Top 10 Dating Red Flags 

I am a woman and take it from me, this gentleman is correct!

If the woman is pleasing to the eye and looks good on his arm he ignores all these red flags. 😂

If I may add: 1.if she says “my relationships have failed due to me being a strong women”. 2. Of she competes with you at everything. She’s viewing you as a competition and not a companion 3. If she questions all of your previous established relationships

Listen up gents, Jeff is dropping the words of the wise. These are all top notch, the points were very well made and explained. Take an extra salute, good sir!

In my country the man pays pays when u go out on a date. Everytime. It could happen that the women wants to pay but the men here do not like that. In general. Cultures are so different. But when they get married its ok the women can pay sometimes but in general it is the man

Great video Jeff. Some women are nothing but “take-take-take, and not give -give-give”. A one sided woman is not good. And some don’t know how to be a lady.

If she's complaining about her ex on the first date... RUN!!! some females are drawn to degenerates & chaos. If you're a well rounded, stable guy, she's gonna leave you anyway

I always keep in mind that line from the movie Pulp Fiction. " Are you someone who listens or waits to speak?" You can ask her the question or just observe and figure it out. But if she is someone who does not really listen early on it is going to be seriously frustrating down the road.

🔥🔥🔥 Maaaaannn listen! This video right here needs to be shared over and over ! Awesome work !!

Word up homey. All good advice. Another thing you want to look out for is a lady with DADDY ISSUES. Women that always talking trash about their dad, or complaining about how their dad was their dad was never around tend to have serious issues of their own. Again fellas, like OG said, stay away from these type of problematic drama queens. Remember, a girl with unresolved personal issues will soon make her problems YOUR problems.

Good points, Jeff. As the relationship matures, you'll likely meet her mother. How her mother acts and looks is a good indication of how your date will be as she matures. The old saying is: "The apple doesn't fall far from the tree." Food for thought :-)

Body language and facial features. I was on a date with someone who I really liked and I made the mistake of telling her I was still interested after we talked about dating in general. I've never seen anyone go from 1 to disgusted in such a short amount of time. That was a definite red flag for me. Turns out she had alot of fish on the line and was just looking for the one that would meet her 'needs' the most. Don't settle for the friend zone, but at the same time, don't allow yourself to be constantly passed over too.

You want to know what's moving too quickly, OG? I was with this one girl back in 2005 and after 4 months of dating she asked me when I would pop the wedding proposal and this would happen every few months after that. That relationship ended on New Years Eve of 2006 and it was the best thing that ever happened to me. I was lost and pretty stupid for being with someone like that but I needed to go through that hell to finally find my queen. I even uploaded my wedding video last week. Happy New Year to you Jeff and much success for 2019.

I watch the way the woman dress and how she interacts with her children as well as lots of other things

Yo salute for this brotha!!! I just a met a young lady and she didn’t have one red flag🙏🏾 Thanks pimpin💯

At last, someone who knows how to wear a shirt without a tie. Well done OG. M.

Great video and straight to the point! I myself would like to meet a righteous women, not specifically attractive or very attractive female but a righteous woman that praises the most high! Real beauty is found in the interior of a person...

I’m a new subscriber and I wish I had this advice before I meet my ex wife. I was so foolish I ignored all those red flags in one woman. Keep putting out the great content!

Beware of the lazy grown nephew living with his aunt.

What do your videos do for me as a woman? It gets me to realize that I am a good woman, a keeper! I cannot tell you how many times I offer to go dutch on first dates. It's fair and kind of keeps things in a neutral place with men; no one can impose anything on me. Believe it or not, I just discovered you on RU-vid O.G. and wish I came across you sooner! The advice you give men are what gentlemen are about, not the horrible advice the AlphaMale or that corny Mindful Attraction nonsense. I also get to understand the hearts of men and what good guys desire. Hoping to find a good man in 2020! Thank you again for gracing us with your guidance and presence. Salute!

