Using an Egg Donor to Get Pregnant - What I Learned, My Initial Feelings & the Selection Process 

As a 6x egg donor and surrogate i love hearing the side of the IPS because y’all’s journey is so beautiful ❤

Thank you so much for making this video. When I was 14 years old, I was told that I could not have kids. 16 years after being told that I could not have kids, my husband and I are on our donor egg IVF journey. Your video has made me feel better about the process. I too felt the same things you did when you were told that you had to have a child through egg donation.

hey frennn, thank you so much for making this video & having the courage to share your experience. I had a bone marrow transplant 8 years ago & underwent alot of chemotherapy. At the time I was living in LA and had no idea how I was going to pay for my life while I was in the hospital...which I ended up being hospitalized for almost a year during the transplant itself because I had so many complications. Before my transplant they told me that my fertility was at risk but I just couldn't figure out how to get the funds to freeze my eggs. Its SOOOO expensive. Now at 35 I am married to the love of my life and that decision has haunted me. I wish I could go back in time and get a second a job or something to have made my eggs a priority. I wish I would have gone into debt to make it happen because my husband would be so happy. Hell, I would be happy. I did soooo many beauty pageants, and acting classes and all these external things that really don't matter to me anymore--literally spent thousands and thousands. Sooooo dumb. Its true--youth is wasted on the young. My husband & I started fertility treatments but the doctors have told us to stop because nothing is happening. I'm torn in faith. Reading my Bible, knowing that God's promises are true in my head (trying to get it in my heart) but also the evidence of what things are looking like in my reality right now. I don't want to accept that there are no eggs inside me. There has to be just one...just one. I mean look at the abundance outside--every flower giving thousands of seeds before its cycle ends. There is abundance everywhere. I've felt desperation, hopelessness, grief...you name it. To anyone reading this--you are not alone--its the worse most heartbreaking thing to experience. Literally being made a woman --created to LITERALLY create--and your body won't. It's devastating. And to those who had to carry the burden of illness as well------horrible. Be grateful if you were born into a family that was able to help you navigate decisions like that early on & help financially. I don't want to keep waiting though. Every thing you discussed,..I feel. But also immense guilt for my decision. I should have ruminated more on my future. But hindsight is 2020. Your daughter really does look like you. What a blessing. Congratulations!!!! I haven't spoken to our fertility specialist yet about the details of egg donation (he said my uterus looks healthy enough to carry but I hadn't really entertained donation yet) ... but per your suggestion, I did take a peak at the national registry. There were only 4 black egg donors 😳 God is faithful, he always has been...so I'll keep moving forward. This was a ramble...but thank you so much for sharing your testimony.

Excellent information. Well presented and I look forward to seeing how the beautiful baby progresses. It's truly a miracle. Thank you for sharing this personal journey.

I am just so happy for you all! I’ve been following y’all for awhile. I’m just getting back to RU-vid and checking out your videos again. I relate with y’all on so many levels. Congratulations Mama!

Am so happy for you . Congratulations 🎊

I have an ED baby. I LOVE him more than ANYTHING. He is my everything 💙❤️I can’t imagine that I could love anyone/ anything more than him. I wouldn’t love him more if he had my genetic.

Thank you for sharing this information it definitely helps people going through infertility and shows that there are still options out there.

Thank you so very much for this ❤ God bless you & your lil Mamma❤️

Inspiring journey. Well documented. Your daughter will be proud of her mama. Come what may, you never gave up.

Oh, you and your husband are definitely the creators of this little miracle!💕 And her name is so beautiful!

Thank you. You really really really explained a lot of questions and concerns I was having. Congratulations.....

Congratulations on having this dream baby! I was following your channel when I was trying to get pregnant myself and feel for you. So happy for you and your husband! You made the right choice! All the best to you all!

Girl I didn’t see you for yearssss and just recently starting thinking of you and boom here you are!

Thank you for this video!! It makes me feel so much better ❤

Inspirational!! Thank you so much for sharing 💕 she's beautiful. She looks like you 💗

So happy to see an updated video from you, just had my second round of ivf for embryo banking due to low AMH, so excited to have you along this journey. Love from Ireland 🇮🇪 💚

Thank you so much for sharing!! This is so helpful

Great information and video! My donor was tested for 550 different genetic diseases & she was a carrier off 2 different things from my husband. I’m surprised they only tested your donor for 27. Glad you got your baby she’s super cute !

