Don't judge I am glad my neice spend time wth you but feel betrayed that you put more energy in to getting my friends and fam instead of opening up to me . You were not honest rght from the start and then when you did start ..it was not for me it was for everyone and much half truth a d gossip and bullying by molly and many others ..peace begins when I let go of what no longer serves me and it seeks to destroy instead of meet half way wth communication andost of all honesty
17 years married to a narcissist. He lied, cheated and humiliated me on social media. I prayed for strength and divorced him. My life has truly changed for the better! If I can do it, you can too!❤️. Peace and Blessings to all!
People will regret losing you when things calm down and they are alone with their selfish thought without their friends and no one is around. This is their loss not yours.
I think it's me. I've known a lot of people over the years, almost all have went away. No staying power. A lot of people who were coworkers years ago keep in touch with each other but not me. I hear from very little family, not one cousin I can say I'm close with. Have virtually zero interest from women that Im even half attracted to (yet have heard I'm fairly good looking). I have many "friends" on Facebook but I hear from very few, rarely if ever invited me to their outings. I've invited some to events (bands or functions), can't remember when someone actually took me up on it. Almost all I reconnected with from the past (through Facebook) have no interest in meeting up. I do have a small number of fellow "misfits" I hang with once in awhile, they showed their selfish colors recently. It could be me, so I might as well start being a bit of a self centered asshole! They seem to keep friends!
Truth. When they realize there are not so many lighthouses out there. Their choice. We can still be that light for those who worth it. Not for those who take love for granted.
The right people will never leave you. So, let that be it. If they don't want you, don't force them to want you. Those who love you wouldn't leave you. Life moves on buddy!❤️
So true and in my case, I'm doing the leaving not him. He wouldn't mind staying in a toxic marriage out of convenience, not because it's love. Love don't feel like what we have and the constant turmoil that I do not want me and my son subjected to any longer. I am wise enough to say it's not working and it's time to move forward for all of us to be happy. He complacent and stagnant in everything that he does, so I know he would not leave even though we know he is just as unhappy as I am. If the RIGHT woman for him came available to him, he would drop me like a hot cake. He's just buying time, but in the meantime wants to gaslight me to believe we should continue. I think not. I've invested 18years and won't be investing another. Bye to him, welcome to my new and FULFILLING life. I will have no regrets, trust me.
@@patricia-LaCubanita Reach deep inside and realize you are an amazing person and worth loving. So, amazing the person you were once with, is going to definitely miss you and regret their loss. How do I know this? Because… if you weren’t amazing they never would have been with you to begin with. You need to realize it’s there loss not yours and it’s better it happened sooner the later. You should never waste time on someone who doesn’t want to be with you 100% in whole!
At the age of 47 I am starting to master this. Let them walk!!! You are being redirected to something so much better. They did you a favor. It’s a blessing in disguise.
I think we keep getting the same lesson till we learn it. I didn’t learn it till this last man, this last relationship. I am 51. It feels late, but some people never learn to care fir themselves like we have. That’s the blessing.
If you gave your heart to someone who rejected it, then it is not ment to be! Stop think about all the good memories with that person and start to write down all the negative things on your phone and whenever you think about him or her go to the phone!
When you gave it your all, yes it hurts but, you can not beat yourself up for wishing that person was someone else. They chose to walk. I was married for 23years. I believed I had the most wonderful man in my life. He decided to walk away from me with another woman. I cried for years grieving someone who did not value my love. Let them walk is not enough. Wave them goodbye and wish them well is what I did with a broken heart.
I wish I had walked away sooner. She beat me to the draw as I stayed longer than I should have and ended up gettibg kicked in the teeth like an idiot. Sometimes you gotta learn the hard way. It totally sucks. It really aint no fun ending up with a broken heart when someone takes you for a ride. Lesson learned. Time will heal our wounds.
