She seems very kind,if you take another womens embryo the children will always look for her and be angry that you took advantage of their mom.@@reneemac111
seriously, what a beutiful women inside and out. think of all the mothers that get threatened when their son gets a girlfriend, let alone a biological donor that said "those are my kids!' She got her priorities straight
A donor is not a biological mother. The biological development occurs in the womb. A donor is a genetic relative because of shared genes. Like a cousin or an aunt have some shared genes. Cell replication occurs in the womb. I am just sharing because this is the terminology used in the reproductive field.
@@LoganGraceHope like she said. BIOLOGICAL MOTHER. You did all that explaining just to come back around to the point she made. She is the biological mother.
@@LoganGraceHope a donor is a bio parent...what r u talking about...donation has to done because the foster mom cant have babies physically... Anyone can do gestation...that does not affect the baby...
I'm an adoptive mother. My son's birth mother is definitely and irrevocably one of his "real" mothers. She created him, carried him, birthed him, and she and he will forever share traits, ethnicity, heritage, ancestry, blood. That is real and it matters. On the other hand, my son and I share a lived history. That matters too. We both love him. We are both his mothers.
@@msgina6655 It'll be my son's right to decide who his "real" mother is to him and what that term means to him. There are adoptees who strongly feel that their APs are their "real" parents and adoptees who very much don't. I'll respect my son's feelings about it either way.
@@ew7512 hun he can choose all he wants .. sorry u felt offended but his real mother is who birthed him.. THAT WILL NEVER CHANGE . That doesn’t take away from you but u can’t change genetic PERIOD. It’s just like these men claiming to be women😂😂😂😂 just stop
Everyone complaining about her being "intrusive" needs to take a chill pill. She waited until the kids were 20 years old. This means that they are fully grown independent adults and can choose how much or how little they wish to see the donor mother. If she contacted them when they were in high school it would be a different matter but the kids are fully developed and quite capable of understanding that their mother is the woman who raised them and sacrificed for them.
Especially since she didn’t contact them. She wasn’t even able to. She told the place she’d donated to about a medical condition they should know about and then said if they wanted to meet her, she was open and that was it. They are the ones who took the step forward to meet. People are so unbelievably sensitive these days.
@@battlerudee I agree, though I understand where she’s coming from, wanting to know someone who’s your flesh and blood. They’re not her children but at the same they are. It’s hard to push down nature.
I have a child who is 20. He is not fully grown nor an independent adult. Brain still developing still making decisions and learning and growing student who can’t buy alcohol 😅I was like that at 20 as well. It’s a big difference when you’re 28 to 30 and actually “grown”.
I saved mine when I was facing cancer so I could have children after treatment. Then I found out 20-some-odd years later that another family used them when my son told me I was his mother. Imagine my heartbreak and joy on finding out that I never even knew I had a child or got to raise him, but also the joy of knowing he existed.
@royalpitamamma if you didn't intend for your eggs to be donated then why were they used by another family? Wasn't there some agreement/clause put in place at the time?
Because donating eggs is about a 40 day process for a female compared to the time involved for a male’s ejaculation. The egg donor has restrictions including undergoing anesthesia.
@@CristinaAcosta Not commenting on process but on people calling it a donation when they are actually selling them for cash. Would be like saying I grew a garden full of food all summer and then donated it all .. for $4000 in my pocket.
Because the donor isn't selling her eggs to the intended parents. She's donating them to the parents. The intended parents are paying the clinic, not the donor. The clinic, in turn, pays the donor. The money is to pay for your time, travel, and effort, not your eggs, which would actually be way more than a couple thousand dollars.
As a egg donor recipient, this made me hesitant to be open to reach out to my donor. The donor is giving me vibes that she wants to over step the birth mom.. She’s speaking as of it’s her kids. The donor did an wonderful thing by donating her eggs, but she seems to not realize that the twins are not her kids…
The bio mom is selfish sacrificed nothing and taking over the family another raised, I have thought about donating and open is good and fine even being seen as family but should be more of an aunt roll if open
@@taliabraver lol, tell that to all the kids raped and sold by their genetics parents. The only bond there is, is the one built on, you are not under any contract by genetics. Genetics dosnt guarantee anything but the features of your body.
Im glad I saw this video. I was considering using donor eggs and this just completely assured that I wouldn’t. As soon as she said those are MY kids it was a done deal for me. Ill either use my own eggs or not have kids
Don’t let one bad apple ruin it for you. The donor here was out of line. Those are not her kids, she didn’t grow them or birth them she was just the donor.
@@aw1043But you have to admit that there is a natural bond with people you know who are genetically related, whatever the circumstances. That’s why people are so heartbroken when they can’t have their own biological children. Otherwise adoption would be a more common option. Also the reason why adopted people long to know who their biological parents are.
@@aw1043Those are absolutely her kids. They are hers genetically even if she didn't carry and birth them, or raised them, or loved them, and overall neglected her responsibility of caring for them. Moreover, her parents are these kids' grandparents. Her siblings are these kids' aunts and uncles, and their kids are the cousins. Pretending that biological bonds don't exist is delusional. If they didn't exist, adoptees and donor kids wouldn't be obsessed with finding out their real parents, their lineage, where they came from. Having said all that, I don't deny for a second the role of a loving birth mother or adoptive mother. It's just that we need to stop pretending that genetic bonds are negligible. Falling in love with their sibling is every adoptee / donor kid's worst nightmare.
Not two mothers. One mother. The mother who raised them is the real mother. The other one is the donor. It’s good they get to have a relationship with her, but she’s still the donor.
