I can’t accept that you are no longer in this world. I still catch myself thinking that you’re still here because I can’t imagine a world without you Marie. I’ve been watching your videos for years, you felt like a safe place for me. Your videos always gave me so much peace.
My therapist once said to me that people come into your life for a season; a reason or a lifetime. It's helped me deal with endings so much. You and pip have always reminded me of that saying as I feel like you definitely came into each others lives for a reason ❤
Haven't seen your videos in the longest time but wow so refreshing to see how awesome life is going for you! Literally glowing! I remember watching your videos when times were really tough for both of us and I'm so proud to see you come out so so so much stronger. You deserve the best life has to offer after helping me and so many others with our mental health! AGH so proud :))))
marie we miss you. it’s so difficult to fathom that you are no longer here. if your life could have been measured by the life you breathed into others you would have lived forever.
honestly never thought I could be so proud/happy for someone ive never met!! found your channel in 2017 and seeing you overcome all that you have and build such a beautiful live for urself has been amazing and given me strength to do the same. so much love & glad everything is going well!! 🦋
I am so glad to see that you are back. I struggle with mental illness and your videos have always brought me comfort and relief, thank you for making these videos and it's good to see you again and healthy.
Questions about self harm: How do you start to feel more confident showing your scars/ how do you know it’s healed enough to show them? How can you accept that they are fading? How to deal with relapse? Why do we trigger ourselves and how to stop?
Your doing amazing hun!!! I'm nearly 4 month free from s/h it's so difficult at times but it's an achievement! You were the first you tuned that I came across in the UK on here with bpd. I can't thank you enough for being real and honest about things and how it difficult it can be to live "normal ' life 😘😘😘🤗
Hey Marie Just wanted to tell you I stumbled onto your account years ago when I was struggling really bad. To see you like this now really gives me joy! I am also doing great now, working on an education in the mental health field! I am really proud of us! Greetings from Switzerland 🇨🇭
I found you’re videos when I was in my darkest place, you came up on my recommended page tonight when I’m in my happiest place studying children nursing. It’s so lovely to see you so happy x
It's so nice to see you again! I'm glad you're doing well! Also I'm so proud of you for 4 years, that's amazing! I can't imagine making it that far, it's really impressive and I'm so glad you didn't relapse. Watching this I realized how much I missed your seeing your videos, they really brighten my day and I can't wait for the next one :) Did your self harm ever affect your ED, or vice versa? If that makes any sense. Also, not about self harm, but would you be willing to do a video on your ED?
so happy to hear that you’re doing well!! you’ve been such an inspiration to me in my recovery & now i’ll soon be a year clean 🥹 thank you for always being so open & honest!
I have been watching your channel and journey since I was an early teen. I have struggled with similar issues and to hear that your are 4 years SH free, made me cry tears of joy and hope.
I love seeing you so bright and happy and healthy and really truly doing good things for yourself it really keeps me going. Like seeing where you've been and the work you've done to dig yourself out of that 🥰🥰🥰 the best. Truly the best
I'm so glad to see you doing well. I have been watching you for 7 years, and I always come and watch your updates. I have been with my partner for 8 years now. And been going through a lot of the same things you have. I'm in a pretty good place atm. Lots of hugs
Ahhh I'm so glad you're doing great! I started watching you so long ago and you were the driving force in me getting into therapy, taking meds responsibly, ending SH and getting my ish together. I'll be forever grateful to you ❤
Marie I started watching you in 2017. We were both not in great places. I’m so so proud of you. I’m also around 3 years sh free with one or two blips. Can totally relate to you saying the urges are still there sometimes but gets so much easier to not act on them the more time goes by. You should be super proud of yourself. I have a question, I’d love for you to do a video about working when you have mental health problems yourself. I’m just about to finish my psychology degree and have been volunteering as a peer support worker for a charity on the phones. I really want to get a job with them but I’m scared. I still struggle with anxiety so it holds me back a bit. But I’m determined to try. Do you have any tips? I haven’t worked for like 10 years so it’s really daunting. Love you ❤
