Unemployed and Faking Normal 

Neo SoulZ / me too!🙋💰💰💰💰💰💰

Amen

Neo SoulZ Amen! So do I, she deserves it.

Sam LSD NO THEY DO NOT!!! WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU? With so many with upside down finances, we all would be authors. What are you, a self-publisher outlet retailer looking for a new gimic to get people to pay you what little money they have in search of a FAKE NEWS dream? Git out of here with that crap!

Amen.

Bronco Billy I empathize with you. This is a harsh reality for many. I hope you find something soon.

Discrimination is a bitch man! Said: this black gay guy!!!!

Out of curiosity, are you financially Ok?

Her book should be turned into a play or movie . Where are Spike Lee and Tylor Perry, Opra?

Babydoll 404 I empathize with you. Are you embarrassed to share with your close friends or do you think you would be burdening them with your problem? I hope you are at least sharing with a family member. That is a big burden to carry alone. Good luck to you.

+Denise Noles Thank you. But I don't share with some of them because I know people can be secretly judgemental. But I'm fine now.

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samantha cooker your not kidding! That's the first thing I thought, how gorgeous she is! And brilliant, bright, inspirational.

Good looking because she is not 9 to 5 ha ha ha.

samantha cooker I would employ her to run my company.

I agree. Did you see her in the TedTalk video in that dress?

Kindred spirit! I am 34 and graduated into a down economy almost a decade ago. Couldn't find a job in my field, so I've been doing low paying temp jobs for years. My field has somewhat recovered and I am finally starting to get interviews for permanent positions. Even though I am a decade "behind", I am so glad I learned to live (happily) on very, very little. I will land a permanent position at some point and so my income will increase but without a shadow of a doubt my spending will not. I am a minimalist for life. I still would've been in the fog and living beyond my means if I hadn't had this very harsh life lesson so it was a blessing.

I started gardening and growing certain foods...

She does mention in one of her ted talk that her friend told her to "get off your high horse and do any job ""

Cecilia L Your observations are a breath of fresh air. Lack of compassion is a primary criteria of narcissistic personality disorder. Perhaps the trauma of dashed hopes will help us all 'find our tribe', and future. Wouldn't it be wonderful to wake up one day to a community of caring, spiritual, empathetic, intelligent and hard working fellow sojourners? What a huge missing element and 'elephant in the room' !

I-58 succinct- Practical response Thank you

Cecilia L "Judgment and lack of compassion " Spot On!

This is all so true. Society had driven a wedge between the 'have and the have not's'.

Cecilia L Sorry for your loss. Spot on comment. Empathy is lacking a lot these days.

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She was a bling bling girl and now poor. Why? She did not live with the basics and I got no compassion for her. A person who makes low income saves for old age and yet she was living large. Why?

+Whiterose Faith I think her downfall was wanting the stores, when she already had a good job...greed is the downfall of many, and if you could possibly lose it all if your dream business doesn't work out, then you can't afford to start your own business. Don't put all your eggs in one basket!

That is the true value of education. You use your critical thinking skills to dig your ass out of a hole when the world goes crazy.

Paris Hwy do you wanna help others? Help yourself first.

@@facenatural414 real talk!!!

Yes it is and just to live.

Barbara, you should be commended. Especially for trying to stay health. When you have your health, you have EVERYTHING, including the ability to make $$.

Thank you Renee! That's a fantastic idea and I'm looking into it today!!!

This is fantastic! Thank you so much for your awesome suggestions!

Renee Tate thanks Renee for all this information. Best for the summer

I hear you. This is where starting a small home business comes in. It has been a life saver for me. With less than 500.00, I learned to sew, started sewing and selling tote bags and teach sewing to others for a fee. I also buy cheap and resell small home furnishings online (Ebay). A neighbor of mine learned to bake and sells her pastries weekly, giving her an extra 1500.00 a month. She has no actual physical shop. We must also remember to go out and make connections. Whether that is a community center, a church or attending a workshop. You will find some ideas will come to you doing this.

I'll add that I've had to tell friends that I can't do lavish dinners and drinks after work, but every now and then. I will be taking weekend getaway trips. My trips to Whole Foods are only for things I can't find at Trader Joe's and bring my breakfast and lunch to work on most days.

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That’s good - poor people spend and end up in those situations, smarter people save and invest so that could enjoy good life a bit later in their life - same here it doesn’t bother me lavish dinners and nice hotels, not trading my financial freedom for that, it’s stupid - I feel sorry for those big spenders esp millennials

XxZombieDivaxX /I guess you never made any plans and had them go awry? I guess you never had a dream and tried to make it come to fruition? nothing ventured nothing gained. I hope you keep living that perfect life where nothing ever goes wrong....

this lady put herself in the position she's in, and it looks like she's smart enough to use you suckers to get her out of it. Not saying she's a bad person, just that she's not some tragic victim

Donny that is one way to see this situation, but it also admirable not to mention how courageous to be exposed to your friends and the world to her personal financial problems. I learned from experience and I don't want to be in her shoes by her age, do you know how many people are becoming homeless every day, this is real my friend. She is also an intellectual and putting her experience on paper is the best to presented to the world if it help her out to be stable fine, but I am petty sure, she providing more benefits that what she is taking in,

Ronny she is not using anyone to get out of it dummy. You are not her age. She is giving people a warning. She was not wrong to start a business. She would have done better in a more viable business.

