Different types of dysphoria! Gender Euphoria is the feeling of "oh fuck! There's a word for how I feel! Thank god! I'm not what people say I am! Thank god! Jesus christ! Aaauuuuu!! Fuck! People might call me he/him! People might finally see me a way that makes me comfortable! Fuck yeah!!!!!" I'm extremely dysphoric. Not good feelings. But I know euphorics.
@@ineverreply6372 There are so many people who will recognize and validate your gender. I hope that you find your People and can live a less dysphoric life very soon. Love you, dude. You are incredibly valid.
As a guy, I really feel bad for FTMs... We are DYING here experiencing puberty over years, and here they are getting hit by it in the nick of time! And what makes it worse, is that they've probably experienced BOTH puberties 🤦🏻♂️ You guys deserve a medal!
this is how i feel about it as well!! i went through female puberty (im nb), and female hormones are AWFUL, i can’t imagine being MTF and willingly injecting myself with extra hormones every week, it’s hard enough dealing with them on birth control!
@@ellespoonies ikr!! It's like purposely going through pain twice just so they could feel free and normal again! They really need much more appreciation..
The only part I found confusing is the terms "Transgender female" and "Transgender male" for the longest time I didn't know if it was referring to biological pre-transition sex or the gender they now identify as. cis femlae btw
I used to get it mixed up when I was way younger and just learning about transgender people even existing. The way I found to make it easy to remember is this: If transgender male referred to a male-to-female person then by calling them a transgender man you are directly misgendering them in the title. It's still calling them a man, you've just acknowledged they chose to transition. But plenty of trans people choose to identify as a trans man or trans woman and it's highly unlikely a group of people would use words to identify themselves that directly deny their identity. Another language-based way to see it is because the way English works, the words 'transgender woman' essentially breaks down into 'a woman who transitioned gender'. Because 'transgender' comes first it states that the subject of the title (the subject being 'man' or 'woman') would have transitioned genders ('trans' being derived from Latin which essentially means 'across' or 'beyond'. Another English word 'transition' is also derived from 'trans' and is commonly used in sentences like "He transitioned from bus route to bus route until he made it to his destination" or "Her expression transitioned from delight to pure shock." When you put 'gender' behind 'trans' it means they 'went across gender' or in common terms 'transitioned gender'.) In that sense even on a language level it wouldn't make sense. If the subject hasn't transitioned genders there would be no reason to call them transgender and the subject is in present tense (as implied by the lack of a past tense signifier) so it would be talking about their current gender. Which seeing as they've transitioned would be the opposite of their birth. Hence MTF being transgender woman and vice versa (And no I'm not trans med I'm not talking about surgical transition. This section is purely on the language rules surrounding the label itself. Its actually why 'transexual' is considered outdated bc the language directly implies they have to have changed their sex (sex being genitals/chest/biology and gender being the thing u identify as and present as)) TLDR - Easiest way to remember is that someone who identifies as a woman probably wouldn't go around calling themselves a 'man'. Plus linguistics.
I just realised I had hair on my toes. I've never shaved my legs. I'm 14. The only thing I've shaved is my armpits and I do that rarely so I often have really hairy arm pits. Besides that I love huge jumpers I bought an extra large jumper from the ensure section and I love that thing.
it's really nice to see a trans person answer these kinds of questions so chill bc when you're cis these questions can be scary to ask bc you really don't want to offend or hurt anyone. really informative!
To be honest, I wish people would ask these questions rather than others. Talking about the effects of hormones is fun (for me at least) and makes you feel like a scientist. I had a good chat with some of my cis female friends and about periods and we both benefitted from the conversation. It's much preferable to some of the intrusive questions we DO get asked! Believe me, people ask some messed up questions. The worst questions are about sexuality, childhood and transphobia in the news.
As a cis person it is so nice watching your videos and understanding more about being trans. Even though I am quite educated about it it’s always nice to get an insight of how it is. I myself have a lot of trans people in my life and watching your videos help me understand them and their struggles better. Thank you so much for making these videos!
@yandrsupreme Kind of backwards what you said up there. Liking "boy" things isn't the same as feeling like a boy. Also most of society hates/fears trans people, hates/fears them way more than femme gays or butch lesbians. There are even "feminists" who don't recognise their existence. So it's not like they are choosing the "easy" way towards societal intergration. So what you are saying doesn't really make sense.
@yandrsupreme I don't disagree that gender stereotypes are a thing and that they are hard to shake off. But no one goes under Kim Kardashian's instagram saying she's struggling under the burden of society and that she should be abolishing gender. So I think it's unfair that a lot of trans people have to deal with this critisism.
