We Can’t Get Pregnant (It’s Consuming My Wife)

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We Can’t Get Pregnant (It’s Consuming My Wife)
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@ga6589 Год назад

The "draw the line" advice is very good. We went through this 30 years ago and we had to decide how far we would take things, based on the success rates and costs. We also had to decide what was more important- having a biological child or being parents. We chose the latter and adopted two absolutely wonderful children who grew up to be two wonderful human beings- No regrets!

@razmiddle9410 Год назад

So happy to hear that!

@chocolatte8301 Год назад

Beautiful ❤️

@mbwilson8592 Год назад

Absolutely! We don't love people because they are biologically related. Bonds are built through experiences. ❤️

@monabiehl6213 2 месяца назад

Adopted children won't carry my DNA.

@ga6589 2 месяца назад

@@monabiehl6213 Then don't adopt.

@TehDrewsus Год назад

Minus the miscarriage, this sounds almost like mine and my wife's journey. We tried for 2.5 years with 3 IUI treatments at the end. my wife wanted to stop trying if that last IUI did not work. And of course, it did not. In fact, her period came right before the family showed up for Thanksgiving dinner. So we decided to stop trying. Just take a break from that and be us. And wouldn't you know... The weekend before Christmas, a late period, a pregnancy test turned up positive. He just turned 2. We also got an unexpected blessing, so our two babies are 10 months and 9 days apart!

@gilmarmorais9387 10 месяцев назад

That is awesome good to hear.

@patrickchilds5486 Год назад

We adopted our almost 10 year old son in 2012. Greatest thing in our life.

@thebiggerreality18 Год назад

That's very beautiful happy for you guys

@ij1376 Год назад

Infertile husband here. Some friends of ours just had their baby and they're 3 to 4 years younger. It's been a rough week for the wife and I, and it feels like this video was for me. Thanks Dr. D.

@MissHolliday3110 Год назад

Best wishes to you and your wife.

@mba2ceo Год назад

wait for the miracle ?

@jill9606 Год назад

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I had a miscarriage last week and it’s been so traumatizing. I wish you the best.

@imungukalevera8671 Год назад

sending you strength from Kenya

@underminded02 Год назад

Same situation, I feel this. Best of luck to you and your wife. It’s tough.

@jessicarose2548 Год назад

I loved this call! My husband and I are facing infertility as well. Another thing you can consider is adoption! That is the path that we feel that God is calling us to.

@Chet_24 Год назад

A good way to increase happiness is to delete all social media.

@redbougainvillea Год назад

I went through infertility 25+ years ago and it gutted me. It is a loss and I grieved it deeply. My husband was just like this man...he struggled to understand the depth of my despair. It affected our relationship, our sex life, the entire tone of the home. I joined a support group called Resolve that helped a lot. We ultimately conceived our son after 3 years via IUI. But the experience changed me for life. You will need to draw your boundaries on what you are willing to do, just as Dr. John describes. We drew the line at in vitro and had determined we would adopt if we were not successful with other methods. My heart goes out to this couple and all who struggle with this challenge.

@eatnplaytoday 3 месяца назад

From Asian Taoist perspective, the more you want something, sometimes the more it runs away from you. Go with the flow, accept reality as is and let the universe run its course. You might be surprised how life turns out

@lyndaslocs Год назад

I had difficulty conceiving, but eventually did at a "late" age. I just prayed for you.

@jesusislord9758 Год назад

Curious how old you conceived?/

@allisonwelton5926 7 месяцев назад

I have PCOS and I’ve been trying to get pregnant since I was 23. Infertility sucks

@michelehaan3738 Год назад

We went through this starting 30 years ago. There were 2 things that helped me. First, we knew we were meant to nurture children. We prayed God would send us whatever child He wanted us to raise. We ended up adopting 7, including a 3yo when we were 50…because God has a sense of humor. Secondly, I accepted that I had absolutely no control and God promised there would be heartache in every life BUT He promises peace and He promises to never leave us. Life is an adventure, you may as well enjoy the ride…

@anabolicboy4010 5 месяцев назад

My younger brothers wife got pregnant and my wife and I were devastated for like two days until we realized we sucked away there joy of the situation. Now it’s the opposite we’re so excited because we get a celebrate with them.

