Some tips and hacks for dealing with the wait for testosterone. Let me know if you have any hacks of your own! Come follow me! Instagram: / jammi.dodger Twitter: / jammi_dodger94 Email: jamieraines@hotmail.com Music: Bensound.com
Pre-T Hacks: 1. Voice training (do it properly!) 2. Go to the gym/Exercise at home 3. Wear things that make you look broader on top 4. Get a hair cut 5. Use shoe-lifts (insoles/boots or shoes with heels) 6. Shave your face (boosts your confidence) 7. Keep busy! Put energy into something else that distracts you
oLiver 0118 I'd specifically recommend swimming or rowing to build up the shoulders and chest - for teens who are still growing, that will build up the actual bone structure, not just the muscles. Cis women who did competition swimming through their teens, you can tell for the rest of their lives because of the shape of their back and shoulders.
I had a new geography teacher today and when she came over to the table with me and the boy sitting next to me she said "Can you boys hand over your sheets?" and it made me feel so good becsuee I do have short hair but I'm forced to wear a skirt to school. But I was sitting down so she didn't notice and it made me feel very happy :)
Ugh school dress codes can be awful for making trans kids miserable. There are schools that let each student choose trousers or skirt (which they'll rename a kilt) or mix it up, and they should all do that.
Dude if i realized what school uniforms don’t let trans people do last year I could have put it in my persuasive paragraph on why school uniforms are bad and sounded smart while we did a devate
exact same situation happened to me, except i didn’t have a skirt. However, people ridiculed it for the rest of the month. Yes, month. Way to put a person down
I'm pre everything. Pre transition basically. Oh and pre accepting parents. Update!! It's been 3 years since I posted this comment, I'm going to start taking blockers and stuff soon. My parents still aren't accepting of it though but I have a few supportive people in my life helping this happen. 11th April 23 update: on the 26th of April I'm getting my pre-hrt mental health checkup.. 6 years in the making and I'm finally going to become the man I'm meant to be 17th Jan, 2024 Started T in August.. finally starting to see some changes. It was a rough path for me due to allergies and other complications but I’ve finally made it!
I dream of the day my non binary ass can start testosterone, but my mum tells me that nothing will change, I'll just gain weight and it'll make me look "like a fat pig"
just me that’s a load of nonsense. You’ll find that fat distribution will change, you may put on muscle more easily (and muscle weighs more than fat) but things will change! I’m sorry you’re being made to feel bad about it but I hope that when it happens it is the change you desire. Remember that you are a valid and worthwhile human being x
Everyone keeps telling me that I'm "pretty", "beautiful", "gorgeous", and other compliments used for girls. A trans female even told me that I'm so pretty that I shouldn't transition, but I'm not doing this because I think I'm not attractive it's because I am a male mentally! It's so hard dealing with this but I'm still happy, my 10 year old sister calls me her brother and I'm happy because of that and I'm being patient with my family, they need time to get use to this but they support me.
Males can 100% be "pretty", "beautiful", and "gorgeous"... but using those words as a "reason to not transition" so that your expression can actually match who you are? That's some bs right there. You are a male. Your sister gets that and I'm glad your parents are supportive. Here's hoping the other people in your life can get on board. Kudos to you for managing to be happy amidst all of that. You're clearly an amazing human. I wish you love and support and all the best things.
@@tru2lifestories Thanks so much for this comment, it means the absolute world to me. I've been having a really hard past couple of weeks, so seeing this comment made me cry. Thank you so much for taking time out of your day and commenting this, you are such a sweet person. You have no idea how overwhelmingly happy this made me!!
@@courtjester6375 Aw, I'm so glad to have brought some light to what sounds like a dark and challenge few weeks. You are so welcome- you deserve love and support. I can't guarantee how often/quickly I'll respond, but you are welcome to reach out if you want to talk or process anything with someone who won't judge you and wants to support you. And just a reminder: You are valid, you are worthy of love and happiness, and you are amazing!!