@yandrsupreme As a trans man, with trans friends, I don't feel like this is true. Yes gender stereotypes are smothering and unhelpful, but dysphoria is real and not necessarily related to how you want to fit in with society. Since starting my transition I have actually felt more comfortable with embracing what would traditionally be called my feminine side, because when I was being hypermasculine it was performative - so that people wouldn't misgender me... if that makes sense? It wasn't that I liked masculine things so I thought 'gosh I should be a man so I may be allowed to like masculine things' it was more like 'gosh I am a man, but I present as a female to people around me, so I better double down on masculine things so people stop thinking I am a woman'. I have never felt like my love of certain traditionally masculine activities etc. has defined my gender, in the same way my love of traditionally feminine things is still not defining my gender. Sorry this answer is a bit circuitous.
@Herbert Munson I've not heard of a trans woman disrespecting cis women. I don't think that's a common thing. Also, dysphoria occurs "naturally" and I don't see how them being their truest selves equates to disrespecting mother nature. Try to have a little more empathy for this minority group that already suffers enough.
The only possible way I can think of being happy from it is if you get rid of it. you are technically happy because it’s gone but that unhappiness was caused by you having it and then not as well. I’m sorry I don’t know what my point was anymore.
@@HiBuddyyyyyy another thing is if you are in denial of being trans because you haven’t felt dysphoria in a while you might have some relief when you feel it, obviously the cons out way the pros there 1000 to 1 but still
Ay, what's wrong with being a girl. I wish I was a girl. Once you become a dude, you'd never receive a message again. your likes drops down to 5 per week.
the important part is i hope you don't wax your crotch that hair is important health wise haha it also shocks me and makes me happy i have hair on my toe knuckles, as a trans dude, all my body hair is pretty welcome, even the sweat absorbers
To the question asking why all trans people are so beautiful- It’s because the joy in your eyes and face of finally feeling comfortable in your body is so apparent we see everything you didn’t like about your body before that you now have / don’t have.
My brother (bestest friend in the entire universe, known and unknown) told me something I found fascinating. When he went on T, he stopped feeling the need to cry. We all always think “boys should just cry rather than causing property or bodily damage”, but really, it’s just hard for them to do so. They still get upset, it just manifests differently.
I also heard that men generally have larger tear ducts than women so tears don't overflow as much. Idk i was randomly looking at the science of crying, very interesting and surprisingly comforting.
im a trans girl still stuck with T and sometimes i feel like im supposed to cry, but tears just won't come. T also makes your skin less sensitive, so sometimes someone will tickle me and ill laugh even though i don't feel it that much, because i know somehow that im supposed to be more sensitive.
The chemicals involved in sending signals to the tear ducts are heightened by the female hormones. Physical men cey less and they take more emotional stress to cause crying. So yes women cry more but men feel the same emotions at the sane level so if a significant other of yours brings up your lack of tears now you have S C I E N C E.
I used to identify as a trans guy until one of my teachers absolutely humiliated me in school in front of my entire class when I was at school. Since then, I have just sort of accepted that this is my body, even if it doesn't feel like it sometimes, but I still see myself in my head as a dude. It makes me happy hearing about other people's stories, especially when it works out really well for them, but I just couldn't cope with being humiliated like that again 😔
That is absolutely awful. That teacher should be fired. If you ever choose to transition, know that, while there will always be transphobes, there will also always be people that support you. And choosing to stay in the closet does not make you weak. If you are an adult, gender therapy is a great resource. Or, if your under safe you can still go, bug your parents would have to know.
i can really empathize with that, cause its so scary to put yourself out there and be met with rejection. you didn’t deserve to be treated that way, no one does. just know that you are not alone and you deserve to be able to present in whatever way makes you happiest. i would recommend looking into support groups for trans/questioning people in your area. i wish you all the best. 💖
I'm sorry your teacher did that. But if you feel as though you're a guy, then you are regardless of what you look like on the outside, or what anyone says
I wouldn't say that I can see "auras" per se, but I am very sensitive to the energy people can put out, and let me tell you that the happiness that radiates off the trans people I've met who are post-transition, is the absolute brightest and most contagious happy energy that I've ever witnessed
I wanted to take a moment to thank you for how informative your videos are. I'm a teacher and there are a few trans students in school. A lot of the other teachers have many questions/misunderstandings and I use your videos to help educate a little where I can.
