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your fear of BEING SEEN is holding you back from your fullest potential...let's change that 

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Hi Bestie! It's quite common to have a fear of being seen. Some of us may not even be aware that this is an issue and that it could affect our ability to go after what we want in life and reach our full potential. Click in to see if this sounds like you and how to overcome it!
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your fear of BEING SEEN is holding you back from your fullest potential...let's change that

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@sherimathison3236
@sherimathison3236 11 месяцев назад
This video happened at the perfect time for me to hear what I needed to hear. It’s especially difficult to allow yourself to be seen when you’ve been through so much trauma. It’s also especially difficult to really live your life to the fullest from a hiding place. Here’s to courage and bravery, and letting our freaking lights shine!!
@DiamondEyez456
@DiamondEyez456 11 месяцев назад
So much truth Re: trauma & being seen.
@Kalavati.C
@Kalavati.C 11 месяцев назад
Same here 😢 we deserve to be the best version of ourselves.
@miss.lavache
@miss.lavache 11 месяцев назад
Well said!
@SharonizedMakeUp
@SharonizedMakeUp 11 месяцев назад
👏🏽♥️
@dianefolan1066
@dianefolan1066 11 месяцев назад
Have an idea why/whats yr fear. I had to hide myself and my daughter, but eventually, it has to be faced, we have to live, not exist. Now years later i hate camera because of an accident that damaged my face. First impressions on camera are visual. Not easy
@JuicyBudgets
@JuicyBudgets 11 месяцев назад
i have this fear. i've seen my ideas be fulfilled by others and have even experienced jealousy to the point where I had to get off of social media completely. it took years of growth to realize that i was indeed the problem all along. now, i'm out here chasing my dreams and making myself seen, shamelessly. thanks for the amazing video love
@khadejahthomas1122
@khadejahthomas1122 11 месяцев назад
Omg me too I was so sad because their success could’ve been my success if I wasn’t afraid to put myself out there. Life waits for no one. I realize that more than ever now
@JuicyBudgets
@JuicyBudgets 11 месяцев назад
@@khadejahthomas1122 You’re absolutely right, life does not wait. We have to step out in faith and keep it moving! Let’s not stand in our own way by being afraid because God has great plans for us.
@khadejahthomas1122
@khadejahthomas1122 10 месяцев назад
@@JuicyBudgets yes he does🙏🏾❤️
@BagLadyy_
@BagLadyy_ 10 месяцев назад
I’ve definitely experienced this as well, just feeling like i dont have all the tools someone else had so i never let my idea flow and be fruitful, sometimes never shared with anyone ! I also have a fear of being seen in fear of obligation to society, always having to produce or create with pressure of folks waiting to know whats next and wanting more than i can give…
@triggeredafpodcast
@triggeredafpodcast 10 месяцев назад
That's one thing we noticed! If you don't activate on your idea ... SOMEONE ELSE WILL! It was a painful reminder for me when someone hit a million on an idea I had 5 years previously but did nothing with.
@CuriousJoyce
@CuriousJoyce 10 месяцев назад
"There's something really cool about you that needs to be shared with the world...If you're not doing that, you really are depriving all of us of the magic in you" I had to run that back a couple times ❤
@silverscreech6851
@silverscreech6851 5 месяцев назад
I know my fear of being seen has to do with being labelled as a "gifted" kid growing up - sometimes when you sparkle, people won't attack/dim your "shine"; they'll exploit it and exhaust it instead. There's always that little voice in my head that says, "if you show up fully as you are, people will just take and take and take from you until there's nothing left to give" / "if you do something wonderful or great, you'll be expected to maintain that same level of success/achievement forever and never be able to put it down and rest" - so instead of fully, genuinely showing up, I dim my light so that no one will ever really expect too much of me, in case the responsibility of success is too much for me to handle. (Self-sabotage is literally the worst, lol). I found your comments about children/childhood really helpful; growing up, I felt so much pressure to study and excel and perform and succeed and "live up to my potential", I barely had any fun at all (being parentified didn't help the situation either). That's something I still really struggle with; perfectionism and relaxing and just enjoying things as they are. Thank you for your insight - I hope you have a great day!
@elysianpattier_
@elysianpattier_ 4 месяца назад
I found your story really similar to mine. Growing up I was also the golden child of the family. It was such a pressure to be seen, to basically bear the expectations of people around me, to continously achieve and excel academically. I know they didn't do it on purpose yet it's what shaped me into who I am now. As result today I struggle with perfectionism and imposter syndrome, I have little awareness of when to stop and having way higher standard for myself. And internally harsh and push myself when I don't reach my own standard. Just like you I have difficulty to just relax and enjoy my time. If people ask me what's my hobby I'll almost instinctively say "dancing and violin" without really thinking, but in reality I just say I don't particularly enjoy doing anything special or just reading to end the conversation. Every time I ask myself the same question it makes me realize how absorbed I am in my work and academic life, basically "the achievement" people expected from me growing up forgetting that part of me that's actually me.
@kittykatkountry1317
@kittykatkountry1317 11 месяцев назад
I feel like this is what's holding me back from wanting jobs with more responsibilities n better pay
@marciamartins1992
@marciamartins1992 10 месяцев назад
Now this I can relate to. I actually helped someone who was less educated, talented, and hard working than me to get ahead in her job...a job I could have had. In the end I had to say namaste bitch.
@KlaKe09
@KlaKe09 11 месяцев назад
Def body image has been a big one for me. I've literally listened to this like three times already. Such a good episode for the self conscious but secretly dope girlies!