@rayf6126 Год назад

Sometimes, the triggers for this hurt are not only daily but every conversation with other women. I play with children out in public at my local soup kitchen, and another woman says you should have children you're good with them. I'm far enough a long in my grieving to joke than go home and sit with a cup of tea and a blanket. Sometimes people think women are choosing to hurt all the times this subject comes up, but this comes up almost every conversation. I had an emergency hysterectomy 3 years ago it shook my identity and life to its core. I wasn't expecting that amount of devastion and that every social interaction would open up that wound again. Sometimes, when others acknowledge how sad it is that I can't have children I can't just say I'm doing okay. I'm expected to be destroyed emotionally and that level of expectation almost never let's know peace.

@dianerandazzo1766 Месяц назад

I went thru this with both pregnancies; thought I was going out of my mind with "just relax" advice. I finally gave birth to my daughter. Four years later pushing 35; he went to the fertility center, only to find out he had low sperm count from Agent Orange. We then had my son. What stress feeling inadequate and not normal.

@melissab3217 Год назад

We recently found out my husband was sterile due to a condition his parents hid from him. We never knew until years after our marriage. However we are at peace with it, and we look forward to all the adventures just the two of us. The wife should be in counseling and should look for opportunities to help children already here. Of course keep trying if kids are her desire, but focus your energy elsewhere so that all eggs aren't in the kids basket. It will just be easier if kids don't work out.

@oatmealtruck7811 Год назад

I’m so sorry for this news for you. If you don’t mind my asking, does your husband have xxy? I’m asking for personal reasons and you’re of course under no obligation to respond to this personal question.

@Animefreeak44 Год назад

I'm so thankful for this phone call I recently had a miscarriage in May this year and it's so overwhelming and heart breaking 💔 This guy is a good husband. Us ladies need a man that isn't insensitive and knows they are here for us. Praying this couple gets blessed with a rainbow baby

@wijcik Год назад

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I've had three and it is rough. Do you have a support system?

@dianawilliams6735 Год назад

Praying this couple and you too! 💕

@mimimonster Год назад

I lost 2. Women just don’t talk about it and I felt so alone. When I researched it I found out that as many as 1 in 3 pregnancies are lost in miscarriage and women are silent instead of supporting each other. When I asked friends later on I found out many had also lost pregnancies but never told me. My heart goes out to you, I know how devastatingly difficult it is. God bless. ❤️

@Animefreeak44 Год назад

@@wijcik I haven't gone into a group or support system but I been seeing my therapist every 2 weeks

@Animefreeak44 Год назад

@@dianawilliams6735 thank you so much 💗

@gbrieannful Год назад

This video hits hard for me, my husband and I have been trying since January and I’m still not pregnant 💔 Hopefully this couple will conceive soon 🙏🏽

@myyt3824 Год назад

That’s totally normal. It took us 12 cycles to conceive our daughter. Don’t begin to worry or overthink until after a full year of trying.

@gbrieannful Год назад

@@myyt3824 oh okay I didn’t realize it could take up to a year to conceive was considered normal, I thought it was 6 months. Good to know well hopefully by January I’m pregnant. I’ve been off the depo shot since June 2021 so it should be out of my system by now.

@janelleg597 Год назад

I am in the exact same boat! Give it a full 12 mo 🧡

@radbex1102 Год назад

Infertility is considered no success after 12 months if your under 35 and 6 months if your over 35. I’m over 35 and regret not seeking help sooner.

@gbrieannful Год назад

@@radbex1102 oh okay I’m 32 and my husband is 38.

@kristenbasta6496 Год назад

Love this. We "drew the line" also and didn't end up conceiving. It's a grief process, but I'm definitely more at peace with it now. It's a journey that's really difficult for people to understand unless you've been there. Thanks for handling this with so much compassion and honesty.

@massielmartinez1579 Год назад

I found out my baby didn’t have a heart beat while being so excited during my ultrasound 10 week appointment. Baby was due last week. I’m still angry, broken over it. I’ve tried for 6 months nothing. It destroys you. God bless those who feel this way 🙏🏻🤍

@wijcik Год назад

That sounds similar to my last miscarriage. I am so sorry for your loss.

@massielmartinez1579 Год назад

@@wijcik thank you so much 🙏🏻 and I am so very sorry you had a similar experience and for yours as well. My heart goes out to you 🤍

@mle011 Год назад

I’m so sorry to hear about your baby.

@massielmartinez1579 Год назад

@@mle011 thank you so much 🤍🙏🏻

@malcsbgoonie 3 месяца назад

Me and my wife been trying for years. Watching all our friends and family build there own families while its just us and we been married for 10 years . We been praying and she keeps hoping but im on the edge of giving up . Its not in gods plan

@RobertJackson-ky4ky Год назад

Wife and I had experienced 3 unexplained miscarriages within the last 4 years. It's just a rug being pulled from under you. Now getting pregnant in the future will be anxiety filled. But seeing everyone around you make it seem easy is no help. Good days, bad days, and hopefully relief soon.