I wish the teachers here would be like you. Almost in japan a lot of people don't even know that it really exist and not onely in animes.(i am in japan for 3 months to learn the linguage.)(trans pre-t)
FYI, since you declared your voice isn't sexy. I think its sexy. Also, dude... You have an English accent. Ask any person from the US- we all think your voice is sexy. lol
I’m getting a David Tennant vibe off of you. I don’t think it’s just the hair though; you have his high energy mannerisms too. I think David Tennant is lovely though, so definitely a compliment. :)
hello trans girls and trans guys watching this video :) trans girls: i just wanted to tell you that that i am a cis girl COVERED in body hair, and it’s totally normal. down there, on my buttcheeks, armpits, arms, legs (a LOT all over those areas), chest and stomach (not that visible but still) and even a little bit on my face and fingers. don’t feel bad about it, it also took me a long time to get used to it and i was very insecure at first. but it’s just our bodies, after all. i also have very masculine hands and i’m taller than average, so don’t feel bad about that either. trans guys: ALL my guy friends, who are all cis, have less body hair than me. a lot of them barely have any visible hair and they’ve already hit puberty. so basically: stereotypes are kind of bullshit and you shouldn’t feel bad about that
I would like more weird trans facts/questions because you don't often get to know these things unless you ask and having someone willing to answer and giving a space to ask them is very helpful!
Just randomly found this on my home feed. It's really good to see a trans man in the spotlight. I am lbgt+ and find a lot of media attention is on ci gay men or trans women. You are the first trans man I have "met". Think you are wonderful!!
So I went to Iceland pretty recently, and was told a couple of fun facts from a tour guide - one of which was that the Icelandic word 'rassgat' is often used to refer to things that are cute, like young children or animals (it has been compared to the japanese word 'kawaii'?). It also just so happens that the actual meaning of this word is asshole! So by using buttholes, you could just be calling us all adorable :)
I grew up very conservative and not knowing much about lgbt+. I've been learning a lot the past year or two, but transgender has still been a bit... confusing? That's not the right word, but it is one of the areas that I'm trying to learn more about. I don't have specific questions about it, just feel like I should gain a better understanding of it. Glad your channel popped up, will def be watching more of your vids
I'm 15 and trans, Is it just me or is the reason why people think trans people are so good looking, Is because are true self is showing, and were more confident, because we love are self now.
when i see people that lose weight its the same, the first thing i notice is their face, the confidence, how much happier they are in their own skin. when you look at his pre-trans pics there is so much discomfort on his face, its like he is lost and can't find himself.
Agreed: It's first and foremost about the charisma, vibes and aura of someone who transitions, transitioned or wants to do so, that changes their appearance through character and happiness and strongly influences their looks, too!
nah mate I think its the hormones. Trans women seem to always have such glowing skin but....they're on estrogen. doctors put ladies on birth control to clear up their skin so...trans women are basically getting hyper doses. idk about trans men but....well I would guess getting major doses of T, to whatever point you like, probably also makes you more attractive.....we in general like those who are very sexually dimorphic....very female looking or very male looking.
@@Renxo761 please before you spew crud go educate yourself. Let me explain how you are misinformed. My son is transgender. Before he was his true self he looked more masculine, was taller than most men, and his voice was a deeper octave than most females but was definitely a female in outward appearance. When he began the process of transitioning his Dr did lots of tests. The easiest one to explain was his natural no t testosterone levels. They were high and not just non typical high for a female but high for a teenage boy, and he was a teenager at the time. According to his Dr the results from those tests that showed he had very other gender attributes normally is something they see a lot in people who are transgender. So let's go back to your line of thinking, if God makes no mistakes and someone who is born outwardly the gender they know they shouldn't be and tests ran by drs show there is biological reasoning for that, doesn't that mean God made them that way? And if he made them that way and he is infallible, are you not yourself questioning God and going against him by spewing uneducated crud? Let's for a minute stand back and look at why God would make them that way. Could it be to show uneducated bible thumpers tolerance and that they have strayed off the path to righteousness by judging others in a way that NO ONE but God should judge. To truly believe in God is to not question him and knowing that science and medicine shows they are made that way, and since God made everything he obviously created everything we look at scientifically and medically, why would you claim to know what God wants when you yourself are obviously questioning his knowledge in such things. Please stop judging others, leave that to God, he knows what he is doing and all his children are made the way he intended even if his intention is for them to have journey to be their true selves.