Donor conceived people don’t have donors, they have biological parents. Because they didn’t choose to use donor sperm/eggs. Is the woman who died from ovarian cancer these children’s “grand donor” now too?
Both are their moms...who are u to tell.them that...donor is also a mom...if she choses to be one biologically... Technically they have two moms....if u do a dna test the donor will be the bio mom...
The Bio mom is not married, no kids, her parents are gone and she felt empty,,so she searched for the children from the eggs she donated, the intention of finding her bio children is not totally selfless
It is selfish. She just wants to fill a hole in her life. She's very pretty so I thinks it's obvious that's it's her crazy eyes and unhinged personality that are the reasons she's lonely and single.
@@LoganGraceHopeAmy has been my best friend since the seventh grade and she has a beautiful soul, and those children absolutely adore her! She also has a very good relationship with their mother, also. It’s really sad how people that know nothing of their situation have so many foul and hateful things to say!
@@daviddegea3373 yeah, that would be pretty sad, so when ya do some investigation and find that person who is pretending, then ya can let them know! 🤗
@@MsChitterchat I have no problem with being Honest. I have a problem with someone selling eggs for someone else to fulfill their want to be a mom & then the person who sold their eggs want to come back and have a relationship….& wanna play Mom… I’m not good with that.
How interesting now that she has no parents, no children and no one in her life so she crawls back into her children's lives, so timely of a coincidence in time .. Their actual mother who raised them from birth looks like such a kind and innocent soul. The donor mom gives narcistic vibes.
Those who donate to sperm or eggs should be compensated. Egg donation is not a simple procedure. Both are making money because there is a market for it. Both are making contributions that can benefit another family.
@@Sweetpea3051 and what do you have against capitalism? Let me guess, you are a person that is broke with lots of kids and chose not to make a sussed out of your life? Oh, you also may have blue or pink hair.
Doting eggs is still a personal act, they should be uploded, not insulted. I don't get this comment. Do you work for free? Do you help your bosses for free. At the end of the day, the egg is hers, thus she has every right to make money. Don't get this, you want benifites? Then you must be a bad person BS.
This isn't the feel-good story that the video makes it out to be. When you become an egg donor, you waive your rights to any offspring born from your donated eggs. This woman is intruding on a family she has no right to reach out to. Those kids might carry her genes, but she is not their mother, and she shouldn't be pursuing a relationship with them. She should have had her own kids if she wanted to be in a maternal role so much. It would have been a different story if the kids were the ones who initially sought out their egg donor, but that isn't the case. If I were the birth mother, I would feel upset that the donor is overstepping her bounds and trying to wedge herself into my family.
The kids wanted to meet their biological mother and thankfully their mother told them they were donor conceived. Because if she didn’t, her daughter could’ve had an easily preventable early death. Also, The Fertility Industry doesn’t keep track of the health of egg donors. Because they tend to have significantly higher chances getting cancer and infertility among other issues (not something they want the broke college girls they prey on to know about). Also…she might have been unable to have children of her own, because she donated eggs. Governments are changing the laws because of the bad things The Fertility Industry has done.
The kids 9 times out of 10 would eventually get curious and want to meet her, so it's a blessing. The adoptive mother seems very selfless, and just wants the best for her kids and for them to be happy. Adoptive kids raised well, love the parents that raise them, and won't forget the love ever! So it's not a threat, but a gift. This opportunity may never had taken place if the bio-mom got sick or died. As humans we are able to love many people at once, so why not share the love when the relationships are healthy. God bless!
If you feel that way woman unable to bear children shouldn’t let doctors play GOD. The children are not material. I’m glad their mother didn’t have a selfish attitude like yourself otherwise they’d still be searching for their mother. SMH
@@Nolanoyayo there was no longing in children, they were curious, woman that donated the egg had longing because she didn't have her own children. As she eloquently put it "her sad lonely life". Genetics is just that genetics and not some contract you have to fulfill, there are genetically related parents that abuse and torture their own children. The fact that they are genetically correlated means nothing....its the people that count.
If she was asked to pay back what she was paid, would she still want to meet her? Because we do all know that these women donate to make quick money and really have no interest in paying to raise them.
@@sanjapavlovic3968 In the U.K. egg donors only receive travel and any accommodation expenses (maximum £750). So it is an altruistic gesture. I’m more comfortable with this than paying young college students to go through the arduous process of egg donation. It should only be done to help a woman who cannot use her own eggs, I think.
@@86FramerThe donor could have just updated her medical info and the clinic then contacts the family. That's what the donor was supposed to do and that's what the donor signed a contract agreeing to. This donor was just being very selfish and very unethical.
@@LoganGraceHope Her biological children wanted to meet her. In the many cases where children aren’t told they’re donor conceived and fertility clinics get ghosted too, by not being told about successful pregnancies. It causes donor conceived people and their children to sometimes die from not having accurate family health histories. That’s why Washington State among many others are getting rid of donor anonymity.
That's a terrible way to look at that. The donor mom is not taking anything away from the twins' mother. Kids wanting to look for their donor mothers are curious by nature. The donors are also curious as well. The egg donation process is risky by itself. The hormones, procedures, and injections are just a few things the donor has to go through in order to even begin the process. The donor mom is a hero. Their mother is also a hero for giving these children life and raising them in healthy household.
I hope those kids never forget that Sunday is their real mother. The other lady just donated eggs to pay for her law school. Sunday is the one that was there for those kids day and night and through thick and thin. Now this donor woman shows up at of nowhere after Sunday has done all the heavy lifting.