@RobertJackson-ky4ky Год назад

1- wife's 23rd bday 2- we had her parents in the room for a checkup and no heartbeat 3- middle of pandemic and I waited in the car 8hrs praying.

@lyndaslocs Год назад

❤

@jacada4891 Год назад

Wow soo young!! Maybe take a break and try again In a few years. Also most miscarriages are because there is chromosomal abnormalities

@rachelford5313 19 дней назад

That is not helpful to tell someone experiencing loss. And even if it was because of a chromosomal abnormality, would that lessen their grief or their loss? Would that make them love their child less? Like doctor Deloney said, don't try to fix it. You are not their doctor. A simple expression of compassion is sufficient.@@jacada4891

@nicolcacola Год назад

As a mom of 5 I can't IMAGINE the pain of not having kids. Hes a good guy for trying to help her.

@juniorgod321 Год назад

Exactly, and I think I’m this case, the right thing to do would be for him to leave her and find another more fertile woman!

@wijcik Год назад

@@juniorgod321 Rubbish advice. He wants to support her. How is leaving her to find a "more fertile woman" supporting her? This isn't the 1650's.

@juniorgod321 Год назад

@@wijcik Well, he should just change his mind about wanting to support her!

@melissab3217 Год назад

Unless it's by choice. Some are truly happy childfree.

@wijcik Год назад

@@juniorgod321 Why? Do you think so little of woman and of marriage? Should she dump him if he became terminally ill and was unable to work?

@helenalderson6608 Месяц назад

Boy, years later, my kids are grown and I still grieve so many things about that journey

@oatmealtruck7811 Год назад

Doc did a great job explaining the emotions that women can go though with miscarriage. My husband and I went though 2 miscarriages (and more early miscarriages were suspected) and nearly 10y of trying to have a baby. BUT I gave birth to our second baby boy 4 weeks ago. Thank you, God. I pray for every couple going though this.

@crystalsnow1138 Год назад

Congrats.

@dcgirlamy Год назад

I went through this in a major way for a very long time. My husband left me because he wanted a wife who "wasn't broken" and there wasn't anything I could do to change that. I had accepted that it wasn't going to happen and that life moves on (it sucks sometimes still but this is my life). He also told me to just get over it at many points.

@sarahporter9541 Год назад

Such great advice...I have two daughters...one who has 7 kiddos..(including two sets of natural twins)...and my other daughter who is unable to have babies. Many years!!! It has been SO Hard on both. So I really appreciate your advice on the pressure that comes with infertility..grief...stress... pressure..all of it. Made me think more on how tough it is for each of a couple....

@Andrewszm Месяц назад

Our two kids are 9 years apart. Definitely experienced worth. I used to tell me it’s likely that its just as much me as her and that we just need to be humble and if God wants it to happen it will come. Then one day i told her that you just watch our dog an cat both had little babies and you can imagine whos next. An i was serious then she got faith in what i said and two weeks later she was pregnant and she called me at work and said she really wants to talk to me in person and i said you’re pregnant. She’s like how did you know an i said remember the what i said the dog and cat had babies, and she laughed an her heart was full of joy. She was so proud that i kept encouraging her on.

@firefly850 Год назад

We're getting the ball rolling to start IVF. It's very overwhelming but I'm ready.

@mle011 Год назад

Good luck!! You can do it.

@SkiraReed 4 дня назад

All the best to you! We might have to rely on it as well, the 25k just freaks me out honestly. 😢

@thebiggerreality18 Год назад

This is really an important topic for a lot of people to hear thank you for this alot of couples has been through this or going through this

@addylynn7941 Год назад

Don't give up!

@ourhomeiscool5608 Год назад

It’s EASY to say “I won’t seek any fertility treatments. This is my line.” When getting pregnant naturally has worked. Doc has NO IDEA of what this looks like or feels like! This guys trying to draw lines without knowing what they outcome is going to be, is a terrible idea! Just be there for her! “I hurt when my wife hurts” so the solution is for you not to share your hurt with me, so we will pretend it doesn’t exist for a period of time, that way I will feel better??? 🤷🏻‍♀️ If you had diabetes, and diet and exercise did not work to lower dangerously high glucose, would you refuse insulin? Over a life time would be expensive! How about a heart condition? Would you draw the line on not having a transplant? That would cost a whole lot and be so stressful! Infertility is a medical condition that sometimes requires medical interventions. The desire/need to reproduce is biologically normal and it does affect your day to day life. You will never know how you would react, or what that “line” looks like until you feel like you need to cross it.