@Nibbler800 why do you hear her though?Her comment is mean spirited, without compassion and the kind of attitude that is cruel and lacks analysis .

Life can be really hard. Be kind to yourself. Being middle class may be more comfortable, but the real comfort in life is making peace with your life circumstances. Whatever they are.

fahren299 me too

fahren299, you are on unemployment now which means you need to save and cover your own ass. Do not worry about her, cause she put her self in that situation. I know someone who is a millionaire and he lives the frugal live. He shops Walmart and live simple, yet got a lot of money. He lives frugal so that he will not be in her shoes.

How about you worry your money and I'll worry about mine.

lol. And you will be in the same boat like her.

and you'll still be trolling YT full time.

Angel I'm sure Ms. White has had a difficult time, but its also suspicious that a woman with her education and professional background would be unable to find gainful employment in her industry. So, I am going to call partial bullshit. I think Ms. White may be expecting too high of a salary considering her time out of the industry, maybe expecting too much responsibility. She could be expecting skills that were relevant 10 years ago to pay as much today. And considering her condo, it simply doesn't make sense to keep that home if the financial situation is so fragile. So, while I definitely empathize, I also want to know what Ms. White is expecting for employment, how she's presenting her failed business to prospective employers, and whether she has savings tied up in investments, property, or auctionable assets like art.

Everything you mention has been addressed in this piece along with two others by PBS NewsHour. A majority of the people in this comment section saw the PBS pieces first and were led to this discussion.

Why is it suspicious because you or a family member or close friend have not gone through it...don't judge someone that you don't know..

velvet123 At least you have youth on your side. Take advantage of it. Ive literally heard hiring managers say, "But she's so old," Referring to someone in their 40s smh.

Caramel Spice True, but it's not always the case. There is always a catch 22. People keep saying your young, I also have trouble finding good high paying jobs. Specially where I live, it's all minimum wage jobs. If it is 9-10h an hour or so that hardly pays the bill. I was able to find something that currently pays for my bills but that is not enough when you live by yourself. I've been wanting to be able to go to school and have a job. The career I would love to do would be impossible it's medical it's full time. I would have to drop my full time job to focus on it. I'm personally not fond of debt. I'm already 10k in debt which might not seem a lot but it is for me. My bills keep going up but my income stays the same. I already cut back on a lot for years. Right now I'm focusing on working on my online business and seen if I can take that as a full time. While working 9-12h a day at my current job. I have grey hair from stress and same with my peers being so over stress working up to 2-3 jobs just to keep up with this rat race.

Monica Daniel congratulations Monica! I just turned 60 and my job is very uncertain. The many resumes I've sent out were all in vain. My next step is to be retrained in something else, if I can afford it. Best of luck!

Monica Daniel Congrats!

Shy Anne Good luck!

Denise Noles thank you!

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mardcon2002 She had one

and she did.....you called it!

lambchopxoxo Right now, it's "give me money for my child's thing" season, and I'm already tired of it. Throwing birthday, new job, new baby, wedding, etc. potlucks or lunches all the dang time, and now you want money because you have kids? And it's usually someone who doesn't give a damn about you until they need something off you. Nah. I'll keep my money in my pocket.

YESS - my sister! Find your niche so the rug can't be pulled from underneath you. Corporate America will run you ragged and leave you for dead. Establish your personal brand, keep yourself marketable, network and you'll be ready for the best opportunities that come your way. Just be sure to make time for family, friends and get some rest and relaxation. Peace.

Totally agree, I was thinking the samething. Although she didn't say it, I get the impression that she didn't save nearly as much as she should have working a six figure income for as long as she did. I learned the hard way to save and yes play it safe and stay put. I'm too old to take chances like that. I go from the known to the unknown now. I need to live to fight another day and not do the reverse.

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it's not you.Its rough out there....and rude. Brace yourself Kasnar.

AMEN!!

Don't "lose" hope either. :)

Executive Woman Her website has her email

your point?

Pt Leshoure Her website has her email

Giselle collazo She consults for non profits

Big L's Life Lessons Legal aid

so stop watching her and her 'arrogantitis'. Leave her to the ones who she is meant to touch.Clearly not you.