What’s always helping me get through these times is remembering one thing. They were not who you made them out to be in your mind. Our insecurities and instabilities made them out to be someone they were not. We ignored the red flags and all the warnings of what was unhealthy. Now, this is just the end result of that chapter. Better now than later. Nothing changes if nothing changes. Use this as a sign to change and level up for yourself. I love you
Yesss Thank you 1.) He stole from a grocery store(& has Money) while he was supposed to be helping me while I was pregnant and would have bought it too. (UNNESSICARY trouble!) 2.)he does DRUGS 3.) He isn't responding to my texts or calls 🙄. So...I blocked him,and I'm going to keep him blocked even though I'm pregnant with his kid.
@@charlottetheartist327 do what’s best for your health and the baby’s as well. Take care of yourself and in return it we’ll strengthen that bond between you and your child. Wish you the best :)
Yes, I was left broken-hearted. Completely broken, shattered, sick and spent. I thought the hurt would never end, but it did...not fully, but I'm more than well now. It was a horrible journey, but it was my journey, and I finally realised the person I loved so much just didn't feel the same about me. I feel proud today that I managed against all the odds to survive this trauma, but you know what, I would never take that person I loved so much back into my life again. Never, ever. You too, will survive and eventually see that this person who hurt you so much just didn't deserve someone as special as you. Be happy that they are gone.
Same here... Be the light for those who worth: every day I had to remember this to myself, but it roughs, I know... This Christmas has been heavy. I disapperead, so that he texted 3 times in 3 months, and get rid bcz I did not reply him anymore. To 3 ridicolous text? At 40 years old, he has still to get that life and people has nothing to owe him. I was getting crazy, I lost my peace, while he, thanks to my love, has became a better one ( his words). He was scaring. I will write a novel. I swear. Because he has betrayed, gashlighted, manipulated me for 9 months. Never apologized. Never. Good grief: I said to myself : you met the worst narcissist or Bds or nihilist fool he is, in the human marketplace. Time to heal. The light is fade, but I know it takes time. I sincerely wish you the very best for this year. Out there there are people who really value and worth your presence. Only those people whose lives are turned into hell and become stronger, can understand the chaos we are getting through.
It's worst when you still love them...and she loved me apparently. I could see it in her eyes but now I don't know...I disrespected her and this is my karma. "hath no fury like a women scorned"
Let them go!!! The pain does dissipate I’m living proof, I’ve come from the darkest places you can’t even imagine. It’s temporary!!! Sending love ❤️ and light to anyone feeling low. Love yourself !!! You are worth it ! It gets easier …
When someone leaves you. They don’t see no value in you. It’s okay tho nobody needs to see your value only you do. Self love is so deadly you guys don’t know it!
Truth is, sometimes people need to leave us so we could wake up. We sometimes take the ones we love for granted. So it's not always the one who leaves who is in regret but the one who was left.
To all Angelic Empaths, we attract narcissists. Learning to let them go and move on is the most valuable thing we can learn, also one of the hardest, but we are strong!❤️
I have been learning how to use your Brain Waves to Picture and Manifest what you want out of Life!! If you would like to learn how, Let Me Know and I would be Blessed to show you want helped me be able to learn how the mind works and create the life we deserve!!! Simply!!!!
Mr.slimbullfrog this is so true but letting go is so hard they no how to weave you in a web of deceit and lies I usually try to trust because its nature to do so but lately bad experiences have taught me to not trust no one and I dont like that person
I have listened to this 5 times in a row. I'm having such a hard time letting someone go. I will listen to this as many times as it takes for me to let go ❤
Thanks for your beautiful heart felt compliments. I really do appreciate them. I was hoping we could chat more probably on google hangout (tperry022832@gmail.com) or direct email thanks.
Unfortunately can’t get peace in your house, not with noisy neighbours living around you. The grave is the only place for peace but we’ll be dead so we won’t even know it! 🤷🏼♀️
I had to let go 1. I was unhappy 2. I was tried of him 3. I found out he was narcissist. I don't need no one trying to hurt me. I'm 68 I want to live my last days happy and I don't mind flying solo.
Thanks for your transparency and sharing. A lot of pain in the letting go when there shouldn’t be for someone who cheated and abused me mentally physically and financially at the lowest time of health in my life. It’s hard to let go but I will do it.
@Rosalyn Kastner God will give you the grace to walk away, with grace, dignity, power and the resources to come out on top! Cheers to a better life my Sister, God has so much more for you!