Alejandra Rojas nope. Dysphoria is the discomfort trans people feel. Can be in relation to their body, their voice, the way society treats and views them, what theyre called, etc. Dysmorphia is not at all the same thing
Haha, the thing about pee was funny. When I started estrogen, I was constantly shocked by the change in smell. It was radically different. But, like you said, after a while you stop noticing it.
Thank you for enlightening me on what it’s like to be Trans. Also thank you for your openness to answering those very person questions. I’m sure it’s not pleasant for you to give such person information, but it does help give us outsiders a better understanding.
My old blind cat loves your voice! 😄Shes very nervous and calms down immediately when I play one of your videos. Any breaks or commercials will cause her to get up and wander around again
"The thing that makes me happy is that I rarely experience dysphoria at all." That totally grabbed me & almost made me cry. I really felt that for you, Jamie ☺👍❤👏 You're awesome.
Ok a lot of the issue with cis people not understanding is that they often try to relate as imagining themselves wanting to be the other gender, rather than constantly being mistaken as the other gender that they were convinced or had to pretend they were.
Alex the Trans Swimmer I think they also have are hard time thinking of it as permanent. So it sounds like a cool experience to be the opposite sex, when they don't realize that no, you're stuck that way and it really sucks.
Except for those of us who don't feel like we'd be bothered either way. I mean bearing babies was pretty magical, but that's over now, and post-40 men get so much a better deal, I'd take it.
I think you are one of the nicest people I have “met.” I love your sense of humour and your willingness to be so open about yourself and your experiences. You are providing a valuable service, methinks (I’m not trans nor know any trans people, as far as I know). And, really, I think your voice is quite sexy. Honesty, care and compassion are always sexy! God (or the universe) bless you.
Oh my gosh yes it does. I'm trans ftm and even though I'm out to my parents they refuse to call me a boy. I hate seeing or hearing or reading any female words. It's really triggering.
Weirdly, the "You were so beautiful" thing doesn't bother me much, because I guess I did look good when I still presented as feminine. It ultimately wasn't who I truly was, but that doesn't mean I couldn't have been perceived as attractive. Heck, if I met a woman now who looked the way I looked back then, I'd be super down to date her. What bothers me greatly is when people say shit like "It's a shame" or "What a waste" or any variations of that though. I can't even put into words what goes through my mind when I get a comment of that kind, but just... No. Stop.
@@nixx4736 THIS. I'm out to everyone and have been on T for three years, but literally my mom and my brother, the only really close family members I have, are the only ones still calling me by my old name, and there's a handful of other people (the two of them, as well as some co-workers) referring to me as 'she', sometimes WHILE I'M IN THE SAME ROOM, and it's just soul crushing. I've protested in the beginning, but just gotten shit for it and be told not to make a fuss, so I'm silent for now. I just hope they'll stop once my name and sex are changed on my official documents, or else I'll have to cut them out of my life, which I really really don't want to do.
Not sure why this was in my feed, not i'm bothered really. This video was vey informative, and nice. And i just wanted to say that you look very handsome and amazing. The Trans Glow is very apparent on you. ^~^
I have a lot of shoulder dysphoria, I once looked in the mirror when I was about 11, so about 3 years ago when I didn’t know I was trans, and said to my mum “my shoulders look quite wide don’t they”, and she said “no they don’t”, and she still denies my transness (I mean there is more, but this is definitely a trans kid story, because I was thinking, I look like a boy now), also, every time I see a picture of myself I hate it because I look so female.
Looking at your shoulders and thinking they are wide is not necessarily ‘shoulder dysphoria’ ?? May be you just have wide shoulders, or maybe you just see you shoulders as wide.
Swimming is great for building shoulders and chest. It doesn't put as much strain on XX bones as weightlifting, but if you're still in your teenage growth years it can really make a difference to the shape of your shoulders and chest - the actual bone structure, not just the muscles overlaid on it.
Great video - great information! I'm in my 30's, so most of my understanding of trans people came from the point of view of what is now known as trans-medicalism. I had to take the time to learn everything I could, since I came to the shocking realization that my views were VERY outdated and VERY incorrect. I'm glad I took the time to learn, so I can educate my two babies as well. There's no excuse for remaining ignorant on such an important issue.
I sometimes feel awkward and guilty around trans people because I am scared of offending them if I say something stupid by accident. But I think trans people are infinitely braver than I’ll ever be and I really respect that level of self acceptance and being so true to yourself ❤️ thanks for teaching me about trans people ❤️❤️❤️
Dysphoria for me: Sometimes am okay with my body and feeling completely fine. Sometimes I feel like I'm trapped inside a small container that I don't want to be in and makes me feel claustrophobic and like I cant think straight and am suffering.