Bro I bet you're actually really handsome and super manly as all hell. If I saw you in public I'd be like, woah what a Chad! I hope more people have started getting used to your identity and are addressing you correctly now.
@@theabyss310 Thanks so much for commenting this. Sadly, parents and siblings have stopped being so supportive now. Sister stopped calling me her brother. Things have changed a lot but I'm still happy because I know things will always get better, just gotta wait. The Chad comment really made me smile and laugh, again thanks so much.
TIP: DO NOT JUST SHAVE YOUR HEAD! This makes people look at the femininity in your bone structure first, and you will almost never be gendered correctly no matter how hard you try if you're still pre-t. Mine fell out after chemo, and I'm waiting for it to get long enough to get gendered correctly again :(
Ummm oops? I was sick of my hair and having a really bad dysphoric day and shaved my head right before my shower. When I came out to the living room, my mom shrieked. I still looked like a girl 😞
I've been keeping my head shaved for a long time, so I think people would misgender me even of I had short hair. If I ever told them I'm trans, that is.
I'm a cisgender man but I love how informative your videos are! They're really educating me on trans people and what they have to go through, even though it's not something I've ever been taught or educated about. Thank you!
Love the fact that you're all about educating yourself! Thanks so much for being an ally. I have so much love for straight/cis/heteronormative/What-have-you people like you.
Same however im a demigirl (born female) if anyone here dosent know what demigirl is its someone who is kinda part female but not entirely. It can be any percentage from %5 to %90 I personally consider my self to be %75 female and %25 agender.
I'm Pre-T and here's what I'm doing: - The little things: change how you walk, sit, hold yourself. It takes time but start adopting movements that make you feel less womanly. - Layering! I have a very small chest, so layering does a lot to make me seem completely flat. I wear things that accentuate my shoulders. Binding is good also if you can get a binder. Jeans are friends if you get the right cut. - Vocal training. Look into lowering your range. I did this way before I realised I was trans; my singing voice was too low to fit into the alto section of my high school choir, so I trained it into tenor. You can do the same for your speaking voice. - Start working out. You should always keep your cardio up but you might alsp find that strength training helps relieve the incongruence. - Do something with your lower face. Either start shaving it, for the reasons Jamie gave, or if you're like me and naturally have some face hair going on, look into ways of making it look darker. I use eyebrow mascara. - If you're dysphoric about your height, invest in Doc Marten-style boots, shoes with a slight platforms, anything with chunky heels, and/or some lifted insoles, depending on your style. I personally wear a lot of heeled boots, because I don't mind being a bit fem and stylish. - Find the "monthlies" solution that works for you. Yes, that's a little vague but everyone has a different body. Try everything and find what works best as a medium between your mental health AND cycle. - Keep other people's opinions out of your head! Never let anyone psych you out if you, say, paint your nails or wear a heel or anything else deemed "feminine". You are who you are.
Skylar i have snacks, crystal pepsi mountain dew red, and some pirate booty w hot cheetos. i made sure to stock up before i came back in y’all want any
I remember when I first was developing chest flesh i heard someone saying "Excersice can make your boobies smaller" I didnt realise i was trans but i instantly said "THEN IM EXCERSICING EVERY DAY!" idk if its a true fact but it was a funny thing in my opion
Also has to do with the muscles on your chest/upper back, as they develop and get stronger, they kind of "pull" at your breast which males them flatter. Or something like that, i had it explained to me years ago and i am not an expert in this field at all :D
Jamie: telling me not to compare myself to trans guys on t or cis guys and focus on the things I CAN change Me: nice and all but like can I have your beard m8
I got a "mens bike". Its the weirdest thing but it really makes me feel great. So a bit of explanation: I am Dutch and I bicycle everywhere (school, friends, gym etc), I used to have this typically feminine bike. And for my birthday I asked a bike swap with this old mens bike we had in our garage (originally my granddads). I liked cycling before but now I am more confident, its weird. Also a brief explanation on the girls versus guys bike. Because of skirts girls bikes have a lower rod (construction pipe thing), but a higher rod is more stable so thats why they also still exist. My new bike is also more sporty, and like my old one is owned by like almost every girl in my country. Idk just tryna explain sth I do not understand.