@BriaJones
@BriaJones 11 месяцев назад
So glad it helped bb
@theHolybratt
@theHolybratt 11 месяцев назад
YESSS !!!!
@wemdoto4201
@wemdoto4201 10 месяцев назад
I am currently a teacher’s assistant and let me tell you… kids will bring you out of your shell. They don’t care about what you look like, they just want you to join in their shenanigans.
@melblose5244
@melblose5244 7 месяцев назад
besides my fear of being seen, I enjoy my privacy and not having a digital footprint. I go through phases where I'm simply not interested in strangers seeing my life or trying to network with people because of spiritual hygience. I don't want to subject myself to the possibility of having to know people that un-know them because we're no longer cool or because I have to 'heal' from them
@elysianpattier_
@elysianpattier_ 4 месяца назад
Second to that 👏🏻
@elin5240
@elin5240 6 месяцев назад
it makes me so uncomfortable thinking that other people have a perception of me and can think about me and see me differently from how I view myself. I've always had social anxiety and I'm veryyy scared to be judged and that makes me tone down my personality. I also carry a lot of shame which correlates with all of this, wanting to hide and not be seen for who I am, not wanting the spotlight in case I mess up and questioning if I even deserve attention.
@Ashley-og9ti
@Ashley-og9ti 2 месяца назад
I have mad social anxiety too and. Imposter syndrome. I'm to graduate at the end of the year and I'm like why keep telling myself I'm going to fail, it's like I don't deserve accomplishments and success smh. We have to do and be better to ourselves 🫂
@amantlentshupang7593
@amantlentshupang7593 2 месяца назад
🫂
@biscaynewriters
@biscaynewriters 10 месяцев назад
The fear of being seen is probably why I always feel invisible, so thank you for this video!!! :)
@Oliva_80
@Oliva_80 10 месяцев назад
I feel the same. That's mostly my fear, being ignored.
@carmencatalina9086
@carmencatalina9086 11 месяцев назад
I’m not playing small no more. I’m focusing on myself and growth and improving my life. I’m no longer accepting being fat. And gone work on my self sabotage and work towards losing weight and everyone finding me pretty and doing stuff on social media and people loving me for me. You spoke the truth. All my life I was outcast and at 30 I’m not accepting that and gotta stop caring and depend on discipline and consistency and been doing so good. Thanks for this video.
@softsoulradio
@softsoulradio 11 месяцев назад
I love that for you!!!
@reignajoyce
@reignajoyce 11 месяцев назад
Always remember to phone a friend...that honest one who will hold you accountable to the goals you've set. Remember to love yourself through the process because it's for life. Self care can be a useful tool.....after I drop 3 inches on my waist I'm scheduling a massage! Have fun. Be well! Shalom 🙏🏽
@iggaboo12
@iggaboo12 11 месяцев назад
You should read the book, The Mountain is You. Or get the audiobook so you can multitask while you workout
@Main3account
@Main3account 10 месяцев назад
It’s okay to be overweight your body is yours only no one has the right to judge it or make fun of it that’s dehumanizing it should be considered a hate crime
@anacbarreto8325
@anacbarreto8325 10 месяцев назад
hey friend! hope you reach your goals whatever they are, but just a reminder that your body is not holding you back from anything, no matter what size it is. hope you find places & people who make space for you to shine
@rooringaaru
@rooringaaru 11 месяцев назад
I needed this. I dimmed my own light for a whole year, all for an emotionally unavailable situationship, trying not to make THEM feel insecure, all for nothing. Still trying to get back to who I used to be. If someone reading this is going through the same thing: don't ever change in order to please someone, no matter how much you love them. No one is worth losing yourself over. If they love you, they will love you when you are yourself. ❤
@jouna5481
@jouna5481 10 месяцев назад
I finally accepted I lost myself after healing myself. A man can change a lot about you and you have to stand your ground love yourself mentally ,physically and emotionally
@Soliology
@Soliology 10 месяцев назад
Don’t get back to who you used to be.. embrace who you are now, rediscover, and elevate. You’re not the person you used to be, you’re new! 🫶🏾✨
@goldenlioness868
@goldenlioness868 11 месяцев назад
I do have a genuine fear of being seen because I have stalkers. I’ve also been around people who have dimmed my light. With all of this, I feel watered down. I hope someday I can get past this.
@diddiemcfly6584
@diddiemcfly6584 10 месяцев назад
Have you found solutions?
@goldenlioness868
@goldenlioness868 10 месяцев назад
@@diddiemcfly6584 Therapy is helping a lot. I am also working on building a strong small circle of friends as well. It’s hard work and I want to give up sometimes tbh, but I try to keep going.
@bibibello2181
@bibibello2181 9 месяцев назад
I don't think anyone can dim your light. It's just not possible. What is possible is you believing someone else is outshining you / your light. Try to really deal with the reason why you have this believe. Your light is YOURS. The switch is with you and you control if it goes off, stay on or turned low (dimmed).
