that women care about: confidence and self esteem. None of these top 10 work items individually, they all support the self confident, high esteem men. Men think what watch you sport, the clothes you wear, the shoes you don, the car you drive will do the talking for you. That is bs, it enhances the real you, but women are much more "6 sensorical" than us men (yes 6 senses, not 5...they have the "je ne sais quoi" sense).

@TheStyleOG 6 лет назад

appreciate your perspective!

@jstar6543 6 лет назад

@@TheStyleOG his perspective is correct!

@sahejdeepsingh668 6 лет назад

I simply love your videos Jeff

@TheStyleOG 6 лет назад

Thanks Sahejdeep !

@sahejdeepsingh668 6 лет назад

The Style O.G. please make a video on summer style

@terrillmarshall5798 5 лет назад

Women notice your body shape first, then you face, then your sense of humor , how smell, hardworker, how smart you are, (potential)are going be successful in the future and how much money you making, how much money you are spending. she can give a damn about shoes. "YOU HAVE TO MAKE MONEY 💰". Having a bad body odor or bad breath around women is worst thing you can do

@kareemdavis1500 4 года назад

Nawh, I think face come before body with women.

@EzeValentine 6 лет назад

I keep watching your videos always, I’ve watched it times without number because there’s always something to learn about your ethics on a mature dress sense...don’t stop bro, please I’m looking up to you and I’m slaying daily by just copying some of your styles. Please don’t stop...my street cred depends on this bro.

@TheStyleOG 6 лет назад

I got you Eze!

@edjones229 4 года назад

On point list! 👍🏾😎

@donalddavenport7516 4 года назад

The smile and the breath was a key point

@markbay6775 6 лет назад

The smell is the truth. This is the secret a lot of men are sleep on. You are right this will get a man far

@spectre5x5 5 лет назад

Great video Jeff!!

@dropjewlz 4 года назад

All good points!! And confidence too

@TheStyleOG 4 года назад

appreciate the feedback!

@Shaq34332 4 года назад

Great video brother.....BUT...I DON'T dress to impress women! I dress for ME..... I really appreciate your videos.... From Toronto,Canada Peace

@TheStyleOG 4 года назад

why can't you do both?

@Shaq34332 4 года назад

@@TheStyleOG I am turning 50 this year...been there....done that...To me, it's NOT worth it. What I have learned is Be me, do me, women are EVERYWHERE! (and they know and will let you know if they want you or not regardless of all the external stuff) All those things you mentioned don't mean anything (with respect of course) to them. That's all for show for her family and friends.... Just my two cents... Peace

@TheStyleOG 4 года назад

i guess we have just had very different experiences. Peace

@An9eL_C 5 лет назад

I agree with every single step but unfortunately the most important noticeable quality is how much $$$ you have...

@thumbsdown7684 5 лет назад

Nah

@sentry9834 4 года назад

Nonsense. There is no way on earth you can tell how much money a person has by looking at them.

@daveb6969 5 лет назад

Going in for a peck on the cheek of a women you just met is a sure fire way to get a harassment claim

@anthonywiley9237 4 года назад

Play at your own risk huh. But don't do this at work. At the club.

@marciawade9101 4 года назад

Yep.

@kslim17 4 года назад

Great video

@TheStyleOG 4 года назад

Thanks!

@piijay14 4 года назад

Woman do notice shoes cuz they're always complimenting my western boots which im usually wearing. Works with most of my outfits.

@473sgpm2 4 года назад

All good points, and women don’t like dirt and rugged looking nails. I learned that decades ago. Women don’t want to deal with men on a personal level if his nails are dirty and not maintained:

@473sgpm2 4 года назад

Jay-Rari Scott It was that easy but seeing as I went through a life changing event, for me it’s not.

@473sgpm2 4 года назад

Jay-Rari Scott Thanks, no worries.

@RogerLoera 6 лет назад

Damn OG! I like your calm confident demeanor. No showing off, just being yourself. Great advice.

@TheStyleOG 6 лет назад

appreciate it Rogelio!