After years of trying to work it out with my ex and multiple attempts from her to leave me, she threatened to leave me once again and that last time I finally said “you can go, I’m not going to try and keep you here. I don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with me”. She finally left and we got divorced. I felt like a failure. But after some time, I took time to work on myself and eventually met my fiancé, a woman who is 1000x the woman my ex was and our love is pure and true. The difference is night and day. I’d go back and go through all the drama again if i had to, just to be where I am today. Let them go.
The best thing to do as well is to give your new relationship time. Sometimes we also make the mistake of seeing “new” as better. Time passes by and then problems creep in. I believe love is tested with time. Her true nature always comes out 5-6years in the relationship. Getting past that is a milestone. So give yourself time as well.
I have been learning how to use your Brain Waves to Picture and Manifest what you want out of Life!! If you would like to learn how, Let Me Know and I would be Blessed to show you want helped me be able to learn how the mind works and create the life we deserve!!! Simply!!!!
@@blasiomuhinda5913 For me, people's true nature comes out in 4 months. 😭😅 Haven't had a relationship go past 11 months and a few hours. Despite this, I'm learning to love myself even though there were people who wouldn't, and I hope to find the one that will reach bigger milestones with me. 😌
The pain and disbelief in your heart when someone you loved so much just walks out on you is painful beyond words. I know, I was there five years ago. Not gonna lie, it broke me into a million pieces. There I was, falling apart and gasping for air like a fish out of water. She didn't care. I never want to be there again. What I can tell you is that time did heal me back. It wasn't easy though. I spent nights crying, praying and talking to myself. Asking myself where I went wrong. You know what I realized? I realized that she didn't deserve me. I realized that I did everything right and wasn't deserving of her betrayal. I realized that it wasn't me and so I stopped blaming myself for it. It was all her. I realized that she was the one with the issues, not me. So I breathed deep, prayed for myself and cut the emotional umbilical cord from her. It was so painful to lose fifteen years of a marriage, four children together and a home we created. I didn't deserve this but only God knows why this was my fate. Nonetheless, today I live with joy because I let her go. If they want out, let them go! Do not hold them. Don't argue with them. Do not try to reason with them. Because if they truly love you, you wouldn't need to convince them to stay.
I have been learning how to use your Brain Waves to Picture and Manifest what you want out of Life!! If you would like to learn how, Let Me Know and I would be Blessed to show you want helped me be able to learn how the mind works and create the life we deserve!!! Simply!!!
Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,I got help from a great man who brought us back together...
I had to learn this lesson the hard way. I begged a chick to come back, and we ended up getting married and having a kid and then we got divorced… I got screwed over in family court. I agree that when someone walks out on you, just them go. Don’t take them back because it’s never worth it.
I finally let go and I feel good within myself everyday it's with God anything is it is impossible so everyone take it from me Valerie is good stay blessed
I know I need to let them go. Its making a impact on my health, I'm drained emotionally, financially, and its taking a toll physically. God help me let go.
God have already given you the strength that you need to take the steps that you need to take. You need to make the decision to completely let go as he is speaking of in the video. The only thing that we can't make it without is God. I know it can be tough, but it is necessary to let someone go that don't have your best interest at heart. You said yourself that keeping them in your life is taking a toll on you. There isn't anything for you to hold on to sound like it to me.
I let go a year and half ago and omg it’s been the most wonderful peaceful time in my life! And I don’t miss having someone with me AT ALL after all the psychological and emotional abuse he put me through! I have a very loyal dog. And an RV
@@tylerperryofficialchannel4885 Absolutely. Thank you. Although I do not know you personally. As you can see I seek your motivation and others, at times playing these all day , st times at night when things are really rough. Thank you motivators, leaders
Brilliant! Thank you for sobering me up. I'm finally ready to hear that kind of message. Anyone who is brokenhearted right now - keep holding on, you are almost there, God is changing you into a butterfly.
Once they want to leave, you have to let them go because there is nothing you can do to make them stay. I have mix feelings listening to this: sad and happy at the same time.