@SkiraReed 4 дня назад

True. Nobody tells you to draw a line when you get a cancer diagnosis. Of course that's an extreme example but more and more studies came out and showed that involuntary childlessness actually effects women's health very negative in the long term. More likely to get cancer, other diseases and to die early. It should get more attention and more support from insurances. Every couple has to deal with the costs of infertility treatments completely alone. It sucks!

@mle011 Год назад

When you’re in the thick of it, it is near impossible to go a day without thinking of infertility. You’d be surprised at all the triggers - moms with babies at the grocery store or Target, a friend or coworker announcing a pregnancy, a baby shower or birth announcement on social media, TV shows/books/and movies almost always using an unplanned/surprise pregnancy as a plot point, and more. It’s so hard to escape and get your mind off it even when you are trying hard to think about other things. I’d definitely recommend therapy you work through the feelings of grief, anger, and jealousy that can pop up during this season. Thankfully IVF worked for my husband and I, but it was not an easy road emotionally to get where we are today.

@CarolynnMarkey 10 месяцев назад

tried for a long time. had six miscarriages and two babies. was done. had unexpected amazing baby who we named Esther Rose recently :) she is four months.

@dawnrivers109 10 дней назад

5 losses here and giving up! Totally understand their pain!!!

@claz7307 4 месяца назад

Adopted and it was the best thing I ever did.

@sdlorah6450 Год назад

Infertility is heartbreaking. Sometimes, we can identify a medical cause for it and sometimes we cannot. Young women are encouraged to recognize that their fertility is a wonderful gift, but it can and does have a 'prime' window and can be affected by her choices. Many young women delay marriage and childbearing in order to pursue college and career; the median age in the US for women to marry is 29+ years. A number of these women experience temporal or permanent infertility due to their age. Certain birth control methods can impact a woman's fertility as well as certain STDs. Young women that desire to be wife and mother need to make wise choices to that end.

@Sharbecca23 10 месяцев назад

Me and my wife tried having kids and after a few miscarriages she was starting to have severe pain during her time of the month. It turns out she has cervical cancer. It's been a struggle. We don't have all the answers, but at minimum it looks like we will be getting a hysterectomy.

@AmeliaBedelia9087 6 месяцев назад

I’m so sorry you are going through this.

@feerstyy 4 месяца назад

15 years married same deal. Sucks. Thanks ostomy and ulcerative colitis. Wife works at childcare center. 😢😢😢

@SkiraReed 4 дня назад

My husband has Azoospermia due to over 10 years of TRT. 😢 He was so sure it wouldn't affect him and his doctor never really warned him about the consequences. Now we're in fertility treatment and hope that the effects can be reversed with HCG. I'm praying and praying and praying. Of course our doctor is optimistic that if we get his sperm back we can try IVF, but the cost of it freaks me out. 25k for 2 cycles... it might work or it might not. I still hope we can one day try again naturally and succeed. It is so hard every day to see all those younger couples with 3+ children. It's a constant period of grief... and it's so hard to talk to people because 99% don't understand and don't know what to say.

@motrcrosgrl Месяц назад

I've had 3 miscarriages in just 4 months and my first miscarriage will be a year next month (june) it's still hurts! I cry everyday. It kills me inside. I'm 37 and knowing the fact I may never be a mother takes a toll. Be there for her as much as you can it makes a big difference! And she'll be there for you as well.

@rebeccaoprea9917 Год назад

I have 3 kids and they are consuming me . We are in a rough place . That to say we all go through something in life that is all consuming and challenges us in every way .

@paulo7507 Год назад

but you brought that challenge upon your self so no complaining please

@josephinenelan4204 Год назад

My kids consume me, but I couldn't imagine not having had been able to have them at all. That would have been gut wrenching. If I parent well, they'll be out of the house and I'll be able to do my own thing again.

@rebeccaoprea9917 Год назад

@@paulo7507 keep your comment to yourself .

@rebeccaoprea9917 Год назад

@@josephinenelan4204 there is no formula . I’m not trying to get rid of my kids , we are in a season of struggling and I’m consumed and can’t find my way out . What I mean yo say is that everyone can fill in the blank of what’s consuming them and how they feel like the only ones going through it and waiting for situations to come to pass .