I got a fem bike about two years ago and I just like that the rod is low because it’s hard for me (was hard) to get onto it lol because I’m bad at stretching my legs. Never have I been able to do anything *remotely resembling* a split so it’s just easier. I might recolor it though, but I don’t plan on switching it anytime soon.
absolute same here also dutch person and last week i had to borrow my brothers bike and it made me feel really happy i though i was the only one thanks for your comment
Tips to my fellow trans guys: Try learning how to cut your own hair^^ Buy a trimmer (it'll be WAY cheaper in the long run) and learn how to do it. While it may not look as professional, you can do touch-ups as often as you need and keep it short in the back^^ I do this and it's made such a difference, plus I've gotten more familiar with how my face looks and how to cut my hair to enhance the features I want. And you don't have to go to the hair dresser or depend on anyone else at all, if that also gives you dysphoria for some reason. Hair dresser is definitely scary for me^^ Best of luck if you decide to try this❤️❤️
Ive been cutting my hair myself since i was 13 and i can tell you its the best thing ive ever done for myself because i dont like other people touching my hair now aside from my boyfriend fixing what i miss in the mirror the sooner you start the better it gets the older you get lol
I found a queer hair salon so that’s where I’ve been going. My mom had me try great clips a couple weeks ago and that lady FUCKED my sideburns. Went back in this week and she squared them this time so that’s good but they’re like. Above the tops of my ears now. Why does this lady hate me.
cut my hair for the first time a few weeks ago and it doesnt fuck up your hair that much (if you’re careful), even if you barely know what you’re doing when you do it! i mainly do it because my hair grows too quickly for me to spend so much money on haircuts, but i’d recommend it too. watch some tutorials and take an hour or two in front of the mirror and you’ll get some relief from dysphoria and have started learning a new skill :-)
Hack: if you want to watch trans content but watching videos by trans men makes you jealous of them, watch trans women’s RU-vid channels. You can still relate to them on being trans but you don’t have to make yourself feel bad by thinking “god why can’t I be as far as x is” Thankfully I’m not at this stage anymore but there was a time when I couldn’t handle seeing trans masc people who were really far into their transition because it made me so jealous ALSO if makeup doesn’t make you dysphoric, contouring my forehead has been sooooo helpful. You can make your brow-bone more prominent and it makes your face look more structured/traditionally masculine
I don't think that I pass well, I'm also not out to anyone, but I've gotten called 'he' and 'buddy/bud' a couple of times by random people, so that was a bit of a confidence booster. But, this video was helpful, so thank you for posting it. :) Edit from around 1 year later: holy shit, I wasn't expecting to find my own comment when scrolling through :P but, I'm out (I'm trans-nb) to my mom and several friends, and one of my brothers and one of my cousins, just not my other 2 brothers, or other relatives.
Okay and wearing shoes that aren't just taller, but heavier feels really nice. My steel-toed workboots are my most prized possessions, and that weight can really ground you and help you feel more solid, less dainty
Cis female here so I don't know if that helps, but heavier shoes like boots with a steelcap also make your feet look a bit bigger and the weight can be really comforting. Oh, and those soles that make you apear taller are not suspicious in boots, nobody would notice and they usually have a thicker sole anyways so when someone asks why you apeared taller in boots you can just say that it's caused by the boots themselfes (what technicly wouldn't be a lie). And usually the sizes they come in start at about a european 38, I have even seen many pairs starting at a 36 what is pretty small for a person older than 15.