@@Derek-rh9mi even if you are trying change??? Idk what to do anymore?? My gf says she still has feelings for me and she still adores me but her love for is faded away.. 😭😭😭 we have been together for 8 years... Idk how would go on without her.. she was such a precious person to me... What do i do?? I feel like i might just die💔💔
AND THAT'S A BLESSING TO HEAR ,,, LOVE YOU FIRST ALWAYS ,,, THEN WHEN REAL LOVE COMES YOU'RE WAY AND THE LORD SEE'S THAT YOU ARE READY A GOOD PERSON WILL COME YOUR WAY....... BE BLESSED .....💞💓💞💓💞💓
Thank God he got me through everything THEY SAID GET HELP I SAID I GOT HELP I GOT JESUS THANK YOU GOD YOU BEEN MORE THEN GOOD, WAY more then I ever could deserve and amazing The Amazing Lord Jesus Christ.
Or sometimes you have to wake yourself up realize that not everyone is suppose to be taken on a journey that you’re going towards. A lot of time you have to let things go...
This is very true and powerful..... Anything that's not for you will continue hurting you until you have no choice but to let go ..... GOD will leave you and that's all you need ..... Remember who you are and who you were before they ever came into your life.... That's chapter is over it's like a stage play ... Some people have shorter roles that others
I been shot, stabbed, jumped, lost friends, broke my back, lost lovers I thought were lifers and I’m still going. God puts these speakers in the world to build even stronger speakers in the future. God bless and thank you
I've been shot stabbed my entire body broken all to pieces and everyone that I have always been there for and had there back not one of them has shown up for me I'm alone
With all the red flags I ignored and still married that narcissistic brat , she told me she had options one to many times , so I dared her to find better ! She came back twice and I turned her away both times . I reminded her she wasn't happy with me and there was no point in trying again . I mean 27 years and it still ain't getting right 🙄 The kids are grown and your not ? By sweet heart !!!!!!!
Lived this too with a narc brat. After 27 years and we had no more intimacy than a random neighbor might. Her parents ran my home and she corrupted my kids. Divorcing now but saw red flags early. Already nice to be free. Good luck Corey Haga. Keep us updated.
Be sure to work on you and become the best person you could ever be ! Take time to clear your head ! It took a little over a year for me but totally worth the wait 😊
@@coreyhaga2623 thank you. It is my plan but really I want my two children free of her power/control and loveless ways. They are distant towards me and I want them in my life desperately. Setting up therapy for the 13 yr old, she needs to see the light. The 17 yr old can be close but the narc has stunted her so. Do kids ever see thru the narc and accept the decent norm parent?
Art &me Always be available for your kids , there will be a time period your kids will think their Mom needs protection , you have to wait for this to pass , it can take a while so prepare for the long haul , Your kids will have to decide for themselves the kind of relationship they want with you , remember patients is a super power so focus on being the loving father they need and believe in the brightest outcome 😊
After almost 3 years I had to make this decision. I spent 2 of it alone, him not investing any time other than phone calls and texts. It’s been 3 weeks the first two were rough slowly getting better guess I had 2 years to grieve. Now it’s time for me to figure why I chose to stay. Here’s to 2021 moving on and up.
Same for me... I left that relationship at the beginning of March... I gave my all and still was taken for granted... I got fed up... I couldnt do it nomore... We haven’t been in contact... I just wonder will she ever realizes how good I treated her...
Sound's just like the guy I was friend's/acquantanced with.Didn't even do phone call's after a year.I have the patience of a saint I once was told.But a man if he continually break's his word say's sorry but never learn's, you feel a fool for ever believing him and a fool for waiting in thinking that one day that tine to finally meet up will come.You realise how easier it is with other new friend's.Sometime's we help other's to help them blossom, shine and to have a sense of fun and to open their eye's.But sometime's and when your heart's in the right place- no matter what you do, the other person might be too set in their way's.Too fragile, too set in stone to see another route or a conbination of only what they know and fearful for anything that might unsettle thing's and not simply know how to live.But to live and be a free independant person.It is a great shame to put so much in to somebody when you gave yiur all and go the distance- yet they continue with their shortcoming's and mess you about for you to finally realise, that you've been fooled.And that your heart is still too big.Too giving of it can be given to the person whom doesn't appreciate it. Falling for somebody unexpectedly, waiting waiting.........waiting, to the full realisation hitting home-that they never were going to ever meet up one day with you.That really you fell in to that same trap.And it is you who is back on the shelf on your own again.He can still be doing his caring and doting responsibilies snd not seem to notice your absence.What had started was a seed which coukd have bloomed, but he didn't look after it nor commit to it growth and so it died.