@shayg.1273
@shayg.1273 11 месяцев назад
I have always been shy growing up, and it has always been hard for me to let people in and see my true self. I think because I was accustomed to ppl leaving, so I didn’t allow myself to form relationships. I got so used to just being alone or the odd one out. I liked that you pointed out doing the things you did as child. I used to take hella selfies and now I don’t because sometimes i don’t like the way I look. I have been working on my confidence and allowing myself to take more pictures. ❤
@belsarino
@belsarino 11 месяцев назад
its the way we're the same person!! literally me, hopefully we can get through this together
@shayg.1273
@shayg.1273 11 месяцев назад
@@belsarino yess we got this!! 🫶🏾😊
@idgee3774
@idgee3774 10 месяцев назад
I could’ve written this 😩
@lilianparsheyio879
@lilianparsheyio879 10 месяцев назад
This is so me😢
@ayabingo8802
@ayabingo8802 9 месяцев назад
Jk
@mochabrown7406
@mochabrown7406 11 месяцев назад
I do because I've been bullied about literally everything about myself, by friends ,family and strangers ;my body, my intelligence, personality, the way I talk , dress . It just makes me want to disappear and be invisible, like you said I don't want to be perceived . Even when interacting with others I feel scared to be authentically myself . I just hide in my shell . I also have a problem with oversharing lol . Then it just puts me back at square 1 😅.
@LittleBoSleepASMR
@LittleBoSleepASMR 7 месяцев назад
Struggling with the same but we can break this barrier o know it ❤🤝
@mochabrown7406
@mochabrown7406 7 месяцев назад
@@LittleBoSleepASMR yes we can 🫂💗 definitely gonna work on it
@dianeschmiane
@dianeschmiane 10 месяцев назад
I'm in my mid-fifties, and let me tell you, this is solid life advice! Live like B is telling you to, and you will get to my age with zero regrets... ❤
@Thelife_ofSowa
@Thelife_ofSowa 11 месяцев назад
I think the most difficult of things for me to accept would be that not everyone would like me, its such a burden to want everyone to like you. Here's to me not being afraid of being seen anymore . thank you for this video Bria.
@LittleBoSleepASMR
@LittleBoSleepASMR 7 месяцев назад
Thank you I needed to hear this ❤
@angeIa
@angeIa 7 месяцев назад
exactly!! why do we do this
@melilondon
@melilondon 9 месяцев назад
I realised I have a fear of being seen when I noticed I was holding myself from posting on my social platforms or was surprised by getting positive reactions on comments I'd leave on videos. I realised it is coming from my childhood and being constantly body shamed growing up. I have constantly been between the fear of being seen because I have been told so many times I wasn't worthy because my body is a certain way and also the crave of being seen for everything else than my body. I'm now in my early 40's and I'm working up the courage of starting to post more often whatever I find interesting and fun. It's a work in progress, but I know it will be fun 😁
@cassielee1114
@cassielee1114 5 месяцев назад
I forgot about this but I was the same, typing and deleting and even too scared to check replies. The more you have your say, the more you realise there are others like you out there going “yes!” who are relieved they’re not the only ones thinking it. A few years on forums got me more confident with speaking in real life.
@takashabutterfly
@takashabutterfly 4 месяца назад
Not being seen is my comfort zone. Stepping out of my comfort zone in 2024…..
@PonyosPlace
@PonyosPlace 11 месяцев назад
Spot on when you said it’s a fear of being misinterpreted! That’s me for sure! I’ve always felt so misunderstood and I definitely watered myself down to seem more “simple and likeable” love this video frfr ❤❤❤
@Realasf5
@Realasf5 10 месяцев назад
Same girl when not that it matter but even the people around see the light in me
@withlovecole
@withlovecole 11 месяцев назад
You’re absolutely right I think I originally became a influencerrr because I was naturally always myself and then the moment I noticed that naturalness started getting negative feedback I shut down and hid myself and started attracting friends who did the same ! Now I completely and focused on growing my own Community on RU-vid and I’m finding my people and being cringey nerding out about human design and being a mom 😂❤ thanks for the encouragement to keep going
@TrulyUnbothered
@TrulyUnbothered 11 месяцев назад
I just followed you ❤ f them folks keep growing
@mellowstyling
@mellowstyling 11 месяцев назад
Youve got a new subscriber because i think the same, natural being pure self especially for our kids, the youth and saving our world❤
@withlovecole
@withlovecole 11 месяцев назад
This is sweet 🌸thank you guys!/
@DheandraNicolette
@DheandraNicolette 11 месяцев назад
I love human design and your channel looks amazing 😻 please keep doing the work that you do. You’re so needed ❤
@withlovecole
@withlovecole 11 месяцев назад
@@DheandraNicolette thank you 🥹🌸
@a.personofficial
@a.personofficial 10 месяцев назад
What hit the most was the inner child. My mom told me how many people visited us when i was a toddler and these people HATED kids and all of them wanted a daughter after that. It was just me being myself, a little sunshine. Not loud, not silent. Just radiating and being myself. This reminded me. Thank you 💕💕
@anaiswittrock-roske8068
@anaiswittrock-roske8068 11 месяцев назад
This came at the perfeeeext time. I am scared of being seen because I grew up in a broken home, where my siblings and step siblings picked on me and made me feel inadequate. Perhaps it was jealousy, or their own trauma, but I felt like I had to dim my light to make others shine so they wouldn’t be threatened and threaten me later. Thank you for your video
@rinareynolds3284
@rinareynolds3284 11 месяцев назад
A lot of people don’t talk about the fear of being fully seen and exposed to the world in order to attract our dream life. Its a blockage for a lot of us. I appreciate u opening this topic.
@Miss_Yusuf
@Miss_Yusuf 11 месяцев назад
God literally used you to speak to me Bria. You’re an angel ❤
@RessaRose
@RessaRose 11 месяцев назад
The childhood memories you shared unlocked so many core memories of being my silly goofy authentic self as a kid and I needed to hear that today 🥺
@fourfourfour444
@fourfourfour444 10 месяцев назад
As my son told me, "Every time I flex I get bullied." I have a fear of standing out and taking up space. I also fear being misunderstood, especially about my beliefs. Great video and I'm going to try to dig deeper. Thank you!