On the face shaving thing: also when your peach fuzz starts to grow back it feels sorta like (teeny tiny) stubble, it doesn’t look any different but I feel really euphoric when I touch it and it feels stubbly.
Coming from a gay male in Ohio. I wanted to say you are very inspiring and educational. I’m so happy to find your channel and the Mrs. I totally enjoy watching and learning and seeing a wonderful couple. I hope to meet you someday to say hello
Tbh, I'm PROBABLY going to find this super cringey when I'm older, but I brag about my mustache, I meannn, sure it's barely visible, and you have to look super hard to see it but it's a mustache god damnit, and people need to see how manly it is! I seriously cannot wait to be able to start T, I'll finnally get that beard, and no one will ever mistake me as a girl again! The only thing I'm not looking forward to is possible hair loss, (My hair is my baby) and keeping my facial hair in check (Normal hair is hard to keep under control as is)
I use mascara to enhance my mustache and beard. It can take a lot of practice to get the hair only and not the skin. Also I use an eyebrow brush to sweep the inevitable clumps out of the hair.
I'm worried about losing my hair too my dad is basically bald and only 37 so the odds aren't in my favor. If I have to I'll sell my car and get a hair transplant 😂
It's weird watching this now as I've been on T for nearly 9 months. I remember desperately trying to find stuff to do and your hack videos back then really helped, but damn it was hard. Out of all the things I would do different, it would definitely be not obsessing over transition. It's so tempting to just watch trans videos all the time and compare yourself constantly but it's so unhealthy.
Dartt Dont worry, the fat will stop going to your hips when you start T and it will begin to go to other places of your body, you may thin out around the waist 🙂
A fair amount of guys cis and trans have wide hips. I know its a struggle and I struggle with it too but I also constantly keep in mind that I had to teach several cis guys around me to wear pants from the female sections to wear more comfortable pants that fit and look better on their body types. That may or might help and I'm truly sorry if it doesn't help at all
If you happen to live in Brighton in the UK there's an organisation called trans can sport. Theyre an organisation for trans people who feel they cant go to the gym/feel uncomfortable there but want to exercise. They run a large variety of classes and are free (but do suggest a donation of £5). I haven't personally been to any of their classes but I might in the future.
Jammi: Haircuts! 2020 Coronavirus: NOT ON MY WATCH I am being serious. Thanks to the virus I can't get my haircut yet. I have been wanting it cut for months now.
aww hope you can soon. i cut mine off while in the closet (still am) but my mum and dad both knew it was "bothering me for some time now" so they let me cut it off for charity. Hope you get your haircut soon! the hairdressers are open in uk now if you live here. :D
I came out to my hair stylist and she was so proud of me and was excited to give me a cut that would make me more confident and look more masculine. Bless her!
Something that helps me is having regular fantasies about being post everything. Like watching a movie that fulfills your fantasies it can work with dysphoria as well.
I finally cut my hair after wanting to for years and I feel amazing and so relieved. My hairstylist was awesome. Sucks though I was only able to after moved out of my parents' house (my dad still won't look at me). I wore a buttoned-up shirt when they saw me next with the haircut and my mom said "I don't mean to be rude, but you look like a boy, so we gotta change something, cause I don't want that for you," but I was too happy she said I looked like a boy to be offended.
Almost 2 years here, gids couldn't see me in time so they are trying to get me a consultation to transfer me to an adult gender clinic of my choice. Luckily they are taking into consideration how long I've been waiting. But still waiting for that to happen. I've decided going private and paying for Testosterone is a better and quicker option for me whilst I wait for the gender clinic.