Yo I been on 3 of them types of dates OG you forgot one the food diggers the girls that use guys to go out to eat all the time 😂

I must say very good list I was victim of this in the past looks can surely make you a sucka if you don't pay attention to the signs in front of you teach my homeboy this now I'm going to direct him to this video maybe you can help him out O.G keep up the great work 👍🏾

Been studying for EMT. Glad to be back though.

I’m a recent subscriber and I love all of you videos. But as far this one , I am not sure how you went about compiling these points but this may be the most well put together , poignant and accurate advice I have heard in a very long time. This is golden.

In addition to what he said, pay close attention to her friends/inner circle. "Birds of a feather flock together." If she hangs around a bunch of women who aren't any good, have low self esteem, have no goals in life etc..... Chances are that she's 99.9% just like her friends. On the contrary, if she's the type of female who says things like "I don't like/have friends" or "I don't fuck with people like that", most likely she's gonna want you to be just like her; alone with no friends and no one to express yourself to other than her. This is a clear indication that she may want your happiness to be solely dependent on her just like she is dependent on you. Trust me, you'll save yourself a lot of time, energy and money if you catch these signs ahead of time and run there other way.

Simple ,don't treat dates like girlfriends .Treat dates like dates....lol

Jeff as always quality content! Definitely hit the nail on the head with these points! If only i had this advice 10 years ago I would have saved myself time, money, and energy. Thank your brother.

These flags also apply to men...its just so confusing...I might need to be a nun 😂...great advise Mr. Suave 😊

1. Flaky behaviour 2. Treats strangers poorly 3. Face in phone during a date 4. Never offers to pay for a date 5. Sense of entitlement 6. Make sure she's not moving too quickly in a relationship 7. Arguing all the time 8. Never admits to faults 9. Always talks down about ex's 10. Does not have outside interests and does not encourage outside interests for you Bonus: Drama queen

Definitely digging the channel. Gonna have to get my two co-host up on it so we can reference your videos on our podcast.

Great advice OG for the married and especially unmarried... Before i got married i used to be keen on 1 . Common sense matters - does she know how to use common sense in the sense that if she happens to visit your place and things are disorganized, can she make things right and advice how to tidy your place ? 2. Does the lady know how to cook- imagine eating undelicious, tasteless food for the rest of your life, trust me, you will age easily and i don't want that. 3. Money - can she give you money when you are broke or she lends ? 4. simplicity - getting along with strangers, family members etc .......

Jeff, love your channel. Great stuff. Just my humble opinion to make it even better. You could lit up your background a bit more. Just put a light at your back facing your backdrop will work. If you could get rid of the fabic curtain and replace with seamless paper or vinyl would be even greater. Keep up the good work. Love from Australia.

It's so good to see a Brother out there doing it how you doing it. I've been stepping my game up since I followed your channel.

What's up Jeff Donald from Cincinnati checking in got a question what if she's a celebrity. And salute

Love the work my dude 💪🏾💪🏾✌🏿✌🏿

Happy new Jeff!!! Big up to you and your channel for 2019!

My man OG on point again, thank you.

I’ve been watching your videos for awhile now. You’re always on point. But this is the best video from you. I agree 100% with everything you said.

I used to go out with a guy that I only liked as a friend and I let him know that upfront and during the times we went out. He's single and loves being seen with a Beautiful woman. While we are out he would always get accolades from men who see me looking Beautiful and smelling good while eating or at the movies or an event or walking beside him. Yes I have offered to pay for our meals from time to time. I have never kissed, hugged, held hands, no sex. This actually happened for a few years. We're just friends today.

Uggh to the sharp point. Mine passed most of your red-flags except the drama queen and the ex bashing. She went back to her Ex they day after this video came out, dam. The same guy she had been trashing for months. All he to do is show up with a co-worker/date and her ego like a fool had her running back to the light of bug zapper without a concious thought of the consequences, ashame. Jeff your words have never been so powerfully accurate.