@mollyjosie5835
@mollyjosie5835 10 месяцев назад
I’m so glad you mentioned bullying and being “cool” because that is something I experienced a lot growing up and still do to this day. Like it’s much less not being in school, but social media is almost creating a high school environment online, where you’re a complete loser if you dont spend all your paycheck on the coolest trends. And despite me never being cool, it’s something my ego always strives for, even though I know I wouldn’t even be happy if I was “cool”. Something I often think about is that if younger me saw myself, she would think I’m cool and everything she dreamed of and more. Little me, or my inner child, is the only opinion I want to care about!
@brittanyadays
@brittanyadays 11 месяцев назад
Do your best to always keep your light going, don't let anyone dim it! 🌞💖✨
@BriaJones
@BriaJones 11 месяцев назад
Amen
@paulaa1427
@paulaa1427 11 месяцев назад
Dragged me for a full 20 minutes girlie 😭😅 I’ve definitely been struggling with this in social spaces and it’s been super interesting to notice. You explained if so succinctly. Thanks Bria!
@MsJisola
@MsJisola 11 месяцев назад
I definitely have a fear of being seen, which is why it has taken me so long to start a RU-vid channel. Pushing past this fear so I can share what I know with folks. Thank you for this video!
@faudhiakhaji
@faudhiakhaji 5 месяцев назад
Whoaa,,,same here girl
@kikitaughtme
@kikitaughtme 6 месяцев назад
This is proof that we all have the same fears. So know that if you put yourself out there more you've done much more than most people can ever think of doing. Knowing we all have the same fears makes it easier to be yourself and makes you feel less lonely.
@FaithFashionFinances
@FaithFashionFinances 11 месяцев назад
I definitely am breaking through my fear of being seen after I a was target of cyber bullying. I started getting influencer collaborations and because I thought I was ugly I would self sabotage which manifested in overeating and low self esteem. Thanks for your insights really helpful,I was able to pinpoint what was holding me back.
@arobertsonian
@arobertsonian 11 месяцев назад
So where ru at w things now?
@arobertsonian
@arobertsonian 11 месяцев назад
Oh this is a new vid, my bad, didn’t kno it was so recent 💀
@jeanjaniceleontine
@jeanjaniceleontine 11 месяцев назад
First time viewer and this hit so hard for me! As I’m stepping out into the unknown of healing and finding my way back to Christ, I needed to hear this❤
@BagLadyy_
@BagLadyy_ 10 месяцев назад
Same and same! Good to know you’re not alone in something
@akamara88
@akamara88 11 месяцев назад
This message was for me, from God. Thank you ❤ this was right on time
@Afrovazi
@Afrovazi 4 месяца назад
The fear of being seen is SO REAL especially when you grow up and realize the world and people are not how we used to see them when we were young and innocent.. It hits hard. It can get so comfortable just being unseen unbothered and unheard.. BUT does it make you happy? Do you feel fulfilled? If the answer is no, the it's time to get back the real you. Am on this journey.
@jasmin-michelle
@jasmin-michelle 11 месяцев назад
i am so happy that i came across this video, i started a photography business not too long ago and my fear of being seen has stopped me in many ways from trying to grow my business. not only that it’s stopped me from connecting with different people and just had brought me to a place of loneliness, once i realized how bad i’ve been hiding myself. i’ve been working through that everyday this summer and this video was exactly what i needed to remind myself that i’m not alone. i don’t think anyone else could have reached me the way you did. your sparkle touched me ❤️❤️
@IrisHiggins
@IrisHiggins 11 месяцев назад
So many ties to energy and body weight! Yes! As a hypnotherapist, I can say this is definitely true. The fear of being seen affects us on all levels. Love this video, Bria!
@Foul687
@Foul687 11 месяцев назад
I think my body imagine and how I imagine/know people perceive me takes the wind out of my sails a lot. I get scared to open up and be genuine around new people especially because I worry about not being liked, or seen as cringe, or something else negative. I think that comes from being misunderstood as a child and also one of my ex’s who took out his own insecurities on me by starting fights or pointing out flaws in me that I didn’t do on purpose or had no idea I had done wrong. So it made me constantly worried that I’m doing something bad or wrong without even meaning to or realizing, I’m always waiting for someone to confront me about behaviors I don’t even realize are “wrong” in the moment. Im also scared to put myself online and have people dig into my life and find my dirty little secrets and air them out, or get doxed or something like that. It’s really scary to be perceived, it feels unsafe a lot of the times.
@moethemoon
@moethemoon 10 месяцев назад
Exacrtly bruh it's really not that easy when you've had so many experiences of people reacting to you in strange and hurtful ways. Plus, when you're naturally introverted, it just becomes easier to justify shutting ourselves off because we don't often mind being alone... I also have the same anxiety about the online stuff because you really never know.