@@AshtonKnight oh after two years from making that comment they still hadn’t gotten back to me! I went private a year ago and now I’m 1 year on T 🤣 so I’d recommend going private even if it costs a fortune
Just what I needed right now! I wanna come out to my parents but I'm afraid :c Edit: It's been three years, still not properly out to my parents but pretty much everywhere else! This was one hell of a journey and looking back on the first times I actually came in touch with the trans community is absolutely magical
If it can helb someone Easier? way to get better abs : 1) Sit down, Raise your head and your legs at ≈ 90°. Move your hands under your ass, move your legs up and down 2)In the same position, try to catch your legs with your hand, moving your hands and your back 3) Same head position, try to make the conventional abs exercise but with feets who doesn't touch ground and at 90° (like a chair maybe). It's easier. Don't keep your hand under your head but move them, or it could damage your cervicals 4) Now an exercise for the side abs, the same position like if you wanted to do conventional abs, but your head is up, now, try to catch your ankles by moving very fast. These are great ways to have good abs. Sorry for the English, I'm French and the translation is a Google one so...
I sew, lots. But when I came out as trans to my dad he stopped taking interest in my hobbies such as drawing, sewing, ukulele or singing even though he helped me get into them because he finally had a "daughter he could teach stuff like that" when I was younger and it sucks because it was out only way of bonding. I mean, on the plus side he's helping me get into fitness and stuff and overcome dysphoria and depression enduced binge eating. So at least we have that, but I miss when we would stick some classical music on and just sew for the pure joy and company.
-destryinaraincoat- He can be sometimes. I mean, he can be alright, but he can also be a manipulative little git with no real understanding of how his words can hurt. So, I mean, alright.
Aw, I'm afriad to transition because even though I know my dad loves me I dont want him to change how he acts with me. I've always looked up to him and hes the reason I took up learning the ukulele; and I'm scared he might just get akward around me like he used to. I've always wanted a good relationship with my family but I cant have that for some reason
@@idiomatic444 I'm so sorry, I'm in the same place too. Please don't think that what my story is will be yours. And if it is, remember that it's nothing but a chapter in the story that is your life.
I have wide "child baring" hips, as do all the other female bodied humans in my family. I have learned to accept this as a fact I can never change, but my biggest problem with my hips is... my right hip is higher than my left. Curse you crooked spine that makes me have crooked hips.
A quick tip, if you can't cut your hair because of your parents like me, just try a man bun. I feel so euphoric whenever I have my hair up. Edit: it's a year later. I'm happy to say that I finally got there, I cut my hair. Always remember to keep trying.
Do you know, or know of anyone who knows about struggling with having had you sex chosen for you when you were born... By them lopping off your peen and crowning you female?... And maybe... The struggles of just wanting your penis back while being able to keep the rest of your authentic self in tact?..... Maybe?.... I'm sorry. I dont know who to ask and your post was the most frequent that actually had advice on it.....
It's been really hard being pre- t. I came out at sixteen, was told to be who I wasn't, and didn't come back out until 20. I have to save up for T, and alot of the nights I just lose it- but these videos help me so much. When I want to do something stupid, these videos give me hope. Thank you so much. You have no idea how many times I was brought back into reality seeing you happy.
What actually helped me the most, was wearing tighter sports bras, baggy sweat pants, and sweaters. (Mostly zip up ones, hides boobs better) as well as normal t shirts a tiny bit big
I've fairly recently figured out myself and that I'm trans. I've been binge watching a lot of your videos and they have helped me so much to accept myself. So anyway just thank you for being your cute, goofy self!
I haven't started testosterone yet but I haven't shaved my legs in like 2 and a half years and they are very hairy. I mostly stopped shaving my legs because of depression and not wanting to really take care of myself but it actually made me feel better about myself and less like a girl if that makes sense.
I have the most supportive parents ever! I am currently 13 years old and have almost been out for a year now. I’m on puberty blockers, which is amazing! I am willing to be taking hormones as soon as possible!