@TheThekapuka 6 лет назад

A good nice looking watch. Women’s loves small details

@TheStyleOG 6 лет назад

true indeed!

@kg40025 4 года назад

First Last very true

@NoName-sp5dp 4 года назад

@First Last stop whining

@NoName-sp5dp 4 года назад

Yup digital watch = tech nerd cutie, business watch = business man, apple watch = ...i hope he's not texting ppl 24/7

@fjones1914 4 года назад

I’ve rarely had a woman notice any of my watches.

@jimmyedmondsjr9376 7 лет назад

Great video always enjoy your content.

@TheStyleOG 7 лет назад

Appreciate you Mr Edmonds!

@aranariss1 4 года назад

Love the videos O.G

@TheStyleOG 4 года назад

appreciate it!

@abubakrsalim9622 4 года назад

Never ever kiss/hug a woman you are just meeting that is totally inappropriate and a violation of her personal space. I rock with the og but he totally dropped the ball on this one

@luxurybuzz3681 4 года назад

I've only ever gotten positive reactions

@JustMe-999a Год назад

Wrong

@paulfonseca9103 3 года назад

Would you consider guerlain vertiver and good substitute for tf grey vetiver

@Biscuit9891 5 лет назад

the shoes part was interesting to me, but makes much sense.

@lennlenn1055 4 года назад

Its true😊

@lauritapolk9400 4 года назад

Yes, women definitely pay attention to your shoes.

@davidkittrell4793 4 года назад

I myself tend to sport the casual look..sport jacket button down shirt and jeans..you can't lose when you wear a quality pair of shoes!!..and a exquisite scented cologne!!☺☺

@whawkins8636 5 лет назад

Classic video as always

@brixtion 5 лет назад

Love the OG my guy for real

@TheStyleOG 5 лет назад

Salute!

@maywthrfan 7 лет назад

yessssssirrrr....the og dropping Gems.....

@TheStyleOG 7 лет назад

Much love as always maywthrfan!

@stevietstevens9384 4 года назад

Interesting. Interesting because I hadn't paid much if at all any attention to many of the points you mentioned and this platform is good for young even older women like myself. e.g. hands (I've seen a few w/dirty finger nails), grooming, posture, greeting/s (important to me) voice and body language. On sense of style though, I believe many women tend to confuse sense of style w/swag. Many of our particularly sisters get caught up in the swag of men and ignore what sense of style really is. Maybe you could do a video on that huh?

@sunshinesunflowerz1647 4 года назад

Tell your mama and your lady, I said: thank you! 🙂

@TheStyleOG 4 года назад

will do!

@mychaelpierce8049 4 года назад

Nice job!

@TheStyleOG 4 года назад

Thanks Mychael!

@marshallshebillah3026 5 лет назад

OG you the men ...fist bump 👊

@TheStyleOG 5 лет назад

Salute Hemedi!

@sauxe_lee23 5 лет назад

O.G thanks for the motivation 25/8 💯

@geneinnewade1278 4 года назад

The approach or greeting is perhaps the most important. Were you nice, kind, friendly and not hyper sexual? Seems to be lacking a lot now a days and is honestly why some men no matter how handsome, won’t get the attention they are going for. This man is stating facts. Take notes. 📓

@TheStyleOG 4 года назад

appreciate the feedback Doll!

@miapdx503 4 года назад

What you said about the way a man talks. Men who think they need some ridiculous "line," no, talk to me like you have sense. Hard to respond to a line, but say something normal, conversational, say it calmly. You would be surprised how many really attractive women are lonely, because men literally don't know what to *say.* Talk to her like you would if she weren't attractive. Try it. No one likes to be treated like a creature from another planet.😩😧

@mansamusa1452 4 года назад

I agree totally most men are intimidated by attractive women, what's one thing you notice first about a man

@miapdx503 4 года назад

@@mansamusa1452 may sound funny, but his posture. You can tell a lot about people by the way they carry themselves.

@martincutts4786 4 года назад

Your correct every thing you said

@haitianprodigy8600 5 лет назад

The one thing all women reaaaaally look for in a man: Whether you're broke or papered up. All else take a back seat fellas. Great video though.