@josephinenelan4204 Год назад

@@rebeccaoprea9917 I'm only responding to your post in context to the video. Commenting that kids are a struggle as well...? It's absolutely not the same type of struggle. And kids will one day leave the nest, but if you can NEVER have children, or can never experience pregnancy if you wanted to... you don't get a reprieve from that.

@jennyberger6688 Год назад

She needs to get the book on nurturing food for her eggs

@elyse443 8 месяцев назад

😂My guess is she’s tried literally everything.

@PH-xw1ri Год назад

Add in acupuncture.

@SaystheTruth3 5 месяцев назад

Lol

@catherinenelson4162 Год назад

As a child growing up, my sister's and I heard "when you have kids of your own", or "when you get married and have kids"...... My brother's didn't hear that kind of talk. I tried not to say those things to my daughter, but she, like me before her, was born to be a mom. There definitely is a genetic component to the desires or non-desires for motherhood. My daughter and I both had very strong motherhood hormones. Doctor's may say there is no such thing, but I know the reality. There is. Not everyone seems to have them.

@juniorgod321 Год назад

Exaclty! I think this good man should just leave her and find a woman that's fertile!

@nicolcacola Год назад

@@juniorgod321 Hates women. Dont feed the bridge troll.

@maam-yj8ph Год назад

@@juniorgod321 fertility is no guarantee that someone will be a good parent to children.

@juniorgod321 Год назад

@@maam-yj8ph yes, but st the least you’re guaranteed to have a kid! He should just dump the barren wife and find another one!

@wijcik Год назад

@@juniorgod321 Take your toxic opinion elsewhere.

@justsavie8823 Год назад

One line you really got wrong was with the saying of 30 fertilized embryos. Not how ivf works. I had to go through 4 rounds of IVF due to male infertility. I am statistically a perfect example of the reality of ivf. My first egg retrieval I had 21 matured eggs. Expect that only half will survive overnight with fertilization. I ended up with 11 possible embryos. By day 5 or 6 only about half will turn into full embryos. Day 6, I had 6 embryos that were very high graded. (4 aa) We ended up doing pgt testing and out of the 6-- only 1 embryos was perfect. During pg T or PGS testing-- You are able to find the gender of of the embryos-- But most importantly you are able to see if the baby has all the chromosomes or has to many. For example one of my embryos had an extra chromosome on #6. Of course if you have an extra chromosomes on 21-- we know a child will be diagnosed with downs. Just so you know-- statistically for every 3 perfect embryos-- 1 embryo will result in one live birth. People have this idea of creating and wasting potential life because of ivf. Yes, people have leftover embryos. Most people do not pay the extra money to actually have them biopsy to see if they are life quality. Creating human babies the natural way or using the help of a reproductive endocrinologist is not easy. Example, animals such as fish, dogs, cats, rabbits, they can reproduce so much easier compared to the human race. My husband and I personally have the mindset we will transfer every "perfect" embryo that we had created.

@rebeccarichardson9094 2 месяца назад

No offence - but that sounds like some kind of eugenic Frankenstinian process that offers no dignity to the embryos (human life) being made and disposed of because they are "imperfect". Absolutely wild.

@cinnamondan4984 2 месяца назад

I was told due to my testicles in 2022 that I could not have more children (we had one at the time). In 2023 we had twins 👯. Life is weird.

@stolen3moon Год назад

I had an unexpected pregnancy that I didn't want and my best friend is going through infertility pilgrimage right now. I believe everything has a reason. It is often not what we expect it to be

@thebiggerreality18 Год назад

Your right because me and my wife didn't want a kid and now she's pregnant so your right everything happens for a reason

@elyse443 8 месяцев назад

Forcing her to take 30 days off from talking about it is an eternity of feeling rejected and separated from her husband and for a woman in that boat that feels like two years! Bad advice. Good way to get divorced. It’s actually emotional abandonment. She is is the greatest crisis of her life and husband will withdraw his support for a month??? Crazy advice.

@lisak7380 Год назад

You should try IVF at least once because it is the method with the highest success rate for infertile couples. Many insurance plans cover at least a portion of the expense.

@Cck_912 Год назад

A lot of people don’t want to do that. I personally would never pursue that. Nobody “has to” or “should” try anything in regards to their fertility.

@honeybee19892 8 месяцев назад

I personally would rather adopt than try ivf but each to their own. The effect on the hormones, the pressure and cost of ivf just sounds off putting. Imagine a month of hoping will conceive naturally. With ivf the pressure will feel ten fold.