I truly love making the man feel extremely special because he is a king. I understand some men are not worthy but I still respect him and express we are not a good fit. But I love showing a man I got him, treating him like king. I'm a feminine ambitious woman.

Great advice, keep teaching these young guys out here. Trust me they’ll listen. People look up to you more than you think. 👍🏾

Honestly this is my favorite gentleman channel

Good points! Honestly...this advice goes both ways. Beware of anyone who texts majority of the time as well. If he/she has multiple baby mommas/daddies and hardly spends time with them and calls most of them a BITCH.

I've experienced all these and more in my ex. I had to really work on my issues after she moved out.

One thing I learned...never ever be with a woman who has been single for a long time. They tend to like the single life because they can get dicked down by a bunch of different men. Also, the Male friends thing..any girl I meet that says "I have alot of guy friends"...I'm gonna say BYE faster than the speed of light

Nice video and I also like your suit

Another red flag is if she doesn't keep her house clean trust and believe she won't keep yours clean either

Number 1 kept happening to me, been months that I was talking to this girl, but the repeated "i'm too busy" and "i'm sick" even though she's messaging you constantly and checking up on you leans more towards that she likes the attention.

As always great content 👌

First date, listen to each other and enjoy the outing and have fun. I believe you shouldn't bring up nothing. Lol,😉

If she says “Well I usually date guys that are this.”, and you are not that, get out of there quick because you are not what she’s looking for...

What’s up my bro Og. Great video good looking out for the bro out there.

if all her exes were jerks and she talks negatively about her father or men in general, get out of that now. my most recent ex told me all her exes were jerks, she always complained about her dad and on top of all that she struggles with depression and she was bringing me down emotionally, then the biggest mistake she made was saying "if we broke up, i'd probably look for a rebound" thats when i was like alright cool i'm out. too much baggage and she'll always be going from guy to guy and most likely causing drama while i get to rest peacefully and not have to be in a toxic negative relationship

Great points Jeff!! The OG's words of wisdom are gems. Women are absolutely great and love them! Chemistry can be difficult to find in a lady and it does take some time...but those red flags are something to pay attention and notice. "You might be that next jerk!" Hahaha.

Timeless principle my Brother. After the 2nd date she better offer to pay. A real gentleman won't allow her to pay. Several woman got disqualified from future date. Been married for 24 years now, my wife offered to paid on date number 2. Great Video as always my Brother.

Great points OG! But if she can cook, you can overlook a couple of these minor flaws! Ain't nothing worse than a woman who can't cook! I don't care how Bad she is.

Be afraid be afraid be very afraid..lol lol your right about that bro.. because it's ok for a woman to offer and even sometimes treat. Nothing wrong with that. Especially in this day of age. Great advice bro. Great tips and something men seem top always avoid. ..hummm will they listen.. hummm 😉

*The STYLEST of ALL the OGs!!!! ALLLLL the OGs!!! The Cleanest, The Leanest, The Meanest of ALL OGs!! Big bro I'm hijacking that badass double-breasted suit from you! Hahahaha. Thanks for the DLP (Daily-Lifestyle-Pill). LIKE-SHARE-SUBSCRIBE-SHARE and SAAALLLLUUUTTEEE!!*

Hello O.G. I got some questions for you. Thank you for the video by the way, really inspiring! My first question is: what is one unique way you have to approach women? Second, all the top 10 signs you listed are good, but how can we spot those women who are good at hiding them? The reason I asked you the second question is, some women act nice in the dating phase till you marry them then they start revealing their true self.How long should we date them to make sure those sign aren't hidden? Keep up the good work my brother.

