I can't believe how spot on this is. I am on #3 and he came out of nowhere. I wasn't looking. I didn't care if I ever fell in love again. But he walked through the front door back in March and I fell for him immediately.
Wow...tats nice...my 2nd stage is over leaving hesitant towards any future love or marriage....one thing is true...guys don't love truly...they don't wat love means...it's just a word they say to a skinny, fair girl . They don't know d value of feelings
This is beyond true. First one was a mess and all other related words. Second one was... harsh. Felt for that man for 7 years, what was once a beautiful relationship (genuinely healthy, and lovely even as I look back on it) grew into poison, and harmed me mentally and other painful things. But this third one. It just- it just happened. I usually look and someone and make a conscious decision I want to pursue them but with him, it was different. The world just stopped moving for what felt like years when I looked into his eyes for the first time while he shook my hand. Something in me said- there he is. What can I say? Not long after, he proposed and we’re getting married and I have never been more at peace and more joyful ❤️ what a wonderful thing a healthy relationship is😭
@@zeno3511 a relationship takes two people to work. Both people have to look at it and decide either or not it’s something worth having, taking care of, and working on each and every day. Love isn’t just an emotion, it’s something you do. It’s dedication, loyalty, support, trust, respect, and other related aspects that make a relationship healthy, such as open and honest communication. Not trying to “win” arguments, because there’s no winner of the other person is hurt emotionally/physically (there’s a big problem there clearly if there’s a physical issue. Even with emotional too but I think you get what I’m trying to say) at the end. If she’s dead set on not wanting a relationship with you, she has the right to make that decision. I don’t think at the end of the day either you’d want someone at your side who would even consider wanting someone else while you’re supposed to be the apple of their eye. It would be so hurtful, and and full of betrayal. Dating someone else to get over another person isn’t a good strategy. You’re just gonna hurt the person your dating by chasing the ghost of your ex in them. It’s not fair to the person in front of you. Everyone you meet has their share of faults, and are not perfect. It’s a matter of being able to look at someone and love them even with the faults. Not despite them, and possibly even finding them endearing! I find most of my husbands faults endearing. One or two are a tad frustrating but that’s where our communication comes in. It’s a job to keep a relationship healthy. It doesn’t mean it’s not enjoyable though. It just takes a lot of effort- and if someone doesn’t feel like it’s worth it, then the relationship “breaks”. Thusly a break up. Sometimes someone just gives up. It hurts being on the end where you still want to love someone but they don’t want to love you anymore. The second relationship i glossed over there was like that. He thought I was ruining his high school experience. Then his college experience after he talked to me again. It was actual cycle or him wanting me when I would walk away from the toxic situation and then not want me when I came back. He would yo-yo 🪀 me for a lack of a better visual reference. It was cruel. He wanted to play the field. Asked be to wait for him for when he was done so he could be with me after he’d had his fill. Clearly whatever feeling I had for him left had broken away after that mess. It was disgusting that he thought so little of me as to even suggest that. I am worth more than that clearly. I now have an amazing husband who loves me very much. Has the road been smooth? No, not at all. But what counts is that we choose each other at the end of the day. We choose each other at the start of every day. We communicate. We respect. We care for. We dote on. We flirt. We are loyal and monogamous. We love one another, and we choose to do so each and every day. Most days it’s an unconscious decision. Other days, rougher days that we have had disagreements or hard talks. We choose to live and respect each other even then. Love isn’t easy, or for the faint of heart. It takes two people willing to be vulnerable all the time- that trust needed to be vulnerable of shattered can hurt so badly, and can be traumatizing. It’s hard to go into another relationship and try again after that kind of trust has been proven to you as capable of shattering. To give yourself the chance at love again, you have to see what they’ve done to you for what it is, understand that you do NOT deserve to be treated that way by someone you want to love on. Especially since you deserve to be loved on just as much as you love, and let them go. Don’t look for their ghost in other people. Other people are whole, and amazing, and are most certainly not your ex. Whatever happened with them I’m sure you don’t want again, don’t look for a copy of something you know isn’t gonna work. Choose a path that is new. Choose someone who chooses you. Choose them every day. Choose someone who chooses you every day. ❤️ I hope that helped! I know that esas long winded but if you need to hear more just let me know! I’m a chatty Kathy if you couldn’t tell lol!
In my 19 years of existence, I still haven’t experienced the 1st one. I have a loooonggg way to go. Though I hope my first would be my last. I hope to experience these three with one person.
I am 19 and am currently with someone who we went through all three of these. We each other's first love and firsts in a lot of things. We struggled with knowing what we wanted and how to compromise but were able to grow and move forward. Now we just talk about marriage all the time and how we first met, neither of us were looking for a relationship until what it described. She was different than a crush, she was a love, and from that became My Love. It's possible kings, stay strong and patient
1st love as described in the video only happens when your in high school. You missed that haha. Your 1st love now is going to be the 2nd love in this vid. Good luck, that pain is going to hurt haha.
This is really heart touching. I am in the 3rd stage of love where it just happened I never I asked for it with a person I never thought of being with. I love all his imperfections, any walls we both put between us both is broken, no matter how far we go from one another we always come back closer and we never detach, I only see marriage and a family together I always thank universe for him Right now we are in seperation in 3d worlds but always connected through soul Though he needs some time to identify the power n love of our togetherness he will soon realise it. It's all magical 😭♥🌌💫✨ Thankyou for this video I relate so much ♥
One day, i believe that the last type of love will enter your life for sure. Stop searching for them, just focus on your lives, your love will actually arrive on the right time
So spot on! There’s a lot of work (mentally and emotionally) cleaning up from the #2s…but my #3 is breaking all those walls down without even trying! 🥰🙏🏽
This video hit hard... I found this as the perfect time in my life being 26 years old.. Every word rings so true, and I can only hope I've interpreted it properly.
I've so far had two, and i think i'm experiencing the third...but he's strait and i'm more masc leaning genderfliud, it just feels right being around him, i find so much comfort talking to and being with him, and he just makes me want to live, i've struggled with depression for a while now, and he makes everyday just a little bit better, but i'm afraid to tell him.
I only fell in love once and it was the last one the caring without trying one, but good things don't last... Guess people leave when they're bored...I still cry on this day...
My first love was at age 10. That changed my attitude. Then my second love was at 13 ,he changed my life. It has been five years now and we are together. I love him so much ❤️❤️
My first love was when I was 13 in school and I still love him . But we've been apart for years now no contact at all but I hope we could meet again 😩. And also he always appear in my dreams even when I'm not thinking about him and while having a crush on someone else he would still come in my dreams since the day I fall for him till now he's still coming in my dreams .
Dont let this fool you , when your happy you’ll know it and i hope whoever sees this an is in a position where they think there at the 1st , 2nd etc “love” recognizing that wtv is hurting now is worth fixing theres no need to go through so much pain fix what you have , u made a commitment.
It’s number 3 for me & he happened to be my best friend . Known him most of my life but new 15 yrs ago I fell in love . The journey has been crazy wild but wouldn’t change it . 🦋
I hate that i agree.. my first love we just drifted apart. 2nd love i kind i got hurt badly... i stayed single for 5yrs am still single but i think am expriencing the 3rd love... there is this friend that just came into my life just abruptly and i really want everything with her.
My first love: We saw each other at the club then we both there 17. At 27 our son was born, at 29, daughter arrived. But at 30 cancer knocked at our doors and at 33 we are started a new life with a family of 3. After two years second love arrived. At it was identical to this video 2 step. So after 3 years of waiting i am ready for my real love!