@rebeccarichardson9094 2 месяца назад

There are also many ethical issues with IVF that no one talks about. Look into those, this concerns human lives being created

@stephaniewilliams0 Год назад

I would put a bet on it that she’s going to get pregnant during this break if they do that! Seems once you stop worrying about it so much it happens!

@weekendnomad5038 Год назад

Have her take vitamin d. No joke I was infertile for 12 years. My husband hassled me to take vitamin d for energy. We were pregnant within a month!! We had given up on the idea of babies,I think not stressing about it helps too

@pinaymom1984 Год назад

Lucky you but not everyone have the same case as you, Vitamin D wouldn’t help. Some could be more complicated like people with thin uterus, some couldn’t produce enough egg/sperm cell, some have none. Some with PCOS. Although I got pregnant quick in 2 months of trying. We are all different.

@readerbabe1984 Год назад

Just because you can get pregnant doesn't always make things easier. My son was born 14wks early. Our little man has been through Hell and back. He's 11 now. He's the sweetest most loving little boy I've ever met. He also has Global Developmental Delays and Neuro Diversity and had a feeding tube until he was eight years old. He also had open heart surgery at 11 months old. Trust me, the grass is not always greener on the other side. I love my son. I also had to sitand grieve the loss of the life that we had planned for my son and our family.

@bitchybrunette6232 Год назад

You aren’t hearing yourself/ you still had a baby. You got that. So no matter how crappy you feel your cards were dealt/ you still got the biggest blessing that many women want more than anything. So ur grass can be green blue yellow/ but you have grass. It’s not dead. You still have so many memories and feelings many can’t even fathom. Really sorry you aren’t happy with your grass- but you can no longer relate to those without any. 😒

@speedie156 Месяц назад

No, I hear you - you grieve wondering if you will have a child at all and once youre filled with joy of getting pregnant and delivering the child, you are then thrown into the difficulties of raising that child and whatever complications that may come. That’s just how life is, right? I hope regardless of the day-to-day struggles, you are encouraged today looking into your child’s face. Blessings.

@theman25040 Месяц назад

I have not been able to carry a baby, it hurts me emotionally as I know my husband wants to have kids. We have our son ( my step son, 29yr) after my miscarriage, it hurts because all my sisters are having kids, and they do not take care of themselves. I am waiting to have foster kids in my home, for a room to open up and I will adopt. Maybe, it’s not in God’s plan…

@moniquedefranca5759 Год назад

Reflexology and homeopathy worked for me.

@mistermanman 2 месяца назад

Infertility has ruined my marriage. I feel like I've let my husband down in the worst way possible

@skr8674 Год назад

I’ve heard a therapist say take a whole year off from trying and just live life and enjoy each other. Bingo! You end up pregnant! She’s thinking about it too much.

@crystalsnow1138 Год назад

While that might work for some, doing that is not going to guarantee a pregnancy.

@weekendnomad5038 Год назад

This happened to us! As soon as we gave up on the idea and accepted that we would never have kids I got pregnant! But I was also taking vitamin d for energy. I had been infertile 12 years

@rubylight4019 Год назад

Fantastic! I’ll give that a try. My husband has a sperm count of zero. Can’t wait to be pregnant by the end of the year! 🥳👏🎉EXCELLENT ADVICE and such a smart therapist

@jill9606 Год назад

This is the most cliche comment ever and it’s hurtful to those of us who have struggled with infertility. Don’t ever, ever tell someone they’re “thinking about it too much.” So inconsiderate and ignorant.

@JKNat9004 Год назад

@@crystalsnow1138 Even if it doesn't cause pregnancy, I'd hope it would offer the couple, especially the woman a new perspective on life. Some of us will never have children of our own, so we must find a cause or job where we pass on a legacy in this world that will always be "our baby."

@FadiGamingRP 2 месяца назад

i am infertile but my wife wants to ivf, she doesn't understand i don't have $30,000 for it, and that it is no guranteed. i got a post nup, so sadly i might have to go

@lauravergot9995 Месяц назад

I totally agree with you. Going into debt over ivf would be absurd. As a last try, you can sit with her and see if you can figure out a savings plan that you would both contribute to and how long it would take you to save the required amount. If she is still not satisfied or pushes for an unaffordable solution... then as you said... time to go.