@SpirituallyChanel
@SpirituallyChanel 11 месяцев назад
The video hit home forsure, I can definitely relate to body image and looks and when I use to be my most authentic self I got judged so much and really internalized all of it, I’m slowly learning to let it go and really accept those things about me that people use to talk about because they actual aren’t that bad people just love to talk shit for no reason and it’s usually projection because you’re the one who’s actually putting yourself out there. You’re doing what they wish they could do but are too scared to even try…
@AngelaTehaha
@AngelaTehaha 11 месяцев назад
its crazy how this is something ive been thinking about and needing lately! thank you
@jimbouchilon389
@jimbouchilon389 10 месяцев назад
People who give up in life are people who lose in life, my first experience happens to be a failure but I never gave up cause I knew it was going to work out for me trying continuously, fortunately I'm smiling today by getting involved in investment.. I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life too 🙏🙏🙏
@perefeghaandrew8076
@perefeghaandrew8076 10 месяцев назад
you've remind me of what someone once said "The mind is the man, the poor is in it and the rich is it too". This sentence is the secret of most successful investors. I once attended similar and ever since then been waxing strong financially, and i most tell you the truth..investment is the key that can secure your family future.
@johnalex4006
@johnalex4006 10 месяцев назад
I urge everyone to start somewhere now no matter how small, this is literally the time for that, forget material things, don't get tempted,i became more better the moment i realized this.
@Soboj-oy8me
@Soboj-oy8me 10 месяцев назад
yeah investment is the key to sustaining your financial longevity but venturing into any legitimate Investment without a proper guidance of an expert can lead to a great loss too
@philominafashi1662
@philominafashi1662 10 месяцев назад
exactly! That's my major concern and what kind of profitable business or investment can someone do with the current rise in economic downturn
@jessicasaunder6965
@jessicasaunder6965 10 месяцев назад
Hello nice comments here, please what exactly kind of investment are you talking about here, I'm really interested too
@CajinPeach
@CajinPeach 11 месяцев назад
Thanks Bria! Yes, I have a serious fear of being seen 😩 I’m a podcaster with a small following and I still have yet to embrace my true potential. I have a few insecurities but most importantly, I’m holding back for fear of what people will say or think about me. It’s the dumbest shit huh? I’m very gifted but I continue to live in fear of my greatness. Thanks for addressing this issue. Love you 😘
@happyspod4670
@happyspod4670 11 месяцев назад
This is so me😢. I currently stopped editing a video, cause I still cringe to being on RU-vid
@shandramccasline8993
@shandramccasline8993 10 месяцев назад
SAME!!!!
@berenicegutierrezm
@berenicegutierrezm 9 месяцев назад
same here
@AliciaLeePls
@AliciaLeePls 11 месяцев назад
Why is this me with my RU-vid channel, podcast, and being in public?! I haven’t taken a picture of myself IN MONTHS, literally loss sight of my goals/dreams because I just don’t want to be seen. Thank you for this, this really helped!
@Yocyndie
@Yocyndie 10 месяцев назад
Leo season is all about tapping into your inner child and inner teen ! This message is in alignment, as always. Thanks bestie.
@kaliyakayy
@kaliyakayy 11 месяцев назад
"There's something really cool about you that needs to be shared with the world" ✨✨ I liked that, great video!
@homepage4292
@homepage4292 11 месяцев назад
It’s so interesting. My ‘fear’ of being seen never is factored through the opinions of others. Perks of parenting myself i instilled self assurance. Mine shows it’s head within the programming of a narcissist parent who made sure i never shined at all so I’ve internalized that. Still sum I’m actively & cringingly working through especially as a introvert🧑🏾‍💻
@justlovinghoney
@justlovinghoney 11 месяцев назад
“There’s something very cool about you that needs to be shared with the world”. I felt that!
@TheScienceofSelfCare
@TheScienceofSelfCare 11 месяцев назад
Great content, Bria! You’re one of my favorite channels to watch when I need a morale boost as a creator. :) I totally relate to not being a “cool girl” and it’s been one of the best mindset shifts for me. “Embrace the nerd” is my current motto and it’s so much easier to show up as my authentic self and create quality content. 🙏🥰💋
@BriaJones
@BriaJones 11 месяцев назад
Yesss!! Love that!
@user-NaturallyMe
@user-NaturallyMe 11 месяцев назад
It sure is and I’m starting to step out my comfort zone I don’t care what people think about me anymore. Thank you for this video it definitely motivated me more to keep going❤
@nataliefields9009
@nataliefields9009 7 месяцев назад
My fear of being seen comes from being afraid that if I show my authentic self, she will be judged and not accepted. As a kid I was kind of like Bria, such a shimmering bright light who gave no fucks. So now as an adult I've been conditioned to conform. It feels literally unsafe if I show my authentic self more. Not just online, but in person too. I'm afraid to be "too much" but I know that hiding myself is actually self-betrayal. I AM the one putting myself in a box, other people don't even have to do it for me anymore
@tantasroom8646
@tantasroom8646 10 месяцев назад
Bria this is total truth and exactly how I started my channel! And while I am still trying to grow my channel, GOD IS growing me... Even if slowly! I am totally being myself, keeping my peace & having fun learning & growing organically! This was a good chat! Thanks Bria Jones!!
@rosejose4743
@rosejose4743 11 месяцев назад
This is the first video that explained exactly how I’ve been feeling for the majority of my life. That’s crazy that it was recommended to me at this time that I’m finally realizing it and wanting a change.
@LeslieSpoon
@LeslieSpoon 9 месяцев назад
This video was an eye opener for me. I was working at a job where I was hiding my authentic self yet only a few saw the real me. Saw the light I had within. I was very comfortable not being notice. When attention is on me I fear what others will say or try to be accepted. Fast forward to recently for almost 2 years now I am running a business, with employees. To hear them call me “Boss Lady” is weird, I don’t like to be seen or heard yet I have no choice to do so. I have masked my true self, dimmed my light so I would not shine. It’s a journey for me to begin to let my light shine, for most people to see the real me. I am magical, special. Thank you for making this video I needed to hear it.