@@meral5920 I don’t think this woman is trying to replace the mother. The relationship will likely end up being like an aunt and niece/nephew. But who knows? I’d be nervous that she didn’t have her own children and is wanting to fulfil that hole. I hope she doesn’t try too hard with the twins or this could end up a bit of a mess.
I am sorry, but this was extremely intrusive. What if the twins hadn't known that they were born because of a donor egg. This woman was lonely. She had lost her mother. She didn't have children, so she encroached on this woman life in order to meet kids she had no right to. I am happy the story turned out great, and everyone got to meet each other, but just wow.
she notified the agency about her medical history. the agency notified the mother. the mother chose to give her ADULT children the option to contact her. the children (who are adults in their 20s) said they wanted to know who their biological mother was. The children wanted to make that connection. children have a right to know where they came from, their birth mother with fertility problems cannot expect the children to ignore the natural human desire to know who your BIOLOGICAL family is
@@skepticalmaiden I watched and my opinion stands. Like I said, I am happy everything turned out great for all involved. But there is a flipside as well and it could have ended badly, especially if they twins hadn't known they were adopted and birthed through a donor.
@@ChillyMilly908 I will tell you the same thing. I watched the entire video, and my opinion stands. Like I said, I am happy everything turned out great for all involved. But there is a flipside as well and it could have ended badly, especially if the twins hadn't known they were adopted and birthed through a donor.
A happy situation where everyone involved is happy except the weirdo Twitter finger losers who just want to be angry about something on their screen...
I love that they all came together, and everyone’s happy. Very heartwarming. That said, the egg donor saying, “those are my kids” to her friend is out of line. They are not her kids. She’s just related to them. I hope the mother was okay with hearing that. She seems like a really open person.
Ok, but biologically they are hers. You aren't in her shoes to control her. Who cares how she phrased it. Everyone is happy so .... Why try to rob another of their joy? Live and let live.🙏❤💫
@@lmc2375 because it makes a lot of women who are trying to adopt or need a donated egg afraid to go through with it, because they have women like this who just donated a cell talking about them being her kids.
Stop referring to the egg donor as the “biological mom”. She is not their “mother”. This is not akin to adoption where a woman carried a child, delivered it and then gave it up. The donor provided a cell…this does not make you a “mother”.
I’m glad I decided not to use donor eggs, they offered this to me since I suffered premature ovarian failure and had no eggs left. Meaning no way to conceive children naturally. My husband and I decided that the child wouldn’t be ours. It would be his. So we decided not to go through with it.
@@catherinethemba Lots of things happen on a developing baby to just claim randomly it was one thing in specific, It's more important the surrogate mother's body.
The woman donated her eggs for someone to have a chance to have children who couldn't. How do you come to the conclusion of that gesture being unethical?
@@Jaycee3 there are two ways of getting things done.the right and the wrong way. both the women chose the wrong way whihc is religiously and morally incorrect. what if the children never found out their biological mom? we do not know who their biological father is? their paternal grandparents cousins etc
@@Jaycee3 She SOLD them for profit, with little to no consideration of what the resulting children would think or how they would one day feel. Making children into commodities absolutely is unethical
@@mattdoliver1984 There is no asking for anything “back”. None of this even suggests that. They are not children. They are adults & make their own decisions and choices… On their own accord. They had the same desire to find out where they came from .& have every right to explore that and meet their bio mom.
the children (who are adults in their 20s) said they wanted to know who their biological mother was. The children wanted to make that connection and could do it without their birth mothers approval. children have a right to know where they came from, their birth mother with fertility problems cannot expect the children to ignore the natural human desire to know who your BIOLOGICAL family is
@@ChillyMilly908 Yes but the children didnt have the responsibility when they were adopted. ITs a privilege to have good parents. They turned out good because of the parents. The parents was okay to have them meet the biological one.
All good, but this turned a little strange when the egg donator said " Christmas is going to be big deal this year"... what??? .... the kids have a mother already.
Amy has the crazy eyes she seems a little shall we say tightly wound. A 20 year old law student who sold eggs was probably very career focused. Probably did not want a family earlier but now that that ship has sailed so to speak she regrets her actions. She seemed kinda crazy when she said she recalled signing a contract and remembered her mom had ovarian cancer. Opportunistic? Not sure that's the right word but she found the in she was looking for. Also think this quote is telling @ 4:00 "I always refer to my life as my empty little life because you know my parents are gone and I have no kids of my own and you know I'm not married and I'm thinking what is going on with my life?". So she neglected started a family, life proceeds as it does, and she realized she had not invested time and energy into people so that later in life there are loved ones around you to share life with. So she kind of selfishly hunted down those kids so SHE could have a relationship because HER life was lacking. Why didn't she want to meet them 10 years ago? Career too busy? Parents still alive so you don't feel the need? Glad the kids get to know her bc they wanted to, but their mom is S tier crazy and low key selfish
Yeah I'm glad they're all OK with meeting, but the blond woman's kids seem a lot more well-adjusted than their donor and I hope they realize pretty quick that sticking with the woman who raised them is the right call. Cool to meet donor like a fun aunt, but yeah nah, they don't owe her anything.
That's such a sweet story and so nice that they all seem to be happy for each other. The mother who raised these children seems to have done a very good job.
Indeed, imagine the heartbreak of finding out you don't know your true mother or father.. 💔💔💔 Its so wrong. Those people will miss out on so much relatability from their parents from sharing looks to even traits that are passed down.. even mannerisms they share. Its truly a miracle how similar to our parents we become, regardless of whether we meet them or not. That nagging question of "who are they? Are they like me? Do they look like me? Do they miss me and love me? Do they only see me as dollar signs? Do they even care about who I ended up with, if I was raised well?"