@FadiGamingRP Месяц назад

@@lauravergot9995 yea, she told me she wants to save for it, we put a plan for it, but she only saved $500 in 3 years, due to shopping habits not allowing her to save more, I told her she needs to do better and act like she wants it or else it will never happen

@Faithfullfertilitytv Месяц назад

What is your guys diagnosis?

@FadiGamingRP Месяц назад

@@lauravergot9995 I told her if she saves double the cost, we can do it, knowing her horrible money habits I won't have to worry about it lol

@FadiGamingRP Месяц назад

@@Faithfullfertilitytv I have low sperm count and she has shoddy cycles

@lacouerfairy Месяц назад

I don't get women that make their entire identity being a mom.

@CallHerCassie Год назад

The 30 days off may be a bad idea. 30 days is a whole chance at a baby. I could see a week or only talk about it on sundays or something like that

@melissab3217 Год назад

All the failed chances are making her more and more upset though. I agree with John they need to take a break for their mental health.

@dianawilliams6735 Год назад

He clearly said that it doesn’t mean they stop having sex. So the chances are still there, just not like duty or a job. I think the opposite. The break may get them pregnant faster without having that psychological burden and it may lead them closer as they start enjoying each other again … I think a break would benefit them as individuals, couple and future baby 🥰

@lavienestpasunlongfleuvetr2559 Год назад

Often people who are having difficulty getting pregnant end up getting pregnant when something happens on their life to distract them from trying to conceive. If they don't 'try' for a month, that could be the very month she gets pregnant. Clearly, what they're doing isn't working, so they may as well try a different approach.

@mimimonster Год назад

I don’t think that is what he meant. He meant still have sex but don’t do it with a specific purpose of having to get pregnant, take the chore/stress out of it. I thought that was what he meant too but then he clarified.

@kerryofthecanyon6198 Год назад

I think them thinking about every month as a “chance at a baby” is why they need a break. It’s adding too much pressure and the stress could be making things worse. My mother saw a fertility doctor after a year of trying to conceive with no luck and his advice was that she needed to stop stressing and focusing so much on it. Shortly after she became pregnant with me.

@janethunter6653 Год назад

It's not because a woman fantasies about her home with children in it. I never did, nor did I even want children until i carried one. Woman, even those who can abort, feel the life inside her even very early. When one is lost it is a death and a major loss to the mother. So, it causes an emptiness and like all losses, women grieve.

@linanguyen1476 Месяц назад

Can you make it backwards? What if the unfertile is the Male but the wife wanted babies. How he grief that and how can he open his mind to open options bc I feel guys are so proud that is easy to them say ok I don't want no baby if not from my balls shutting the door too in the wife dreams. Is a very shitty situation to be right now . Is driving me crazy honestly

@CatherineF-md5hr Месяц назад

Sure enough, if everything goes well this should do the job. But listen, there's one factor that's usually overlooked that can considerably speed up the process, unfortunately I do not have it at hand, but it can be go’ogled Dobbie Nerkstrol's Infertility Cure, I think.

@Gjheexhigddc44 Год назад

Most every couple I know that struggled with getting pregnant were able to get pregnant as soon as they quit stressing out about it.

@rubylight4019 Год назад

Great, i’ll give that a shot. Our diagnoses is my husband makes zero sperm cells! So excited to try your advise that should work weeeeee

@josephinenelan4204 Год назад

@@rubylight4019 Are you being sarcastic or? I mean, it happens to dudes who have gotten vasectomies years later, so... 🤷‍♀️

@myyt3824 Год назад

ME. THAT WAS ME. Literally.

@ga6589 Год назад

Telling someone to just "quit stressing about it" is not helpful. In fact, it puts even more pressure on a couple, as though it's their fault for not conceiving. There can be any number of physiological reasons for male/female infertility.

@rebeccaoprea9917 Год назад

Yes my sister got pregnant after she tried everything and failed .

@myyt3824 Год назад

I can’t imagine not being able to get pregnant. It took us 12 months to conceive our daughter and I was getting worried, but that’s about normal. But perhaps God chooses great people to adopt kids who need great parents. My aunt and uncle are one of those couples. They adopted two amazing boys. Weigh your options and costs with IUI and IVF, but also consider adoption.

@catherinenelson4162 Год назад

If you adopt, may I suggest you adopt a child of a different racial background? African American, then maybe a Hispanic child, then Indian . It would be fun for the kids because you would have your own little United Nations!

@carolanne8162 3 месяца назад

Try getting a DUTCH test and a good doc that can read it and advise on it

@SCUBONZIES Год назад

Pass it on down , no world for a child plenty of eggnorance 🍎

@phish_1 Год назад

My husband will divorce me because I cannot get pregnant! It runs in my blood!