@user-yg3vk8cm5s
@user-yg3vk8cm5s 6 месяцев назад
This hit me so hard - since I was a kid I've had an issue with being "seen" and it's only gotten harder as I've gotten older, but this is a great reminder to just be me as much as I can!
@vpea1493
@vpea1493 6 месяцев назад
In 2018 I lost 60lbs. I was hanging with friends and enjoying life. I ended up meeting someone & slowly I lost touch of who I was .. I lost all different types of friendships. I had a baby & gained basically all the weight back, I became a single mother, I was in such a daaaaaark space .. I felt I lost the person I was. I really needed to hear everything you said. This video came at the perfect time. I’m better now. I’m much wiser in relationships/friendships. I’m still sheltered due to the trauma I experienced but I am so ready to been seen! I’m ready to put myself out there again I love authentically being me. I’ve always been different from how I wear clothes, how I do my makeup ect. I’m definitely going to get back to ME in 2024 that’s all I am working on. Thank you for this video ♥️
@Orchidmami
@Orchidmami 11 месяцев назад
I can’t tell you how badly I needed to hear this. I’ve been wanting to get serious ab content for years within my niche but from my life story and it’s been terrifying. I’ve seen so many girlies start and grow massively since then just by being consistent and unapologetic and improving their content. I’m happy for them but I often feel like “it couldn’t be me” bc I’m not “pretty enough” “fit enough” etc… or just downright that there’s something ugly inside me everyone else is going to pick up on and not like my content, which almost feels scarier bc I so badly want to grow a community. 💔 But I have so much to work to share and so much light to give, I know it. Thank you for checking a girly and adjusting our crowns.
@nurseeautumnn
@nurseeautumnn 11 месяцев назад
Need more people in my life like this who have evolved this much both spiritually and mentally. Love love love this video!!! ❤️❤️❤️
@AnaSofiaOfficial
@AnaSofiaOfficial 5 месяцев назад
Fear of being seen stems from not feeling safe. Some people have contributed to that unsafeness with bullying and harassment. One thing that helps me is being with God, and telling myself I am safe, safe for me to be authentic, take up space, and be here. Ignore people and have strong sense of self helps too. Thank you for this video .
@Thejaniamarie
@Thejaniamarie 9 месяцев назад
This video was so needed. I’ve been on a journey of wanting to be a content creator but just HATE the idea of being seen. But every point of this is so true! When you’re your TRUE authentic self you will always attract the people for you. Hate will come with anything you do in life!
@alexjustine33
@alexjustine33 10 месяцев назад
It wasn’t until I watched this that I feel like this could be a huge contributor as to why I’m dragging my feet trying to accomplish my goals of working online. Definitely love your perspectives and awarenesses
@BeauMonroe
@BeauMonroe 11 месяцев назад
This video is everything...I listen to it on my morning walks and I'm just really grateful people like you show up to do this work. You're needed, you're valued and you matter. Much thanks!
@ChanChan-tv1wp
@ChanChan-tv1wp 7 месяцев назад
You phrased it perfectly. I've had a lot of trouble with past friendships. Even up into my 30s, people were still acting like teenage bullies. It has made me turn my light way down
@camillem4749
@camillem4749 10 месяцев назад
This was so relatable, thank you for this. In my experience though, people who directly say they hate you is better than those who pretend they like you but steals your shine behind your back.
@ramonalisa4187
@ramonalisa4187 11 месяцев назад
I love that you discovered how much power there is in being YOU- I love that your videos started to do better after that. Isn’t that so liberating? The fear of being seen has definitely held me back in some ways too 😫 but I’m actively fighting through it. I’m glad fhat your video popped up because it was the reminder I needed 🫶🏽
@jray5658
@jray5658 11 месяцев назад
This somehow ended up in my watch history though I hadn't clicked on it. What a sign to heal exponentially! We all deserve to be our best selves without so much alteration or hiding.
@bryaniallen7684
@bryaniallen7684 11 месяцев назад
You have no idea how much I needed this message. Being made to feel small and ashamed my whole life. It ends now. Thank you sm.
@VioletEmerald
@VioletEmerald 6 месяцев назад
This is such an important video for me right now. Your personality reminds me of my own ADHD personality in many ways and the whole "being cringe is sometimes who we are" thing resonates. I've been less afraid than a lot of people to be myself but i go in bursts of being myself fully then being afraid again for whatever reason. What's actually helping the most with the whole "accept that not everyone is going to like you but the right people will love you" thing is watching it play out that way for other people I love and admire. When it fully clicks that it isn't just myself that's true for but rather actually some of the people I'm so grateful I've gotten to experience their personalities are people that some other people find cringe, especially common with neurodivergent people, it all resonates finally with how i can frame things for myself. That being said it's still a work in progress to unlearn the bad habits and really internalize the reframes but. That's the biggest help for me. I've seen examples both in real life but also right here with you.
@arielhill5711
@arielhill5711 11 месяцев назад
This is so important thank you! I think as a creator my fear of being seen stemmed from my fear of not being seen. I felt like if my work didn’t get attention, it wasn’t worthy and it made me not want to share it anymore. This is really helpful in me beginning to process all of this and take the first step to move past it.