@@freestylegamingartist8192I can understand if someone was adopted. But usually the whole point women use donors is so they can know what it’s like and finally have a baby they can call theirs. The donors are anonymous for a reason. I just hope this mom at least thought of the chance her kids will meet their bio mom because many don’t. They just think it’s a done deal and that’s it. Idk her story but I struggle with infertility and for this reason I do not want to adopt or use a donor egg. It would be a heartbreaking reminder of what I couldn’t do and I would feel like I have nothing of my own all over again. It’s so easy for others to say just adopt or use a donor egg, but they don’t realize the complex trauma, stress, grief (over a life that never existed) and heartbreak do to a person, it’s mental and physical, especially if a woman had a miscarriage on top of all that. Even if they have a miracle baby, they are never quite the same. Of course everyone will be different but many are in this boat. Anyways, I just hope everyone is cool in this situation, the fact that the mother went looking for them rather than the kids rubs me the wrong way. Hopefully all is truly well and as someone said to each their own.
Thank you this whole new report is a mockery and a joke , that lonely spinster will not be celebrated by me for trying to intrude on someone else’s family
I understand her longing but she should have only responded if the kids were looking for her. She didn’t disclose health information out of concern, she did it in order to create a relationship with the kids. She kind of broke the contract in away and it’s a little manipulative. The fact that she feels s sense of entitlement to “her kids” is psychologically not healthy, these kids have a real mom that raised them. Anyone who has raised a child knows that biology doesn’t give one the title of parent. Parenting is hard work, being a fun friend to the kids is easy.
She's a lawyer who know her "way". As we could see, she was happy and proud of how she found out their contact, etc. Hopefully she doesn't dominate or affect that kind and generous mother's relationship with her children who seemed to be won over by their outgoing and spontaneous biological mother.
she notified the agency about her health info, not the family. the agency contacted the mother, and the mother told her ADULT children about the opportunity to share their information. the children (who are adults in their 20s) said they wanted to know who their biological mother was. The children wanted to make that connection. children have a right to know where they came from, their birth mother with fertility problems cannot expect the children to ignore the natural human desire to know who your BIOLOGICAL family is
@@ChillyMilly908No. she stalked them on social media and informed a friend of the family of her identity. She broke the confidentiality agreement she signed. She should be sued!!!!!
She responded when she knew that kids were all raised and independent and no work is needed to raise them. She felt lonely and she conveniently chose this time. Right time for her.
The no husband, no kids, donating eggs while in law school sure sounds like a chaotic lifestyle of not wanting to do any of the heavy lifting of raising a family but now she goes on tv and broadcast the phrase "those are my kids"? Unbelievably intrusive, inconsiderate, and unethical. It's not like she grew those babies in her uterus and had to give them up for adoption. This has cluster-B traits written all over.
Thought it was disrespectful too. Those are not her kids. Very nice they got to start a friendship and all but those kids have parents and the lady is not one of them.
It is a little weird lol! That's why everyone in the comment section is trying to reason with this, a lonely mom in her 30's no family no husband going back to her biological kids.
@cortezconquistador She was not there for the most important time in their life. They have one mother and that is the one that raised them and was there for them.
She was young and sold her eggs you can tell she really needed to meet them since she ended up not getting married and experiencing child birth, she lucky and blessed the mom gave her chance to meet them since she didn’t have to open that door
You mean she blessed a women to be able to be a mother. I see positive 100% but I also feel that the true identity of the donor male or female she be released to the child when the children reach adulthood. It should never been a secrets because you don’t want siblings falling in love and mating with each.
@@gracejones2831It didn't, this nasty women is trying to get something she doesn't own. Is like I wanting to use a house I payed to construct and sold decades ago.
Sunday is just being very mature about it but seems a little hurt when the bio mom said “Christmas is gonna be very different this year”. Sunday and her family probably have their own traditions already with HER kids 😢 but she’s doing this for them ❤
The recipient parent is Karen and Sunday is a mutual friend who was the biological mother’s college roommate. The “hurt feelings” about Xmas is quite the conclusion to come from someone who clearly wasn’t paying much attention to the story.
@@lvt2050She is Karen’s egg donor and the biological mother to the twins. Donor conceived people don’t have donors, unless they use a donor to conceive themselves.
@@86FramerLet me correct you, Karen is a genetic donor to the Sunday kids. Will she be consider a "mother" is on the kids and not an internet troll who pushes their agendas online.
How do you know in that little clip what they have talked about and decided for the future? LORD people just create little stories in their heads and roll with it.@@lvt2050
this is weird.. the kids don’t respect the mom and the donator doesn’t respect the woman who BIRTHED TWINS, raised them and just because this donators life didn’t turn out the way she thought and she was lonely, she came “swooping” in
She was feeling lonely, single and childless. Hopefully, this contact will not disrupt the relationships of the birth mother and her children if she becomes more domineering as their biological mother in the future.
This is nice and all but I didn't like how she says @1:57 "those are my kids" umm no, they're not "your kids" ....idk , I wouldn't appreciate that if I was the mother who carried them for 9 months, changed diapers, cared for them their entire lives - For then some woman to come along later saying "yay those are my kids!" These kids/ young adults are absolutely gorgeous though!
@samalex9559 Would you also say this to meet the sperm donor? xD Good thing the actual mom gave good values to the children here. "Choose their relationship with their egg donor" haha You talk as if these children are adopted and the egg donor is somehow the biological mother here instead of the actual mother who had her for 9 months and raised them to this age.