I'm now about 500 days clean of SH and it feels incredible despite how difficult it has been. This last year I've had so many awful things happen to me which in the past I would automatically react to by hurting myself and it feels so good to be able to resist. I always say that pain is temporary and scars are permanent. Urges will fade and everything will be okay 💜
my urges are so different - they never came on with sudden intensity, but build up slowly over time until I'm tired of fighting them and give in then I'll be alright for a while while they heal and for a bit after that ... I've been working on increasing the length between times: days to weeks to months. Apart from one hiccough a few months ago, now I think it's been almost two years
Good to see you, been lovely seeing you on Insta finding yourself and what you want! I was just wondering if you would ever talk about the car incident or if not then why? I was just curious about your recovery mentally but also scars wise etc. I had someone recently say that after a physical injury they had a massive deceleration about their self harm scars and being more confident in them. Wondered if you experienced something like this? 💕
I’m so happy you posted again!! It’s definitely been a long time, but Marie I will always follow you and hope for a new video. I’m so happy you’re doing well and I’ve been a fan for so long now. You’ve helped me through some really really hard times in my life and I can proudly say I’m 2 years self harm free!! 🥳❤️ I love you so much! ~ Megan ❣️
Megan, you are an incredible lil Angel. Thankyou for your support 🫶🏼 it means the world to me. 💕 hope you’re doing well and I’m sending so many hugs xxxxxx
question for ur sh q&a how do u respond to questions people ask like ‘what happend to ur arm/leg” “whats that” “why would u do that” how do i become less self conscious of my scars like im okay with having them out but im very aware of what people might be thinking or when people are looking at me and it makes me want to cover up
When people ask what they are I literally say “oh they’re scars” because it’s obvious what they are. If they ask why then “it was a long time ago but I’m okay now”. If they keep asking then tell them you don’t really want to talk about it right now and they should respect that.
I had a breakup too my first boyfriend. I was very sad. I’m 18 I’ve been watching you through my recovery. Your my best RU-vidr it’s nice to see you thriving im thriving too
I’m sending you so much love holly. It is so hard and so sad but know that you’re allowed to feeel this!!! don’t let anyone tell you different, if it’s important to you then it should be important to them too. Sending love and hugs 🫶🏼💕✨
How to prevent yourself shing in/after a high intensity emotion instance like after an argument and not just when you get the urge on a calmer day when you’re just struggling
I have a few questions :) 1. How did you used to cope with strong urges 2. How will I know when my injuries are okay to show in public (they’re months old but I’m very cautious) 3. How to deal with shame of having stitches/ deal with the competition in self harm communities
for the competition aspect I try to remember something my therapist told me (and it's a common concept in DBT): you have two wolves inside of you, one that feeds off of care, listening, acceptance ecc., one that feeds off of impulsivity, deprecation, hate ecc.. You have the power to chose which wolf you want to feed, and the more you feed it, the stronger it gets. Obv things are not always this simple, but this really helps me remember that I DO have a choice on which wolf I want to feed and get stronger in the very end of my story.
For urges: There is a DBT skill called TIPP that has always helped me. T: temperature- that involves sticking your face into a bowl or sink of cold water for a few seconds at a time. That really helps me. I: intense exercise- literally anything you feel like P: paced breathing- in for 4, hold for 6, out for 8 & repeat! (or whatever works for you, just make sure the exhale is longer than the inhale) P: paired muscle relaxation. Tense & then relax your muscles at once & then repeat There are also some good apps - ‘calm harm’ & ‘tappy’ are good ones. I also use ‘I am sober’ which tracks how many days you’ve been clean for - it usually helps me to look at the number of days you’ve been clean for to any urges at bay! In terms of showing scars, honestly I think as long as they’re healed (as in not open wounds) & you feel comfortable then you shouldn’t worry about having to hide them.
so happy to hear that you're doing well! it honestly made my day :) I was wondering, are you still under your CMHT? like with a care coordinator? or did they discharge you? sorry if it's too personal you obviously don't have to answer. ily
I have recently gotten a diagnosis of BPD and I am really putting my all into bettering myself. Thank you for being such a positive influence. Do you think you will ever go to uni or is there a path your interested in? :) Also any tips of working ft when having a mental illness?