I’ve cut people off for being toxic and my life is so peaceful and I don’t regret it strange thing I’ve found the toxic people they do try to get back in touch and get very angry when you don’t reciprocate but when you change your number they become out of sight and out of mind...
I married 15years ago my husband decided he wanted to separate year after the marriage but wanted no divorce to pay for now for years he's been sick with a disease called Huntington chlorea now he's been in several nursing homes he lied threw whole marriage
I truly am sorry for being so toxic you are a beautiful person I am so privileged to have had you in my life one day I will love myself and I pray to God that u end up in my life. Thankyou for being so good to me I am lost and if one day Jesus fixes my. Selfishness I pray our paths cross. Forever in my heart love you and miss you. Daniel Arenas. Be Great my friend!
I literally feel like God just dropped this right in my lap... Didn't even search for this type of content or anything, just randomly stumbled upon it, and it could not have come at a better time My God, my soul... My SOUL needed this so badly. From the bottom of my heart, thank you for this.
I wrote earlier that the narcissist is a virus they need a host cell as they do not own a self the need to take yours x then they discard because the mirrowing you has not worked they are still left with nothing x they run to the next host cell x it’s nothing to do with you it could be anybody x they detest themselves and are broken this haunts them so they cycle round and round fearing the worst yes the worst x being alone having to live with the fact they have no one and no more host cells just the corrupted self looking back in the mirror
After 2 YEARS this type of motivational video it feels different , now that I have accepted and moved on , loving myself 1st , if you don't love yourself you can't love anybody else
What a word! Anyone reading this I promise you, it gets easier. & I’m speaking from experience. Gospel songs & praying is what got me through it. You can get through it too. I know it sounds cliché. I didn’t think I would make it after 4 years living together. I was heartbroken during the holidays!! But I came out on the other side. It gets better! It gets easier! I promise!
thank u she left me on my birthday said she wasnt happy now its been a month still miss her and this will be my 1st holidays in 12years without her im trying and each day seeing these videos and testimonies help me :)i still have my days but i have to let go and be happy leave it to god!
'Madea's' talk is what has helped me through the past several months...letting him go after 33+ years together. Falling in love, married, the hills and valleys to the most difficult times. The past several months have been hard, but also blessing to see how I was co-dependent on his cycles of self destruction. Yes it still hurts at times, but I am learning to love myself and be thankful to have learned this now while I still have ambition and strength! LET THEM GO!
This is so true. I broke up with a man who kept repeatedly showing me that he didn’t appreciate me. I let him go in 2012 and he continues to try to get me back to this very day. I asked him if he ever found what he thought he was missing when we were together, he replied no, looking dumb.
I was in a relationship with a narcissist the relationship was all a lies while I was there thinking that we’re together this demon was cheating on me with a woman that was living with her husband on the second floor of our building.when I realize what was going on I almost got a heart attack. I’m in therapy going on two years.but god kept me 👏🏾👏🏾
I have listened to this over 15 times and continue to listen to it. The hard part it letting go, especially when they are family members. But I have come to realize that if someone claims they love you, they would never hurt physically or mentally. Sometimes it’s not you it’s really them, and if they are not willing to change their behavior towards you, you have every right to walk away and leave them there. I will continue listening to this as many times as I have to, for it is getting me by during these hard times.
I needed to hear this. Was in a 7 year relationship and ended three weeks ago. I not saying am prefect but I gave everything to her. It was never enough. There was some good times but there was more bad than good. It's time to let go and move on. Hearing this help me to keep moving forward and not looking back.
@Blair Waldorf We dont know the guys age as well. Maybe he is in his mid twenties. Could have been his first girlfriend? Just saying. Most of us feel ready for marriage in our late twenties early 30s.