@samalex9559 It is really stupid that you feel that the actual mom is the adoptive mom. The actual mom gave birth to the children and raised them. They are HER Children and not this Lady who donated her blood. There are no MRNA exchanges between the egg donor and the child and a DNA Test would actually show the mother as the mother and the egg donor as maybe a distant realtivev, sharing the genes ofcourse but not a mother. It is sad to see that you want to elevate an egg donor to a mother status. Will you do the same to sperm donors? Will the sperm donor be the biological dad? The children already have a mother, the one who gave birth to her and raised her. ANyone else is just another person.
@samalex9559 EGG donors are just egg donors, not biological mothers. IT is not about believing it is about actual truth or your feelings. They don't share 50 percent of DNA because they dont give birth to them. DNA Test will say the same too. It will show her as a distant relative and not a match for a mother because guess what the actual mother and father will be shown. This basic fact somehow seems to skip over the minds of many who hold your view and wants to actively tag the donor to the children.
@samalex9559 An egg donor is not a mother… morally, she has even less rights than a birth mother who gave birth but had to give up three baby for adoption. She overstepped her role.
Kind of ironic that the woman who is fertile doesnt have her own child, yet she donated her eggs so that another woman who is unable to have offsprings can have children. Back in the day it was probably the opppsite happened: the woman who is infertile would die alone and the woman who can have children would have her own family
So she lived out a selfish life, found it lonely in her twilight years, and used a dubious legal loophole to lay claim to children that she literally sold before birth to fill that void. Got it. 😒
As a lawyer, she knows her way (back door). Hope that she doesn't dominate and affect the kind and generous mother's relationships with her children who seemed to get along very well with her.
As someone who is going through fertility challenges this is my worst nightmare. Unless you’ve been through infertility you cannot understand the anguish, the powerlessness, the heartbreak, the ongoing grief… particularly if you have a beautiful marriage. I am in tears today. I went back to the doctor only to see a waiting room full of pregnant women, wanting to be happy for them but also hating them because they have what is so desperately want. I don’t hate them but it’s soooo hard…I’d do anything to be able make love to my husband & see our love manifested in a little person. I want to see ME & HIM. We’ve been told there’s no hope & to pursue donor eggs. Heart wrenching. Doing everything I can to wrap my mind around it & to then see a story like this… I don’t even feel like I want donor eggs now. The idea that another woman can come to my house & say these are her kids & then “my” kids jumping up and down so excited to see her & meet her. And then my husband being there too? “Oh hey babe, this is your real baby mama.” Infertility is a nightmare. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. I feel like if I moved forward I would still perpetually be facing ongoing heartbreak. If I did it and my kids turned 20 and acted this way, I feel like I might be in same emotional place I’m in now all over again. I literally hate this story & I am begging God to spare us from this. Please just let us have one baby. Please please please
This is an unusual case. The vast majority of donors won't try to get in touch. Also the fertility clinic asked the mother first before giving the donor the families' details. You could just say no. 🙂 . My mother may have been my biological mother and raised me (kind of) but i dont look like her, and i have just gone no contact with her because she is a horrible abusive woman. She didn't do any mothering, and I dont really see her as my mother. I feel like I never had one. I would have given anything to have a mother who desperately wanted me, and raised me with love and affection. I would not have cared AT ALL if her eggs weren't involved, and i personally dont think i would have wanted to find whoever provided an egg. You sound like you need more help to get through this time than you are getting - if possible maybe you could see a therapist? Or phone a helpline for someone to talk to about your feelings? Things will work out. ❤
Don't lose hope. Spend time with God. Allow him to be your ultimate focus. Then you will find true joy. Ask him for his input on the situation. He's a good God.
I am in a similar place.. I have endo and surgery which had a huge impact on my fertility! I met my husband when we were in university and have been married for 9 years! Last year by some miracle I conceived naturally but that ended up in a miscarriage! I am now going through ivf, the first cycle had just 1 viable embryo which failed to implant!! I still have 2 cycles of ivf more else egg donation might be my only option! I feel you, all I want is a child with is a physical representation of the love my husband and I share, I have always wonder what a mixture of the both of us would be like! I feel infertility is such a lonely battle, seems like to world is moving on its own and I am trapped in my own mind and dreams! So here wishing a miracle for both of us no matter how it is to hold and love a child one day - whether we share a dna or not with the child, definitely wish we share the love! ❤️
She was happy and proud of getting around another way of locating her children. Hopefully she doesn't dominate or affect the kind and generous mother's relationship with her birth children who seemed to get along very well with her.
They are not her kids She donated she sold those eggs Those kids only got one mother the one raised them The donor chose her materialistic life style over then be a mom She chose career over been a mom Oh well those are not her kids she gives them away
What an amazing & uplifting story. I love hearing about long lost family/friends finding each other... These people are so lucky! I was adopted by an American soldier & his wife while they were stationed in Japan. My bio-mother was a Japanese nurse & bio-dad was another US Army member. I have located both of my bio-parents. Mother is still in Japan & very receptive to reconnecting. My bio-father doesn't wish to meet me or my daughter. I have reached out to an aunt (his sister) and her daughter/granddaughters. The younger ladies were happy & excited. Sadly though, my aunt won't communicate with me (even in private) because she doesn't want to "upset her brother" (my dad). I have two half brothers on that side who know of me but like our aunt, they won't reach out because of our father. Mind you, I want nothing from him other than family info & history. I'm not after his pension or any other monetary & material gains. For whatever reason, he is still hiding from his past. So I have one parent overseas who wants to meet me (& her only granddaughter) but due to distance, travel costs & restrictions just can't make it over here (& vice versa). My father's family are all living in the same area, which is just a 2+ day road trip away. One cousin extended an invite to visit her but that was only mentioned once when we first reconnected, over 4 years ago. She hasn't brought it up again and now I don't hear from her or her daughters anymore so... 🤷🤷♂
Be happy you weren't aborted. Stop bothering the people who gave you up for adoption... It's an insult to the people that actually raised you, you know, your parents...