Salute O.G! Kickin off datin season with a 10 gun Saaaluute 💥💥💥 🤘🏼

If she is flaky on the first date, she probably is still seeing someone and trying to decide if she wants to cut ties with him. Guys, don't risk being seconds while someone makes tries to generate the courage to break off a dead end relationship. Move on until you find someone ready, emotionally and physically.

agree with all except the paying for dates. may be a cultural thing, where here in the west it’s an issue but in other parts of the world it is frowned upon when a women reaches in her purse on a date. my fiancé and i have been together for 3 years and he has never expected me to pay on dates. i instead have treated him in other ways: baking or cooking his fav meals, picking up something nice for him in a store i know he likes, surprising him with gifts or concert/game tickets, treating him to the spa (things i know he would not buy for himself). a man paying for dates is not a red flag, a women’s lack of appreciation for his efforts is a red flag.

Great advice OG!! I agree with all 10 but I would add as precursor, men must be on there Life purpose!! In other words working on whatever they love, be it there job or RU-vid channel and be focused on success however they think success is and with laws of attraction you will attract a women that is in line with you!! Also I tell men don't be coming in a women you don't see as the one you going to be with. its a transfer of your essence and makes that loser chick go crazy over you!! So get the strap and work on your purpose and the right one will find you!! Salute!!

Salute. I just ended a relationship which had several red flags. One was her sense of entitlement and thought the chance of sex was a reward for doing everything she wanted to do. For 3 months.. Lol. Expensive dates. She cooked one day, invited me over and it was 2 turkey meat balls, white rice and canned pork and beans. On a paper plate. She wanted to go to Cancun in the 3rd month. She had a timeshare but I was responsible for plane tickets and everything else. She was jealous of my relationship with my 11 y.o daughter, whom I spent a significant amount of time with. But her 15 y.o diva son had her on a string. She told me early on in dating she had no extra money to do any of things she wanted to do. And I should be happy and honored to experience those things with her.. On and on. Eventually I explained after consideration, I was not progressing in the areas I wanted to in life. And needed to focus on my well being and future goals.

Hey OG I was wondering whenever you get the chance if you could do a video for the best faux leather jackets & wool coat alternatives for us vegan subscribers I catch hell trying to find quality faux jackets & coats that are priced within reason

Yeah I have upto a 3 date rule that I'm willing to pay for unless I'm getting some ass out the deal. Most times you know after 1st date if you will have a chance.

Such a good video and amazing advice!! Thank you Jeff

I am a new subscriber....your 10 points are on target💯

The Temptations sang the song: Beauty’s Only Skin Deep. Stop, look and listen to a woman beyond their beauty is a good take on dating a woman!

Paying for everything all the time. She never offers to pay. She trying to find out where I live and what I got.

Great work on this one, to all my east coast dudes take what Jeff is says as g as knowledge and experience talking.

Keep preaching bro, all spot on 🙏🙏💯💯

Salute for flagging 🔖scandalous behaviour. What's your opinion on having an Abundant mindset ?

I feel like this video got me like Wyclef in the 90s when he said ... one time.... Two times... Threes times...

These red flags can also apply to men as well they are good advice. So refreshing to see a black man give advice to other men that is not disrespectful and degrading about women. Thank you.

It’s sad but that’s 50% of women in NY, Drama Queens, never offer to pay after the 6 or 7th date, the feeling of entitlement or unappreciative of the things that a man does to make them feel special. It’s like I’m SUPPOSED to do things for them, smh 🤦🏾‍♂️

Jeff sounds like you are describing a woman with a narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Been there, did that....RUN away fast

These are good tips. 1. Be culturally aware of the person you are dating and act accordingly. 2.Anyone overly involved in other people's business is telling your business and they will not have time for you. 3.Anyone pretends to be someone else so that you will like them more. That is intentional misrepresentation. 4.Anyone that constantly tries to push the boundaries you set. For example: You: I do not like the color Orange. Person: *buys something for you in the color Orange* Do you like it? You:😐 No. Did they have other colors? Person: Yes, but I bought this one. This person clearly does not listen and does not care about your boundaries. So, they will likely do the same if not worse in relationship. 5. Practice learning how to Vet. My mentor suggested this to me so this comes from a man that has been married for 30 yrs. 6. Learn about Personality Disorders. Seriously, I live in a Metro area that I'd a hot bed for people that are Clustrt B and C. Cluster A are just eccentric people that tend to be on the brilliant side. Cluster B and Cluster C are normally heavily abused during their developmental stages. You cannot have a "healthy" experience with them because their version of "healthy" can be codependent and toxic. 7. If they seem like they are trying to encroach on your personal life too quickly then they are. Run. Best of luck.