Still pre-t at 27 and it is a rough time my dude. Wearing a nice fitting binder that forces me to square my shoulders is a good, small confidence booster and slow and steady voice training really works (went from helium level soprano to androgynous alto over the course of a few years). I also like wearing sleeves that cover my wrists because they are skinny and dainty af but when the flannel sleeves sit near the base of the thumb and give those flimsy things a more solid look it is a fabulous feeling. I guess I'm that weird guy though who doesn't care about being short or having a curve to my hips. I've seen some cis guys with wide, shapely hips and I've seen plenty of cis guys under 5'4" so those things never bothered me. Love your videos, bro; keep up the weird nicknames for your viewers
@@Ava-cw3jf nope not yet. Still sucks but I'm hanging in there! I'll be moving to a better area soon so I'll be setting up an appointment shortly after I get there to see about starting. No insurance plus living in an unaccepting house in a heavily conservative area doesn't really allow for easy transition ^^;
These are SO helpful! I'm not sure if I'm going to start T since I'm genderfluid and sometimes flip between modes in the same day (so fun lemme tell you), but whenever I'm in "boymode" I experience some SERIOUS dysphoria. So, thank you for this! I'd say you have no idea how much I appreciate it..... but you probably do. ;)
wow I got an alert that you had uploaded 4 minutes ago and there were already several comments here!! BTW you are looking particularly handsome today x
I used to dread getting my haircut once it was short because even when I showed reference photos the stylist would try to make it feminine. I was fortunate, though, to have my therapist recommend me his hairdresser who clearly understood what it meant to be trans. That small change in who was cutting my hair made a big difference :)
So glad you talked about shaving & shoe lifts! Those have helped me soo much. When I find myself thinking too much on what I lack, I like to loom baby hats for hospitals while watching or listening to something. Just an idea for those that like to craft 💚
I was kinda doing the voice training thing already lmao. My voice is like really high pitched so I started lowering it myself and it worked and I am slightly happier. plus I have a 6 pack so, I work out. I like my medium length hair because man buns are epik. EPIK. And keeping busy? I can't focus on something for more than 5 seconds so i'm set!
Something that really helps me with my dysphoria whilst pre-t is changing my hair/clothes/getting a tattoo/piercing. It really helps me to feel like I'm reclaiming my body as my own. For example last week I went to the barbers and asked him to shave half my hair off. It may be a bit drastic for some but for me it's very gratifying.
Omg the making voice deeper than it is 😭 I get laughed at by friends constantly in public for doing that and it’s so embarrassing that I do it but I just can’t stop 😭 😭 😭
I started using minoxidil recently and honestly it’s a game changer. You have to deal with the pedo stache for a bit, but after that you just get a beard. I’d recommend derma rolling 3 times a week, minoxidil in the morning, beard oil at night. I’ve got a pretty decent teen boy beard going with that routine, lol
i mean, this sorta doesn't have anything to do w/ this but i have a really supportive teacher and when i emailed her abt my name she said she'd help me tell the other teachers and change my name in the system. happy tears rn 😭
I'm not trans but Your video's are interesting,well done and well spoken. Btw you are a handsome man and love your fiance she is very sweet. Also you were a very pretty girl. I'm very happy for you and your transition Sincerely: not a rude American
I love your hair. I've been going to a barbers a lot but they're a bit savage with the clippers. I'm 48 and its far too late for me to transition so any hacks for pulling lumpy bits in would really help. The gym REALLY intimidates me and well :(
So the best thing for voice training that I've found is actually singing to songs in an octave lower than your normal speaking voice. You'll stretch the chords out slowly so they don't get nodes or tears. Itll be a slow process but you'll eventually get a nice rollo-smooth deep voice.
Looking at it now, I'm really glad I have Norwegian and Italian genes in me because body hair wasn't a problem at all for me lol. I had a lot of leg and arm hair at about 10-11, and light brown hairs coming in over my face in the above-lip and beard region. I'm looking forward to T now because I'm pretty sure I'll get easy facial hair, maybe not really quickly but generally fast!
I'm new to the channel but this really helps! I'm not old enough to get testosterone yet and it's really difficult because dysphoria is kicking my butt right now :(