Nothing uplifting about story. Total violation of privacy laws. Mother, older lady, shouldn't be allowing crazy pushy egg donor ( that's exactly who she is- egg donor- and nothing else) into their family life.
I'd love to meet any siblings that I may have. 28+ years ago, when my mum was undergoing tests to investigate a stomach tumour before her hysterectomy she was constantly being called for appointments. She was later told that 22 eggs were taken out of her body over a period of time. Surprisingly my mum wasn't bothered. She just simply said "why waste an egg that can become a human being?".
No. I'm an adoptive mom, which is more or less the same deal. My son's biological mother will ALWAYS be one of his mothers. No legal document can undo that. She isn't a threat to me. We both have vital roles in his story. I hope he connects with her one day and is loved by even more people than he already is.
@@ew7512 you’re a great adoptive mom and I wish more were like you. There is so much insecurity in the adoption sphere, including those who donate eggs and sperm… adding more love to your kids lives should be seen as a great thing.
@@AnnA-jd4xm Nah, there is a donor and biological mother. The donor have genetical connection like an aunt. You should talk to egg donor created kids if they consider donors as a mothers, when they meet them :D.
@@nabaninandi4140 so for you it dosnt matter who birth you and take care of you when you were a child?!?! So theoretically your egg donor can give you to someone, then after the birth toss you out to the street (or sell you to someone) and after 20 years when you start earning money return demanding you call her mother and you will be ok with that?!? are YOU serious?! If machine birth the baby than whoever take care of that baby is its mother, that should be self explanatory
She is crazy to bother a woman who struggles with infertility and to walk back in . This would prevent me from going thru with ivf which is where we are now in our infertility.
the children (who are adults in their 20s) said they wanted to know who their biological mother was. The children wanted to make that connection. children have a right to know where they came from, their birth mother with fertility problems cannot expect the children to ignore the natural human desire to know who your BIOLOGICAL family is
@@mespb The "birth" mother is the mother who gave "birth". I'm not going to watch the video again. Pretty simple concept. She looks deeply uncomfortable and unhappy about it all. I also don't like some of the phrases they are using. I feel like they're unfair to the BIRTH mother. Like when the egg donor told her friend, "Those are my kids!" They weren't her kids. Perhaps it's all biological. I hope I never need an egg donor because I wouldn't want them referring to my children as THEIR "kids."
@@UniversalMysticsOfChrist yeah, I agree with you. Just the way some people are talking on this video, it sounds like because she donated an egg or two without any bonding, she’s the mom. I wouldn’t be surprised if they called her the birth mom (which is a lot of times what you call someone who gave up a kid for adoption). I can’t believe she called them her kids. It’s upsetting.
What an awful story! That's why vast majority of people who want to use donor's egg are doing it not just in different city but out of State or even out of the country. In case not to ever be in situation where crazy egg donor decided to search for her egg donations! Unbelievable. This crazy egg donor woman is pushy, and obviously failed in every aspect of her life, and as she confirmed, she is lonely. Why interfere in some established family's dynamic? She has 0 relationship to them! 0. All she did, she sold her eggs for $3000-5000 20 years ago! Mother, older lady, probably used surrogate as well, based on her age, and she shouldn't be allowing crazy egg donor into their lives.
@@taliabraver No she it isn't! That crazy woman showed up when everything failed in her life! She is a total loser and loonatic. She did not spent adollar on these kids, didn't have sleepless night when they were ill, didn't took them to school, never attended their activities. That crazy nut woman WASN'T present in kids lives at all because all she was was a PAID EGG DONOR, and I am sure it was a contract. That clinic who released information of the family should have legal action against them. There are millions of families around the world have children through paid egg donations, and eggs donors don't come looking for families, because there are contract's conditions. Plus, women donate their eggs when they are young because of financial needs ( same as crazy nut featured in story) and prefer not to think about it when they adults. Unfortunately there always will be crazy nut like that looser woman.
@@user-wc7mo9uo9oOver forty million ancestry tests have been taken. Choosing a foreign egg or sperm donor means nothing at all bro, even the fertility industry has been saying guaranteed donor anonymity is dead and buried for years now. The children were also looking for their biological mother and their mom was totally fine with having a relationship with her donor. The egg donor actually got to thankfully cut through some of the “known at 18” wait time, because of her mother’s cancer. Donor conceived people have died from not having up to date family health history
@@user-wc7mo9uo9oWhy should the clinic get sued because they think it’s more important for the children they helped create to not have easily preventable deaths? The clinic one of my friend’s donated at actually has refused to pass along information about serious health issues she’s developed since donating to her recipient parents and biological children Also most donor and donor conceived people do want to meet each other, or at least get health updates.
@@user-wc7mo9uo9o I thought it was really presumptuous when the phrase "my kids" was used in a non-disclaimery way, like 'biological children' . Ok fine the mother who raised them was gracious enough to welcome her, and you don't meet that with this entitled attitude after you did basically what any baby daddy could do minus a hospital visit and a couple shots (egg harvesting). She should recognize how privileged she is that the mother is such a warm and generous person. If I were the kids I wouldn't be all "oh we laugh the same way! Thats so meaningful!" I would be super grateful for the mother who raised me after meeting egg donor woman.