@anthonywiley9237 4 года назад

Good one. No money no honey. Mo money mo honey. U called it paper up. I call it caked up.

@kennydawson265 4 года назад

Spot-on!

@felix64able 4 года назад

Can not argue with that

@caliking2x 4 года назад

You def right if theyre a woman who wants to use you for your money

@drawfirst 4 года назад

Loser talk son, ladies with rich partners need love too..one for the honey and one for the money....if your game is tight you might not get to buy but you may get a tour.

@drawfirst 4 года назад

Assuming you are reasonably presentable the order is as follows;(1) shoes (2) nails...(3) timepiece.

@victorjohnson2567 5 лет назад

#yessir, Jeff...... you have to be well groomed and smell fresh when you’re close to a lady, she will survey your appearence..... I myself have had a anxiety over clean nails and a fresh haircut!! #first expression everlasting😎👍...thanks Jeff for hitting on key awareness of self knowledge!

@TheStyleOG 5 лет назад

Salute Victor!

@tedwilliams765 4 года назад

On point OG!!!

@TheStyleOG 4 года назад

Salute Ted !

@tedwilliams765 4 года назад

@@TheStyleOG Salute!!!Doing a great job!!

@bdewarrior5 4 года назад

😏 FEB 2020 and this video is still on point🎯👍🏾😎

@TheStyleOG 4 года назад

Salute!

@leonard2051 4 года назад

100% on Point

@nickcrown6487 7 лет назад

I concur O.G. Great looking Jacket. I too enjoy the content, the wisdom is enlighten.. From my experience everything that you have touched on I have heard women speak of. My sister is big on smells and personal hygiene. Particularly the teeth and body grooming. Dressing is a plus and if you dress well that a bonus, but you mentioned how women like you to listen. That is probably my biggest obstacle. Thanks again for your knowledge and as always presenting a great presentation.

@TheStyleOG 7 лет назад

Good stuff Nick!

@garlicgirl3149 6 лет назад

Men and women are different in this department so it is hard overall for both. I have to remember to not overload my brothers with talking. LOL!

@Andy-kw5nw 4 года назад

I thought duck taping a pair of tube socks in my crotch would work.............it didn’t.

@lwrncjms 4 года назад

Ayyyoo

@felix64able 4 года назад

lololol

@thevizkid 4 года назад

lol

@FemininitywithMommaGail 4 года назад

Yes Sir!!!! Good Stuff😊

@TheStyleOG 4 года назад

Appreciate it!

@voodootomato 7 лет назад

Your vids are on point brah!

@TheStyleOG 7 лет назад

Thanks Mr Nelson!

@markbay6775 6 лет назад

You got game player

@robertbonner8074 3 года назад

Thanks

@TheStyleOG 3 года назад

No problem

@oriyomilewis644 4 года назад

I am still here, after 3 years of dropping it.

@tarikbey1755 5 лет назад

Good Vibes on point...

@TheStyleOG 5 лет назад

Thanks Tarik !

@stevietstevens9384 4 года назад

Oh! and shoes I once dated a man, although it was just a stroll in the park, I couldn't help but notice his shoes: they were cheap and run over to nearly dilapidated - Oy vey!. I believe that even on a budget, a good pair of shoes, sneakers - whatever - speaks volumes.

@TheStyleOG 4 года назад

You heard the lady!

@lauritapolk9400 4 года назад

We definitely look at your shoes. It tells us if he is cheap or not. 😀 We figure if he don't spend money on his self then.... 👎

@isaaccrimes5205 4 года назад

SALUTE! I'm complimented by her on a regular basis

@chelle617 4 года назад

Sharing with my son!

@TheStyleOG 4 года назад

Thanks!

@marvaelson8956 4 года назад

You're as right as rain...

@TheStyleOG 4 года назад

Thanks Marva!

@emmanuelantwi-adjei8224 7 лет назад

Watching u everyday from Berlin

@TheStyleOG 7 лет назад

Salute to you in Berlin Emmanuel!