Kayla, ima tell you now that I think of diagnosis as a key to get the things you need, medication, therapy etc. don’t label yourself as it solely!! Sending love 💕 also yes I have actually been thinking about uni, I just don’t have a levels 😢… makes it a lot harder xxxxx
So glad you are doing well! I'm interested in the self harm video. How do you start with getting more confident showing scars? Does throwing out/hiding objects actually help with not doing it? Practical advice, have you ever bought your own 'steri-strips' and used them? Thinking about buying some to have.
Got diagnosed with BPD recently but can't get into group therapy yet due to intensive schooling atm. What's your advice when self harm/calorie restriction/etc. feels like pure survival ("at least I'm not going to kill myself if I cope like this")?
i know we never met but you sort of came into my life for a reason too! i found your channel in 2018 when i was really struggling and it gave me a lot of hope back then, even when you were struggling too i just felt less alone. now i’m kinda struggling again but seeing you doing so well warms my heart:) hope you have a great evening ily x
Marie, do you ever have challenges being in the workforce and being open about having your issues? I can't find a safe place to land employment wise, seems like I'm always saying the wrong things, and getting upset too easily. Feels like there are times I wish people wouldn't jump to the worst conclusions about me and see me for my good intentions.
Girl they saved my life. Theres side effects but for most people they are mild or manageable. If they have been prescribed to you by a psychiatrist, if you are severly depressed and nothing seems to help enough, its a good idea. I was scared of starting them but my friends said Id never know whether they work or not without trying. Im so glad I did. I did nothing and I was thinking about committing so so much and now I can function and I have an almost normal life, I can do chores I can study for college I can enjoy nights out with my friends. I feel like myself for the first time, no more horrible lows dragging me away from who I feel I am. Speak to a psychiatrist and make sure they take some time to assess your situation
Does anyone have realistic advice on how to open up/allow yourself to ask for help and be vulnerable around mental health. I tend to bottle up all my anxieties/emotions/mental health until I just explode and say the most horrible stuff, but I feel like I don't know how to get out of this cycle because I often feel like I let down everyone who knows me by having a mental health condition/if I'm having a day where I feel emotional and I can't put on a "brave face", then I feel like I'm failing other people or that I'm showing up other people with similar mental health conditions, if I feel like I'm not being as "put together" as I feel like they are
I don't know if this is helpful but often people who look put together have their own shit too. They just hide it better! Being vulnerable with your emotions is a strength not a weakness - in fact, i look for people who are open with their emotions because I would prefer to have relationships with people who are in touch with their emotions and can communicate them than with people who keep it all bottled up. Plus people can't know they've upset you if you don't tell them whereas if u tell them when it happens they can do something about it and change their behaviour
I have quite a respectable job position and afraid of showing sh scars, showing then might get me fired especially in my country due to stigma. What should I do?
Does self harm have anything to do with blood pressure? Like if you're feeling too much stress, you want to let some blood out to physically lower the pressure.
I'm not quite sure but it won't be most effective in lowering blood pressure. Finding healthier ways to manage your stress will be more beneficial and effective when lowering your blood pressure.
Question for you- (I hope this doesn’t offend you because it’s absolutely not meant to!) I’ve noticed your voice is shaky a lot of the time. Is there a specific reason for it? I used to have this quite a bit and after doing research I came to the conclusion that it was part of my internal tremors (a shaking sensation felt inside the body rather than visibly outside. It can effect legs, arms, certain organs and even the voice box!)
Hello, I’m not really someone who comments on peoples videos but I just felt like I needed to tell you how genuinely proud I am of you. I’ve been watching you for a while. It’s crazy because I sometimes feel we’re living the same lives based on how similar I am to you. I found your channel when I was younger and since then you’ve helped me so much with my mental health and sh struggle. Simply hearing your advice or seeing you not be ashamed of your past is such an inspiration. I’m am glad to see you are doing okay and I wish nothing but the best for you. 🤍