Why should it be prohibited. She wasn't the one who reached out for contact. The adult kids reached out , it was their choice. She just wanted them to have the information.
@@john316godsolovedtheworld So what, people who can't have children should not be allowed to have children using donor eggs? You don't know what god thinks so how would you know.
Looks like she's getting along very well with her children. They live not far from each other so there will be more contact and maybe sleepover at her house in the future. Hopefully, the mother who raised the children would feel loved by her children as time passes. The biological mother is a spontaneous and outgoing person(lawyer) compared with their gentle, kind and selfless mother.
""Those are my kids"....nope women who birth them are their mother, you just gave starting cell. Girl looks more like her birth mother in her face...hair is black but her face is longer like her birth mother, the probable influence of epigenetics. I understand both sides but I don't like donors looking for these kids (the other way around ok, kids would be interested) ...its strange she is just the genetic donor and now she acts like she is a real mother to them. I think this woman look nasty.
Nope, she is their biological mother and they love her.Why are some of yall so pressed when the two mothers are happy that they've all come into contact? its so weird. And that women looks gorgeous, not nasty.
@@AnnA-jd4xm No, woman who give birth and take care of them is their biological mother, this woman is just genetical donor. From what I see, kids usually look at this ppl as aunts, genetical connected but their mother is mother who gave birth and take care of them. This woman didnt have her own kids and then remember she gave her dnk to some other women and now she is mother? lol no. Kids are happy and thats good and I do hope everything will work fine but I am also quite sure it wont be as this women thought it would be.
@@lvt2050 No, the woman who gave birth to them is their adoptive mother. She adoptive the eggs.The woman who donated her eggs is their biological mother. I'm not exactly sure why you are triggered by this, but they are ALL happy with the situation.
@@AnnA-jd4xm no, definition BY THE BOOK of biological mother is the one that give birth. The woman who donated the egg donated genetics to this kids, but mother is the one that gave birth to them and keep taking care of them....stop using terms so they can fit what you want. Adoption is when family's take already born children. Did you give eggs to couples?
@@AnnA-jd4xm Be quiet. Birth mother is actually the biological mother. Check google. The egg donor is just genetically linked and not their mother. She didn't make a human just sold donated her egg.
It makes it sound like egg donation is biologically wrong. She knows in her heart those are biologically her kids yet gave them up for money through egg donation. So sad
The Donor mum has no kids of her own and now she found out she has kids from the eggs she donated and they actually look like her, she will feel a natural urge to get involved and you can see her reaction in the video, she is delighted, she is even talking about Christmas with them.. Sad news for the mum who gave birth. The kids look nothing like her and she knows it.
What did she take away? Those are two grown ass adults that can make their own decisions and have their own opinions on the matter, stop being a keyboard warrior,.
This donor is super selfish. She is acting like she loaned out her eggs. I'm so grossed out by how she said "Those are MY kids". WTF? What a narcissistic and unhinged thing to say. I bet things got weird after a while and this family regretted connecting with her. I would love an update to the story.
Those are her biological children. Would you prefer that 19 year old woman to die a preventable early death from ovarian cancer? Not telling children they’re donor conceived has killed donor conceived people and their children, so laws are being changed like Washington state did years ago. Guaranteed Permanent donor anonymity has been dead for years now because of ancestry testing.
She donated her eggs and was dramatically more likely to be infertile because of it. She’s also at a higher cancer risk because she donated eggs. This isn’t like donating blood.
I don't think the family will regret it, and I'm glad everyone gets to know each other. But specifically the part where she says 'those are my kids'. Yeah major issues with that. There are many other things to say to describe the relationship.
@@86FramerI think it's great they got a chance to connect. I think that the donor is acting like they are family and that's not the case. She's not the mother and shouldn't call herself that. She is a genetic parent in the most clinical sense possible. She acts like she raised the kids. This woman doesn't understand boundaries.
She donated her eggs for someone who couldn’t have kids, didn’t have kids herself and then decided to take the kids back. I hope the mom who birthed and raised them truly feels ok with how everything worked out and it’s not just a front for the cameras.
This is 100% wrong. Those children have been looking for that biological missing part of them their entire lives. Egg donation is an elective decision. This is only about the parents. What about what the children go through? I'm heart broken for them 💔
They are her kids, yes we get it. But when you sign a contract stating its rules then one should be mature about it and abide by it. That is why it's very important to understand what you are going into before agreeing. Do research, Google up your concerns, go to RU-vid, search search, and search until you find concrete knowledge about your questions. What this biological mother did was so wrong. You were paid to do this cuz you accepted the terms of what you were entering. People 🤦♀️
So…in your ideal world. The daughter would’ve died young from a preventable death by cancer? Everyone wanted to meet each other and the laws are changing across the globe to protect donor conceived people’s lives, which are more important than their parents egos
@@86Framer in the ideal world she would just state the new information she learned, and a 3rd party would ensure that info got to he family without at the same time revealing the name of the family.
I get where you’re coming from, but from the children’s perspective.. it is cruel to deprive them of knowing who their biological parent is if they felt like they need that closure. It sounds like the kids did..