This thing of people in my life walk away from me, sometimes is hard to forget, because you have given them love care, everything, gifts and now when you need them, you can't even see them. I am proud because I have got my lord, in my heart. 🙏
Keep it pushing folks. You only need you. Be your own best friend, be your own support, talk nice to yourself, motivate yourself, never give up. Cry it out and keep pushing. Feel it, thats your superpower, thats how you heal, you feel, you learn, you learn to be kind to yourself. They may not feel it yet, but let karma / God have em. People cant just treat other people like shit forever and escape their karma
Thank you so much. I really needed this. I’m hurting now but, I know God has a plan for my life. It feels like my life is falling apart but, what it is doing is falling into place. I just have to be patient and trust God. He knows best. ❤️
I've been choosing my ex for the past two years over myself. I've finally choose me this time and let her walk. I feel like a huge weight has lifted off of my shoulders. She took all of the stress I had with her.
Boy I had to learn this the hard way recently. The person I was with wanted to remain friends but I sabotaged it, and begged him to stay. He even did something to hurt me and I called him out on it and he totally blocked me and went no contact on me. I take full responsibility for my actions and feel very hurt that he lied to me but I brought that on myself. Major lesson learned.
Right on!!! 😃✊👏💪 Always have faith in yourself. Just because they say, I love you, all the time doesn't mean they necessary mean it. Don't be one of the narcissist, And to always remember who you are. Know your worth and love yourself. We all have to make sacrifices for ourselves. Self- respect rules!
I remember being treated like nothing...I remember the verbal abuse,the insults...took me 3 years to leave her,but now I am good,looking after myself,stop falling in love with the other side of she/he doesn't mean it,she is better than this... I ddnt love myself,still battling with confidence but thats the best decision I made...ever in my life ❤
I've came across the video for a reason finding it hard to cut strings with a person that I thought was a friend but today is the day I truly let them go! And love myself and feel free 😊
I really needed this today. After over a week of questioning my sanity, I’ve decided I don’t need people who just suck the life out of you and leave you exhausted and crippled on the floor only to wipe they’re dirty feet on you as they leave ( my husband’s narcissistic parents). I’m happy to pick myself up with the power of our lord Jesus Christ and love, think and be a happy and productive person. I put my stress at the foot of the cross and the lord took charge and got them out my life and gave me the strength and courage to be at peace with everything. 🙏🏻
I am doing great. God has healed my heart. I am finally at peace and happy. I had to go through the healing journey (which as hard) but I came out better for it. @@eileen1991
I am doing great. God has healed my heart. I am finally at peace and happy. I had to go through the healing journey (which as hard) but I came out better for it. @@dayz1824
My two (adult) sons walked away from me. It broke my heart because I dedicated almost 25 years of my life to them, but I now realise that it was the best thing that has ever happened to me. I’m free to focus on myself and to do what makes me happy. I no longer look back at what happened, instead I focus on the present and living my best life.
Recently my wife of 27 years told me that were through. Didn't see it coming. It hurt, still does. Was hard for me to function, it was like dealing with a death of a loved one. Found this video, have listened many times. It's helping me alot. Thank you for your insight.
Thanks for your beautiful heart felt compliments. I really do appreciate them. I was hoping we could chat more probably on google hangout (tperry022832@gmail.com) or direct email thanks.
Hello dear I can recommend you to the same powerful Dr who helped me get my ex back to me permanent with more love and commitment. He can help you and bless your relationship perfectly
I don't hate him for letting me go because God has bigger and better plans for me. I have to be patient and repair my heart for the one He has for me. I will wait for God's will because then I know it will be blessed ❤
I hope you're feeling better by now! Similarly, I was forced to let go 4 (or 5?) weeks ago from now as well (two days ago made a month). I was so hurt and first but found the importance of self-love and emotional independence ever since. If he decides he made a mistake and wants to come back, it is now on him to do so. I hope your ex-person is realizing what they put you through. If they come back, it was meant to be (but don't rely on reappearance alone), but if they don't, they just weren't right for you, even if that hurts. Keep being strong for yourself and pushing forward: Love yourself, and those who want to love you will too. 😌🧡