As a modern gentleman, these are absolute facts.

Thanks for looking out for us G! Especially us youngins haha. Great vid!

Great words of wisdom

Great top 10! 7 of them were already on my list!!

Nice suit, by the way have you tried wearing a suit with a hoodie.

Great advise!

Pay 4 the 5th, 6th, 7th, 8th, 9th ,10th, 11th, 12th, 13th, 14th , 15th 16th time- welcome 2 dating in South America or a lady from there.Actually, the 17th time the lady booked & paid 4 a surprise weekend break so payback time big ( worth the wait).

As a woman, i agree with the majority of your points eccept one. The one about the women paying. Now i do see what you mean in regards to her offering to , but some men that are "old school" take offense to that. They feel since they are supossed to be seen as the leader/ head, to have a woman to pay for a date seems beneath them. Also what about the girl who was raised by her father and he told her what to look for. And having him pay for the dates was one of them. Some fathers have raised there daughters to be princesses. So thats why they have that entitlement attitude. So i see what you're saying. And from time to time, i dont mind offering, however, the men that i have dated have ALWAYS insisted that they pay. So what i do to make it fair is order somethimg inexpensive or go to an inexpensive restaurant. Like Applebees. Your thoughts?

I hear u, but this applies to both genders! Most of the men I've dated have felt entitled! 1 guy I actually had to beat up! Because I wouldn't give him money he thought he could hit me! The bastard already owed me money I lend him before! I dumped that garbage & never got my money back! I'm a good hearted person & sometimes have to get my husband & his family told about trying to take advantage of my kindness! I have run off many of my relatives because they think I own a bank!!!

Wow. Great advice. I agreed with a lot of what you had to say. 🥰

Another red flag is if a man dates a women who he knows she does not like but accepts because she wants to be treated. I hear of women who date guys they do not like just because this is the difference of women who tried their best to be Christian they do not entertain that or date men who wants to meet them very rapidly first 3 days on online and already dating that is too soon

Great video !!! The love is in the air , OG I have a question about it ! Is it red flag if she brings the husband to the date?

Jeff I love videos big dog👍🏽

Oh man,, today's video was a reality check. Sort of a dater's trip to the dentist. I've experienced all or most of this. I wish Jeff was wrong about these...but he's not.

We tryna to be Style O.G not chasing the Drama Queen 👸 😎🤣🤣

A woman who comes out, & says she's spoiled could also be a red flag. Unless a man is willing to do it on a consistent basis.

Sounds like the man I’m dating going on 7 months of him constantly in his phone he always have a attitude when I come unless I have beer he plays sad music over and over and over every time I visit him he doesn’t smile or hug me even when I haven’t seen him in weeks lmao!!!!! He already asked me to move in I’m like no and now he’s giving me the irritating attitude of ignoring or speaking to people and not me??!

Men pay attention! OG spot on with the red flags.

Truth big homie,salute again.

I think the man should always expect and intend to pay, when seriously dating a woman. If a man expects me to pay, it would be a complete turnoff and I likely would not see him again. If you cannot afford to date a woman, you should not date, period. Coffee/drink dates are also unacceptable. If you are truly interested in a woman, you won’t offer her scraps. I’m pretty old school and from a different culture.

man ...u are my role model...i just wanted from u to help me out with ur opinion ...my current gf went to quick it was just like 3 days of getting knowing her and she already admited that she loves me . shes older than me ...and its not pretty acceptable in my society...and i dont really love her but i am pretty sure that she does and shes talking alot about sexual relations am really confused cuz i cant hurt her feelings...plz give me ur opinion should i continue in this relation or should i put a stop sign...