This store gives me a really icky feeling. I am an egg donor to six separate families all as I’m aware I’ve had multiple children. The recipient is the mother of those children. I am not the mother of those children. Those children I have not raised, cared for paid for or done anything to give myself of. I think this is really weird and I don’t like the way this woman is speaking as if they’re her kids. You signed a form waving your rights and you should’ve mentally released those eggs to another mother, who carried them in her womb, and gave birth to them
You should read the article which goes into more detail. She is their biological mother. Her biological children needed to know her risk for ovarian cancer. Your attitude is why so many donor conceived people have preventable deaths and why states like Washington changes their laws and why other states and countries are following suit. If you develop a serious health problem god forbid. With how popular it is to not inform clinics and donors of successful pregnancies. You probably won’t be able to warn all of your biological children. Considering how many times you donated eggs.
@@86Framer The person you're replying to is differentiating between an egg donor (yes, the biological "parent") and a birth mother (the woman who gave birth using the donated egg). The mother is the one who birthed and raised the child. The egg donor is the biological and genetic progenitor, but she is not the mother of the children conceived from her donated eggs. An egg donor is generally expected to remain hands-off from any children born using her eggs. She fills out her medical history and waives her rights to any potential offspring resulting from her donation. The donor in this video should have just updated her medical history at the original clinic and left it at that. Instead, she went against protocol and actively sought out the kids that were born from her donated eggs. How inconsiderate for the kids' mother and their family.
@@valoxsen6003 Progenitor is just a five dollar word for parent. This is like pretending that being incarcerated and being in prison are two different things. Why does the scientific reality of her being their biological mother irk you so much? Her biological children wanted to meet her, so I’m not sure what “protocol” was violated. The mother likely saved her daughter from an awful and preventable death a young age. Because she was able to put on her big girl underwear and told the clinic that she had a successful pregnancy (clinics commonly don’t get told about successful pregnancies) and also told her children they were donor conceived. My old roommate donated eggs over a decade ago as a broke college girl, who the predatory fertility industry almost exclusively recruits from. She’s developed some serious health problems since then. The clinic lied to her about recording and passing along her health history updates, she found this out while trying to update them the second time. Easily preventable death and suffering by donor conceived people and their children from lack of accurate family health histories. And half sibling “pods” into the triple digits because of women using donor sperm not reporting successful pregnancies and clinics overusing reliable sperm donors. Are why governments are doing things like banning permanent donor anonymity (which ancestry testing already ended years ago to anyone who gets tested).
It sounds like you are projecting. You feel icky because you are in denial maybe. It's ro protect yourself and your feelings. You interjected yourself in to this situation... As you said those kids are the donar recipients kids but the person who donated the eggs in the video is not wrong to acknowledge them as her kids even though she didn't birth them....becUse they are her kids. They are her biological kids. You can feel how you feel but it doesn't change or erase facts. You have a right to ignore the facts in your own life but you don't have the right to change how other people feel or disagree with your opinions and feelings. Maybe you should dig deeper into your negative response to this wholesome story. The biological mom did force her way in. She asked and the donar family felt the same way. They could have said no but they didn't. You may not be able to do the same depending on the kinds of contracts you signed....but maybe one day your bio kids might want to make contact.
@@valoxsen6003you people are projecting. If the donar family didn't want to meet contact then they wouldn't have willingly shared their information. Get a grip people. The biological mom wasn't being inconsiderate at all. She wasn't being forcefully. All she did was through out a fishing line and waited to see if they would bite. The bit knowingly. They weren't tricked or fool. They could have told the clinic no we don't want to meet the women who is the reason we exist/woman who help me have kids. They wanted to meet. Everyone was happy in the story.
I can relate. When I was born my father wasn’t ready to have a child, by the time I was 3 my mom had met someone & he wanted to marry her, adopt me. My biological father signed over my rights to my adopting father & I never knew that I was adopted by him until I was 15 years old . Then I went on a secret hunt for my own biological father, which succeeded in a wild attempt. He wanted to meet me too. We flew from Florida to Colorado when I was 17 & I finally got to meet him & so many family members. A sibling too. There’s at least 1 other known sibling that I haven’t met, because he didn’t raise them either. The way she describes that moment when you meet them is so accurate, at first you seee the similarities & that’s only like 2% of it because that connection & familiarity you feel after talking a few minutes is enormous ! Truly an experience that if you haven’t been through it’s hard to imagine.
This is so sweet! You can see she knows they are her biological kids and she has love for them but doesn’t intrude into their lives. It is such a sweet story
Wow!! What an amazing story!! I'm litterally in tears!! Such a precious thing to watch first thing in the morning 😊😊 I'm so happy for all of them that they were finally able to meet each other and the fact that they were just a few miles away from each other the whole time plus shared mutual friends is just mind blowing!! They had probably passed each other on the store and on the street but never knew it! And I have to say the egg doner lady is just absolutely gorgeous!!
What an incredible story!! I'm so happy for them all to meet and for it to be such a joyful reunion!! And its so extra special that this lady did not have her own kids and yet now she has these two young beauties in her life! Just wow!! ❤❤❤ So happy for all concerned 😊
The feeling of two mothers is paramount. As long as they are happy, contented it all that matters. The mother who donated her eggs got a family and the children got 2 mothers instead of 1. Life is unpredictable.accept it and make best of it.
the children (who are adults in their 20s) said they wanted to know who their biological mother was. The children wanted to make that connection. children have a right to know where they came from, their birth mother with fertility problems cannot expect the children to ignore the natural human desire to know who your BIOLOGICAL family is
The egg seller should had nothing to do with that lady's twins. It's an overreach in my opinion. I think the egg seller was lonely in her life so she went that route to fill holes of never marrying nor having her own children.