@Kathy-et2jy 2 месяца назад

What if he’s the one who’s infertile?

@Faithfullfertilitytv Месяц назад

His loss

@miketheyunggod2534 4 месяца назад

We? Men can’t get pregnant.?

@melinda67 Год назад

I will never understand why people can’t simply accept the fact. Why do you need children so desperately? If it’s not in the cards for you it’s not in the cards.

@crystalsnow1138 Год назад

Because most people who get married do so to have a family. If you don't want kids or it doesn't matter to you either way that's good for you, but many people want to have kids and there is nothing wrong with that. Raising a family although it's hard work, it's also a big blessing that people want to experience. I do hope if this couple doesn't conceive naturally they consider adoption, so many kids need a loving home.

@rubylight4019 Год назад

😂 I’ll never accept that your opinion matters

@willarmendariz7663 Год назад

Becasue there are women who's purpose is to love and bond. Not climbing some useless corporate ladder who would replace you the moment they go over budget.

@jackie.mendoza Год назад

My friend. You lack empathy. Children are a gift and a blessing. It’s like asking why people want to be married one day so desperately? Or why people want to buy a house so bad?

@ga6589 Год назад

Please don't ever say that to someone you know facing infertility or miscarriage. It's like telling someone who has lost a loved one to "just get over it" and accept the fact that they're gone. Until you've walked in their shoes, you have no idea how they feel or what they are going through.

@ineedhoez Год назад

Listen. Get a surrogate. People spend just as much on ivf.

@radbex1102 Год назад

How do you think people get pregnant with a surrogate? These days it’s almost done with the surrogate carrying an embryo made by the prospective parents THROUGH IVF.

@Dime.Society Год назад

As a mother of 5, I couldn’t imagine not being able to get or stay pregnant . We just had number 5. I’m 36, I’m thankful I was able to give my husband children on demand.

@SaystheTruth3 5 месяцев назад

🙄

@furryplantsandcoins9070 Год назад

First off what blood type are you both? If she is RH- and you are RH + that could be the cause of the miscarriage. Second does she have endometriosis or POC? Those cause a ton of fertility problems. Also cysts on the ovaries.. I would also go to a chiropractor that can do wonders!

@donnawanna9833 Год назад

Maybe concentrate on getting the woman pregnant first, before you worry about getting the man pregnant. You might even end up just wanting one child.

@GardenerEarthGuy Год назад

Put her on birth control pills for 3 months and abruptly stop- that works every single time.

@wijcik Год назад

No, it doesn't.

@ga6589 Год назад

Um... no.

@rubylight4019 Год назад

I’ll try that! My husband makes zero sperm cells. Wahoo! Can’t wait to be pregnant 🎉🥳

@zerayacob3246 Год назад

reboot 🤣

@GardenerEarthGuy Год назад

@@rubylight4019 It works....

@StunningTransformations Год назад

Adopt.

@welshhibby Год назад

There’s no “we” the woman gets pregnant 🤦🏻‍♂️

@weekendnomad5038 Год назад

If my husband said “my wife can’t get pregnant” i’d be upset because there’s always a possibility that there is something wrong with the man’s sperm too

@welshhibby Год назад

@@weekendnomad5038 problems with the mans sperm or not....the woman gets pregnant and has the baby. Language matters.

@elyse443 8 месяцев назад

You’re either single or will be soon.😂

@welshhibby 8 месяцев назад

@@elyse443 shame isnt an argument, try again

@bp6877 Год назад

Since, according to the Woke, men can get pregnant, maybe the male caller should try to get pregnant! :) :(

@myyt3824 Год назад

Haaaaahahahahahaha

@juniorgod321 Год назад

She really failed this guy who provides for her and wants nothing but a child! I really hope she's ashamed of herself for not being able to play her role not just as a wife, but as a woman as well!

@nicolcacola Год назад

What the heck is this comment? Kick rocks dude.

@alexlewis8143 Год назад

She feels this she doesn't need you to kick her while she's down

@carnivoreRon Год назад

You're not much of a 'god', junior.

@Dwights_trash_can Год назад

Would you be saying this is he was shooting blanks? Women aren't baby making machines you weirdo

@wijcik Год назад

Hey, I found the troll again! Women aren't "less than" if pregnancy can't happen. Women are more than a walking uterus. Grow up and stop spewing toxic misogyny on the internet. Try going outside and going for a walk. You'll feel better.