@@MegaDiva1999 Obviously I have, lol. Don't be bitter with me because I said something YOU don't like. Think about why a random YT comment bothers you so much, instead.

It’s as simple as that. She made a dumb decision.

Very.

could have, should have is the luxury of hindsight. Ms White tried to pursue the American Dream right? And she did not know that 2008 was going to happen.She has said many times that she could have chosen differently. Interestingly , lots of white men make reckless, stupid choices in business and yet are bailed out or applauded for being daring. What we need is a more compassion and a clearer understanding of how global capital and economics are skewed to create many of these casualties. And you have NO RIGHT to intervene in a friendship between Ms White and her friend. It has nothing to do with you.

@@MegaDiva1999 She made a foolish decision to invest in a niche business late in life using her 401k money to fund it. Then she refinanced her house to the hilt at an advanced age, another bad move. No sense of self-preservation whatsoever. Her message should be to save and protect your 401k and housing at all costs.

+Denise G I agree with you. In life we work hard and take risk everyday. She doesn't want someone to feel sorry for her she is just telling her story. I'm glad she did for the people are in that position at an old age. She is pulling herself up by her boot straps and I think that is commendable.

I say pompous !!! And not humble. And entitled. Don't let the afro fool you. All that education, maybe working in the community with the youth or seniors can help her refocus. To much education can spoil the soul. Why would you go to a restaurant you cannot afford a glass of wine, and you know you can't truly afford to split the bill. Kill your ego and allow the real gifts to come into your life. This woman waved and talked about those degrees as if they had an organic value cos those degrees will not keep you warm at night. Very sad! Another woman at the end of her journey with worthless paperwork. My grandmother had seven children and was a widow at 45, with a high school education. My grandmother cleaned homes part time after my grandfather passed and worked at a Head Start program in her 70s, She was able to leave a home in California to her heirs. And a 30+ acre farm in New Mexico, her heirs only being responsible for the taxes on the property.. So many women of White's generation have been mislead to believe education and careers were far more important than families. Selfish baby boomers still think it's all about them. My goodness volunteer at a historically black women's college. Rebuild your soul.

@Rosalyn Manning I thank you for sharing wisdom. Grandma knows!

Denise G I would never invest my entire life into a career. Your family, church and community are the true investments that pay real dividends. Rich or poor everybody takes a fall and has a need to readjust their lives. After the age of 50 you ARE supposed to adjust your life. By the time you hit 62 there should be no second mortgage on your home it should be paid off or payments are reflecting when you purchased your home 20 years ago. You don't bet the farm in a business venture that could go south. She gambled and lost. That's not ageism it's poor planning. This woman does not mention children or a husband that she had to sacrifice for and missed out on gaps of her career or life. This is the path that she chose. Accept it! Do you people think that you are competitive with a thirty year old? You are not! Youth is exciting, innocence is exciting that pompous attitude is not exciting. Unfortunately, people have been told intelligence and education are extremely important, and then your career is important, all b.s.. You say this is about ageism and we should stick to that subject and not judge. No, you want to make it about ageism. And not live in reality that when you get old you have less opportunity. If you're an old lion on the Serengeti you have less opportunity. Baby boomers, your chickens are coming home to roost. My real investment was my family. True Love! without it you are an empty vessel begging to be filled up. My mother has 10 grandchildren, when my niece was 5 years old, my mother had just given her a bath, My niece told my mother, "grandma, when you're old I'm going to bath you and put lotion on you and you'll never be alone". That is the investment. Baby boomers like this woman have been mislead. Just to sum it up, she's just not humble. She's entitled.

Denise G "we've been cast off and left for dead". Yes, Denise, you have been cast off. Cos you were a slave to society. There is no need for you anymore. There are new, better, faster models. That's just the reality. A corporate structure doesn't care about your feelings.

so that solves everything else?

Natasha Rose OMG I’m so glad that somebody finally said what I was thinking. You made a fuck up ass decision and we suppose to feel sorry for you?! damn you dumb in common sense that is. Who did she talk to? Before she made this decision, was there other people telling her this is kind of risky? It’s obliviously she didn’t take heed to the advise now she gotta face the consequences. 200k a year shiiiid I don’t care what you do now. Your not making that kind of bread today.

This lady became educated worked for someone else for years then decided to start her own business. How is that dumb to start a business that provided jobs for others? No one knows if their business is going to be a hit or miss. You go into it thinking it is going to make it. She enjoyed African art and trinkets and took a chance. Her back up plan was having credentials to get back in the game. If she didn't have degrees the first thing everyone would say you need to go back to school. Her story is a lesson to everyone it doesn't matter your education or how much money you make you need to save past your retirement and watch your splurging. She could have been fired as so many have been at a certain age and be in the same situation. There aren't any guarantees in life. She has an opportunity to inspire others to take off the mask and watch on the splurges.

J OneLife so you can’t compete and with win WOW