@theluschmasterjournals
@theluschmasterjournals 11 месяцев назад
Hey there, Bestie! Your video really hit home for me. It's eye-opening to realize that fear of being seen might be holding us back from reaching our true potential, but your insights on overcoming it are truly empowering. Can't wait to implement your advice and step into a brighter, more confident version of myself. Thanks for sharing!
@hamster_ann
@hamster_ann 10 месяцев назад
Hi, Bria! I found your channel literally two days ago and I'm already in love with your energy I love watching authentic people sharing their stories and be brave it makes me wanna cry from happiness and joy I hope you're doing great, thank you for being honest with us!
@spicesoflifee
@spicesoflifee 11 месяцев назад
dimming our light the older we get.. I felt that 😭 I always tell myself how much I miss taking pics of everything with my digital camera - for the sole purpose of capturing memories.. uncurated, unfiltered and all. thank you for this video!!
@drebugsita
@drebugsita 11 месяцев назад
ALLL OF THIS! THANK YOU! Seriously! I'm literally putting my work up right now, en route to leave and continue, and needed this reminder! My kid self knew how to show up, love hearing others honoring their inner younger self too! Lets do this!!!
@tshiamo.ntombela
@tshiamo.ntombela 11 месяцев назад
I really needed this, I suffered from this fear of being seen for such a long time and looking back I could have been so far in my career if I remained focused on things that actually matter. THANK YOU!
@shayartis5105
@shayartis5105 10 месяцев назад
Wow!! I am seeing your channel for the first time today and boy oh boy did I need this message. My entire life I've had "don't let them dim your light/ steal your joy' but life happens and sometimes I stray from that. Thank you for sharing your experience and advice on how to stay true to your authentic self regardless of what others think. Proud of you for staying true to you! I look forward to seeing more content from you.❤
@briannaselina
@briannaselina 9 месяцев назад
I absolutely love how you went about this video. From the references you made to your younger self, I feel very much that we’re similar in age. I adore your energy and the way that you use it. I needed to see this exact thing right now. Due to some personal stuff, and post pandemic displacement, I am currently in a living situation where I have to stay with a family member who is a huge roadblock, nothing you say or do can sway them, and despite them being twice my age, they’re immature enough to pick fights with me, insult my intelligence, and find some random reason to needle and poke me every day. (Also this is a huge old historical home. I’m supposed to have the entire second floor, like an apartment. But I’ve been here almost a year, squished in one little room, unable to work efficiently, because the rest of the floor is full of 60+ years of hoarder’s junk, and they haven’t lifted a finger to do anything about it, but I’m not allowed to clear it. Super aggravating, and not a way to live, this literally shouldn’t even be a thing that’s happening. Haha). Normally, I would stand up for myself. But I can’t. If I try to have an honest conversation, they pretend they didn’t hear me, over and over. But I can’t even get a little bit loud or something more extreme than “hey that’s not cool,” (which they don’t hear) because they are mean enough to literally just kick me out and I would have nowhere to go. So lately, I’ve just been staying as far away as possible, despite how weird it is do do that on purpose when you live with someone else. It’s definitely been noticed but nothing has changed yet. I came across your video just as I was starting to think that it was pointless, and that doing the careful maneuvering I’ve been doing was silly and pointless, and that it would probably just be easier to let it go, let them have their way, and go back to letting myself be a punching bag. Even though there isn’t much more I can do than what I’m currently doing, watching this made me realize that I’m honestly just doing what’s best for me, that no matter how odd it may feel, I don’t need to let myself be treated that way, or just give up and let subject myself to the toxicity and hatred all around this place. It’s better for me to do something small to help myself until I can do something bigger. You really drove the point home for me: that I do matter, I don’t have to put up with the negative energy around me, or care if what I’m doing is making them feel strange. I just need to do what’s best for me, even if it doesn’t feel like much. So thank you so much, from the bottom of my strange little heart. I needed to see this today.
@LouRoss-tm2lr
@LouRoss-tm2lr 10 месяцев назад
Just found you. Making this my new Saturday morning routine. It's Sunday, but whatever. I feel like I've always struggled with this "fear of being seen" and a "fear of not being myself." It's comforting to know that I'm not the only one with this struggle. I've always espoused an attitude of embracing "uncoolness" while struggling, often in the same moment, with social anxiety from wanting (needing?) to be liked. At this moment in life, social anxiety is winning. About to watch "Embrace the Cringe"! Thanks for existing and passing through my world.
@kushsoni4445
@kushsoni4445 11 месяцев назад
god damn girl I was going into a depressive spiral and this just reminded me that I can lift the burden I put on myself to be perfect all the time. time to stop self-sabotaging and be who I authentically am.