Hi Dear.. Soo happy to see you back after a loooooong time. Started following you last year when I was TTC. Your videos really helped me to stay calm and have hope when my IUIs failed. The way of your presentation and the positivity are really commendable. Happy that your lil one is doing great🧿❤️🥰. My 5th IUI worked and my baby boy is one month old now💞🧿 wishing your family good health and happiness forever 💞🙏🏽 lots of love from Kerala, India☺️

Beautiful video. Thank you. I am considering the same process.

I love this update! Made me cry! Thank you so much for sharing your journey. Love ya!

Thank you so much for sharing this. I just got to know yesterday that i might have to use an egg donor to get pregnant and i wont lie, it came as a shock and left me devastated. Coming to terms with it and trying to wrap my head around this option and your video helps ❤️ i can just feel my baby's soul waiting to come be with us... I hope it works out, here in India only anonymous egg donation is allowed. I trust God to pick the perfect one for us ❤️

Thank you for sharing your experience! This is so helpful! We are not quite there, but we seem to be headed towards a decision between egg donation or adoption. Both are great, I think, but adoption can be so difficult and expensive so we are definitely leaning towards egg donation if it is necessary. Knowing you get multiple eggs makes it so much more of a great option.

I understand everything you said. I cried for a week. We now have 5 embryos using donor eggs. I am not sure when we are transferring the embryos, but I am finally at peace with it.

Thank you for this video., I’m starting the process of using an egg donor. I feel the same way as you. I feel like my genes are now forever done. But in all honestly I’d prefer for my husband to have an opportunity to see his own genes and that we both can finally be parents. I’m so unknown about this process but your video relieved some stresses and concerns. Thank you

This video was very informative. Thank you. Would you please do a video on how talk to your child about the process at an early age? How would you explain it to them and so forth.

Awesome video. Thank you for sharing your experience. I will be watching more of your videos and be on the look for more so I subscribed. Thanks you. After I watch all I wish me and my hubby can talk to you. We had a very hard time at first when we find out the only option was egg donor but now we are talking about it. Im scared baby won’t look like me. Think it’s almost every woman’s worry but I wanna be able to get over that hump because I want a family and I’m so in love with my man!

Thank you for sharing this. I did IVF last summer with my own eggs and it failed. The experience was truly gut wrenching and our doctor said he wouldn’t recommend doing it again and that I should consider using a donor egg. When this was first brought up to me I had all sorts of feelings. I felt offended and went through a grieving process, however, you get to a point where you you stop looking at it as a negative and start looking at it as a positive. Using a donor egg is the only way I will get to be a mom. I desperately want to experience pregnancy and a donor egg will give me that opportunity. Our clinic’s donor program was pretty much postponed due to COVID so we are going through a national bank. We have a donor picked out and are just waiting for the eggs to become available. This should be any day! I sometimes still get sad. I’ll see pictures of friend’s children on facebook and see how much they look like their mom and that gets to me because I know I’ll never have that. But, overall I am really excited for this opportunity and thankful that this is an option for me. I truly appreciate your willingness to share your story. It helps to connect with people who have gone through similar experiences as your own.

I love your honesty. I would feel all kinds of emotions if it ever came to that. We are only 2 years in to our journey and only 2 failed IUIs so far and taking a break because the specialist wants to give the CoQ10 some time. I would be worried about the donor conceived persons emotions. I would hope that it is not anonymous so that my children can feel like they have access to all the information they could ever want. Love your journey and whatever you choose for your babies ❤ it’s very brave.

For those interested: there are clinics in Spain, Greece and Czech Republic for example who offer great quality work for way smaller prices, even with the flight there it will cost you thousands less...

Very well explained ☺️ love from Kolkata India

Thank you for sharing! I’m in so much pain. My IVF failed, I had just 3 saved eggs and they did not develop to blastocyst stage. I used Sperm donor, so hard to find a match. I’m thinking about egg donor but I’m still single. That sucks as well. I’m 44

This happened to me. And i felt the exactly the same way. I am very fortunate that my sister is goin to donate her eggs to me. I went through every emotion 😢 possible but we are now in the process now of treatment now and i have never been happier that i might have a happy family 😊

She is so pretty 😍. Congratulations

Wow!! She looks sooo like you!!

Wow.. this actually helps! I am going through the same thing…its very emotionally draining….

Hi, Any recommendation as far as things to check or vitamins and diet that feel would help with success with donor egg transfer first time also curious if doctors said anything about the testing they do on the donor on their fertility as well . Also did you use fresh or frozen or did your doctor recommend one over the other. Thanks for your videos unfortunately I’m learning more about fertility from others like you than doctors.