I have to give the obligatory Im cisgender line of course. But all that aside I am glad RU-vid recommended your video to me. It was so enlightening and I’ve always been an ally to the trans community so it means a lot to be able to have more information to keep supporting you guys!
I know that the chair is from Ikea. He mentioned it in a previous video. I don't know if it's a wing chair but if you think it is then it probably is a wing chair.
@@Max_N yes, if it's from ikea, it's definitely the chair I'm thinking of. They've had it forever, and they always change the available colors by season. Just never seen it in yellow. :D
Your explanation about 'not knowing' was SO empathic and just amazing and incredibly true in a lot of cases. Especially when you elaborated on the causes of transphobia. Fear and ignorance do not excuse negative behavior, but treating those who might be confused or aggitated over new subject with a little sympathy for their ignorance can go a long way in many cases
Your channel came up in my feed and now I find myself bingeing. 🙈You are just a gem of a human. I find your story fascinating and incredibly interesting. I feel blessed to have stumbled upon you. I really am learning an immensely amount of information. Best wishes😊
Hi Jamie, how do you feel about being thrown together with the other LGB etc as a social group when physical dysphoria is a very different issue from sexuality? As a gay cis male, I’ve noticed a lot of casual transphobia within the gay community and I wonder if there’s any resentment toward that from the trans community?
@@spazmatismsf385 Unfortunately the media that directs material to the LGBT+ community believe we are all horny, gay cis-men. I can't tell you how tired I am of all the white shirtless muscular guys, the masculine "straight" bro that "turns" gay (never bi which would be more likely) and all the bloody martinis and party drinks with umbrellas in them... HELLO? Some of us are girls! Some of us are asexual or simply just not horny 24/7. Some of us don't worship masculinity. Some of us hate going to expensive clubs with shallow people, and - believe it or not - but some of us don't drink alcohol. I seek out people instead. Actual humans and talk to them, learn from their experiences. Turns out we're just as a diverse group as the straight community - who would've known?
@@SamirCCat The way media represents LGBT+ characters is also what a fair amount of homophobia, transphobia etc comes from. Also, most trans people represented in the media are trans women; trans men, non-binary and gender fluid people do also exist you know? I also hate that whenever a trans person is in a tv show or film, they're usually played by someone not suitable for that role. eg a man playing a trans woman, or a woman playing a trans man. I know there aren't as many trans actors compared to cis actors, but it can't be that hard to cast someone more suitable.
@@caramelily8236 So, would that be similar to casting an actor with a specific mental illness for a particular role or a blind or deaf actor/actress because they fit that role best?
Yes to the ignorance part. I didn't understand why someone would want to go through so much trouble to change their body, and why not just live with what you got, but your explanation made a lot of sense "I don't feel right in my body". I guess if I cared enough, I would want to change my body too, and that makes perfect sense now. Thank you for your awesome videos.
One of the things you said is people not understanding what you are talking about when you are going thru the trans stages. Still haven't started T yet. But considering it soon. You have given me inspiration to do it. Thank you.
just stumbled onto your channel (this is the first video) you are incredibly attractive, and i am glad you found yourself and answered these questions :)
This is probably too much information but I had some minimal hair in my buttcrack pre-t which isn’t necessarily uncommon for females and now that I’m on testosterone my buttcrack is hairy as fuck and I’m only about 4 months in. It’s ridiculous. I don’t mind it because it makes me feel more masculine but holy shit it is weird to get used to.
Miscellaneous Nick that is absolutely DISGUSTING. Why would you want to be a man anyway? Ew... the whole trans thing disgusts me in general, why can’t you just accept the way you were born?
I just spilt tea down my neck while watching this 👍 hope everyone else has a better experience. It's dripping down my chest. It's Very uncomfortable. Send help.
your vocabulary word analogy was really good. also, your voice is great :) i'm enjoying watching your videos and learning all the answers to questions I could never ask my friends. It's a real public service! Thank you!
Jamie, I'm on my second shot of T. Can you do a video say more about how T affects you. I'm so tired when I first wake up but have loads of energy during the day. Parts of me ache, I sound like I have a cold due to a slight voice drop. Your videos are amazing as are you! 🤗
This is one of the couple of videos I've watched of yours. And I'm happy that you are open and not feeling awkward by those quite personal questions, that definitely we all wonder. I feel others would have answered "non of your business, or it's personal yadda yadda" but you are such a breath of fresh air. Keep on the good videos 👍