@melenico4512 4 года назад

She doesn't notice my Visa Card expiry date 😂😂.

@theresahayward5471 4 года назад

Mele Nico You are truly hilarious!!! That too! A man with a good sense of humor! It would work for me! 🤣

@rjgordon77 4 года назад

All facts!

@TheStyleOG 4 года назад

Appreciate the feedback Rashida!

@Kinemon284 4 года назад

I work in a department store I don't wear a uniforme I be more casual but I make sure I smell good that's for sure, since from managers to cashier are women but I don't worry about them, since I interact more with men and women customers I like to intimidate other make idk it's just my instinct and ofcourse make female customers approach me without feeling uncormfatble.

@tineshiabobbitt62 4 года назад

Yes hygiene is very important and clean cut nails that's the first thing I notice. I was at networking event and I was introduced to a man and when he greeted me he creeped me out by not just a peck on the cheek but a long kiss on the cheek and touching my face! 🤮 I was surprised that a grown man would not know not to do that.🙅🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️.. Jeff love your videos and I hope this guy is watching to learn what to do when greeting a lady.

@marcussolomon2241 4 года назад

The thing is, everything u say is cool if your going out or to an event, etc.... but wht if u see the female of your dreams getting off work looking rough or dirty or coming from the gym or playing ball & your all sweaty?? I guess that's where being clean cut & smelling good cld work to one's advantage....

@cesarflaminio4011 4 года назад

Nice the color of your blazer

@TheStyleOG 4 года назад

Thanks!

@nvworthy 7 лет назад

lol lol Jeff.. I love it, this. your sister notices everything. she notice how and she says I lack in all categories. Im, not much of a dresser,cologne person and I'm learning to listen better. Jeannine helps me with the dressing and your nephew with the cologne. but now I'm checking the o.g. out I'm gonna step it up. lol

@TheStyleOG 7 лет назад

Haha! My man!

@sumerig4423 7 лет назад

im giving you likes on everyone your video great content

@TheStyleOG 7 лет назад

Much respect Sumeri G!

@nononsense5182 2 года назад

Have an assortment of footwear (not just gym shoes)😁

@fireingpin74 4 года назад

Do you coach? New to the channel

@fireingpin74 4 года назад

If so, could you send some info

@kennydawson265 4 года назад

Excellent!

@TheStyleOG 4 года назад

Thanks Kenny !

@visionarybrushstroker7694 3 года назад

Ole cool ass dude 💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼

@TheStyleOG 3 года назад

Salute !

@titanjake8640 4 года назад

Always noticed men and women look at shoes!! Why is that? A woman judged me about my shoes one day and gave me the side face. Then later I saw her again I was getting out of a high profile car then she wanted to speak. Ummm. Cya Felisha. I think it is dumb. I could just be lounging. Shoes should not define a person.

@YesDaddyTDPop 4 года назад

A Ja she’s a gold digger looking for all the good things

@banimyahawadah8062 6 лет назад

Two things that I notice after they look me is they look at my ring finger then my shoe or in vice versa..

@reasonablefashionformen3025 7 лет назад

I dig what you saying. The first thing my wife noticed about me was my chest & my smile.

@TheStyleOG 7 лет назад

gets em every time!

@reasonablefashionformen3025 7 лет назад

lol show ur right

@antwandarellefenton 4 года назад

Cool swag king nice dress code ✊

@TheStyleOG 4 года назад

Thanks!

@antwandarellefenton 4 года назад

@@TheStyleOG 👊🇬🇧😁

@oldmasteralexmcclellan6443 4 года назад

Being an older man thank you

@TheStyleOG 4 года назад

no problem!

@oldmasteralexmcclellan6443 4 года назад

@@TheStyleOG being in my sixties I do work a lot well I used to work a lot I'm retired now but I still got my hustle going on there are a lot of things at that I had actually forgotten about thank you for reminding me or different things that young women do because I get a lot of 35 and 40 year-olds coming around me all the time and brother quite frankly I'm not interested I'm looking for a seasoned woman either my age or older I don't need children because I got children