Awesome!! Glad my IUI works on me!

Thank u♥️🌹🌹(south africa)

I love this 🥰💙💯

Soo happy for u🥰... Can you please share the name and details of the clinic you done this

Baby is the image of you!!

Hi thanks for posting this video as it was very informative. Can you share what clinic you used? I’m more concerned about costs and the initial clinic I went I basically have to contact all the frozen or fresh egg banks myself to get the costs. I’m looking for a clinic that I can do fresh egg with but the donor has already been approved. Thanks in advance!

Did you consider using a known donor? I recommend learning about the donor conceived community-there’s a lot of information about the potential harm of using anonymous.

I just had an egg retrieval yesterday and found out i have no eggs. They told me my only option is donor eggs and I'm scared to death right now and can't stop crying. I feel so empty. I feel like it's all my fault. I literally feel like a bomb just hit me and i wish that were actually true right now. Sitting here with my eyes swollen from crying, questioning my entire existence. please if anyone reads this and felt the same way please tell me, does it ever get better? Cause right now i feel so hopeless

I have been using donor eggs as well but I have had 5 transfers and all have failed. How many transfers did you go through using donor eggs before it worked. And did you ever use donor sperm along with donor eggs

Would you still feel like this even if you used a donor egg but had a surrogate? so you didn't have that in utero bonding?

Thanks so much for sharing, this is very helpful and inspiring. Using a donor egg is the only good option my husband and i have to have a child. I just worry that I will feel like our child is more his than mine in a sense since its his genetics and not mine.I know his is a bit irrational but its a thought I have. I would hope after our child is born l would see it differently. Any advice ? , I dont hear of many other women voice the same concern . I guess it ties in with worrying the child wont feel like yours (even though he or she is just in a different way.

Gosh. Your prices are a lot lower than where I live. In Dallas texas. Total with a donor, we’re looking at $55k. We used an agency for our donor and that was like $20k total on its own. Then IVF is like $20k plus my transfer of like $4k. None of these prices include meds which are another $9k with her and my meds. This is not just my clinic (which is the best one IMO). It’s the going rate here.

How many IVFs did you have to do prior to deciding to use an egg donor?

If you don’t mind me asking how much did you spend for IVF?

I am for kolkata. I have lost my only son. My doctor told me for dooner egg ivf. But i am confused. Please give some siggsion to me.

She is yours100% Thank you for this such informative video. You’re the inspiration of a lot of woman to let us know that we are not alone. God bless you and your family ❤❤❤

Hello, can you share how many eggs your received and how many embryos created from those?

I wouldn't feel any different it's my baby.

Hello. I had my son through donor eggs. I suffered from post partum depression for almost 3 years. I feel my son does not have my genetics.please help me.i like your video .

I’m thinking about becoming a donor but wonder how strict the process is

Wow❤❤❤❤

Hi, Egg donor here ! did you say two cycles of the donors eggs failed ?

But she looks like you 😢 god bless you both❤

Where is your clinic?

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Hi , I am 40 years old, I had a miscarriage then I tried with my own eggs and consulted a fertility specialist I went through IVF. Due to my low AMH. My doctor suggested instead of going through IVF. We will try our UA after 3/4attempts, my pregnancy confirmed again it’s a miscarriage ,I can’t bear the expenses for egg donation in US and went to my home country and tried IVF cycle with donor eggs, in the first cycle itself, my pregnancy, confirmed, I traveled from my home country to us, it’s in the 8th week I had a miss-carriage. Actually from the egg donor they retrieved 6 to 10 eggs, now they have three more embryos left with them is there anyway you can help me with your suggestion? Do you have any chances? Actually I wanted to try in the US but I’m a little bit scared of the expenses. can you please help me what can I do thank you so much.

Wow your baby looks like you! I’d never known she was from an egg donor,

I am from india

OMG those costs, why? it's like you are buying a kidney. Doctors and clinics have no mercy

Would you be happy for your baby to meet the egg donor in future?

In india you can't select the donor person on ur own😢😢

In Sweden and Denmark you can't choose any qualities of the donor. They just match the hair and eye color, that's it.

Did you choose a donor that resembles you,your facial features,eye,and hair colour,build etc. I think physical resemblance,with good intelligence, and health history would be vital for me. Then you get the best of both :)

Any egg donor

I'm thinking that now there's a possibility of a natural pregnancy for you. It happens sometimes.

Put yourself in Joseph’s shoes with Mary. I’m POSITIVE Joseph loved Jesus as his own child.

She looks like your husband! So cute