@cheneejoysocuano4773
@cheneejoysocuano4773 11 месяцев назад
Thank you Bria for standing for us. I also fear being seen; it's difficult for me because I am not used to it. And now that I've seen your video you are shedding a light on me to be brave and to be authentic
@ruanpaollorosa4332
@ruanpaollorosa4332 10 месяцев назад
You have no idea girl, how your words pierced me through my thick skin. It's exactly what I needed to hear and I cried from start to finish. I should honor my inner child. Subscribed and thank you so much. Sending you a lot of love
@joiab11
@joiab11 11 месяцев назад
Thank you, this is so helpful. Especially as you get older - when I was in my 20s I had so much moxie, now in my 50s I hold back. I really appreciate your encouragement ❤
@sunraiphysique8
@sunraiphysique8 11 месяцев назад
I do have a fear of being seen, and I think it’s related to trauma from being called weird and strange so much as a child. Fast forward and I’ve worked really hard on my fitness goals and really want to build out this brand, but I get so anxious when I try to record anything, and tend to get overwhelmed because I try or think I need to edit out all of the goofball moments. I even freeze up when I want to write comments/ posts. I saw the title and thought this might be something I need to hear, and want to say this was beautifully done, and well received. Thank you
@UsurpersAndAssassins
@UsurpersAndAssassins 5 месяцев назад
At 49 years old, I look back over the years and see everything so clearly now. Mediocre people who couldn't be bothered making an effort in their own lives, trying to extinguish stars who could. From friends at school calling me a nerd for getting high scores, because they felt like they were going to be left behind, to teachers who resented their lack of achievement, trying to discourage their students out of resentment that some of the kids were smarter than they were and had more potential. Even parents who resented that her youth was over, and it was somebody else's turn, so they did everything they could to keep their own kids down. That's all it is. Mediocre people who have embraced mediocrity, resentfully trying to keep other people down, so they don't feel like the failures that they are. It has made our world a horrible place. Because if you don't let stars shine, we will all suffer miserably in the darkness.
@childishkimchino3008
@childishkimchino3008 11 месяцев назад
some people can’t stand to see someone be happy being different and being themselves and it has been an issue for me my entire life and it made me change but i’m here to send love to anyone who has felt this way we can find ourselves again and who we want to be together shine bright and don’t let anyone dim your happiness ! your happiness depends on you and you alone call back your power and come back bigger
@breeneal89
@breeneal89 11 месяцев назад
Absolutely love this message! I’m trying everyday to get out of my head and start being my authentic self
@Camilamaguna
@Camilamaguna 11 месяцев назад
I can’t tell you how many times your pep talks have helped me ❤ thank you Bria 🙏🏼
@missmichellevp
@missmichellevp 11 месяцев назад
I was about to look up advice on 'not feeling good enough' and then your video automatically showed up on my homepage. Love it. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings with us. It really helps. ♡
@jg1681
@jg1681 10 месяцев назад
This is great. This video made me realize how not accepting the fact that I struggle with dissociation is holding me back. I try to push it away because it feels like it's "not the real me", but it is a part of me. Sitting with it and understanding it is going to help me.
@AlexaAnaiis
@AlexaAnaiis 11 месяцев назад
I really resonate with your content. This is so wild lol you’re literally saying the things that we aren’t able to articulate or are fearful to say. Thank you! I feel seeeeennnn…💕
@mindshiftmami
@mindshiftmami 11 месяцев назад
You hit it out the park with this video Bria!! Amazing job you’re helping so many of us 🤎
@nicoletaf.9290
@nicoletaf.9290 11 месяцев назад
this is so true. Our most authentically version was given to us for a reason, and we have to stand for it!!
@kristineekanem8803
@kristineekanem8803 11 месяцев назад
This resonated so heavily Bria!! Thank you. I’ve always had a crippling fear of being seen on social media and it adversely affected my social media presence, posting online, etc etc. but I’m ready to step out of that old version of me and share my MOST authentic self with the world and attract the people who are meant for me to me. Thank you for these awesome pointers & reminders 🥲❤️❤️
@sweetpeahunnybee
@sweetpeahunnybee 11 месяцев назад
Love this episode ❤ Body image is a huge reason for me and the fear that people will be mean to me or that I will fail, but I’m determined to push past these fears because I will always regret it if I don’t.
@mrsaveabuck5969
@mrsaveabuck5969 11 месяцев назад
Thank you for sharing! Know that you are beautiful just the way you are. You will get through this and i am so happy that you're pushing through.Know that yes there are gonna be ones that are mean and make fun but also know and remember that there will also be the ones that love you for the wonderful you. You're amazing and you got this!
@AngelGrey_
@AngelGrey_ 11 месяцев назад
this was exactly what I was struggling with right now, I want to do social media full-time and actually make it with social media but I'm afraid to go all in. I want to post reels on Instagram in addition to my RU-vid and tik tok and I was sitting there thinking about that and how afraid I am to do that. Then I opened youtube and saw this, this is the perfect timing. I love you so much 💖💖
@ayodelennoli
@ayodelennoli 11 месяцев назад
Me too 😊
@corrylboyd2203
@corrylboyd2203 10 месяцев назад
RU-vid is no longer doing you wrong. This hit home, all I have for you is a thank you! ❤
@emeraldpeony
@emeraldpeony 11 месяцев назад
This video brought so many people together and opened up an important conversation. Thank you for giving people the chance to share their struggles and experiences and connect with each-other and thank you to everyone.
@workoutbey
@workoutbey 11 месяцев назад
Omg Bestie, you’re truly my bestie. The topics you touch on, the vulnerability & transparency you give through this journey called life has only been inspiring 🫶🏾 Your timing for this video couldn’t have come sooner. Thank you so much, keep growing & glowing 🤗
@wellnesswithriks
@wellnesswithriks 11 месяцев назад
"If there's something in your life where you're feeling resistance, are you being 100% yourself?" I FELT THIS! Thank you for creating this video, keep shining your light ❤‍🔥
@diysbycarolina8622
@diysbycarolina8622 11 месяцев назад
This is EXACTLY why I LOVE ❤your channel! You always try to find the best in people. Your channel was one of the main motivations for me to start my youtube channel and I really appreciate you! You always inspire me to be better...thank you🥰!
@CandaceWBrown
@CandaceWBrown 10 месяцев назад
Exactly! All you have spoken are so realistic yet your advises are more powerful and will surely help a lot.
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